Dating is a cycle of beginnings and endings. Here’s how to navigate it. - Letters From Esther Live

It feels so good to click with a new person romantically-conversations flow, jokes develop, small touches are electrifying. Everything indicates forward motion until one day something changes. Something, it becomes clear, has unclicked.
The tricky part of dating, particularly in the early weeks and months, is that we don’t have any way of knowing definitively which way the relationship is going to go. It’s an age old pattern of exhilaration and agony.
In this workshop, we’ll discuss navigating the ambiguity of new relationships and the importance of cultivating an openness to possibility.
I’ll be discussing this month’s newsletter on New Relationships.
Letters from Esther Perel is a monthly newsletter and free workshop series created to help you deepen your connections through reflection and action. Sign up for the series here: bitly.com/lettersfromesther

[@33Jenesis]

There is no controlling others’ feelings or actions. The best way to deal with uncertainty from the world around me is to take care of myself. Be independent in every way. I can control how I react and deal with what happens to me. In my limited power I will try my best to avoid bad people, bad situation, and bad decision making. If good love comes from family or non blood related people, great, my good luck. If not, I can still go on.

[@nursegaines3519]

Yes, Yes, and Yes

[@mchris65]

@@jonicoltonfilms But she didn't say she didn't care about others. We can be independent and still care. I think the more correct term is we don't rely on others for feeling good. I can relate anyway.

[@tinaforbes1059]

@@mchris65 correct .

[@sethtenrec]

@@nursegaines3519same

[@sethtenrec]

@@mchris65same

[@matt19026]

Someone wrote "How do I stop attracting Narcissists". That is a simple question with a complex answer. What I have gathered so far is this: 1) Narcissists are attracted to our generosity. We need to set limits and boundaries around our generosity. This will help us weed out those who are trying to take advantage of us. 2) If we are people pleasers, or have those tendencies, we put everyone else's needs above our own. Once again the answer is to set boundaries. First to take care of ourselves and our own needs first. (Which is counter intuitive to a people pleaser), and then to set limits on how much, or how often you are going to give to someone, without seeing any genuine concern for you, your needs or yourself as a person. Relationships are based (In part) on a level of reciprocity and mutual respect. It is the nature of a people pleaser to give freely, without the concern of what the other person brings to the relationship. This allows Narcissists, and other abusive types (Like addicts) to keep taking without giving. 3) People pleasers, and those with these tendencies, suffer from a low sense of self-esteem. The narcissists can detect this, and they latch on to us. So to stop attracting them, we must build our sense of self-esteem. This means, we have to have a level of admiration and respect for ourselves. Not let our sense of self-worth be dictated by either what we do for others or how others feel about us. We must realize we are whole, and complete, and worthy of love and respect just for being us. This is as far as I have gotten in my own journey. If there are any more steps, I would be glad to hear from those with more experience in this area than I.

[@griffinina]

Agree. Nothing hurts more than suddenly the other person losing interest and I don’t know why.

[@karenwilliams8977]

I guess they think they are trying not to hurt our feelings by not telling us, but it is worse by not saying anything.

[@jonathanpenner4260]

Same just happened to me. Perfect to “different stage of our lives”. Then ghosting. So painful. The truth is the proper way to end.

[@svetlanaopatskyi8682]

A part of the release and healing for me is having that discussion at the end of the “situationship”. Some people aren’t compatible and we should normalize that conversation because just ghosting people is unnecessary. We need to live and love with more respect then that.

[@armandbourque2468]

Theres no point to that discussion.

[@sabina_NL]

There is! It can bring closure in a way that you can both look back at the 'situationship' and each other as a person with respect, love and a smile. You'll still be hurt and all. But sometimes you can be tempted to look back with only anger, miscontempt or whatever. Most of the times this last conversation (or, like I have also done, writing letters with each other) can bring a bit more understanding and peace.

[@joeybreezedad]

Svetlana. I agree with you that ending conversation is necessary. For the proposer is about clarification and respect for the other person. For the interlocutor; it is closure. It is not being left hanging and with the empty feeling of unworthiness. 💞

[@ramirenriquez6795]

Definitely ideal. Unfortunately, though, we cannot or should not expect this from everyone simply because we're all not mature to do this but for those who are courageous and sound enough to do so, let's do this and hopefully, there will be a ripple effect.

