‘You Are Selling Yourself Short,’ Dr. Phil Tells 18-Year-Old

Evan says that the first eight years of his life were difficult. He claims he was abused and asked to do things children shouldn’t be a part of. When he was 8, he was adopted by Tim and Tina. He admits that he has stolen from them, as well as stolen a car and been arrested, and partially blames his early childhood for his behavior. He also claims that his family “continuously” makes him out to be the “bad guy.”
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In the video above, Dr. Phil reviews some of Evan’s behavior issues - and offers him advice for getting his life back on track.
“You have to decide what you deserve,” Dr. Phil tells Evan. “You’re either going to wind up a convicted felon, and you’re going to spend years in jail. Or, you’re going to pull your act together, and you’re going to say, ‘I deserve better than I’m giving myself here.’”
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Hear more of Dr. Phil’s advice in the video above, including how Evan needs to heal his personal truth.
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[@jessicastakes-upshaw9575]

This kid has spent YEARS being hated and told on a daily basis that he’s evil, unlovable, unforgivable. He’s traumatized and the blame is squarely on his “parents”. I pray he rises above the cycle of hate and abandonment his life has consisted of. This mother is disgusting.

[@ashleysblues5284]

that’s exactly what I’m thinking!

[@mrmrsmsmisscloud7512]

Although I agree with what you’re saying, what he did as a child to his poor, little, innocent baby brother when he himself was a child, was absolutely dreadful & could’ve resulted in his death or brain damage. Unfortunately, I’d probably be expressing the same negative words & feelings about him as his mother, if he were my adopted child.

[@psisis7423]

@@mrmrsmsmisscloud7512 So has he done it since? Is he not remorseful? Does he beat them up on a daily basis? That couple shouldn't adopt children if they're that scared of, and bad at parenting

[@lululovesyou7618]

MrMrsMsMiss Cloud He probably was mimicking what he had seen and experienced. If you are hit everyday and see bigger kids hitting others every day and no adult is stopping it you have NO CLUE that this is not how a typical family acts. My adopted child had never been outside. What happened in the one room she was kept in was all she knew. I can tell you hunger happened, having her mouth taped shut happened, sitting in filth happened. Lord knows what else. She had no clue those behaviors were not “normal”.

[@ivyrose779]

@@mrmrsmsmisscloud7512 It’s understandable to be upset, but he was 10 years old. Even if a parent doesn’t like or resents their child, they should NEVER show even a hint of it. And, unless the kid kills their other kid or something, to hold that grudge more than a few months is extremely abnormal and, frankly, borderline abusive.

[@mizzysparrots4874]

I cant believe the moms face when Dr Phil gives this man a nice heart warming lecture instead of a scolding. She wanted him to be torn down. She wanted him to be beaten verbally by Dr. Phil. She is horrific.

[@Trendnet18]

Well she hates him for what he has done. That feeling is very hard to get rid of.

[@hodgepodgedesign]

She needs to take the same advice dr Phil is giving the young man and heal her wounds too or she will treat him with contempt for ever.

[@kalebfrench7942]

@@Trendnet18 she's not wrong for hating the decision he had made in the past and the decision hes still making. however openly having a hatred for him as a person for what he has done a whopping 8 years in the past isn't healthy behavior. I know from personal experience that there is nothing more painful than knowing that deep down the people who are supposed to be your family hate you and feel anxious around you. It makes you start to believe that your a horrible person that you deserve all the hate your getting but no one deserves that.

[@lizmad8091]

Trendnet18 For a shitty mother yes. For a good mother nothing is too big. Mothers support their sons through a lot worse. She’s a terrible person and that is all.

[@heatheroxendine7489]

The mother ain't trying to forgive him. She wants to be told it's ok to hate him forever. She has treated him poorly & it's affecting him too

[@missnene6879]

The mom looks disappointed that Dr Phil isn't scolding him.

[@beowulfandstuff5547]

I noticed. So sad really.

[@diyandmorewithsam2278]

Thats what i thought to

[@dianamendoza9644]

Yeah i got the vibe from her too

[@kittycat8222]

The guilt (that she should feel because she is partly to blame) is killing her and she wants him punished.

