How Does Sexuality Affect Style? • In The Closet

[@giakms9852]

"I don't know how to be gay" same

[@crow2616]

Same

[@aurorasparks1985]

does anyone truly knows what it means to be gay ?

[@Delightfulwitch]

honestly same tho

[@linamusiclover5004]

Gia Kms I came to that part at the same time I was reading this comment

[@scarletrobin]

Only requirement is to be attracted exclusively to your same sex/gender!

[@PD-fy6yq]

The worst things about coming out, or even imagining yourself being full-out gay, is that people assume things. Your interests, personality, clothes etc. You basically have to give up your desire to be seen (if that is how you are) as a feminine female or mother, you are either sexy or butch. No one believes introverted, quiet, romantic, humorous lesbians exist, we are all loud and fighting for our rights, being gay, pan, cis, trans, up, down whatever the hell is next, talking about rights, transphobic people and sexism. Having dreams of a stereotypical family and kids are outside the norm, but for some, hard to let go. People say you don't have to let go of anything, but you do, because people see you differently, thats just the reality.

[@dr.edgargeorgezomboss9337]

do gays if they want to have a baby would they adopt one or what

[@user-qq4tj8gm8b]

I've been mistaken as a lesbian sooooo many times. Even by my closest friends! I DONT EVEN EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ATTRACTION. But I am biromantic, though it's still hard. ; ^ ;

[@Gucci1992100]

Cherry Ice-Cweam I feel ya 💔😩

[@solarcynicism]

Cherry Ice-Cweam same!!! (except I haven't been mistaken as lesbian, just same for the biromantic thing lol)

[@lilypeperson6053]

Three beautiful Asian women

[@fifabanter]

Erm pretty sure the boy with short hair is a dude

[@sakuranbochanko]

bye

[@andradastoiciu8067]

Fif Anter she's a girl tho

[@fifabanter]

beth marshall Looks like a feller

[@rey-iv6of]

+Fif Anter jen's a girl???

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

When your gay, you dress better because you spent so much time in the closet.

[@Nbbabe69]

That Thing You See At The Corner Of Your Eye LOL!!! 😂😂

[@starhill6792]

That Thing You See At The Corner Of Your Eye Best comment of the day lol.

[@555gamester]

That Thing You See At The Corner Of Your Eye 👍😎

[@egg2936]

yes i too find this generalisation of a group of people based on their sexual/romantic orientation alone which has no correlation to what society deems "fashionable" to be quite humorous hahaha

[@carriesmith2477]

cabarus did...did you not get the pun

[@kyleeschuelke2792]

my every day outfits are jeans and a t-shirt

[@Sophie-gn8jw]

Same

[@gaaranaruto991]

same here lol

[@issyj3354]

Kylee Schuelke same but with jogging bottoms

[@opheliasrue]

Kylee Schuelke same

[@adaisyannajohnson2697]

Same

[@katherinehawk1076]

I DIDN'T KNOW ASHLEY WAS GAY I LOVE HER SO MUCH MORE IDK WHY

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

Really ? I am so dissapointed

[@MissStoryTelling]

why does someone's sexuality disappoint you?

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

+MissStoryTelling because I have always seen Ashley as andorable straight girl with awkward relationships with MEN. Women are different, thus relationships will be different. Guess I will have to get to grips with it, huh?

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

+MissStoryTelling another question is, how can anyone's sexuality can cheer anyone, although not standing a chance to actually date her?

[@kiml8832]

unknown unknown representation

[@Sunflowers9191]

If anything, me coming out as a lesbian even made me dress more feminine. I'm just super girly! I love my heels, dresses and long hair. I don't think I'll ever go for a more masculine look as I am just not comfortable in that.. But each on their own.

[@Sunflowers9191]

Alpha Morty Well yes anyone can wear whatever they like, guys can wear dresses and girls can wear a bow tie and suit but I was just saying that for myself I prefer a more feminine look. What's wrong with that?

