Her husband also thought she was incredible. That's why he married her.
@BudgetsunTamed7 ай бұрын
W😮W
@jaymar16157 ай бұрын
But she's not....
@LSSYLondon7 ай бұрын
Not necessarily.
@nadiar.46387 ай бұрын
Or her husband thought she had low self esteem and he could manipulate her and now she has finaly found a good guy and he is told to run...
@elaineholm68937 ай бұрын
@@nadiar.4638 she has not worked on her low self-esteem or she would not be in an affair
@Luckychi6176 ай бұрын
Met someone who told me he was in a 7 year relationship and broke up 12months ago. I went on a few dates with him, but found out he is still married and has a 4 month old baby. I immediately blocked him and never saw him again. Liars…are so weird.
@isabellopes8903 ай бұрын
And very dangerous. Well-done.
@AffectionateSeaOtter3 ай бұрын
They are not weird. They are Dangerous.
@seansteel33263 ай бұрын
@@AffectionateSeaOtter Being horny is not necessarily dangerous. They may not have much morals, but the poor guy just wanted a quickie with her for a short while before he goes back to his family.
@violetmoon62332 ай бұрын
Proud of you 🙏💪👑glad you chose yourself & your self worth . You deserve better . 🕊️
@tammybartlett4202 ай бұрын
AWESOME job for making the absolute correct choice!!! 👏👏👏
@IMOO18969 ай бұрын
She’s NOT in the process of going thru a separation, and then divorce. She’s in the process of cheating on her hubby and she’s looking to see if this new guy can offer her more than her hubby. This man is dilusional!
@corneliastone18078 ай бұрын
@@doggletamer Both……delusional and blind to the fact that he is delusional.
@maryrobinson73358 ай бұрын
Best comment! No one is in “process” of a separation then a divorce!!! That’s the language of Cheat-ese! You’ve been warned, Son!
@lauriediandrea7158 ай бұрын
Truth
@noneya44448 ай бұрын
This woman should be ashamed! Deep down he knows she is trouble. He just needed reassurance.
@wulfseig18648 ай бұрын
And then look for the next best after this guy. Hopefully he'll move on.
@Cal.10316 ай бұрын
“A troublesome woman will leave you the way you found her” - Granny
@nodrama55992 ай бұрын
You got it right 👍
@kintsukuroi63002 ай бұрын
Some men like/are addicted to DRAMA; maybe there is a vocation for writing melodrama.
@kellygreenii Жыл бұрын
What she will do WITH you, is what she will eventually do TO you. Run.
@luciferianjesuslover9453 Жыл бұрын
Can confirm, hooked up with a girl fresh out of a four year relationship. We ended up dating for two years and the same week we broke up, she was underneath some rando.
@THEBESTUCUNTS9 ай бұрын
Yeppp. Spot on. 100%
@kellygreenii9 ай бұрын
@@THEBESTUCUNTS Yeah. This 💩 only ends in tears….
@buuny22338 ай бұрын
The Anne Bolyen effect
@annnee68188 ай бұрын
We didn't hear she did anything
@justsomerandomgirl6 ай бұрын
My husband and I were both separated and met online. 14 years strong! He retired 3 weeks ago, I retire in June at the end of school year. We raised 4 teen daughters when we came together- all 4 college grads/ accountant, a RN, an PA and a biology teacher- I’m so blessed
@mjphoto455 ай бұрын
Lucky
@weezee1234568 ай бұрын
My cousin was going thru a divorce and he ask a coworker out, she told him ask me again when he was divorced. He did exactly that. They've now been married over 50 years.
@LSSYLondon7 ай бұрын
That's wonderful!
@susango1237 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯 He should tell her once she's divorced, and still interested, she can give him a call. Until then, no dice. I did that once, and the guy didn't come back. So, I dodged a huge bullet.
@MsJoyce312027 ай бұрын
But the divorce happened first and then they got together
@nayafacts9657 ай бұрын
This is healthy
@lavenderkisses94617 ай бұрын
This is how it’s done!
@lauramckinney-wallace68535 ай бұрын
I told my own mother this in her 3rd of 4 marriages: Mom, if he'll cheat WITH you, he'll cheat ON you. Don't insert yourself into his life and break up his family because, I promise, he's not worth the pain and heartache you'll feel when he leaves you for someone else. And what happened? He left her for another woman less than half her age in less than 3 years time. Cheaters are cheaters are cheaters are cheaters. They don't ever fully commit because they are ALWAYS looking for the next bigger/ better thing.
@robinhulett3163 ай бұрын
Great advice! Sometimes the truth is hard to hear but we need to hear it.
@Here_Today_9 ай бұрын
Leave her alone and let her settle her life first!
