"Are Traps Gay?" | ContraPoints

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[@ContraPoints]

Risky title I know. I really did my best to avoid making this video, but sometimes an idea nags you for month after month and you can't stop thinking about it, and when that happens it's sometimes best to trust your creative instinct and hope you aren't out of your mind. Of course sometimes you are out of your mind. And maybe I am. But that's not for me to say.

[@salemronkartz6866]

THANK YOU QUEEN

[@EsquireNapalm]

thank you comrade

[@fire2fireable]

[@M00xVlog]

it's youtube, titles are everything. also thank you for the new video!!!

[@apologia4422]

Very admirable indeed

[@gracejuice]

“will there be transsexuals in the ethnostate?” is hands down the worst sentence i’ve ever heard

[@vanhunts6238]

There will be ONLY transsexuals in the ethnostate!

[@colef5126]

LMAO if he actually said that I would have literally died

[@ElliWoelfin]

I saw this quoted a few times in the comments. I figured it was Nat saying it. I was so naïve.

[@trascendentalsunset]

Sounds like a sitcom concept

[@cloverose3974]

Socialist Republic of Trans-ylvania

[@elsagrace3893]

You’ve made abundantly clear, intentionally or not, how much basic human decency depends on dealing with ones own shame.

[@NovackGeorgeTT1971]

That's quite an insight...

[@autherside3152]

This!

[@theearthisaseriesoftubes3768]

This is one of the best comments on KZbin

[@felipevitorino7745]

Foreshadow

[@irisofrosebloom8741]

foreshadow indeed

[@898samtheman]

I was once asked if I was gay since I brushed my teeth and washed my face. If that's what being gay is, then I don't wanna know what being straight is.

[@ollievendor7413]

Real men dont take care of themselves. They need their mommies or girlfriends to do it for them or they're gay. XD

[@plutodile]

real men embrace their rotting teeth age 25

[@oimate6357]

It’s thanks to things like these that I hate masculinity

[@oscartanyimboh3743]

Dum de de dum dum da

[@Starakz]

lmfao

[@apriljack3172]

If dating trans women is gay, then dating trans men is straight and I feel like most straight men wouldn't genuinely think that about like a hairy muscular trans man

[@jasminepandit9861]

underrated comment bruh

[@lucyandecember2843]

@Hunter Rayna truly

[@witmoreluke]

....That's an AWESOME point.

[@julian7247]

pure genius

[@julian7247]

@@IchBinDeinGott not sure if youre building on the established joke or kinda missing the point

[@T1J]

the last part of the video is on point. the 'is this gay' game is so exhausting. it becomes so much more freeing when you just stop giving a shit and learn who you are and what you're into. In fact exploring different things and being open to new feelings has confirmed my identity as a straight man to a much larger extent than freaking out over what is and isnt "gay." I think i'm pretty straight but sometimes I've felt like i'm "less straight" than other guys, but I think that's just me defining "straight" as 'insecure" lmao

[@MG-sn3fk]

I love you :3

[@SunlessDawn]

Same here. If I have to classify myself I use the dreams I have. From 100 dreams about sex or relationships, 99 are with women and 1 is with a man. That looks pretty straight to me, why should I put any energy into denying the 1%? There are probably straights out there who get the 100% so I'm "less straight" than them, but who cares (also I doubt it because they are probably just in denial, haha).

[@wernerbeinhart2320]

@@SunlessDawn who are you trying to convince?

[@donatodiniccolodibettobardi842]

I think that realizing that some of the things you were very anxious about are stupid and not worth of your sanity is part of the "growing up" process. There are nuances, of course. Teenagers and adult people of similar mindset *rebel.* They protest. They go into extremes. People who grow out of their fear and anxiety, they just... don't need to, they don't care. They can confront real issues instead, without working themselves up. It won't be a stretch to say, that for some stopping caring means fully embracing their bigotry instead, and starting to justify it... Happily, it's not the case for all of us.

[@Guppyg53]

Seriously who cares how "gay" something is just enjoy what you like as long as you arent harming anyone

[@grumpyotter]

I used to be bartender and for some reason, "What would you do if a gay man offered to buy you a drink?" was a common topic of conversation. Almost universally, the man to whom this question was posed would respond, "I'd kick his ass!" I'd always say "Couldn't you simply say 'no thank you'?" But apparently no. Even being offered a drink by a gay man must put gay cooties on you that can only be removed by punching.

[@grumpyotter]

@randomer1432 Well that's good. But for many men, apparently it scares them.

[@fangsabre]

I mean I'd love to be bought a drink by a gay man at a bar. But I'm a Bisexual man soooooo

[@grumpyotter]

@@fangsabre And even if you weren't--you might not be interested in the particular man--but would you want to beat him up?

[@grumpyotter]

@randomer1432 I wish tone of voice carried in text. Yes! My reply was just--"Hey, you get it! You aren't one of those Neanderthals!"

[@richwedge4377]

sargoy shekelsberg not to #notallgays, but seriously- NOT ALL GAYS ARE LIKE THAT! Your hatred of gays because of a bad experience you had with one is the same prejudice that caused the holocaust and led to the murder of millions of innocent people.

[@friendlyneighborhooddg]

I literally typed in "Are Traps Gay" and this came up!!! Congratulations!!! I got it explained by you instead of anyone else haha great video. Thank you for falling to the level of the ignorant and explaining it so thoroughly. Personally, I appreciate this video so much.

[@Ludlose]

Same, but the opening scene had me thinking I was in a fever dream

[@Bibbers]

What do you think of femboys?

[@NinaSelene]

@@Bibbers femboys are literally femenine boys. Many gays are into it, and some straight, bc as this video says, sexuality is complex, so it doesn't answer to a whole sexuality

[@cronchybo]

@@NinaSelene there are some trans feminine people who do identify with the label 'femboy'

[@Sahtoovi]

@@cronchybo the vast majority of those people do it to gain validation from transphobic cis guys. For the same reason trans-positive porn gets significantly less views than trans porn where terms such as sissy or femboy are used, as despite being transphobic in this context, they're words often used by cis men to refer to trans women.

[@noah5664]

Straight men will think blue people form Avatar are hot but are disgusted by trans women they didn’t even clock

[@alexnedved6830]

"They're either grossed out by it, or trying to get inside."Sometimes both.

[@mikelmontoya2965]

LOL

[@notsosadbart6343]

Honestly I love the "fellas is it gay..." meme because at this point it's turned into making fun of guys who are overly sensitive about their masculinity. Like, is it gay to eat strawberries? I mean they got SEEDS in em??? at least that's the direction I've seen it go. And I'm proud that's where our society has gone

[@fanfandom551]

Ah I love finding someone who thinks the same! :)

[@sweetpea3134]

aS a cIs fEmALe, I also agree it is fun to see these memes.

[@fanfandom551]

@@sweetpea3134 Sorry, I'm confused? It's really hard to get tone across the internet

[@sweetpea3134]

@Fan Fandom Oh it's fine! For the most part, people type like tHiS as a way of mocking something or someone. So, by me saying "aS a cIs fEmALe", I'm just poking fun at myself for stating my gender when it really isn't vital to enjoying the meme. Hope I've explained it ok! ^^"

[@fanfandom551]

@@sweetpea3134 ah phew! :) I thought you were like making fun of us for liking it? Idk I was confused, thank you for clarifying!!! Also your name is really cute

[@spacegay9309]

Oh, I am cis, but I can assure you my passage is anything but sacred

[@peterpalmato467]

Omg this comment

[@empyrea_2546]

As a cis, I relate to this comment 🤣

[@bashattack2414]

As a non binary person with a vagina and tits since birth, who also likes women, vaginas are a gateway to hell. And man do I love it. Except for the periods. Fuck periods. P.S. Women are pretty, prove me wrong

[@Xxsorafan]

Blasphemous

[@miatownsend6088]

As a bisexual woman ive made ir a habit to ask the straight men i date “have you ever questioned your sexuality?” And girls and gays let me tell you you will get to know them so much from their response to that question

[@MissPoplarLeaf]

Ooh, gonna write that down for if I start dating again. Honestly that's why I feel like I'd prefer to date bi guys. There just isn't so much of a risk of that potential insecurity

[@clairekim2525]

That’s ingenious! I tend to be wary about dating or even befriending cishet men but the few I can think of whom I like would not only be comfortable answering that question, but genuinely interested in discussing the topic with me. I can also confidently say that unfortunately most cishet men I’ve interacted with probably would NOT have a good reaction to the question.

