3 Mistakes People Make On NoFap (I Wish I Knew These Earlier)

[@Dannyrainofficial]

this video was awesome bro 1. Dont repress no fap desire .. Transmute energy to achieve goals 2. Nofap will not solve all your problems .. YOU DO 3. Dont be guilty if you relapse .. Be driven by your goals

[@AlexShailer]

You got it bro! Essentially use NoFap power... not NoFap using you.

[@Travelwiththennarasu]

Thanks

[@karimnabil1851]

@@AlexShailer I used to do it sometimes on cam with a girl, now if I'm quitting masturbation, can I still watch her? I was able to do that without cumming but not sure if that will have any side effects

[@raymondotoole2600]

I used to feel guilty ! But now it’s all good. I know my body. I still reap the benefits. I usually just start again and go a little bit more than last time

[@tayk4304]

Don’t rely on NoFap to make you a better person, you should already have the good intentions of making yourself better on the desk

[@benafkoteshetu7989]

yes nofap makes you better person and happy person tay k the race enjoy your jail😂

[@hndrxxtarantino9795]

Tay K I Think u Gone be Fapping for a While Bro how Many Years They Gave u Again ?

[@athallahrafi2319]

Guys, i'm on my 9th day of NoFap.. Wish me luck

[@user-ys2st1eo9o]

How's dat going mate?

[@angelio_17]

Ayrad160 😂😂

[@weirdsock3032]

Good luck man

[@renanlinard7]

"Wish me luck".... Hahahah

[@user-u2nhkl456]

Awesome video bro, I’m currently at Day 13 and I was getting very triggered to fap before watching this video and right when I was about to relapse I decided to watch this video and this video brought me right back into nofap journey. Thank you for being supportive 🙏🏻

[@dev.morrison]

This was amazing. Especially the part about guilt and shame, that's such a toxic cycle and it actually leads to more addictive behaviour. So helpful to have a positive relationship with this new change, and not overblow the cons of a "relapse". Great video as usual, man!

[@AlexShailer]

Thanks man! I said "too much guilt and shame" in the video. I really meant "ANY guilt and shame" but I thought that might be a high bar for some to reach. Many of us are still used to being fear motivated but there's another way :)

[@ethos5498]

So far this is the most reasonable nofap video I have seen, and I had exactly the same thoughts. I have a feeling that people treat it as a very intense challenge which is meant to make you a different person and change your life forever. It is not about doing nofap for 1000 days, it is about becoming free and stopping a bad habit, according to your natural needs.

[@aleksacerovic6586]

But it does change you, it's my case, so it changes your life, it's that simple, no shame, no regrets, more testosterone, more energy, more confidence, etc.. Is it a small thing for you ?

[@houdinitj37]

Just wished I haven’t discovered porn . Thank you for the video anyways . It really made me realise of my expectations of starting noFap doesn’t solve all my problems. This mindset always clinged onto me as I watched many videos of benefits Instead of focusing on how do I channel my sexual drive energy to my daily lifestyle . That’s how most people who are successful actually became more successful overtime .

[@Ghxst969]

Video is totally on point before No fap i used to be mostly depressed and demotivated but now I'm 51 days into NoFap there's a lot of Energy that you have when you in Nofap. These days i feel motivated and also i feel that NoFap also kills social Anxiety cuz I previously was not a social kinda guy i used to avoid talking to people but now i don't have that attitude anymore

[@Speedemon444]

I relapsed after 30days, I don’t feel like crap, but Ready to break my 30 days ! And hope to surpass numbers over 1000 Ahhhhhhh let’s go!!!

[@AlexShailer]

Haha thats the spirit my man

[@coltenpfeffer4730]

danny mejia update?

[@sandervanklasse4955]

Update??

[@joaoramos32]

I just relapsed today and i feel great lol i actually did it consciously (not watching porn though). I think people take themselves way too seriously. If you've been getting progress and practicing nofap for even for 7 days (as an example), that's already an healthy accomplishment. Just make small steps foward and appreciate them.