[@HannahRaeWebb]

@Alpha Morty you come out of the womb either a boy or a girl..... so i mean... yea anything else is just what a person has made themselves into

[@samanthanavarro2453]

I am also more feminine, but I don't really dress like it because I fear I'll receive unwanted attention. However when I came out to my mom she didn't believe it because all she knows are the stereotypes 😂

[@leticiakay6422]

Hannah Rae no. That's what your sex assigned at birth is. You're born with either XX or XY chromosomes, while gender is a social construct.

[@Daisy-bi5zb]

Yes

[@BeaaTheSceneQueen]

I'm in the closet and I asked my mom if I could cut my hair and she said and I quote "Boys like girls with long, pretty hair."

[@wolveswithtea]

BeaaTheSceneQueen :( I'm sorry lovely. You should be allowed to look however you want! Style yourself for you, not other people ❤️

[@haydenfaithh]

BeaaTheSceneQueen that's what my mom said to me too so I told Her I was going shoulder length and exited the salon with a pixie cut

[@thesunshinekid09]

BeaaTheSceneQueen I know women of all sexualities with short hair. Show her the model Twiggy if you're not ready to come out, but want to feel good about your appearance and explore what beauty is for you.

[@PD-fy6yq]

Where are you from? Some mothers do it to make sure their kids find a decent partner, out of love, not realising its 2016. Traditional chinese mothers are a good example.

[@gabn.t]

it's YOUR hair. do whatever you want with it. if you don't want to come out just say "i know boys who like girls with short hair" and move on

[@Alpha-sn2nq]

Who else loves Jen?

[@ashfanboy8173]

Alpha • It's impossible not to 😍

[@francisnoname842]

Alpha • Me!!!!

[@elliotthegoatboy9607]

Alpha • meee

[@jay-my6lb]

Alpha •meeee

[@Nbbabe69]

Alpha • me

[@darkqueen9134]

have not seen Ashley in a while

[@emeraldm0on-yt]

CATWOMAN same

[@BigJuicyGoose]

CATWOMAN same i was worried

[@SaraiCamacho12]

CATWOMAN *Ashly

[@beckembrown7002]

CATWOMAN Cause she with her woman 😜😝😛😋

[@anitabori1205]

CATWOMAN Ashly

[@matt24680]

Any bisexuals in the comments?

[@lilwolfiegames4737]

Matthew The Neko Boy yea here

[@caffeinatedx]

Matthew The Neko Boy here

[@GamingCentralWizard]

Matthew The Neko Boy me

[@crow2616]

Yo fam

[@Novjuly]

present

[@fritziundso]

it's funny how her "i'm gay, oh what am i? i'm queer!" is confuseing everyone in the comments :'D she corrected herself, so maybe she might be bi or pan or whatever. or just gay. but it doesen't seem to matter for her to clear that out, or she isn't quite sure herself, so she corrected herself to queer^^

[@shrimpsareprettyrich176]

fritziundso shes bi cos right now,she has a boyfriend👍

[@kirajai4774]

"Thanks for being gay and nice!" My go to from now on. :D

[@blueyedbeauty99]

Am I the only one who had no idea that Ashly was gay?

[@jhazanotherday]

No you're not

[@daughterofhighlander]

blueyedbeauty99 me neither

[@xDigitalMonster]

blueyedbeauty99 just found out while watching this vid 😅😅

[@vnniefinch7959]

blueyedbeauty99 same

[@devonhansen6668]

LEO music same

[@lavadad2629]

I didn't know Ashley was queer!! OMG IVE HAD A CRUSH ON HER FOR SO LONG

[@nugg3tb0i11]

Lava Dad ME TOO YO

[@-leezha-]

Lava Dad SAME

[@carleythecataka-thewonderf8724]

Lava Dad she came out last year.

[@-leezha-]

QUEENDOM ???

[@Hargazer]

I don't think that sexuality inherently affects style. It's just that non-heterosexual people are more likely to be comfortable enough to go against conventional styles. Or something like that.

