Carly Pearce - What He Didn't Do (Lyric Video)

[@kelly8438]

I know this is supposed to be a song about a break up, but for a lot of us these lyrics hit the nail on the head when it comes to our fathers too.

[@serenity2655]

Oh Sweet!, What a comment! You said it alllll. Wonderful comment.

[@ayvashreffler3911]

yessss😕

[@brandyrogers4078]

Yes yes yes. I've tried time and time again just for my dad to hurt me over and over. Sometimes you gotta push all that aside and worry about you and your feelings. It's hard but getting hurt time and time again gets old.

[@d3adly727]

And brothers/guy best friends too. Basically any guys that are close to you

[@celiacruz1981]

Yesssss!! 😢

[@quatiec9987]

This is the classiest song I've ever heard about being with a narcissist. She is so classy about it. She seems to be past the hurt and anger and is basically at the point where she realized she's worth more than that. And it is what it is or better yet, it was what it was kinda mindset

[@elizebotha2420]

So true ❤️❤️❤️

[@emma23cat]

@@elizebotha2420 amen

[@maelentrewela2395]

Sorry if you've faced one too. I just escaped mine 13 weeks ago.

[@erinkeen3425]

So true.

[@tiffanijenkins4501]

Dudu sh shriek red geudueuesutisitudifdfbhdhdudfjdjdi oh yeah cafécnghgicg

[@rosecarman9684]

“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”-Philippians 4:13

[@gregwalker8678]

Hello Rose

[@jazzy650-b67]

So true!!!

[@Anna_the_flower]

Yes

[@critter4004]

.... except... put up with!

[@Lilybug-m3k]

Amen 🙏

[@anitakeegan7950]

This song says what my married life was. After 22 yrs. I finally left. I was still in love w/ him the day I left. I moved to a different state (my son & his daughters are here) w/ me. I thank God every day. They are my world. ☮️

[@Tanksnurse]

WOW, I'm going through this right now. I'm moving out of state with someone I used to go out with back in the early to mid '80's. It's scary but excited to start a new 😊

[@countrychick61]

And it usually is.. we were just taught to keep trying and maybe he’ll change. NO!! Any man who doesn’t cherish your heart and respect you and your boundaries is not worth your time. This song is superbly written and beautifully emoted. My favorite from her.

[@catherinetodd]

countrychick61 wrote: "we were just taught to keep trying and maybe he’ll change." YES, and I'm still going through this after being with him 43 years later! When will I ever learn? Love this song and need MORE statements like this!

[@countrychick61]

@@catherinetodd I endured my own destructive relationship, though not as long as you have. Are you familiar with Leslie Vernick?

[@dianelang7923]

Many wasted years because I didn't value myself

[@karmenletourneau9574]

This is so true. The stigma these days is nobody makes it work anymore and the divorce rate is at an all time high. The problem is us wives who do stay and try to make it work end up wasting years of our lives, I am now 43 and so disappointed with my life, grateful for my adopted child as my Husband refused to try for a child after we adopted even though he knew I wanted multiple children and shows me no love/effecting other than a peck goodbye here and there and he just recently started doing this when I made it happen again. Idk anymore, it sucks feeling like your not good enough because of the way someone else treats you and I'm at a point in my life where I need to make some serious changes for my own mental and physical health that I've let go over all of this. Not fair to me or my child and I want her to grow up knowing what real love looks like. Thankfully my Husband is a good man (not abusive at all) but feeling unloved is such a lonely feeling and no matter how much I've talked/begged him to change, things stay the same and I cannot keep living this way, I'd rather be alone than feel alone. 🙏 💔

[@sandraherl6067]

Perfect concept of this song y all men. What they forget to do

[@R1Kyle]

When you’re happy you enjoy the music; when you’re heartbroken you understand the lyrics.

[@jaelynszambelak5648]

Yup

[@shaynazmama]

Hit home!

[@karmenletourneau9574]

This!!!! ❤️ 💙 💜

[@jess_or_jessica]

100%

[@megganrettschlag9103]

@@jaelynszambelak5648 rr

[@rachhyakarki7268]

On point. Them lyrics hit hard.

[@jdglen24]

💯💯💯

[@LuvMaBabe17]

💯 I really felt this

[@WhitFyffe]

Hit very hard

[@jenniferdijames1671]

Be good Carly. Good advice.