[@torreywalker8607]

The most aware nofap video ever🔥 Broke a week streak. Didnt feel bad about it at all. But i did for sure notice the "Creative energy" Was released. I am inspired too expirement with this. And see how it helps with creativity such as my dancing, Music, Art, Etc. I also found it easier too make super strong intimate eye contact with women. The energy was much more direct and obvious. So it seems the self discipline and control over our creative energy source basically improves our life naturally🔥🔥🔥 Yet the issue is when we supress rather express our creativity. That was my issue today. I didnt connect the creativity and sexuality with the same energy center. So i let it go! Rather than consciously choosing "Lets place it here" or "Channel it too this" AMAZING VIDEO

[@AlexShailer]

I don't need to say anything. Sounds like you got this my man!

[@jaidenBenzz]

Wish me luck I’m on 5 months 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👑

[@AlexShailer]

Good luck!

[@1st_agent]

Accept yourself, learn and grow, and focus on your mission.

[@harshadkumar9519]

In the arena of negatives about No fap relapse , you have given a clear and practical answer for it, Great content bro

[@DanteRodrigo555]

Very important to talk about that, usually the people be shying to make this kind of video, because it's very difficult to have freedom to talk about that kind of talk. Congratulations brow !

[@shin267]

Thanks for this, I relapsed after a 15 day streak and was really kicking myself. But I realised if I can put myself in the mindset of someone that just doesn’t fap, I can keep going and use that extra energy for other stuff. Back into a week and feeling great

[@ldreese33]

I had a bad relapse, I am on day 3. Wish me luck.

[@mwhitfield1194]

Day 10 and the energy is strong. Thanks for the tips man

[@Gunashev]

Thanks a lot, man. I've heard about this before, but you explained it in a simple way, and it gave me a different perspective Cheers.

[@gustavodinucci]

Thank you. Very professional.

[@mannyuribe8780]

Guys tend to forget about what u mentioned when doing nofap. Don't lose who you are if you relapse. Because face if you fapped multiple times a day for years for example. Doing nofap is really big step to stop cold turkey. Definitely understand your psychology because if you feel bad after relapsing that will throw of your brain chemistry even more off and you'll feel even worse at times. You have WEEN off of fapping slowly to the point you aren't doing it any longer, or only so often per say. It's a journey for sure lol. Really good video man!

[@pallmall7385]

To the third point at 3:40- If you look around, there are people that are miserable all around that DEFINITELY don't PMO. Old grandmas, people that have eating disorders, people that just make poor habit choices such as smoking and drinking to excess. Don't get too down on yourself because you broke a 30 day streak. It's not the end of the world. I guarantee that the person that broke that streak still feels better than a 30 year smoker...

[@shrunkensimon]

A parallel example of the guilt and shame is how those wishing to quit smoking deify smoking as this insurmountable challenge before even beginning, which is also not helped by people selling patches, gum, vapes, etc. I think you made a good statement with 'a lifestyle choice', that is the best and most sustainable way to approach it; sexual release is not a sin, but doing too much might not be healthy either, so you find that balance that respects the body chemistry without tying yourself up in a knot (which we are not meant to do). Also, with 'relapse'. If you get yourself into a new rhythm of say once a fortnight, you don't lose the accrued benefits. You build steam and momentum over time, like with lifting weights and building muscle. Instead of seeing the gym as an obligation it just becomes part of your healthy routine.

[@selfdiscipline296]

Nofap will control your way of life for better you will feel confidence and powerful in your daily struggle

[@selfdiscipline296]

Well said, nofap has other benefits but not attraction I'm talking about me, fap or nofap I still get attraction from women young and old

[@federicosanchez7791]

You hit the nail right on the head

[@candratan6604]

You're right about guilt and shame. I think it comes from religion. It's just my opinion. That's why I'd rather write all my journey in the journal than telling it to someone closest to me. There's no therapist in my town. I wish I could through it until day 90 then make it my one of lifestyle. Sometimes I wanna give up, but then I believe it's really worth it. Thanks man. Tomorrow is my day 30 :).