[@RollingOnFire]

A few times when I was drunk and guys were flirting with me I'd ask them if I could "do stuff to their butt hole" the convo ended.

[@leewitte4700]

I would enjoy that conversation, but I identify as a male bodied non-binary gynosexual.@@clairekim2525

[@CubiTorres]

No there’s a risk of stds

[@Draukagrissah]

"I'm not gay" Denial's not just a river in Africa past Natalie lol

[@slaterrox23]

"STOP PLAYING 3D CHESS AGAINST YOUR OWN BRAIN AND FIND SOMETHING REAL TO WORRY ABOUT" okay well that was an uncalled personal attack but fair call

[@boamopuffs3917]

scrolled the comments before watching beyond the "unless u clock my makeup dickbag" now i have to brace myself for the psychic damage i'm about to take ...still worth it

[@MarieGiovanola]

15:55

[@samuelcolunga8156]

Same.

[@awesome331000]

The section about "the feminine penis" has been really, really helping me with my dysphoria. I still want a sex change but it's a lot easier to feel like a woman without it thanks to your words in this video. Thank you a lot.

[@CarraigButler]

Same asf I got the surgery planned but part of me feels guilty because I feel like I should accept it but I can’t

[@CarraigButler]

@thatCapN Crunch damn yeah im in like a whole different place 8 months later and yeah nah im pretty much set for surgery. fuck this thing lol. but its nice only having 2 real sources of dysphoria now as opposed to like everything . a lot has changed in 8 months. ig the only thing to really do is work harder on my voice and/ or accept that it just is the way it is. 🤷‍♀️

[@LogicGated]

Fellas is it gay to educate yourself on a topic and then amend your behaviours to prevent the discrimination against a group of people?

[@iantaakalla8180]

Unfortunately to some people, yes. It is gay to care about the lives of “gays” because that is how far they’ll push being a male liking a female or a female liking a male.

[@bird4816]

Yes

[@jackhawk8997]

Tremendously, and it's okay

[@shronkler1994]

yeah, the gays are getting out of control, on their non binary mission to shove a plant based diet down everyone's throat.

[@ardugaleen2231]

I don't fucking know anymore dude, what is true what isn't what is gay what isn't

[@guillemceciliamassana807]

Lip peaks are sisters, not twins

[@LadyLucyla]

So are eyebrows but mine are more like third cousins twice removed

[@oof-rr5nf]

@@LadyLucyla lmaoooo

[@hyvo9800]

im a straight guy that you would probably expect to act like the stereotype you described in this video and ill admit at one point that is how i thought but finding your channel has really opened my eyes to the trans community as a whole and really made me shift my perspective so, thanks.

[@MaxOakland]

Hyvo you’re awesome

[@jen5094]

Nice!

[@shiningdawn8578]

@Joshua Jung Please don't flaunt your awful understanding of your religion. It doesn't make you look either smart or loving.

[@raventrunite6459]

Hyvo when people have the ‘2 genders !!’ debate in my...acquaintance circle, (i’m like 15 lmao it happens a lot), instead of repeating the same spiel they’ve heard 18 times, i usually link them to contra to be like ‘...here’s a trans person, just like.....think about it’

[@Brooke-rw8rc]

@Joshua Jung congrats on Poeing this thread so hard. XD @Hyvo cheers, mate! Welcome to sanity!

[@GiorgioCapocasa]

I typed "are traps gay" looking for a vaush-like shitpost commentary and I found you. What an absolute gem of a video: you're a charming, witty and eloquent host and the production quality is top notch! A true joy to listen to and watch, while being informative, provocative and highly educational. Half-queen, you've got a new sub!

[@beckyginger3432]

Awww you are exactly she was looking for with this video

[@paulbladder2]

Bro it's hilarious how this channel made me go from a snobby conversative fuck to questioning my gender in a matter of months, shit hit me like a train Thanks for making me based Natalie

[@ilexdiapason]

how ya doing with the gender

[@paulbladder2]

​@@ilexdiapason So funny story, I've pretty much given up transitioning. I was really determined at first but as I started to become more and more aware of my looks and voice and etc I got myself in a horrible place. So I gave up. Now I'm pretty content, I could be a femboy who knows lol. I still have tiny waves of dysphoria sometimes, and doing feminine things still gives me euphoria, but I've been living around it I think I make a pretty good ally now though 😎😎

[@ilexdiapason]

@@paulbladder2 yeah, the best allies are the ones who did the gender questioning and came out the other side comfortable with themselves !! i have a lot of things i could say actually and i dont think all of them are gonna be relevant so ill just say, whether you're a fem-presenting guy, a girl who isnt gonna pursue those feelings for your own reasons, or maybe even nonbinary (like myself lol) the gays are always here and we're happy to have you

[@anna-fleurfarnsworth104]

I just call myself genderweird bc the most stress for me came from trying to find a label

[@Princetopher_]

Wholesome comment thread

[@colleen6440]

There was a plot in The Sopranos where a man had to hide that he liked going down on his girlfriend because people would think he was gay. For going down on a woman. Everything is gay apparently.

[@altrocks]

I was hijacked/kidnapped by my male relatives and friends the night before I got married and taken to a club where women would dance provocatively for money. In the private dance area there were cubicle walls that separated the seats each man would sit in while the woman danced. One man was brought back there by the woman he had chosen and upon seeing that other men were enjoying the dancing of other women within the same general area declared, "This is gay!" and ran away with his literal cowboy hat on his head. The woman he was with tried to convince him that what was going on was the opposite of gay and everyone else where laughed about it because this guy was so wrapped up in his supposed masculinity that he couldn't even enjoy a lap dance because other men were nearby and might see him or be seen by him. Literally everything is gay.

[@medes5597]

I was told by a guy that washing your balls was "the gayest thing" because you were touching someone's balls. I remember just staring at him and wondering what the fuck.

[@stubbypepperroni2357]

@@medes5597 I think that was a joke.

[@andrewn7263]

@@stubbypepperroni2357 Fellas, is being a man gay? I mean you're basically walking around with a d i c k a n d s h i i i i

[@darrinEH]

ur gay

[@AwqCutie]

I know it isn't the same but hearing the line "living in a country full of people that will jerk off to you but won't give you rights" as a cishet black women really hit me in the gut. I think from an early age I never had an issue accepting trans people because I have always been fetishized, stereotyped, and disrespected and I could recognize that pain in others. I'm still learning of course I still fuck up and it's embarassing but I'm still gonna try

[@karimqk1895]

That's a great insight, never really made that connection but it makes sense

[@saal0]

Jezzebels and nannies. But rights? Nah. Stay strong ❤️

[@serenity6831]

Please let's be friends, that's literally where I'm at

[@samanthastephens5285]

Oh wow as a black woman living in the midwest this is a fucking mood I know I'm an incredible person but in a community where so many men have "never been with a dark woman before" (direct quote), the feeling of being DESIRED but UNWANTED is palpable

[@samanthastephens5285]

@@drunkoctopus6769 calling someone a slur isn't "basic human respect"

[@Ilsezwarts]

nothing's gay if you're terrified of both romantic or sexual relationships. or you know. people.

[@personmcdudeguy]

finally my kinda argument

[@a.pourihosseini]

"We'll suddenly watch all that shallow wokeness vanish" brings up so much trauma from my teenagehood. If only I had known how people could believe things to make them look good, but should it ACTUALLY happen/exist within family, only then will they show their true colors.

[@xavilefevre4710]

Oh God this hit home for me too. Coming out to people who acted woke my whole life only to reject me the most was a well learned lesson in homophobia

[@Skeloric]

If it is a mere affectation, the day will come when the mask comes off. We all should strive to be people of substance instead of people of affectation. Affectation is a performance piece for amusement and inflection, it is not an identity. Of course, I might identify as right handed but being right handed is not my identity. Being right handed is also the norm. A left handed people reveling in being not the norm is something I fully support as an affectation - as long as there is more to them than their left handedness. People looking for solid certainty in life are doomed to miserable disappointment. I also identify as a Whovian, but being a Whovian is not my whole identity. I think a few people get that the Woke is an identifying characteristic but not an identity, and maybe they'll not fail at that critical juncture when they have to actually apply their "philosophy" in their actual lives rather than merely in the abstract.

