Waiting till marriage…

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Hello beautiful friends! Kyle & I are back with a question and answer video. We go through questions about sexual boundaries, how we knew the other was "the one", singleness, and more!
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[@Happysoursop]

To the girls reading this: Be the person God wants you to be. You are all special just the way you are and someday all things shall fall into place according to His will and in His perfect time. 🙂

[@brittneydavis2573]

The confidence that Kyle has in God is amazing

[@marisamarino7596]

What a beautiful testimony!! I’m 40 and praying for my future spouse. I’ve never been married and almost married someone, who like you, God called me out of a relationship with. I don’t know if God will bless me with a husband or keep me single. I have a desire to marry so I continue to pray about it. You are both right- prayer is powerful. Thank you for sharing your beautiful love story with us. It’s a wonderful testimony!!

[@delilahmast9225]

This is probably the best and wisest talk on dating boundaries I've ever heard🌟💛

[@arbretree5463]

Same!

[@angeliu6840]

Kyle & Kian, that has such a nice ring. :) Also Kyle's brows fleeek.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

hahaha he has been saying that so much lately 😂

[@kylewolfgang]

😂🤣 thanks for noticing... Plucked them myself 😏

[@luisalmeida8275]

@@Kian_Wolfgang Where does it specifically say in the bible that masturbation is wrong? Ive read the entire bible and didn´t find anything there about masturbation. Porn has been linked to some nasty things like erectlile dysfunction and teenagers going nuts and raping people.

[@janaeg2698]

Luis Almeida I’ve heard from pastors that masturbation is a form of adultery (which is a sinful act) similar to pornography because you are lusting over something or someone else rather than your future spouse so it is considered adultery (from what I’ve heard)

[@sabreec]

@@luisalmeida8275 I know this is a month later (and sorry this is long!!) but hope you see this! A verse God brought to me recently is 1 Corinthians 6:18-20. It says, "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit which are God's." If we really think about it, masturbation is truly a self serving action to fulfill our needs of the flesh in the moment. After reading 1 Corinthians, specifically the part that says to glorify God in your body, I realized that this is such a beautiful opportunity and call from God to do things differently than the world. With masturbation, it is extremely extremely hard to commit that act, and even what sparks us wanting to do that act is driven by lust. For myself personally this was always the case that led me to masturbation. The Bible is clear about that (lust) being a sin. Romans 13:14 says to "make no provision for the flesh" , in other words, don't put ourselves in situations that would cause us to sin. This is why Paul says in 1 Corinthians 6:12 that all things are lawful but are not helpful. So even if masturbation is lawful, how does that help us fulfill our purpose in Jesus? How is that helpful to the spread of His gospel? How is it helpful for our santification? As Paul did, we should also discipline our body and bring it into subjection (1 Corinthians 9:27) so that an action that we do does not disqualify us from the gospel being heard by others. Instead of a question of IF we are allowed to do something that isn't technically sin, man what greater glory is there in living in the purposes for which God has called us, a much greater purpose than fulfilling fleshly lusts.

[@lalalalaaAa123]

“No one was pursuing me” = “God helped me with that” AMEN 🙏🏾

[@bellavita3097]

But she had five boyfriends before she met Kyle intimate relationships she doesn’t mention that in this video and you shouldn’t be tied down to the same person in your 20s. Should be single and free.

[@lalalalaaAa123]

@@bellavita3097 I know! Doesn’t change the message or that her season of singleness was to protect and reset her heart ❤️ And I agree, I’m loving my single 20s so far, I’d much rather have multiple gentleman courting me so I can make a selection than to pin myself to the first one that comes along. But that’s not what works for everyone!

[@juliabailey96]

Wow, I always felt like I was the only one who felt like god had called them to be single for the rest of my life. Knowing that it may be to root me further into a foundation with him brings me so much peace and comfort

[@hlyruhe21]

I’m glad that you clarified that peace doesn’t always come right away. I didn’t have true peace till 8 months in because of fears from my past that God knew I needed to work through ❤️

[@hlyruhe21]

Also my fiancé and I have very similar boundaries! They’ve helped tremendously

[@amayraniayala7423]

Love that you guys are so open to talk about these topics , God bless y’all!