[@bro918]

What is a situationship

[@robertadcox8419]

People for the most point never know what they want. They sometimes are attracted for the wrong reason to other people. Over time these issues show up and boom, you are on your own. Know yourself and present yourself honestly. If that doesn't work, make yourself a nice drink.

[@blackibah]

Wow, you just gave me a mantra, "know yourself or present yourself honestly". Powerful

[@maretleesi6912]

Spot on!

[@tedhenry4446]

My family stopped by a coffee shop for a quick break while traveling. We noticed 3 men and 3 women, in their 30s/40s, in the corner seating and their body language told me they were a bit nervous, a bit self-aware, and not couples. They were having a conversation and laughing that nervous way....like "Thank goodness someone made a joke!". My wife noticed some literature on a table and peeked at it. Turns out, it was a local singles group meeting as my wife told me when we were in the car. We've been married 30 years and my heart went out to this group....not sympathy, but empathy.....we both remember the crazy days of dating and understand how vulnerable the individuals in this group had made themselves. Vulnerability.....seems to be the most common feeling from my dating days. I was a confident guy....but I definitely faced rejection along the way. Keep your heart open.

[@LaSorciereFeuillue]

Thankyou Ted Henry

[@dublingirl1691]

Thank you for your encouragement.

[@mariapiecuch417]

Thank you for sharing. I am always jealous when I see long-term couples that do not have to go through dating anymore. It can be so draining sometimes. I hope to have one day home and a boring life. 😄

[@user-gd5tq7df8h]

Gosh, you just described my current experience with courting to a T. Such a relief to know the unknown and the up and down loops are normal. I'm back in the game after years and frankly I am just now discovering the real essence of dating, of courtship, of what it is all about and its value. It's been a revelation. I was never good at relationship and before would jump into too quickly. Now I take my time and explore the little nuances and colours and building blocks of whatever it may flourish into. Your video also has a happy and optimistic undertone which gives me courage!

[@io100x100]

What I love about dating: the connection, having fun getting to know someone new, experiencing new activities, learning new things, feeling wanted by physical touch, hugging, and kissing. Negative aspects: The uncertainty, knowing that they can leave at any moment for someone else, not feeling enough

[@orwillito]

This has been so helpful. Thank you, Esther!

[@vickigrobler1713]

Beautiful workshop... Have watched many KZbin videos of your wisdom but 1st time on your workshop.... Priceless wisdom 💖

[@maybeme94]

This was so helpful! I hope I’ll remember to get on live next time! Thanks Esther!

[@rimazouaidi264]

Merci pour cette analyse relationnelle! Thank you for this consciousnesses and your help ! Send you a lot of love 🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@FancyRavenmoon]

My first encounter with you! You have a sense of self confidence and healing I’m glad to be here, I want to write your positive influences in my journal,

[@mfg2324]

You're very talented at promoting you and your work, I like that :) Thanks for the inspiring input, makes me think a lot

[@home2roots]

Thank you Esther💖 For all that you do🙏

[@lisaa6099]

Thank you. Its very retable. The ups and downs of dating are very stressful. Thank u for the advice

[@CorporateQueen]

This is great, Esther. Thank you. I take time to heal before embarking on new relationship and work on myself.

[@jessicamorales2555]

How sweet and human this video is

[@aleshyabarbour6389]

Thank you for this video! I enjoyed it 😀

[@JonesStrength]

As always…phenomenal perspective!🙌🏾💯🙏🏾

[@yifatcarmi3380]

It was charming. I loved it. Thank you.

[@louisstopforth5886]

Esther thank you once again, you have so much to offer us and often i get lost in it all too much to absorb. I can relate to a lot of the points you have covered. Will have to listen to the video again.

[@sosofilms6514]

Thank you so much Esther:** you have indeed unlocked many things for me

[@user-ek7yc9fh7y]

Yes. Connect with friends:) It's tough to keep dating. I look at each date as "dating practice". Lol Takes the pressure off

[@sethtenrec]

Good tip

[@MelanieGraceTV]

Thank you so much for this podcast ❤. Incredibly valuable conent.

[@agnesrusso4192]

Listening to you and the way you describe our collective life/pain experience and how to manage it is really helpful and has a calming effect. You make life a better experience for so many of us. Thank you Esther. Sincerely: Agnes Russo

[@ramirenriquez6795]

Just made me smile when I realized the emotions I was feeling when I was still dating someone, who is the person I’m in a relationship with now, and I was uneasy and having conflicting thoughts about whether to go on or not. Listening to this video made me realize that I was feeling normal things. This human experience is something.