[@Mary-ho3nh]

Omg they are so hitting me hard. It's as if she was talking from straight out of my heart. Something I've been telling the man I've been with for almost 5 years.. Sadly it ending and the pain is real, but there is relief because its always what he didn't do 😥

[@mfunk50]

Wow! This song is spot on when getting away from a covert narcissist.....never obvious to the outside world so it's pointless to try to explain your side. Love this song:)

[@alexismasker8179]

Is this song about her ex husband Michael Ray?

[@monicaunderwood7650]

234

[@sconner1453]

Preach 🙌

[@babykay6261]

On god😕

[@katiemechelle7657]

Yesssss

[@sylviamarenger6962]

I love everything about this song. The melody, the lyrics, she’s a strong, smart woman. Strong enough to leave him, but classy enough not to say anything bad about him.

[@ritastoufer8423]

0:36

[@MarthaDuran-w4e]

@@ritastoufer8423👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@melissakuc9272]

"The devils in the details ".... speaks so much

[@rosecarman9684]

“I waited patiently for the LORD; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the LORD.”-psalm 40:1-3

[@rosecarman9684]

“And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.”-Colossians 1:17

[@Lilybug-m3k]

This song is about my husband,from the day I met him. I have been with him going on 49 years now knowing he will never change,but now I am old and no place to go.

[@36skittle]

Never too old. I divorced at 64. Last 6 years have been the happiest of my life.

[@MrsWhite_Kayla]

I think most women can relate to this, wow. Putting every emotion and thought of millions of women into words. Such talent and such truth. Love this.

[@serenity2655]

OK!

[@l9878]

My divorce hearing is tomorrow...39+ years, 6 kids, been with him since I was 16. He did a lot, but just what this song says, it's what he didn't do.

[@pajhawj5289]

I’m sorry to hear but glad ur moving on .

[@l9878]

@Gogo Supinsky Good point, there certainly always 2 sides to every story.

[@advancingarchives]

Since you have apparently been out of the dating market for so long ... I suggest you listen to no less than 20 hours of Kevin Samuels shows ( not the 5 or 6 minute clips -- lacking all context -- ... the actual 2 hr programs ). He may not be of your ethnic group ... but the facts he shares are common across the board.

[@l9878]

@@advancingarchives thanks for the advice, I will do that. I don't plan on dating anytime soon. My 14 year old son is my focus. And myself. I need to figure what my part in this failed relationship is before I jump into another one.

[@serenity2655]

Yes Ma'am! You have been heard! (Bow to you)

[@KimStewart-u6w]

I think anyone who has lived with a narcissist can relate! Very powerful song! My life in a song 😢

[@angelahudson2560]

Mine too sadly. I’ve lived this story all of my adult life and would have stayed because I was taught marriage was for life and you just get over things our look the other way. My ex was so classy that he texted me the day his grandma passed to tell me our marriage was over and to get my things out of his house! We were together 36 years and I took care of his grandma for 15 years with the last 10 living with us. He ran around and I discovered after the divorce he even has children with hookers in other states!! I’ve even lived her song “I never wanted to be that girl”. I’ve been on both sides of that fence and it’s not a fun place to be!

[@Blazewoman84]