[@juliusnolastname4605]

Imagine committing a felony and being sent to jail for most of if not the rest of your life just because you would rather do that than be seen as gay

[@raynaudier8622]

Loolaa Maamoo, especially since you know you'll end up in an all-male environment..

[@spaceclaw1958]

@@raynaudier8622 Imagine living the rest of your life as Your jacked cellmates femme bottom bitch because you didn't want to be seen as gay.

[@OneEyeShadow]

Nah, that's pretty gay.

[@LeapFrog_Radio]

@@spaceclaw1958 lol

[@diannadolly]

well if you're talking about a man tricking a straight man into sex by saying they're a woman, then doesn't the straight men have every right to commit a felony..?

[@JacoIII]

Natalie Wynn is the best argument for the importance of philosophy in the modern era. Understanding, rather than blindly accepting, our own thoughts is important shit.

[@jornalistarenatarosa4205]

yeah its very true, the rising of the body philosophy

[@auto_ego]

I can't help but feel just a little like you're slighting Abigail Thorn, but I appreciate your sentiment. ;)

[@Helperbot-2000]

@@auto_ego lol i was thinking the same

[@anubisfire5402]

"Human sexuality is a multicolor acid trip." Well said.

[@MikeMike-gy6xp]

A lady without a phallus, is a like princess without a palace.

[@silverofthesunbears]

OMG GIRL BYE

[@gangstalkedindividual]

indeed.

[@kimberlee9608]

I nominate Natalie Wynn for “Most Likely To Tell You How It Is” for 2019 senior class superlative

[@kimcoleeppling8177]

I'm a trans woman, and my girlfriend is defo gay

[@mikelmontoya2965]

@@ericsmith4908 How ironic it is for a question about if something is gay to be heteronormative. Lol.

[@resourcedragon]

@@ericsmith4908: some years ago I was thinking about the terms "straight" and "gay" in relation to transgender people and I ended up so thoroughly confused that I came to the conclusion that we should stop trying to put people into boxes.

[@nullptr01]

Same. Wife is gay. She read me the title, and I was like... "No... but yes."

[@apersonwhomayormaynotexist9868]

@@resourcedragon my friends and I have decided to start using "woman enjoyer" "man enjoyer" and other similar terms because we've realized none of us know our own gender well enough to figure out what our sexuality in relation to our gender is so it's easier to just say "women pretty" or "men pretty" or both or neither or other or whatever and leave it there

[@polatouche7221]

Its definitely gay to date a trans woman.. because I am a woman. 🤯

[@Ari-ne2yb]

Checkmate

[@nuridenizdurucu1249]

"In case you haven't noticed, you have fallen right into my trap!"

[@tortis6342]

@@nuridenizdurucu1249 ironic choice of meme?

[@readyfreddie1256]

as a genderqueer genderfuck, i’m pretty sure it’s gay no matter who i date. naturally, to avoid being gay at all costs, i have decided to pursue aromantism.

[@ruthie8785]

eeeeyyyyy

[@dennismazur7826]

"How did you become straight, did they recruit you?" 😂 That was good

[@sorryifoldcomment8596]

32:45 _timestamp for my own record because I love this part_

[@lentlemenproductions770]

Fellas, is it gay to b straight?

[@ironicdivinemandatestan4262]

I mean, half of her genome is from a man...

[@sealogic4552]

Grant Nitz Technically, an X chromosome is just a longer Y chromosome...

[@chaosdeviant62]

Absolutely

[@maximusmedia8412]

Being straight is gay because you’re attracted to something feminine

[@maychan26]

@no, my name is tyler I've been enlightened.

[@Hee443]

Ben Shapiro owned with FACTS and MOUTHFEEL

[@prithvithakur7950]

*m o u t h f e e l*

[@Hedgemonkey5]

@Another Millennial The reason Shapiro has any reputation is because he likes to talk fast and claim he has a source for everything, while knowing no one can fact-check him in the moment. If you really look at his beliefs (his opinion on trans surgeries vs. his opinion on circumcision for example) his 'facts don't care about feelings' rhetoric falls apart pretty quickly, and it becomes obvious that's he's just cashing in on people's ignorance and phobias.

[@lizardperson780]

@@Hedgemonkey5 that's why I like these structured videos better. In general, live debates are worse in actually uncovering a topic and reaching a meaningful conclusion. Especially if you have pseudointellectual dimwits like Shapiro who don't actually care about either of those things, instead they want to "win" the debate at all costs

[@Hedgemonkey5]

@Another Millennial He refers to transgender surgeries as 'mutilation' while they have been shown to have a positive effect on the patient's mental health. He advocates circumcision, which has not been shown to have any medical benefit, and in fact is more likely to be detrimental to the patient overall. Clearly his *feelings* regarding his religion cloud his judgement of scientific *fact* , while he claims to champion the opposite. Is his adversarial behavior towards transgender people formed out of logic? Or from his dogmatic religious views? Is his stance formed from scientific understanding? Or does he misrepresent facts to support his pre-existing, religiously informed opinion?

[@Hedgemonkey5]

@Another Millennial I'm glad you brought up some of Shaprio's lies, namely the false statements he makes about transgender suicide rates before and after transition. This also brings us right back around to the topic of no one checking his sources. Ben's claim that the suicide rate does not change after transition is *categorically untrue* . whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/ let's take a little excerpt from that study: "We conducted a systematic literature review of all peer-reviewed articles published in English between 1991 and June 2017 that assess the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being. We identified 56 studies that consist of primary research on this topic, of which 52 (93%) found that gender transition improves the overall well-being of transgender people, while 4 (7%) report mixed or null findings. " Guess which studies Ben chooses to cherry pick his 'facts' from. His whole following has this "if Shapiro says it, it must be true!" attitude that is really problematic, and really shows how someone with a fast mouth and confident persona can trick otherwise intelligent people into believing in them. You say he has no adversarial attitude towards transgender people, but he opposes the treatments that actually work, is rude and abusive for the sake of 'winning' an argument, and seems pretty obsessed with transgender issues while having no personal stake in them. Pretty weird hill to die on for someone who doesn't have an agenda.

[@anxietyprimev6983]

Came here because I'm gay as fuck for feminine dudes and wanted to see where this would go, left knowing the _exact_ reasons why I should respect my trans homies. Thank you Contra, you have done us all a great service.

[@cxyj4y]

Same

[@1ofEve]

Yeah Im type 3. Tragic. She suggested not to date chasers. First I’m a chubby chaser now I guess I’m a trans chaser. I’ll go sit in the fetish corner with my ally hat on

[@nowa5623]

@@1ofEvejust dont ask to be topped you’ll be fine

[@1ofEve]

@@nowa5623 why?

[@echo.1209]

This video (and a couple others of yours) made me finally reflect and explore my identity properly instead of suppressing any homosexual tendencies. Now I've realised I'm a feminine-presenting man and attracted to all genders

[@auto_ego]

REP RE SENT win it you warrior queen!

[@TheRandomhobo123]

Hay, I actually saw this video on reddit, but had to come here to tell you this. I’m a bi man, and have always struggled with my sexuality because of social stigma and, I really don’t want to admit it, but, suppressed and internalized homophobia, and this video really spoke to me. I need to stop caring about what gender people are, and just go off how attracted to them I am. Thanks for making this!

[@poppybuilt3061]

Hey there, I too arrived here from Reddit. I'm a hetero flexible man who isn't attracted to men but is sexually open to penises, and who finds trans women attractive and would be open to dating one if the opportunity arose. I find this whole debate/scenario highly fascinating, and can understand both sides. On the one hand trans women want to be seen as women. On the other hand, men feel like they have a right to know if a woman is a bio woman or a trans woman when it comes to dating. Watching this video has certainly opened my eyes up some and shown me a bit of a broader angle, which was refreshing. But to deny that there are trans women that specifically enjoy the "trapping" of a cis straight male is disingenuous. Just like there are gay men that specifically target (nay, even fetishize?) straight men, with the delight of turning them "gay for a day". I appreciate her explaination of how attraction essentially is more based on the construct of gender as opposed to the biology/chromosomes. It makes sense. But you also can't deny the biology, even if what we see on the surface of dating/attraction is more based of our social cues of gender. Many men are attracted to larger breasts, which is a biological marker that has to do with reproduction, which has to do with having a viable womb. Taking biological hormone replacements to artificially induce a biological marker thats not "natural" is a form of false advertisement. If I walked around in a police uniform because I identify as copsexual, and you ran up to me cause you just got robbed, and found out I wasn't a sanctioned officer, you might be rightfully upset. I think it all boils down to consent. Sex needs to be about consent. If I'm getting to know a girl, and we are leading up to sex and we finally get to the point where we are about to have sex, and I discover she has a case of genital herpes, am I not within my right to not want to have sex with them, or to be turned off by them? And maybe even be upset that something like this wasn't disclosed earlier? I mean in the video she even brings up the point about preferences. We are allowed our preferences. Now of course, in my example, the girl having herpes does not make her any less of a person or I'm not at all in my rights to use violence on her or treat her like shit. That is never ok to do to anyone, trans women included. But you can see how some people might be upset by something like this, even to the point of getting violently angry. Why risk it? Why not be transparent and save everyone the guessing? Then you don't have to worry about someone liking you for who you are, because you will have been vulnerable and honest. Not every cis straight male is going to be ok with a penis, no matter how feminine. That needs to be ok.

