Breaking Free: The Enneagram Type 4's Path to Health

[@bethanythatsme]

I recently permanently deleted all of my social media accounts. I've tried approaching them from every angle, but I'm just so much better off staying away. I can't resist stepping into that comparison trap in my noggin. This 4w5 appreciates your channel so much, sending love from Oregon 🌲🌊

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Wow. That’s amazing. Love that you’re choosing self care ❤️❤️❤️

[@Avionne_Parris]

As a fellow 4w5, who also permanently deleted my social media accounts (except Pinterest as it helps with writing research) in past few months, I can attest to the comparison trap and feeling so much better because of it :-)

[@Jemimastar28]

A life without Facebook sounds so amazing. Here in july i’m going completely offline and I already feel a difference 🙏🏼 I’m a 4w5

[@caridadesuderomarill]

i have never heard or seen anyone expressed themselves or talk about us-type 4, so beautifully! for the first time ever i felt that being a type four was good or even beautiful! thank you!! it has been a total Healing listening and watching you talk about the Fours! many many BLESSINGS for you!

[@timreynolds7474]

I was having a woe is me, I feel so different, day. Thank you for this. This Enneagram 4 needed to hear all of this!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

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[@jahall257]

Hi I am 54 years old just discovering about the different types of personalities. Type 4 leaning 5. Most of my Life troubled with bipolar 1 and then my wife died 3 years ago. This teaching and others like it make sense of the journey. Bring hope for the future. Thank you.

[@rolexfuralle]

Wow that was like you were talking about me. I had never heard about Enneagram, this is the first thing I hear after someone said that this sound exactly like me. Indeed, I've red up on a few archetype style systems and I tend to resemble on type much more than the others, but never ha ve it been like 100% before, I was crying through the whole segment about the lows.... Will look more into it, thx for putting this out

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Awwww so glad you found this video! ❤️❤️

[@jahall257]

4 are private that is kind of the point. Since I have been receiving life coaching I have learnt to dream again. Grief was deep and horrid but I did a lot of self improvement work and can imagine a new relationship one day. I have a lot of detail that is private, but the best is definitely yet to come and I have peaked at nothing yet.

[@gingerosborn1019]

Thank you for this highs, average and lows of a Type 4. It helps me to give language to what’s going on with me emotionally. Your videos (and your one on one coaching) help me appreciate and dare I say, even like who I am. I know that I am created in the image of God, and hearing you describe my type helps me have better self awareness, and how I come across with others. I appreciated you saying “is this me, or is this the other person…” 💕

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Thanks for sharing Ginger! You truly are amazing and I love the journey you are on ❤

[@lorrielee885]

Absolutely loved the video. I always like learning more about my daughter's type (which can sometimes be frustrating as a 7). Sometimes I want to say "Stop sitting in your emotions!". But seriously so much help here!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Awww Thanks Lorrie!!! I am so happy to hear this helps you with your daughter!

[@mickeyc2137]

I do find this to be true. I'm a great dreamer and I know where I want to go but I often dont know HOW to do it. So many times I end up in the dream state and very little in the action state and then I will end up giving up easily on it because I dont know how to go about it or I'm procrastinating.

[@wonderfulrainyday]

Me too! I’m really trying to implement some time to just “do”, but end up in my head again. Frustrating. I hope we’ll find a way to self actualization! ✨

[@KxNOxUTA]

I'm a 4 who would be in her high but I'm kind of externally in a freeze state so it shows up whenever I get to be myself fully and if not then I'm kind of ... wearing an invisibility cloak, I guess. X'D To not attract trouble any more than necessary. But ofcourse there's bad days, too! And bad periods! My ability to dream up alterntive setting saves me from a lot. I can reset situations and start fresh with people. Well the little issue here is, that it kind of makes it hard to secure myself at times or to get active. But it turns out that waiting for the flow state to kick in really ends up saving more time and give better results than any time I tried to push myself without it. So what I "should" be doing is not nag on myself and let others nag when I'm in waiting mode. Cause it makes sense at the end, not the beginning.

[@margaretjudice8944]

Great thoughts in this video! I am a 2 and we act more like a 4 in health. I have had health issues that I am working on that took me out of a normal routine. I am waiting to see if I need surgery. Thank you for sharing!

[@cassieb1860]

YAY! Scrolling thru my subs and here you are! Can I just tell you that -WOW- your hair being darker makes your eyes just brilliant! Glad to see you back!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Oh thank you!

[@RunToEternity]

It looks like I was either just average or sometimes an unhealthy 4. Social anxiety was the thing that isolated me from others for most of my life.

[@Avionne_Parris]

Hillary, quit prophesying on my life lolz! That average description might as well have been a psychic reading :-) Eerily accurate. I feel so seen and understood so thank you for that. The last 2 years have been really stressful on my 4-ness since my emotions are always on 1000 anyways so to add a pandemic where suffering is more than guaranteed on an epic scale and I knew that it was gonna be brutal. But this year, I finally feel like I'm returning to my normal bubbly self; seeing the beauty in a sunrise, wishing upon the moon, and gazing upon the clouds so long I forget that I'm working hehe. I feel like 4s and 9s will get along great as I tend to lean into the comforts of life, can be routine-oriented when it comes to my food orders and nothing beats a blanket fort on a rainy writing day! Love your spirit, Hillary, please keep up the good work. You matter :-)

[@enneagramandcoaching]

LOL!!! This made me smile! Thanks for sharing! I'm so glad this year has been better and you are leaning into being you and and what makes you happy. Also thanks for being so sweet to me :)

[@mickeyc2137]

its funny how you say that 4s get along with 9s because when I first started watching her videos, even though my test told me I was a 4 I questioned if I was really a 9 as 9's also kind of fits me but I think I am def more so a 4

[@Avionne_Parris]

@@mickeyc2137 I hear you. 9s vibe definitely fits me on some days lolz but I'm way too dramatic to be anything else but a 4 :P In fact, ask my family members to describe me in 3 words and 2 of those 3 words will be "moody" and "sensitive" :-)

[@mickeyc2137]

@@Avionne_Parris thats interesting. For me I dont get moody. I can be sensitive sometimes but when I am I dont typically show it.