@briannall62328 ай бұрын
Absolutely, get your life together.... I'll see you later.... Maybe... She's on rebound. Too soon for a new relationship.. After a separation...
@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn8 ай бұрын
That can be disastrous advice as well.
@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn8 ай бұрын
Like there are some situations where this would simply be the opposite of what you should do. Of course, you can always fix it later but it’s harder to fix things later sometimes. Harder, but not impossible. But sometimes you don’t realize the mistake until later and then you’re lucky if it’s just “harder.”
@Here_Today_8 ай бұрын
@@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn how is leaving a married person to settle their affairs disastrous advice. If they are married, getting involved romantically is one of the worst things a person can do. Let them be. If the other needs to separate from their spouse, they need to do that first before even thinking about getting involved with another.
@nayafacts9657 ай бұрын
@@Here_Today_Absolutely 💯
@PoliticalWonderland6 ай бұрын
I dated a guy for a year then found out he was separated for the past 5 years but not officially divorced. I told him I can’t be with a married man… he divorced her officially within a month. We’ve got back together after that. Set boundaries & stick to them.
@Afrinaturality Жыл бұрын
How can you trust someone that has cheated on a person they made vows with? What makes you think they wouldn't do the same to you?
@bakerteacher2905 Жыл бұрын
The truest statement ever made!
@Dansyoung Жыл бұрын
You can't, a person who isn't loyal has no value in a relationship.
@Afrinaturality Жыл бұрын
@@StephanieWitmer-iq5pv The cheating is the issue, not breaking off a terrible (and especially dangerous) relationship.
@Reshme779 ай бұрын
How do we know better situation wasn't terribly toxic. Maybe she's divorcing her husband to get away from danger. It's rare but it happens.
@Dansyoung9 ай бұрын
@@Reshme77I used to be like you. Trying to justify bad behaviour with logic…. Until I realized there is just evil people who will take advantage of situations with zero thought of anyone else.
@SqueekyPepper4 ай бұрын
I really admire the way you set up an answer. Asking if someone wants to really hear the best advice, instead of what the caller 'wants' to hear, it honoring the truth and your purpose in doing this.
@jeanlaubenthal698 Жыл бұрын
Never be that person during or after a divorce. Way too messy and can be dangerous.
@BelovedbyAdonai8 ай бұрын
My thoughts as well 🎯
@selfmaderish46908 ай бұрын
After 😂 they eventually have to move on
@hoodhippychick8 ай бұрын
I learned that the hard way!
@Cafeallday2228 ай бұрын
I met my husband when he was separated, not divorced. Still living together. It’s been 7 years and it’s all good ☺️ we did get accused of cheating but I met him on his first night out with friends (to meet ladies) and his ex always knew about me 🤷🏻♀️ depends on the situation
@texan9038 ай бұрын
@Cafeallday222 Mrs. McCooey cheated on her husband and had a baby with the affair partner, then divorced her husband and annulled the marriage. She then married her divorce attorney, and things went well for 10 years before the marriage fell apart. For the next 50 years, she remained divorced before dying in November, aged 90.
@moblack58836 ай бұрын
Met a lady last summer who told me she was separated. Hooked up a few times and had a blast. It ended up coming out she was still married. Her husband filed divorce on her and called me telling about it. I quickly excused myself from that situation. Nothing good will come from dating a married person !
@Karan-th8td4 ай бұрын
Nothing!!!!
@Donna-wb4ub4 ай бұрын
Empty promises
@pjhall13533 ай бұрын
You were not just dating her, you were doing her. She could have gotten pregnant, then what!
@moblack58833 ай бұрын
@@pjhall1353 yeah because I was hitting raw 🤦🏾♂️
@isabellopes8903 ай бұрын
That’s true. Soon or later, you will notice that.
@aleece4 Жыл бұрын
Even if she would never cheat on this new guy and she’s leaving someone really awful, this guy is still not giving her the time she needs to grieve and heal from her broken marriage.
@Reshme779 ай бұрын
That is true It's possible she was in a terrible situation and she was just looking for relief I was that situation myself. But she needs to do it properly by getting a divorce and healing first
@peekaboots019 ай бұрын
She doesn't need healing but her ex husband will. Also the caller when she's done with him.
@InDirectDiana9 ай бұрын
@@Reshme77 yes, I read that domestic abuse is so damaging to the spouse that is the victim and it makes them run for relief where possible. In essence, they just need to escape their abuser by ending the marriage, then healing, then trying again. It's so sad what a victim spouse goes through. But the best option is to leave. Not have affairs, turn to drugs or alcohol. I see why they do that, I would never judge. But getting the help they need is crucial. Perhaps after healing, they can move on.
