9 CULTURAL DIFFERENCES IN PARENTING: BRAZIL vs. UK | Brazilian Mum Abroad | Ysis Lorenna

[@camilarangel1294]

kids sleep later here in brazil probably because of dinner time. we rarely have dinner before 7pm.

[@Brownmamalife]

India is quite similar to Brazil from your description. Such as bath time , snacks, bedtime, family , respect , living with family ... etc...

[@plansh0332]

The only difference is we eat cow meat

[@makeupyourmind2019]

I’m Italian and I’m raising my kids in the US. My kids go to sleep at 9 and the pediatrician keeps bugging me they should go to bed earlier. In Italy they’d go to bed even later. That schedule fits our lifestyle, it works and they still get all the hours they need.

[@Eringobraugh771]

I love your descriptions!! I've thought of US culture as "independent" and Brazilian culture as "social"- eg. what's polite and good in Brazil is what's more social behavior, whereas in the US what is polite and good is whatever is more independent, and as much as possible not an inconvenience to others.

[@sociologiabarata]

The uncle and aunty thing is soooooo true. I'm at university studying to become an Portuguese/English teacher, and I when I worked at one school, all children called me "Tia" (Aunt). You get use to it with time 😄

[@elianasantos604]

The Brazilien way of parenting is very very similar to how portuguese children are raised. Very interesting subject. Beijinhos 😘

[@seekwisdom5102]

You mentioned snacks and I believe it has to do with the fact that in Brazil we have breakfast that include bread, milk, or smoothie, porridge or fruits and that fulfills the child well until lunch, which is a full meal. Then a little after lunch there is the afternoon coffee break (café da tarde), which can hold until dinner. Since in UK and here in America, lunch is light, snacks becomes necessary. My kids come home from school completely starving and they must have a snack so they can wait for dinner. For me, growing up in Brazil, my snacks were fruits or a cookie or cracker if we were out and couldn’t have a proper afternoon coffee break.

[@petronelacarmenlenghel3826]

I was born an raised in Romania and live in Wales now, but definitely feel the culture I grew up in is closer to Brazilian. One exception is the birthday parties, they're pretty much same as british ones☺☺

[@georgiastoeva2982]

It is so interesting to learn about Brazil! My favourite part was the monthly birthday celebration! Such an awesome idea! Thanks for this video!

[@justcallmejen2]

Super interesting to see how different cultures do things. Lots of people here in the UK frown upon my 8 month old going to bed at 10pm... I'll have to tell them he's running on Brazilian time :P xxx

[@sociologiabarata]

10pm it's still too soon for young people in here 🤣

[@aleyaparvin5234]

I am Bangladeshi.our culture is similar to Brazil. By the way you are so brilliant and simple.

[@alishafernandes3587]

Hi Ysis. Love watching your videos. Brazilian culture sounds like Indian culture specially when it comes to family and respect.

[@YsisLorenna]

Hi Alisha, thanks for watching! ❤️ I agree, I have Indian friends and they say the same. Xx

[@mariarabelo9662]

Sou Brasileira e moro em Londres com minha mãe meu padrasto e meu irmão de 7 anos. Quando cheguei aqui tbm notei essas diferenças. Aqui em casa e meio q a mistura das duas culturas.

[@123cath2204]

Thanks Isis! I love hearing you talk about growing up in Brazil and Brazilian culture, so interesting. Xx

[@TheRosangela38]

Não sabia que vc era brasileira tenho seguindo seu vídeos, vc não tem nenhum sotaque de brasileira! Um abraço, continue fazendo estes vídeos são muito bons!

[@ayeshasiddika3837]

Hi beautiful, I’m from an Asian background. Bangladeshi community and Brazilian culture is identical to ours.

[@PatricyaT]

Sorry, but its different !

[@leandrosmorais]

@@PatricyaT ?

