7 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Half-Korean | Mixed Race Struggles!

[@TheHalfieProject]

Thanks for inviting me onto your channel, Skycedi :) I promise that indignant Becky is not common ㅋㅋㅋ Thank you for watching this video and leaving comments! It's interesting to hear everyone's reactions, whether they relate or if they're curious to know more, or simply are out here to troll hahah Lots of love for the Skycedi channel and his viewers!

[@ScarlettKriss]

My addition to your project is "What are you?"I am a halfie, and I live in the states. I get "What are you?" all the time; Often they say this way too loud and way too enthusiastic. The ironic thing is being in the US and this behavior is that I am Native American and White; there are just so very few of us left. The most fascinating thing is I find that East Asians either think I am an East Asian that they aren't, or they know I am Native American and they act like they found something fascinating. I find these behaviors interesting or they make me angry LOL, anyway, this fascination has Korea, Vietnam, and many others on my foreign ESL teacher path. I actually hope I get a countryside school. PS I am studying and learning Korean, attending Korean church as well.

[@anthonyvulgamore5073]

Bro I remember one time I told someone I have Cherokee Indian heritage and this person said well you don't look like it then I replied with well what are they supposed to look like so yeah I can relate to you a little bit

[@swccableyard3557]

I think People generally mean well. Take it easy and keep educating us.

[@janetday5431]

I enjoy eating good food, so I go to this restaurant, the food is so good, it's a Korean restaurant, I start to talk to the waiters about what I should order. I eat their a lot. Now I consider the owner a good friend, we laugh and talk all the time. You never know how sweet people are until you start a conversation. I love kimchi!

[@__hey__its__ray__3875]

I'm half Korean and half British and when I'm in the UK ppl ask me if I'm Korean but yet in Korea no one believes me when I say I'm half Korean 😂

[@Shibaa..]

Same here !!! Just... Instead of asking if I'm Korean, they ask me if I'm Chinese and when I correct them they get defensive and argue it's "the most statistically correct" and I mean I guess... But it does annoy me

[@__hey__its__ray__3875]

@@Shibaa.. ikr I don't know why pll get like that when u correct them but my guess is ppl just don't like being Rong ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@monero892]

I’m also half Korean / British and I know what you mean ;)

[@Logan-x5k2x]

Same but I feel being mixed race makes u feel out of place and a bit of an identity crisis as you never quite fit in

[@blue_rose4567]

omg im half british half korean too lmao

[@waygookinway1805]

I'm not even part Korean and get asked/told these same things when I speak Korean to people. I often get asked if my mom is Korean, even though I don't look remotely Korean, or how long I've been married to a Korean even though I'm single. One older Korean woman once asked me "Are you married to kimchi?" (I have no clue why she calls Korean people kimchi.) The thing that I've heard that triggers me the most is that a Korean woman who dates a Black man shouldn't be "allowed" to date a Korean after that. Hearing that remark as a Black man makes me want to slap people so bad, but thanks to the grace of God I haven't hit anyone yet.

[@mkim4091]

You haven't hit anyone thanks to the grace of God lmao

[@skycedi]

Wow I can only imagine the frustration that can come with kind of comments! They are usually based inaccurate assumptions. And I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone referred to Korean people as Kimchi haha. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

[@waygookinway1805]

@@skycedi Thanks. While I have met a lot of ignorant people, I have met a lot of curious people with good hearts who simply want to understand things better. For the people I met in Korea back in 2014, it was unusual for them to see a 6'4" black man walking around speaking Korean with no Korean relatives and never having dated a Korean. So I've learned to do my best to ignore the ignorant and to be an ambassador and help close the gap that some have in their minds if they are honest hearted. I hope to do that some more when I arrive in Korea in 3 weeks.

[@christian_person5058]

Waygookin Way it’s not unusual if the black man is stationed or lives in Korea🙄 why don’t u assume the black man may possibly be in the military? Military men& women get a crash course on the country they get stationed to and it includes learning about the traditions and cultural. Obviously if someone is living in another country they would want to learn the language and adapt to the country they live in? My brother speaks fluent German especially after he married his ex-wife when he was stationed in West Berlin! 🤷🏾‍♀️ People needs to learn to stop saying making dumbass comments. It’s only “well intentioned “ when it’s a ignorant person. Whatever happened to the old adage “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all? 🤷🏾‍♀️🙄

[@johnjleemail]

Waygookin,, I feel how you felt about that. But I guess that was long time ago until 80’s & 90’s. Korean younger generations are more open and inclusive to the diversity. Heins Ward is still a hero to Koreans. And IlJoon Park who is half black half korean is a very famous singer too. There are always some stupid prejudiced people in every corner of the world.

