My brain isn’t broken | Tashi Baiguerra

My brain isn’t broken | Tashi Baiguerra | TEDxLondon

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4 жыл бұрын

In March 2018, 21 year old Tashi Baiguerra received a diagnosis that would finally allow her to understand why she wasn’t always able to make sense of things that everyone else seemed to find straightforward. Symptoms and characteristics that she had previously thought of as ‘failures’, were actually traits of her Asperger’s Syndrome. At first, Tashi believes her diagnosis, along with feelings of fear, loneliness and shame often projected onto people with Autism, would dictate her career and life choices. However, through her own powerful journey, she encourages us to see and understand individuals with neurodiversity and other disabilities radically differently. As an actress with Asperger's Syndrome, Tashi Baiguerra is proud to be a voice for the Autism community through her work. A dreamer, with accolades for both Autistic and non-Autistic roles, Tashi moved to work in the thriving London theatre scene after graduating from the Howard Fine Acting Studio in Melbourne, Australia in 2017. In London, she trained with Frantic Assembly Theatre Company and currently works as a physical theatre performer and folk musician. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@esk8jaimes 4 жыл бұрын

5:55 "Most Autistic people don't actually suffer from our Autism, we suffer from the way the world sees and treats our Autism." "To the world, my brain is broken. And when the world treats someone like they're broken that person will slowly come to accept that brokenness as fact."

@esk8jaimes 4 жыл бұрын

This quote broke me...

@dalelong7085 3 жыл бұрын

Im Writeing this down. Best line in the speech. OMG.

@paulastone7644 3 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed at 19, figured it out on my own and asked for it. If I had not, I doubt anyone would have noticed. I cannot pretend to be normal any longer at the cost of my energy and mental health. We must all strive to be ourselves.

@esk8jaimes 3 жыл бұрын

@@paulastone7644 likewise, was diagnosed at 19yrs-old, there was so much evidence of being being autistic years beforehand too...

@Duncangafney1 3 жыл бұрын

I found out i was Aspie at age 44, currently age 49 I've never bothered going and getting an official diagnosis. Why? Because although normal people annoy, infuriate and irritate me beyond measure I know what my self worth is. I'm smarter than 99.99% of people on this planet, I see and understand things very few people ever will. I have a lovely son and a wierd but lovely wife.

@cheyennepetersen3417 2 жыл бұрын

"you only experience me mildly" THESE ARE THE WORDS I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR I love this

@JanciDespainXD 4 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed at age 37. It was life-changing. When you find out WHY you are "the way that you are," you want to shout it from the rooftops so nobody else has to spend a portion of their life questioning their identity. Feeling like an alien on Earth.

@angonsframes 4 жыл бұрын

maybe i can help u

@6thelost9 3 жыл бұрын

I need to be diagnosed. My daughter got her diagnosis at age 6, which is lucky for her, and even though she is literally a mini-me (like she IS me) nobody got ME checked out. Nobody tested me. And I need to be tested, but am not sure how to go about it

@s.devries2644 3 жыл бұрын

Mama_in_pyjammas maybe speak about it with the people who diagnosed her? Weird that they didn’t ask you about it, often times they also assess the family, from what i’ve heard. If not maybe just go to your gp and say exactly what you said here, how your girl is a mini you and recognize everything that she has been diagnosed with. Good luck.

@SuperKaBlooey 3 жыл бұрын

@@s.devries2644 I hope that when one family member tests positive for autism, the psychologists you are referring to ask for consent before testing the other members in the family. Testing multiple people in the family is logical though.

@mstmarieprov 3 жыл бұрын

YES to all of this. ❤

@NinaKlos 4 жыл бұрын

@BeneathFullMoon 4 жыл бұрын

@Frederic Bastiat Same. I'm only being diagnosed now at 24, it's been a lifetime of struggling to fit in and pouring my energy into masking. This diagnose has, in many ways, released me.

@JustHowItIs 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@JustHowItIs 3 жыл бұрын

@Frederic Bastiat Same for me, as well.

@JustHowItIs 3 жыл бұрын

@@BeneathFullMoon Also ths way for me, as well.

@CaroDuran29 3 жыл бұрын

You are so right and I'm so happy you achieve it.

@dalelong7085 3 жыл бұрын

If you experience your life as an ILLNESS, You remain in the hospital. If you experience your life as an IDENTITY, You become liberated and That Identity becomes the source of your power.

@rick3747 3 жыл бұрын

Very intresting prespective! Ty!

@McBlammy 2 жыл бұрын

Well said

@YosoyMouth 2 жыл бұрын

🤩

@juttaschewe-zimmermann7497 2 жыл бұрын

I LOVE this, thank you !

