Why You're Not A Priority

[@kevindavis1281]

Just don't fall for it. Be busy. Do your own thing and don't compromise it. Work on bringing your own value up! That's it! There's your answer!!

[@petergrebinger8480]

They all play games all the time

[@Pursuit4happiness]

@@mrs9225 Sadly some guys do the same so it just ppl you have a doom in love mentality not allowing ppl who do not have that mentality get frustrated with great ppl who can not get over the past or insecurities ... so yeah we have to accept that ugly truth and move on

[@hermanlucaslucas846]

@@mrs9225 they have this "believe women" thing going in I think its going to be another nail in the coffin for the cause of women.

[@Intension123]

@@mrs9225 Facts, right there. The majority of women have it so easy in life, not having to initiate, having the power of choosing and they manipulate the living shit out of it. Women are so stuck inside their feeling entitled bubble, that they just dont give a damn about anything other then themselfs and act like spoiled princesses who are able to do or act the way they want, without penalty. Being shallow, entitled and craving free attention, comes to women naturally, especially with the social media that killed dating for most men and the feminists.

[@yeahokaycoolcool]

A bit different when you're married, but okay

[@aron8949]

don't be afraid to lose her, I had a women that was stringing me along, I was clearly not a priority, I told her to hit me up when she wants to hang out, I never hit her up again, and she never hit me up again. now I do not have to focus any time on a woman who is not into me.

[@svasianfilipiname6603]

No one has “a truck load” of options unless you’re filthy rich or, famous, or you’re at least a 7+/10! 🙂

[@ElevateResumeDesign]

Aron amen brotha

[@jjmusicarchive2998]

9 days no contact for me. She started saying she’s gotta check her schedule and being flaky. I’ve had enough. Everything was going well for the first month. I was so happy. Crazy how that can be taken away so quickly. I’ll hit her up in 4 or 5 days and try one more time. She’s shy so idk, Still, i thought she’d reach out. It’s hard to wait and not overpersue

[@kristinemorris77]

I completely agree. Walk away, she ain’t worth your time ✌🏾

[@rickmorgan1441]

@@toddgoogle4387 what industry you work in )

[@monie948]

if someone or something is important to you you make time for it.

[@ladyfay7777]

Exactly this.

[@ladyfay7777]

Please stop stalking me on yt.

[@eggyolkeo6422]

@@mrs9225 God damn you hit the nail right in the head.

[@eggyolkeo6422]

@@mrs9225 I know what you mean, once they start to make excuses not to text, not even in her spare time or stop giving a shit about you, there's someone else in the picture. Happened to me recently. So I walked away.

[@flo_ridaa7074]

👍🏼

[@diamon1312]

I am a woman and I think that's totally true:"you should value your self" best advice ever👏

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

Correct. All you can do is your best and sometimes that still will not be enough.

[@somyan8540]

Coach Corey Wayne - true. 😔

[@robertgibbs7513]

Women are so complicated Coach Corey Wayne the old days used to be easy it was easier back in the old days for a man to get a woman but now it's like almost impossible

[@johnbingaman3645]

@@robertgibbs7513 you're right, and the older you get it's even harder, the older they are they have more baggage ,damage, multiple marriages and kids and exes in the background, and very independent, and a lot of the women in their fifties and sixties are really out of shape with a lot of extra pounds

[@johnbingaman3645]

@@kristianthaulow yes this is what you have to do, Corey's books and knowledge are very great stuff, but the older you get it does get harder Slim Pickens oh, well you hope they're Slim, knowledge is power

[@jennifersinatra5743]

Women are told to do the same thing..lol.. we're all so cautious as people are so fickle.

[@jazzoj5]

3:31 this is how I lost the last chick I was dating, don't let these girls waste your time. If you get the feeling you're not a priority or you're chasing way more than her, pull back, make other things in your life a priority over seeing her, if she likes you she'll make more of an effort, if not charge it to the game and move on.

[@Malitubee]

This!!!

[@rancesullivan2446]

Sometimes it's better 2 just walk away. Take what dignity u still have and go. It's easier when u have been repeatedly disrespected...

[@caroltrimble2738]

This is very true

[@Aquariuswonder86]

Exactly

[@bob-a-louannamaria7960]

I don’t like this tactic entirely. To be ok with her fucking around with other dudes. fuck that

[@bob-a-louannamaria7960]

Al Pacino cool story bro

[@patriodiames9715]

When my ex dumped me 5 years ago, I was devastated. I feel like the pain wouldnt end, my ego was hurt and I loved her so much. Almost destroyed my life. This guy saved me. Whenever im sad and misses her, I watch a ton of his vid and even bought his book. Thanks Coach. You saved my life. I came out fine and is now living the life I dreamt of. That ex gf started begging me and tried to win me back and I dumped her.