[@ChrisGarcia.]

That is so beautiful keep shining brightly and pure for the Lord! I waited for my wife and it was such a blessing. 🔥 ❤️

[@jewelblue8496]

Thank you two for sharing all of this! My boyfriend said immediately after I said yes when he asked me to be his gf, "Since we're boyfriend and girlfriend, let's talk about boundaries". I was glad about that and wanted to discuss that right away as well. We are saving sex for marriage as well as some other things I will make a video in the near future. 😉🙏🏽

[@montanabuck]

Thanks so much for making these videos. I felt God telling me maybe I’m not supposed to be married to anyone except Jesus, so when Kyle mentioned that, I received some confirmation. This would explain why nobody has pursued me in some time, even though I believe I’m a great catch just like Kian said- and also why I’m being drawn to closer consecration with the Lord. I’m enjoying this season of singleness, but am still somewhat hopeful that maybe one day the Lord will suit me to be ready. Love you both so much and I am so blessed by your videos. God is truly doing a beautiful work through each of you and together. God bless you both 💜🙏🏻

[@zmiem9556]

Montana Buck single lady here🙋🏽‍♀️for many years

[@mikasweetman1636]

hearing kyle say he started praying for you right as you were feeling convicted about your previous relationship is SOO amazing. Such a testament to how beautiful and pure God's love is for us!

[@makeupxterri]

I have been opening myself up to Jesus so much and seeing this makes me so happy ❤️

[@Happytown7523]

I am the one that asked how far you guys had gone sexually!! 😂 sorry to be so bold, but I am in a relationship with a Christian guy and we are still trying to figure out what our limits should be. He wants to go farther than me and I am hesitant (obviously not sex), so it is a bit concerning to me and I have been wondering if we are truly meant to be together... I am so happy for you Kian, you found such a keeper ❤❤

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

We enjoyed the boldness and it is a great question. I encourage you to pray on that in your own time. The goal is to keep the marriage bed pure. (hebrews 13:4) It also says even looking at a woman with lust is committing adultery.(matthew 5:28) Therefore second/third base would most definitely be considered a form of sexual immorality outside of marriage. If the goal is to keep the marriage bed as pure as possible we shouldn't be asking "how far can we go" rather "how far can we stay away" 💛

[@Happytown7523]

@@Kian_Wolfgang Thank you so much for your reply! He gets upset whenever I tell him that we should maybe lay off certain things, so this is probably a sign that I should leave him... it can be very difficult to break up especially when you have feelings for the other person. I know that it is not right to resist this core value of mine. I will be praying and seeking god's will. Thank you ❤

[@annakate6731]

Kirsten Young If he’s getting upset over that then maybe you’re right and it’s not the right relationship for you. My bf and I want to respect God and each other, and even though we have desires (of course) and even though we occasionally mess up, we both want to be the best we can be and it’s not just one of us carrying that. He so desperately want to respect me and do God’s will that he’s often the one to create new boundaries, discuss things, and pray about it the most (and he has much more temptation/desire than me so that’s saying something). I’m not saying your relationship is wrong bc there’s a lot of great things about every person and you care about the person. But it is important to consider whether your partners values match up to yours. Best of luck to you and I’ll be praying for clarity for you!

[@qreua_3075]

@Kirsten Young You should never be made to feel like you honoring Gid is an inconvenience. Kissing is fine, affection is fine...but it seems he may be wanting to toe with the line...and the last thing a man of God would want is for his potential wife to feel pressured into compromising her purity. I speak as someone who has been in this situation before, and compromised to please my (then) boyfriend....so much regret and shame followed, and I wouldn't wish that on any of my sisters in Christ.