[@saqua22]

totally feeling you guys haha! I'm also half Korean from Germany and lived in Seoul and experienced all of this as well xD

[@NativeMoon]

"If she's fine I'll date her!" ... took me CLEAN out!!! Dang Cedric lol

[@skycedi]

LOLL! hahaha I’m happy to give you a good laugh 😂

[@dmitrykim3096]

Becky looks quite Korean for me

[@Lucky24213]

She looks Vietnamese or Chinese, not really Korean.

[@annarosejones2957]

Personally as a black-korean mixed girl I have encountered a lot of the situations that you guys said in the videowhen I'm visiting Korea, but Im usually flattered😂. I guess it's because I only just started improving my Korean skills a few years ago do when someone tells me I'm good at it I feel proud🤷🏽‍♀️🙃 anyway great video!

[@skycedi]

Haha I guess it’s all perspective, right? I’m glad that you embrace those comments and I’m sure they are well deserved :) it’s interesting how us halfies can experience the same situations differently. Thanks for the comment

[@MyKoreanHusband]

Great video! I'm always so curious about the things you guys have to say and kinda taking notes for the future and how to navigate certain things with Yul. Even when people don't mean to be rude, things can be annoying or hurtful because it shows their ignorance or shows as a society how far Korea still has to go with understanding that there are all different types of Koreans here. We hope that even small interactions can be a step forward to there being more understanding in society. Something we get sometimes with Yul is people immediately speaking English to him (even though it's clear they can barely speak English) so we will say "he is Korean please speak to him in Korean". Then they will ask a question that a kid not even 2 yet can't answer! Yul won't reply of course or will just babble. The person then switches back to English thinking Yul can't understand Korean. He can understand! He just can't speak in sentences yet! So I realised people don't understand much about bilingualism AND when kids can actually start speaking haha. While back in Australia I was asked if I had adopted Yul. It made me laugh at the time, but I imagined if I heard that all the time I would get frustrated.

[@skycedi]

Wow, now that’s an interesting situation regarding how some Koreans interact with Yul. I can imagine how that can be frustrating for you guys as the parents. Sometimes, it’s hard for some people to just understand that you can carry with you two cultures just as much as they carry one. I’m really curious what kind a world Yul would live in (considering he grows up here in Korea) and how far Korea as a whole will have come in regards to understanding and embracing multiculturalism. I have hopes that things will progress forward as families like yours and halfies like myself and Becky continue to keep the conversation going. Thanks for watching^^

[@Mika-km2nk]

I like her attitude. She’s fun to watch.

[@marcie21jp]

I am half Japanese on my fifties. It can be tricky when you are a kid. Once you honor both cultures as part of yourself you don’t care about opinions. You just breathe. We have a mission on Earth. We are humans. It’s up to us embrace it or not.

[@breeze3596]

My kids r half Korean.. I can totally relate to u.. It’s sad but it’s true that Korean is not really open..

[@skycedi]

Breeze it’s unfortunate that a lot of Koreans are closed off but there are many Koreans that are open, warm, and welcoming to those that are a bit different which is awesome.

[@dmitrykim3096]

@@skycedi all we can hope is that a new generation will be more educated and open minded due to internet and cultural exchange

[@toniecambel4431]

I dont want to say they are not open to halfies or foreigners. Just they have't experienced enough. For Koreans, chances of meeting with another ethnic have been very limited.

[@mayashibrionne]

My friend Francis(RIP) was half Korean and half German and she experienced many of the things you mentioned when she visited Korea. Her family barely acknowledged her because she was mixed.

[@JonathanS89]

This video is soooo relatable, I'm hispanic and of mixed background and some people assume I'm from north africa or southern asia, so when I speak spanish some people get shocked like OMG you speak spanish so well. and i'm just like >.>

[@skycedi]

Yeah man, the struggle is real!

[@JonathanS89]

@@skycedi sure is

[@matt-z7m2r]

My 3 yo son is half too. He looks 100% korean though. We live in seoul. So if he goes into tantrum mode n i have to pick him up n bail from whatever, i look like im kidnapping a local toddler! T-T

[@yalee4007]

Totally understand, my baby is half Korean but he also look 100 % Korean so people always ask me if I am really is mother, like come on now 😂😂😂 when I go doctor they always say he really don't seem nothing like me 😂😂😂😂

[@galgreen3749]

Medina M you are stupid if you have fetishes over certain race

[@korraisawsome]

I love when people talk about their experiences, by doing this we cause way more change than one would think. People will adjust and consider new perspectives that's why it's always good to talk about everything whether it's light weight or heavy weight topics.