[@lunababy662]

It sucks when people see u as unimportant not a fun feeling

[@uravggamer4620]

Good job man, good job

[@croatiancroissant28776]

I did the same. I just wasn’t interested anymore

[@bills1779]

Good !!

[@Lerroy007]

7:37 what to say if shes not treating you like a priority 14:14 what to do if she wont make date 14:43 what to say if she calls you the night of

[@wildflowersmile3224]

If you are really into someone you WILL find time for them, just like you find time for a very exciting hobby you love.

[@harrisn3693]

The only way a girl will be interested in a bloke that aint born white nor is rockin a rockstar lifestyle is if they flash cash at a bar and be str8 up spitting pickup lines like eminem. I blame BET and MTV for women's fucked up minds

[@eggyolkeo6422]

Some talk to you in their free time, and some free their time to talk to you. Know the difference

[@liamjohnson3247]

Exactly

[@jamarnicholas5697]

Just be real and if she doesn't reciprocate someone else will.. I hate games.

[@t-bone6636]

@@mrs9225 truth is in long term -> be yourself, but improve yourself steadily in all aspects!

[@dickyarjuna1566]

Its not a game.. it just how commonly human psylogical attraction works.

[@t-bone6636]

@@mrs9225So I dated that girl a couple of times. watching movies at the cinema. holding hands etc. she says she wants to take it slow.. she sais shes still a virgin. she moves in another city for studiing. I wont text her again.

[@t-bone6636]

all action like kissing and holding hand came from me. she never did anything by herself.. sign that she is not interested i guess.

[@joellgc]

The game never ends my boy

[@AgeOfBile]

None of us really want "that person". What we really want is how "that person" made us feel, or (if it's not an ex) how we BELIEVE they will make us feel once we're with them. Focus on achieving that feeling. You can feel that way whether you're with someone or not. Once you do, the right person will appear to match the way you feel. Focus on the relationship you want, not on any one person who may or may not be able to help you achieve it. Life can get very interesting once you can get your focus to shift in this way. Be open to ALL opportunities.

[@antoniohawkins3756]

Sounds like Abraham Hicks😊

[@reginstravels]

Sounds like Noah Elkrief

[@eddiecarter8134]

Well said.

[@AzraelPercussionNEO]

Need to work on the "ALL Opporunties" part. Need to stop with all the "All Eggs On One Basket bs"

[@flannsixtyseven7489]

If you are not a priority just leave. Waited for one year because i loved her so much. Hurt me even more. Should have left at her first backing away.

[@liamjohnson3247]

Exactly

[@greenhax92]

Same mistake

[@johannesolofsson221]

Same here......

[@lovemecom3832]

This advice is helpful and enlightened for us, When someone is really into you no matter how busy she is she must willing to give his precious time just to be with you. Stop pursuing this kind of things because she is not valued time your effort.

[@alisaiful6717]

I had gone through all those things.. Its terrible when you found out you were not a priority. I returned back the treatment and stop making her a priority. Problem solved. I moved on with my life

[@jamesnghiem3718]

Ali Saiful g>\ I Se

[@jonathangant251]

Set her free because she playing with someone else . Men never wait for a woman .

[@fargeeks]

I wait, because if i seek then i feel like im some dude trying to seek obligations to value me when they dont have to do so. So yeah waiting is better off

[@radaka]

Some people are more in love with the idea of someone than they really are in love with the person. Or they love the way you made them feel, or what they think or thought you had or could have together. Sometimes it's not even true love for that person. Nobody likes to feel rejected, makes you feel like you're not good enough or wonder what's wrong with yourself. When someone walks away LET THEM GO. And don't be pathetic! That'll push someone away or make them RUN even faster. Don't act like you can't live or be happy without them. Don't constantly obsess, call, text, keep tabs on, or STALK someone. Even if you feel psycho inside come on, at least play it cool. Nobody can miss someone or think about good thoughts when you won't get out of their ass and act pathetic. And you shouldn't embarrass yourself like that. Get help, learn to love yourself and learn to have the same qualities that you look for in someone. You can't expect qualities out of someone that you don't have yourself. Work on YOU, and it'll work out.

[@thelayman6189]

Rachel you said many things in one breath

[@AzraelPercussionNEO]

Nailed it. It is time to let her go. I am just a sex toy to her. Nothing real there. Music & Weight Lifting Focused keep the train rolling.

[@thelayman6189]

Its funny Rachel, this video popped up today and without knowing I already had commented a month ago, I was once again straightaway intrigued by your long reply and lo I found my own comment below.... No offense Rachel, just sharing a lighter moment !

[@davidcresse5647]

Rachel used periods. Laymen used commas, .