[@robynmitchell4478]

I noticed it

[@CBulles]

Dr Phil send the parents to the ranch...

[@annekearns9123]

Yes lmao

[@blueraspberrylemonade32]

Make them all do some hard work on the farm together with assigned tasks as a group, have the brothers all go to one farm/camp with counselors and send the parents to a separate one, so they can realize he's older, can learn, and doesn't have to repeat his past. It'd be nice if they could all get the trust back by being able to prove they can

[@HighonBoots]

And keep them there.

[@hollyk7052]

Or to prison for abuse

[@cayliiiiii]

This is the one time I’ve ever seen a “bad kid” on Dr Phil and actually fully respected them. This kid is smart, thoughtful, and humble, and shows great respect to Dr Phil. He is the anti Danielle bregoli.

[@arbetor12]

he is he just wants a hug and someone who give him love that's why he's on 25 dating apps

[@seilove7044]

He just wants to be loved

[@Blueeyesinthesky]

He just wants to be loved 😭❤️

[@michelec5224]

Hes not a bad kid. I think he made a mistake at the age of 10 that his parents still hold resentment against him for. He was never allowed to grow past it they stopped giving him love, affection and guidance based on the mistake of a child. He hit his brother and badly hurt him, but the kid was fine after ans had no long term effects from the contusion. But the parents just gave up on him. I'm glad I wasn't judged by things I did at 10 years old

[@vegetasayianmcanon6199]

@@michelec5224 Amen

[@dannigro8794]

He’s a teenager. These “parents” need to stop living in the past and start being parents.

[@rushokhan3178]

No he was stealing cars and other stuff

[@Persephone69]

@@rushokhan3178 and? They still need to be parents regardless of what hes done

[@riririchburgh2109]

@@Persephone69 yea that's true but they don't know if they can trust him anymore. trust is hard to gain back after its been stolen

[@SuyahRahim]

Riri Richburgh HES A CHILD mother hates him for an incident that happened when he was 10!! Children can feel when they aren’t wanted and will act out because of it

[@brookailjennings8274]

Blueepinktoaster -_- imagine losing the trust of your own child, he’s 18, he’s an adult, it’s time for him to grow up and take care of himself.

[@happydayz7857]

Once this kid gets out of the house, out of that mindset, toxic home, I hope he sees he can live a great life. Working, gaining lots of confidence, trying college courses, opening up his mind.

[@goldheartxx]

How is the house toxic? If they didn’t care they wouldn’t be there trying to help him.

[@Tyrosine0910]

Goldheartxx, are you kidding me? I don't think you understand what "toxic" means here..

[@brookailjennings8274]

Charlie Van Kampen he’s toxic, if he can do that at 10 then what will he do now?

[@natalija8771]

@@brookailjennings8274 I punched my sister in the face when I was 10 she was 8 and I was forgiven for it because I was sorry, they however held a grudge for 8 years. I've never hurt my sister since and were best friends. They demonized that boy,they caused all of the issues after because they hated a child.

[@bluedragon8762]

@@goldheartxx let's see they showed him they hated him for. . 8 years? At least? He is looking for love that he isnt feeling by his family through his ton of dating apps. . . . Put 1 and 1 together. . . .

[@mbt9700]

Maybe if the boy wasn't always told he was broken he wouldn't be.

[@laurie4275]

Exactly!! A child becomes what a parent continually TELLS them they are. "A loser" or "Worthless" vs. "Smart/successful" or "Worthy" or "Talented". The parent feeds the mind script. This mother is the one who needs help. She has messed him up. Poor guy!

[@f.k6920]

Wasn't that after he beats baby

[@mbt9700]

@@f.k6920 no it's been continuous.

[@Areniapixie]

I can see it in his eyes that he is going to be absolutely fine. He looks determined and pays great attention to what Dr Phil is saying.

[@devin5023]

I look forward to his “where are they now”.. this kid got it ❤️

[@missychase3014]

I completely disagree. I would kick him out. Period.

[@fhantasm]

And I'm gonna bet $5 that his 'parents' will be disappointed the nanosecond he starts doing well lol.

[@fhantasm]

@@missychase3014 ok Karen. Also why are your eyes trying so hard to move away from each other?