[@chipsleftwing]

As an asexual person, I agree that all y'all should dress how you want. Just make sure not to mock or offend anyone on purpose!

[@GenjiSleepsowo]

I agree that you should dress how ever you want. But to tell you the truth I always wanted to wear a shirt that said "Santas not Real." Just to ruin little kids dreams and see their reactions. lol

[@Spoiled_Rat]

Tirzah Davis yea, as ace I had a lot of trouble choosing what to wear bc I didn't want people to be interested in me so I wore mostly masculine clothing. but more recently I've been feeling comfortable finding myself and adding more feminine or showy clothing to my wardrobe like crop tops and dresses and I love it.

[@Zoejo]

Tirzah Davis I'm asexual, too, and I agree 100%!

[@Spoiled_Rat]

DirtyBrownieMix​ yes, a lot of ace people do purse relationships, both romantically and non-romantically. though many asexuals are aromantic as well, the two are not connected. (asexuals can also be romantically attracted to only one gender or both genders using terms like homo- hetero- or bi- romantic). sorry for talking so much, I get excited when people ask questions. 

[@dirtybrowniemix5925]

Cinkam Leonus Thank you I appreciate you answering me :) and no it's okay I'm glad you replied. I have an ace friend who I like a LOT and I know I wouldn't force them to do anything they wouldn't want to but I wanted to know if it was possible or not and it looks like it is. Thank you :)

[@Naistov]

I'm a cis woman and I dress how ever the hell I feel lol. femine or masculine, with my own flare.

[@emeraldm0on-yt]

ShaiNaiStov same but mostly feminine

[@p0t.n00dle4]

lol same half the time I look like a lesbian the rest I look like a tramp and I'm straight

[@eirikmurito]

facepalm

[@yahainHotPink]

Alpha Morty Every culture has masculine and feminine clothes, that's not bigoted. And then there are some cultures that do have androgynous clothing as well. Transgendered people tend to dress in gender "appropriate" clothing particular to their identity, so then people know how to address them. I hope this makes sense. 😊

[@inni_k7767]

Sometimes it feels weird how having short hair as a girl makes you instantly homosexual for some people :c

[@roserogers3336]

the one thing my mom is uncomfortable with me being gay is all of the flannel I have

[@keirorin]

after coming out i started wearing more suits to formal events. because dresses are cool but i can rock a suit too, anyone else?

[@Flareontoast]

bee.syrup honestly girls in suits 👍 I wear a lot of dress shirts and pants myself :D

[@noelia.mp4]

bee.syrup there's just something so beautiful and powerful about girls in suits. Coco Chanel and Yves Saint Laurent are fangirling in their graves

[@jokerpresident5286]

I love suits so much lol

[@HereWeAre101]

My favorite style is a cute tee shirt that fits my body well, a flannel on top, jeans rolled up at the ankle, and short boots. But I still enjoy wearing dress shirts, skirts, and even dresses. -a bisexual cisgender female

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

1)what's cisgender 2) 2 is the number of genders there are

[@dubamano5886]

actually both biological and mental gender characteristics are on a spectrum similar to sexuality

[@dubamano5886]

cisgender just means you identify with your "birth gender"

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

Dub Amano so like if u were born a female and you identify as female = cisgender?

[@dubamano5886]

now if anyone don't agree with me whatever just look at different scientific discussions on the issue (I refuse to argue with ppl) my favorite was the episode of 'Through the Wormhole' that discussed physical gender

[@thehoneybeequeen]

I guess Ashdrew is officially debunked

[@Zairanang]

I thought she said she was gay in this vid?

[@HereIsTabi]

Zairanang i'm bisexual but i say that i'm gay all the time as just a general type thing

[@opheliasrue]

Zairanang A lot of my bi and pan friends just call themselves gay

[@littlehousemouse2111]

gay and queer don't necessarily mean the same thing. I've always kind of defined it as "not straight"---but that doesn't mean attraction to the opposite gender is off the table. Gay just kind of ends up being an umbrella term to save from having to extensively explain your sexuality.