[@onlyme1028]

Another reason for UK school hours could be our dark winters. It gets light late and dark early meaning children walking to and from school are less visible to traffic resulting in more accidents if the school hours are moved. I'm sure this isn't the original reason for the decision, but could be an added reason to stuck with the times. A party every month sounds amazing? Sounds exhausting to me lol 🤣 Isn't having a child under one tiring enough, let alone organising a party every month?!😪

[@lawrenceglaister4364]

The time to start school was because of the traffic and the safety of the children but it's been proved that more accidents are after school because drivers are tired later in the day so in theory they should start school earlier . The reason for the time of the clocks to be moved in winter and summer is to give farmers more time to work in daylight .

[@ramonnascimento9595]

I am happy to know that you still remember all this things about Brazil. I agree with all you said in the video. Personally I never had a snacktime when I was young. As you said We still have breakfast, dinner and lunch. This video was amazing, Thumb up!!

[@jjjjjj3887]

I grew up in a country similar to UK but my mom raised me like people in Brazil do😂 At a daycare the teachers always complained how I go to sleep at 10pm but to my mom that was totally normal😂

[@lidianadutra7975]

Ysis, I grew up in Brazil (Rio de Janeiro) and I live in the USA. I totally agree with all of the differences you've mentioned. I also did not have snacks all day...Although at the end of the afternoon (around 5ish) we had "café da tarde" with fresh bread, milk, coffee and some deli meat. I really enjoyed the video! ;-)

[@sabrinarigodanzo1016]

Ha! I am from Rio Grande do Sul and we also used to have cafe da tarde.. Or that could even be served a little later and become our dinner! We loved it! Funnily enough, I can't remeber what time we'd go to bed, but as an older child (from 7yo onwards) I definitely rememeber watching at least two soap Operas and the TV news with my mum before kissing her good night! Now showers were always a late afternoon thing where I grew up.

[@tata8087]

Rio é foda, nasci em sg. morei em Niterói e hj(por enquanto) vivo ma região dos lagos do Rio. Meu sonho é ir pra fora

[@roziebaybe1626]

Wow! Your English is quite excellent for having spent most of your life in Brazil👏👏👏

[@capturinglifeinprogress1999]

I grew up in Brazil but now live in the US. Monthly birthdays were certainly not a thing when I was growing up, but I do see people posting pictures now of the monthly parties they have for their kids. Not all of them, though. A lot of my friends do the monthly pictures with milestone cards. I agree that birthday parties, in general, are much bigger in Brazil. I remember having parties full of friends and family and it was just a normal thing. I now do big parties for my girls and I know my husband would rather have a smaller celebration. He does go along with it, though. Oh, yeah, and respect is a huge thing in Brazil, I agree. Here, independence, like in the UK.

[@YsisLorenna]

I'm glad you see the same things I do; I was so worried people would say this was just my experience and not how most people are like! I try my best to do bigger parties here but it just doesn't work; the enthusiasm is not the same for a birthday as it is in Brazil. I feel like people would quite happily say happy belated birthday to a close family member or not come to their party, whereas in Brazil that would be a huge faux pas! :) x

[@PatricyaT]

Capturing LifeinProgress, these monthly brithdays is a new trend here in Brazil. But only few can afford that.

[@capturinglifeinprogress1999]

PatricyaT It’s a trend, yes, but I do know quite a few people who would have no problem spending money on monthly birthday parties but still don’t do them. I don’t think it’s a matter of whether or not people can afford to do it, but a choice to follow this trend or not.

[@monicamelina556]

The moms of all my friends from long time are aunties for me. I just love that, you show also respect of the person, showing she was near you specially when you was young :)

[@Mlbruna]

Brazilian here and I agree with you in every topic you covered Ysis. Ah and for the school time I think there is as well some consideration about cognition and its process. I can't give the resources now but I heard before from a neuroscientist who was being critical of this brazilian school time and was specialized in education that it's a bit harsh on children to try and make them focused on activities so early right after they've just woken up. It seems that there is a much needed time for your brain to "set" before you can fully concentrate on something, specially formal studying. It seems to be a healthy habit for children or teenagers to try and be awake a couple of hours before going to school. Obviously this is relative as it depends on the time each child or family wakes up but 9 am seems a more democratic time I think. If anyone knows more about it or if it's a myth let me know!