@pauagh 2 жыл бұрын

I was pretty sure I was autistic like 20 years ago. I brought it up and was laugh at by mental health professionals, you can imagine by other people. I wasn't "autistic enough", I was "too smart", "too functional", whatever that means. I increasingly felt I was going crazy. After a life of depression, among other things, and many misdiagnosis (like bipolar and similar), now that I'm almost 40 I tried again, with all new studies about female ASD on hand, and got diagnosed: ASD, who would have known... me!? Underdiagnosis and misdiagnosis are way higher for women. I'm happy things change, and hope, like Tashi, for the day people with autism really don't know the road was bumpy to begin with.

@riahray 3 жыл бұрын

I’m not crying. I promise I’m not crying.

@maxmarnau7019 3 жыл бұрын

Och away. Of course you are. So am I - diagnosed at 62.

@David98004 2 жыл бұрын

And I'll act like I'm not crying with you 😢

@stevendorries 2 жыл бұрын

It’s a terrible day for it to rain.

@McBlammy 2 жыл бұрын

"I can't separate my Aspergers from myself...and I don't think I want to...not anymore" Preach it sister!

@NJGuy1973 3 жыл бұрын

10:45 "It's my responsibility to pave the roads that she will walk on, so future children will not know the road is bumpy" Tashi FTW

@TheAmaraHorton 4 жыл бұрын

39 years... today I received the keys to understanding myself

@adttv9586 3 жыл бұрын

My name’s Amara, and I have Aspergers too!

@mstmarieprov 3 жыл бұрын

38 years for me. Now that I know, I keep asking myself HOW did I NOT know? How did anyone else not know??

@alifmuhammadchicago 3 жыл бұрын

It's amazing, isn't it? Do you still have moments when you think about your younger self in a new perspective, one that perhaps no one else knew?

@talitaza8862 3 жыл бұрын

Same here. 36 and found out on the 2nd Feb. So many light switches went on at once. 180° turnaround from how I used to view my life. I studied psychology (dropped out just before graduating) and looked for answers in many other ways, but never once thought I could be on the Autism spectrum! Have any of you talked to your family and friends about it? When I try to explain Aspergers and convey to my family what a major life discovery this is for me, I'm met with blank looks and a change of subject...

@moonliteX 3 жыл бұрын

42 here. some weeks ago i started investigating autism. yesterday i found PDA which is spot on.

@sari6522 4 жыл бұрын

You're not broken, you're brave.

@DarkNova69 4 жыл бұрын

I got diagnosed early on because I had a teacher that cared why I was failing tests that I shouldn't have.

@MxLuRhea 3 жыл бұрын

“You may say I have mild autism, but that’s only because you experience me mildly. I don’t experience my autism mildly.”

@sarabrenna5525 4 жыл бұрын

I was only diagnosed with aspergers at 31, I am one of those who "slipped through the cracks". Thank you for this ❤️

@andreasfrederiksen1895 4 жыл бұрын

Mid 20s for me They ended up saying PDD-NOS instead of Aspergers because it was so late.

@loupe26 4 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed at age 52, no doctors or psychologist ever suspected. It was only after 20 years with my wife, she suspected I could be on the spectrum.

@CrumbsDM 3 жыл бұрын

I am 52 and still slipping through the cracks

@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with Aspergers at 23 now 39

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed at 49- even tho I had a son diagnosed at age 2 & 1/2…. But It wasn’t for another 12 years before doctors told me I also had autism … I PRAISE THE LORD for our uniqueness:) and we have never seen it negatively as the world does- WE DONT NEED FIXING… it’s the system that’s broken!!!

@suechapman7616 4 жыл бұрын

Nobody saw the real me for 60 years. Just coming out now.

@thatveganlesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Good for you, you're very brave!

@mstmarieprov 3 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@rebeccaed2018 3 жыл бұрын

Welcome, Sue.

@Duncangafney1 3 жыл бұрын

I found out I was Aspie at age 44 when my son's consultant gave him his diagnosis of Aspergers and severe ADHD at age 5 and said to me "I've only got to be in the room with you for 30 seconds to know where he gets it from". Read this book. I read the book and it described me to an absolute T.

@caxzrockz 3 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@gaynorhennessy9954 Жыл бұрын

Just diagnosed today ,aged 50! I feel relieved in a way but also deep in thought of everything that's happened and how I struggled to stay here . Time for self learning and acceptance ❤️

@stigmatamartyr4223 3 жыл бұрын

I just broke and had a crying moment. I always cry when I watch these videos on Aspergers even though I've never been diagnosed. Sometimes it just feels good to cry .