[@bink865]

OMG this is what I needed to hear

[@catherineclinckemaillie2766]

Receiving is giving to the other person, wow I have never seen it from this angle! Thank you.

[@patricianelsoncarroll7247]

Such a great conversation! Missing the person when they have eased away from you as yo said so well Rejection loss etc moving on yes! Still in the healing process of the loss/being alone I'm learning more about myself! Things people I'd like to see and do Yes tears what happened?? Still moving on loving self Thank You so Much for this ❤️🙏💯

[@justanotherview3243]

Thank you Ms Esther. Right when I needed it... :(

[@booklight4902]

Thank you!! 💛🎉

[@gabbylafleurdamazonie]

Thank you! ❤️

[@silviapassosjewelry]

Wonderful! Thank you! :)

[@juanamool7535]

Oh Esther thank you very much, you're wonderful! this brings so much peace.

[@carrienelson4397]

I am happy to learn more about dating, as I ended a 38 year marriage with my husband over a year ago.

[@SimbaAliaye]

30 yrs here - he was leading a double life; feel like I was thrown off a cliff and left to die

[@EritreanChic]

@@SimbaAliaye Im so sorry… hope you’re doing better now

[@tilleternity]

love and light esther

[@k.f.241]

Best wishes from Croatia 🙏🏻🌈

[@teach1nation]

24:33 You described my current feelings to a T🎯 early October I was ghosted by a man I met online … 6 months of what I thought was a promising fiery physical connection. Having a hard time healing my broken heart 💔

[@maryannguess7115]

Move on, spend time with Yourself..stay offline..its Just fish out there after more fish..sorry..just go on..be happy with yourself.spend time with Yourself..why bother...

[@sethtenrec]

You ran into an avoidant attachment style. Possibly a narcissist also. Time to do some learning and then try again.

[@carrienelson4397]

I agree with engaging in the arts to heal and recombobulate.

[@rosadelmaril8182]

Yes, although it really doesn't help to have someone else in line, but we let it be our salvation. The best thing to do is just learn to be alone and expect to be alone.

[@smilesarealwaysfree4475]

Je vous adore! ❤️

[@devir9592]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. ❤ You look lovely! ❤❤

[@timesize]

If you don’t want to receive from someone, it’s quite possible you don’t want them to be holding out hope where you know there is none. Speaking from experience

[@barbaralopez265]

The Death of a Spouse creates a trauma tear in the Heart!

[@jworksdatecoachingsinglesp7600]

Esther... I listen to you daily. You are this amazing fountain of information... About the most important part of our lives. Understanding ourselves and Partnerships! Thank you.

[@funkediscofreak]

Ugh, the physical violence of ghosting. The panic, the ache, the high jacked thoughts, the loss of sleep, the loss of appetite.

[@astrotarotbyelenavaldez]

I love this so much. Thank you, Esther!

[@CaptainSuspenders]

You're brilliant of course but also that necklace really suits you!

[@joannehightower4242]

God Bless You! The phenomenon of "ghosting" is directly related to societal codependency. ❤Is this true love? Peace, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit

[@BoiNgocChannel]

Yes I tried to get over someone by being with someone else and now I take a step back not seeing anyone and heal

[@mariamirza8259]

No I think going into new relationship to heal without healing first n take a break is a disaster for anybody I mist say dont rush to a new one when you arent healed nobody deserves a leftover kinda treatment.

[@POLYLIVING]

I experience A LOT of projection of assumption from gentlemen who identify as monogamous when we discuss love and devotion. They say oh you have never experienced true love or you don’t really love me if you xyz. I have never felt as annoyed as when other people proclaim that THEIR love methodology is how my emotions function. Why do people do this? I would never assume someone else has to identify with my love principles in order to be valid real or sincere

[@oohily]

I had this happen to me recently. It’s pretty frustrating.

[@POLYLIVING]

@@oohily Ya it’s really ramped for me. I can’t figure out how to address it in a way that enlightens them. It’s like they refuse to acknowledge any reasoning other than their own. Sheer foolishness

[@sethtenrec]

@@POLYLIVING you don’t want to be enlightening narcissists, you just want to move away from them.

[@POLYLIVING]

Both my new partner and I are healing from broken loves. It’s really nice to be on the same page

[@mchris65]

I can relate with unrequited love.

