If A Man Texts You This, That's A Major Red Flag! - Sneaky Ways He's Just Using You | Terri Cole

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Lisa Bilyeu

Lisa Bilyeu

Күн бұрын

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@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 10 ай бұрын
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
@drppr76
@drppr76 10 ай бұрын
That impersonator just sent me a message a few minutes ago - just thought I'd inform you
@shanid9891
@shanid9891 10 ай бұрын
Hi Lisa 🙂 when will the episode with Laterras Whitfield be released?
@Portia620
@Portia620 21 күн бұрын
Great point they were going to leave anyway!!! Use boundaries and put out your feelings!!!
@armelle08
@armelle08 10 ай бұрын
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. A person who ghosted you will ghost you again.
@rupertperiwinkle4477
@rupertperiwinkle4477 6 ай бұрын
Absolutely. 100%. Once a cheater, the likelihood of them cheating again is high. Avoidants have a higher tendancy to cheat.
@asteriamoon1817
@asteriamoon1817 10 ай бұрын
Dating shouldn't be so difficult, but here we are, trying to weed out the bad from the good. This society with social media and the easiness of a swipe is absolutely terrifying. People are not good to each other. I am an empath and I seem to attract these humans who just use me for a distraction and to feel good, while just giving me enough to keep me going, I am finally seeing through the facade and I am taking my power back and now I know better. Life is too short. If he wanted to, he would. Always remember that.
@auroraxxfacekilla49
@auroraxxfacekilla49 10 ай бұрын
Amen to this. Sending u lots of love and blessings, 2 1/2 weeks ago i ended a "bread crumbing" situation in (2d it was an online situation which is more baffling to myself) I thought I was smarter then that.. then I met someone in real life over the weekend, who seems to be checking off alot of boxes...sometimes we gotta let go of people who don't serve us to open the space for someone new. 🩷🩷🩷 Hope you have a lovely day!
@Valerie-s6n
@Valerie-s6n 10 ай бұрын
Who told you that dating shouldn’t be so difficult? That’s exactly what it has always been and will be. The difference is that before you were not allowed to ever talk about the issues, and you didn’t understand what a good relationship was.
@BrittWazz
@BrittWazz 10 ай бұрын
Dido! Agree with all of it!
@terri_cole
@terri_cole 10 ай бұрын
Right on to taking your power back! 🙌🙌 And you are so not alone in this. I find that a lot of empaths deal with these types of people because they are attracted to our energy. ❤
@alequintana1208
@alequintana1208 10 ай бұрын
They’re not using you, you’re allowing them to use you. You have to take accountability for what you allow in your life because no one is forcing you to even talk to these people. Not saying it for any other reason than I’ve been there before but once you realize how much control you have over these things, you then start living in your own power
@tensevo
@tensevo 9 ай бұрын
it would be great to meet somebody who simply loved you for who you are, and not for who you are not.
@littlelam3691
@littlelam3691 8 ай бұрын
What do you mean by “love somebody for who they are not?”
@honesty.integrity.respect
@honesty.integrity.respect 10 ай бұрын
Thank you ladies!! I got sucked in .. all the red flags were there from day one.. that were flashing! I stuffed them (I had never stuffed red flags before) like an idiot .. the love bombing was like a vortex. Married the Demon.. and 7 years before it was finally over.. I began educating myself .. and one day told him he disgusted me. Praise God 🙏 it's been behind me for 5 years! A blessing and life lesson! Self Love is were it all starts.. Love yourself, respect yourself and stand strong with your boundaries and RUN THE MINUTE THEIR IS A RED FLAG!
@annmarieknapp
@annmarieknapp 10 ай бұрын
Good you got out!!!
@haliec496
@haliec496 6 ай бұрын
Omg......"I don't like to be managed" such a simple comment yet it resonates deeply. I think this is exactly why I have felt manipulated or expect ill intent, because a nice gesture to me is usually followed up by something they want and it makes me feel managed or used.
@Retroglamamour
@Retroglamamour 14 күн бұрын
10:50 _“We are in our own way, serving ourselves up on a platter for people. If you’re a giver, you’re going to give. And you know who’s going to take? Takers. _*_And you know who needs to set limits is givers._*_ Because takers won’t. They’ll be like ‘great more for me’.”_ 💯🔥
@karuzelastudio7858
@karuzelastudio7858 2 күн бұрын
Yep. Just take a moment to consider what givers get from giving. Because a lot of relationships break over givers resenting takers.