[@Avionne_Parris]

@@mickeyc2137 Sounds like the self preservation subtype who tends to suffer in silence and not show when they're upset. I vacillate between self pres and social so I can go from suffering in silence to finding comfort in it and expressing that to others.

[@GretchenHulett]

I am a 4 in the average area right now.

[@squigglethepiglol]

Sooo helpful!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Thank you! I’m so glad!

[@maudline]

Ooohhh I relate to the unhealthy part of the 4 😢 Especially the part of not showing up to my own life 💔

[@enneagramandcoaching]

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[@mickeyc2137]

Its so funny that you said that about Divergent because I do often describe myself as a divergent however I dont think I would pick the Dauntless group because I'm not brave enough to do those dare devil things lol. I would have picked the the truth serum group. I forget what they were called. Let me go pull out my thesaurus to find that word lol. Candor! Thats it! HAHA! I would have chosen the Candor group.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

LOL! I love this! You have great insight because 4s want honesty and give honesty so that makes perfect sense. Weirdly enough I am a type 9 and I have always thought I would choose Duantless LOL. Thanks for sharing!

[@princeofcrystal6573]

How can 4s escape their inner turmoil?

[@snakequeensq1098]

Hello! May I ask which sources you'd recommend for learning about the enneagram aside from youtube videos? I'm curious as to which one a certified lifecoach would choose. Till now I've used "The Complete Enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut and both of Sandra Maitri's books and typed myself as a so216 for tritype. I was wondering what you think about them?

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Love anything by Beatrice Chesnut. I also love these Don Richard Rise and Russ Hudson books "Understanding the Enneagram" & "The Complete Enneagram" Iam Morgan Cron books are good. Beth McCord has some great ones. Hope this helps!

[@snakequeensq1098]

@@enneagramandcoaching Thank you very much for the reccommendations! I'll check them out :)

[@jojoco120]

[@enneagramandcoaching]

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[@MatthewEaton]

_lighthing cracks and thunder rumbles as the door opens to the iron fortress that is the Ennegram 5's tink tank_ Hello? Who left the front door unlocked? I bet you it was Seven again, wasn't it? I swear, I am going to get a smaller box and... What? Oh, look at this! My friend Hillary! Hooray, I was worried about what happend and... _glances as Wing 4_ What is it? Can't you see we have company? Yes, we are subscribed. *_(nervous laughter through gritted teeth)_* You should know that already. Don't offend our guest with your foolish emotional-- What? There was a video before this? And you didn't tell me? *_(arches eyebrow)_* You're telling me that KZbin didn't notify you, even though you have the bell clicked and you were waiting. *_(rolls up old newspaper)_* Do you know what I do to wings that lie to me, Wing 4? I know you do because you lie to me often. *_(hitting Wing 4 with paper repeatedly in rythym with the spoken words)_* We. Don't. Lie. About. Our. Failures. And. We. Don't. Lie. About. Our. Guests! *_(tosses paper aside)_* That's it, your going to the crying box. You'll sit there and think about all of the sad things for at least 45 days. And so help me, if I sense even one sliver of hope, happiness, or... *_(swallowing down the bile)_* ..."Joy," I will put you in the box with Seven and you both can figure out who gets the next punishment. Do I make myself clear? *_(forcing a smile)_* Forgive him, he is good natured but he is also dumb. So very dumb. In regards to the thing I should be doing, I think you see it above and probably tolerated all of my other works here. I had a few author contracts and they either fell through because of other circumstances, my heart wasn't in it, or the overall market for writing and book selling is lower than the odds that I will ever let Seven out of his box. I will say I know I am more 4 dominant in my wing because I will brood like no one's business. If you give me a reason to, I will even outbrood a pure 4 because that is how good I am at it. I guess, good in a sense as it were. Now, if you will excuse me, apparently I have to remove the time machine from mothballs again and go back in time to support you on the other video. Maybe I can get a three to help me. At least I know they'll actually do something...

[@KxNOxUTA]

This was amusing and a rollercoaster! Please be nice to everyone! XD Don't fight!

[@MatthewEaton]

@@KxNOxUTA I leave a lot of these for Hillary to read. It is the ever growing saga of my 5-ness as I wrestle with emotions in general. 4 is my lackey, 6 is my punching bag, I despise my 7 and my 8? He's probably achieving something somewhere.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

You always make me laugh and these make my day! You are such a great writer. I am blessed to get to read these! I have just gotten back from vacation in California and so fingers crossed I can get a video out this week lol. Thanks for sharing about your writing. I totally get it.

[@GretchenHulett]

I am a 4 in the average area right now.