[@autumnscene]

Chrissy Edits EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT OMG

[@TheVideolover45]

I always thought Ashley was straight

[@reneelaicecreamxx4179]

Jackalope Wrangler same

[@chloerobinson1690]

me too

[@aarontheredbaron94]

Jackalope Wrangler same

[@idk_gorl]

I love the "in the closet" concept/idea Cute & clever

[@cynicalcitrus]

I am a gay woman starting secondary school (I'm like fourteen). I dress quite masculine, with the ocasional dress and tight shirt. But some people make it uncomfortable for me to wear things that aren't strictly, "butch," or, "femme." Why can't I be a mix of both? But now I feel so uncomfortable wearing anything femme that I just don't.

[@ashdt1242]

That makes me sad to hear. You should be able to wear whatever you want, but I feel you. People like to put you in a box :/ I'm a cis female but I have many ways I like to express myself. If I want to look like a boy one day cool. If I want to dress like a girly girl another, also cool. Variety is the spice of life and life is too short to let others bring you down

[@amarijackson9270]

DeZeL I'm like a mix of both I just do whatever I want

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

>14 years old >queer Okay bye

[@part-timepartytime9621]

+unknown unknown What are you implying? I came out as gay when I was 13 and that was almost 10 years ago. Still gay, if you're wondering.

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

+Part-Time Party Time doesn't mean that it can be applied to everyone. i'm truly glad that nothing has changed for you, keep that up! there is this little bitter thing called trend (fashion? mainstream, thats the word Iwas looking for) when people, warning, subconsciously follow them not realising they are mostly doing it because its IN now. not saying its for everyone, but many people do so without realising anything,. plus, children in the age of 14 are predominantly vulnerable, influenced by all those trend-waves

[@kendall354]

"Be yourself you little queer angels" Omg Ashley I love you

[@Laurenrockssocks22]

Just gotta say I LOVE these videos. I like how comfortable it is for these friends to talk about some somewhat uncomfortable topics. Of course as you become more comfortable with your sexuality you realize that your clothes aren't an exact expression of one thing, but rather an expression of who you are as a whole. I myself am bisexual, and as I was coming into my own I just felt like what I was wearing wasn't me. I was confused as to what I was dressing to show. Do I dress to show I'm bisexual? Do I dress to show I like classic rock? Do I dress to show the 90s were my favourite decade? I wasn't entirely sure. As I'm getting older and being introduced to people of a diverse background in both sexuality and ethnicity, I've noticed that things that you're born with do define you, but it's what you do with that that really counts. I don't have to be labeled as just one thing, so some days I like dressing more preppy, other days casual band tees, and other days grunge goddess lol. It's all about staying true to yourself as much as possible. Don't just wear something because someone else is wearing it.

[@enemay]

It doesn't. I'm a straight man, and I wear sun dresses regularly, even when it's snowing outside. And no I don't shave, I rock the dress naturally and with no boxers or briefs.

[@carleythecataka-thewonderf8724]

I love this show! Jen is so funny! Being bisexual can be hard. Most people *coughs*Curly*coughs* think it's not real.

[@carolx321]

CarleyTheCat Aka- The Wonderful Feline u

[@rolanfitzgerald2580]

CarleyTheCat Aka- The Wonderful Feline Im jealous of bisexuals. I am lesbian and have big envy of bisexuals. You dont have to even think about gender it is literally just oh you cool i like you we should date. You girl? Cool. You boy? Cool. I would date a man but could not kiss, cuddle or anything like that.

[@rolanfitzgerald2580]

CarleyTheCat Aka- The Wonderful Feline Im jealous of bisexuals. I am lesbian and have big envy of bisexuals. You dont have to even think about gender it is literally just oh you cool i like you we should date. You girl? Cool. You boy? Cool. I would date a man but could not kiss, cuddle or anything like that.