[@claricetat1578]

Omg! I can totally relate to ‘where are you from?’ Ive been so accustomed to it that i feel robotic about it lol

[@higherliving]

Great Collaboration! Another informative segment. This is an Awesome use of this media platform. "It is in instrument of change." I don't believe most people are cruel or mean on purpose, they just don't understand. With continued content such as this being presented in a fun and caring way, will be impactful, as the message is shared. Great Job!

[@johnjleemail]

Hey, you guys are giving great inspiration to not only Koreans but also to the world. I think this KZbin must be shared with as many Koreans as possible. Please put Korean CC in the bottom of you can.

[@skycedi]

Do you have anything else to add to our list of things that you shouldn't say to a half-Korean | bi-racial | or just as a person? Share in the comments below!

[@epikhigh97]

×_× Hope ur day is goint good my look a like stunt double

[@mkim4091]

Skycedi you're fine. Is that is on the list of I shouldn't OH WELL

[@avyabarton4369]

언니 조금 선미같이생겼어요! 저도 언니처럼 반반이에요. Everything you said was so relatable...

[@jihyekang4089]

Thank you all!! Great video! I could learn things to not should to half-korean. I haven’t really thought about that. But, I would like you understand most of ppl dont really meant it. But i still understand you guys. When i was a student in USA, ppl ask me bunch of same question which was really annoying me. Also, I’ve been dating with black guy since came USA. I used to not like ppl ask me about our relationship or stare us everywhere. I did not like being not majority group there. Btw, I like you guys🥰 plz keep making this video and if you can, plz make some english or korean subtitle😢.

[@chabsgotchu2917]

I have a Korean American friend and one time this Korean guy told her that she speaks English really well... even though she’s American 😓

[@skycedi]

Yup, that seems to happen a lot too to Koreans oversees. I bet that’s very frustrating too!

[@IZZYgoneWILD]

As a mixed Chinese girl, I experienced this same thing in Korea and in America, not in China. People would do a double take - No triple take- when I started speaking Chinese. Yet when I speak Spanish no one bats an eye 😩

[@RmcBlueSky]

Yo también soy mezcla de Asiática y Latino. A los EEUU si me a dicho que yo hablo bien mí Castellano. Personas piensa que soy Filipino. Le digo que yo soy indirecto Filipino, por qué los Filipinos son también mezcla de Asia y Españoles.

[@j2vanbertel]

Where does your Hispanic family comes from?

[@Gyu_and_Agata]

This is such a great insight! Your videos are always so interesting and informative! Thanks Cedric & Becky :)

[@galgreen3749]

Hate people who fetish over certain races and pick their halves just from a certain race👎🏻 no matter the race people are people! The most important part is loving a person and their character!

[@lyfewithdj2258]

Great video!! I can only imagine how annoying those same questions would be...lol. Good thing u guys r patient & understanding! However, I get annoyed by ppl when they don't think my mom is my mom b/c she looks like a stereotypical "Puerto Rican". I'm Black, White, & Cypriot (Greek), btw.🙂 Ppl just assume I'm black or think I'm Ethiopian..ㅋㅋㅋ.😅

[@moh1821]

You have to understand that Korea is homogenous and to Koreans in Korea, anything that is slightly different will be interesting. They never mean any harm (or most don't). I think this is from more of an American's perspective. It's different when an American says "Oh you eat a burger really well" to a Korean in Korea saying "Oh you eat kimchi really well.". There is a huge difference. Also, I grew up in the states and white people legit told me to my face that my English was good... it happens everywhere.

[@rileydinkleman1022]

M Oh it’s typical outrage culture. People search high and low for things to get offended by lol.

[@skycedi]

Yes, it’s very true. I think we understand that most Koreans don’t mean harm and it comes from a place of curiosity and interest. But at the same time (for the reasons we mentioned in the video), some of these comments that we get frequently still bother, annoy, or sometimes even hurt us. But at the end of the day, it’s just us voicing our opinions and feelings in an effort to just bring more of an understanding of how we feel. That’s all :) but yes, I can agree with your comment as well.

[@healingremedy708]

I'm a native Korean living in NZ. I agree with you. I'm actually bit shocked that they can be annoyed by "oh, your Korean is very good".