[@cheetahtfk7274]

@@missychase3014 then please don't ever become a parent if they are just expendable to you. Yes there are times where you've done all you can and can't enable them anymore. However, this kid hasn't gotten the help he deserves until Dr Phil.

[@TigerBites4000]

Dr Phil has a certain way of touching the hearts of abused children. He always reminds them how valuable they are. It’s touching

[@SweetKingTanner]

Your cat is very beautiful

[@sophiejew]

Does anyone else get anxious at the delay between Dr. Phil's writing and the screen?

[@antonelabakavic4045]

OmG I was just thinking about that and I saw your comment

[@KateRiver13]

Yes!!! It messes with my anxiety real bad

[@VeeAmericanEagle]

Yeah...☹️

[@littlean24]

I HATE the stupid screen

[@missluciddreams3472]

Not really

[@jamesboone3678]

I love how honest he is. Even though he says he's a liar 😂

[@charaardrey5846]

Right Liar: correct, Steal: correct 🤣

[@jamesboone3678]

@@charaardrey5846 exactly ?????? 😕🤔🤔

[@jamesboone3678]

@@charaardrey5846 I'm always confused. I'm not the smartest cheddar on the block. 😁

[@she-moon7467]

Chara Ardrey The reason why he is doing those things is because his foster parents didnt give him acceptance, rather negativity and judgement.

[@jamesboone3678]

@Dark Heart watch the video read again.

[@user-tk4qd8dj1p]

This kid needs love not a fear mongering talking to. He’s hurting badly

[@speedy4574]

He needs a purpose and to not become so fixated on women. He needs to take the next 12 years and build himself up in his career, skillset and social life and only then will women actually notice him. He has nothing to offer now but if he works hard, he will have alot to offer when he's in his 30's. Women are different, they have alot to offer between the ages of 18-25 at the latest but beyond that, they are effectively worthless.

[@FippyDarkpaw]

He needs to build up skills, for example, the trades. Learn to install new lights, repair drywall, and whatnot. He needs to learn to depend on himself and not on others. It will not only improve his self-confidence, but will keep him busy focusing on himself. Maybe he can get an apprenticeship somewhere.

[@momma3327]

😕

[@user-tk4qd8dj1p]

​@@speedy4574 Women are not just their bodies - this was such a bait and insecure comment - just because you feel used only for what you do as a man, now you want to make women feel the same way INSTEAD of stepping into your passion purpose and desired leadership as a man OR just finding someone else who values whatever values of manhood you have ? go find your own purpose in life so you can more positively interact with women and not be sexist and degrading to them online. Hate is not a positive value

[@Window4503]

Michael No one is worthless. Besides, how are older women worthless? Have you even studied history? If you’re in the MGTOW or incel community, get out and start treating people like people.

[@LadyTsThingsThatBling]

The look that mother gave to him, looks like she doesn’t see any redeeming value in him. He needs tight away from her. I’m so sorry that he had to live with her for 8 years after that incident. I can feel her hate towards him through the screen.

[@Dem0nD0ll]

He’s so intelligent and handsome and can really make something of himself.

[@candycorn9976]

Absolutely!!

[@jjmurphey88]

Yes! I love this comment because if someone believed in this kid he really could go far.

[@Jareers-ef8hp]

U know he goes to my school ong

[@sydneyberzins2038]

my bf knows him rlly well. this kid tried to stab my bf with a box cutter at work and got fired and sent to jail. he will never get better lmao he’s batshit crazy

[@Jareers-ef8hp]

@@sydneyberzins2038 Ppl change, give him time

[@Luna0wl]

He looks like young eminem, nice.

[@abcdef-ze9hs]

Isn't it mind blowing to think that he's nearly 50 already?

[@HammsterMusic]

mom’s spaghetti

[@buggywuggy0]

That's what I was thinking!

[@lalitstar2371]

That's probably he's son lol

[@leahmoonbeamflower333]

Yo Ma not at all. He’s just Caucasian with a low haircut, and a permanent frown on his face, lol. Other than that, He looks nothing like Eminem .

[@sabrina-ye1ye]

poor kid. he deserved better parents. his “mom” is a horrible person. trying to act like she loves him when she clearly hates and resents him. so sad.