​@angelahudson2560 It's obvious that he only saw you as a cheap employee who took care of his grandma. That was your sole purpose in his life. He's not worthy of you. He's just a piece of rotted garbage devoid of feelings. I hope you find everything you've ever hoped for the next time you try...if you try again. As someone who has only ever dated and or married were abusive narcissists, it's really hard to pick up the pieces every time and try again. I get it if you just can't do that. I know I can't. I miss companionship but I don't miss being treated like absolute garbage. I've never actually been loved but I always wanted and needed to be. I was married for 21 years to a man who verbally, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abused me. He was nothing but a narcissist. He cheated at least twice a year for every year we were married and even brought me home a "gift" when I was 7 months pregnant. He said he had a "sinus infection" to get antibiotics for it and then when my OB doctor said he was cheating on me he gaslit me and said he didn't have it so I must have either cheated or got it from a toilet seat. He knew that I never cheated because I don't believe in doing something like that to someone you love. The toilet seat was ludicrous because you CAN'T get it that way. He took Chemistry and Biology in college (although I'm the one who got him through it because he's damn near illiterate because his teachers taught him to spell phonetically). I did his term papers for him because he made them into an unintelligible mess that made no sense. He doesn't even utilize the associates degree he got back then but it was of upmost importance at the time to spend as much time away from me and our kids as possible. He also met women in school so he wasn't giving that up. I always knew I was a replacement for his first love but I thought he at least loved me. He didn't. In the end, when he finally found her again, they picked up where they left off. She refused to marry him back then even though she was pregnant. She chose to marry his best friend instead and even named the baby after him. She cheated on the best friend for her next husband and on him for the next one eventually making her way back to my now ex-husband. She tried to befriend me and tell me how much she loved her husband and couldn't think about ever leaving him (then why are you talking to another man who you know damn well isn't your kid's father). They spent two weekends together before I busted them and kicked him out. I told him he needed to get a paternity for the child of the "love of his life" because she wasn't his. He said she already said she'd do one "if he wanted her to." That translates to, "I'll do it but just know that if I do then we're over because you didn't trust me." To this day, they never did the test. He ended up marrying her after our divorce. My ex-BIL spilled the tea on how their relationship really is instead of the one he tries to portray on social media. They both chronically cheat on each other and rarely speak to each other except for abusive remarks. This "the love of his life." He gets on social media and says how much he loves his wifey and can't imagine his life without his wife. When the actual truth is that they can't stand one another. I guess I wasn't the shrew he told everyone I was. At least, I never cheated, treated him the way I wanted to be treated and did everything i could to make him happy at the expense of my self-esteem and self-worth. He still claims to this day that he never cheated on me but STDs don't lie and neither does being caught in the act numerous times. He had this abusive habit of calling me every time he cheated and described everything in detail except for saying he actually did the deed just to hurt me. Karma is a bi**h isn't it? Oh and the daughter that he made our kids call sister, ex-BIL knew the best friend back in the day. He says she's a carbon copy of the best friend. He even told him to get a DNA test. Her parents came to his after she refused to marry him and demanded $50,000 for the baby. His Mom being the smart woman she was, told them to get a paternity test and they'd talk. They never got their money and now that his Mom is gone they deny it ever happened. What possible reason would she have to lie about it for all those years? My ex still can't hold a job. He gets bored easily. If it hadn't been for me forcing him to stay in the Reserves, I wouldn't be getting half of his retirement today. He was a very abusive narcissist with a chronic cheating problem and he hasn't changed. Only he's her problem now. I bet she regrets being a total homewrecker many times over now. She had loving and loyal husbands but she threw them away for him. You reap what you sow. BTW I got everything I asked for in my divorce. He lied to our judge saying he never cheated on me while he was currently living with her in another state. The judge awarded me everything I asked for and begged me to ask for more. In the end the only way he knew he could hurt me was to take his Mom away from me. She supported me in the divorce until he made up lies about me to turn her against me. It hurt me deeply because she was like a Mom to me. I tried to tell her the truth and get a transcript of our divorce but they didn't makene some reason. The fact that karma has finally come for him, makes me dance with glee. I hope he gets all that's coming to him and more. He essentially traded our family for hers and the kid wasn't even his. Hope it was all worth it.

[@cynthiamorgan1935]

im living like that right now

[@karissakaywilfong1807]

This song really speaks words.I left my narcissistic relationship 5 months ago after being in it for 3.5 years.He put me through so much and yet he blames me for the whole relationship going wrong.He tells everyone I was the crazy one and that I cheated on him etc.When he did all of that.He’s got his side of the story and I’ve got mine.In the end,I found the confidence to leave and now I’m in a better place in my life.

[@nicoleguillen2200]

Good. And I hope you never looked back. ❤

[@annbonan]

That's what I'm here for too ❤ Finally stood up for myself after 3 years and he kicked me out but in a way, I just didn't come crawling back for once. But.. he's telling everyone I was crazy, all kinds of stuff. Trouble is, people saw him sometimes. He hid it good but not that good. I know better now. So much better.

[@saxymev]

You were brave for leaving. I'm still stuck here , in thinking let the holidays end and I'll leave.

[@conniesteffey4129]

Yeah according to men we are all crazy

[@conniesteffey4129]

Yes according to men we are all crazy

[@StephenFinder]

I just listened to this song for the first time and was blown away. This song is brilliant. Every father should listen to this with their son(s) and daughter(s). I'm not a big fan of today's country but I love Carly Pearce.

[@jessicamarie7564]

This song is felt in the ❤️ for sure. At the end of a toxic relationship, you always remember the times you felt alone when you shouldn't have way more than any of the abuse.

[@jonathansmith3890]

Show me

[@PinkSunshine25]

This song hits home for several men I’ve had in my life. Luckily my husband is everything this song says he should be, and more ❤️

[@mistygannon2479]

Get out beautiful

[@gregwalker8678]

Hello pink

[@toothfairy8945]

I feel the same way!! So glad we got what we deserved.

[@kim2007fun]

To which he repiles..." you are never happy" ..insert tears here.