@daughteroftheking2344 2 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@abbygailvalcourt6577 Жыл бұрын

Me too!

@Diov514 3 жыл бұрын

these quotes that she said "Most Autistic people don't actually suffer from our Autism, we suffer from the way the world sees and treats our Autism." "To the world, my brain is broken. And when the world treats someone like they're broken that person will slowly come to accept that brokenness as fact." i feel the same way, the world does not accept us in a way that makes us feel valued. we have the ability to do so much but the people are blind, they put us below them.

@Catlily5 3 жыл бұрын

I think I suffer both from my Autism and the way the world treats me. Sensory issues are not the world's fault. My problems regulating my emotions are not the world's fault. Mean people harassing me because I am different are at fault.

@annehislop2449 3 жыл бұрын

Ime NT's won't accept help from an Aspergian as that puts us above them.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@Babaelow 3 жыл бұрын

"... remaining non-functional for hours afterwards..." I'm an asperger and this is the worst. I can relate so much! Especially at work this is awful. After even light disagreements, I can't forget about it, and can't concentrate anymore. Then, my brain is all chaotic.

@JamieHumeCreative Жыл бұрын

Consider that you may also be ADHD. I'm ADHD and Autistic. Now I'm on medication foto address my ADHD and its been very healing for me. I also go through that deep anxiety, but over the years, I;m less and less affected, but it's still quite powerful. The work with the ADHD has been helping.

@stevemcgee99 Жыл бұрын

Daniel day Lewis character in the phantom thread was like this. A house guest was scraping burnt crust off her toast during the normally quiet breakfast and it set him off. He couldn’t work that day. I completely related to that scene!

@marc-andreotis2104 10 ай бұрын

As a neurodivergent (ADHD) I relate so much to this. Thank you for helping me understand I’m not broken❤

@cazzawazzadingdong5139 Жыл бұрын

"Until one day there will be children born who never knew the road was bumpy in the first place" 😭😭Beautiful words!

@MuseDisorder 3 жыл бұрын

my ASD makes me feel like I live in a constant state of purgatory, or depression or failure

@astralarchaeology5840 8 ай бұрын

"People don't really like different...so hard to be different." 😥

@janmorgan7435 3 жыл бұрын

My grandson has Autism and he’s extremely sensitive to what others say. He’s 11 years of age and l’m concerned at the way the world see this beautiful wee boy . Some people judge and don’t understand. This is what hurts the most.

@susuilu 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@edgrimm5862 3 жыл бұрын

I'd say the worst are the ones who understand, fear, and react offensively, thinking it's the best defence. Not that they'd admit to understanding. They just see that this is a person who has abilities that they lack, but also have weaknesses they can exploit.

@sbsman4998 3 жыл бұрын

Your wee boy is in for it, I fear Jan. I am autistic male 75, and only now have allowed myself to be wonderfully Autistic, finally no masks, no masks to wear in the working/academic worlds to get along make money. Why wonderful? Take the pandemic for instance, everyone here in Calif is complaining about lockdowns, social isolation, no problem here, except for wearing a mask life is same for me, actually glad others don't get too close physically, creeps me out! Stressing out, isolated from others, outcasted for my differences, all daily obstacles to overcome dealing with others, always. Now retired, few bucks in the bank, nice place in country to enjoy solitude near my wild critters. Understand Jan, things do not change, Autistic for life we be! Few things helped me early on, firstly my parents allowed me free guilt free alone time, lots of books, no pressures, then my life long obsessions: craftmanship (keep hands busy), martial arts including medicine anatomy Biology and especially important for all youth daily physical strength training, knowing self-defense well, self assurance. People view Autistics as weak, indeed socially we are and always vulnerable to bullies, terribly! Bullies need to be taught a lesson, then we must learn how NOT to be set up and manipulated by narcissist types!! Socially what others get naturally we need to be taught, your his great teacher Jan and gifted privilege ~~

@edgrimm5862 3 жыл бұрын

@@sbsman4998 Many things change. Just in my short 48 years, I've seen things greatly improve for people on spectrum in some of the places I've lived, while not getting worse in the exceptions. We're a long way from being accepted by most of the people in any of those areas, mind you. But when I was in the fifth grade, being diagnosed with autism in the school system I was in at the time got you put in remedial education, regardless of your capabilities. Now they test your capabilities, and you could wind up in a gifted program or normal classes instead. When I started working with my employer, people on spectrum were tolerated. My employer's policy prohibited firing someone because they were on spectrum. Now, they actually seek out people on spectrum, especially for positions in IT or engineering, where it's obviously beneficial. But even in other areas, hiring managers are encouraged to employ a diverse team, and that's defined in terms of race, capability, and whether people are or aren't on spectrum. In the course of my life, I've lived four different places where I was either there for more than a decade, or I returned and spent a significant amount of time after over a decade from when I'd first moved there. In three of those four places, between when I was first there and when I was last there, the attitude seemed to change from mostly thinking of people on spectrum as handicapped to thinking of them as the people most likely to become more skilled experts in the things that they focus on. Four places is, of course, not statistically significant, but it's at least anecdotally promising.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@sharoncowart2206 5 ай бұрын

Diagnosed at 65. If I am broken, its the neurotypical ones that broke me.