@Reshme778 ай бұрын
@@InDirectDiana 100
@amandaparenteau92888 ай бұрын
@@peekaboots01if she is just cheating then I agree. If she is leaving a horrible husband then you are wrong.
@janewahlgren-dowell11016 ай бұрын
Exactly! -AND this goes for you women dating & sleeping with a married man “separated , going through a divorce” whether he’s blaming his wife for it all or not.
@beesknees213 Жыл бұрын
Buddy, run like the wind, like the gingerbread man, like a running back, like you are trying to catch that bus, like you are late for class!!! She is MARRIED!
@Arlene_DOTK7 ай бұрын
👏👏👏
@artemisappollo14917 ай бұрын
😂😅😅
@Zenfullvnn7 ай бұрын
Forealll
@homebrew3326 ай бұрын
Right on 👍🏽
@MommasPeachCobbler6 ай бұрын
Love this!! ❤👏👍
@juliemorrison63376 ай бұрын
Being in ministry I’ve known several people in these scenarios who want it to be okay to move in with someone else and as a Christian I always say “You are married until you are not married - do not make excuses or you will have regrets”.
@snowbird13818 ай бұрын
As a woman, and I am telling you to run. Women know what they’re doing. She’s not “in the process of going through a divorce,” she’s cheating and she’s playing with both of you.
@popdaskittles7 ай бұрын
Disagree. If she is separated and they made the decision to end the marriage she is not cheating. Although we know very little of this situation from this clip. It bothers me that everyone acts like they know exactly what is going on. Shame.
@peaceofmindofpeace16507 ай бұрын
@@popdaskittles True. Ppl always make general assumptions. We don't know the details. Who knows they only talked and mever had sx for example but it was a connection which developed and who knows this happened after she was already going through seperation. We just don't know. If ppl are still married and start flirting with an outsider yes most likely it's a toxic situation and the married person will often string along the affaire and it leads to heartbreak.
@jennprescott27576 ай бұрын
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650separated isn’t divorced
@frno10736 ай бұрын
She isn’t separated!
@purrrrrrrple6 ай бұрын
@@popdaskittlesoh pls nobody would buy this if it was a guy. It's not hard to get separated BEFORE you get a new partner. She wants to jump from house to house? She needs to actually separate first, it's a basic rule to date someone, DON'T LIVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND????
@Silverstreak78786 ай бұрын
A lot of times people cheat because they can’t be alone so they create a relationship with someone else before they make their move. “In the ‘process’ of a separation” is not the same as BEING SEPARATED. This guy had better be careful. He should get out of it and tell her to call him when she is divorced.
@LC-pk4zz9 ай бұрын
Until she's been divorced for at least 2 years - you gotta leave it alone. Divorce is messy and an emotional rollercoaster... you don' t want to be in the middle of it and you don't want to be the rebound guy.
@peng36686 ай бұрын
Two years is a long time… people literally start dating the week after a break up of a long term relationship. A marriage is about the same except more legal and expensive. Time is something you cannot get back. Don’t work your life around how much time you should wait to do something. That would be a waste of your life
@ladylarson124 ай бұрын
He’s the rebound. She will drop him when she is healed and ready for a new beginning.
@margo33679 ай бұрын
How do you go through a “process” of separation. There’s no process. You just leave!
@EnidWellness9 ай бұрын
Tons of paperwork. I can’t afford it .
@amyharris21219 ай бұрын
Back when my parents were in the process of divorce they were forced by the state to have a legal separation for 2 years before the divorce would be granted. It was a short lived law. Also they had been married to each other before divorced without a 2 year wait. They married each other again, and 4 years later went to divorce again and were forced into a prolonged divorce.
@MissWittyWitch9 ай бұрын
@@amyharris2121hello, when you say they were forced into a "prolonged divorced“ Sorry what does that mean, did the courts make them divorce for the last time or made the court case take forever? Sorry probably dumbest question of the day, I need sleep that's my excuse 😂😂
@amyharris21219 ай бұрын
@@MissWittyWitch The 1st time they were married, when they divorced they filed it took like 6/7 weeks because of not agreeing. The state made them stay married with a legal separation for 2 years before granting a divorce Their 2nd time being married to each other. They both wanted to be done, but the state forced them to stay legally married with a legal separation.
@N2MyGroove9 ай бұрын
Stay away from those “separated, going through a divorce” people. The statement or claim alone is beyond ambiguous, as is their intent for you. If you have to be a secret, or wait until? it’s a hard No. Like Taylor swift says in “Cruel Summer” 😉
@gemini_interests7 ай бұрын
I was in this position. My ex was abusive, spent my inheritance in 2 months. I had no way out. My husband saved me. Together for nearly two decades now... Not the norm, but Im so grateful for him. God sent him when I needed him.