[@WriteEraseRewrite]

You nailed it! "I just want you to be happy.."

[@ILoveYouAlejandra]

Literally Crying.. 😢🍃😭 Please God... 🍃🙏🏼🍃

[@AprilCutlersSongs]

Very well written lyrics ….. she ain’t hanging up on the line and having spite . She’s just saying what he didn’t do right… beautiful work sister

[@victoriaboydsweethang6556]

Once you've been heart broken and cut deep. It changes a woman. When a woman gives her all to be burned is the most painful experience to go through. I can 100% relate to this song!!!! Thank you for writing and singing my hearts feelings....

[@jdglen24]

This explains my last relationship...you hear about cheating and ppl intentionally hurting their partners but someone shutting down and always choosing other people ( his friends) hurts equally as much...in the end he did choose someone other than me but way before that i was alone while being in a relationship..i never felt that kind of pain in my heart before...i dont want someone who finds the beauty in being around everyone but me...

[@CaitiJoB]

All of that plus having a 3 year affair with a mutual "friend"...but now all of a sudden Im the one he wants to be after 17 years and 4 kids

[@winniedepow8156]

,

[@jenniferschutz9100]

My ex always chose his DOG over me! What the fuck!?

[@PatriciaWilliams-y9e]

We all have one of those 😢

[@christinacobb9537]

My soon to be ex husband sent this song to me, just before he lead the police on a chase for over an hour and 3-4 county, business owner, beautiful home everything, Sad how fast Gambling problem issues and then, Drug addiction can change your whole life in a matter of year, trying to find myself now can’t stop listening to this song.

[@Alexander010209]

This is the first time I've ever heard of her and I'm so glad I listened to this song. This is the anthem of my life right now. I am just praying for the strength to get out... This song is everything.

[@rachelb2224]

That's exactly where I'm at as well!

[@chalycelee2823]

I’ve experienced this. Never lose your faith, God has a plan. It’s not our plan but HIS! God will restore your entire life as long as you let him and look for him for guidance. Prayers for those out there. I promise there is a way out….God

[@sandralittle2138]

You find your strength one step at a time in the right direction! Godspeed!

[@spadeishere5267]

@@chalycelee2823 vvvv

[@mistygannon2479]

Get out beautiful

[@laceydingus3060]

OMG.. this song right here is exactly how i feel about my ex. Not everything was bad but when it was, it was because "what he didn't do". If you have a good girl, you should really treat her like a queen. treat her the way you'd want someone to treat your daughter!!

[@lisawilliams5458]

Amen to all this

[@Autumnraeoliver]

Yes amen you dont need a boy the only thing important it to shine

[@laceydingus3060]

@@Autumnraeoliver that is all i will ever focus on from here on out. My 3 daughters dont need that kind of influence in their life. they need to know it is not okay for a man to treat you the way some have treated me.

[@Ashley-yr7yq]

Amen!

[@helentillery1402]

Omg.. My granddaughter showed me this song and I listen to it like every day at least three times

[@catherinetodd]

"I won't tell the hell that he put me through..." Don't we know the feeling! You keep saying it girl! Buying your whole album right now!

[@catherinetodd]

@Scott Williams : thank you and it did!

[@samijune7290]

I hope he hears this song. I hope it stops him in his tracks and it hits him. Everything he did to me and how he didn’t just abuse me and break my heart over and over again but he broke our little girl’s heart too. He laughs and says none of it ever happened……tired of his lies. I left almost 10 months ago and I’m still finding the strength to go on after the abuse. It’s something we carry everyday.

[@leahsmith2078]

Same thing, girl!!!

[@maya-xf3vl]

You are so strong, my ex was toxic but not this toxic I'll pray for you

[@kelleyduong]

Ofcourse, he's going to deny it and gaslight you to make you feel crazy...so many guys like that are out there. The most dangerous are the ones who comes off as a good guy at first. I know a girl who went through the same and her boyfriend would do the same.. he is distant, always upset when you would call questioning why he wasn't answering, saying he was busy working, sleeping, phone off, etc... until one day when he was not answering his calls...she caught him in his lies.. he was talking to and flirting seeing another girl. He was quiet after that and even tries to blame you. Unless you catch them in the act or have hard evidence.. to prove them wrong... they will continue to lie to your face and tell you you are crazy and make you feel like something is wrong with you. For years, she had struggled with anxiety thinking she was crazy, paranoid.. but when she saw the truth.. she realized her gut intuition was right and she was not crazy. She miraculously didn't need the medications anymore. Although she still struggled with anxiety and trust issues in people.. it was not as bad anymore. The saddest part of your story is there is a little girl involved.. and that breaks my heart. But hopefully you find a good guy, hopefully all us good women and men find a match of good people. Sometimes it's hard because the bad guys will be in disguise as good guys.. so take your time next time to read the guy... make sure you know his patterns.. and follows through with his commitments and words... give it time to see if he really does... because they change after some time....and if you give your heart too soon... you will just get another 2nd heartbreak just when you think you met the good guy.. guys who prey on the vulnerable and promise the world.. only to never really mean it. Alot of fakes out there... unfortunately. :(

[@maya-xf3vl]

@@kelleyduong this is very similar to my ex I hope we all find great people who treat us right.