[@Pixlanta]

Becky looks like my beautiful daughter who is also a halfie. With exception my daughter is 15 and half Vietnamese and half Caucasian.i love the content of your videos❤️

[@JuneJeffersonMCMEnthusiast]

It all boils down to how confident & comfortable you are with yourself. I am 100% Korean but can't speak it, I used to feel so less than whenever I'd shop at Korean grocery and couldn't talk back to employees in Korean. With my Black husband & our daughter present as well. But now that I am at ease & confident in myself, their stares and comments no longer bother me. In regards to my daughters, Black people see the Black and Asian people see the Asian. It's quite interesting. Good content Cedi!

[@TimeTraveller010]

Is this filmed in Itaewon or Shinchon? My son is half Korean, I'm of Italian background-Australian citizen. He is 16 this year, he gets along with his Asian counterparts well. I am not sure if he's asked odd questions, I will refer him to this video. He's a very good looking teenager, he was offered a photo shoot for a fashion magazine in Australia. He refused, he has my genes, down to earth type...ha ha. Both of you look great, be proud, say it loud!

[@Ahoykatieee]

Watching this because I’m currently pregnant with a half-Korean baby, and I don’t actually know any half-Koreans irl. This perspective is very helpful. Thank you for making this video ❤️

[@Moneystarr83]

Ig-nant!! Lol!! I had to run that tape back and play it again. Lol! So my question is with Korea having a greater influx of foreigners, do you think those questions will change?

[@skycedi]

Lol! Hahaha. To answer your question, I do think that with more foreigners coming to live and work in Korea, those questions are starting to change. I’ve noticed it. I feel like it may take a good minute for it to change on a grand scheme, but it’s heading that way :)

[@elizabethseiden1867]

A rude question a guy asked me was, what race do you feel more comfortable with? Korean or white? I believe anyone who’s half Korean.

[@deaa2314]

It's interesting that one of the things that you both identify as frustrating for you is being told that you speak Korean well. Skycedi stated "I'm half-Korean and so I should know how to speak some Korean." This is actually a frustration for me because I am half-Korean but was not taught the Korean language by my Korean mother. When people find out that I am half-Korean there is this expectation that I should know how to speak the language and that's just not everyone's experience.

[@starking9794]

That is a compliment. Why are you annoyed? Be positive!

[@abfire1175]

cedric looks filipino or malaysian or Indonesian but you both beautiful people 💕🤗 i have half daughter its good to hear this

[@coolingwinds]

It’s funny back watching this vlog knowing that now, you are a couple. I can definitely see couple vibes burgeoning here. Especially, when Becky feels comfortable enough to “highjack” Ced’s vlog😂😂😂

[@TaeZZ7]

Charming hapas with a quality content! 👍

[@skycedi]

Wow thank you! Appreciate you watching :)

[@leannestrong1000]

Just don't talk to someone who is half ANYTHING any differently from how you would talk to someone who is full anything. We are all people first, with our own unique personalities, hobbies, interests, mannerisms, etc. Race is just an afterthought, and should never play a part in how we talk to someone.

[@christianampotonaki9523]

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS THAT SHE LOOKS LIKE SUNMI

[@jpopaddict2]

I’m half white & half asian but only attracted to asian, white, & half white/half asian 🙈

[@tavialew3224]

I am half Korean and Spanish. I so relate. Sometimes people don’t believe I am half Korean.

[@zenithmarieupshaw1328]

I have a friend that is Korean and white, people would tell her that she spoke English so well, her response would be " Thank you, the missionaries taught me."

[@SaraFlara]

As a white person in Korea I can relate to a lot of what you guys say and I think the reason is....they are treating you more like foreigners rather than koreans. Honestly I think a lot of foreigners who learn Korean and have lived here awhile have similar complaints. It must be loads more frustrating when you ARE Korean. I have found that while koreans get excited about foreigners who know simple things about korea they seem to believe that only pure koreans could ever speak Korean and understand the culture and eat the food etc. As you guys said they dont usually mean anything mean by it but on some level they are making assumptions on your appearances and it leaves you in a weird situation where you're somewhat excluded from your culture. It's good you make videos like this because I think its definitely something that doesnt get enough attention or awareness.