@chania80
@chania80 10 ай бұрын
'Expect people to do what they say they're going to do!!' Boom!! Simple. Thank you.
@staejaye1910
@staejaye1910 7 ай бұрын
Ikr!
@woboznz
@woboznz 9 ай бұрын
I listened to her book Boundary Boss on audible and her beautiful voice narrates it, and its such a good book guys - highly recommend
@Laurie-RenéeVoltaire
@Laurie-RenéeVoltaire 10 ай бұрын
Stand firm in your boundaries ladies ,trust your instincts ( your gut feeling ), put yourself first and if it' s sounds too good to be true then it' s probably a trap ... 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️ and never look back !
@peggylyons6898
@peggylyons6898 10 ай бұрын
This is common sense and good advice, I believe we all know these things deep down. This is why good parental guidance in the formative years is so important. Without it, it takes much longer to grasp how wise and important these principles are. We should all listen to our own inner voice AND trust it.
@PauletteIvory
@PauletteIvory 10 ай бұрын
Guys I think this is one of the best dating/relationship advice videos out there!! Save it, rewatch it, she is dropping gems here!! Excellent!!
@Arthurmark-ty9xd
@Arthurmark-ty9xd 10 ай бұрын
yes it is
@Arthurmark-ty9xd
@Arthurmark-ty9xd 10 ай бұрын
were are you from
@crazyredheadbeyotch8125
@crazyredheadbeyotch8125 10 ай бұрын
I love this lady's voice, her tone; I could listen to her all day long. I'd wager a limb that her clients/patients are on average very successful in accomplishing their goals for healing, or at the very least, make positive progress TOWARDS their healing. Thanks for the interview, Lisa! As always, well-done! Please have her back! An intriguing and important-to-know topic for discussion would be trauma caused by and healing from narcissistic abuse. There has to be more education on this sinister, insidious, and very heavy subject; premeditated deceit, manipulation, and the deliberate disarming of another human being's resources and support is not only unhealthy, but evil. We must spread awareness to protect ourselves AND future generations. Education and spreading awareness is THE only way to do this. Anyhow, we love you, Lisa and Terri! ❤ Keep up your great work! 🤘🏻🫶🏻🫵🏻👏🏻
@terri_cole
@terri_cole 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for the kind words ❤❤ I am always down for more with Lisa!
@crazyredheadbeyotch8125
@crazyredheadbeyotch8125 10 ай бұрын
@terri_cole , she's great, isn't she?? But I thoroughly and sincerely enjoyed your interview/discussion with her. Thank you. 😊🫡❤️
@jeancooper7953
@jeancooper7953 10 ай бұрын
This interview so powerful for me. Thank you!! I started communicating with a man from an online dating site and he gradually started calling me later and later at night (11:00 -1:00). One evening I sent a text around 9:30 say I was available to chat, to which he reply, talking to my son will call you back. He then sends a text at 1:15 am asking if I was awake. I backed off communication for a day or two. He ask if I was annoyed, when I said no, not at all. He responded, really because I felt a vibe. I responded with maybe your feeling guilty. A day later I sent a text saying, I enjoy our conversations but It needed to begin earlier in the day. He actually stepped up and now calls during daylight hour. It maybe between jobs while he’s driving or gather supplies, etc… and appears to be happy doing it. Sooooo we’ll see. Love your show ❤
@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 10 ай бұрын
What a cool story! Thanks for sharing! So great to hear a success story with boundaries! 💪
@belindaschafer1593
@belindaschafer1593 9 ай бұрын
I had a Filipino bf who used to do that too. Then he did call me earlier , but he is a complete narcissist and ghosted me after a while. That was 8 years ago. Three weeks ago he suddenly declared great love for me and now wants me in his life again. After not explaining all the mess and chaos in his life of 8 years ago.As if we were exactly where we were 8 years ago.
@chrissemenko628
@chrissemenko628 8 ай бұрын
But you WERE "annoyed" no? I mean, you "backed off" for a quote "day or two." Then you offer what he may be feeling to HIM (Asking him if he feels guilty) Hmmmmm I'm just asking hun.
