5 Mind-blowing findings from The Body Keeps The Score | Self-improvement and understanding people

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This week, we're talking about one of the BEST books I’ve read: The Body Keeps The Score, by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk.
I picked out some mind-blowing stuff from there, and I hope your mind is blown too~
My thoughtful question for you is: Could you be drawing a metaphorical picture of your trauma in your life, without being able to see it?
The IG I mentioned: @the.holistic.psychologist
Thank you for watching ^^
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[@laurawhite24-7]

My daughter read and suggested this book to me - I listened on Audible. I cried. A lot. It was very validating for me to hear that I had trauma because I was told all my life that I was an over reactor, too sensitive and too mouthy - so, I always thought these were my "character flaws" - at 58 years old, can you believe it??? It was very freeing. Oh, I still have lots of trauma but I can also say it out loud...

[@daniqsaa]

It's AMAZING that you bumped into this topic! I'm so glad to hear it was freeing to you, after 58 years 🤩 Awareness is the first and most important step, so I know you'll find more and more freedom as you go 😊

[@theresalawn7075]

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[@michaellamont9972]

Try Somatic Experiencing. It will change you’re life completely. Take care

[@anilthapa5631]

Iam 50 yrs old and I am just about learning about trauma. I was abused as a chil...if that was not enough the whole lot of people where I used to live came to know about it. From then on my life went into a downward spiral. I am still struggling you know.... mood swings anger issues hate jealousy you name it. But there is hope and I am moving forward.

[@jingwentang6768]

😮I have an example for the child who drew. 😊Early years when I went to my therapist, I always told them I have a very happy childhood. 😢I never knew that it was not normal to be sextually abused many times and my basic needs such as warm room, toys, tv, pocket money were not met.😢

[@DanielaRosenrot]

I can recommend the books of Gabor Mate on trauma, illness and addictions. He is such a wonderful man with so much wisdom and empathy.

[@00tarig]

Thanks wich one you recommend to read first?

[@dejadash]

I read this book earlier this year and had to read it in increments. It opened my eyes to what was really going on with me! It truly is a great book 📖New subbie!

[@daniqsaa]

Aww thank you so much, and welcome to my channel 🤍 Yes, I always recommend this book if someone is trying to figure themselves out :)

[@megaluckydog1212]

Well said. Explains transgenerational trauma, unexplained response, and a freeing of mind for those who try so hard yet fail, with society as it is, predominantly ignorant, selfish, and dismissive. As in the movie Good Will Hunting, "IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT". You CAN rise above it, free yourselves, and it feels so good!

[@musicbrazilian7065]

You are right I know few people who often explods or become more egotistical assuming they have to be the center all the time, I think trauma has the desire to express itself. I love therapy if the therapist is compatible with me, thank you for your cideo.

[@monarene44]

When I was in the Peace Corps in the Dominican Republic hurricane Georges came through and wiped out all the housing structures in this village except for two cement buildings. I was offered a ride to the city to stay in a hotel but that seemed inconceivable to me. I wanted to stay close to what was familiar to me. Only when conditions deteriorated even worse in a couple days did I get on the next minibus out of the village. Part of this is shock, like a temporary paralysis, to make a change in course or direction.

[@lucianoinso]

I started reading it a month and a half ago but left it to read later, which never happened, I'm glad I opened your video, love your soft demeanor, kind energy and enthusiasm with the subject too, I've been studying mind since I was quite little because of... trauma, clearly. So thanks for the reminder, I'm gonna resume the book today, I'll check your other videos later too, thanks for this review :), loved the plant too, haha Lost it at 7:40, it's incredible the lack of capacity that sometimes we have to see our own issues, I'm not a christian but Jesus talked a bit about it: "And why do you look at the splinter in your brother's eye, but not notice the beam in your own eye?" Edit: I've been wanting to do EMDR for treatment but was doubting, I resumed the book and remembered that it had a chapter on it, I read it and made my mind to try it, so thanks again, we rarely are aware of the impact or positive impact we can have for other people with our actions.

[@daniqsaa]

I'm very glad you opened this video too! And thank you for your kind comment :) Cheering you on as you pick this book back up, and try EMDR!