@LadydogC9 ай бұрын
They hear it a million times and never learn... It will happen to you next, you are not a keeper. You are a step stone. RUN
@wp6996 ай бұрын
Agreed- run. Don’t justify it in your head “but she’s gonna separate eventually, bla bla” she’s married end of story
@leoniea138 Жыл бұрын
Like there are so many women in the world . Look around . Leave alone the married people . They made their choices .
@SusieQ38 ай бұрын
Actually, you're not wrong. There's some 90 men for every 100 women in America. Not all of us are awful or married. Go find a good single woman, and be happy with her.
@AD-cc7bj5 ай бұрын
@@SusieQ3 now divide these by age.
@alicjaalvena11205 ай бұрын
@@SusieQ3 if you want to date old people, then yes, 90 men per 100 women.. when it comes to younger people, there are more men than women.
@AffectionateSeaOtter3 ай бұрын
Wonderful advice 👍
@brycesakal37174 ай бұрын
I met my wife when she was like 98.9 % all the way through her divorce. She was basically waiting for some paper work to come through. She was also completely separated from her ex when we started dating. It was an abusive relationship and he was chronically cheating on her. We are now happily married with a daughter. But that dudes situations sounds a lil different.
@elizabethmarie1717 ай бұрын
I finally separated from my abusive partner in July of 2023, we are in the final stages of the divorce process, but I will not be dating until I'm officially divorced and processed everything. My next partner deserves that respect.
@katemangos17056 ай бұрын
Even better, try not to date for at least a year so that you can truly heal. Spend this year on knowing, respecting and loving YOU, because your inner self needs your support more than anyone else in the world. You are so hurt, wounded and bruised that you need to only care for you for a while. Otherwise you will bring your current issues and damage into your next relationship.
@normagordon13756 ай бұрын
Big respect! I waited a good seven years for various reasons but making sure you're whole mentally, emotionally, Spiritually and all is the best you can do for both parties.
@homebrew3326 ай бұрын
Great idea. Is way better for you mentally, and if you have kids having a gap between their father and a new man is better for them.
@elizabethmarie1716 ай бұрын
@@katemangos1705 yes exactly! At least a year. I am still processing emotions and my kiddos deserve my full attention
@elizabethmarie1716 ай бұрын
@@homebrew332 very true!
@rosetyler28106 ай бұрын
I was married to a narcissist and filed for divorce, during the process met someone special and started a relationship. I moved out, divorce paperwork went through, and I am going on a year in a loving relationship with my boyfriend, one in which I have a voice, am respected, and can communicate openly. Not all women who are separated are women that need to be run away from. Our husbands already left us, criticized us, belittled us, and maybe even abused us, most likely for years. I hope this young man on the call really did find true love in his partner and that they have a beautiful life together❤
@stevenroshni12285 ай бұрын
Get back to us once your relationship has stood the test of time
@iscavengersam5 ай бұрын
He didn't say they were separated...yet.😅
@KING-ZEAL5 ай бұрын
I love when anyone tries to justify cheating. You will always crash and burn in the end. Girls love to use terms like "narcissist" and even fucking FLAT out LIE about abuse. Especially if you try to lie and come up with fake domestic violence of physical abuse accusations. Guess what .....God is watching. He sees all, He knows all. We will ALL stand before Him. And He is always present when those vows between and man and woman are made. Forever becoming "one flesh", physically, spiritually. Don't believe in God? Irrelevant. Watch what He has set forth as the holy union of marriage happen before your eyes. Always. Repent. Period.
@twitchmania76144 ай бұрын
1 year is not an accomplishment. And noone believes a women that says her husband is a narcissist lol
@owlheartmedicine4 ай бұрын
Exactly
@sandraramirez61189 ай бұрын
Run,Run,Run,Run my friend!! As a mother of 2 sons, i approved this advice! 👍
@mala8906 ай бұрын
He needed to hear that. Process of a separation, divorce? Until she's doing either, yes run. Also, consider if she's cheated to be with you. She doesn't take her marriage to seriously.
@lisarivera47309 ай бұрын
Shame was the correct word
@ninam80898 ай бұрын
Freudian slip!
@kimdawcatgirl7 ай бұрын
Yup! Make shame great again!
@plousia6 ай бұрын
Yep
@camrennik95126 ай бұрын
I was hooking up with this girl who had been married for only 2 months. We would meet at bars and hook up in cars. I was having drinks with my brother in law and he said, you know that’s a good way to get your wallet drained, your stuff ruined, and your throat slit. I was like dang, and ended it. He was right.
@wendybryan60713 ай бұрын
Alcohol factored heavily into it, you may have noticed. Not an excuse for poor behavior, but an explanation
@jacquelinenicole60139 ай бұрын
Especially after a divorce. People need time. After mine, I had no interest in getting involved with someone and that lasted a year and a half. Several years later I’m now remarried and my now husband tells me he can see the trauma from that relationship coming from me sometimes. It’s important and healthy for our future relationships to really space out between getting involved. It’s out of respect for yourself and the next person.