[@alphagraal6876]

He's a real good guy I've had classes with him back in high school!

[@PeterPantheFearless]

What was he like in high school? Was he always trying to get a girlfriend like they say here?

[@alphagraal6876]

@@PeterPantheFearless Yah, but he did have friends but I guess once summer break hit it gave him a turn for the worse due to his troubles at home...

[@candybar5927]

@@alphagraal6876 wow 😮I feel for him though

[@bludsuk3r]

He’s kinda real cute😳

[@915MONI]

How sad

[@itsavery4649]

He’s very respectful toward Dr. Phil. Tbh I didn’t expect this. He looks like he’s ready to take Dr. Phil’s advice, which most people on the show aren’t.

[@sshibes5172]

dr phil would benefit from a white board and an expo marker.. that screen was lagging way too much.

[@jaggirl]

A troubled child for 18 years, needed help years ago. It would have been nice...

[@tiffinwonderland7243]

That's what I was thinking! What DHS just dropped him off and left him KNOWING all the abuse he suffered. Not to dog on parents but....if I knew a child had been through so much. I would get him help from beginning. He honestly seems like a good kid. He just is living the trauma.

[@jaggirl]

@@tiffinwonderland7243 very true..🌻

[@JewelKFrost]

When the show writes "adopted father", the perpetuates the whole trama of adoption. Can't these parents be just parents? I feel for the young man. He can never meet these parents expectations, can never apologize enough for something that happened years ago. I suggest this young man, who has never received respect in his life, respect himself enough to drop this toxic family and live a life free from their disappointments. He owes them nothing.

[@sadieladie9439]

I feel like they added adoptive because he was adopted in childhood instead of infancy, and had trauma and abandonment issues because of that, but yes, parents should be parents, and they agreed to parent a child with known trauma, and the issues that can stem from that years later

[@Preservestlandry]

These particular people sure aren't acting like real parents.

[@piratesfan123]

B Gaudin True, the “mother” decided as soon as he hurt her real son that this boy was nothing to her, truly sad, proves that a toxic family isn’t always a violent one

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

He owes them nothing 👏🏻

[@kylievlogs3077]

If this was a kid who is really messed up he wouldn’t have admitted all the things that he did😢❤️

[@msfilipinamerican]

You can just tell that this is the type of father-son conversation he’s been wanting his whole life when Dr. Phil is talking to him in this clip. Truly bittersweet

[@callmemom6936]

I feel sad when he drops his head like there is no hope. I like how he looks Dr. Phil in the eyes.

[@Jersmen_Kay]

The parents are the problem for this kid. He's not perfect but being hated by those who are supposed to love you makes you a certain way

[@kimma508]

I hope that Evan is doing well and is successful in his life. He seems like a very smart and capable young man who deserves better parents.

[@Mrs.IsabelaBarbosa]

He seems very humble, and a good listening, poor thing, he wants to change but doesn’t know how to.

[@marioncobretti3253]

damn, there's 25 dating apps out there and here i am sitting here by my lonesome watching dr. phil

[@Dem0nD0ll]

@Marion Cobretti I just got divorced after 20 years of marriage. I have no idea how to date anymore or how to do it over an app! 😂🤣

[@XxhimynameiscynxX]

Dating apps are fun!

[@mellowmorningsasmr3770]

himynameiscyn nah too many creeps😅

[@sarcasticklutz]

@@Dem0nD0ll lemme guess her name was julie ☺️

[@fabioraton4720]

Many Creeps

[@dustingrey6711]

This poor kid I feel so bad for him 💔

[@khanyisilebeatz9330]

Right?💔

[@wanderer1913]

I feel like making the con list longer than the pro list is a little unnecessarily cruel...

[@charaardrey5846]

Right he said good w/ my brothers.... dr Phil said anyway to the con side 😭

[@julieannanderson2228]

I think that was to show him that he can do better for himself. That he isn't giving himself the respect he deserves

[@samanthamoore8693]

It was to show him that he thinks more badly of himself than seeing the good in himself.

[@maggiedunn9826]

I bet dr. Phil is one of the few people that has listened to him and has advocated for him without strings attached. I cant even imagine.