[@AlexShailer]

Journalling is great man! Book a time for us to speak at speaktoalex.com if you want to enquire about extra help!

[@mickey5073]

such a goodlooking man. thanks for the advice. i relapsed after 51 days but im back to it again. im not starting from zero

[@bluelightmoon777]

Im on week 1 and also starting keto tomorrow while working out 5 times a week 😎

[@AlexShailer]

Have a look at the science based evidence between keto and a whole foods plant based diet.

[@bluelightmoon777]

@@AlexShailer im doing keto from time to time for health reasons because i do high carb low fat bulking during winter

[@nateanderson7670]

Thank you, someone speaking the truth about no fap very insightful points mate

[@waedjradi]

Never too high. Never too low.

[@amakhija1]

Thanks for this clarification, excellent. This reminded me of Sadguru speaking of conscious creation, that as much as life conspires to assist, we need to make the plays on the field. Our engagement, our responsibility is front and center. I would love to hear your thoughts on the cultivation of masculine energy w.r.t. sex transmutation, and how it relates to the divine masculine. Cheers!

[@joshc2501]

You sound like the headspace dude

[@ambitionsskyyyy]

Haha just realised this is true, well spotted bro

[@ozzymorrison8628]

Lol

[@renanlinard7]

What a video, man! Thank you so much, keep up with tthe great job!

[@ouimetco]

“Different strokes for different folks” jajaaja. Excellent use of subject relative language.

[@AlexShailer]

Hahaha boooom

[@avaliausd.]

Here's something I never hear people mention about sexual energy: why not use that energy to make friends? Why not use that energy to meet more women? What I've found is, when you hang out with real people while on Nofap, the pleasure of socialization overcomes the urge to watch prom. You feel satiated even if meeting a woman doesn't result in sex. You can really build connections with people that you would have if you were fapping. Not everyone has a creative endeavor that they can work on due to finances or workload. So instead, use that sexual energy to socialize more. And if anything, Nofap will make getting a woman even EASIER for you because you aren't anxious, depressed, and you aren't *thirsty.* You can actually hold a real conversation because your mind isn't clouded with lust and carnality.

[@daveyloveable]

Great video. Glad I found this today. Thanks.

[@AlexShailer]

Good to have you with us!

[@rollupthefruit7798]

just a pointer for further videos. don’t read off that thing in your lap. strong eye contact eye 👁

[@Gdawg685]

This video is exactly what I needed to hear thank you you just earned yourself a new subscriber

[@tolstoy431]

Like all your vids Alex..your voice only is calming .

[@AlexShailer]

Thanks! You're not the only person who's said that now. Never considered it to be haha

[@MrChillaa1]

What is your definition of one long streak?

[@AlexShailer]

70-90 days in my opinion

[@MrChillaa1]

@@AlexShailer sounds legit!

[@andycarter1089]

I got turned on to porn when I was 11 .. 45 now.. I think the longest streak I’ve managed is about 3 weeks..ever. I know it’s effected my thought processes, and relationships when I’ve had them.. it would be interesting to get to 70 days, just to experience it..

[@Amanda-qe5lj]

@@andycarter1089 tomorrow (February 17th) I'll get to 66 days, in theory the amount of days it takes to build a new habit, and bro, if you pass through 1 month, the rest is easy

[@Amanda-qe5lj]

basically what u wanna do is not go cold turkey, and just relax if you relapse, I didn't thought "I'm not gonna fap again" when I've started this streak I'm at, so it will take time but when it comes, it'll be easy and you not gonna even think about it. Working on my English lekekek hope it helped

[@slater-cguy]

Newly discovered your channel, great content, keep up the great work 👍👍

[@Joshtherealdeal]

Read The way of the superior man .