[@SonOfDaProphets]

Ill make it easy on everyone, get more than one option! You’ll see how much effort someone puts in when you not too focused on them...

[@mtbers]

Wow the first guys story is the exact same as mine. Super pathetic, never realized until you hear it from the third person.

[@EthiopianSCOOT23]

mtbers same for me.

[@18Darkside]

Can't let emotion's take over.

[@scratchytwo]

Thank you Coach. I have been seeing a girl for 3 weeks now. I fell for her so fast without realizing that I was being way too needy and always waiting around for her to meet up. She would often be "too busy" and would hang out with friends instead of seeing me. When we do actually meet up to see each other, she would "have to leave" after 2 to 3 hours. I would always feel so sad. Decided to finally research about my situation and found this very helpful video. Subscribed and will watch your other videos!! If only we can all just act/do how we feel/want, dating would be much easier. I guess this is why people play the dating game :( People just want what they can't have and take what they do have for granted. Sad

[@okhouri]

The sad truth of the matter is that women's only way of judging a man's worth is by how much he appears to want her. If he seems easy, she assumes he's worthless. Corey is asking us to be strong and to overcome our emotions at the beginning, until our true value is clear to the woman.

[@jjmusicarchive2998]

9 days no contact for me. She started saying she’s gotta check her schedule and being flaky. I’ve had enough. Everything was going well for the first month. I was so happy. Crazy how that can be taken away so quickly. I’ll hit her up in 4 or 5 days and try one more time. She’s shy so idk, Still, i thought she’d reach out. It’s hard to wait and not overpersue

[@davetrottier]

It’s hard to walk away for good, but even if you re-attract her you’ll be stuck constantly playing the indifference game. Why bother being with someone who’s not on the same level as you.

[@jonathangant251]

Believe me find other .

[@spajas8092]

Jonathan Gant except 95% of girls are like this. After a while you’ll end up playing the emotionally detached indifference game with a woman you’re serious about, but if you don’t play it, she’ll lose interest and leave you. It’s so stupid.

[@santoparfano1910]

Exactly..if you have to change who you are to reattact a mate then walk away bc thet aren't really into you.

[@TravelButter]

If they come back then that means something has changed for them. So just be yourself in front of them but don’t make them the focus of your life. Stick to your purpose and you’ll see just how important they really are in the grand scheme. As a result they’ll sense that energy and their attraction will stay high.

[@lunababy662]

Going through this and its true u get there attention for a few n u have to keep playing the game. Well i dont want to play anymore

[@louiepcs]

been married a long time... that woman who you pamper and worry about what she thinks, who is all about herself, you would wish you never met after a few years. Because she will only get worse and more btchy when she get too comfortable. If u think u r not a priority now, when u have kids, you are just a doormat who makes money for her. So if you are dating a girl who needs to be the focus on your relationship, run barry. RUN!

[@4spida2fingaz0]

Louie Bernabe I'll take heed to that thank you

[@thesnakedecides3423]

It's brutal. Most women will show that dark side if they get the opportunity. Sad reality is, they will worshop the ground you walk on so long as you're fulfilling their fantasy or whatever. Once you stop being that source of emotions, you're lower than an insect to them.

[@radaka]

That is really sad to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't value you or your happiness or needs. But both sexes are guilty of that. It's not just women who do that. There ARE good women too. And I know there are good men. Have you truly honestly sat down, when not pissed and explained to your partner how you feel? Or what they are doing to make you feel that way? And if yes and they continue to do the same, then that really does suck because I was in a marriage like that and I finally realized there was nothing I could do or say to make him care or love me differently. So after knowing I had done everything I could to make my marriage work, I got out of it. I knew I'd never be happy like that or loved the way I thought love should feel. I have no regrets because I gave my all. I know God brought me my husband now because we've been together 14 years and we do those things for each other. I'm so thankful and grateful for him and never ever take him for granted. He's my best buddy. Have and don't lose the qualities you want in your partner. But don't waste it on the wrong partner either

[@krijskovacic4938]

I am RUNNING!!!

[@jonzhang2379]

Xox I use be have same problem with my x.run as fast as you can bro!

[@HomemadeNub]

Corey Wayne nailed the video in the first minute basically. You will remove your attention and then they will either a) come back or b) a better one comes!!

[@sweetswing1]

In short make youself your prioity. First comes you, then your family or close friends, then her.

[@swiitdoll]

Faksakes this is exactly how I treat men. Even my hobbies come before him.

[@zuzukyd]

Forever Young lol that a bit much isnt it? Hobbies dont go first lol(sounds a bit overkill to me rly)

[@andjela6351]

Yeah, this is exactly the reason why I ended my relationship. If you can't make your partner a priority you are not my cup of tea, simple as that, ende. Why people are in a relatioships if they do not have a capability to make their partners as a priority. So that is not a good advice.. How anyone can create a family with someone who does not know how to commit and how to sacrifice. Nope, there is not future at all.