[@skycedi]

Very well stated and I agree Sara. I think the frustrations come from the fact that people just want to connect and belong and sometimes, other people can make you feel like you’re different or on the outside, or that you can’t truly connect or understand them. 95% of them mean well, but it still isn’t a great feeling. But hopefully, this sort of dialogue can bring more awareness and understanding :)

[@prangthips1863]

You guys are inspiring couple. Thai people love all nations: full white; full black; full Asian; halfies! I'm half Thai-Chinese but I can't speak Chinese at all. Although, Chinese people speak Mandarin to me. It doesn't bother me at all. I feel funny and let it go. It's fun when people including Thai ppl too can't guess I'm Thai (racial identification via passport). Now a man whom I talk to is Blasian! He's half black-Korean. I love variety of culture!

[@emilyenns4284]

I’m super white 😂 but my boyfriend is half Korean and half white so I am watching this to make sure I don’t say anything offensive to him

[@김수진-y9g5s]

I'm half polish and half korean and I'm currently living in Korea and my accent is very Korean and when I'm in Poland people are asking me that I'm Chinese or Japanese and they're like "it's not the same?" and I'm like "damn" but when I'm in Korea people are like u are russian? and when I'm saying that I'm half polish and half korean they're like "omg rlly, no u r kidding ㅋㅋ" yall know what I mean ㅎㅎ

[@taylor7745]

im half korean and half irish and i hear all of these so much!!

[@wonjubhoy]

I lived in Korea. The Irish there have their own Gaelic football team called Seoul gaels. I know an Irishman called Kevin who married a Korean girl called soo jung he met there. Maybe your parents' history is like that.

[@Janetseetuh]

It’s not just Koreans. It’s every foreigner born and raised in the US. I’m Mexican American and I always get asked if I can speak Spanish and when I’ve been to Mexico they are surprised when I speak Spanish and can eat spicy food. In my opinion everyone just tries to put us in categories. Like we have to prove we are American enough and in my case Mexican enough. Which is annoying. So I feel you guys 100%

[@justjameka7961]

"IG-NANT!" 😂🤣🤣 My mom and I play with that slang all of the time!🙌🏽😂🤣 Great video by the way!

[@skycedi]

Haha! That’s the classic pronunciation of that word for growing up lol! Thanks for watching the vid too 😁

[@hero1112]

I relate to all of this except the food spicy part. I'm not from korea though I'm from England and I'm half english half kenyan. It's so interesting how even in a different country people experience the same things.

[@jesay29]

This is true in so many levels especially in my case! I’m Filipino but I don’t look like one. It’s good to know that other people experience it to!

[@elizabethseiden1867]

As a kid, my moms friends daughter Veronica is Korean and black. We grew up together. She’s gorgeous!

[@megsstorystore8210]

I'm half korean half Indonesian! Wish I could meet you guys someday cause I relate so much to him!

[@cjcollins7125]

Haven't been back to South Korea for 15 years, but I stay close to the Korea American Communities in the US. As I aged I started looking less Korean, and I started to get " ohh, you speak Korean well" but I started to embrace the shock value. But if I lived in Korea, it would probably get old.

[@dmitrykim3096]

Not all Koreans eat spicy food

[@changhwanpark9754]

I am surprised this good video even doesn’t have a Korean subtitle

[@tessiechu6785]

Halfie Project & Skycedi, your Moms must be very proud of you both. When is the wedding? Cedric, am proud of your Dad, taught you right. Confidence in yourself!! You guys be blessed & stay blessed & please get married quick & keep discovering each other!! Peace, love & happiness!!

[@64HomeMade]

If you're mixed race people say the same thing and it doesn't matter where they come from they always ask " where are you from?" And you always know what comes next.

[@k.a.esportstalk]

Hey Cedric I was in the Philippines and every time I was dealing with customer service the saying was "You speak English really well for a Korean" This is after I showed them my USA passport. Even from other places in Asia, you will get the same types of comment u guys mentioned in your video. Lol

[@skycedi]

Haha! King, I guess you can’t escape it anywhere you go.

[@thecopperbroom3657]

Just found out that my father's mother is Filipino and not Black, like I think I just "assumed"... Now checking out that part of my unknown cultural heritage (DNA Test found this)... It's been a bumpy ride, but I've learned so much... Never assume!

[@AmethystIcelynn]

I've got similar experiences in Asia too. I'm mixed Eurasian. It's quite severe on my chinese side, but not so much on my Japanese side. I've had questions such as "Can you/do you eat Japanese food/ Chinese food" or they get shocked when I can read blogs. There was also one incident in Yokohama where the girl at the restaurant did not look at me when I was speaking to her in Japanese, but looked at my friend who looked more Asian who did not speak Japanese. I guess we mixed Asians go through similar things in Asia. However,I'm currently with a South Korean guy so in a way I'm exposed to Korean culture too.