[@sabrinaboileau2577]

This kids is the result of his parents behaviour towards him. Kids with behaving issues need love despite their behaviour, that is how they heal. These parents have resented their child since day 1 and made him worse. I see a broken boy that needs therapy, love & acceptance. This kid is not the bad guy, send parents to the ranch instead

[@killjoy3724]

Dr Phil: “Don’t do it to please her or him or me. Improve yourself for you” Mom: “hold up, this isn’t what I wanted”

[@cheetahtfk7274]

I actually have so much respect for this young man. He's so self aware, so forth coming, isn't making excuses for his behavior...maybe it's all for show, Idk, but it seems like this boy has been crying out for help for years and those parents didn't get him what he needed until now.

[@coralrose5754]

Gotta throw the whole parents away

[@Candie4JC]

I hope Dr Phil does a follow up episode with him in a few months or in a year. I have a really good feeling about him. When a man filled with love and compassion encourages a broken man in the way they need to hear and receive it, things change. Sobering his parents should have done long ago. Mom needs to cool off.

[@Hilary945]

I love the look on the mom's face..classic

[@lorabetht9206]

This may be the best advice I’ve heard Dr. Phil give to someone

[@thebluethunderbunny2324]

Everybody can't get over this being posted at 4 am. I still can't get over the existence of a Dr.Phil comment section.

[@13ritneyanne65]

😂😂😂😂 same

[@leila_m_g]

💯🤣😂

[@marisabel5500]

"Winners do what losers don't want to do" 🙌 say it louder for the people in the back!!

[@oliviab.4489]

I feel so sorry for him when I see him. He seems so sad and lonely , I hope he’s doing better now

[@NoseJackMaggot]

Poor guy, parents holding a grudge against a mistake he made when he was a child

[@CyaaS0n]

Amen to dr Phil, I like when he takes the person who no one is listening too, and finally gives them a spotlight to share. You can tell it almost works immediately when what they say gets heard it’s like they are partly healed

[@erinkaye8382]

I can feel his pain & can tell he's been through so much.. I wish I could just hug him...

[@kimberlyflynn5291]

It saddens me that his parents can't forgive him after 8 yrs. He knows it too. No wonder he acts out. To them, nothing he does is good enough. I think that he's capable of doing great things during his lifetime. He needs to get away from that mother though. She has no faith in him and he knows it. My son Evan joined the USAF at 18 and its made a tremendous impact on him, plus, in 3yrs, he's already got his bachelor's degree & working on his graduate. He's also gotten to live in Anchorage & Brussels, Belgium. This Evan should consider the same path. It's a great opportunity.

[@cnov1297]

You can tell he takes what his parents have said about him to heart when he lists more negatives about himself than positives. The impulse control is a direct comment his mom called him. He uses the dating sites to feel a void he feels. He’s searching for constant love and emotional support. He didn’t get it from his parents so now he looks elsewhere. Poor guy.

[@laughingpheonix9157]

It took him so long to find 2 good things about himself when he already had a long list figured out about what's bad about him I'm surprised they didnt touch on that, his parents have held one impulse mistake when he was a kid over his head his entire life his parents even hate him at times for it and it's disgusting I hope he finds a healthy support system, he also says that he looks for relationships when he is down or in a bad place maybe he is actually looking for a support system via a relationship with someone which is somthing he might lack at the time

[@shellos8]

I can literally feel his pain. It's written all over his face. I hope one day soon he understands that it's not about him. It's never been about him. His sociopathic mother is the one who needs help. God, I want to give that woman a piece of my mind!

[@deepblue7021]

25 dating apps and I can’t even get a text back 😂🤣

[@Decaturdan]

He lookin like slim shady

[@paranoid__sleep]

Dang you’re really gonna diss slim shady like that

[@abcnews388]

That is just disrespectful

[@paranoid__sleep]

Unusual Chungas Guy agrees

[@Decaturdan]

😂lmao

[@abcnews388]

Yes indeed

[@lmnn8076]

My heart goes for this young man. ❤ He deserves to be loved, if not from his own parents, yes definitely from someone out there waiting for him. ❤ He is also one strong man holding on through all those grudges put on him. You go man!!