[@kelleyduong]

@@maya-xf3vl I hope so too.

[@hiddenfire89]

I love this song......it wasn't what he did but what he didn't do.....he couldn't be what I needed. He couldn't apologize. He couldn't keep promises. He couldn't lift me up. He couldn't support me. He couldn't say I was strong. He couldn't love me for me.....

[@annecurry6010]

I know exactly how you feel...

[@NatalieScanlon]

Hey!! Are we married to the same guy

[@aprilmanttari-see5341]

​@@NatalieScanlon - I might have been married to that guy too. Then I was stupid enough to try a BOYfriend that did the same.

[@FrankyCpunishmentSTYLE]

@@aprilmanttari-see5341 😂

[@KP-62]

I can relate to this song so much right now. I’m married but yet he still does nothing he needs to do. How and why does a man treat a woman so bad now a days…. And then they say I love you just to make them feel better…. Love these lyrics… just what I needed to hear…. Thank you Carly!!

[@heathercollis9688]

Going through same thing. It's hard to leave because you always hope he'll change but deep down you know he won't. And It hurts

[@bethclark8867]

My husband loves to hurt my feelings and make me feel bad and he has no reason most of the time why he talks to me the way he does.

[@Roadrash429]

Truth be told, It happens because you let it..

[@KP-62]

@@Roadrash429 this is true....

[@kelleyduong]

​@@Roadrash429 No, it's not because you let it. Most women I guarantee would walk away if these men showed this side of them in the beginning. Many times women fall in love with an imposter, who was supposed to be the good guy who loves her then shows his true colors. A woman don't just let a man in her life if she thought he was this way in the beginning. Obviously most women don't let a man treat them that way, that's why they end up in break ups and divorce. And when they stay, it's because of love, family, kids, financial, shelter, etc.... and they want to keep it together ... many times are very loving, forgiving, loyal, committed, kind and giving person who doesn't want to quit on their love and make it work. Also, some don't have the financial means or support to walk away. It's more complex. So to say because they let it, is insensitive and ignorant.

[@alexpratt8533]

This song is flawless, from the first note to the last.

[@chriss8970]

Very well said. My new favorite! It has it all.

[@IEATOSI]

This is one of her best songs ever and should be released as a single after Never Wanted To Be That Girl!

[@mariaann310]

I literally just came from listening to that song lol

[@katrinawhitaker7442]

Agreed!!!

[@danielgraff7665]

Songwriting here...man. Good stuff. She sounds great.

[@Favela-rl8cn]

She actually just announced it as the next single

[@karriemacdougall9968]

My new favorite song

[@amandawoodson5602]

I was with a narcissist for 12 yrs and I love this song . And after 4 yrs of being apart people still ask what happened we was a forever thing.

[@crystalhill9430]

Amazing

[@lindahamilton3234]

That's the thing about being in a narcissistic relationship. We don't stop thinking that something went wrong. The problem is we want to fix something that was never right in the 1st place.

[@lisasmith7474]

Dammit I'm tearing up, okay why am I leaking. She nailed this. I've never heard this song before but she hit a lot of the problems women have with men in relationships.

[@jaredcrimmins6040]

I feel like this is my kid's mom talking to me right now hands down this is how I really was and I feel sorry about this now

[@livelovegrow96]

I have never reacted like this to a song before. I was shaking and crying. This just hits too hard for me. I felt like my heart was going to explode.

[@John_Danktide]

The guitar riff is what conveys the emotion and it hurts the most.