[@petewiggins]

Gender is just a social construct, a statistic. I prefer to call people people

[@cameronrhanna]

@@petewiggins It's a social construct with many dimensions drawing on actual characteristic differences between the sexes, though. Some things are superficial and arbitrary, sure, but others are essentially culturally universal with obvious biological underpinnings. We know a lot about how testosterone modifies behaviour, for example, and it's all pretty conducive to the widespread norm that men display physical courage. And different cultures build on that in different in different ways, maybe natural combativeness gives way to ritualized combat which then gets nerfed and turned into a ceremonial dance performed by men. Obviously the behavioural effects of a sex hormone belong to the sex category, and obviously the dance is part of a social construct, but where do you draw the line? That's an easy, obvious example of what I see as a common trend, gender being built on top of and dependent on actual characteristic differences between the sexes. And if gender is dependent on something physical, on physiology itself, then it saying that it's a social construct fails to fully explain it.

[@OninRuns]

@TheRandomhobo123 Cross the borders to the land of pansexuals! Where we don't really care about your gender nor your genitals and just love you for who you are 💕

[@sam-pf5cs]

proud of u fellow lgbt, keep on dismantling heterosexuality😎

[@alinastarkov]

"real acceptance has to be built on real understanding" I had to pause the video, you're a genius I'm gonna use this quote every day

[@MarbelSoda]

if theres nothing else to take from this video from whatever side your on, take this quote with you.

[@SpoonyBard88]

Reminds me of what Ollie said in his video on transphobia.

[@alinastarkov]

Bard88 oooh what’s the name of the video I wanna watch it!!

[@garabaterodiaz5288]

@@alinastarkov It's called Transphobia, from Philosophy Tube.

[@Rat-Baby]

@MultiTarded I don't see you making any intellectually stimulating, visual intriguing video essays. Go ahead and try to produce an argument as persuasive or arousing as Natalie's. I'll wait.

[@jessecox8486]

I've been telling people for years, the best way to get the message out there, is meeting people where they are. Glad somebody's finally doing this.

[@Alice-gr1kb]

yeah i’ve noticed allot of people on the left are inflexible in these types of arguments which is not good when you want to convince someone

[@MissPoplarLeaf]

Yeah I keep coming back to this video because I feel like it's a great starting point for cis people to understand trans issues.

[@jose-qp4yz]

@@Alice-gr1kb i see it as either some form of religious zeal in left circles (like a burn the heretic zeal) or counter narratives bringing up traumas. im more forgiving of the latter as i think it is brave (maybe a bit foolish) to fight against something that still triggers you

[@alfredcummings6010]

You know, contrapoints, thank you so much for all of your great content. I used to be a self identified member of the alt right, I use to hate trans, gays, and other minorities. Your content got me thinking a little over time as I watched it more and more, and you’ve literally deradicalized me! I couldn’t thank you enough for that, the radicalization of my mind ruined my life for 2 years and thanks to your fun videos, I was able to get out of that downward spiral. You’re a miracle worker :) (This isn’t an ironic or clever joke, you legitimately helped me)

[@becapaige98]

That’s great man! So happy for you!!

[@stonywings5888]

@@RT...... I am not OP, but I have a similar experience. I was a right winger a few years ago too, and content creators like Contra, Shaun, Second thought etc helped me shift perspective. It is definitely an interesting experience, since the common right wing discourse is both very familiar and foreign at the same time. When I see the trap discussion, for example, I can really feel the insecurity I used to feel. At times, you are literally on edge, worried about not appearing manly enough. If I scroll many years back on my twitter account, I am sure I would find many things I could not stand by now. Amongst other things, I was the guy who would be like "well, what about men" on posts where women vent about their problems. Just about all of this, at least in my case, stemmed from insecurity coupled with ignorance. The one perspective I do lack, which is often found in right wing circles, is the religious aspect, as I was never religious. Perhaps that made for an easier transition for me.

[@videosefilmes22]

glad to know you've become a sensible person

[@vilagistene2939]

Natalie Whyn is probably more radical than any Alt-Rightist you've ever watched.

[@readyfreddie1256]

i imagine working yourself out of that kind of mindset can’t have been easy. kudos to you for doing the work, mate

[@Rottilargo55]

So... I’m a cishet guy... and I’ve never been with a trans woman and I’m kinda guilty of being that guy who is outwardly woke but in the dark of night had less than woke impulses about what being with Trans women would be like and what implications it would have for my identity- while knowing intellectually what the right action and right beliefs would be re: gender and sexuality- I’m very thankful for this video because my head is kinda swimming with a lot of different thoughts and impulses about gender right now but I’m pretty sure that once I’ve worked through these arguments and the attendant emotions that go with them I’m gonna be a better human and I have Natalie to thank.

[@tipsheda]

Same

[@astaiannymph]

Thank you for being honest and willing to consider these points.

[@HakWilliams]

You are forgiven

[@FlorianBased]

Same. I'm trying hard to understand what people that are being discriminated against have to go through. Also some of the social structures are really hard to grasp. Everything was so much easier with the ignorant right conservative views that I had 4 years ago when I was 14.

[@rotciv1486]

and hey, now you can try the mouth feel.

[@artichokehandler]

"Yeah I don't identify as gay" -Contra 2020: I'm a total lez

[@indecisive_rose8738]

@@Toxic-th4si lmao sure thing Jan

[@indecisive_rose8738]

@@Toxic-th4si yeah they would but ok not like all lesbians are cis either not like its only lesbians who like women, damn being biphobic and transphobic, you going for the whole collection?

[@HW-sw5gb]

@@Toxic-th4si What alternate reality are you from where people put this much effort and spend this much money on their fetishes lmao?

[@Corvidazed]

@@Toxic-th4si I mean at least your name is true...

[@turquoisecrow4513]

Toxic Pretty sure guys with lesbian fetishes can just go watch porn or be creepy to the lesbian couple three doors down. Really highly doubt they’d go so far for a fetish, at least no more than a small handful which couldn’t amount to every trans lesbian.

[@OnPlanetVenus]

Before discovering Contrapoints, I could have never imagined the term “feminine penis,” and I feel like a complete person now that I have

[@auto_ego]

My cockles warm at you.

[@michaellyga4726]

gock my beloved

[@user-vw4xp5nt9f]

@michaellyga4726 what does the c in cock stand for then 😰😰

[@gamsougher3574]

i'm really thankful for your work, especially as a cis lesbian trying not only to "tolerate," like you say in some vids, but to understand to my best ability the experiences of other women

[@MrFindX]

Cis male here. I definitely felt more comfortable about my sexuality after watching this video. There’s nothing wrong with liking what you like.

[@ArloMathis]

SAME

[@natthewsmith]

Thank fucking god someone heard what was being said. Me too. I appreciate the framing that the conflict is internal to the cis male and that the trans woman is really a bystander in an internal inflict for the male.

