Could this be the root of all that toxic drama?

[@Sharon-fc6lz]

Thank you, this was very insightful. I've been trying to figure out why I never feel able to be myself around people I'd considerered my friends. I never felt I would be accepted for who I truly am, but I also think it's because I dont accept myself either or don't quite know who I am separate from others.

[@Betwixt_App]

Yes, I’m sure all of that is playing a part. People tend to think that authenticity should be natural and easy (I get comments like that on these videos sometimes), but I think it’s one of the hardest tasks we’re set in life 🖤

[@alexlindbjerg]

The point about bullies is spot! I've watched this video a couple of times already. The notion of bullies being victims has been a thought of mine for a while. The bullies must have experienced that behavior somewhere. It's a form of learned ruthlessness. Maybe even learned helplessness transformed.

[@Betwixt_App]

Absolutely. We learn how to feel OK from our primary caregivers and other influences from a young age. If our parents only knew maladaptive coping strategies, then those will be what we model. These things can be changed later in life, but it takes work and requires support, empathy and education, much of which is inaccessible to many 😕

[@Musicianphilosopher777]

Wow this was really insightful like some comments have already said, thank you.

[@Betwixt_App]

You’re very welcome!

[@commandery3574]

yo you went in on this in a way that actually up ended me. thank you. it cuts so much to the which of it all it’s actually devastating but i needed it. it feels so necessary

[@Betwixt_App]

I had a similar reaction when I first landed on this mindset take almost ten years ago. It has absolutely changed my life, though. I’m glad you found it insightful!

[@annalockwood3021]

This is so helpful! Thank you for doing this work.

[@Betwixt_App]

You’re so welcome!

[@awesomesauce1157]

really love this content

[@Betwixt_App]

Thanks! I’m so glad 🖤

[@keepmoving1185]

Well done, thank you. Also, looking sharp!! 🤩😎

[@Betwixt_App]

@@keepmoving1185 Thanks! ☺️

[@2gooddrifters]

All my friends have a growth mindset. We are all artists.

[@Betwixt_App]

Awesome 🖤🖤🖤

[@GhANeC]

Was this a joke lol

[@FirstWomanonTheMoon1]

it made sense and I thought about some relationships with females that could have some of these characteristics. Thank you for sharing.

[@Betwixt_App]

You’re welcome! And… only women? I know lots of men who also struggle with this 🖤

[@charlottenilsson3820]

This is an amazing theory. How did you discover this?

[@Betwixt_App]

The theory of fixed and growth mindsets is the brainchild of Carol Dweck (her book is referenced in the description if you want to read it). The particular application to interpersonal relationships was born out of my observations while practicing as a therapist 🖤

[@jonahblock]

thank you

[@Betwixt_App]

You’re welcome ☺️

[@au8438]

Will you possibly do videos on romanticizing/glamorizing your life? Is it healthy to do? I think some of your content takes on a more extraordinary approach that I find fascinating

[@Betwixt_App]

Oh, thank you! And that sounds like an interesting topic. Can you clarify what you mean, exactly? You you mean choosing to see one’s life through rose-tinted glasses?

[@au8438]

@@Betwixt_App I suppose seeing it through rose tinted glasses is one way! Perhaps also seeing your life as like a role playing adventure or seeing very spiritual/magical things in otherwise mundane things.

[@PaulRWorthington]

@@au8438 Yes, the yt channel Like Stories of Old had an ep looking at SpiderMan 3, which I have not seen, and how it really is showcase for the problems of Grandiosity... I watched it and thought "Uh oh."

[@spennny1000]

I heard a story where a wise man told a busy body just to do 1 thing and be a reflection of good in his daily life... but how would a body do this.....

[@jonahblock]

is there a desktop version of the your game? I personally feel the cognitive risks of using smartphones might not be worth the gains..... since smartphones are designed to function like casinos if that makes sense but I do love your videos

[@Betwixt_App]

@@jonahblock I hear that! We have been very intentional about ensuring Betwixt is not addictive or pressure-inducing like many other apps, but it does only exist for smartphones at the moment. We may optimise for desktop at some stage in the future.

[@jonahblock]

@@Betwixt_App it’s not you, it’s the gatekeepers, first you have to get past the App Store which once your attention, then there is the way a smart phone has no object permanence so you always need to orient and then every time you pick up the smart phone you need to make an active choice not to do something more addictive with it like Facebook or TikTok’s or or more addictive gaming or even this right now

[@jonahblock]

My real point is I would love a windows version of this for my desktop. I also do t like focusing on this little screen. I have to “spend more cognition points” to do anything on this smartphone. Even typing takes longer