@littlelam3691
@littlelam3691 8 ай бұрын
Why are you guys talking for so long and not meeting IRL? Sounds like a phone bf.
@Kaycee-mr5bb
@Kaycee-mr5bb 9 ай бұрын
This happens with friendships as well. I have met a woman who’s broken due to her divorce and childhood trauma that she went through and never heals from it. I recognize she tries to please everyone and turn around and complains about it and people hurt her feelings and all that. Eventually, I figure that she wasn’t healthy but I try to be a good friend for her as she was there for me during hard times. But, it makes me wonder if those act of kindness was intentional or just a facade to reel me in to use me especially when it comes to money as she has money problems as well. The comments that she says to me such as “I’m jealous “ or she always ask to pass her the guys I dated to her which I think is low self-esteem. Eventually, being around her made me feel anxious and I have to walk on eggshells which I refused to do so. When I exited our friendship, she made everyone feel that she was a victim and I was furious but at the same time found my peace and stand my ground because I rather be alone than be controlled and be in a toxic friendship. I’m out and peace! lol 😂
@Portia620
@Portia620 21 күн бұрын
Boundaries are about us not them! We can’t control their actions!
@LaPinturaBella
@LaPinturaBella 10 ай бұрын
I do not hold conversations via text. I ONLY use text to say I'm running late, or I'm at the meeting place, little stuff. You can't get the nuance in a text. Plus it's lazy as hell. Phone calls at minimum. If a guy ONLY wants to communicate via texts, he's dumped immediately.
@crazyredheadbeyotch8125
@crazyredheadbeyotch8125 10 ай бұрын
💯❤️
@terri_cole
@terri_cole 10 ай бұрын
I love the clarity in this boundary 👏👏
@LaPinturaBella
@LaPinturaBella 10 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole Thank you. 💖
@tabbylove86
@tabbylove86 10 ай бұрын
All my man want is direct talks but he is not my ma anymore.i need closure
@JustBeingAwesome
@JustBeingAwesome 10 ай бұрын
This is ridiculous. I'm a 41-year old woman, with a busy business and I'm texting with plenty of people I deeply care about all day. On Whatsapp and Messenger you can leave voice notes and send small videos. It is PERFECTLY possible to establish loving communication this way. And in the evening, you can have a phone call or video calll. But if you exclude the banter in between... you are setting yourself up for failure. Good luck dating if this is how you see things. Especially if you are 40 and under, because text apps are main tools for communication for these generations.
@Bjk1532
@Bjk1532 9 ай бұрын
I so needed this, cause I’m here right now with my “close friend.” Oh “people do what they want to do” and when she said feeling taken advantage of and I control that. I’ve heard some of this from different relationship coaches but needed to hear all of this again. I love her voice and her presentation on this topic. Thank you.
@averagejane09
@averagejane09 10 ай бұрын
Why do I feel like I have to over give to be worthy of love? Nicely put. Thank you.
@rahmasamir909
@rahmasamir909 9 ай бұрын
Its because of your childhood Trauma just heal it first
@zedmak
@zedmak 10 ай бұрын
A boundary is a limit for urself, not for another person a request is for another person.
@jlovelynne7096
@jlovelynne7096 10 ай бұрын
This was super powerful! Thank you so much sharing! This gives me hope - I’m not alone and it will get better!
@annmazzara4175
@annmazzara4175 8 ай бұрын
I’ve listened to many videos but she has totally broken down how I feel. Consideration is BIG! She is authentic and very relatable for me.
@nosuchname9940
@nosuchname9940 8 ай бұрын
I really enjoy reading comments from women on videos geared towards men, because I can get a woman's perspective on the topic. I thought I would do the same here. As a man, this is very true. What I found really interesting is that men are told not to text back right away, because they need to show they have "options", so the woman desires them more (social status). From a boundary perspective, I think this is spot on, and can attest that if I am interested in someone, I will show interest, but be authentic about it. If a guy shows interest to get something from you, it's definitely manipulative. Good luck out there ladies.
@Artsylady2030
@Artsylady2030 7 ай бұрын
I think it is so Wrong that people think it is a good idea to not reply right away when they can do it.....this makes me think that person is not interested in me and makes me want to run far away from them.....