[@virg0_lem0nade]

man Dr Phil got me just now with that quote: "you can start doing things that you have not *required of yourself* in the past, and that's when things are gonna start falling into place"

[@lululovesyou7618]

I think 8 years ago that mom closed her heart to him and he saw that look in her eye and tone in her voice every. single. day.

[@SukiraB]

Damn, I swear that kid absolutely deserves to hear what Dr Phil said because there was change in his eyes suddenly like a dark fog has been lifted, suddenly it’s like he’s human back to earth & his feet touched the ground. This will be his ultimate purpose trigger moment. I LOVED what Dr. Phil delivered. He has said and done a lot truthful, those who needs to hear it thang and this is why he’s the best. Let that (what he said) be YOUR message too 💎💎💎💓🦋🌟👑❤️♥️💕💖✨

[@craftygirl7]

This is basically my husbands story. He is adopted and did something to his siblings. My husband grew up but had to do it on his own. He never got support from his parents. His family still thinks of him as the kid they knew growing up. There is hope for this kid for sure. He will live a happy life. ❤️

[@dehz4948]

Dr Phil may be posting late at night but he telling the truth

[@MoMo_IP2]

He's just now getting up and getting ready to send some kids to the ranch lol 🐄🐎🐔🐓🐑🐏🐂🐃🐖🐤🐥

[@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549]

Don’t you think that his staff is posting these late night & 3:am videos?

[@beepboop7090]

ThatGirlWhoUsedToHaveREALLYlongHair I've seen people use software to download videos at a specific times.

[@momma3327]

Girls that have been through trauma have loads of help in this country, while boys are neglected, ignored, and really just not cared about. Not seen as having feelings. Not seen as needing help. It's so sad. God help our boys.

[@missluciddreams3472]

That is not even true...lots of places for boys to get help...

[@gxrlwonder]

that’s because society has taught men that they need to be strong, emotionless, and to be the support system of the family. ive seen multiple men call other men pussy’s or bitches for showing feelings and trying to seek help, telling them to suck it up and “be a man.”

[@DekkarJr]

yeah boys are instead chastised and hated and resented for their own natural traits. feminism truly poisoned the dating market and MeToo and the like made it so much worse.

[@wallflower7441]

I completely love how Dr. Phil handled this. If the mother and father had handled things differently and given him love and helped him, actually treating him like their child he would not have turned out this way.

[@nancykyer7762]

He deserves way better than them Thank you Dr Phil you recognize his worth

[@user-di6cn2ne7u]

This kid was so respectful and invested in this. Poor dude just needs out of this house and a good therapist .

[@babybri510]

“I’m the least judgmental person I’ve ever met” Yeah ok... Until someone tells him they smoke weed

[@PeterPantheFearless]

LOL!!

[@wikbe2]

3:00 so humble as always Phil

[@mattwalksnone5966]

Yew

[@vegetasayianmcanon6199]

Please pray for this boy, everyone!!

[@nfvy8111]

Bro why did Dr Phil get out of breath just from writing on the board 😩😩😩

[@sherrenne3982]

I know he deserves better than what he’s given himself and he most definitely deserves better than his parents and his sister🤷🏽‍♀️ actually people who love him and hopefully love himself better than what he has

[@Vincenza8907]

If I was in that family, I’d be searching for love too...

[@randyg.7940]

Dr Phil is finally starting to learn how to become a positive influence on people. This is a major breakthrough.

[@kerina6594]

A lot of the time, adopted kids act up because they feel as though they don’t belong. It’s really sad.

[@empress9554]

Admitting a problem is the first step to fixing it. If he keeps that good head on his shoulders, he’ll be alright.

[@ivyrose779]

I’m extremely disappointed that Dr. Phil didn’t lay into those “parents.” I’ve worked with kids who were removed by the state and their families and many of those parents were better than these. I hope this kid is able to heal and love himself one day.

[@PeterPantheFearless]

If I was younger, I would've dated this dude if he asked me out. He's so cute and he seems genuine. He just needs a chance

[@legallybl0wn]

heehee mefunny right, he’s probably a good person but he has to work on himself before he gets involved in a relationship. and a girlfriend most likely won’t help.