[@sethtenrec]

Limerence, do some research. It will definitely help you.

[@anadelosrios5747]

Hola desde Ciudad de Mexico

[@rosemariemercury438]

Yes

[@chirokathleen]

I’d love more information on how to gauge another person’s capacity for deeper emotional connection. I suspect this is what happens in a lot of relationships. One person has done the work and “pushes” for more and more and the other person balks.

[@Mamabear7388]

Following😂

[@ramonaharter6407]

Same this just happened

[@Moamagic]

what a beautiful necklace! where is it from?

[@shell3374]

The unknown is initially enjoyed and later dreaded…

[@mikisnell4730]

The exileration of the promise of a new love.

[@dietlindeminors8995]

Just recently my boyfriend of 6 months broke the relationship off. We’re both in our 50. I just got over my marriage and was totally in love. We’ve been separated one month and I cannot get over him. He cares for me and likes me but seems to be incapable of a committed relationship. I would like to get over him by dating again but I cannot bring myself to do that as yet.

[@DiaboloMootopia]

I'm so sorry to hear about that. It's ok to take a break from dating.

[@itsaplantlife9850]

Give yourself at least the same 6 months with, without him to rebuild yourself.

[@mahadadou7057]

Vous êtes une belle femme 🥰

[@elgeebee5250]

Can you do a video on being the one who is pulling away (but feel sad that the chemistry/connection is going too but can’t explain why)! Sometimes the person who was all in at the beginning don’t want it to end but they just can’t find or create the attraction back

[@sethtenrec]

Chemistry always goes away. ALWAYS. If you’re ending relationships because of that then you’re never going to be in one.

[@susanjensen2381]

My dating has been with the goal of having a long term partnership/marriage. This requires that we mesh on many important levels. If we realize we aren't a good match, it doesn't feel so bad to me, because who wants to be married to the wrong person? I've never had the experience of a man ghosting me or my ghosting them. We have always ended things amicably with a clear conversation. However, when I meet new female friends, and it seems we are connecting well as friends, even just as an "activity" friend...and they suddenly avoid me/don't return my calls or emails (which I've experienced many times in my life) I am always hurt and baffled. What went so wrong that we cannot even do crafts together any longer? I think it's the ghosting that is so hard to bear. I ruminate on whether there is some large flaw I need to work on that leads to such behavior?

[@robertadcox8419]

"My dating has been with the goal of having a long term partnership/marriage." My advice as an old man is to drop that goal. Go live your life.

[@marywest6844]

@@robertadcox8419 Exactly. I saw on a talk show once, marriage is two whole people, becoming half, not two halves becoming whole. Makes sense to me. I give up my independence for no body.

[@sethtenrec]

@@marywest6844 hey, you need to check your avoidant attachment style as well. If you heal, you’ll see what you’re missing out on.

[@KenboDaGod]

It’s weird for me the best part of dating is getting to know someone and the worst apart to dating is getting to know someone smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@moniquebalbi3941]

This happens to me after one or two great dates, my body tells me they are not my person but I really have a great date…I get intimate with them. And then I go in to anxiety and need to stop seeing them. I don’t understand what is going on.

[@dannyperalta7306]

What was the title of the book about healing from breakups and the author please!!

[@jessicavonseth2466]

So you and the bible are my two mantras in my daily life. Thank you so much for your wisdom! On another note: i love you style and julery!! Where do you get it??

[@jessicavonseth2466]

All the best, Jess

[@sethtenrec]

“Julery” and bible reader! Fits perfectly

[@carolanneaustin9232]

Esther, do you have any resources for working with love/lust split?

[@netsherrera7193]

She actually wrote a couple of books about it 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@timesize]

If you know someone likes you, I’m not sure why you’d beg someone else to tell you you can say it to them. You could just know it together, as you have claimed. It sounds more like you want to guide the connection faster than it is actually moving

[@marihutten]

The part that everybody loves which is the excitement of the "getting to know" is the part that I hate. I think this is why I always date or want to date my friends, I just can't stand that period of an "interesting stranger" taht I'm discovering. There is far too much anxiety and uncertainty I can't deal with. I much prefer that guy that I've known for years and have already done activities as a friend with mutual friends before and I already know 80% of what he is and the only thing I'm discovering are the more intimate and relationshipy things that you don't find out until you actually date.