[@TheHalfieProject]

Hey! Hope you'll check out the Halfie Project (Becky's channel) - we address those kinds of experiences :)

[@AviChetriArtwork]

I don't know, I'm really ignorant here. But Becky seems to be "passing" as a Korean to me. I imagine if you don't really focus on her ethnicity in a crowd or as a stranger. I would say that she is fully Korean.

[@AviChetriArtwork]

@Nikolai Belinski I agree, self-identification is the only identification we should use for the question, "where are you from"?

[@AviChetriArtwork]

@Nikolai Belinski I imagine you would have to be a South Korean citizen for it to be mandatory.

[@LimingLyn]

I get your annoyance and definitely can identify with you. Grrr Ignorance is Bliss. Let it out haha 😂 🤣 soo you know how to use chopsticks. It’s an international issue and that my friend is how we learn to have patience AND to keep our cool as we grind our teeth to knobs. BTW, love the background music, did you plan that ohh that’s so American of you; 😆 Becky is a great guest... your project is wonderful and it can ID to many bi/multiracial peoples. Here in Canada get the same question, seriously where exactly are you from? I interact with many international students, so I read their dossiers and learn some simple words and some culture about their home. Especially food that’s a great conversation opener. Cedric another good one.

[@skycedi]

Thanks for the feedback and sharing. Oh, and I didn’t even think about the chopsticks one either haha. But yeah, I think having this sort of open dialogue just helps us understand one another.

[@thatsvickiIRL]

I was just talking about this - many Asians will not want to address and/or deal with the black half and is more accepting to the white half. This is fact and based on my own personal experience, it is really sad. Either way however just being part of the "other" (not Asian) is a struggle. I see it in my own family how mixed kids are treated depending on their skin color.

[@christian_person5058]

Thats Vicki that’s sad. Sorry to hear that u are judged based on your color. Your beautiful and just ignore the racist people! God bless u and ur family! 😊

[@starking9794]

hamburger cannot be compared to spicy Korean food because hamburgers are for everybody, but spicy Korean food cannot be tolerated by many foreigners.

[@Xiaoxiao_my_love]

Something that annoys me is when I say I’m half Asian and they say “really your Asian I had no idea🤯” it’s every time, every time

[@joiceife]

Yes I am half Korean and half Brazilian. I really get you❤️

[@thenobleone-3384]

I'm glad y'all are sharing this I didn't know anything about my dad's race. Both of u should look at Lacey Schwartz she didn't know she was biracial until she got to college.

[@cjcollins7125]

One time I was at my great Uncle's home, and my full Korean nephew who has only ever lived in America and had very limited Korean, and my elder try to speak to him in Korean, and then me being a halfbreed spoke better Korean and had to translate the conversation. Then my elder requested that I get my sister on the phone to ask her why did the half breed speak better Korean than her son.

[@tiahna9595]

I am half black and half white, and in high school, my friend and teacher thought I was asian. When learning Korean and showing my teacher the different characters she was like "ArE YoU KoReAn"? I was like "No . . 😐 . . the heck"? The other time I would hang out with one of my asian friends a lot in a group in high school, and one of my other friends was like "Hey, you're cousins right"? I was like "no" he thought that we were for some time. 😂

[@ElusvOptmst1]

I am an American, living in America and I always get... You are not from here? Where are you from? You speak with an accent (but I do not hear it when I speak.) My parents are both from Central America, but their parents originally came from various Caribbean locations, via migration to Central America. Myself, I was raised in America from a very early age. Also the Hispanics often talk to me in Spanish. However, I only speak English. lol It just fascinates me, how dumbfounded people are. If they would think, people migrate and have various ethnicity throughout the world. This is a globalized society with diversity. Usually I just laugh it off and give them a short family history. It can be annoying at times though.

[@lilycakes49]

I really like how natural the flow in this video 😊 It's very informative and many of the points can work with anyone who is bi-racial or racially ambiguous. I've heard the exotic quote and never have understood it.

[@skycedi]

Thanks for the feedback! It was an easy and fun video to make with Becky, who speaks well. That’s funny about the exotic comment, isn’t it? Not sure if the people saying it even knows what it means hahaha

[@chazsutherland]

Because y'all are so upbeat I won't go into the details of being Hapa in central Texas during the Vietnam war, soooo a lighter story is when my then very white fiancée (now my very white wife) met my Korean family, my cousin's wife [Gyopo] took her aside and said she admired her being so white because the rest of the family wouldn't expect her to know the language or customs and eyeroll her for making mistakes. Anyway "Viva Hapa!" ... btw, my Korean still sucks.