[@rashidamin7241]

Do you have a wet dreams ??

[@danielsingoei2239]

I suppose nofap is a mother of all discipline such that if u were a spendthrift it injects some frugality,binge drinking and alcoholism can set u to a path of recovery.Nofap is not an end in itself but for someone like me who had hit rock bottom it's such a powerful tool to assist you in getting out of the rut

[@tomllewellyn4189]

Great video, very humane and insightful.

[@AlexShailer]

Peace brother!

[@elsamu1216]

Very good Video. Brings everything up in a short Video 👍👍

[@AlexShailer]

Glad you liked it!

[@lrcdlc9446]

NoFap is so famous o.o

[@Barbeta13]

That's how fucked up men are by porn lol

[@Simon0]

Nice video. Thanks for that

[@paulstefan2096]

Love your advice! You’re awesome!

[@joeanthonymorales1741]

Awesome video. God bless you. You are an inspiration

[@AlexShailer]

And you are an inspiration to me!

[@greygoo5319]

Zero strokes for no-fap folks 😂 Thanks for the video

[@atundaade1888]

Great 👍! You seem to know what you are talking about. Impressive! Thanks.

[@DarthOwenZ]

awesome video..thanks

[@derpherp1810]

I love your outro music. What is the music genre? It sounds like synthwave but more ethereal.

[@AlexShailer]

I made it. I've also been a music producer for about 20 years. I'm actually gonna start a seperate channel for my music in the future which I'll link to so watch this space. 🙂

[@ezekielj66]

Very accurate

[@m.srajput714]

42 days but yesterday i was too close to collapse that was very hard to control but now my testicles are in pain ... whats should i do now

[@kepdelosreyes3199]

Just relapse

[@PedroDiaz-oq9ms]

i have heard of nofap for a lot of time, time to try it out

[@dionmonteiro02]

How's it going

[@PedroDiaz-oq9ms]

@@dionmonteiro02 failed misserably but it gave me the perseverence to start dieting and doing excersice

[@PedroDiaz-oq9ms]

@@dionmonteiro02 failed miserably

[@yassine3713]

dude thank you so much

[@ЕгоМан]

Very logic

[@SantiXiAmaru]

Nofap is the impetus for change in your awareness.

[@isTheNightfly]

Great video man but, where did you get that hoodie??? looks awesome.

[@AlexShailer]

G Star Raw 👌

[@manithapa4959]

on day 4....💪

[@RealQueenBowsette]

Sometimes fear can be a great motivator

[@AlexShailer]

But how sustainable is it?

[@Decimation1030]

I think people put a little too much stake in NoFap generally. Lots of guys that swear by this attribute NoFap to accomplishing their goals. Its like they blamed masturbation for being extremely lazy which is why I agree with the guys second point. Jerking off doesn't stop you from doing stuff you need to do. You do. This "energy" people claim to get seems to be more placebo effect than anything else. I guess if it works more power to them, but it seems like they need to trick themselves into it. Lots f guys have said don't knock it till you try it. I've done the November challenge, and even tried three month challenges and I just don't see the big change. I still got my work done, exercised, and everything else I did when I masturbated. Other than getting an extra 15 minutes in some of my days I don't see the appeal. If anything walking around having intruding fantasies about women you encounter on the street would be more distracting than anything else.