[@patriciabarbosa3656]

If they go to sleep 6pm , when do you give them dinner ?

[@sociologiabarata]

Exactly! I don't get it

[@Jamie-sg4bq]

Like 5pm is common time for kids

[@brenamilhomens3642]

I've always had snacks as I was growing up. I'm from Fortaleza. 😅 Loved your hair!!!!

[@Victor_Montblanc]

yes, in fortaleza i had too, when we were in school we ate snacks in the break, and in a lot of houses(50/50) parents let the kids eat when they're hungry

[@carolinearaujo17]

Me too! I born in Rio and always had snacks as well.

[@viannarts]

The Brazilian way sounds more fun

[@CeridwenHafMorys]

It was news to me that people now have birthday parties in the U.K for 1 year, 2 year and 3 year olds, including the parents of other children + their gifts that I only used to get at Christmas from my own parents! There's more and more competition going on as well I think regarding getting bouncy castles and spending a lot of money.

[@gracewischerth6527]

Very interesting. I live in the US and it sounds very similar to the UK in most of the ways you described.

[@Iamdajahx]

I just got home from school and this is honestly the best way to finish the rest of my dad. I really enjoy watching your videos. Especially the informational ones.❤️

[@fernandapran]

I always had snacks growing up. There was a pantry full of treats we'd freely get biscuits, chips and things like that from. I'm Brazilian too. I think this was something from your family. And also, what kind of people do you hang out with in Brazil that have people hired to throw their kids monthly birthday parties? Wft? 😱 I've never heard of cases that extreme. Hahaha

[@ev1677]

The miss,Mrs, Mr thing comes from the English etiquette and formal culture we have. Sir, mam, etc.

[@MariaDaSilva-bx6vw]

You're a brilliant KZbinr ...😃😃

[@rutamatt597]

It was really interesting! I live in UK, originally I'm from Lithuania and our culture is much more similar to Brazil than UK, that's crazy :D BTW I love your videos ❤️

[@simonemachado7128]

Hi. I live in EUA. I have been living here for 12 years. The culture in UK is very similar to the culture in EUA.

[@rachelwesterman1223]

I agree apart from the last point. I personally don't go for the making kids grow up too early. My sister lived with my parents until she could afford a house with no pressure to move. I would say the biggest lesson for British children is manners x

[@craft-o-matic2377]

I was born and raised in the United States, and in my opinion, the most important values my parents tried to instill in us as children were good manners/proper etiquette and, in my family, proper grammar and pronunciation. Having respect for our elders was also a huge deal for us. If my Mom had her way, the use of slang would not have been allowed. My parents were fairly strict. We went to bed at 7pm throughout the school year. However, they were more relaxed about bedtime as we got a little older, so in the Summer months when school was not in session, we were allowed to stay up later. Depending on the situation, as late as 9 or 10pm, but that meant we had to be in bed by then, so baths, etc had to be completed for a 9 or 10pm bedtime. Shopping for new clothes and shoes for the start of the upcoming school year was a big deal for my family. My family didn't have a lot of money. Actually, we were considered poor. Yet, looking back, my Mom was a bit like trying to live with Hyacinth Bucket of the British sitcom called "Keeping Up Appearances". But, my parents worked hard to make a way for us to be successful. I think they did a fantastic job! I look back and wonder how they knew some of the things they knew about. My Mom always seemed to know all the latest about everything, and she made it all sound so special and exciting. She had only a high school education, and grew up in a very small town. I think her Mom, having been brought up in a large city, taught my Mom a great deal. My Dad just kept his nose to the grindstone. He was mostly a live-to-work type of guy. I am the opposite, being a work-to-live type of person. I believe in experiencing as much of the finer things, and the simple pleasures in life as possible, and one must work in order to make that possible. So, if I were to sum up how I turned out in a nutshell, I would say I am fairly far from being prudish, and more of a snob. Funny, but true... In today's world, it tries my patience nearly every day to be good, kind and caring toward people, and I wish so much I didn't feel that way. It used to be so easy... Well, I hope I did't bore anyone? I tried to give you just one snapshot of what it was like growing up in middle America, in a small university town of the United States in the 1960's and 70's. Lisa