[@jsm0m]

Scarcity creates value fellas 👍🏼

[@flo_ridaa7074]

👍🏼

[@toietmoi650]

I decided to buy your book and listened to it several times after I went through a breakup in November last year. She unfriended me in all her social media accounts and then went off social media. I did not contact her since then and now she is sending me friend request. She is back after seven months. Thank you, Coach Corey!

[@barad-dur9236]

I met a girl and things moved way too fast between the two of us. I showed one glint of insecurity/emotional weakness/neediness through ONE text and it all came crumbling down. Since then, I only let her reach out to me, and when she does, I always make one overture for her to meet. I’m in the thick of it atm, I’ll know prob by next week whether or not it’s never going to happen. But thanks to Corey at least I’m putting in the absolute minimal effort until there’s a concrete outcome. I totally fucked up, so now it’s damage control and I can only hope to salvage things. She’s not my soulmate but she’s certainly worth being patient for, so long as I don’t sacrifice any more of my psyche or priorities for her. Been dating some other girls too, to help remind myself of my options.

[@texshayhopkins8812]

Corey, I've been in a relationship with my lady for nearly a year.. this video really opened up my eyes to what I've been doing wrong that's stopped her from pursuing me.. it's much appreciated what you've shared here..

[@tonyl9075]

Its crazy because a woman can have u over multiple times deeply embrace you mentally and physically, share personal topics with you so warm and undoubtedly trustworhy in character. she tells you things she thinks are amazing about you even little things you do or say. Kisses you so passionately asks you not to leave her bed, babies you and in that moment you think "There's no way she could stop liking me like this unless I was a jerk or cheated on her or something band this is easy" . then she mysteriously starts texting less or acting not like herself and it can feel like how can they betray me...and so suddenly,and for no reason?.."I didn't mess things up according to my male standards here." When you actually were doing things wrong. imo it takes learning that its just the nature of the female . Trust Corey Wayne its science he teaches.

[@Fakestockguru]

tony l yup, i just experienced that. The girl was pursuing me and i thought she had a crush on me. Then all the sudden out of the blue she gave me the “better off as friends.”

[@TheSpiritualNomad]

Love you one week. Distant the other. Crazy. But that is the reality.

[@jennifersinatra5743]

Men do the same. I think women are more relationship seekers over men in general.. go figure.

[@itsjustnopinionok]

Jan 2020. I feel sad. Im 51 and just now realizing i'm that guy. And why so many girls blew me off in the past. I (was) that nice guy. Im buying you book. My life starts over today.

[@jacobniu1283]

I was with a girl for 10mnths. We only saw eachother every second weekend. I wanted her to see me more. The months do matter. Its called natural progression. Never settle for anything other than what you think you deserve. I had enough when in 14days we only spent 2hrs together. I love n miss her soo much!!! But I want more from a relationship

[@mtbiker4life918]

She's just looking for attention while seeing other dudes. He needs to block her. Stop allowing women to do this. Be up front with her, tell her you're not into games and move on. This whole "let women come to you" has a line.

[@thetalkinggrowthchannel9262]

I agree. But that's when vetting plays an important role

[@katiewilliams9381]

Hey I'm a woman and I always watch you when I really need some true honest direct advice..you really helped me through my break up and then when meeting new people.. Thanks coach Corey ..ps, I love your smile xxxx

[@eggyolkeo6422]

Don't be waiting for nobody, walk away and do your own thing.

[@theforexcartel6893]

Coach I've watched several of your vids over a few weeks. what I'm beginning to gather is everyone must undergo constant psychological/deception warfare to keep a person's attention for as long as possible.. my question is at what point do you stop being "psychological" and start being yourself? I dare say never. I also dare say that relationships must not be real if this is what dating or relationships has evolved to in this so called modern age. But then again perhaps it's always been this way. Truly there is nothing new under the sun.

[@richardrichard9953]

The brutal honesty of these videos is surreal. It sucks when you realize that he's talking about you and you have to be honest with yourself and how you have behaved and caused a lot of the torment in your life.

[@erict9052]

Yeah it's a cold slap on the face to wake the hell up

[@delilah1479]

Yeah, I finally woke up too. Wish I had listened to my friends who told me to walk away a long time ago.

[@siggiAg86]

I think this is one of your best videos. I watch it every few months to reset my mindset.

[@patrick9939]

corey thank you for helping me, i was with a narcissist .now i am not , she made me feel less than a man .never again . your videos are changing my life for the better thank you

[@reliefernandezb18]

two weeks, two weeks of just listening to your podcast.... it's magic... it's fucking working.... i'll use this month's audible credit to buy your book.