@TomnKimable6 ай бұрын
I’ve been trying to divorce my husband for 2 years. I have not dated because it’s not fair to pull anyone into my drama until it’s resolved. 🥺
@wendybryan60713 ай бұрын
How do you TRY to divorce someone? Hire a lawyer to get a fair settlement and child support and do it.
@Blueprinthealing8 ай бұрын
So true. If a woman doesn’t take the time to heal after a divorce she is just rebounding. As someone who did this in every relationship after breaking up I destroyed my life. I never knew how broken I was and kept carrying that pain into the next relationship. Don’t do it!!!! RUN!!
@AnnafromHungarylvNW6 ай бұрын
Why is rebounding so bad?
@primuslaws16856 ай бұрын
She literally described why. Can you even read and comprehend? 😂
@christianburrzGR3Y5 ай бұрын
Wow I appreciate your honesty
@michelleb14 ай бұрын
100% correct
@jeremiahrod3634 ай бұрын
How did you heal?
@normagordon13756 ай бұрын
Dang! I so love it when the truth is spoken instead of placating folk... So refreshing!
@alihall676 Жыл бұрын
The way you get someone is the way you are going to lose that person.
@shannonlogue-chrysalisfitn85726 ай бұрын
I love how completely transparent you are. You truly speak truth with love & kindness to your callers.
@dronetrucker Жыл бұрын
The way they come,.is the way they GO
@nataliefaria40066 ай бұрын
I’m a woman and I agree 100% run!!! how emotionally ready is this woman to start another relationship when she’s not completely through with the ones she’s trying to get away from and then you, sir, Should think better of yourself there’s a lot of red flags here!!
@Gaeliclass7 ай бұрын
Yes, someone I know cheated with a married man, he got divorced and married her. He then cheated on her and she was furious and she raked him over the coals in the divorce. He had 4 children from his first wife, none with the second. The man was my father.
@afterthestorm93556 ай бұрын
Sad for you and your family
@Gaeliclass6 ай бұрын
@@afterthestorm9355 Thank you.
@redcolerealty92456 ай бұрын
Same story but my father didn’t make it. He passed
@karenallhoff50865 ай бұрын
So sorry 💔💔💔
@beac82385 ай бұрын
What was life for your father like after all was said and done?
@gibbsinfinite56374 ай бұрын
Dr John Thanks for your candid advices and the work you're doing,God bless you for keeping it real always.🙏
@videofan1010 Жыл бұрын
Look at John's face change 😂
@mikestuhr27976 ай бұрын
I have to agree. Run. I lived this. Took years to get over.
@strawberryme089 ай бұрын
She can’t be they incredible if she’s spent enough time with you and pursued you as a married women. She will pursue someone else when with you 😢
@toniscott10294 ай бұрын
Good advice, John!
@roserowley911 Жыл бұрын
Thank you John! It’s complicated on a dating app is an immediate 🚩 I was this person seeking the hero ... no no no! We need to save ourselves first! The notion of find ‘Another half’ someone to complete me is trauma and Hollywood bs perpetuating it! Find someone in the healing process but DEEP in it! A month for every year of final separation is a good marker not everything but a good start ❤
@Xenazion98346 ай бұрын
As a divorcee, even I would tell him the same thing. Going through divorce took a huge toll on me and I would not want someone to be in my life just because I know I need to go through the healing process in my own. No point burdening someone with my own trauma.
@soniapetinatos69358 ай бұрын
I was legally separated already for 4 years and divorcing my husband who lived in a different state - when I met my now boyfriend. We’ve known each other for 2 years and have taken it extremely slow. He only recently met my kids and my extended family (within this last month) as I have officially been divorced now for a year. Only now is the relationship growing and becoming romantic and intimate. The first 2 years was a supportive friendship only, as I was going through a difficult time and my priority was my children’s safety and adjustment. Their father was physically and mentally abusive to them and I.
@matthill29578 ай бұрын
Thank you for this story, takes a while to get divorced that doesnt meam that you shouldnt be able to have a partner or friend. The fact that you are taking it slow and not commiting to quickly is a very good sign and a green flag for sure. This short really rubbed me the wrong way
@reaperundergroundexplorati22328 ай бұрын
@@matthill2957it really doesn’t take THAT long. Ex wife cheated in Dec, divorce was finalized by April.
@petergonzalez17194 ай бұрын
RUN bro! People get shot over stuff like that. If she's willing to throw away her vows then you're not Mr. Right. You're Mr. Right now.