[@AlexShailer]

Hey man, maybe it is that people are different, because for me I can tell you 100% it's not a placebo. Imagine someone said to you "Yeah, I've drunk 6 pints of beer, I didn't feel any different". You'd be like "WTF? How did you not feel any different?". My point is, there is a very obvious difference in my mood, energy levels, sleep length and even personality when deep into NoFap compared to being off of it. Perhaps there ARE people who can drink 6 pints of beer and not feel any different, but that's strange to hear from people who drinks 6 pints and it profoundly effects them, you get what I mean? I agree with you, some people put too much on NoFap and I try to touch on that in the video. There are people who fap and still have amazing energy and drive. I've ALWAYS had a lot of drive to get stuff done fap or NoFap. But the effects of NoFap are undeniably powerful. The other thing is, you may have to "transmute it". Were you doing that? By that I mean practicing things like kegels, cold showers , meditation and breathing exercises along with NoFap. Otherwise you can just end up on that frustrated desire state. Peace

[@AlexShailer]

May I ask, are you an extremely driven, energetic person anyway? I mean when you compare yourself to the average Joe?

[@Decimation1030]

@@AlexShailer Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I can get behind the idea that it is different for people. As a guy that has done it I think there is a bit too much over hype with it. Especially considering a lot of the benefits people constantly put out there can also be said when proper diet and exercise is introduced to the person's life. Here is my take on the NoFap thing. I think it's great for real porn addicts and chronic masturbators. The kind of people that do it just to do it or feed a habit. For guys that don't have this issue I don't see the point of it. If its not consuming hours out of your day, then chances are it doesn't have much of a hold on you anyway. To answer your question, I don't think I'm different than the average guy. I'm not overly energetic or driven, but I am a lot more self aware. I have things I want to accomplish and I spend that time on those things.

[@AlexShailer]

@@Decimation1030 I would agree, it's a tool in a box of many. And not to elevate it above having other healthy habits. Personally however, I havn't been regularly fapping for years now, and I still notice big differences when I'm on NoFap compared to off. There's reasons why boxers and fighters do it, why Yogis and mystics have been doing it for thousands of years, why Hill wrote about it in Think and Grow Rich, why Tim Ferris talks having about 'NOMBOM' months... and these reasons go beyond escaping chronic masturbation. They're about accessing a kind of energy and vitality that is extremely hard to achieve whilst fapping regularly, and seems to emerge after weeks or months of abstinence. But perhaps some people's body's and brains are different and are affected in different ways. If you think about it from an evolutionary perspective, and biology perspective, it would make sense that there were noticeable changes when the brain and body is under different conditions because of practicing NoFap. There are hormonal and neurotrasmitter level changes when you ejaculate. I'm pretty sure that dopamine, seretonin, oxytocin, prolactin and testosterone are all effected on some level. The amount and effect of these changes is debated. But I find it strange when some medical professionals, scientists, or writers suggest there is no substantial difference on behaviour or feeling. Because that is just not my experience, and not the experience of the thousands of other people who practice. The fact is, it under-studied and we have to rely on anecdotes and experimentation to make up our own minds where we sit with it. If you have made up your own mind based your own experimentation on your own body and mind, then all power to you, whatever your decisions are. I am not advocating for one lifestyle over the other. I am simply offering the suggestion that people try it to see if it benefits them. :) Peace.

[@SF_5]

Great video, thanks

[@crazedzeen]

I once had a three week run. I noticed the benefits after I had relapsed and I felt guilty that i didn't hop on nofap till yesterday. How did I notice you ask? I could barely complete a sentence while talking to a girl I had approached the previous week before I relapsed. The guilt wouldn't let me look her in the eyes.

[@ambitionsskyyyy]

Alright mate calm down you haven’t committed a murder Jesus

[@kennedyvives2993]

Can I just say that night times are the hardest

[@nimblenate]

3 Mistakes: 1. P 2. M 3. O

[@Rahulbajaj561]

4. Nate R

[@Geraldgifford]

Only 3 days so far and I’m a ball of energy. I keep busy constantly. It’s kinda like drinking several cups of coffee all at once. Can’t complain! I’m getting so much done. I rarely viewed porn before, so I think that’s made it a lot easier for me. Cold showers definitely help, and I actually find them enjoyable and invigorating. Wish I had started this years ago. Cheers!