[@elfodelputoinfierno]

9:53 Also, in highschool we might not refer to our teachers as "tio" or "tia" anymore, but will 100% give them nicknames. Those are usually passed down from generation to generation of students in a same school, and if you get a nickname, you're stuck with it for at least 3 to 5 years. In some places (such as in Campinas, my hometown) this nickname might be so widespread that not only your students will use it, but coworkers as well. Hell, I've seen people even using their nicknames in advertisements. They are usually perceived as a light hearted joke/form of endearment for most teachers, as you have to be really memorable and beloved by your students to receive a nickname. Some examples of my own teachers back in the day: Pucca (the character), Penguim (yes, as in penguin the bird), Pilha ("battery"), Branquinho (white ink you use to "erase" pen, I don't think gringos have those), Bicho (beast/animal, but is also a slang on the lines of "bro" or "dude"), Frabs (no idea) and Edna (as in The Incredibles' character).

[@kathlynvictoria4296]

That’s so true,sometimes I didn’t even know my teachers real names just their nicknames

[@fla9086]

Kids have snacks in school during break and in the mid afternoon (café da tarde), this is pretty common in Brazil and literally everyone knows about it...? 😅 Unless you are considering them as meals as well, then I totally agree with you. I also think it's pretty common to bath your kids at the end of the day?

[@LivingCaribbean]

we do the uncle + aunty thing in saint lucia too! but once we get to primary school we go to mr. miss, etc.

[@ligiaf1455]

I was born and raised in Brazil and i completely agree with you. My mom finds so weird when i tell her that my kids are in bed by no later than 8pm. Having kids on a schedule, in general, is something that Brazilian parents have a difficult time understanding.

[@MrsMead-ng4qd]

Seu inglês é maravilhosoooo. Meu sonho é falar como vc. 😚

[@christine3962]

How interesting! Thanks for sharing 💕

[@monise3959]

Eu nasci no Brasil também é eu acho que meus pais tem muito mais compaixão de que os americanos! Nos mudamos pros Estados Unidos em 1993! Agora eu moro no Canadá com meu marido!

[@marclabrie6027]

School times are different in different cultures Bedtimes are different as well in different cultures Birthday parties ok Amazing yes That's good in Brazil Exactly different Showering i and bath time s different Snacks are ok Family meaning is different Children need to respect others in all countries

[@siloPIRATE]

In the UK you can choose to just not go to school. Either don’t register or de-register your child and you’re free to do whatever

[@Jamie-sg4bq]

The school hours in the UK is more so that its during the light hours of the day. Children tend to be more awake and better at focusing when its light because of our internal body clocks, it's also safer with them walking to school and just generally a better idea to have school when its light. Now that's not the case everywhere across the country but further north its darker for longer so it averages out

[@sainimere8489]

Shes very pretty

[@luccalele9740]

I’m a Brazilian mom living in the US, and I agree that bedtimes are a big deal here. I would venture out to say that Brazilian kids/families including my own 2yr old, go to bed later because Brazilian families value the toddlers/littles spending time with the family, having dinner together, and overall include them in the bigger family picture, not wanting them to miss out on social time, so there isn’t this pressure to put them to bed at a separate time. Whereas in the US there is much more separation between the “adult world” and the “child world” so kids go to bed so the adults can have adult time. Just my observation!

[@susi1516]

the difference between USA is the also use Mr.,Mrs.Miss for teachers and called them by there last name also School start at 9 and ends around 3:00 pm also I know some Americans who called family everyone including Uncle,Aunts,Grandparents,father in law,mother in Law,sister,Sister in law,cousin,Mother,dad Ysis I grew up in Brazil also(Fortaleza) and I live in the USA .I also grew up in America i came here young

[@GanjaGabe]

Monthaversary Planner!!