[@pollymex7000]

Thanks so much for your post. I have trauma and recently read the book. This book is the turning point for modern psychiatric awareness. I'm 63 and I've been working on my PTSD for over 11 years. I always knew someone else was in the driver's seat and my wife was just about sitting back and going for the ride of all these crazy adventures I would think up. I've been a mechanic, I've been a waitress secretary painter tile setter prostitute and drug dealer. Never being able to stick to anything. EMDR is letting childhood reality bubble up from my insides. It's extremely difficult and painful because I'm back into that reality. I don't know if I can do this but I'm not going to give up. It's so nice to hear someone talking about trauma. Bessel Vander Kolk is my hero.

[@daniqsaa]

I’m so glad you found this book and that you’re determined to overcome your trauma, after what you've experienced in your life. If there’s anything we can take from Dr. Bessel’s book is that it’s possible :) Thank you so much for watching and sharing your story

[@pollymex7000]

@@daniqsaa Thank you. And thanks for putting it out there.

[@t.wilson7962]

I’ve had the book for 10 mos. Haven’t opened it. Will now! Thanks for the mini review!

[@DeconTheMonkey]

Oh man. Im so gonna read this now. I went through my own bout of trauma when i found out of my wife’s affair and have found healing and reconciliation as well. I’m now reading books to understand trauma and helping others cope and heal. Very good five points!

[@daniqsaa]

Hehe so glad I managed to get across how great this book is!

[@leafmebee]

Wanted to read it for a long time but finding it very difficult to concentrate. Current target 10 mins a day.

[@daniqsaa]

Oh I love that -- you're setting an input goal (invest this much time) versus an output goal (get this many pages read)

[@Life00707]

You are absolutely right! The best mind blowing book!!

[@dawgbone35]

You are great! My psychiatrist recommended this same book to me and I after seeing this, will definitely do so ! Thank you so much your enthusiasm for it has made my decision easier!

[@daniqsaa]

Hehe I'm very glad to hear that! It's 100% worth a read 😄

[@1972Jozef]

You’ve convinced me 😄 I found the most mind blowing example to be the one with the drawing. The Disconnection issue

[@daniqsaa]

Hehe my job is done! And yeah that one was so shocking to me too 🤯

[@gracielayesenia]

currently reading and annotating this book. i love nonfiction because it’s very intriguing to gain more knowledge on useful information that we can apply to our everyday lives. reading nonfiction has helped me gain perception and become more open minded.

[@daniqsaa]

Yeah for sure! I hope this book blows your mind as much as it did mine 😄

[@healthymindhealthybody9324]

Excellent Topic/Book, thank you for making it fun to learn about, whilst still showing great respect to the work. Your use of Familiarity vs Actual Safety was enlightening for me. I will add this perspective to my learning around this topic. Thanks

[@daniqsaa]

Oh my, that's amazing to hear -- I'm very glad you're taking something from my video ^^ Thank you for watching~

[@matthewburn4900]

Learning about polyvagal theory (ventral vagal and dorsal vagal complex) and how neuroception picks things up before our minds do. Learning about how both parasympathetic respones and how we react to things in terms of safety and survival. It shows the importance of healthy physical movement through the sympathetic nervous system (exercise, work, play, draw, perform, etc) to help us be more connected with the world (flow state), instead of being disconnected with the world (shutdown state). The ventral vagal complex effectively makes the top half of face more friendly and relaxed, increasing the likelihood of building social relations.

[@daniqsaa]

Yes, true! I remember it was very surprising to me learning some of this stuff

[@matthewburn4900]

@@didirogakos1502 Hey Didi. It depends on what area(s) strike your interest.

[@matthewburn4900]

@@didirogakos1502 Didi, I empathise with what you are going through. I would recommend writing down the actions of those who have crossed your boundaries. Then go through the process of how you reacted (feelings) to those events, and write it down! Forgiveness is the best form of revenge 👍

[@beatrizvignoli4053]

The drawing blew my mind.

[@MatthewCastro]

I’ve been learning a lot about trama this past week.. I should read this book, thanks for the review

[@daniqsaa]

Yess, trauma is very much worth learning about Thanks for watching :)

[@maddie9185]

This book is free on KZbin audible. I’ve been listening to it and yes it is very good. I found myself saying wow that explains a lot.

[@catnipcloud4445]

Thanks for this video, made me end up ordering it!