[@goldheartxx]

Savior complex. Stop you don’t know, psychopaths are charming. Not saying he is one but you need to be careful with that mindset

[@PeterPantheFearless]

​@@goldheartxx I know psychopaths can be charming but I do not think this dude is a psychopath (MY opinion). He needs a chance to clean up his act. He seems like he genuinely wants to. And...he's a cute dude..

[@PeterPantheFearless]

​@heehee mefunny It's possible he may not be into girls. Or it's possible he was so desperate for a relationship that he would date anyone who showed interest.

[@Grace-kw2zt]

Miss Ti girl... he may seem like a nice person but he is not ready to be in a mentally relationship. I hope you don’t take that mindset when you date lol.

[@jordanperalta90]

He has potential his parents aren’t helping him and have no belief in him that can be a reason he steals, i was like that, no one ever expected me to do good things so I did bad things! But now that my family believes in me I strive for greatness

[@mackenziecarpenter5406]

I love how honest he is. Parents stop living in the past

[@holysheet7271]

Dr.Phil handled this so well.

[@seilove7044]

Of course he feels like he has poor judgement and impulse problems because he told this nonstop ! He's looking for love, and he steals and lies for attention reguardless if it bad attention I am sure he only get attention when he is being bad or doing bad things. I think he saw how his mother loved his brothers differently then him so he acted out it made him resent that child.

[@trinininja8386]

So he had an incident 10 years ago and the mother resents him for 10 years. Geez

[@Enoughalready20237]

I love this kid! He reminds me so much of my son. Truly and angel, with impulse control issues

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

The parents need grief coinciding. Reminds me of family situations with my brother, it got bad so they all went to therapy and it’s a lot better. They’ve wrecked this boy and he’s trying to get all his pieces back together.

[@TheeOriginalLolo]

I have never been this early and I love Dr. Phil. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk

[@75julianne]

Great advise Dr Phil. You nailed this one.

[@bobolatrick]

Absolutely excellent motivational interviewing skills. I’m always taking notes from Dr. Phil! I hope this kid sees the light & gives himself the life he deserves!!

[@karenconnor6682]

Amen 🙏🏻 Dr Phil this lad really deserves a better and more healthy life 👍🏻

[@EruvieBruinen]

No wonder he's desperately seeking a relationship. He has a very toxic one with the family. He needs stability and love.

[@highlandhousestudio6638]

This is why Dr Phil is Dr Phil...Cuz he's brilliant!

[@lindalambert9802]

The parents are at LEAST 90% of the entire problem!!!

[@denasantana1831]

Such a great response Dr. Phil!

[@XxhimynameiscynxX]

He needs a role model 🥰

[@emmac8867]

I wonder why he's relationship dependant

[@gyarus4life143]

Why was this posted at four lol why iam I even up😂

[@Ant_Man211]

Time zones

[@saintshrooms9424]

Time zones duh 🙄

[@MoMo_IP2]

Same

[@Akotski-ys9rr]

Have you ever heard of time zones?

[@Themoment888]

He phrased it perfectly so he could believe it was his choice to make to get the help he needed. Dr. Phil really knows how to switch up his communication styles.

[@Klaudia-ss5qh]

I love how dr.phil managed the situation and the fact that he knew exactly what this guy needed

[@kerriannefudge3269]

This boy has been through alot. I sure hope he gets the help he needs because he has so much potential.

[@jaderaeann]

Getting so many answers of my own just from watching ❤️ thank you for blessing this world dr Phil

[@floppysmith1181]

Oh yes!! He’s so wise!

[@avi82625]

Missed you, doc. Glad you’re back

[@RosinGod]

All this poor kid needed was the slightest bit of encouragement or praise, he looks like he's fighting crying while listening to Dr. Phil.

[@ivankarim8678]

Phil saw right through that woman the moment she and her husband stepped in.

[@kelseymarie5308]

Sometimes Dr.Phil really makes me mad but I'm really proud of how he handled this! He didn't continue to beat the kid down, like his adoptive parents obviously do; he helped built him up. Remind him that he is truly worth it!!

[@AndrewFlameiing]

I love this this is kind hearted very relaxing and rather warming message to anyone who has people who doubt them