@michelleroselilley4637 9 ай бұрын

"nobody saw me for 21 years" that hit home hard

@simba8195 4 жыл бұрын

One of the best speeches I’ve ever heard

@heatherw4999 3 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed @ 40. I had to seek it out. My only source of grief is not knowing sooner. I'm not sad or sorry I'm Autistic. I'm sad we have to fight to be treated with respect.

@robinreisberg8351 3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Respect is sorely needed in this world...for all. Everyone is different; we are all unique. Even though we are social animals (we need others) condemning differences hurts everyone; hurts our world.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@merihirvonen527 3 жыл бұрын

it took me 24 years to finally know this part of myself after completely burning out and attempting multiple times. suddenly everything makes sense. i was never broken 💛

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@dexdayr1794 2 жыл бұрын

got diagnosed with 28 and its only thanks to people like her. im so thankful and also feel the responsibility to help. if i can prevent one person from suffering like i did, then its worth it. we are valid and we belong

@jessandlydiatrask2046 3 жыл бұрын

Also it’s extremely for women and girls to get diagnosed later in life because they tend be able to mask most of the social interaction issues better then men and boys who tend to get diagnosed earlier in life.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@rachelk2457 2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at the same age. I get a lot of stigmatized attitudes towards me when I share it. Instead of accepting me, they find me imperfect especially in the job field. It's demoralizing and discouraging. See our strengths first please not our weaknesses.

@chuchay_7 3 жыл бұрын

I'm 20 years old studying nursing and I just found out I have Asperger. And bcoz of that I love myself even harder.

@KerryLynn-qr5ju 3 жыл бұрын

Me, too. I started nursing school in September. I’m 41.

@RaymWill 3 жыл бұрын

How? I still want to go around telling my bullies I'm autistic so that I can justify me weirdness. I understand myself but how do I love myself?

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@carolinefarrell8221 Ай бұрын

I LOVED your explanation of the range of how people with ASD experience different areas of their life, i.e. "Red could be social communication." Thank you!

@jolineforpresident 4 жыл бұрын

This is exactly why I'm studying to become a high school teacher, with a bigger passion than I ever had for anything.. Thank you, we need more people like you in this world.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@leonora3935 3 жыл бұрын

I wish i was diagnosed, that would make my life easier

@Yes_this_is_my_cat 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 15 and just got diagnosed. This talk made me feel so validated. I am so good at masking I, myself, didn't even notice once I could be on the spectrum. In fact, I got tested for ADHD, because I thought I could have that. I also got tested on things like anxiety, depression and autism, because some of the syptomes overlap with ADHD. The day I got my diagnosis, my world was shook. So much things suddenly started to make sense. I don't hate myself for being autistic. I hate how people treat me for being autistic. I am smart, and can in fact understand you very well. For me, my brain and experience are the default. Until I learned it wasn't. And that's ok.

@jim6130 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for paving the road for my son.

@DARTHPOTTER Жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with Asperger’s on Christmas Eve 2021. I’m 52 & haven’t stopped crying since. 2 years before my diagnosis I was engaged to be married & in my 23rd year as an educator. Today I’m fighting depression to stay alive. No longer engaged or a career left. I’m so tired. Thank you for your words. 🙏🏼 I appreciate you.💜

@artsylady3187 Жыл бұрын

what happened to cause the loss of job and fiance ???? you were asd all those 23 years you were doing great...was it the DX that ruined things for you ..???

@blissfulspirits6620 Жыл бұрын

You,I and all women are going through this together. I'm 48 and self diagnosed myself 1 month ago. My austisic ex co-worker, temp job, stated that he thought that as well. A week before I brought it up. I have no support, and it's so freaking hard!!! You are a great person just as you are. I am mad too!! I see why people with autism life expectancy are around 54. You , I, and all women having a late aged diagnosis are very important, and we will be OK. God bless you, and thank you for being you!!!

@neridafarrer4633 3 ай бұрын

Late diagnosed at 50 with ASD2 and ADHD. I am "2e" gifted and high IQ and disabled. "2e" means "twice exceptional" it's been a looong road to finally get here and finally have my disgnosis.