[@lifewithashley1259]

What if I want to wear button ups and vans and hats but I'm not gay. Will people think I am like I don't care if people do it's just my parents make homophobic jokes and I know if I wear to dress like that they would say something. I just feel more comfortable dressing androgynes.

[@janemckenney4751]

lifewithashley where what you want it doesn't matter what other people think be uniquely you😊

[@janemckenney4751]

Wear*

[@strawbeb6328]

I can't get over how beautiful Jen is 😍 I love her

[@kaylahrae.]

EXCUSE ME IVE ALWAYS THOUGHT ASHLEY WAS STRAIGHT (BUT SECRETLY HOPED SHE WAS GAY) SO WHEN I WATCHED THIS VID AND SHE SAID SHE WAS GAY/QUEER I FREAKED THE FRICK OUT HOLY HECK WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN IM FREAKING OUT AND OMG SHE LOST WEIGHT

[@MetaDose]

I think style does not define your sexuality. As long as you feel comfortable in what you wear is all that matters. I have a friend who dresses up in a dress and then sometimes, she wears boy clothes.

[@girthymeat5465]

Lisa Bonae shut up

[@MetaDose]

Girthy Meat 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕

[@elliemae4820]

Lisa Bonae 🙏 preach

[@rateyes1914]

Came to the comments to type basically the Diane thing as you I have a friend and she wears guy clothes all the time and she's straight

[@rateyes1914]

*same wtf autocorrect

[@TimeturnerJ]

Jen was my rolemodel when coming out. Cutting my hair was the best thing I have ever done for myself. I was grinning like a mad idiot for every strand of hair that fell to the floor. It felt incredibly liberating.

[@IAmCreatureMedia]

i like being nude but thats illegal so as bi/queer i GUESS i'll just wear clothes smh

[@mayaangela1743]

truuuue

[@lxxiedits9586]

I thought she was bisexual for the longest time. I guess not XD but doesn't matter glad you're happy Ashly

[@lxxiedits9586]

oh okay thank you! sorry I didn't know but thanks for correcting me :D

[@Ari_C]

my style has always been all over the place and I changed my hair style every three months or so... coming out as pansexual really didn't charge anything with my style.

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

alex123slycan Another word for bisexuality with a spin on it.

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

Sisi Charriere Pan sexuality is basically the same thing as bisexuality, and as I said, " with a spin on it." And, do tell me when I was trying to discredit your sexuality? I do not recall saying your sexuality wasn't valid or you were less than or anything like that. I am tired of dealing with sensitive asses. I am off KZbin for tonight. I am going to go do something productive: study and work towards my life goals.

[@samanthaj4884]

hey i used to love feferi!

[@jkvmaibebe3680]

Attracted to gay women, gay men straight female and straight men is pansexual?

[@Ari_C]

@@jkvmaibebe3680 what?

[@fritziundso]

still waiting for some ace coming to the closet! :) when i came out as ace (mainly to myself) i lost the pressure of dressing myself feminine and sexy. sometimes i still dress like that, but i became so much more relaxed about my apperace, because i just don't want strangers to think about me as a person they might want sex with :'D i don't know... i'm still kinda finding my style :) sometimes it's more chill and "boyish", and sometime cute and "girly". :)

[@lolzohmygod]

Aqualove Boy's t-shirt, man 😂😂 the best

[@kay_thnxbye5412]

same here! since i came out to my close friends as ace my hair went from super long to short like Jen's, and i've started dressing more casual and androgynous on a day to day basis (but every now and then i have a day where i feel like wearing a dress and being more feminine instead of just wearing a tshirt and jeans). i never really considered why, but i think it's like you said- i don't want people to see me and view me as someone they'd want a sexual relationship with.