[@ev1677]

Our extended family here is our family and we would describe them as such so that's wrong. The difference being in a general sense, South American families are alot closer and see each other alot more often than a typical British family

[@HECA758]

Also we brazillians have a lot of respect for people older than us,we call them sir or mister even if you arent old enough

[@tyaskasih4645]

okay im introvert and will marry with brazillian, i have to deal with the parties 😢

[@fayueth]

Horários de escolas há vários dependendo aonde vc estuda, tem até integral, nem todos dão banho em seus filhos de manhã, acho que depende da necessidade, e as vezes não é apenas um. Horário de dormir também não e regra geral, cada um coloca o seu no horário que acha certo. Quando nos perguntam sobre família também falamos pai, mãe e irmão, não falamos avós tios...No jardim chamamos professores de tia, a partir de primário é professora Ana.. professora Alice... Temos café da manhã, almoço, café da tarde e jantar, fazemos questão que nossos filhos sejam independentes com a diferença que não precisam sair de casa quando completam 18 anos, podem sair quando quiser. A muito tempo atrás muitas casas no Brasil tinham banheiras, e quem tinha tirou porque era uma coisa ultrapassada, hoje é que algumas estão colocando novamente, mas banheira e uma coisa cultural, não do Brasil e não porque e cara. Sou de São Paulo, não sei aonde vc morava no Brasil, mas acho que vc generalizou demais, festa todo mês até fazer um ano? Raríssimas pessoas devem fazer isso, meu círculo de amigos e familiares e enorme, e nunca conheci nenhuma que faça festa todo mês

[@anapaulagiudice565]

Usamos a expressão "tio e "tia" na escola primária. Respeito é um valor importante, mas não castrador da independência...

[@jennymeister]

I prefer the Brazilian way!!

[@charliehelyes]

We generally call teachers Sir rather than Mr in the UK

[@Taicrozeta]

I always had snacks (lanche) at school i guess

[@elephantsmemory3142]

When you said possibly imagine you sounded Welsh as a Taff

[@imrankhatri6608]

Are they both best in class 🍫

[@cherriercheung]

I think the bedtime has a lot to do with parents working schedule. If the parents need to get up early, say, before 6am, then in order for everybody to get enough sleep you have to get the kids in bed much, much earlier. In my home country, China, my bedtime was 7-8pm and woke up time was 6am in order to get to school at 7:30am on time. My mom’s work hour was 8-5. So you can imagine.

[@cherriercheung]

Don’t know about work schedule in Brazil but if toddlers get to bed later than 9pm, and they need 12 hours sleep, generally speaking, then there’s no way moms get to work at 9am.

[@YsisLorenna]

Working hours in Brazil are 7/8am-6pm

[@bblbeforeandafter8913]

Sou brasileira também

[@jamiemcaloon5548]

In Scotland you get your arse skelpt, i turned out alright lol

[@marclabrie6027]

Agreed

[@tata8087]

Poha 3 horas pra iniciar o negócio. Essa é br msm

[@bunga310]

I think kids are treated like teens and adults about bedtime instead of being given as many limits.

[@ev1677]

I would imagine that in Brazil you Bath in the mornings because it is very hot and you sweat alot during the night.

[@danielpandolfo]

My kids go to sleep at 22:00.

[@simonvaillancourt4626]

You're obviously talking about the upper (white) class in Brazil a small fraction of the population since Brazil don't have an efficient way to redistribute the wealth.

[@simonvaillancourt4626]

@@j.h.2110 That's the Gini index map (under). what's your father's job? chartsbin.com/view/34500

[@karlaparker7988]

Well said. When I visited if you read history it was like going back to Victoria times, alot of new money rich in Brazil who spend their money on any gimmick like a status symbol. However the majority are poor and doubt they have monthly birthday parties.

[@imenerahmaoui3009]

I like your videos so you are sweet woman ysis 😘😘😘like before watching the video

[@chrisjones3901]

Uncle in UK can also mean the mums boyfriend lol lol

[@anamariabarbosa3995]

❤️🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🙏

[@LucianoNascimento007]

Se você fizesse vídeos em português teria mais inscritos ,pois os ingleses não se interessa esse tipo de vídeo.

[@juliaclaryce]

adopte me pls