[@jessicaperez4763]

@estherperel, I recently found you and I am completely enamored with you and your techniques. I have read your books and have tried to apply your suggestions and advice to my relationship. But I don't feel its worked much. We've been to therapy and even the therapist couldn't help. How do you work on a relationship that, in the broader sense, is good? Its based on communication, honesty and respect. But the more he is emotionally invested, the more physically distant he becomes. I feel like my partner has gotten more and more physically separated the longer we're together. This appears to be a pattern he has, since all his relationships have ended because of this. We are good together when it comes to our blended family and family life, but not as a couple. We're literally at my breaking point. PLEASE HELP!

[@jessicaperez4763]

@@sarabovo2151 yup. I know. We already went through the diagnosing. But it’s hard to find solutions to people with this attachment style.

[@FCox-cy2zq]

@@jessicaperez4763 Sara is correct 'sort of'....if, IF he was here asking your ?, you might have something. In other words, if he really wants to change his attachment style, you have a chance. BUT you need your OWN recovery for your obvious anxious attachment. Get to a CODA meeting and immerse yourself, IMHO xo

[@megans4762]

Try some of Sue Johnson's books, one being Love Sense. They focus on attachment styles in relationship.

[@jessicaperez4763]

@@FCox-cy2zq thank you for your comment. However, my attachment style is actually healthy. So that’s why we have lasted so long. Because I don’t need constant reassurance or his physical presence at all times. I’m content when I’m with him, but I’m also content alone. Unfortunately, his detachment has gotten too far and even our last therapist agreed that he is the one that needs to now work on this himself.

[@jessicaperez4763]

@@megans4762 thanks Megan. Will do. ♥️

[@elgeebee5250]

How do you stop the unclick?! If you’re the one pulling away (but don’t want to) -it possible Esther…? If you feel it happening chemically and emotionally after a few months. It’s sad

[@juliaharris1201]

I had a partner for a year found out from friends that he cheated on me while going to a friend's funeral I thought. He meet that women on a dating website. Anyway he never said sorry or admit it. He's a player for 7 years and a lier. But it's hard as I still have feeling for him. So I am trying to take time for myself and healing. It's hard as he lives not far from me and owns a cafe near me. Hi from Canberra Australia

[@foreveryoungpisces7426]

♥️

[@marywest6844]

Seems like you have feelings for a person, whom is not the person you need, nor want him to be. Pretty on the outside but hollow inside.

[@sstarjoyy]

It's funny. A few years back I was following your work so intensely due to finding myself in a dynamic relationship - the love was what I wanted, but nothing else added up. He reconnected with me just under a month ago and I was at his place when (we here on the east coast) got hit with that storm, adding a few days to my stay. And I swear, through the years, as soon as I get to my third morning waking up beside him, I am simply depressed. It's not like we have had a fight. It just seems like enough time around him my thoughts are no longer my own. I heal on my own just fine and then feel strong enough to try again. I wonder if your expertise can comment on unconscious empathy? I use the word empathy not to toot my own horn (oh look its because I'm this lovely emphatic person = no) but I don't know of another concept that might suggest one can, through no conscious control, literally pick up and carry our partners thoughts. Well, I figure if enough people care about this it may become a topic of discussion. All the best!

[@jnanise]

It sounds like you recognize something in the relationship you value enough to keep trying. That's a solid base. To my ears, your phrasing "after the 3rd day my thoughts no longer feel like my own" sounds like you're losing yourself a bit. Is there a chance you've had experience with enmeshment? (Low boundaries, catering to others/the family unit, not voicing individual needs...) -- If this were just about introversion, I think the wording would be around recharging, not losing identity. So, along with the fluctuations in desire(?), possibly attachment theory has some answers to offer you. Best wishes on your journey!

[@sstarjoyy]

@@jnanise thank you, Jennifer that's rather helpful feedback. Best to you as well :)

[@sethtenrec]

@@sstarjoyy you have an anxious preoccupied attachment style. Empathy and hyper awareness of others is a common characteristic. I have it too…there’s tons and tons of information out there to help you.

[@megalodon9400]

There’s no good part in dating, being discarded is so demeaning. I dread it. It’s beautiful when you find the perfect person but what are the chances? Finding a match is one in million.

[@San.drine.04]

When it has failed for 30 years, (never had a long term relationship because men leave) how do you do to believe it'll happen at some stage ? Everyone in my friends believe I'd be a great wife/, girlfriend, and even the guys I date say I'm a very kind and nice person ans stay friends after the breakup. So I'm at a loss

[@vanessac8193]

What happens if you tell yourself it may never happen? Why force yourself to believe it will happen?