[@Vivians_Shadow]

Once I came out as gay I was a lot more eccentric

[@mollytaylor2122]

I (cis female) feel like I’ve been dressing MORE feminine the more comfortable I get with my asexuality. Like… the more I understand what my asexuality is, the less it’s this weird amorphous cloud that impacts things like how I dress.

[@CarolynFajardo]

I love reading these other are people's comments ♡ I have always dressed in a way that I feel comfortable and never really cared. Never tried to impress anybody

[@aydo1438]

We really need a hour long episode of In The Closet

[@thepersonwhohasnovideos6052]

Aydo Or maybe a live lol

[@sadiemmac]

Is it just me or do Nikki and Ashley look a like

[@satanicvoodoo731]

Sadie McAlister same hair and similar skin tone

[@sergiodominguez2460]

In my opinion, although their beautiful in their own way, I think Ashly is prettier.

[@theeverythingchannel5716]

Sergio Dominguez I personally prefer Nikki

[@pnarmete5246]

" little queer angels " thank you ♡ we need to hear that

[@amymythen3744]

“I don’t know how to be gay” what a MOOD 😂😂😩

[@NGMonocrom]

Would we like Jen as much if she was a helluva lot less awkward? I think that's one of her biggest charms. We

[@bevinst.pierre2857]

I thought Ashly was bi

[@pessimisticpisces9257]

"i thought a bookshelf fell" lmfao

[@isabelqs24]

This is honestly one of my favorite series on Buzzfeed. Ever since coming out, I've kind of been really unsure on how to act and things like that and this series always proves to me I'm not as different as I feel.

[@doodledove3669]

Ashley is gay????? Jeez? i never knew!

[@MoonCloudsMagic]

she is bi

[@mnaii6343]

DoodleDove she straight up said queer

[@parifilms6551]

she said she is gay ... i don't think she is bi

[@johnperkens600]

Their all gay here

[@Netsco]

"WHAT WAS THAT" LMAOOOO

[@terminallyelleofficial]

The luxury of being bi I think is that I can have a masculine day or really go for it with make up and heels. Saying that, your sexuality shouldn't define what you feel you can and can't wear. Be yourself!!!!

[@heroinasytumbas3346]

Lmao Jen is hilarious! Love her

[@taciturnHistorian]

I'm a female but I like wearing guys clothes because they're so comfortable XD

[@rachelzimet8310]

I know right?? Like, actual pockets, better t-shirts, flannel shirts, awesome suits, ties are cool too ... and also like razors & beauty products ...

[@sunshinem.7741]

All the female clothes, apart from coats, are paper thin. Guys are apparently the only ones who get to be warm now. Also Rachel ^^ EXACTLY

[@j.avienn]

UM WELL GAY PEOPLE DRESS BETTER THAT'S HOW DUH !!

[@j.avienn]

everyone knows that

[@girthymeat5465]

JVN and gay people are pathetic

[@sumiimasen___]

uhm well, they don't. -a pan.

[@popittomemrdankarunie2502]

Girthy Meat stfu

[@bunflan]

JVN pan people dress the best~ ;)

[@leylan6296]

"I love soup and I'm gay." How everyone should come out.

[@poiuytrewqqwerty100]

"WHAT WAS THAT?!" LOL that got me sooooo hard.

[@Hobination]

I remeber back then almost everyone shipped ASHDREW hehe not anymore 😂

[@danielschauer4153]

Jen and Ashley are both my favourite persons in the whole world!!❤❤😍😂

[@lorenawright2689]

I thought Ashley was bi?? Good on her for coming out, I LOVE HER xxxx

[@aly1097]

"WHAT WAS THAT?!?!?" LOLL

[@FrapVoss]

I love Ashly so much more now, I had no idea she was queer. ♥♥♥♥

[@sydredhead1]

It's so nice to see Ashley and Jen in the same video because they are my favorite people at BuzzFeed!!