@Retroglamamour
@Retroglamamour 14 күн бұрын
9:15 _“Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go _*_‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.’”_* 🔥
@proper.role.model.819
@proper.role.model.819 10 ай бұрын
But sometimes the bad guys are consistent and it's hard to decipher. I get so confused!! I begin to trust them!
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 10 ай бұрын
Then never trust a man and start living alone 😅
@pk3176
@pk3176 10 ай бұрын
Mine got me good. TWO years later I’m still recovering. I did years of therapy to find the worst man in the world. A covert narcissist. He was consistent. He respected my boundaries, so I thought. We talked on the phone everyday at random times. Took me on random vacations. He visited my house, I visited his. Every night before bed he’d send me a voicemail telling me how he appreciated me and was glad to have me in his life. I would tell him I needed a person and he showed up with flowers, a card, and dinner. He was a good and active father. I never questioned him as I had no reason to. All sounds amazing, right? 😂😂😂 NOT EVEN 🤮 I found out the man was married. They were separated but he told me they were divorced. Newly separated and at some point was pursuing his wife. We talked everyday with no lapse in communication. Meanwhile, there was a very long list of other women he was also talking to (at least 10). How did you even have the time to entertain all these women and be a dad and chase your wife 🤯. At some point I discovered I was pregnant and he abandoned/neglected me before during and after pregnancy. I lost the baby. He never supported me. While I was unknowingly grieving, he was essentially using me for sex. He never supported me. Never comforted me after the baby. He still continued to pursue and engage with other women. Reactive abuse became a thing after while because I was so broken and abused. Now he hates me for abusing him when I was enduring abuse from my first conversation with him unknowingly. Traumatized is an understatement. I’ve been struggling to let him and this situation go but I’m so lost in this world anymore. A strong woman with morals integrity and conviction as low as life could take me after him.
@anousalis4089
@anousalis4089 8 ай бұрын
The sad truth is they can STILL be consistent and not have any real intent being with you.
@proper.role.model.819
@proper.role.model.819 8 ай бұрын
@@anousalis4089 Exacty!!! That’s why I’m so over and done with dating. I have trust issues. Is
@Portia620
@Portia620 21 күн бұрын
Great points!!! Tap the breaks see what happens!!
@melbaT2770
@melbaT2770 9 ай бұрын
Very timely and practical interview…Setting boundaries need to be stated without all of the emotions. Keep it simple and clear about what is ok with me🥰💖
@JulieKnose78
@JulieKnose78 8 ай бұрын
This is excellent! I am currently getting away from, done with someone who is a narcissist and I’m a codependent. I’m a giver, he was a taker. I was always in fear and walking on eggshells. I couldn’t speak my mind. He was seeing two other women while he was seeing me as well. It was definitely a trauma bond, alcoholic like my father. I wanted his approval and his love. I didn’t realize I always had his love. He was my biggest fan when I played soccer. I am working at giving myself love now, and healing that wound. It boggles my mind how I stayed with that guy for three years thinking it would get better when he didn’t give a crap about me or my feelings. I love these interviews they are very inspiring thanks ❤
@vy5922
@vy5922 10 ай бұрын
I loved this one, and congrats Lisa, for reaching over 1 million subscribers; you deserve it; thank you for the great content💫💫💪😍
@79JinaMarie
@79JinaMarie 10 ай бұрын
Love all of this! Leveling up isn't easy but it feels SOOOOO GOOD! ❤❤
@LisaBilyeu
@LisaBilyeu 10 ай бұрын
Thanks so much! So glad you liked it! 🥰
@melvaughn29
@melvaughn29 9 ай бұрын
I can see the dynamics of my parents relationship in all of your podcasts with Terri. (My Mom's codendency and zero boundaries and my Dad's narcissism/abuse.) As a result, I've gone through most of my life single and avoidant. But better this, than ending up with a loser and repeating my Mom's behaviors!
@din-b6420
@din-b6420 7 ай бұрын
You should do a course or therapy to learn how to have boundaries so you can find a nice man!
@Artsylady2030
@Artsylady2030 7 ай бұрын
@@din-b6420 how old are you ? ?? there doesn't seem to be any nice men anymore
@auroraxxfacekilla49
@auroraxxfacekilla49 10 ай бұрын
I love these, thanks for doing what you do Lisa. Much love 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
@aembusiness
@aembusiness 9 ай бұрын
I love Terri Cole!