[@carolinemostrom6842]

This song just randomly popped up. I'm going through this so hard right now. I just left my husband because he could never be the man I wanted and needed. He took me for granted every single day. 💔

[@terrytschoepe6132]

Hey I'm glad u realized this now just remember this a woman should be treated with the highest respect and know what she is worth. Yet maybe God was just giving u a lesson at the time for something more deserving out there waiting as u r hang in there I'm very sorry ur ex couldn't be the man for u there r some good ones out there. Prayers and hugs keep ur head held up and know ur worth it all still ma'am have a blessed day

[@DMarie-qg4jp]

Same same 😭

[@terrytschoepe6132]

Hugs

[@almanaylor2586]

Caroline, I was 16 when I got married and I thought he was the love of my life, and I was right, it was a roller coaster ride from the start, but never gave up, 4 boys, 14 grand kids, 26 great grand kids and 54 years later it was still going strong when I lost him after 54 years. my best friend and love of my life.

[@terrytschoepe6132]

@@almanaylor2586 wow that's beautiful sorry for ur lost u all should stay strong tho keep going remember the times u did have I was never married came closed a few times lost my first love in my younger days to now still searching for the true love that won't cheat or just want to be friends sucks lol wow thank u guys for sharing these i love reading these it gives me the fight to keep going

[@linusquandras9853]

Girl you are a girl's girl who looks after other women and isn't shy about singing what you feel.I think that and you are amazing. You tried so hard to make it in this crazy industry and you made it. You did not just make it you are a member of the grand ole Opry and have a duet with Ashley McBryde. Keep going girl reach for those stars because you absolutely deserve them.

[@lanceshuman7189]

This is one heck of a good song. The emotion in her voice and intensity of the lyrics are absolutely amazing, beautiful and heartbreaking 💔

[@kayedredfield9102]

I don't think I've heard a song that I can relate to so much besides this one. A few months ago I was in a relationship that was toxic and I was forced to love him by so many people when I shouldn't have. Now 5 months later I am doing so much better and in a relationship with my best friend. Carly you have no idea how much this song means to me. It has inspired me to give up on toxic men and find the right ones and I know when I will find that right man, he will treat me right, put me first, and be a man of his words. ❤

[@davidragusa2200]

great song. Very talented young woman. Her duet with Ashley McBride and this song seems to me to be a sign she is about to hit it big.

[@cherylevans4401]

Her new album is prob my fav, too bad she had to go through so much pain , but she’ll never know how much I relate and it’s speaks to me 😍😍

[@kellibush7583]

Ijp. Yes zavbfn n kjjj b,?:!’nKAn

[@tiffanijenkins4501]

Fehfud

[@benji256]

Will definitely check it out

[@aprilarnold0527]

5

[@Michellef1117]

Same and agreed ❤️

[@bre702]

This hits the heart heard because I was in an abusive and mintpultive relationship and the line " I won't tell the hell he put me through hits extremely hard

[@Melissa-kl9li]

I have also been in these situations and I just want to say you dont deserve to be treated that way ever.You deserve a partner who will treat you with respect and kindness. I have learnt and am still learning to value myself more so I never put up with this sort of treatment ever again. I wish you well on your Journey and just know you deserve better

[@Shindler39]

Another outstanding Country song by you Carly, you have an amazing voice. May God Bless You.

[@jeng1594]

Damn, Carly. It's like you are looking right into the window of my home and heart. Feeling every word of these lyrics at this time of my life. Thank you.

[@tiffanijenkins4501]

Jigs I bf I as big

[@MJ4EVER68]

wow, gave me goosebumps. I learned all this the hard way 20 years ago about my narcissist, drunk, abusive ex. Thank God, I raised my boundaries and standards and found someone I deserved and have never regretted it!

[@scorpiosunmoon4665]

This captures it all … it’s the absence of actions that tell you where you stand with someone

[@ScalesOfLife]

He didn’t NOT add more breaks in my heart. So tired of being unappreciated, ignored, and used

[@sqkaczmarek]

Broken hearts make great lyrics and you are KILLING IT sharing your heart with us. It's a beautiful journey back to an open heart that loves again. You're on your way. GREAT vocals, this is an absolute treasure. Thank you, Carly.

[@carlastanley2301]

I was in this kind of marriage 22 yrs when I left. He was a wonderful provider but he never put me and the boys first. I wish things could have been different but they weren't. He is remarried and happy. I'm happy for him. I'm just struggling with what he didn't do.

[@dezritter1552]

This. Girl. Yes. There is no other words. Absolutely perfect!

[@melinamiller5029]

It was both. What he did AND what he didn’t do. Never again 💜

[@travisbartholomay]

Your voice triggers the words to flow from my heart. Where I get to meet my true self. Like a kid With excitement Running around all over social media Creating my own playground whether they want to here or not Miles of heart spreading Imagination fire

[@ericayorks4874]

Her voice is like honey. Its so beautiful. Lyrics are amazing to. 👏

[@sandiwilson9361]

This song is a reminder to everyone…never piss off a Singer Songwriter!