@TheJohn93226 2 жыл бұрын

I know exactly how you feel being an Aspie myself diagnosed at age 34 in 2016! 11:48 -> My arms and my eyes are open too as well! ❤️

@dbeescoaching Ай бұрын

I'm blown away! You're awesome! What a force of nature! I'm an SLP and have several family members with Autism is varying degrees. I hear you, I'm with you. I'm writing a Tedx Talk to implore the world to learn about Autism and learn how to see the beauty in the difference and learn to engage successfully. Thank you for sharing your story! I hope your video goes viral! Miss DB:)

@superchargedyoullc1854 3 жыл бұрын

My journey has led me here. I don't do well with labels since they don't make sense and usually stereotyped.

@robinreisberg8351 3 жыл бұрын

I'm with you there; stereotypes are so damaging

@nailee7428 3 жыл бұрын

I'm 30 years old and waiting to be diagnosed, waiting to find out who I am and why I am like this. Waiting for someone to tell me how to stop being affraid all the time, take a deep breath and discover the world again. But I'm already greatful for everybody who stand up and try to convince the world, convince me, that we are not broken.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@CiprianGramatik 3 жыл бұрын

YOU are the brightest star out there! YOUR words are so powerful and sincere that the rest of us, "the normal us", are amazed at listening to you! I have learned way more from people with autism than I have ever learned from the universities I attended, among the best ones in the world. YOU are the light that shines so brightly in the dark, you are the luck of my life! Thank YOU! Will be fighting for you and your rights till the end of time!

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@Arlothed1no 4 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed in my senior year of high school. I could have excelled in school instead of barely passing. Luckily, I'm going to college. One that understands why I struggled and is willing to help me.

@DarkNova69 4 жыл бұрын

I am happy for you. I also like your "ace" of spades. Don't do what I have btw, I was super stubborn in college and refused all of the help they offered me.

@Arlothed1no 4 жыл бұрын

@@DarkNova69 I signed up for a mentor collective. The mentor is a fellow student to help me with college life so I won't be overwhelmed.

@vickitoback3001 4 жыл бұрын

Daughter, PDD-NOS at 17, told by diagnostician to just read about Asperger's, you'll do fine. No suggestion to look for schools that can understand and support her. She completely fell apart her first year of college and hid it from everyone because (as we learned much later) she believed she disappointed everyone and was a failure. It took years for her to go back to someone for re-diagnosis.

@Arlothed1no 4 жыл бұрын

@@vickitoback3001 That's why I'm not too fond of the asperger's label. Many psychologists just started calling it autism. We need help and understanding. Maybe you could have her do prerequisites online and then switch her over to an autism-friendly school. Usually the smaller schools are a lot better and getting a single helps.

@vickitoback3001 4 жыл бұрын

@@Arlothed1no Thank you for your thoughts. We are working reading between the lines, executive skills, and tolerance.

@susansmith4721 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome young woman. She isn’t broken, her brain is just wired differently. My husband, daughter, and both of my granddaughters are all on the Autism Spectrum.

@fading_roses 4 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed in the 6th grade and am now a freshman. My symptoms didn't show up fully, by that I mean, they were small little instances that neither me nor anyone else really noticed, but in 4th grade they were suddenly like: *HEY I EXIST ADULTS DIAGNOSE ME RIGHT NOW I'M HERE C'MON NOW LOOOOOOOKATMEEEEE*

@winterspringfail 3 жыл бұрын

"people dont really like difference. its so hard to be different." yep :')

@Aiken47 3 жыл бұрын

Just diagnosed at 51 male, good at masking. Except when in a meltdown, I was just seen as angry, not violent because their boundaries are different. Thank you

@gaynorhennessy9954 Жыл бұрын

I just had my diagnosis today age 50! How was you after the diagnosis? Did it change anything?

@frogmatt33 4 жыл бұрын

It's hard to be different, but god it's so much harder to try and be the same... I think. You tell your story, this tiny part of it, really well. Thanks for stepping up.

@ShantiLaraPeace 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful, insightful comment.

@kathrynsmith8076 Жыл бұрын

What a superb talk on autism, I think this is the best I have heard yet! I was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum at 63 years old, a lifetime of not understanding why I experienced the world as I did. And SHAME is what I felt at that diagnosis. That is how we are perceived by many in the world, a failure, yes that is my experience exactly. Taishi Baiguerra well said and I wish you all the good will and blessings in the world to be an advocate for us to show the world that we are beautiful and valuable if only people will open their eyes, and accept us for who we are. Thank you.