[@ggwp7019]

Every women that has lost attraction towards me has always gone with someone else or their ex. I agree with you Corey but for me it has always been she had my replacement in place. Sometimes I went along with the jerking around or would just stay distant and every time it’s the same thing. I’m not saying it wasn’t my fault but often times it wouldn’t matter. I removed my attention and it showed she didn’t value me. I think ultimately they don’t value me even when they are doing the perusing. I honestly think it has more to do with the quality of people in my area

[@AzraelPercussionNEO]

Gg Wp Shit women. Going for guy to guy. Or going back to their shit ex's. The shit never changes.

[@拥]

Not saying you don’t, but #1 priority is to value yourself

[@rickmorgan1441]

if youre not 35 you havent hit your peak yet so bluer skies ahead in that case

[@bieituns]

Yep the same thing happened to me, the girl already had my replacement lined up and started distancing herself and looking for an excuse to leave me and blame m for it. These girls are bitches, no integrity or decency.

[@kevinethan5751]

@@bieituns ukr heartless humans

[@ladyYeniel]

The problem is not you!! She is dating someone else that she likes more. Facts.

[@petermachiela5441]

When she says I'm not looking for a relationship just say me neither take it easy. Like Corey said have fun & hookup

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

read my book to learn the basics

[@vijaysiddhartha326]

awesome book

[@somyan8540]

Coach Corey Wayne - yes I preffer to read than to watch and listen too

[@reyray6287]

Getting your book ASAP, I’ve never had an issue picking up women but I have had issues maintaining and understanding them, I’ve been watching most of your videos and applying what I’ve learn, now I see how much I’ve been f***ing up lol, thanks for everything!!!

[@sararushiti3416]

Coach Corey Wayne I love your videos, but can you make videos for women as well? :)

[@billelliott3507]

good looks coach I almost gave the talk without realizing what I was about to do.

[@doramaso]

Surely after a year of being with someone you have a right to know where you stand.Brilliant video other than that.

[@thenofilterguy3061]

At that point just let her go man.. no women is worth all this waiting around.

[@bennyblanco6704]

It definitely works I stopped all contact and then guess what ? She started pursuing me coach is right stop all communication even all social media you'll see the magic work good luck !

[@HumbleTrader001]

He could "follow all the rules" (whatever they are) and she still might not be all that into him. There's no "holy grail" (or any guarantees whatsoever) when it comes to relationships.

[@RockwildazFamily]

I had this kind of situation recently. SHE was the one talking about me going over her place to cuddle, she was the one initiating everything. Then... she goes she needs space to think, she doesn't want to hurt anyone, she out with girl friends, she don't contact me, then posting she doesn't want any man, but she is waiting and who she wants to wait on her. She said it on whatsapp with a blue background, which is how we communicate. Then, just today, she responded to a photo of myself I posted and she goes "Daddy". We spoke well after and when I went to suggest meeting up, said she available ALL of next week, so I will let her know. She goes, tell me now so keep it free. I told her straight up, is either you available or another time or not at all... she then says ok ima keep it free. She had even said to me, before she pull back is, I am to prepare for her to get clingy, and she was for a bit, then she pull back... almost an entire week. Guys, women are emotional as heck!! They will be back and forth, they themselves unconsciously take breaks to give themselves time to miss you and see how her feelings grow. They will CONSTANTLY test you. Just be cool man, don't EVER push or rush a girl. Live YOUR life she IS watching you best believe that. Don't ever seem hurt by her "space", once she see you about living YOUR life without her, if she is indeed interested, she WILL contact you and that is what you want. Don't be pursuing a girl that really isn't interested. Between last night and today, it's now FOUR GIRLS that have contacted me, wanting to see me. Don't pursue these girls when they pull back, she is in many cases giving herself time to feel her feelings, to miss you and see how much it grows. Yes, at times you can be too much and she wants the space to miss you to come back to you. Leave women to their process, they are just like cats.

[@JayMan574]

Rockwildaz Family going through the same thing lol

[@patrickbrawner2438]

Agreed. Do you thing, pursue your interests, live your life, and you'll attract the people you want to be around.

[@peterwapemoose2710]

Coach! Why would any man want to be a woman's second or third choice? Go for it if you just want sex but dont commit to someone who gives it free to everyone else.

[@nicolaorton8603]

Problem with this dude is he's hooked on and desperate for a woman who had next to no interest in him to start with. Her lame once-in-a-while texts convey she had nothing going on at the time. Dude knows she can take or leave him.