[@bboschboi]

@@thehill8353 Fuck You,

[@narsimhas1360]

True

[@cameronrhanna]

@@thehill8353 Not only that, but accepting homosexuality means abandoning the healthy heteronormative values that lead to the sorts of relationships in which you'll actually want children. Sexuality is now seen first and foremost as a tool for self-gratification, and also something deeply personal, with family and children being optional and often unwanted byproducts. The personal nature means that people should be allowed to explore for themselves rather than feeling pressured by, say, the older generation who have already figured things out and learned the value of family. The old-fashioned way was better. Relationships/marriages are about love (or financial security, or duty and posterity) and sex is a happy little bonus that just so happens to make babies. Often babies themselves were the actual point and even if sex was the main focus for some people it's confined by marriage and results in a family. The individualism and hedonism that underlies the acceptance of gays undermines these more functional dynamics and turns even straight people into socially pointless fuck machines. That same individualism and hedonism then accepts into the country an unending flow of "fellow individuals" who are looking for a better life. And the hollowness of childless living is stuffed full of sympathy for little brown babies stuck in cages. It's simply not a morality that can survive and honestly I don't even know it if wants to. Edit: Also, the economic consequences. Being untethered by family and always vying for attention in the sexual market place means spending money to impress people. It drives insecurity. Being childless means being bored and unsatisfied and spending money to try and be otherwise. The economy turns toward supplying useless crap rather than raising children ie supplying the things people actually need to live. Also, 46% of homosexual men were molested as children compared to 7% of heterosexual men. What that suggests to me is that sexual orientation can be shaped by environment and that many who were "born this way" actually became that way through misdeeds of a sexually immoral society. And for identical twins when one twin is gay there's a 7-52% chance that the other will be gay depending on the study and sample. That's for men who share a genome, who shared the hormonal environment of the womb, who probably shared a house growing up and maybe shared the same creepy uncle, and only 52% concordance? It suggests that there are environmental influences and maybe even an element of choice involved in determining sexual orientation. If that's the case then creating a family-oriented heteronormative society doesn't oppress gays so much as it steers them on the right course. You know, the one with normal rates of suicide and drug addiction.

[@kassthered8452]

"...to shitpost my way onto the moral highground." If that is not a perfect motto for your channel than I don't know what is xD

[@WillScura]

You know, I actually stopped using that term because of this video. I even managed to use this video's points to convince my friends to stop as well.

[@DrakeCaliburn]

Me, a year ago: I like watching Contrapoints because she's entertaining, makes interesting arguments, and I (a total "cis man") want to educate myself on trans issues. Me, now: I was such an idiot (trans lesbian now). Also, Natalie is hot, I'm not ashamed

[@pantallazopatucaso]

so glad u found yourself :D

[@sonicthehedgegod]

you got trans’d! congrats to you and natalie for converting another one with the Agenda™️

[@tula1433]

Agp

[@chloejxhnsxn]

contrapoints strikes again. the amount of comments similar to this in her comments on any given video is astronomical

[@stirpiano]

@@tula1433 accelerated graphics ports aren't really too relevant here

[@asdhjk2087]

“Will there be Transexuals in the ethnostate?!” I’m fucking crying lmfao

[@MaticTheProto]

He was secretly hoping for a yes answer

[@discountchocolate4577]

Speaking as someone who was on the path to becoming an alt-right shitlord as recently as 2016, I would like to thank Natalie for continuing to be among those trying their damndest to reach out to folks like me when they're at their garbage tier level of political consciousness. The concept of "meeting people where they're at" and building that continuous logical bridge from confused and unconscious bigotry to genuine (rather than merely performative) wokeness is something the left should take very seriously if we want marginalized people to win the rights they deserve.

[@paradoxacres1063]

That's the problem with Leftists: too high on their moral high ground to be _practical_ enough to actually do some good. It's very frustrating.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@paradoxacres1063 That's a load of rubbish. You're on the channel of a leftist making content to help educate and change the world. That invalidates your point completely.

[@paradoxacres1063]

@@RuminatingRaptor If you were paying _any_ attention to recent ContraPoints videos, you'd see that Wynn herself is annoyed by Leftists' tendency to _not_ be practical. (Hell, you could just re-listen to what she said about people's reactions to her making this video)

[@algonzalez6853]

@@RuminatingRaptor leftists proving they cant even take criticism from their own. its funny how everyone laughed at men's reaction of the Gillette ad, when its just a normal human reaction, like what u did

[@jwell4638]

​@@RuminatingRaptor Anecdotal evidence doesn't invalidate a point.

[@gabrielblanchard3921]

Can't help but giggle after watching "Envy" and then coming back to this video's almost-end line "Well, *that* was long!"

[@sycastells1212]

That's what she said

[@elfodelputoinfierno]

Ok, so story time about how this channel fundamentally shifted something in me: As a lesbian that has known I was in deep for as long as I've had a brain, the thing about "girl dicks" just took a huge huge HUGE chunk of self doubt I've had for literal YEARS away. I never liked men. I look at them with the same level of romatic/sexual interest one would look a puppy or a lamp. They might be nice, nice to have around, to look at too, but nah. Nothing happens. No ditto. But then there's dicks. And it was always this sort of Inside Out congress inside my head where my brain would alrgue with itself to the point of exaustion- you like straps. You think women who use straps are hot. What about... The real thing? What if a woman had it? Would you like it too? And here's the honest answer I never had the courage to give people in general, because they already think it's just A Phase and I don't want them to give me funny looks: yes. Yes I would. Are you kidding? Is a warm strap with feelings! One that my partner can sense through! Of course it's hotter than plastic or silicone or that one time my ex got bright ideas about using one made of glass that almost made me shit myself in fear?? Ok. Too much info, sorry. Back on track, point is: I think my prejudice against dating trans women in general was What About The D. God forbid anyone thinks I like guys in any way other than platonicaly (of course, no shade to my bi and straight sisters but nope. Not for me). So I had a whole other level of the Are ""Traps"" Gay conundrum, as in are they gay enough? Will liking them, as well as their d change such a huge part of who I see myself as a person? Am I bi and biphobing my way out of biness?? To quote Natalie'a fan: No. I still think masculinity as a vibe is absolutely me-repelent, but there's more to manhood and womanhood than just genitals. This perception of trans women and myself just hammered that concept of constructivism down - turns out I'm attracted to femininity, whatever package it may come in. And before gold stars and terfs come to pinch my butt cheeks for giVinG LeSbiAnS A BaD nAMe: I am talking about myself. Every lesbian is different and perceives things differently. Some will sympathise with me, some won't and that's ok. But I don't accept anyone calling me anything but a lesbian JUST because of this, which I now consider to be a minor detail to the whole of my attraction instead of a problem.

[@pranavflame]

Yeah, there's more to sexual attraction and romantic attraction (which is a different thing) than just sex organs. What you said about being attracted to femininity makes sense

[@jonasstrzyz2469]

Genuine question. If femininity is what you are attracted to then would it be more for "gay" for you to have sex with a "femboy" or butch lesbian with muscles, body hair and broad-ish shoulders? By femboys I am refering to guys or men that are extremely femine in terms of their body. And not the slur that is used against trans women. The question is how femine or masculine in terms of appearance and body does a person who one is attracted to have to be in order for it to be gay or straight? I personally don't know how much a persons genital(s) affect my attraction but I do know that when it comes to appearance, femine traits turn me on and masculine traits turn me off. The thing that would make trans women gay for straight man might not be what is between their legs, but a square jaw, broad shoulders and muscles insertions / shapes.

[@pranavflame]

@@jonasstrzyz2469 That's a great way to put it. But I think the word "trap" inherently assumes that the trans woman in question is "passing" as a woman (indistinguishable in appearance from cis women). More than body language / composure (acting "masculine" or "feminine"), this would imply that she looks like a cis woman (in terms of clothing style, body types, facial features, and hairstyle). So really, I think this video is mostly about trans women who "pass" and "trap" straight men, more than about trans women who can be "clocked", or about femboys. (in case it wasn't clear, I don't like using the terminology that transphobes use, but am only trying to enter their POV)

[@jonasstrzyz2469]

@@pranavflame That is fair. My only criticism would be that if "trap" is replaced with "passing trans woman" - it should be made explicitly clear and non-passing trans women should be addressed as well. Natalie only compared the "male" aspect of trans women, which is feminised penis. But because this video is about passing trans women - which is by definition required for someone to be a "trap" - I can understand why she did not adress the question of non-passing trans women. I think that "trans women are women" by itself is overly simplistic and leads to a logical conclusion that most people are not really willing to accept. I do understand why that slogan exists. And agree that for most intents and purposes trans women should be recognized and treated as women by society. If "trans women are women" and straight men are attracted to women, then why should straight men not date trans women? And non-passing trans women are still trans women. After a all, it is not gay for a man to date a woman. I don't believe that you or Natalie or trans women who touch grass have this position. But with self ID being a real thing that people unironicaly defend and terminally online Twitter lefties being a thing... Well, I kind of think that is an important clarification to add.