[@ring3143]

No Lie there! Never piss off any artists!

[@sandiwilson9361]

@@ring3143 yeah but words can cut worse than any knife can.

[@danielgraff7665]

Haha...love that. I am a songwriter. Checkout some of mine. Nashville

[@sandiwilson9361]

@@danielgraff7665 Please list them. I love my country

[@valvenamixhedrick1622]

Ya we will write about it

[@bdagmar11]

This one is so accurate for what I experienced… I kept waiting for him to change and I finally got tired of waiting and hoping. I thought my love was enough but it’s hard to be in a relationship when only one person tries.

[@Melissa-kl9li]

So true . If your partner is not willing to work at it you cant solve the issues.Its so hard. I have been in the same position and its difficult. Sometimes you just wish they would work on it but you cant make them and sometimes you have to walk away.

[@alexiamendoza4169]

Brought tears to my eyes made me remember my ex husband, and that I would never let another man treat me wrong again great job with this song it's very emotional ❤️❤️ 🇹🇹🇹🇹

[@tiffanyvanarsdal4559]

We learn sometimes from what we go through.. that I have such high standards I believe I never find someone in my league ever but I just worry more Abt raising my kids right then getting with another man for now..

[@serenity2655]

Never again! Movin onnnnn

[@copymathew5372]

Oh no, I will never appreciate any man not treating his paternal like shit. Am sorry about your ex husband. Yea move on .. we’re you from?

[@alexiamendoza4169]

@@copymathew5372 Am from Trinidad and Tobago the Caribbean

[@copymathew5372]

Wow, will love to visit some day, am in Texas. Will love to get to know you, probably become friends if you don’t mind, how can I contact you please?

[@melissagorley8293]

I'm going threw a divorce from a narcissist man. This song is on repeat and helps me Alittle every time I hear it❤️

[@FaithJohnstonAndHorses]

This song reminds of my father. I love this song, and will forever thank her for it. It helps me get all my emotions out about my father.

[@meganjburris4499]

This song from the moment I heard it, it broke open a part of my heart that God is only in. I keep locked up from everyone else because of the painful memories, just want to say thank you so much, pain brings purpose ✌️🙏❤️ it is real and I play this song to hopefully bring healing through the hurt. Thank you so much. Many blessings for it is blessing to others with this song.

[@heatherlynsey3092]

I feel like ive waited lifetimes for this one 🤣🤣😭😭 I love it so much

[@matthewh.8717]

The dislikes are from people realizing that it was what they didn't do that cost them the relationship. Love this song!

[@nancybastarache6063]

I love your storytelling songs. You have a such a talent and I love the feeling in your voice. You are wonderful.

[@kidibrown4805]

But she isn't telling story she's saying the way she feels... Right!!!!!!

[@copymathew5372]

Exactly how I feel about country music cause it heals and brings strength when am down, am attracted to your comment and it got me asking, we’re you from?

[@carlypearce7492]

Thanks so much am great full

[@ashleycotton137]

Thank you for this song. I know many of us needed it. It’s so hard to process everything they did and put us through. But this explains it so perfectly

[@gregwalker8678]

Hello Ashley

[@KilisKitchen]

Makes me feel so blessed that both my father and my husband did what the subject of this song didn't do. Everyday, so very thankful to the men in my life for being strong, caring and supportive. I couldn't have survived what I have without my daddy - and, for the last decade - my husband. This song just drives it home how much it means to have them do what "he" didn't do.

[@erikpearson6244]

Is it crazy that this is exactly how I felt/feel about her? I wish there was a male version of this. But I'll sacrifice that for the beauty of this song

[@kaitlinclipper3535]

I immediately thought this applies to both gender so please know that men's silent suffering is not forgotten.

[@erikpearson6244]

@@kaitlinclipper3535 idk how other men feel about it but I absolutely adore it and thank you

[@deborah3941]

Her new songs literally are my life's story!😭🙏❤️

[@Harley_Vampy_Sis_Quinn]

This absolutely speaks volumes.. my ex bf, was verbally, mentally, emotionally abusive, and is narcissist, amongst some other things. Never easy going through a breakup, but worth it, when you distance yourself from something not meant to be.