[@crzazn8862]

I think it’s funny that people still always ask “what are you?” in America, when I’m clearly American. I’m half Korean but people only assume I’m Japanese or Chinese & I’m like there are many other ethnicities! That’s just my pet peeve though.

[@wombathappinessgirl7563]

Gorgeous you two ❤️❤️❤️

[@Kaylee-ov6kh]

Do you have any tips on how to deal with people that are shaming you for being half korean because I'm half, korean and half white and i get shamed a lot for it.

[@TheHalfieProject]

Hey :) Hope you'll check out The Halfie Project (Becky here) - this channel discusses those very topics.

[@claricetat1578]

This could be micro aggression or something others might be frustrated about cos of lookalikes lol but I sometimes get people talking to me very very slow like I don’t understand english lol

[@ily.velvet]

This many half koreans watched this video 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@abfire1175]

the thing is we cant hold peoples opinion but just shake it off and not be too sensetive or get frustrated about it..im filipino and used to be westeners joke about my accent & height but i take it in funny way and we all could just laugh about it. Be mature to handle it "peace 🤞"

[@Shibaa..]

[[ ranty ]] As a half Korean half English person I get a lot of things similar to this video, heccing relatable asf, but also in England as well. For example, I was walking around with my fully Korean mother and fully Korean cousin around England, and we met a man who asked where 'we' were from. My mum said, "oh, we're from Korea!" And then the man nodded... Pointed at me and said "What about her?" Then, when my mum said "oh she's my daughter", the guy kinda brushed his chin, Waited, then said "so the father is English?" ~-~- I think this was the point where I really realised that I don't mix in with my family, I stick out on both sides and it sucks. I want to live in Korea some day, but I don't have a sufficient grasp of the language. I can understand 75% of conversation but I can speak about 20% competently but even then it's hard to get my voice heard because either people don't expect me to speak or give me a chance to formulate a sentence... My friends ( who are mostly Asian by chance, lots of 'only Asians understand' jokes etc ) sometimes also discount me because of my split heritage. Even saying that I "don't understand" eating rice everyday because "I'm just half" They don't mean it, of course, but I don't understand why I'm always assumed to not experience similar upbringings as them, what with my father rarely at home ( works away and usually stays in bed and breakfasts through the week, coming home at the weekends to laze around or go to parties. We don't spend much time together ) What sucks most of all though I think is not being able to get to know my relatives beyond their speaking manner and what they say. For example, I could tell you that my grandma is prideful, even more than average, and very generous, but not much beyond that. I want to get to know my Uncle, who basically risked his life for me once, breaking his ankle in the process, and my aunts who I know are completely different but can't say how. Worse of all, I'll never get to know my grandad, because my only memory of him was him buying me these awesome training chopsticks when I was ~5, and well, the fact that my Korean name is the one on his grave. I've been trying to understand the language much better though! I accidentally swore in front of my grandma too when practicing reading !!

[@monero892]

I’m also half Korean / English in the UK and know exactly what you mean ;)

[@dianachung8173]

You guys need to make this video in Korean to help native Koreans out.

[@36137]

Koreans are a very homogenous people. They are NOT used to half Korean people. Most Koreans are 100% Korean. I do not think it is weird that they think of you guys as foreigners. Usually blasian people end up looking more black than Asian anyway. And a lot of Korean-white people can end up looking like latino/latina or almost 100% white. Do you not understand that? I think your Korean parents are aware of that most Koreans are not used to half Korean people....! The same applies to Japanese people. Very homogenous country when it comes to ethnicity.

[@blue_rose4567]

im half korean half british but i look full korean somehow :// and everyone around me knows about my race so they aint shocked when i speak english

[@ChristianC-gy1ym]

"You speak Korean well"... yeah that one must get old super fast. But i think the expectation is that if you are mixed, they just assume that your core influence comes from the other side. Just like in america, if you're half white half black, white people don't regard that person white anymore. although... this issue has some more deeply rooted racist connotation (but that's another topic for another day) but anyway, yeah that must get annoying fast. I, on the other hand, am full korean. but having been born and raised in america, my korean is barely at a conversational level. for example i'll be able to talk to my parents in korean about simple things but if i have to explain some complex ideas or thoughts, i'm foow. my korean just recently accelerated rapidly when i went out with a yuhakseng a couple years back, she taught me a lot mainly by correcting my broken korean. she also introduced me to a lot of korean tv shows and movies.