@Pikwhip7 ай бұрын
I learned before my ex wife filed for divorce there was a Facebook announcement about her engagement with the affair partner. I feel sorry for that man. He had no idea what he signed up for...
@stevenroshni12285 ай бұрын
I would have embarrassed him in the comments
@rebeccaontiveros44203 ай бұрын
My god!!! Finally someone who let's ppl hear what they need to not what they want to!!! Thank you
@leviknight21 Жыл бұрын
Run dude to the other direction, run buddy run!
@Shawnx-jb7sv6 ай бұрын
Glad you spoke truth Bro! That woman said the same things to a man before, and will do after this adulterer as well!
@glowshine8102 Жыл бұрын
Dude, she z cheating on him with you. As soon as you dont meet her needs, gets bored with you , she ll do the same. Cheaters are fakers. Whatever is incredible for you is just faking it To have you. Try have problems in the relationship , to test her , can you turn your back and know she ll Wait for you? Wake up man and put some standards for yourself. Refuse to engage with her until she gets her act together or walk away
@adriennecrosby41056 ай бұрын
Thank you for your honesty, Dr. Delony!
@cynthialammon7109 ай бұрын
Great advice. She doesn't really know you She needs to tend to her mess, she may not be telling the truth. Cheating? Liar? Broken? How can she involve you in this situation? Run. Listen to this man's advice!
@aimeeforAmerica6 ай бұрын
What I've learned from dating is choose a partner with the most stable in most if not all aspects of his or her life. In the process of separation/divorce is the opposite of stability.
@christineosullivan5061 Жыл бұрын
Wish I'd been given this advice....run run run...and I'm a woman saying it..
@Shaara18 ай бұрын
I called the priest. He saidxthe same: run! This guy is not for you. He was right. I run. I'm still single but at least didn't pile up misery.
@jamesmulholand5 ай бұрын
My wife impulsively got married at 18, it wasn’t my favourite thing in the world and I know some may look down on us but we have two beautiful children and she is the best woman I’ve ever met in my entire life. Some people rush into things and the title of marriage sometimes doesn’t necessarily mean they’re cheating. I know exactly where John is coming from but in my case it’s the best thing that ever happened to me.
@wendybryan60713 ай бұрын
What?
@caramelqueen899 ай бұрын
Ouch! Not cool at all dude! Leave that woman ALONE bro!!!! Excellent advice Mr Delony❤❤❤
@ffs38404 ай бұрын
Truth. Don't do this to nobody, imagine someone doing that to me. The pain inflicting to someone else will bite you in the ass. She won't flinch to do it to you.
@brianbates3583 Жыл бұрын
"Take time to know her. It's not an overnight thing."
@lorebay25934 ай бұрын
Great advice sir, help spare him from grief.
@ismaelgarcia-alvarez2247 Жыл бұрын
Be ready to take someones life or have your life taken wait till its over
@peachluck1050 Жыл бұрын
Agree. Would add “wait till it’s over and completely cleaned up.”
@abbasjoy47856 ай бұрын
Thank you Dr. John!!! The way you submit the truth to people on your show!!! I just want to say I'm grateful for you
@tracylopez71259 ай бұрын
Facts! Such a sweet man going to get taken advantage of...
@Delisosrotties7 ай бұрын
So I divorced my 1st husband and wouldn’t even consider a date with anyone until my divorce was final. I used that time for putting my life together and me, me, me. I met my husband a few years later knowing exactly what I didn’t want in a relationship. Today we have 4 kids and will be empty nesters soon. We have our retirement planned and it’s going to be awesome.
@AffectionateSeaOtter3 ай бұрын
If you don't mind sharing ...did you have any children from the first marriage? What was their experience like?
@Delisosrotties3 ай бұрын
@@AffectionateSeaOtter all my children are from my husband now. I have none with my ex. If I did have kids I never would have dated until they were 18.
@AffectionateSeaOtter3 ай бұрын
@@Delisosrotties Those would be my exact thoughts. However, I actually don't feel like dating at all and I don't mind that one bit. I have developed deep seated Trust issues now. The thought that runs through my head is that if my Ex husband whom I trusted and did not suspect of wrong doing can turn out to be a deceiver and hide it so well then what is the chance that other men will not turn out to be chameleons like him given the Test of Time. Betrayal Trauma is not that easy to get over. I'm going to keep trying though. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Delisosrotties3 ай бұрын
@@AffectionateSeaOtter remember there are good people out there. I hope you find someone that deserves your trust.
@AffectionateSeaOtter3 ай бұрын
@@Delisosrotties I am not looking at all 😊 but thank you for your thoughts.
@11antun9 ай бұрын
She is not a girl. she is someones wife! you can wish up on a star, but it will not change. Love from a women and a wife!