[@pranavflame]

@@jonasstrzyz2469 I can agree that even leftist discourse needs more nuance about the differences between physical anatomy, internal identity, and external expression. Society needs better vocabulary all around; or rather needs to use the existing vocabulary better. The way I see it, the solution is simple: (a) male/female/intersex should ONLY refer to the 3 categories of physical anatomy (b) man/woman/non-binary should ONLY refer to the 3 categories of internal gender identity (c) masculine/feminine/gender-non-conforming(?) should ONLY refer to the 3 categories of external expression. Maybe language shouldn't be prescriptive. But preventing the intermixing of these 3 distinct concepts certainly avoids any ambiguity, and it still allows "trans (wo)men are (wo)men" to be a sensible thing to say.

[@twills_8452]

i have fallen down the rabbit hole of ContraPoints and i refuse to catch myself. this is quality HOLY GUHDAMN THIS COMMENT BLEW UP THANK YOU ALL! I'M ON TOP OF THE WORLD!!

[@NovackGeorgeTT1971]

You have hit the nail on its side! Well said...!

[@whooah]

Honestly same and I'm having such a good time

[@notmychairnotmyproblem]

Me. I'm on Day 4 of a ContraPoints binge

[@katara2021]

@@notmychairnotmyproblem Me too.

[@katara2021]

@Elijah Feuerstein I'll send you my best wishes instead, stranger. Take care and stay safe 💕

[@molly713]

very contrapoints move to turn an awful meme into sex ed (there's so much great info about so many topics and I think this might be your best video)

[@threehams]

You've got the top search result right now, so I guess the title worked out.

[@HalloWitch93]

This is the first video of yours that I've watched. I'm someone who was brainwashed into the conservative evangelical Christian world since literally the day I was born, and finally managed to break free of those chains last year at age 26. Since then I've been exploring my own identity and found out that I do indeed have a very strong feminine side that I was largely unaware of before; now I don't consider myself trans, as this hasn't been a thing until very recently and I would hate to misrepresent the trans experience, but when presenting feminine I do wish I could do it more convincingly; stubborn neck hairs, beard shadow, and a deep voice don't exactly go away on a whim. That said, I'm enjoying your content and am branching out to other channels like yours in order to get to know myself better. After twenty years of protestant mind control I've gone from being a homophobic choir boy to a cross-dressing witch almost overnight, and I couldn't be happier. ... Well okay, maybe just a little happier, if the summer heat wasn't *literally* melting my made-up face off. Blessed be, and keep doing what you're doing.

[@brunobucciarati7278]

wow what an incredible journey you’re on! whether you’re a trans woman, non binary, or just a drag queen, i wish you the best in your journey! may many more revelations come your way :D

[@HalloWitch93]

@@brunobucciarati7278 Thank you Bruno! I wish good fortune and long life upon you as well. :)

[@Meepersa]

I'm over a year late to this, but I do want to point out that you realizing things late absolutely does not preclude you from being trans. I always encourage people to try out other names and pronouns if they think they'd like them more. Find online spaces where you can do so, and give it a shot, see how it feels. You're not doing trans people a disservice if you identify as one of us without having the very stereotypical "I knew I was a girl since I was 5" story.

[@HalloWitch93]

@@Meepersa Late? Oh hardly. I needed to hear exactly this today and I am so, so grateful to you for saying it. I'm now reasonably convinced that I am a trans woman and am excited to explore my identity further. Thank you so much for your support!!

[@zorodielirido]

why is she so good at making me feel like i understand intellectual things

[@kef0205]

Because of what she says at the start of the video: she comes to where people are. There's a bunch of other stuff, but I think that's the main reason she's so effective at what she does. I hope she runs for office one day, even if only to inspire that quality in other politicians; we could do with more of it.

[@skateordie002]

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough." Her intelligence is no posturing. She's smart but clearly humble about it. I think I'm in love ;)

[@zorodielirido]

faded fella learn to spell, babe

[@zorodielirido]

August Greig she has a PhD in Philosophy

[@genecreamers240]

@@zorodielirido A PhD in philosophy doesn't make one a philosopher.

[@joshwi4193]

I need a Contra choker. By which I mean I need Nat to choke me and whisper sweet logics in my ear.

[@anleg98]

same

[@eve36368]

I choked on my pasta with cheese

[@masta182]

that thing distracted me the whole video, the parts it was in at least. did she find that to buy somewhere as is, did she make it herself, did she commision it, where does it come from? it does look well made.

[@Chipiliro613]

_sweet logics_

[@IsabellaAAH]

I unironically come back to this video somewhat frequently for that tucking guide

[@fudanshigaymer7025]

Real

[@LaArtifice]

I am cis woman in a relationship with a trans woman, and I can say: if someone approaches a transwoman and doesn't like woman, sooner or later the will be very dissapointed.

[@ShadowGriffin9019]

I'm a cis-het guy and I came to this video for the meme, and I left with a broadened knowledge and respect for transwomen. In addition, this video made me reevaluate my own views towards all trans people and my own sexuality. Thank you :)

[@Houlgravely]

Gayyyyyyyyyy

[@ShadowGriffin9019]

@@Houlgravely no u

[@Houlgravely]

@@ShadowGriffin9019 gayyyyyyyyy

[@JeffRB]

Yeah like what the fuck does cist mean

[@JeffRB]

Thank you chi chiu, if that is true,

[@aaggsmyhoopt2428]

Natalie, I gotta say this video actually helped me a lot. I was very confused about my sexuality and why I felt attracted to trans women as well as cis women and I didn’t know if that made me bi, pan, etc. I was even more confused since I didn’t find trans men attractive and naturally didn’t know what that meant. This video actually helped me confirm my sexuality and what I like. So from the bottom of my heart.. Thank you.

[@vowgallant4049]

I recommended this video to someone who kept argueing that trans people shouldn't be offended by "trap". It was incredible watching them make point after point, gotcha question after gotcha question, all of which you address in the video, at me instead of just...watching the video.

[@bird4816]

I think it should still be considered a compliment.

[@goliaththetrap8489]

Well, context is important. One thing is referring trans people as "traps", which I despise. Another is one cis-guy cross-dressing using cute thing and referring to himself as "trap", and get treated like a shit, just for the word. Fun Fact, that happens a lot times on twitter.

[@the_last_ballad]

On her video about JKR, there's someone doing the exact same thing but with JKRs transphobia. It's amazing the lengths someone will go to in order to avoid being confronted with an opposing viewpoint, even when they're searching out a video about that viewpoint and spending hours commenting on it, over days or weeks.

[@terrymbridges]

“Dumpster diving for validation” is my new motto.

[@NovackGeorgeTT1971]

We dumpster dive in unison. Our validation is now complete.

[@amez643]

"my aspiration is to derive a woke conclusion from edgy premises, to shitpost my way into the moral high ground."

[@GenkiGanbare]

The ethos of a generation

[@cactusc9519]

never have i been more disappointed to give the 70th like to a comment, but that comment deserves it.

[@jessika-violadbarghest1338]

🖤🖤

[@vexingvexillologist7554]

@@cactusc9519 That's a mood and a half

[@th3rasave]

Contrapoints:it's over bigots! I have the highground!

[@liamwhite1719]

watching this video in 2022 where a 45 minute video is considered "long" is hilarious knowing the lengths we get to.

[@SuperMaramau]

'Stop playing 3D chess against your own brain and find something real to worry about.' I'm going to use that the next time someone tells me that plants also have feelings.

[@iantaakalla8180]

When plants do feel thus thigmotropism

[@shadowgloria]

As a cisgal who had always been supportive of the trans community, I can't say enough how grateful I am to have found Queen Natalie's channel. Her approach to sharing her experience is so funny, but so blunt and honest, that I feel like I genuinely get a glimpse into some of what it means to live in our world as a transwoman. Natalie is willing to answer the tough questions that I'm too nervous to ask my trans friends for fear of making them feel alienated or othered. If, by some fluke of chance, our Lady reads this comment, I hope what she takes from it is that she's doing some great things for the world. ❤

[@WELSHGAMER99]

Agreed also Love your profile pic

[@linuxeve5696]

I see that Portal 2 icon, my fellow man of culture.