[@chernobylcoleslaw6698]

The first one is pretty much Freud's concept of sublimation. :-)

[@thewind5905]

2:23 My mans said different strokes for different folks

[@KeithFlint350]

Joe Dispenza is clearly explaining how the energy channeling works. He's right, do something with that

[@tylerjones5963]

Whenever i have an urge now,I immediately think twice about how it's gonna kill my motivation and I get out my bed and do something

[@xyzv8640]

Great video!

[@xyzv8640]

Really love your style and explanations ;)

[@user-mh9dx7nz2r]

Guys if you fail November just wait until the day you failed in December.

[@HimanshuSingh1234-p9b]

Would nocturnal emmission be counted as a relapse?

[@AlexShailer]

I don't tend to use the word relapse as I don't want to demonize healthy masturbation. It really depends on your goals. If your goal is to find out how long periods of semen retention effect you then I guess so. But it's very difficult to stop that so i would go easy on yourself. Be concerned only with what you can control.

[@monankmali4907]

Day 6

[@Very_Stupid]

Keep it up. Maybe you'll inspire someone: That's a bonus to your own rewards.

[@ewandaly8572]

2:49 hit me hard

[@randyw4016]

Hey new here love your videos!

[@AlexShailer]

Randy Waters Welcome!

[@adams2263]

Great advice my good sir

[@sauravsinha8581]

hello ! love from india♥

[@asupaninternetharianmu8507]

Nice vid dude

[@angeldelacruz6408]

New subscriber here, loved the content

[@AlexShailer]

Welcome Angel! Good to have you

[@angeldelacruz6408]

@@AlexShailer thank you

[@simonturner7878]

Good video

[@neshifuturo]

Im on nofap on and off like 4 years longest streak 5 months , after like 2-3 months I always feel my energy in my balls and feel tired on the rest of my body balls hurt.

[@Karsan.133]

actually my balls are about to explode and i have stomache since i have started nofap like 21 days ago.... wtf

[@Karsan.133]

@@vladarius8060btw i don't have the urge to fap but i think my balls are producing too much sperm..

[@MrBlodhund]

Mediate man haha, and massage your fingers next to the thumg, the pointing finger. It will fix pain in the stomach. Truly! Sorry for bad english

[@johnhayes4456]

Relapse does not resonate with me either.

[@businessdulevv8062]

Guys i hit 20-30 days and this is my peak. I cant do more than this, but i want :( HELP

[@markuskarlsson2050]

Dont think like that! When my urges get really hard i follow this quote " DONT GIVE UP WHAT YOU WANT MOST, FOR WHAT YOU WANT NOW "

[@canceraxe1447]

Day 8

[@slykidJP]

I thought you were Chris Destefano , the comedian

[@ericmmm5756]

say hello to the coment section below

[@matheusmakio6057]

How do i deal with blueballs? It fucking HURTS

[@AlexShailer]

Cold showers, kegels, and the breathing technique I shared in a video recently.

[@adrianmagria9868]

Day 3 on no fap wish ME good luck guys

[@pjpj4035]

On my 26 day off my nofap i had a wet dreams

[@MrQbaNumber1]

Im on beginning of my journey. My question is: Is happy-ending massage ok with no fap? and Is it ok in general if the girl will do mastrubation or blow jobs? :D Thanks bros!

[@Altegore]

Hard mode is without any of that... But you can do that, just your results might be delayed and slower? Also - that makes it easier to relapse... But you can do it, yeah, just be careful...

[@dhirajchouragade]

day 12 bro

[@worldwidewrestling2206]

Hellow Alex,I'm a new subscriber .Hope your videos will help me to grow through no fap😍

[@AlexShailer]

Hey! :)

[@nomoney5439]

hellow brother .I'm from India.wish for me gd luck.

[@SantoshChavan-xc6oe]

30 days .

[@colonydropmodels]

Hello!

[@AlexShailer]

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii