Climate crisis deniers. I understand why you do not want to believe it but there is more and more evidence in what is happening in terms of our weather.

MN can be very charming and charismatic. They invite worship. I am now very skeptical of people who have cult like admirers. Elon Musk is one and of course DJT.

These videos have helped me to understand what my ex fiance was and is going through, I literally tried so hard to help her, she would praise me for my help and say that she didn't know what she would do without me to the extreme opposite of saying I never help etc. Calling me names, insulting me saying that I was cheating on her and was convinced beyond any explanation and paranoid, but the final straw was she called the police on me and fabricated stories about me attacking her etc I'm honestly broken hearted because of this and even after all that I still worry and love her.

Everyone is a victim lol

You put this crap in black and white to make it look old. GIVE ME A BREAK

Borderline is 'Hulk' disorder.

Psychiatry is pseudoscience

I have BPD but I love being alone so mines more so emotional

I think it's fairly obvious that there is belief that people with borderline personality disorder have been abused by people with narcissistic personality disorder and therefore narcissistic personality disorder is the disorder of abusers. Even in this video where I think that the interviewer was trying to be professional and objective, there is a sense that the two disorders are opposed to each other. I can't see how anyone interested in mental health could ever see either disorder as the cause for the bad behavior of the people who have the disorder. If a person with NPD behaves badly, That is his or her responsibility. That is their choice and they should face consequences. But I don't think it's fair to lump everyone together under the umbrella of abuser who gets the diagnosis of NPD. I think this man does a good job of expressing the tragedy of NPD. Many of us with NPD suffer. And I think when you have suffering you can better understand that the people who have these disorders have mental illness. And illnesses can be treated. And people can heal. And that should be the goal always. I don't expect somebody who is working with people with borderline to have to reach out and help people with NPD. That's not their responsibility. Nor should they accept the bad behavior of people with NPD. But please do not transfer that bad behavior onto the entire population of people with NPD. I can assure you there are more people suffering in a more vulnerable state who are much more lonely and not causing harm to others then there are those grandiose narcissists who are sometimes likely to be abusive. I just think it is best to fully understand each disorder before we categorize the entire population of people who have the disorder. I have been in relationships with people who have borderline who were atrocious. Their behavior was unacceptable on any level. But I understood that they were people with an illness and that they were untreated or had not received the proper therapy. I also would never project that onto all of the other people who have borderline. I would never expect that every person with borderline would be as impulsive or as volatile or as dependent as the people that were my partners. That would be ridiculous. I would never expect a person who has struggled with borderline or who is diagnosed borderline personality disorder to become my healer. To have to feel that they need to step into my shoes and understand me. I just don't want to be seen as a two-dimensional character and to serve the sentence of the people who were abusers. It is not true that people with NPD are inherently abusive. That's a false statement. There are many people who are diagnosed NPD who are not dangerous to anyone but themselves. I think we all need to dig deeper. And I think as each disorder is better understood the most important thing for all of us is to understand that we all suffer. And that we all have these disorders that we did not choose. And we developed them in ways that we're not fair. My suffering does allow me to have empathy for people who suffer. And it is not true that if you are diagnosed NPD you have no empathy. That's just a convenient and quick and inaccurate way to categorize people who have NPD. Even though the DSM-5 does list a lack of empathy as one of the characteristics, and even though other more thorough scales include the lack of empathy, nowhere is it written and has it ever been stated by experts that every person with NPD must lack empathy. I appreciate this video. I appreciate that this person was given the opportunity to express some of these ideas. I appreciate that the interviewer took the time to hear these ideas and to share them. I think that as we move forward the most important thing we have is to remember that all of these diagnosis are applied to human beings. We are all people and we suffer. And we are ill. The illness does not excuse bad behavior and it does not excuse violence or cruelty or abusiveness, but it's still the truth. We are still all struggling. Struggling in different ways. But struggling nonetheless. And I think that's worthy of a pause and a deep breath and a little bit of space.

That empty feeling,, numbness is something so powerful

Just stay away from people with BPD, I cannot repeat this enough. They need to grow the f up and stop their toxic sjit.

He just described 80% of the world's population

I cured mine by realising i had used a. persona all my life. Well i lost my persona in a divorce. I was mentally cllaosing and thought court was in amy county but i was wrong. So my ex gave me nothing. No visitstion no spousal support nothing. And that was the begining of me losing my persona "the good mom" i did get half of a retirement account but 20 plus yesrs of raising kids ehile ny ex devoted himself to his career. He has 1/3 a million in assets. I was homeless tol anyrar and anhalf ago. Losing your chikdren and your persona the pain is indescribsble. Unreal!!! Anyhow years passed and i was living on yhe street taking care of myself and very slowly the pain became tolerable. I had developed confidence and self esteem too because i was taking csre of myself and i no longer had to endure abuse for a roof over my head. I did find a street boy friend and he was just like my ex but i had changed. I had a goal of my own and that was to chsnge the example i had set for my chikdren. So i walked away from abuse. Everytine i was being mistreated i packed up my shopping cart and i went stomping off down the street. And this went on for sometime. I realised i had no pleasirabe experiences at all with this guy and couldnt figure out why i felt like i was dying Every Time I stomped away from him. And now i wonder how i couldnt see that he ALWAYS followed me. But back then when i left it was a devasting horrible feeling of dying and then i felt like the living dead til he showed up and i would wash him with a cool clean wash cloth and make him something to eat and sit with him while he slept so nobody would take his shit or do anything to him and it felt so good. He did give the mom in me someone to nurture and love and i loved him for that. He would wake up and we would be right back to hating eachother. I wasnt playing along with the role he had for me in his mind and he wasnt playing along with the role i had for him in my mind. Anyhow i kept asking why i couldnt leave a person i didnt like. And after anyear and a half or so thr answer came fo me....although it wasnt exactly thr right answer it led me to discover the answer two weeks later. But that answer i dicovered was so profound i somehow was being picked up by an uber and transported to the homeless shelter within 2 and 1/2 hours. The reason i couldnt leave him is because the pain i felt when we broke up. But i thought the pain i felt when we broke up was me missing him. It wasnt. It was the pain of .me missing myself. The relationship had acted as a drug (the love drug) and its intoxicating effects masked the pain. And when we broke up i was there begging for love. But i didnt need anyone else to love me. I had to show myself i was intrested in me. I had to respond to mistreatment in a way that showed myself i was going to protect and respect myself. And i had to encounter as many abusive situations as i had accepted and respond differently to just as many to rlook er write my operating system aka my ROM aka my unconscious mind. And as far as personas....i was on the streets so i didnt need to worry about whst anyone thought about me anymore. I can only try to look so good digging theough the dumpster LOL and so the me that never was was basically born in a bunch of a garbage dumpsters. I realised....OMG! I wasnt it attracting abuse! I was attracting opportunities to respond to abuse in an empowred and functional manner! Ive been in my own home for a year and a half now. I havent been able to recconect with the girls yet. I dont know if i ever will get to have that privilege. But i have taken my parenting responsilities very seriously. My children weren't their for me to parent but i was and i needed a lot more parenting than they ever did. So i dedicated myself even more so to myself. And i know that if aby of my kids find themselvez where i ended up they will climbb out of it just like me and lesrn everything it was mesnt to trach them jist lime me. And they will know that their experiences are not meant for judging if they like it or not but meant to teach and communicate to them things they may be unable to see or hear. I have learned so much. I have a very intricately deep understsnding of human psychology, dysfcuntion, how it happens and how to easily overcome it. I can tell you one of the biggest problems in America today are the incredibly high number of adults who havent individstex and differentiate. Without this milestone you cannot reach the next one wich is autonomy. We hear about the age of consent all the time. But what the fuck does age got to do with shit. If you dont individuate you will not attain autonomy therefore you will be unable to self govern! Now how can a person in incapable of self governance consent to sex and how on earth are they going to effectively parent their children? They aren't. I dont know why nontherapist ever told me my emotions werent about abtyone but me. I dont know why my therapists suggested if my ex husband would do this or that that my emotional well being would change. Other people doing something will never be the answer. The answer has to be me doing something. And if i do the wrong thing for me im gonna feel sad and bad and rejected. But if i treat myself thenway i wanted my ex oartners to treat me im gonna be happy and content. Oh yesh ..also why dont therapists help ppl achieve milestones needed for the development of emotional maturity? These fancy words ...borderline persaonlity my ass! I never indicaited and didnt see myself as different from my mom. I needed my mom up into my late forties. I cried for my mom. And i was extremely enmeshed. If you dont individuate and differntiate its hard to know where you end and another begins! I get the feeling they wanna make it complex and try to keep people emotionally immature cuz we are easy to intimidate and control when we are like that.

I remember having depression where I had to start from scratch. Like I forgot how to cross the street and I had to repeatedly be told what to do because I just couldn't process anything the first time nor the 10th. This was in college and when my depression more or less got less severe I began having normal, "functioning" thoughts. The thing was was that because this was college I was exposed to interesting ideas but at the same time I was amazed by "normal" thoughts and that's what they were- just normal. I was mind-blown by simple ideas and at the same time people liked other higher thoughts (cringe I know) I was having. So while I was amazed at simple navigation apps by my phone I was also baffled by things in poetry and I even got to represent my college at the New England poetry festival. I'm wondering if my narcissism began at that time.

DSM is 🐂💩 and so is this

Damn. Scary. No lengths they won't go to. I remember going to a funeral with a friend of mine. She just wanted support from me, I didn't know the deceased. The fellow that passed away left horrible stories about my friend. She had no idea why people were so cold to her at the funeral. It wasn't until she was verbally attacked, at the end of the funeral, that she realized he'd spread false narratives about her. Not much I could do for her except continue being supportive. Terrible.

Very interesting and definitely right.

So very true.

Its awful. Can not even talk about it. Like a freaking goldfish.

Sometimes, I cross roads where cars are driving fast Thinking:" I dont care anymore"..

Terrified too. Totally alone. Dont want to die in a hospice for poor people.

Thank you Barbara❤

Lets be real. Nobody wants to be around us. We are labelled as toxic, burdens, even dangerous. Or it is only because they have something to gain. I like Barbara!!

Barbara is strong.

I like Barbara. She is true.

I've painfully watched all the videos of her daughter. She said her mother is a burden. She litteraly did a dozen of videos saying how bad and crazy her mother is, even mocking her symptoms! A burden! My mother relinquished me at birth! Poor Barbara. I feel for you.

At least she have a mother. Was she beaten? Abused? I guess she probably would have prefered to be an orphan and go to foster families? Like I did. Her poor bpd mother watching her own blood desintegrating her on youtube. With a smile!

I was bitched at in a mental health job for referring to people with BPD as “borderlines” or “borderline patients” like this bloke did. It’s “people with BPD,” we’re humans first and foremost.

It is hard also to read all the comments saying:" stay away from bpds, they ll die alone and miserable, they are burdens.."( dixit). I am already completely alone, its hard, I try to find help with this videos, but all I can read is that we are toxic, and we must be left alone. Some even wrote:" she is dead, she is better off now". Yes its probaby true, better dead than with bpd.. I understand more the stigmas around this pd. I understand why ppl treat me like that, even though Ive never hurted them.. I am a cruel monster( again, its one of the comment on this yt channel called borderlines notes).

I've just discovered this channel. 25 years ago I lost a dear friend, who had BPD, to a drug overdose. He was open with me and his friends, about his diagnosis. I watched him struggle for the two years that I knew him and did what I could as a friend, but his death left me so sad for him. He was horribly abused as a child, deeply sensitive and creative and a joy to be around. He was my first true friend when I moved to a new city and he supported me, and taught me so much. Thank you for this channel. It's helping me increase my understanding of him even decades after his death.

Wow, all the coping in this thread. Gw Geesh

So this is true that we are burden to the people around us. I am right to isolate myself, and stop trying not to be alone. I ll never have children fortunately. I understand the people I ve lost better now. That is a torture for everyone. I am toxic.

Lucky to have her daughters who seems to love her.

Is bpd psychopathy

Thank you for these videos on bpd❤❤

One of my biggest mistake: Being honest, believing that saying the truth to people is good. Now I am ostracized. Never took seriously. And left alone. I did the same for my homosexuality. Was worse.

Of course it is true that we are quite alone in the world. Pple try to gaslight us into thinking it is our fault, and we just have to work on ourselves.. Well every society have always had parias, scapegoats, undesirables.. It was often the " lunatics", as we were called. Our society has totally exploded, it is not even humane anymore. Of course we are seen as burdens, toxic, needy, dysfunctional.. Wo would want of that, even as an acquaintance, in this world of shallowness based on appearances. Bpds are too honest and kind for that.