[@panterxbeats]

@@principleshipcoleoid8095 "someone murdered someone because of who they are, so?" what is wrong with you

[@principleshipcoleoid8095]

@@panterxbeats no. I didn't say that. I said that normal word was used by stupid monster. Well, bigots also breathe. Ok, give me alternative word to discribe "someone biologically male who looks like female", that isn't slur. Well, no one would know meaning of new word, so it would be usless.

[@billheughan637]

If only we all could do such gud

[@Vanalovan]

“Why is no one talking about the mouthfeel?” Natalie: “hold my beer”

[@Frank-ju8qr]

"Hold my milk"

[@TheLithp]

I was absurdly excited that she titled a section "The Mouthfeel."

[@mathieuleader8601]

Hold my cuppa of tea

[@quizzicalsphinx]

@@TheLithp I was crossing my fingers in hope that there would be a callback to "the mouthfeel" and Mother Contra did not disappoint.

[@theDENIMMAN]

Finally somebody is talking about the mouthfeel

[@mauriccey1369]

Wow, this video helped me to actually understand trans!people. I've been one of those liberals you mentioned who'd respect t*people and use proper pronouns and names but inside I've had so many questions which I was too afraid or lazy to ask and some questions were not clear to me and you answered them anyway. I've been binge-watching this channel for a week and damn, I think I'm starting to get it. The first video I watched was the latest "The Hunger" and I honestly thought you were a cis-woman until I googled more about you. Your vids are so educational and really are masterpieces. Finally I'm coming to terms with my feelings towards trans!people and finally I have some actual understanding. Thank you for your work!

[@radiodonta9167]

if you haven't already seen them, Tiffany Tumbles and Transtrenders were incredibly powerful, even for me as a trans person!

[@CeeBee781]

Yeeeessss! Tell your friends. The world needs to watch Contrapoints lol But seriously, I re-watch her videos all the time. I find them… comforting.

[@majornougat5207]

I always thought I was a straight woman, but hearing Natalie describe her sexual adventures with all kinds of people really makes me feel like I'm missing out... and that I could do so much better with my partner choice in general. I know this video is more than 2 years old but still, thanks for the great content.

[@evanvicker5758]

Was watching this video in the background at work and my straight male coworker walked by, wolf whistled at you and went 'damm Evan what you watching' really demonstrates your point

[@americantoastman7296]

Lmao

[@willb586]

Guarantee you that if you asked him outside of that situation if he thought Natalie was a man at birth he would say he could easily tell. (Not saying he couldn’t but that cis men generally don’t like admitting they are attracted to trans people)

[@nicolesong6199]

niceee

[@donjohnson5424]

Honestly, the most disturbing and unbelievable aspect of this video is the fact that you still have a VCR.

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

lol .. nah .. after seeing Leonora's contacts nothing scared me anymore ;)

[@tomw6926]

Somehow I feel betamax would have been more appropriate in a beautifully ironic way

[@RavensKiss]

This reminded me of a quote from GoT that always stuck with me: "It's always changing, who we're supposed to love and who we're not. The only thing that stays the same is that we want who we want." Great video!

[@AkiraUema]

8:14 "The common thread here is no deception on the part of the victims, but rather the drive of the killers to protect their social standing as masculine and straight." Exactly!!!!!!

[@tysonsflag]

I LEARNED FROM THIS THAT I MUST BE BETTER

[@ericabourland1012]

Great takeaway

[@coffeecaesar1443]

Hell yeah man

[@sergioleoncordova7027]

I've recently become a fan. Initially I was one of those super "free thinkers" that were fans of Ben Shapiro and Jordan Peterson. Mainly because of the stable structure and support I got from Jordan advice to young men, since a lot of my growing up journey involved chaos and crazy acid trips that just made the process a lot more confusing so being told things that seem right and logical was reassuring. But after then I came across your channel, which at first I passed off as some SJW bullshit. However I stayed for the aesthetic visuals and I'm sure glad I did. It sure opened me up to whole new way of thinking and made me realize how stupid I was for thinking I had understood reality and mostly importantly myself. After I watched your video "why I quit academia" it really made me think and reevaluate why I was so into philosophy in the first place. I guess i felt that some truth and guidance was given to me by reading Nietzsche and Satre, and when you're a teen in high school it means everything to you. As I now I am just a few months from graduating high school, I'm thankful that I found this channel and was introduced to these kind of ideas and concepts. I feel like these video really have helped me prepare in way for the real world, or at least a better understanding that I shouldn't label myself to just one side because ideas can change and it's always good to be open minded of other people. Anyway, I'm glad I stayed I stayed for the aesthetics and would like to thank you for making these video and for simply existing. I know how tough just plainly being a human is, so opening yourself to the world being the kind of person you are is what I find to be true courge. Hope to see more amazing long and well put together videos like these. You always look flawless in all your video btw

[@queefedworm]

"the aesthetics" dont really bring credibility to why you started watching this "thing" make youtube videos

[@BunkerD]

Congrats then for the change. :)

[@friedlish]

@@queefedworm Oh, grow up.

[@sasquatchpatch]

Oh i love this so! Yes to pushing that boundary passed platitudes.

[@sharonoddlyenough]

Good for you for being intellectually curious enough to seek out different points of view. You have a long and interesting life ahead, and a truly open mind is an asset.

[@angustusashtonio7443]

Wow. That was brilliant. As a cis dude trying to understand/unlearn what I was programmed about gender, this was explained well, and the use of humour was great too. Thanks for the video! :)

[@lsdvial3851]

Thank you so much for making this video, I'm a 22 year old straight male who has always been attracted to women and still am but I also have been finding myself attracted to a specific trans women from the show 'Euphoria' named Jules so I've been a bit confused on how to view my sexuality, now I know that genitals do not matter as much to me :) I'm more attracted by overall looks and by the soul of the person rather then by a specific genital!

[@xavierc3025]

How do you separate the sex from romance ?

[@Xilliosta]

I was scared watching this at first, but it turns out there was way less animes in the video than what I was expecting after the warning at the start.

[@GlamStacheessnostalgialounge]

Man, good for you, I almost puked at the first sight of that japanese cartoon degeneracy! Barely made it to the family friendly fem penis part.

[@surgeland9084]

If I ever have a son and said son starts dating a transwoman, I now know what to tell him if he gets bullied because of it. "A real man isn't ashamed of the women he loves." Thanks, Contra. You made me a better hypothetical parent.

[@labradude]

big fucking mood right here

[@i-never-look-at-replies-lol]

Don't lie to your son, just let him know he's gay and that you accept that.

[@thehill8353]

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[@Slickshadow11]

No no no

[@natedrak3]

@@thehill8353 Exactly.

[@crowclaw109]

I am Japanese. I regret that the beautiful Japanese word we invented, "man's daughter," has been translated into an offensive word. It may be too frank to say, but I think the person who translated it had bad taste. There is no denying that there are a certain number of homophobic people among us. However, I treat them as attractive heroines. They are anime characters, so whether or not they are actually trans is irrelevant to their treatment.

[@user-ci5fl5em1j]

som peuple say japan is extremly sexist is that true ?

[@crowclaw109]

@@user-ci5fl5em1j Whether Japan is sexist depends on your point of view. 1. Japan's gender gap index is very high, and there are very few female politicians and managers. On the other hand, sexist treatment in the workplace is gradually being changed, and domestic violence and sex crimes are said to be very rare. It is said that this is due to the fact that there is a strong emphasis on traditional values not only among men but also among women. 2. Since ancient times, Japan has been a predominantly Buddhist country, so there has been little tendency to regard homosexuality or gender reassignment as "bad", and many warlords practiced homosexual acts as a "pastime". On the other hand, since the Meiji Restoration, Japan has been influenced by the West, and homosexuality and sex change have been kept away from the center of culture as perverted acts. On the other hand, "boys' love"(Yaoi) has been widely popular since the 1970s, especially in manga for women, and there has been a subculture that enjoys "forbidden love". This may includes a sex change element as a fantasy. Nowadays, with the advancement of understanding of minorities, boys' love is no longer considered "forbidden love". (Translated with www.DeepL)

[@user-ci5fl5em1j]

thanks for your time

[@1birdwatcherr]

among us

[@jennywhat6108]

@@crowclaw109 What about GL? You are only talking about men which is already sexist in itself

[@Crackt641]

I am glad you made it. I watched ot to learn- my son is gay- he has a lot of friends all different. I feel like I will be LESS OFFENSIVE if I understand these differences. I appreciate this. Thank you

[@EckhartsLadder]

"Transvestite skulduggery" holy shit lmao. As always, a really phenomenal video. I'm glad it's getting so much attention already!