@mariaaguadoball3407 6 ай бұрын

I was 59 when I got my diagnosis. Isn't it amazing how knowing shifts your perception of so many aspects of your life?

@cedarhillfarmlife6693 11 ай бұрын

55 here! Also slipped through the cracks ! Struggling my whole life and only coming to the realization when my daughter was pregnant and her genetic tests came back with Fragile X mutation! Once I saw the link to autism it all clicked!! Now we are trying to have my youngest daughter tested, she displays many of the same characteristics as me ! It is validating for sure!

@annonymous9063 Жыл бұрын

I’m going on 60 and I’m still invisible because I was highly masking pre-post traumatic stress disorder. Now the c-PTSD doesn’t give me anywhere to hide anymore and the autism traits became more obvious since. I took all the online tests and « if there were a scale » I’d be in the deep end. All I can say is what a relief. Finally. It’s a gift but this world doesn’t make a lot of space for « diffferent »

@deborahnava2732 4 жыл бұрын

So beautifully spoken. My son is on the spectrum and as he’s grown these few years, we discover how much my husband is like him. He’s 35. Your memes, funny enough, really help me understand their world and I love it. Thank you.

@romanavolny8316 3 жыл бұрын

I have Aspergers too, self diagnosed myself at 53. This video made me cry. She is telling exactly how I feel.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@jimwilliams9841 2 жыл бұрын

Great speech Tashi! I figured out I was autistic at age 45. It was such a huge revelation and it gave me a great sense of freedom. Thank You so much for sharing your story!

@s.devries2644 3 жыл бұрын

‘You haven’t slipped through the cracks’ 😢

@drzeworyj 3 жыл бұрын

self-diagnosed at 20, then definitely at 30. both times my closest family didn't believe me.

@robinr5337 3 жыл бұрын

Not many people understand how much it hurts when you say to them "I have autism" and they reply with a dismissive "no you don't." It's so rude. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

@helenapmag 2 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed at 25, same happened to me. My uncle even said "I should look for a different professional". It's sad how they can't quite grasp it.

@videogamerkenny529 Жыл бұрын

I love this talk. It spoke to me in a way I seriously needed. I do still feel shame about certain parts of myself, like my possible RSD (I have autism as well as ADHD; I'm not yet sure if I have RSD but I feel pretty confident about it), but I do think that self-love and self-acceptance is possible for me, even if it's hard to believe that sometimes. I'm just so grateful to have such a supportive family and two (especially) great friends, because had I not been blessed with them, I genuinely don't know where I or my confidence would be: probably rock bottom at this point in my life, because puberty is killer! And so is having OCD and Anxiety Disorder, I feel like a mess as it is, and without the support I have (and my early diagnosis), it would be so much worse. Still staying strong though. But like she said in the video, you are not broken! I'm still trying to believe it myself. I know, quite a lot for a 14 year-old that plays video games.

@maxguntersvilleandalot4450 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you I'm 22 speechless I naeded to here that more than ever. I know exactly what you saying about being different and every one around you knowing it to and no matter how hard you try and knowing youl never be one of those pegs that fit in one of the holes in Society or around your friends or even people you have a romantic interest in.

@SunnysBibleStudy 2 жыл бұрын

@bellafaery 2 жыл бұрын

Omfg God I'm crying so much. Thank you for this 🙏🏻👏

@LordVictorHalgaard 4 жыл бұрын

As an un-diagnosed Aspergian, life is god damned cruel and lonely, filled with irrational people controlled by emotion and urges. And yea, suicide often seems like the most rational solution. And I'm so bloody tired of people going "Oh but we're all weird.", "We all go through some hard times", "It gets better" or even "Isn't there a treatment?". You're not all weird and different; there's reason the word 'normal' or 'average' exists. Not everyone is mistreated, misunderstood and abandoned to the point of not wanting to be alive. Statistically, it does not get better, in any way shape or form. And its not a god damned illness; considering we'd likely be better off as a species if Aperger's was the norm, which is why some professionals even stipulate its the next step in evolution.

@CiprianGramatik 3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you! Been working with students with autistic disorders for a lifetime and I LOVE THEM ALL, NO matter what! They are way better than the "normal us". Even the light in their eyes shines more brightly than mine! These people are SO special that I will never stop to battle for their rights!

@CLB134 3 жыл бұрын

Ciprian Gramatik thank you for loving us Autistic folks unconditionally ❤️ you ROCK!!!

@CiprianGramatik 3 жыл бұрын

@@CLB134 I am just a humble teacher and educator. I have learned from you much more than I have ever learned from the best universities in the world I have attended. Thank You!