"and if you are extremely patient they are treatable", Well, patient till when and how long? Now if any victim who has just identified about a narc in their life, gets to watch this video, will develop a hope that npd is curable and will start investing more energy and time to treat that narc and cure them, without even knowing how long will it take. Till THEN the victim should /will be ready to take the abuse. I wish npd patients should heal and find peace. But as adults let them help themselves if they really want to heal. It's a devastating process when we try to help them heal. Even if it's True that they can be treated, by the time they heal, the victim who stayed and helped them will be in a state to go to therapy for CPTSD, which will take a lifetime to heal.

should be longer, more elaborated

Same here😢. Its real. Alone from birth to death. Thank you Barbara for sharing. I so much hope that you are doing "ok", that you can have some good times, even though its on your own. I know so much how it hurts. I am sorry for all of us. I am crying writing this. No one else to speak but youtube.

Dialectical behavioral therapy is complete bullshit,it just does not work....its a fraud created by an actual b.p.d.and is used to enrich scamming so called "therapists" don't fall for the scam,a cure simply does not exist........

No such thing as "exclusive relationship" in todays western society, unless you live in some small isolated community.

Woah... I self diagnosed BPD a few years ago after listening to a few psychiatrists... But this fits me to a tee. Ive been trying so hard to deal with these symptoms. Ketamine helped seriously with suicidal ideology (12 weeks so far). Otherwise cannabis helps a little. I try with therapy. I am definitely substance abusing. I try to drive safely for others. I definitely have lapses in reality as described. I know its a defence mechanism though. I know it's made up. I'm very lucky and rescuing dogs has given me some extrinsic value. Work will never fill the void.

Father of BPD!?! Freud wrote about BPD! Who does this guy think he is!

Unsubscribed. We are not clowns here to entertain your audience and makes money for you. I am not hysterical. Neither aggressive.

Educating people may well be the answer, however, people need to be ready for education. According to Maslow, a need for knowledge, is a bit higher on the hierarchy of needs list. Most of our population in the United States don’t have value for knowledge, they can’t connect that with an ability to stay warm at night. We need regulations on the prices of basic needs to reduce poverty thereby helping our population to develop and be ready to receive knowledge.

Its crazy the overlap of symptoms between CPTSD and BPD! Key difference is that BPD fear of abandonment typically results in engagement to be seen by others, and CPTSD is shame of self typically results in disengagement of being seen by others because of that fear. Both can isolate, but the fear vs shame motivators of that behavior is the key. As someone with CPTSD with history of childhood neglect, I have often wondered why my sister with BPD and I were so different yet similar. This is how! And also, BPD identity issues are different from CPTSD which is experienced with a constant feeling of shame/unworthiness inside and dont have the desire to attach to different senses of identity, rather it is hard to break from my own unworthy identity. Additionally, i do not experience the extreme idealization/demonization of other people as that is a key symptom of BPD, just the demonization of my own self. Just thought id give a few notes of my own experience if anyone found it helpful to determine if they actually have BPD or CPTSD, which is often misdiagnosed. I find that though the symptoms overlap some, and both often result from trauma (BPD does not actually require trauma to occur as it is a personality disordor not an environmental disorder), these are very different things. Im not sure how there can be so many co diagnoses of BPD and CPTSD unless one is a misdiagnoses or limited understanding of a person. But im not a doctor or licensed mental health provider!

This is psychological 💩 the soul needs Christ. He is explaining everything that a soul needs which it does not have! What does the world do? Put you on meds! What does Christ do? He gives you his body and blood.

That last bit struck a chord. It sounds childish to spell it out but my mind is not the same as everyone else's. Fear seems to cause a loss of connection with myself - to the point I could believe it is not there or does not matter - yet I see it in everybody else but I have failed to recognise that it is only _my_ thoughts and feelings I am perceiving. Communication is key but I have to want to listen, be able to trust what I hear and trust in compassion for what I have to say. I can't always do these things but I'm okay with that.

3:01 Tell me you're not a labour economist without telling me you're not a labour economist. Still, not like this guy from a field who thought it was a good idea to make wearing a dress a precondition of HRT prescription, doesn't have good insights, it's just his classism is not nearly as objective as he thinks.