[@1Heirborn]

Oh snap, you're the star wars dude. Nice videos

[@mansamusa1743]

EckhartsLadder never expected to see you here.

[@samuelfaure4332]

I was going to comment the same two words

[@MRDLT00]

Ah that's great to see you here encouraging the video. :D

[@AdamPuntigliano]

I've recently discovered your channel, and did really not expect this. I am positively surprised. Keep up the good work! And keep on encouraging other amazing content creators!

[@peterkropotkin6806]

44:53 minutes of Natalie speaking some fucking sense? Yes please. Lots of work was put into this. Àś à çîś gáÿ màñ I love how you brought up how the question also implies something wrong with being gay. I long for a world where gay isn’t synonymous with the lesser for most people.

[@BrookHeimbaugh]

OMG, I did not even realize it was that long! I was enjoying it so much I didn't even notice!

[@alegriapeters5718]

Yeah, as a cis bi woman I agree with you on that. The next time a straight person says "gay" like an insult I'm just gonna smack em, I don't care anymore. I only realised I was bi like a year ago and I already have had so many comments that make me want to fucking hit someone. Good thing I'm too poor for fake nails 😂

[@douglashay8626]

@@alegriapeters5718 Violence is very rarely the answer, as satisfying as it may appear to be. It's a shit situation when people call you gay as an insult and I'm really sorry that it happens to you, but becoming violent will just make you another part of the problem. Unless it's in self defence, in which case fuck em up.

[@alegriapeters5718]

@@douglashay8626 I was joking, but thanks for the tip lol.

[@vincentmartin9667]

Sorry but you are wrong. She only start with the sense at about the 3:00 marker.

[@hipstercrab5886]

those angry ben shapiro inserts are hilarious great video, well deserved like+subscribe, queen

[@fuckwarprofiteering5420]

best tucking tutorial ever

[@zamnodorszk7898]

What is one to call themselves if they are attracted to EVERY Contrapoints character???

[@mathieuleader8601]

not any easy task to countermand from the sexual organs of Contra

[@garak55]

In love? Starstruck maybe?

[@josemiguelmaciasvocar2690]

a man of culture

[@steampunker7]

Human.

[@WitchVulgar]

Zam Nodorszk is a fitting name for it

[@gizmo_gadgets6482]

“The human sexuality isn’t black and white, it’s not even shades or gray. It’s a multicolored acid-trip, it’s centaur Donna Summer charging at you with a spanking paddle.” I’ve never heard something more true

[@benvoliothefirst]

Hold on, I need to get my prismacolors

[@Boysermusic]

Fiction

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

If only everyone get it's instead of being scared cavemen

[@Vivi_9]

I don't understand how it isn't black and white

[@cecille5833]

Please don’t read my diary without my permission thank you

[@camillaconstance6526]

Your videos take me from unconscious unknowing to conscious unknowing to conscious knowing in 30 minutes. Genius 🙌🙏❤ Have you ever considered publishing your scripts? I want to spend more time with your writing. It's divine.

[@waytoobiased]

the transcripts are on her website

[@danielcarchio2804]

This video has genuinely helped me understand more about trans women than anything else ever has

[@zacharybutler5944]

My last big, serious (now ex) girlfriend is trans. Loved her to bits. This video really got me thinking about the mouthfeel. More importantly, it made me think about how I needed to stand up to a bigoted uncle of mine who kept making snide, passive-aggressive comments in her direction when she wasn't around. Don't be like me, people. Don't be cowardly.

[@megaalan12]

I don't blame you. That shit is just as scary for us, and it's not something we're prepared for at all having never experienced it before. Despite what people say, you're not less of a man for not knowing how to handle the situation.

[@MNPComedy]

I'm loving this character development.

[@zacharybutler5944]

@Kyla Johnston said uncle is a Breitbart trog, and he still lives with my grandparents. I couldn't really cut him off at the time, but I should have. I should have done *something,* is my point. People can't take the easy path and only stick up for people when they're around. Cis men DEFINITELY shouldn't do that.

[@xx3664]

she wouldve expired within 10 years anyway, dont sweat it.

[@bagelSC07]

@@megaalan12 I kinda feel for you but honestly it's so second degree. Imagine a transpeople coming out, constantly coming out facing the looks of random people who happen to catch the wrong angle of you, family rejection and core identity questioned constantly. Now figure some close friends and family will know and might be uncomfortable but while you are at work, or in line for fast food you are still a cis hetero man. Even thoughs who might ignorantly question your sexuality still see you at the end of the day as male. Trans people don't get guide books on how to handle adversity either and that is called "the closet". We only seem to do because of constant experience, so thats why some feel like its 1/100th relatively.

[@moonstruckstarlet6607]

Something I didn't expect to gain from this is a new level of connection to my brother who is dating a trans woman. He is very protective of her for the obvious reason: he loves her; but I never thought about the stigma that might be placed on his shoulders.

[@stevenklimecky4918]

Have just recently found my way to your videos. I think you are one of the most brilliant people I have ever seen - not only for your astute and witty analyses, but for your amazing artistry as well. No one else puts more effort into the production of a video essay than you do, Ms.

[@GeoKuromi]

"we, the gays" is indeed what unites us.

[@theeffeminatedegenerate2141]

Hey, I know you probably won't see this comment but the progressive liberal who was superficially woke until their child came out as trans is a really relatable experience for me. My mum was extremely supportive of trans people when they just existed as a theoretical other or a person at work. But when I came out as a woman, she became very critical. Basically kept asking if I was doing it out of a kink and saying things like "you know, wearing dresses doesn't make you a woman" or "are you going to Montreal in drag?" It's very easy to support people you don't have to deal with every day. It's very easy to support someone when doing so means words instead of actions.

[@darrinEH]

Listen to your mother.

[@veebordeleau3902]

Support from Ottawa 💗

[@angelalovell5669]

Sorry for momma drama - lord, they can be just as much of a trial on us as we ever were on them, right? Or bloody more. Hang in there, gur - she'll turn around one day and apologise for coming at you wrong, and she'll mean it right down to her bones. It sucks that you have to deal with the fallout in the mean time. But if she really crosses you one day, feel free to tell her the same - that one day, she'll be ashamed of her behaviour and the sooner that day comes, the better, because you'll always forgive her but it'll take longer to forget how much hurt she caused. Love from Scotland x

[@TheLordDai]

That's to be expected, especially in the case of an only child. Most people value their family and the continued family line, so the prospect of no grandchildren could easily be extremely shocking and worrying to parents.

[@OatmealTheCrazy]

@@TheLordDai lmao By your logic it's alright to get angry/scolding at your child if they just don't want kids anyway. Kids aren't an investment in your future/family line....unless you're a monarch I guess.

[@Phailyour]

I wish this video also touched more on lesbian trans women and their partners. I am a cis lesbian dating a trans lesbian and I get the same problem in reverse. People are frequently telling me that I am not really a lesbian because I am dating a trans woman. It's all the same transphobic nonsense.

[@faithjolley6034]

I've heard this referred to as Schrodinger's marriage by someone on twitter. "Conservatives tell me that my marriage isn't legitimate because they oppose two women being married. While at the same time, calling me a man (in which case, there's no problem here.)"

[@DrakenWolfwood]

You should watch her video titled Shame. She comes out as a lesbian in it and even talks about the shame society puts on her for being a trans woman wanting to date women. I think it'll be exactly the kind of thing you're looking for

[@comichb]

A lot of lesbiens hate trans people ...

[@Catbb250]

@@comichb As a lesbian, I really hope the Terfs are just a loud minority rather than a majority within the lesbian community. It enrages me how transphobia is disguised a feminism.

[@chickenskink1]

@@Catbb250 I hope that too. It is kind of sad seeing the amount of biphobia and transphobia some lesbians hold.

[@lauracoleman8049]

Thank you for this. It answered SOOOO many questions. You are simply wonderful.

[@belenperrone2539]

This is the first video I watched from you when it came out. I am rewatching 3 years later and I find it even more amazing than the first time. Thank you