[@sethtenrec]

There’s tons of information out there to help you heal. Then it can happen.

[@allright2512]

What’s the name of the podcast she recommended?

[@Doors_of_janua]

This is dating

[@mikisnell4730]

I used a new person to help me pull away from and old love.

[@fatislimi5145]

that's not good 😕

[@megalodon9400]

My partner killed himself, he took everything with him, our routine, our plans, my self esteem, my belief in mankind.

[@kimlarso]

State of mind, my dear=been where u are>so I ask, Do you choose to sink or swim?!… ❤

[@megalodon9400]

@@kimlarso I swim but it´s sometimes difficult.

[@kimlarso]

@@megalodon9400 That’s real good, it’s a damn good start=No one’s coming to save you so you must save yourself=We become the stories we tell so write often and edit well=You Got This=Life is too short and none of us are getting out of here alive so do your best to let go of the life you had imagined so you can enjoy the one awaiting you=I’m not saying it’s easy; It’s damn difficult but it’s doable=There is no try, it’s do or don’t=This isn’t a time for kind, soft, and sweet words=You’re in the fight of your life……And “I hope you Dance!” 💔👉🐛🦋👉♥️

[@shirleymartin3605]

I have

[@user-iw8tz9zf9k]

Greatesttt, most effective, foolproof solution: NOT DATING 🖕

[@user-nf6bw9zm8d]

7:24

[@michaelyarmas4423]

Oddly enough this break up did not hurt my self esteem, as I have been building it up over the last four years and I feel I am in a great place for me. But I really found a person I believed Loved me and I her, deeply. but she ended it unexpectedly just breaking my heart, and leaving me wondering if I will ever know how to trust again.

[@elgeebee5250]

As someone who has these feelings I might do the same thing - as the one with less attachment perhaps in this relationship. I have to say - unless there are certain boundaries etc you crossed. It’s so hard bc the person doesn’t always want to do it, and might in fact still really like you as a human. It’s just impossible to stay when the convos, the lifestyle, the feelings diminish and you can’t get the click back. It can feel really dead inside and it’s not about the person persay. It can happen both ways as you can imagine. Hard to stay on the same page as someone romantically or emotionally etc in this short life we have.

[@user-vs7kr2ph7n]

⚘❤

[@richricogranada9647]

She is reading on this video

[@shallahcat]

Ya, so?

[@Mamabear7388]

Did you not understand the message? If not ask. listen to understand not to critic the delivery of the message.

[@sohinibanerjee1144]

I did not do it

[@jeezustheone]

We just have a number of women who can't be honest and use the "I don't want to hurt you" bs to not be honest and not take responsibility for using other people for their selfish gain.

[@DiaboloMootopia]

*a number of people. Some men do that too.

[@1chienandalou]

Erhh,, women? In my experience men do this a lot too. Not as much in my romantic relationships but I see it in my male friends doing it a lot to their romantic partners. Often want to be forgiven so they can feel like the good guy. Also going into generalizations like this and confirmation bias is gonna just get you more of the same. Not a healthy attitude.

[@armandbourque2468]

Aaand thats why i wont bother.

[@azucarweber2456]

So I gather all my friends to have a pitty party? Then believe them when they say I am perfect and I deserve better, when in reality they will be lying because they love me, non of my friends will be honest and tell me you gained 50 pounds you need to loose weight! ( such a miserable life to have)

[@Julia-ju2kn]

The “ too early” I have heard was followed by “now the cat is out of the bag”; at the time I didn’t even know what that means…

[@cecile1428]

Don’t date yet if you haven’t fix your own problem with previous relationships. Especially if there children involved

[@eriksyring]

Psychotic relationship lives. Do instead like humans did for two million years - not change partners, but add them!

[@graduate280]

Can you please set up your cameras so that you can look directly at the screen where you are reading or getting your outline from but we see you looking directly at us. It’s distracting and not fair to you to have to be looking at a screen and then trying to look directly to us in the camera. I am sure there is a camera that can videotape you while you get to look straightahead

[@theheartofbrunswickisyourc2696]

I should dress up like you do, blonde, skin showing, jewellery hey you’ll attract males, maybe I should power dress up, it’s like all ypu good for,

[@shirleymartin3605]

I have