[@jjmusicarchive2998]

9 days no contact for me. She started saying she’s gotta check her schedule and being flaky. I’ve had enough. Everything was going well for the first month. I was so happy. Crazy how that can be taken away so quickly. I’ll hit her up in 4 or 5 days and try one more time. She’s shy so idk, Still, i thought she’d reach out. It’s hard to wait and not overpersue

[@jjmusicarchive2998]

Scott Stanley problem is I feel like I’m in love with her. I can’t walk away for that long without driving myself crazy. There’s other women in my life but none of them compare. I think 2 weeks is long enough. She said we were dating in the beginning. It’s not normal to not see someone you’re dating for 2 or more weeks

[@SmileyMT]

Games of tennis was suggested by the Rock in the comments here and after looking back its the best analogy I've heard. It's really helps with the 20:80 principle. Also valuing yourself as he says here.

[@redforeman3572]

The definition of a loser: I dated a girl for 8 months and she’s still not my girlfriend

[@sam_alimi]

It’s not cool to call someone a loser if they don’t know much about women

[@bluetheminx]

@@sam_alimi yeah it is

[@theresamargarethmil2443]

This is exactly what happening to me. He always taking me as options and I feel sad.

[@ivanbarbosa81]

thank you so much for this great advice Corey.just realized I dont need to proof anything to no one.just be myself

[@ntegeoscar]

awesome work bro. your stuff works!! you saved my relationship bro. thank you

[@ntegeoscar]

Dude is so good, Nothing brings happiness to a man like knowing and understanding attraction levels of his woman.

[@bluedinero3055]

Jerk berk 305nigga #carolcity #305

[@JohnDoe-dt3by]

True. Overcoming neediness.

[@Prophet776]

So all I'm hearing is condoning women playing games. If she plays games, leave her in the dust. Life's too short.

[@wrwhiteal]

Games can be fun.. just get better at it.

[@wulfclaw4921]

If you aren't a priority and SHE is....Expect NO GOOD TO COME OF IT !

[@charliemvrphy]

Started reading 3% Man. Great material and easy read!

[@mrsalviboy94]

A women or man should be a compliment/ an improvement to your already complete life not a necessity. I used to believe happiness came from having a lovely woman in my life until I learned the harsh truth. I worked on myself asked what is my purpose? Everything changes. To those unable to understand this ask yourselves this, how were you raised? Was it a loveless home, no affection or enough attention from parents? That's the root of the cause, is not completely your fault if you act a certain way with women. It is a process to change and find that emotional strength within you, find a hobby, do a job you love and you'll realize that happiness comes from within not from having another person trust me and trust life.

[@flo_ridaa7074]

👍🏼

[@bills1779]

Great advice 👍

[@peterp4753]

Not only is wrong to chase a girl, it's wrong to give her too much of your time when she's chasing !!! Every man should have more than one girlfriend, so he won't be needy!

[@lunch7213]

Peter P but getting 1 is hard enough 😭😭😭

[@AzraelPercussionNEO]

Peter P You know it is the sad truth. You gotta play the stupid ass game so that they get to fight over you. It bullshit either way

[@kevinethan5751]

@@AzraelPercussionNEO facts

[@roc8083]

Honestly, when women do that, its bc they are idling for another guy that she sees as higher priority. You are the back up which is why they won't commit to hanging out etc. Gotta stop idolizing women and make then wait for a change. It's a shame women do this to good guys but it's how they are wired

[@fargeeks]

Still better than having a taken lady pursuing another man.

[@DAC2254]

I once hated you for political comment you made , now I understand your point and I know you’re right. 🌹 All respect.. thank you

[@delilah1479]

I was not this boyfriend's priority. I certainly was at the bottom of his priority list. Last minute dates with him. I became his "option." Not his priority. I finally called him out on this and walked away. It hurts but it is for the best and I will come out better in the long run.

[@JadedGenXer]

This is good advice for men and women. Men do the same and no one should be hanging on a maybe constantly. Simple as this : if they set the next date on the first date , there high on their priorities. If you both make plans on the Moday or Wednesday for Friday or Saturday, your still high on their priorities but if you get a maybe on the Thursdays for Friday, you are a back up plan and if you get a what are you doing now any day , your a boredom killer and they have nothing better to do. Dont go to a 9pm Friday night text message , come over . All their other plans fell through. . Maybe means no but if im board i might call all text. Your not a priority at all If they are in to you , they want to make sure they have time locked down with you in advance and they will not want to let you down or make you feel less than .... who ever else. Guys , it feels shit all round . The 30% bit is a bit of bull though. If a woman is doing 70% of the work . She is going to feel like you 30% priority. She is going to feel like she is less than . She will look else where. She will look for at least someone thats going to give her at least 50% priority to give you her 50% priority.. Dont push them away as treat them mean , keep them keep is just mean... for anyone. Im blowing off phone calls atm because i get to many maybe's, last min arangment and 30% effort from a guy. Im not that bloody needy to be treated like this. He could had a chance, hes blown it . I like him but it sure looks like he is not in to me as much as i am in to him , so im backing off to not get hurt. Ill find someone that dosent make me live on maybe's. Yes im a woman.