[@Mateogreat]

@@Happytown7523 If he cared about you he wouldn't push your boundaries. He just being lustful and isn't ready for a Godly relationship

[@georginaashworth]

The story of how the Lord brought you together is truly amazing! Praying that God continues to bless and guide you in this new season of engagement ❤

[@LibbiandTori]

so glad I discovered y’all! ❤️ Jesus is so good!!

[@graceclara3696]

This is the advice I needed. You are so lucky to have a man who is willing to wait. This is one of the best (if not the best) gift he can offer you. I have decided to reconnect with Jesus and prioritize Him. So far it has healed me and I am much more comfortable with myself. It has been easier to wait for the right man.

[@jordanlee4298]

I’m struggling with finding God during this coronavirus quarantine. My church closed and they do live sermons every Sunday and I’m just not receiving the messages, I don’t feel connected. Can you please do a video about apps you use if you use any. You and Kyle are awesome, i love how open you two are.

[@chelseaweekly2807]

Jordan Lee I agree!

[@juliachan8421]

i find podcasts helpful! i am loving rick warren's "the daily hope" podcast. you can download the podcast app. he posts videos on his youtube channel too. other christian youtubers i love are sadie robertson & savannah lewie.

[@shefindshim1151]

I really hope you can feel connected soon!!! I think it is normal to feel this way right now. I was feeling really down the other day. I needed to work on my faith-based Blog but just wasn't "feeling it." I was feeling so uninspired and kinda depressed. I decided to go outside and do some physical exercise. I walked and then did some body weight exercises. While I did the exercise, I listened to Christian videos. I think getting that fresh air and movement while hearing the word...helped tremendously! I came back home and was super pumped to work on my Blog. Maybe physical exercise while listening to sermons can help you, too!?😊

[@jenni5342]

Praying for you during this time! its such a struggle without the support of our christian brothers and sisters in person. Have you tried doing a bible study with a few friends via zoom or Skype? so uplifting spending time in Gods word together and get that important fellowship. Also such a great opportunity to spend time watching sermons from different churches. Heres a link to my church kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4fQkq2YrZyDrac who do incredibly faithful bible teaching! God bless

[@acm9759]

Listen ti sermons from Michael todd or Steven Furtick and pray before

[@laylamolina5172]

Thank you so so much for talking about boundaries!! I’ve seriously been looking forward to this for so long😂 you and your relationship with the Lord are incredible!!🥰💕

[@briannahuser8315]

Love this video! I am in a season of singleness where I want to spend the next few years focused on growing in the Lord and finding direction in life. This video was really encouraging!

[@stephj.4749]

I am in the same season I think! I just want to focus on my relationship with Jesus and be so fulfilled with him that when the right person comes along it will be all on his timing :) xx

[@kaytlynmartinez983]

Girl you’re soo pretty!! But I love these topics that y’all do!! I think it’s so nice to hear others talk about things that other people also treasure, and value

[@AnnaKhait7]

Aww good for you guys! Praise God for your wisdom ! Stay strong in Him until marriage. Love to see you guys share this!!! Bless you! ❤️✝️ it’s going to be soo special when you’re married. And the way he looks at you! He loves you!! Awww so sweet !

[@miaserenavega]

Thanks for being so open and honest! 💛

[@brigid2286]

I definitely recommend "Things I wish I'd known before we got married" by Gary Chapman (who is also christian), we were given this book by our pastor after our pre marriage course and it was so interesting and useful and you can definitely go back to it in the future if need be :)

[@gabriellabotha240]

Pre-wedding looks good on you :) that glow tho. ily

[@Evergreenforest33]

Always giving us the good stuff Kian!

[@sabreec]

This whole video was such a blessing to me but the portion around 18 mins really touched me and I became tearful when Kyle said, "God is not a God of confusion." I can vividly remember feeling His peace when deciding where to go to grad school and that being SO CLEAR yet have felt confusion over His timing. I'm turning 25 in 6 days and have never had a boyfriend or even gone on a real date, and hearing you talk Kian about the blessing of God guarding Kyle and how from relationships and your thoughts about not wanting to date someone's husband and have that person worry about relationships of the past was powerful. Truly helps me to believe God has a deep purpose for my singleness, and will pray that God will open me up WHEN my foundation is secure. Amen!

[@zechariahhatten4219]

You guys are awesome! Thank you for leading the path on this in a world that preaches the opposite of these boundaries! 🙌🏻🙏🏻💪🏼

[@hanakimjohnson]

So much wisdom and purity in this video, thank you 🤍

[@hannahreyes2767]

when i watch people in relationships or in every day life, you sorta get this presence that they have God in their heart and i totally got that from y’all even before i knew you were christian 💓

[@emilyspears8911]

Can't wait for the boundaries video!

[@jessicamarieterhunefrazee]

Most genuine & cutest people 💙 thank y’all for being real with us!

[@camerynbowers6132]

you guys are so encouraging. love seeing how Christ is working through you

[@jemimaawesomebieber]

Thank you so much for this and for being a godly example ❤️

[@3baby2]

You guys are amazing and inspiring 💛 Thank you for sharing your lives with the world

[@juliegrelli6381]

this is brilliant! thank you for your boldness in posting this!

[@maxd.1730]

You two look gorgeous and I love that you both so much into your faiths ❤️🥺

[@ashleyayeee9396]

Thank you so much for posting a video like this. My boyfriend and I have been talking about boundaries after taking it a little too far and I couldn't place what I wanted our boundaries to look like but the Lord led me to your video when I've never even seen any of your others (definitely subscribed!) and it reminded me of what I wanted before I even got into my relationship. God is definitely using you guys! :)

[@whitneyallman8365]

beautiful couple. God bless this union!

[@marissad7455]

Thank you for being so transparent 💗💗💗 Ready for part 2

[@nissisikinam3649]

I've discovered you guys just today and have almost watched all the videos where both of you are just today. God had taught me many things or more so reminded me many things. Please keep making more videos about the goodness in the season of singleness and also little bible study sessions here and there:) PS: would love to see Kyle more often in your videos.

[@stormknock960]

Your prayer testimony has really encouraged me to pray more for my future husband

[@kar3n35]

Dating has been so weird for me. First i didnt like anybody. I wasnt intrested in guys i met. Im a new christian and i still was contemplating a non christian and weird thing would happen like this guy i went on a date told me he was a pagan... what?😒 and another guy told me he was the devil😱 and i only liked 1 guy in 2 years only kiss him till today and he stole from his mom and did drugs. Soo i thought if a man is not with jesus im not gonna even give him a chance again. Theres this other friend i know his intrested in me but i feel nothing for him and i guess i have to keep waiting. Im ok do im doing well. God is helping me some how and im sure im not missing out on anything right now. When god has a man for me he will come around in talking of jesus.

[@martinmystery7258]

Jesus* , God*

[@taylorpitman6838]

Love this! God bless! Romans 10:13 "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." You all are a wonderful inspiration and I am so blessed by your example of Jesus and the church. I was in a time where God revealed my husband to me but told me to WAIT on God's timing. During those (about four and a half years) I really dove into Jesus and was blessed with a foundation that a man could never have fulfilled. I pray for you both and those that are in a season of singleness, as every season is not easy! But that is the importance of having Jesus and our Father: they will be with us and help us when nobody else will or can!

[@abigailnegussie5117]

Please read Timothy Keller's, "Meaning of Marriage" and Michael Todd's, "Relationship Goals". Thank you for sharing such valuable wisdom with us. Love you my dear

[@SarahAgapi]

Amen i love Michael Todd

[@mycupofcocoa1125]

Wow cool how Kian was focused on God ok with being single and Kyles story is similar.

[@leslieblanco3536]

He's so handsome and you're beauitful! Best of luck to you both and may god bless you both!

[@Ash_Queen16]

I just subscribed to your channel and i'm loving the advice you and Kyle are giving! I definitely need to be single for a while until God says that it's time for me to date again because I haven't been making the best of decisions regarding relationships. I'm going through it now and it's hard but I'm slowly learning to embrace it because it's a necessary foundation for me to build.

[@tierakiralienerttrcin7493]

Awesome, love watching your older videos after seeing how married life is for you both. Low key question: does Kyle do his brows or are they naturally like that 🙈

[@KRLEEQ]

Y’all this music, talk about setting the mood for the convo lol!

[@arbretree5463]

Love this video so much!! You guys are underrated! Stay blessed

[@tamarmilenewicz7932]

Question for next Q&A: What are your thoughts on birth control?

[@ashlynmcclary9795]

Such a blessing! Thanks for your honesty and boldness in the Lord!

[@kcitylights9947]

Stumbled upon your channel ✨✨✨ role models keep Jesus 1🙃

[@parislopez918]

i literally love you guys so much, y’all are just so inspiring! ❤️🙌🏼

[@zmiem9556]

I love how clear you are about your boundaries. 👏🙏🏼

[@bethanytong2338]

please post the part two soon, looking forward to it!

[@stephj.4749]

You're both doing so well!! And thank you for sharing your wisdom and all about boundaries! xx

[@livstefanie7197]

I love your channel so much and your videos are so helpful to me especially in relation to me and my boyfriend. We did things wrong but now I feel like we can start again from the beginning and have a relationship that God wants. Thank you for your open-mindedness💜

[@justsparkle07]

love your hearts and this relationship!

[@stormknock960]

Wow, that prayer testimony is so crazy!! Prayer is powerful;God is powerful

[@angelavanoosten1]

I've been waiting for this vid yay!! 🥰

[@deniseflores80]

What do you mean when you say that "God told you" did you hear his voice? I just dont understand could you be more specific how you "heard from God"?

[@SassyTee01]

God can speak in His scripture, I've also had images in my mind of something specific and the feeling would be really strong and I would just know it's from God. But i think you just have to build your relationship with Jesus, and more and more you'll know His voice. Like you'll just know it is Him speaking. Hope this helps?

[@katieuraski7756]

Just as have God us our conscious, He gave us intuition. Hearing the voice of God feels similarly to listening to those parts of ourselves, but it feels like it’s coming from a source larger than our own being (because he is!!) and isn’t always what we expect to hear.

[@isabellahigueras5347]

@@katieuraski7756 Yeess

[@zefanyatirza2629]

Thank you for sharing your relationship journey! I'm so blessed!

[@natalieamboyan]

I just watched your denver vlog and then this one came up! love that you have a fiancé now and are able to share your story! xoxo

[@alannacbarlow7476]

Loved the answer about your kissing boundary!!

[@xariah2546]

Thank you cute Christian you tubers !!

[@kelseycayer7086]

We have to convince Kyle to make a youtube channel

[@lindsaybenitez1334]

very practical wisdom, awesome guys!!

[@taylorwelleford8163]

Can Kyle do a video on how he has began to lead you and your relationship? I would love it!

[@georginaspriddell223]

jesus started his ministry at 30 lol, he died and rose at 33

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

georgina spriddell maybe I can convince him to have kids earlier now 😂

[@georginaspriddell223]

Kian Tilton yes!!!! go for it!!!

[@mgcancio182]

Thank you for this video. Lots of insight and wisdom you shared. God bless you two

[@belenramirez7702]

This is actually very encouraging, thank you

[@kellyquinn4820]

I love the way he looks at his fiancé!!! 😍

[@stephaniemunoz1200]

Love this!!!!!

[@harleighstringer]

it's so crazy, i am not a virgin, but i decided to not have sex again until marriage and i told myself i'd makeout before, but ive actually been convicted lately that i will more than likely only do "peck" kisses before haha. i used to think it was silly that people didnt even kiss, but now i realize why.