[@AnaRitaFlute]

finally I'm not alone: SOUP ❤

[@kickstartkarma69]

ASHLEY IN THE CLOSET it's a wish come true

[@charlottemay527]

Ohhhh I never knew Ashly was gay. You go gurl 😜💎💎💎

[@lowkeylucio2588]

"in the closet" is one of my fav buzzfeed series and they're helpful

[@thecritic1265]

Ashley is one of my fav in Buzzfeed. ^^

[@JoNat315]

I've heard a lot of people use the word queer to as some form of identity but wasn't fully informed of what it meant, by definition. This video made me finally go looking for some answers. Thank you Ashly, for helping me evolve to understand I really needed that word in my life. All the best!

[@kiwicreates246]

my style is hoodies and skinny jeans

[@maddiebarraclough7812]

I think it's important that little girls aren't afraid to dress masculine, but not necessarily because "dressing masculine doesn't make you gay". I dress extremely butch a lot of the time, have done for years, have had short hair since I was ten - and I'm gay, but I didn't realise until only a couple of years ago. There's this whole history to do with butchness and gayness and self expression that I guess if I'd known when I was younger, I would have realised way sooner and not had that unhappy phase of forcing myself to like men.

[@OliviaPlunkett]

I want to see what Jen looks like with longer hair...

[@brookelynch4815]

Olivia Plunkett watch the prom dress video, there's a picture of her from high school with long hair

[@immyma9550]

Brooke Renee can I have the link please? ^^ can't find it. Thank you in advance

[@frenchtoastmafia3190]

I am straight as a margin, BUT I dress like a stem.. the worst part about that is when I get checked out by girls... I cringe so much! but I just love the style ❤️

[@importantstuf8870]

do they really ask about pronouns now?

[@gwanael34]

He/She/It. Pronouns are simple lol.

[@lilyhealy3802]

Or they. People have their preferences

[@gwanael34]

Lily H They refers to a group of people. It's the plural form of He/She/It " *They* are waiting" "Where is the Simpson family ? *They* left earlier today"

[@lilyhealy3802]

gwanael34 it's also used in the singular when someone's gender is unknown. "I went to the movies with my friend." "Oh, who are they?" it's been used in the singular by Shakespeare and the Merriam Webster dictionary. Arguably it's grammatically correct to use it singularly, but of course if someone feels more comfortable being referred to by they/them pronouns their comfort should take priority over grammar.

[@gwanael34]

Lily H It is only used when the gender is unkown tho. He or she should be used when you know who the person is. Why would you refer to an individual that you know the gender by "they".

[@tweetthang96]

"You little queer angels" "Thanks for being gay and nice!" Lmaooooo

[@nugget-ql5vo]

Sexuality does affect style but not much, but imma explain myself. I'm not trans, bi, or lesbian, (I promise that I'm not against anything) but I dress like a man... and a women at times...

[@shelby7540]

Do you, boo. Gender is a construct.

[@AgarAddictionzkblazit]

Shelby Ivy there are 2 genders

[@noelia.mp4]

Agar Addictionz 2k15 420blazit ...apart from non binary genders

[@noelia.mp4]

nugget 123 you may be androgynous? If you feel like you identify with both genders at different times you may be gender-fluid. I suggest you look into those terms. Or not, and just keep doing you, boo 🤗😉

[@sonnyragdc5432]

crop tops, Hi waisted leggings/ hi waisted circle cut skirts, platforms or high heels, glasses, long hair and a cute makeup on point.

[@youtubeexplorer4570]

Sonnyra GdC *HIGH wasted.. Not HI wasted 😂😂 lol

[@fvsko4919]

+Pink Kitty *Waisted not wasted.. eheh

[@hannah-uz2ze]

Wtf? I had no idea Ashly was gay!

[@otakuofmine]

months ago she came out as bi in 'you do you'. But how she said 'I am gay' here confuses me as well. Phrase or was bi a motive to better overcome that? In any case she loves women. xD

[@otakuofmine]

Chicken Permissíon I know that and I didn't say any against it. It was about the 'I am gay' she said once. It may be as an umbrella, but maybe not in that context they are talking.