@bumblebee_ms
@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын
Like Nicole, I too was the scapegoat in my family, so my talents and achievements were met with rage.
@Artsylady2030
@Artsylady2030 7 ай бұрын
me too....I had a horrible childhood ...I was made fun of by the people who were suppose to love me
@bumblebee_ms
@bumblebee_ms 7 ай бұрын
@@Artsylady2030 I'm so sorry to hear it.
@melissaayres6347
@melissaayres6347 11 күн бұрын
Excellent content! Getting to the healed version of one’s self to wake up to the seriously unhealthy habits!!! Setting safe healthy boundaries should be #1 for someone who have a victim mindset!!
@tensevo
@tensevo 9 ай бұрын
love is, who you want to be with
@rahmasamir909
@rahmasamir909 9 ай бұрын
Dont rush into relationship take Time to see
@How.Dare.You.
@How.Dare.You. 10 ай бұрын
I got all the special compliments, about my intelligence and being noble and he still dumped me so... He would still say stuff like "you give me so much" while he didnt give me much while checking attractive women out. He was very consistent which makes it even more confusing
@thenutrientwhisperer3700
@thenutrientwhisperer3700 10 ай бұрын
Never tolerate a voyeur
@knitmaiden1
@knitmaiden1 10 ай бұрын
Mine too
@Magicisreal66
@Magicisreal66 10 ай бұрын
So I see you took my comment off.
@Magicisreal66
@Magicisreal66 10 ай бұрын
Well, what I said Was I don't understand how women put up with that kind of behavior in the first place- Any Human indoctrinated male ever did that to me, the 1st time would be his last time- and that's one situation his d*** a** would NEVER FORGET! but it is the women's fault for putting up with it the 1st time-
@alequintana1208
@alequintana1208 10 ай бұрын
I think compliments should have more depth if they’re real. Like what does it say I like that you give me…?
@bumblebee_ms
@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын
I get the opposite, I get criticisms/put-downs and then they ask for favours. Now I see it and run as a recovering codependent it took decades to see this pattern, it feels icky every time it is done to me.
@44kat
@44kat 9 ай бұрын
Leave the ghosts alone. They have other options
@megyerizsuzsadora
@megyerizsuzsadora 10 ай бұрын
Terri Cole is amazing❤ thanks so much for the conversation❤
@annekenney6914
@annekenney6914 10 ай бұрын
Thank you, ladies! You're the best! (Not flattery, TRUTH! 🤣)
@terri_cole
@terri_cole 10 ай бұрын
@user-ud6lz9sq5d
@user-ud6lz9sq5d 2 күн бұрын
This was a great interview. Learned a lot .
@meherenow1501
@meherenow1501 10 ай бұрын
Amazing discussion
@sshh778
@sshh778 10 ай бұрын
smart women‘s talk❤
@mschingacor
@mschingacor 8 ай бұрын
thank you for empowering us women ❤
@annekilbourne
@annekilbourne 8 ай бұрын
I'm finding this discussion very interesting and I can relate to alot. It's also very helpful. The part about hinting though, I have tended to hint rather than ask outright and I feel it's out of fear or my insecurities that I do this. I am trying to be more assertive and ask. Thank you for all the advice...
@siendaistimada7973
@siendaistimada7973 6 күн бұрын
I don' t really like texting. I am tired about texting. It' s just a way to have/feel control over something or someone. I love talking or meeting
@amberjheard
@amberjheard 9 ай бұрын
This wa sso empowering for me to hear and validating. I speak up for myself and have been made to feel im entitled for wanting to he treated a certain way.
@elifdemircan6600
@elifdemircan6600 8 ай бұрын
best video ever! thank you lisa for bringing this topic up sending so much love from türkiye xx
@nadinebotha7448
@nadinebotha7448 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, you gave me answers to questions i was struggling with!.