[@99niaalice]

SAME! People don’t understand but it’s to their demise

[@99niaalice]

Harleigh Stringer like it’s impossible to make out with out lusting

[@abigailbetts3421]

I agree. All my friends (even my christian friends) think I am crazy, but I am strongly convicted against making out before marriage. I think it is lustful and not honoring to the other person and the other person's future spouse if it is not you. I used to think it was crazy too.

[@harleighstringer]

Abigail Betts yes! and just imagine how much more special it will be for us when we wait for even that 🤷🏼‍♀️ it'll all be worth it

[@christinawatkinsyoutube]

Discovered your channel yesterday and I loooove the Content!

[@BeachsideHank]

*Sapient Wisdom:* In the Bible, love is only called a relationship if one has power over the other.

[@davidspear9029]

Good for you both! Society needs more of this. It makes for a stronger relationship for the future. Mazel tov! ❤

[@SamaraMorgan1970]

Thank you so much, this was very encouraging for me as a single

[@christsroyalty2811]

Kian, are you Hispanic or white? Random question...

[@cstain742]

I was wondering the same thing! She seems like both.

[@dorinhaaaaa]

Sorry if i'm being invasive but i just appreciate you talking so openly about these topics and i have some questions! I always thought masturbation was something that could relief the sexual tension and lust... Is it ok to do it when you're married? Again, sorry but i would love some light about this topic! Thank you for the videos ❤️

[@navyblue915]

Hi Guys, I stumbled on this video after watching Kyle's testimony on finding Jesus - it was moving and such an encouragement to watch. I pray God keeps you grounded Kyle :) In watching this video, I was a little unclear. I had assumed you both are a married couple. However, from the title of this video, it appears not. Are you guys cohabiting?

[@itsallroses1847]

13:21 jesus didnt start his ministry at 33.. he started it at 30 and died at 33- sure this was just accidental that you said it wrong but had to correct that one cozzz hes our LORDDDD isnt heeeeee (i hope im correct though with the age??? lol..) love you guys and your athenticty! its so refreshing and inspiring! keep on going! thank you so much!!! XXX love... hope your not mad about my commetn read it with a little wink ;)

[@barrygaynor1025]

Well done!

[@lucysterloff]

NOOOO why do you always stop the video in the most exciting part? 😂😤 I love you both 🥰

[@sabreenamendes7995]

Thank you so much for this video and thank you for being so vulnerable with us!!

[@parinazaz4044]

Hi Kyle, I’m just wondering ..Are your parents believers now?

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

parinaz Az his mom is a loyal believer and God is doing amazing work on his father too 💛

[@parinazaz4044]

Kian Tilton that’s awesome..Praise Jesus! ✨ 💜 ✨

[@emilymckim4740]

Such a wholesome honest video. :)

[@kerenvillegas8271]

I love you guys !!💜

[@TheRealDaniJean]

Love you and praying for you two! ❤️

[@samuelglenn274]

May you go more in depth about what the transition from only worrying about yourself to stepping into leadership?

[@birdie1086]

I have an older and younger brother and we're all two years apart lol I've learned to like having brothers😊😁

[@amsalework1]

You guys Blessed me with your testimonies

[@jackjones3657]

Your fiancé said it well to not just flee sexual temptation but to run from it. This is what Joseph did when Potiphar's wife sought to seduce him. What a mature, transparent discussion.

[@Itscourtenayxo]

I'm an only girl with an older brother and a younger brother and its pretty good! It would have been cool to have a sister too though 😊

[@capstar633]

Again thank you! I am also sending this to my adult son. When is the wedding? 😊😊

[@TheLordismyshepherd...]

Solid foundation thing goot meeey

[@whycanticomeupwithagoodcha3608]

How do you know when god has spoken to you? If I don’t know, does that mean that he hasn’t spoken to me yet?

[@whycanticomeupwithagoodcha3608]

jayda huntley Thank you! God bless you amen 🙏🏻