[@dylanbeasley5392]

Corey, you're really a godsend. Thank you

[@redfloyd69]

Can someone please explain why someone can be completely into you then suddenly just disappear? The opposite of what is going on in this video.

[@bahaatamer1245]

I played with a scarcity mindset as a kid, and I failed! I tried abundance when I grew up, and I still failed! I ended up falling into scarcity again, and rest assured my needy behavior dropped her attraction from a 7-8 to (possibly) a 5, if not even less! I'm done trying! 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@jneptune1540]

She just doesn’t want to be with you.

[@richdrago8235]

Wonder what has happened to the covenant we made to God and each other? The marriage vows are to be taken seriously...life happens, and it takes patience, forgiveness and love.

[@guntherachterhof4876]

Unfortunately, these days are gone.

[@daffydlandegge3843]

I'd really like to hear your take on long distance relationships as "chatting" on the phone are the dates you speak of or video calls. Some of what you describe doesnt apply in that situation, meanwhile some remains a standard.

[@daffydlandegge3843]

@@Sparkyspage Only if it's long term and one or both individuals are highly insecure and/or desperately need validation from others

[@sharonsheaffer8964]

my man has a drinking problem and all he wants to do is spend time with his friend (male) and do everything he wants and thinks when he comes home that everything is fine dandy I never cheated on my boyfriend and never would but I think it comes to the end

[@Goldblooded559]

Sharon Sheaffer im going thru this rite now and im sick and tired of it..i let him have it today

[@Ataensic]

How do you get her to want to see you more than once a week? Well, how did she get you to want to see her more than once a week? (she's indifferent, unavailable, difficult to get ahold of, has a life of her own, hasn't chased you at all, is self-validating, & doesn't need or even want you) You want to feast at her banquet because on the inside you're just a pauper begging for scraps. Stop contacting this person; you have a lot of inner work to do.

[@bieituns]

Wow typical mindset of a woman, completely heartless and ruthless.

[@bieituns]

@Jennifer Boehm you mean a narcissistic sociopath?

[@kevinethan5751]

@@bieituns facts

[@shortingthetrend]

Great video coach Corey Wayne. I always watch every video bro.

[@brunowario5169]

From my experience, if you have to try much in a relationship, its gonna get you heartbroken, chasing women will chase them away. If a woman likes you she will show it through her actions, she will call you, text you ask to meet. If she doesn't do any of this I'm pretty sure she is not into you much, you can choose to increase your value or keep chasing her only for her to dump you,

[@fargeeks]

I had a lady who already has a boyfriend and a child with, tried pulling off these actions and i actually thought I had a chance with her but boy i was wrong Oh and she told me one time that she wished i pursued her

[@PotatoCouch666]

I am still so mad that he took me for granted! And he never took me out for dinner like he promised months ago. (I helped him moving his stuff out of his damn ex’s house ffs!) Also: he was always working or going to the gym. I had to break it off. I want to be a priority! Not an option! It hurted my selfesteem. I broke it off. Still really sad I let him do that to me. :(

[@lsj8693]

Does the 80/20 rule still apply to a middle aged single mom that has an 18 yr old and a 10 yr old daughters?

[@billybob-fh4wz]

Yeah, like everyone says if people want to see you they will find even 4 seconds to be with you.

[@jsm0m]

So on point!!! ... guys listen to Coach Corey he knows what's up 👏🏼

[@delilah1479]

Yup, when he finally would contact me trying for a last minute date, I told him I already made plans as I don't wait for the last minute stuff.

[@ploagieskiekn1377]

Right video, right time!

[@carterkississou8006]

this is very valuable advices , I am myself facing similar situations. Thank you Corey , there is a lot of us out there facing the same situation

[@casualdreamer8841]

Met a woman on a dating app. We exchanged msgs for about a week, then i set up a date. We ate dinner and had good conversation for about 4 hrs while having drinks. I chose to hug her , since she mentioned she didnt kiss on first dates when we talked before. 2nd date was a movie date and went to a nice patio bar with live music. Had drinks and we did kiss , cuddled etc. Nothing more.. Now after that date I noticed she became distant, and wouldnt text as she did before. Im not a needy guy and not the type to text her or even call her just to talk about random things as she did before. So after 3 days not hearing from her i get back on the app, and there she is online. Not sure why this bothered me, i know she is not my gf, but it did. I think maybe i liked her more, but I will start talking to other women now. Eventhough i wasnt her bf, i stopped being social with other women after our 2 dates. Never again, and I will get Corey's book to understand women more clearly.