[@daniqsaa]

Your comment made me so happy! Yay!

[@irinameadows2809]

number 4 is crazy and I totally relay to it.

[@varonicatayler]

Craziest part was familiarity feeling like safety when that’s not always the case. 🤯

[@daniqsaa]

Ikr! Eye-opening!

[@mariGentle]

Great book….great vid ❤

[@shaunhenryengineering]

I read this on the recommendation of kati morton. Its something else ❤

[@karitthasun290]

Thank you for making the summary of the book! I've been hesitating to read deeper into this book - it touches so many sore spots in my heart that I got stuck on page 5... and the book is kind of thick! But hearing how there are so many interesting parts, I'm more curious to continue it...

[@daniqsaa]

Aaww I'm sorry you had a hard time starting it... And very glad my video made you interested again 😊 This book is so worthwhile. Even if you take it very slow, you'll thank yourself if you end up reading it!

[@karitthasun290]

@@daniqsaa Thank you so much Dani for the encouragement! I'm going to set up 15 min for reading this tomorrow morning! ☀️😍

[@robertorimeris7212]

Excellent!!

[@daniqsaa]

Thanks :D

[@gerryleb8575]

The fundamental question is not about triggers. The primary question is "am I ashamed of myself"?

[@bellezavudd]

The take-away from this video... "Read this book !!" 💗

[@daniqsaa]

Haha 100% yes!

[@digapassparla6457]

There is the hurricane but also eye of the huricane where u can be outside the trauma tribulation !

[@daniqsaa]

Thankfully yes :)

[@its-a-me-K]

I started reading this book and found it a bit dry, but since people praise it so much I guess I have to just keep reading, maybe something will resonate later on 🤷‍♀

[@iryna4530]

Try the audiobook (there are a few here on KZbin). It’s much more digestible.

[@its-a-me-K]

@@iryna4530 Thank you!!

[@AgnieszkaJ]

❤❤❤

[@Dhanyeshps]

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[@nancywysemen7196]

safety vs comfort. not sure properties delineated properly. did comfort have value? what is comfort anyway.

[@daniqsaa]

Hm! That's an interesting train of thought! Thanks for sharing :D

[@clementinekruczynski4875]

Hands down!

[@Justin-tb4cy]

more book review videos, please?

[@daniqsaa]

Oh sure! I have another book lined up, but ended up not doing the video yet bc I don't wanna become a book review channel 😅 Keep an eye out for the next couple of weeks 👀 And thanks for the suggestion~

[@Justin-tb4cy]

Yay, looking forward to it!@@daniqsaa

[@kissakissa4779]

Courage to be Disliked goes well with this😀

[@daniqsaa]

Oh I haven't read it but I heard it's really good too. Thanks for the rec! 😄

[@JilianToree]

..wait, you can’t see my plant…🤣🤣

[@daniqsaa]

Haha always with your well-being in mind!

[@amandalynn3538]

Any other book recommendations

[@daniqsaa]

Hmm along these lines, I'd mention Gabor Maté. But I haven't gotten around to read any of his books yet, so I can't recommend 100%

[@quilmesdave]

Muchas gracias, por tu introduccion a la futura lectura. Someone recommended it to me, and I'm buying it tonight!! Obrigado!!

[@daniqsaa]

De nada! You're gonna find many more mind-blowing things as you read it :D Enjoy~

[@lynne3482]

That books a trigger

[@daniqsaa]

Haha in many ways I think so too!

[@lynne3482]

Doubt anyone would head to their beds over running into the street if threatened

[@daniqsaa]

It's always good to doubt 😉 But that's what kids do, for example. They go hide under the covers. And many criminals flee the police only to then be found hiding in their homes. When we're stressed from work, we wanna go home too (instead of the movies or the amusement park, for example). Humans are complex, though, so I would never defend this as a "rule"

[@artsyelectriathletic]

You are beautiful 🤩

[@daniqsaa]

Aww thank you! ☺️

[@illmeeillmee9373]

4:18 nope! you lost me on that! comparing humans to monkeys is despicable!

[@daniqsaa]

Oh ok. Interesting 👍

[@bellezavudd]

The thing is You lost yourself. Long before you ever heard her words. Because of that many words will be lost on you.

[@PhukTrump2024]

Too many jump cuts