@Karisbarlowe
@Karisbarlowe Күн бұрын
Omg 😱 you guys just saved me ❤ thank you 🙏
@Kristyleedoll
@Kristyleedoll 9 ай бұрын
I love her hair
@alwaysandi5867
@alwaysandi5867 10 ай бұрын
OMG. All of this! I'm digging in and doing the work at a deep level. ❤
@SM-qb7ce
@SM-qb7ce 7 ай бұрын
WOOW I LOVED THIS WOMEN'S GREAT ADVICE & POINT OF VIEW!!! Thank you! 💕 🙏💕
@NovaSkye-g6l
@NovaSkye-g6l 10 ай бұрын
She’s so beautiful
@rahmasamir909
@rahmasamir909 9 ай бұрын
If you are strong with ferme boundries you fear nothing.
@Retroglamamour
@Retroglamamour 12 күн бұрын
1:05:33 Wow, thank you for sharing this conversation to frame what a good conversation is regarding both partners’ feelings
@rupertperiwinkle4477
@rupertperiwinkle4477 6 ай бұрын
Him: "I had a dream about you. It's 11:00 PM. I'm around the corner. Can I come see you?" Me: "I am not a booty call. Go back to sleep. BYE."
@Littlefighter1911
@Littlefighter1911 8 ай бұрын
15:50 I'm completely surprised to hear that, because I always thought of that the other way around. Like, usually women text me back like the next day. Like the majority of them. I don't particularly mind that, but it's definitely annoying. I really really appreciate it, if someone texts back right away.
@Artsylady2030
@Artsylady2030 7 ай бұрын
I text back to ALL my friends as soon as I see the text which is usually right away unless it came in while I was sleeping.....I think it is very rude to do otherwise
@suzygyorke1719
@suzygyorke1719 8 ай бұрын
Thank - you so much all this information very helpful
@bordercollieluxi
@bordercollieluxi 10 ай бұрын
I know for a Long Time. I am sensing everyone when I Look at them. I hate that Mattern. I know try to Focus on my Life. Who i Care for
@sashalawrence4786
@sashalawrence4786 9 ай бұрын
“Serving yourself up on a platter” also known as playing yourselves.
@GD-cr5um
@GD-cr5um 4 ай бұрын
I delay messages with people who do the same for me. Ive had Normal expectations and genuine expectations but this world uses u when they want to
@buyiswamnyani5222
@buyiswamnyani5222 4 ай бұрын
When you do that to them they get upset.
@GD-cr5um
@GD-cr5um 4 ай бұрын
@@buyiswamnyani5222 I agree😇 u teach people how to treat u. Especially some of my women friends who disappear when they married and come back to me now when they got marital problems.
@morena6371
@morena6371 7 ай бұрын
Wow she’s so beautiful
@mafegalve620
@mafegalve620 Ай бұрын
I am in the same situation you were in that apartment but in long distance and I keep carrying h on because my fear for now. I have myself until end of this year.
@confusedwhynot
@confusedwhynot 8 ай бұрын
Impossible to do in a marriage with someone who thinks you owe it to them. My husband expected sex just because we were married. I feel like a fool!!! My husband literally would say, "Well I hope you have a good time, it isn't like I get to go." or "Gee, your taking the kids to the museum, I hope you have a good time without me. It isn't like I get to do anything." Now we are in a messy divorce after over 30 years of marriage. He walked out over two years ago, but wouldn't file for a divorce. I finally just said enough is enough and filed. He is making it as ugly as he possibly can. Hindsight is 20/20!! I should have had the courage to walk out years ago, but I was so manipulated that I wasn't even thinking clearly. It has taken a lot of therapy for myself and our children to realize I matter. I still feel like a fool, but now I can find myself again, and my children can find who they are.
@Kristain473
@Kristain473 8 ай бұрын
It’s tricky as shit.
@nalanala9725
@nalanala9725 9 ай бұрын
The first interview was great, the second not so much.
@Littlefighter1911
@Littlefighter1911 8 ай бұрын
13:25 I'm pretty sure a lot of women don't know how to do this. Even I as a man struggle with that. I suspect, that's why I always get ghosted. I probably am "too sneaky", when talking to people, so they get scared of me sneaking past boundaries, so they just ghost me, because they can't put in words, that something about me feels off. The problem is, when I talk too much about that, beforehand, I am also being creepy. (Because we aren't in any real relationship, yet. So why do I sound like there's something going on? Why would I ask otherwise, how often someone wants to be contacted, etc. ?) I'd really really prefer if people just straight up told me: "Hold on, I feel like you're trying to be manipulative. Can you tone that down a bit?", than just straight up putting me on block or not responding at all, whenever the slightest inconvenience pops up. Like, just last year, I had two people write me: "Yeah, I'd really like to meet you. I'm just currently busy. I'll get back to you, once I'm not busy anymore" Nearly one year later and multiple holidays, no one responded. That's why I kept asking one person in distances of like 2-3 months. And she still gave me the "I'm still busy" stuff. If you don't want to have contact with me, that's absolutely fine, just let me go, ffs. You're not being "nice", if something about me turns you off and you don't give me a reason and kick me out.
@chrissemenko628
@chrissemenko628 8 ай бұрын
Hmmmmm. Sounds like you talk too much. Just being honest hun.
@Littlefighter1911
@Littlefighter1911 8 ай бұрын
@@chrissemenko628 That's the fun thing. I barely talk and when I do, I don't stop. Probably pretty annoying.
@littlelam3691
@littlelam3691 8 ай бұрын
@@Littlefighter1911 don’t worry about how much you talk or don’t. The right person won’t mind. However, if someone says they will get back to you when they are not busy, and they never reach out… they don’t want to get together. To keep reaching out every few months seems desperate. It’s unfortunate people aren’t more straightforward, but they are human and probably just chicken sh*t about directly hurting someone’s feelings. Super lame, but tis life.
@Littlefighter1911
@Littlefighter1911 8 ай бұрын
@@littlelam3691 That's what I suspect. But for that one person, it's not like we weren't friends before. I acknowledged she will probably never like me as more and that's completely fine by me. She gave ME the "if you need distance, that's fine". But honestly, I don't care, I just wanted to clear that up, before proceeding in that painful limbo of being unsure what I am to her and awkward situations. It's super weird to me, that she ghosts me NOW, while she was completely fine, with my behavior, before, when she didn't know I liked her. (Which I honestly would have found more concerning but whatever) But, yeah I've given up on both of them.
@belindaking1362
@belindaking1362 7 ай бұрын
I just ask them what they want. 😮😮😮
@angelpandadaylane4924
@angelpandadaylane4924 13 күн бұрын
9:29 💜
@rahmasamir909
@rahmasamir909 9 ай бұрын
Look actions on long term ❤
@ma629
@ma629 10 ай бұрын
This just happened to me😢
@weireffie29
@weireffie29 10 ай бұрын
Great Wisdom....
@SuperStunningdunning
@SuperStunningdunning 10 ай бұрын
Love the guests and the interview style. The" What Up Homeee" OOOOhffff it's bit cringe, sorry.
@sharonwaldie9737
@sharonwaldie9737 8 ай бұрын
What is ghosting?
@kat6186
@kat6186 7 ай бұрын
Well said . Thank you 🙏🏼 #redflags ‼️
@EchadLevShtim
@EchadLevShtim 10 ай бұрын
The push pull women are doing is failing. Not only does it not filter out users, it creates that scenario. Let me explain, a guy shows interest and you push them away as if its not alpha, then you wonder why he doesnt call..... Once the peak attraction is thwarted the love dies, and only then is when the women begins to chase.
@littlelam3691
@littlelam3691 8 ай бұрын
You must be young
@EchadLevShtim
@EchadLevShtim 8 ай бұрын
@@littlelam3691 Just because you dont want to accept that women behave like children, you wanna gaslight and redirect your own think.
@tensevo
@tensevo 9 ай бұрын
if i understand correctly, we are suggesting to combat "narcissism" with more "narcissism"
@charmee4045
@charmee4045 8 ай бұрын
Watch the feet not the tongue..........
@lorrainedevlin6409
@lorrainedevlin6409 7 ай бұрын
Exactly texing can be false
@julia4393
@julia4393 8 ай бұрын
Thank you❤
@nevenkaterzic9619
@nevenkaterzic9619 10 ай бұрын
How I Feel how I tink what I wont ❤️
@Lee_Christine_Educator
@Lee_Christine_Educator 8 ай бұрын
Did I just hear you say that you may be considering coming to Australia Terri??😃🌈⚡️Please do!! To Noosa Shire on the Sunshine Coast: THE most beautiful part of Oz. Let me know how I can help? 🙏🏽😍Lee B
@andersnielsen6044
@andersnielsen6044 6 ай бұрын
He just want ses if you have nothing else to offer..
@aissatoutrainwithayss5305
@aissatoutrainwithayss5305 10 ай бұрын
Hi Lisa How could we differentiate love bombing from someone who is just being flirty and giving you compliments into the “get to know us stage” ?
@alyssawoodman
@alyssawoodman 10 ай бұрын
Over the top, intense, wants to lock down the relationship as quickly as possible, making alot of promises about the future (future faking.)
@DiamondsRexpensive
@DiamondsRexpensive 10 ай бұрын
Girl, anyone who flirts too aggressive like that, just wants to play around.
@INFJ2
@INFJ2 7 ай бұрын
Recently on several dating sites trying to put my toe in the water after 9 years of being single.....all guys wanting sex- sending inappropriate pictures of body parts. Disgusted. Taking another break ..gonna try again in a year
@rupertperiwinkle4477
@rupertperiwinkle4477 6 ай бұрын
If he texts this, it's a major red flag. What is the text?
@TheHealYourHeartCoach
@TheHealYourHeartCoach 10 ай бұрын
😮😢😮😢....so glad I found this
@HH-kg4fq
@HH-kg4fq 9 ай бұрын
She's softened her voice soooo much. In her regular videos, this therapist is pretty rough.
@Artsylady2030
@Artsylady2030 7 ай бұрын
I hate her current whispery voice....it makes me sick
@HH-kg4fq
@HH-kg4fq 10 ай бұрын
00:11 the first 11 seconds described my mother who has munchausen syndrome by proxy. She manipulated my whole entire life, and hers, until at age 51, I figured out her M.O. Why does my mother's name come up in this video???? Because her manipulated deception and life was the most influential energy and spirit that poisoned my spirit, energy, beliefs and mindset on friendships, work, dating, life, etc.... it is no different than being born and raised by a drug addicted mother....she will kill steal and destroy anyone in order to survive and get that attention. . .... because she feels sooo shitty about herself..... She sacrificed me, her baby and child, to the devil, herself. She also did that to her other child, my older brother, but our father rescued him, because he is a boy. But, me?????? I was the spare, the spare female child, so my father couldn't care less. This was in the days when female children were not wanter and considered a waste of food and a waste to educate......a waste to give job opportunities to ....girls and women were not seen as laborers but liabilities.... Have things improved in 2023????
@gabrielleaumont3971
@gabrielleaumont3971 10 ай бұрын
They have. Start a new chapter of your life. Learn.
@Magicisreal66
@Magicisreal66 10 ай бұрын
What country are from
@hjginslc
@hjginslc 8 ай бұрын
I tried to add your “Free” 4-part ‘Confidence’ workshop, but it says it’s “Discounted” (not free aa it says onscreen) *Please advise how to register for *Free ^ Thank you! 🙏
@annastone5624
@annastone5624 6 ай бұрын
I disagree that codependency is a bid to control others in the particular way described. That sounds more like manipulation. Or am I conflating codependency with something else? Many people who have been seriously traumatised, behave in what looks like a codependent way, but it’s because their abusers absolutely demand submission. Is it codependency if they have a gun to your head? Often those victims will go on into relationships with people just as dangerous. I wonder has that dynamic another name?
@ATeaNTea
@ATeaNTea 10 ай бұрын
I’m his sunrise chef lmbo none of my clothes came off
@DiamondsRexpensive
@DiamondsRexpensive 10 ай бұрын
4:31
@DiamondsRexpensive
@DiamondsRexpensive 10 ай бұрын
6:44
@HH-kg4fq
@HH-kg4fq 9 ай бұрын
7 commercial breaks??? Seriously????
@pattypohlit7803
@pattypohlit7803 9 ай бұрын
Please I like the two of you The conversation I like to have help with the two of you a matters that relate An expression to being real dealing with unreal I really think I'm a five-star number one test subject Blind leading those who and then those that think they say but don't!
@littlelam3691
@littlelam3691 8 ай бұрын
That made no sense
@thomashuston9180
@thomashuston9180 9 ай бұрын
We Americans have all been made into victims by modern psychology. 😮
@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes 10 ай бұрын
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