[@tahneepereira7519]

Women are being taught to do the exact same thing. It became a tug of war in which the person who initiates the conversation "loses" the game. Don't be afraid to reach out first. Be the man and demonstrate your desire to be with her. Don't do the small talk conversation because she will think that you are just bored to death or that you don't value her, and she will then most likely ignore you or match your level of (low) investment.

[@ajamubey6924]

women are always supposed to chase you even when you are married.

[@maxlife9721]

IVE HEARD THIS A MILLION TIMES BUT IT JUST CLICKED WHY IN A PSYCHOLOGY REASON BY THE "FIGURE OUT YOUR SCHEDULE" THING...SHE HAS TO THINK SHE HAS THE POWER AND SHE IS CHASING....AND SHE IS MAKING THE MOVE..

[@lfsg1975]

that only happens to us nice guys

[@ryanvtec3885]

siuL nivaS yup us nice guys. If she took the time to get to know me. She would see im not soo nice

[@RaymondYocum-uw5hd]

Stop being nice

[@malka4500]

Not true

[@malka4500]

There are women who is not interested in bad men.

[@liamjohnson3247]

It happens if you like her. Never fall in love

[@ABCDEFUCKOFF1]

Coach! Why don't you just tell the poor guy he's being breadcrumbed by a covert narcissist.

[@liamjohnson3247]

Exactly

[@garygreen5243]

i think when it comes.to being in a relationship with somebody and they leave and become your ex, i think some people or afraid to let go of that feeling of wanting somebody because they feel if they dont have that feeling they wont want them anymore when actually your just valuing yourself doesnt mean you still cant have feelings for them because you dont have that obsessive feeling

[@guess199]

If i date a girl 8 months and there’s no relationship, I’m done. I’m not dating someone that long and not have exclusivity, not trying to sleep with someone who is probably sleeping around. That’s a hook up not a possible girlfriend. The girl I’m seeing now asks me on dates most of the time, i ask her a like 10% of the time.

[@zacharysaguilar]

Hey everyone, I’m reading some of your comments and I’m currently trying to find out ways to make breakups a lot easier for men to overcome. Which is why I have two questions to ask for guys that thought the breakup was going to be easier: 1. What are the 2 main problems you’re going through? 2. Regarding everything that is going on, what would you want more than anything else? You shouldn't have to travel down the long road to get over a bad breakup like me (Year and half). Thanks in advance, I’m looking forward to reading your answers!

[@jennadvue]

I like it when men make solid plans with me. It makes me feel like I'm a priority in his life. Then, I will make him more of my priority over time. Don't always make last-minute plans with a woman because that might make her feel like a backup plan.

[@theproducers8573]

Let me ask you a question. So everybody has Been telling me that I shouldn't spend to much time with my girl, what is your prospective in this case??

[@davidgriffin79]

The take away from this is that you don't let them think they're the only game in town; there's a big ocean out there with lots of fish in it.

[@RealCoachLee]

David Griffin I agree but it’s also important that it’s more than just not letting them think that. It needs to be true. You do have other options if she isn’t interested or isn’t making you a priority.

[@benhartart9487]

Fellas there’s 4 Billion women on the Planet, If she flakes, ghosts, disrespects you, just bounce onto the next ✊

[@cmkilcullen8176]

Right. Tell her when you figure out your schedule, give me a call and we will plan something then. Wrong. Then wait. Right. Get back to your life. When she calls, its like finding cash in your your jeans pocket as you were preparing your laundry. If it is a same day offering and you're not available. Don't make yourself available. If her call backs are ALWAYS a same day offer, reconsider if she's worth bothering with (unless she's a transplant surgeon, or something like that - if you know what I mean). But don't wait....waiting already sets your emotional climate in the wrong direction for you. Move on to something else important.

[@RulezmakerBF]

So it kinda ended with my girl a few days ago; she asked me if we can be friends to which I wrote I'll let you in on it later. Problem is it's been already 4-5 days since I haven't talked to her. Should I just walk away or tell her, i dont want any platonic kinda friendship and I'll let the door open in case you ever change your mind. Do I say it now or just let it be. Cause considering her, she thinks I'm done with her

[@Hhhh22222-w]

Tell her you don't agree with being friends and if she changes her mind to call you and walk away from her and move on. If she calls you then you have the power make sure you make her chase

[@MP-wm7jj]

What many of you guys don't understand is, have a life, do your own things, then when you want to see a girl ask for a date! If she's uncertain, tell her to call you when she knows and you'll see then go on with your life. As an adult, you have a world of possibilities! So don't wait and do something you like! The minute she feels you are needy or you are waiting, you're done! Make her chase you! Be the prize!

[@bills1779]

So true.

[@RaymondYocum-uw5hd]

Kick her to the curb! No time for games!

[@djnevous3us]

but if u don't pursue some1 won't it look like yr interested in her?