@jenniferkitty19565 ай бұрын
I LOVE YOU!!! THE BEST ADVICE EVER!!! I LISTENED AND THOUGHT SHES GOING TO GIVE HIM WHAT SHES GIVING TO HER HUSBAND!!!!
@Liza03V9 ай бұрын
Just Run. Once a cheater always a cheater. Just Run.
@pammy52609 ай бұрын
Shes maybe not a cheater. Maybe shes escaping an abusive partner. Maybe her partner ended it with her by cheating on her and she had enough. Maybe this guy met her after the woman already knew her relationship was done.
@AlanWangVideos8 ай бұрын
As I've gotten older I realize that saying is not true. People change especially if they want to change. I was not the same person I was 5 years ago let alone 10 or 15.
@appleforever66648 ай бұрын
People have learned from cheating and never cheat again. You people are too sensitive!
@matthill29578 ай бұрын
There is a lot of assumptions going on here. All we know is she is getting a dicorce. Lol you dont get divorced over night… takes months or years sometimes depending on the courts and lawyers.
@jukkeo38074 ай бұрын
@@pammy5260If you "escape" by cheating or looking for someone new while married, then you're the abuser yourself.
@joanarodriguez44496 ай бұрын
As a grown ass woman myself…I agree with him. RUN.
@deniseball77649 ай бұрын
Good advice - she is using you to get out of her situation ...... Wake up, she has already got you saying us !!!!! What you are doing with her now is what the next guy and her will be doing to you if you hang around.
@Squeegee-spartan6 ай бұрын
Amazing advice doc
@lilpandanesegirl9 ай бұрын
story of my life. happily married with the new guy ❤ thank goodness.
@7beers6 ай бұрын
Dr. John is awesome!!!
@JDLove0820 Жыл бұрын
Imagine your wife divorcing you and another guy walking her through it
@characteristicallyauthentic6 ай бұрын
LMFAO happened to me. The real kicker was, he was 19 years old. She was 27. 🫠
@stevenroshni12285 ай бұрын
Worse, imagine her marrying her divorce attorney
@Helene20243 ай бұрын
Revolving door lol
@pratik63425 ай бұрын
Best advice....SPOT ON!!
@PotatoesAreNeat Жыл бұрын
It all depends on where they’re at. You don’t fall in love with someone who’s married. I fell in love with someone that was separated with divorce being finalized. Even that was a little much for me, but I’m glad I stuck through it.
@wwherbert0076 ай бұрын
Thank you John!
@myriahfitts66859 ай бұрын
"Run as fast as you can!"😂🤣😂🤣
@Bike4Life2314 ай бұрын
I am in the process of going through a divorce, and my husband is currently cheating on me with two women he met at his divorce support group. I filed almost two years ago for divorce because he was abusive to me and my kids. You tell me what kind of a person he is just from that information. I totally agree with John telling that guy to run as fast as he can. A huge reason that people who are not divorced yet run to somebody else is because they can't be alone. That is a huge red flag.
@feelsrestricted8322 Жыл бұрын
How you got them is how they will leave you most of the time. Thing with cheaters is their usually repeat offenders
@oceangolf30766 ай бұрын
THANK YOU! Thank you for being honest. Saying “shame” -- yes, yes you should be feeling that way. Young man, you know you are at the wrong place and at the wrong time. Be honest with yourself as well.
@starlingswallow7 ай бұрын
I get where John is coming from, I do...but I was seperated from my extremely abusive ex husband when my now husband and I started dating. It is a miracle I met him, who's now my husband, because of how he has walked with me through my healing. Not once has he tried to do it for me, he has just been by my side, supporting me through it all, and it's messy. He holds me and prays over me when I'm having flashbacks of the abuse. , bawling my eyes out. He supports me as I'm in trauma therapy, and he has accepted me fully as a person. I finally, for the first time in my life, feel truly and unequivocally seen and heard. ❤ I know normally a person should RUN the other way. I honestly would suggest him waiting, putting everything on hold until she's actually divorced. If it's meant to be, both parties would be willing to wait. But in some rare cases, running isn't the answer. It all depends. My now husband didn't run away and neither did I, thankfully. ❤
@LSSYLondon7 ай бұрын
Good for you! I disagree with John. He needs to take in the whole story and not just give advice like "run" because it doesn't always work that way in life.
@cremebrulee47596 ай бұрын
I'm so happy that this worked out so well for you. You deserved a good, supportive man. However, I have to say that in my experience you are the exception.
@saturdayschild85356 ай бұрын
You were already separated. This doesn’t sound like she was actually separated yet.
@Mrscheesecake16 ай бұрын
Same here. My experience was not as traumatic but heartbreaking. Run isn’t always the answer.