@CaroDuran29 3 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@CrumbsDM 3 жыл бұрын

@@CiprianGramatik that's lovely ☺️

@ryanmichaelhaley 2 жыл бұрын

I was literally banging my head on the ground as a kid and I had no friends and I was always in my own little world, and it didn’t throw any red flags. I’m now 45 years old and trying to get diagnosed.

@roberthonan3492 Жыл бұрын

I watch this with a tear in my eye. I learned I was part of the community a year ago, when I was over 50.

@ZomBoSk8r 3 жыл бұрын

in the process of getting a clinical diagnosis right now at the age of 37, but been self diagnosed and also have had affirmation from 2 psychologists in the past. This journey has been both frightening as well as extremely weightlifting its just a sudden moment of clarity for the first time in my life and i can begin to explain all of the quirks and oddities that have plagued me since i was a child. what a relief, but also so so scary as now i have answers but have to learn coping mechanisms. but then it gets happy again as i think about how i may finally maintain friendships, maintain a relationship, have a way to be understood, find employment that jives with my character, and oh the peace of mind and semi stability. i am proud to be on the autism spectrum. i am unique and different and odd and silly and loyal and brutally honest to a fault and i am finally beginning to love all the me that i can be. thank you so much Tedx for giving Tashi Baiguerra a chance to share her story with the world and shining her bright light on us all. what a wonderful talk!

@JrQueen04 8 ай бұрын

Just at the beginning of discovering who I am, I've had suspicions for a while and finally spoke to a family friend who is autistic (and who was diagnosed in her 40's) and she told me it's likely...I'm not 100% sure where I want to go from here but just knowing that I'm not "wrong" or "strange" was like a weight lifted. I'm now looking into it so much more and working out what support I need going forward xx

@librarian1701-D 11 ай бұрын

As this talk shows, we have empathy too.. maybe too much overwhelming empathy... educating people NTs about true autism (not hollywood stereotypes) is so important for Autistic people

@youknow1595 11 ай бұрын

Absolutely incredible! Brought tears to my eyes! 😭🥹 I am proud to be Autistic!

@Dustyonelife 3 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed at 59, such a liberation, and so relatable what Tashi is saying.

@hoomanbean8416 3 жыл бұрын

Ever since I was little I never knew how to interact with people or get started with things...I always thought that as I get older I will learn it...but here I am as a teenager and I still don't know how to interact with people or the world...When I tell adults I feel lost they say every teenager feels lost..but i feel like I might have undiagnosed autism.

@katherinesalley4141 2 жыл бұрын

I had the exact same thoughts when I was little. I thought it was because I was young and I’d grow out of it but I never did. Now I’m pretty much 100% positive my son is autistic and I’ve had this feeling in my gut since the day he was born, he’s 4 now. You can’t tell just by looking at him or being around him a while so everyone thinks I’m nuts but I know better!! I know myself and my son. Both of us are In the process of getting evaluated. I’m 33 and my whole family missed it my whole life. The only thing I’ve ever been diagnosed with is generalized anxiety but I knew they were full of it.

@salvemariebanusing447 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful speech, very inspiring. I cried a lot while watching this. I dont have an autism but my son has. He was diagnosed with ASD last year. Thank you very much for having beautiful brain and beautiful heart to inspire other. God bless you.

@MissSkittles89 6 ай бұрын

I started realizing I might be autistic and ADHD about 2 or 3 years ago, and was finally diagnosed this past February at 33 years old. I always knew I was different somehow, but didn't know how to articulate it - other people's behaviors often didn't make sense to me, and social norms were extremely difficult for me to learn how to perform. Masking got me through life, but I never realized that it was also affecting my anxiety and depression - that the twice-yearly breakdowns that would have me stuck in bed for hours crying and feeling like I was so overwhelmed with just existing were autistic meltdowns caused by constantly masking and trying to fight against who I am; that my inability to do even basic tasks before I started suspecting my diagnosis, at the end of my last relationship, was due to autistic burnout and not simply depression. Being able to accept myself for who I am, and all of the pros and cons that come with it, has really helped to bring peace to my life. I do still get overwhelmed, but I haven't had a meltdown in months and I haven't had a panic attack in over 7 years. Part of that may be due to desensitization from being in a traumatic and abusive relationship for 3 years, but I don't want to discount the reduction in general "existence" stress that has come from it.

@infonode1783 3 жыл бұрын

That brang me to tears. Incredibly beautiful and moving.

@drbarney1000 3 жыл бұрын

Many of us on the spectrum who go all the way to a PhD, especially in the likes of physics and math, have a duty to come out of the closet and use what we succeeded, even though more can be ascribed to luck of being in a right place at the right time than our maximum effort, in accomplishing it to vindicate our human dignity. My PhD got me what a GED gets normal people and without it I could never get a job. This partly overcomes society's racism against autistic people who are regarded as a subhuman race.