[@vanassayang7144]

I can totally see how people saying you speak korean well can be annoying, but I think they say that bc there’s a lot of 2nd gen full koreans who CANT speak korean at all and only understand it.

[@blackkorea7260]

I'm sure that stuff is annoying. Koreans view themselves as a single race. It could be worse. Koreans ask me to dance or assume I can play basketball. I'm dabbing or dunking depending on the day.

[@skycedi]

Lol!! Dabbing or dunking hahaha. Yes, that’s true and I think that’s where a lot of those comments come from.

[@happynappyable]

why half why not just korean and black ( leave out percentage concept) you're korean and African american and can claim both fully . Also the backhanded compliment that half koreans are pretty is assuming full koreans aren't pretty and that they need to be 'mixed' to be considered pretty comes across as internalized racism to me.

[@janetday5431]

You do know that everyone is mixed race! Their are no pure blood people. Some people think they are ,but they are just being ignorant. Read a book on genetics. Then you will think differently!

[@elizabethseiden1867]

Amazing video! I love half Korean people! Super cute!😍❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ChoyJoy]

Lol it’s like when people tell me I speak English really well. English is my only language. I understand where people are coming from, because I am (adopted),Korean - so I guess I don’t look American but it does get annoying. Many times people assume I don’t speak English so they practically shout at me and speak really slow so I understand them better, that’s annoying too.

[@christinekim361]

I think the reason why, Korean people say, wow you really Korean food well, like kimchee or Korean BBQ, is because it's very different. Where a hotdog, hamburger, pizza, or a sandwich is very universal. I know a lot of people including my brother in law who refuses to try Vietnamese food. One of my friends will never want to try Tai or any other foreign food. Kimchee is very pungent, so A lot of non-Koreans will refuse to try it. So if you're half Korean, they just assume that you weren't brought up with Korean delicatessen. They are still surprised that our food is so well-liked. I think that's why they keep saying that even if you told them, I grew up eating it. I think a lot of Koreans in Korea, don't realize how popular Korean BBQ is in America. Just my two cents. lol great topic.

[@hyaha7319]

Hahaha even chinese people just by saying ni hao which is mean hello they already assumed that your are speaking Chinese very well 😂

[@vasileios9294]

i'm half filipino and half korean, and people annoy me like *"Hey! are yoy korean? really? cool! lets be friends!"* like tf? some people only wants to be friends with since im korean ㅍㅅㅍ

[@helenofaurora2106]

I think the reason Koreans are so surprised when a halfies can speak Korean has lot to do with the Korean American singers who they were exposed to in the media. Many did not speak Korean and if they did it was pretty poor. I know more halfies who speak better Korean than second generation Koreans in America when both their parents are Korean. I am a halfie in my early 60's and speak Korean pretty fluently. My halfie friends from childhood still do speak some Korean, although their listening skills are better than their speaking skills. (We live in the US) I think our Korean mothers felt it was very important to learn the Korean language and culture. BTW, I don't know how it is now but all of us, around my age also have Korean names that were given by our mothers or our maternal grandparents.

[@stephpowell7648]

'I don't think I've ever snapped at anyone'............anyone? Really?

[@dmitrykim3096]

Generalizing is almost always a bad thing

[@jasmine_88]

Becky looks a lil like Tasha Reid ( Yoon mi rae) the singer

[@anamartinez4061]

I am not mix but i still get told ...oh u speak English very well. Me thinking to myself i grow up in the U.S.A ....a course I do.

[@thenobleone-3384]

I remember an Asian girl I was in Elementary school with her last name was Montiel and she had skin like Manny Pacquiao.

[@bohemiansusan2897]

My biggest pet peeve is to be told that I speak English well. Of course I do, I been speaking it my entire life. Next are guys immediately going into thinking that I'm an exotic sex toy. Thirdly that I'm some kind of brainless slave who lives to serve any man. Eeeewwwww! I go to Spokane to a Korean restaurant and if it's not Korean food day, they move heaven and Earth to cook a Korean meal for me after saying that I miss my Mother's Korean food. My beau is 66 and the first thing he said when we started dating 4 years ago is that I'm the nerdiest woman he's ever met. Months later, he was telling me that in all the places he's been stationed, he was the most attracted to Korean women because we are the most gorgeous inside and out. Plus we are the nerdiest. He's been in Vietnam, Japan & Korea. As to reactions when with other mixed, Korean or white, they are jarred ny my being a middle aged Goth. 😃