[@susannahswindel5739]

OtakuOfMe but she corrected herself with queer, which im pretty sure just means she's bi

[@otakuofmine]

Chicken Permissíon I don't think that this was meant as a correction.

[@susannahswindel5739]

OtakuOfMe​ whatever, it's her sexuality, not mine. you believe whatever you please.

[@ReptarsaurusRex]

My style hasn't changed. Well on Black Friday I got a new jacket that looks amazing and really suits my style better than any of my other jackets. My style has improved 😎.

[@queenpebbles6396]

ASHLEY IS GAY OMG THIS IS WHY ASHDREW SPLIT AND THEY MADE THAT SERIES BUT EVERYONE FREAKED

[@angiedawson4393]

Not necessarily, she said she identifies as queer which is more of an umbrella term for the LGBTQ+ community , so she could be pan or bi as well :)

[@thekub32]

'Identifies as'. End me.

[@jaystap]

Ashley came out??? Where was I??? Yay girl!! So happy for you

[@simonferal]

I love soup too! My favorite! I don't know if I'd choose it over sushi though it's pretty high on the list.

[@SaydoTN]

i remember the times when we all fantasised about Ashdrew 😍😍 and i was glad that Ashley came out after. she's making effort to be true to herself and her audience. *respect*

[@EllieStrums]

Anybody else just wear clothes they like and can pull off???

[@pinkie2893]

my two favorite buzzfeed folks. they're so inspiring.

[@lula3258]

seeing as almost everyone is announcing their sexualities, why not join in! Hi, I'm asexual, it's nice to meet everyone 😄

[@graceholland7997]

hi asexual, im pansexual I'll leave now

[@ilisten2thecureandcry]

Honestly after coming out as lesbian my style hasn't really changed but my happiness definitely has. Life is so much happier and better for me out of the closet lol

[@LieutenantSheep]

Ashly has the tiniest little knees

[@sarahmeza7448]

I'm straight but I still love watching in the closest. Jen and Niki are so cool😊

[@bravoman0015]

yes, yes it does

[@madisonbowman6426]

I cut my hair and started dressing more like myself before I came out. So when I finally did come out everyone already knew I didn't do it on purpose but I just didn't think I should have to wait to be myself just because I wasn't ready to tell everyone.

[@jenniffercatalan1647]

I loveee Jen she's my fav

[@eli2801]

I am an extremely masculine person; I have short hair, normally shop in the guy's section but once and I while I want to wear a skirt and maybe get my sister to do my nails or something girly like that. I remember trying to wear a dress once and everyone just told me, 'Oh wow. That doesn't suit you at all.' or 'Girly things don't look good on you.' My personal style and expression of myself fluctuates often. It's kind of disheartening that since I've become one thing, I can't change it and I have to stay that way.

[@jem8041]

can you do one about non-binary genders

[@inari3555]

XD I swear to god I pissed myself laughin when Jen was like "So the girl I was with farted and I was like 'WHAT WAS THAT?!'"

[@sitthefuckdown1153]

everyones sees Ashly in the thumbnail and click the god damn video fast af

[@aliciadixon5804]

I love these in the closet things so much. And Jen. Obviously. (Sorry Niki-- you're cool too) KEEP DOING THESE

[@kristinainsf6702]

i love this series! Ashley Jen & Nikki are so so awesome!!!

[@heatherbeasley7183]

well my outfit always change after i come out of the closet... ( i change my clothes in the closet lol)

[@brainpowerhill7228]

She's Jen: *clicks five times*

[@llagrange5397]

Wuuut I didn't know she was gay... I always thought she was tho, gay radar on point.

[@monicasantos2216]

I'm not queer, but I appreciate the advice these videos give anyway. Personal style can be difficult for a lot of reasons, but the advice to find a way to feel like yourself and feel comfortable feeling like yourself are valuable in general!! :)

[@imid3440]

When did Ashly come out?