Why You've Not Met Your Person - Matthew Hussey

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Matthew Hussey is one of the world's leading dating experts and a New York Times Bestselling author who has helped over 10 million people get the love life of their dreams.
In this interview turned coaching session we delve into his latest book "Love Life" and explore the challenges of finding love, handling other people’s emotional responses and the importance of setting boundaries. Enjoy!
00:00 Intro
1:15 Welcome, Matthew
4:05 Do men and women have the same challenges when looking for love?
10:15 Can you choose who to be attracted to?
17:06 “Life mountains”
26:35 Question your instincts
30:20 Masculine vs feminine energy
37:40 Boundaries
46:00 Parents vs partner
1:00:17 Duty and obligation to parents
1:11:40 Putting my needs first
1:23:30 Being responsible for someone else’s feelings
1:28:00 About finding love
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📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life - David Brooks - geni.us/Qc4PC2
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[@dhavalbhojavani6613]

This is incredible stuff! Thanks Ali for asking these questions in the right way and getting the right answers from the best person! Loved it!

[@My.Own.Flashlight]

if MH has “Love Life”, AA can write “Live Life” 🎉📚

[@daryavolkova1716]

Awesome! Have finished watching it today, wanna rewatch for sure

[@janechapman7801]

Presenting people with the thing you think they would like instead of yourself.

[@loppan4534]

clever and nuanced thoughts around hypergamy. Well needed. Thank you Matthew and Ali ❤

[@ceciliaramoscastillo2809]

Best of both worlds

[@ceciliaramoscastillo2809]

My two favorites

[@ohwell9093]

I'd love to have Matt as a friend, he's so noice

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[@acmpmen]

Ali, about boundaries read Drama free from Nedra Twwab. Cant wait to read Love life!

[@My.Own.Flashlight]

hey, behind the slim strip of downtown that displays a glitzy and glamourous dubai it is a desert. cut us some slack with the occassional cabana by the pool 😂 it’s a necessary change from sand 😅 and more sand. did i mention sand? 🤣 (I’ve bingewatched both MH’s & AA’s videos - love ya both 🙌🏻)

[@sakuranihon6303]

When you’re lucky, you will meet right person ! That’s it !

[@janechapman7801]

Yeh we dont have to be corralled in one narrow behaviour group all the time where one person is always in charge or always the protector or always the carer phew! We can all be human brings again! I'm not sure boxing is masculine ir feminine is it not just dangerous I mean both men and women have brains that can be damaged ! Violence us nit masculine ir feminine although violent behaviour may be performed differently.

[@abcdefg216]

Thought.... If todays men dont want to commit... can it be that we in the past raised our boy-kiddos to be more avoidant by raising them differently from how girls normally were raised? By telling guys to be strong, not cry etc when sad etc, maybe that matcho parenting style towards guys made them more "avoidant"? Compared to maybe girls that got a hug or whatever when they were sad as kids... Just a thought. :p If it would be in that way maybe it will be more even in the future since hopefully girls and boys are raised in more and more similar ways? (A boy can cry and get a hug as a kiddo too.. they dont have to "be strong" and "brave" and hide when they cry because they hurt their knee or whatever... and that in the future will make them more hm... normally/healty attached?

[@pandawan4]

The hesitation to commit is usually men not feeling peace as well. I think women's rights, dating apps, etc makes *some* men feel unsafe. My ex, for eg, mentioned he might not marry because he's terrified of someone divorcing him later down the line and taking all his hard-earned wealth. Pre-nups aren't considered in divorces in Ireland. I've also been told that women choose who to date or sleep with, but men choose who to marry. So they do have a lot of options there. My housemate confirms that he can think of at least 3 women (exes or dates) who would marry him immediately if he just asked. So they're ready for it. He doesn't feel ready yet but knows he can take his time and some woman will always be available/ it's easy to find someone for marriage

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1st comment ( Have Been waiting for years to do this :( )

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You got me by 31 seconds ahhh 😂

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​You got me ​by 2 Minute 😂@@JiaFit

[@HrissW]

5:37

[@darigaa1989]

I just started watching the video, is this one like only for men or for everyone?

[@suziemclaughlin18]

You can learn a lot by listening to how men think. There is also something to be said for being able to find compassion for all the guys that are just trying to do the right thing.

[@_aiborie]

For everyone, it's general, also personal questions by Ali.

[@ana-maria6443]

You can start watching from parent vs. partner. The beginning is quite boring. I still don't know how to find my soulmate so if that's you, please leave a message below 😂