@xxxxxxxx89036 ай бұрын
He's dating a married woman, not one who has separated. She's cheating on her husband with him. It's a parade of red flags and he's ignoring all of them.
@onlyyours7256 ай бұрын
Thank you! Im happy you said it.
@rebeccat72599 ай бұрын
Great advice!
@luxuryuncovered41806 ай бұрын
Love John’s expression here. This dude is an armature. She about to devour him and he doesn’t even know it.
@NEONOIRERA Жыл бұрын
He is right. Run.
@PifsGifts4 ай бұрын
I love that he tells him to run!! Truth!!
@RLaraMoore8 ай бұрын
A marriage must not be influenced with interference. If you were married and wanted to save your marriage, you certainly would not want another person either enticing them into infidelity (emotional and/or physical), nor responding to their solicitations. The hope is that in marriage there are no other options than to always work together to restore your marriage to each other. Shame on those who lead married people away or participate with them, into infidelity.
@songbirdy8 ай бұрын
It still takes 2 to tango.
@matthill29578 ай бұрын
They are getting divorced, its been deciced. What fairytale land do you tbink it will end up working out while your “wife” is being dicked down by other mem
@LSSYLondon7 ай бұрын
Most women leave a marriage only when they have already mentally emotionally and physically left for years.
@Gabichi8885 ай бұрын
It happened to me 😞 it’s been 2 years and he’s not allowing me to meet her. She’s the reason he left. During the whole divorce She said to me that we we’re separated to technically we were not married. I can believe there’s so evil people
@RLaraMoore5 ай бұрын
@@Gabichi888 We humans "justify" our sin. Eve was also deceived in the Garden to even go against God's instruction. I hurt for your hurts. My ex left for another woman too, just months after assuring me he would never do such a horrible thing as abandon his wife and marriage. But their minds get 'twisted' false hopes of something else. Then their hearts (superficial 'heart') follows. And then they are so 'lost' they do what they vowed to never do. God is good. He has a reason and plan for you. (And for me) Apparently His plan for me did not include a husband and happy marriage. Remember too that this side of Heaven is only very temporary. And in Heaven there is no marriage as we understand it here. Whatever there is, by definition and God's Word, will be even better than the best husband and wife relationship here. Go to God's Word, and stay close. Learn to forgive. And best you can do is to pray for God's Will on your ex and his adulteress. 🙏
@GinaGeeQueenBee7 ай бұрын
First, be sure shes divorcing for herself and not you. Second, step back and be a friend ONLY . Third, communicate that this is something she entered and she needs to finish it and heal from it before you will see the relationship as legit. Alot depends on the circumstances of the divorce as well... there may be a need for solitude to heal from the prior relationship
@phoye33019 ай бұрын
Track record speak for themselves. If someone looks for the next one before ending the current one the next one will likely fail too.
@jonnymorrow45606 ай бұрын
I can confirm I want to save you all the heartache I went through brother! Runnnnn
@vegone88948 ай бұрын
Nobody knows the situation. That's the tough part about asking people for advice. I had separated from my ex-husband when I met my current partner. I also got divorced during the time I was with my partner. Everything worked out. It has been 6 years later, and I am still with the guy I met during my separation. People need to stop taking advice from others and experience things for them selves, you never know what could happen.
@jennerbug278 ай бұрын
No, his wording was "going through the process of separation and then a divorce" so she was married and most likely still living with her husband. That is called cheating. I know you probably don't like hearing that but it's true. I'm glad things are good for you but there are tons of cheaters who have also broken the hearts of the people they cheated with. The best evidence you have of how a person will treat you is how they treated their past partners. That's not 100% of people but it's a whole lot of them. I hope things go well for you but I wouldn't give this kind of advice.
@vegone88948 ай бұрын
@jennerbug27 I understood that. Like I said, nobody knows the situation or the people involved to give advice. Most advice is one-sided. I was still living with my ex-husband when I met my current partner. Whether some consider that cheating means nothing to me, the people involved know if the relationship is over or not. If a single person is going to get involved with a married person, they themselves need to figure out the situation, not ask a random person what they should do.
@mairedaly49268 ай бұрын
I think you're the exception...
@LSSYLondon7 ай бұрын
@@jennerbug27 Separation can take YEARS and literally be a process. It is not necessarily cheating. FYI.
@lorireed80466 ай бұрын
You are correct... You never know what can happen. Come back in 10 years and read your reply again . LOL 😂
@hollybiegel43456 ай бұрын
I’m so impressed that you have morels!! Tell it like it is…. Love this Chanel ❤
@shimi10006 ай бұрын
I was that woman. Yes I ended up marrying the "guy" after finalising the divorce. I truly appreciate and respect. My current husband. We are happy and just had a daughter together. Not every situation is the same.