@googleuser2874 2 жыл бұрын

I have two masters degrees and went through years of no one hiring me. I am 40 (having been diagnosed 30 years ago before anyone knew what Asperger's even was) and only now am starting to get the jobs I deserve, and only because I work in a disability organization. I never got hired, and people with less education and knowledge, but more "charisma" always got the jobs. Even was homeless for a time. I am trying to speaking out more lately because so many people are self-diagnosing nowadays. I feel like it almost insults the pain I have suffered for years, when people without autism who are eccentric diagnose themselves, many who have youtube channels! I don't know what to make of it, as all these people are making videos about their self diagnosis, but all I see are people with autistic traits, not full blown autism. It's hard, and today I probably wouldn't get SSI even if I applied again because Asperger's people aren't getting help the way they they used to. I blame these watered down misdiagnoses. Anyway it's painful.

@artsylady3187 Жыл бұрын

my son has a PhD in physics......and was a musical genius at a very young age

@hamzaalrifai5321 3 жыл бұрын

I AM VERY PROUD OF HER.

@leafmealoynederpydeu85 4 жыл бұрын

Wow i need to look this thing up. People bully you also when you do not understand things

@biancavanderwalt1277 4 жыл бұрын

This was so true. I loved it!

@dstraz1948 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much !!!!

@PukaHeadMan 2 жыл бұрын

Tasha, that was a beautiful speech!

@paulchapman8453 4 жыл бұрын

Our world is vast as is the autistic spectrum. We pretend to know our world. yet we do not atleast not completely .we skim only surface with world and autism. We are not broken nor do we need fixing . We just need acceptance through others curiosity and like inception be an integral part to our evolving world rather than revolving world. We need to change our views on autismto be the change we want to see.

@paulchapman8453 4 жыл бұрын

If our world was foundry for weapons and our world decided we had to be a certain and size That world is. Not innovative it is compliant inhuman and a weaker idea rather than asking the right questions in order for better co-operation,trust,a larger scope for better business ideas and outcomes and to do this in order to make somebodys future and a companys future better with right understanding and simplicity which is perhaps overlooked.

@robinreisberg8351 3 жыл бұрын

Everyone is different; we are all unique. Even though we are social animals (we need others) condemning differences hurts everyone; hurts our world.

@morrows10 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this.

@PointOfImpactMinistries 3 жыл бұрын

I needed this. Thank you!

@thenazgul3669 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. You've touched my heart and soul. Amazing speech. You touched all the symptoms, characteristics, impacts and created a realistic view of our disorder. You have my respect beyond respect. I wish you well.

@esk8jaimes 4 жыл бұрын

I second that.

@ilovemybrotherpiotr 4 жыл бұрын

that was very inspiring, thank you!

@calahrose90 4 жыл бұрын

So eloquent and brave ❤️ Thank you for being such a strong voice for those of us who have yet to be able to put these feelings into words.

@rick3747 2 жыл бұрын

Every Autistic over 12 should see this video!

@elfuegogrande 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

@wolfe9306 4 жыл бұрын

Great job!

@missydavis6678 3 жыл бұрын

Yes my sister! Very well said!

@beckyf2845 3 жыл бұрын

What a great talk. Really true words. For all those diagnosed later in life; I can relate ♥️

@despacitochungus3156 4 жыл бұрын

This was beautifully spoken.

@b3naqua 3 жыл бұрын

This resonated so much! We can all learn so much from this 💛

@johnzimpelman9018 3 жыл бұрын

At age 59I found out three years ago and I had believed that something was different about myself. My diagnosis was cathartic as the dots connected with my life and in particular my youth and past. Everything now makes sense to me.

@darkshiver 3 жыл бұрын

I cried when she described her encounter with the little girl

@CatKitellis 4 жыл бұрын

well done, almost cried ❤😿

@MisterTAllred 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being you! Your bravery helps us all!

@jagaimo2 3 жыл бұрын

You are a force. Thank you!

@misss9092 4 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at age 24. I had the same struggles as this lady, but had slipped through the cracks. I’d been made to believe all that time and still to this very day that something is wrong with me and that I wasn’t normal. It was a chance meeting with a clinical psychologist who didn’t specialise autism, but recognised the signs and asked if he could refer me to his colleagues for an evaluation. As a 24 year, not much could be offered in terms of support, but recovering the diagnosis allowed me to understand myself a little better. I know now that I’m not broken and that I don’t need fixing, I’m just different that’s all.

@paulchapman8453 4 жыл бұрын

Great speech Tashi