[@neannlove8066]

Mannnnn.. I got no words for these golden lyrics... 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@tiffanijenkins4501]

I mean I hashbrowns call me or does my mom‘s name is Tiffany I want you Qatar when you call me I love you byep

[@thattrokguy9623]

i know this song is from a womans perspective about a guy but even just reversing the lyrics from a he to she, it still hits just as deep.. the pain that was caused, no matter the amount, pain was still caused. the past is the past for a reason but at some point that past was the future and it still makes us who we are today and we have to live with it, we can either hide it and carry on or use it to our advantage and make a more positive and better outcome for ourselves. no one will ever understand that pain you’ve been through with however many looks, however many conversations. no one will truly understand..

[@tonifrancis7163]

Every woman who has gone through this makes this their anthem.

[@Kynlee.Shops16]

I saw her in concert and all I was at that moment was happy and with a few tears because she is so strong and I listen to her songs everyday!!

[@dobazajr]

I love how this sounds like from early 2000s country. Nice!

[@dr3w399]

This is good country.

[@ajmcgowan3231]

I just couldn’t stop listening and READING every single lyric. I’ve never cried so hard this past week when reality hit and I knew what I had to do. I will never tell what he did, but wish for what he could have done. 😭 next chapter.

[@aurelamedulaj7605]

This song describes how it is being in a relationship with a covert narcissist.👌🏻

[@Alexander010209]

100%!

[@LucaGaming56]

💯 💯 💯

[@cherishgilliland7239]

Yesss

[@hollywentz4276]

So true

[@Feral_Duckie]

😢 I tried so hard...for 15 years...he left state to go home 2 days before I turned 50...his family attacked me because I never said what was going on, on FB, on my birthday and I got to spend it in tears again....this will be the last year a man makes me cry on my birthday❤ this song is everything I have dealt with...thank you

[@Lady-in-the-wrinkled-wrangler]

This is officially the best song you've come out with. I absolutely love it 💙

[@tbobbiej7776]

18 years in a relationship, the last 5 yrs I slept on the couch. The father to my children. I've been gone since 2008, and still cry everyday.

[@Itsher_1210]

- I love this .. 🤍🤍 I felt every word!!

[@melaniethompson2676]

Carly is a musical genius! I would love to meet her . She has the purest heart I’ve ever seen. 🥺💕

[@shirinmarie5236]

Omg just when I think I couldn’t love another song more from her but this is so lyrically amazing!!!!

[@copymathew5372]

Exactly how I feel about country music cause it heals and brings strength when am down, am attracted to your comment and it got me asking, we’re you from?

[@Aubrey.1125]

My Grandfather passed away almost 9 yrs ago and i was 3 but i feel like now if he was still here with me that he would tell me that this is how a man should treat you. I've dealt with plenty boys that think they can treat me horribly or bully me and i used to just sit their and take it but now that i've listened to this song it gives me conifedence and every thing that a girl needs to stand up 4 themselves.

[@shawnstarbird211]

❤WOW❤ TRULY ANGELIC VOICE❤

[@robertajones6311]

I needed this song tonight. Facing this truth right now. It helped hearing it. ❤

[@joymbugua6135]

One of the best songwriters...I dont even know where to start.....perfect word to word

[@snipesgaming94]

I threw away a beautiful and amazing family because I didn't do these things... I would give everything to have another chance to do these things now. 😢 How was I so stupid to not do these things for my family...

[@ALEXAPATINOAFORALEXA]

She made one hell of a song right here!!!!! Go Carly

[@achilleasvaitsis4343]

This song perfectly describes the concept of toxic relationship/marriage.

[@Traceysthoughts]

This is a song I feel. Sadly, I’ve lived it. You have an amazing voice.

[@joeschmo6637]

The voice of an angel!

[@mickiamajor8110]

"I've got my side of the story, and he's got his side, too." 💛 "So I ain't gonna go and tell you what he did, but I'll tell you what he didn't do." 💛

[@Kelly-ne9yw]

Wow. This song is absolutely amazing and how true!!! Her voice is beautiful 💖

[@belindasanders7072]

4 me it was what he did & didn't do. Love this song Carly. Also "Never Wanted To Be That Girl". Identify with both. Unfortunately, it appears too many of us have been done wrong. Ladies it can b a long road 2 recovery but u CAN do it. Let God lead u.

[@tiffanyyanush656]

Why wasn’t this song out 6 months ago!? Now I’m in a good relationship, but this is perfect for my past relationship

[@dianna6375]

I heard this song and loved it but couldn't relate. It took multiple times hearing this song to realize these are the exact things that ended my last relationship and why I appreciate them so much from my husband, and that's when I realized his love truly healed me from that toxic relationship.

[@evaday5390]

This song tells a story. Thank you Carly you explained me without me having to say anything abt my ex 😭❤️