Too bad you didn't KZbin advice for your own live in relationship instead of using the advice to get in another woman's pants. And then watch "how women ruin good men" you have never been good Duane. You lie. You cheat, and you are addicted to meth and porn so badly your in hospital from wanking it si much your hand got infected

Thank you Esther, for the good you're doing with this podcast ❤

Many wants a parner who they can escape reality with. The truth hurts

You are a beautiful soul. I am so lucky that I found your advice.

למה אין תרגום לעברית? פליז

Kind of like thoughts are just thoughts…? They do not define you. Stop with the stories, stop with the thoughts and just live!🎉

After cheating , if dating app is deleted does it means its his commitment.

Dealbreaker - the problem is in the language itself. Esther Perel Amazing insights as always.

No matter what type of interpersonal relationship it is, only you can decide what type of treatment you are willing to receive and willing to give.

Sad that women that frequently turn 'icks' into deal breakers.

Semi answers arent acceptable !

As the philosopher U.G Krishnamurti says " the answer is in the question" !

She always answers in a smarter way than the one I anticipate. Never uses cliches. She is just amazing!!

Comodification of people.

Hi ESTHER😊, NOT me dear...no dating for over 20 years...I love my peace, harmony &solitude❤... THE BEST... No drama...no crap..just total happiness....24/7🎉😊

This was an incredibly powerful podcast… Esther showed SO MUCH GRACE.. I might be bias to the female perspective but it was hard to hear where/if he he was willing to change & meet her even half way to her needs. Looking forward to the follow up & leaving room for what I can’t see outside of my own bias… TY !!! I continue to be grateful for the knowledge/ vulnerability that others are willing to share ❤

Masculine envy [direct power]: height/strength and money 💰 Feminine envy [indirect power]: an hourglass figure/beauty and marriage 👩🏼‍❤️‍👨🏻 The Masculine provides, protects *or* supports whilst 🌞☝🏻the Feminine respects, appreciates and nurtures. The sperm cell *is* *driven* towards the egg cell; as she *engulfs* *him* in Feminine behavior. A wife’s responsibilities in her marriage *are* *imperative* rather than, non-existent. No letting yourself go, with hairy pits as if, you were single again 💀 No belching and farting LOUDLY in front of him; Feminine’s can train themselves to *go* *find* a powder room 🚽 and Masculine’s gotta be disgusting and rude in front of their Masculine buddies 🤠 they bond over it #weirdflexbutOK Don’t enable disrespect with your *one* *and* *only* Spouse 💒👩🏼‍❤️‍👨🏻✝️

Well, having a relationship is also a slippery slope these days. Like you said; "cultural emotion capitalism". You see this evolution very good in Korea. As a society we lose value and trust towards each other.

Love this! ❤

Red flags in dating... If your date had shit parents. Or even if they were divorced. Avoid. If your date has no religion. Avoid. No religion usually means no morals and ethics. If your date has tattoos. No. If your date has been violent to their ex. Massive avoid. If the date is a cheater. Avoid. If your date hates their family. Avoid. If your date has no money. Avoid. Lateness. Avoid.

I don’t mind the language, if we used it critically. A deal is an agreement to people make that is mutually beneficial in some capacity. What activities would breach this agreement? That’s a deal breaker. But unfortunately we don’t even follow the language usefully. We make a deal breaker, something that could be resolved easily.

From iraq we looov you

Married 12 years, hubby is having his first solo date next week. I'm excited for my turn. Hubby isn't perfect but neither am I. When I flirt, things turn me ON or OFF.. and then I naturally respond. No deals to be had... Just play.

Anyone in a scientific position to weigh in on this? (statistic comparison to red hair) It looks like, A person can be xy and have testicular feminisation. Discrepancy, if person is put on birth certificate as M or F and then they decide for themselves, versus if put on birth certificate as X and a person can choose any three at any time. Or, 48 syndrome or etc. According to PubMed nih gov testicular feminisation, occurs in one out of 20000 births - if I've remembered correctly, there is a higher chance of being born with testicular feminisation than the chance (one out of 100000) of getting covid in Australia during lockdowns. For 48 Syndrome, 48xxyy or 48xxxy according to Medline plus gov there is one in 18000 to one in 40000 assigned male newborns. According to health direct gov, intersex variation happens in about two in every 100 births, which apparently is the same as the number of people with red hair.

Thank you Esther

For me, I feel sexy wearing it. It makes me feel desired.

Lingerie is what it is… But what has always been a concern to me, is will they insist I use it all the time? Will once in a while be OK? The lines can be blurred between fantasy and the “same person you see every single day…🤷‍♀️

Te amo ma'am

The way you teased the story out of both of them was fascinating! So glad they could make this discovery

Thanks Ansari

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Soooo young!😆 2025

This podcast made me realize that ‘not losing someone’ isn’t the same as ‘being happy with them

Some people love you the best way they know how, but that doesn’t mean it’s the way you deserve to be loved

... if you can even remember the password in the first place ...

I was hoping that you would walk us through the initial problem you mentioned (heaven-hell love relationships, breaking up, talking and trying again) because Im exactly there as you were at 23.... But It wasn't really analysed... :(

What is lingerie? Pretty bra and panties? I wear those daily for me. It's a plus if he appreciates them, but not the goal.

They're not on the same team. He sees her as his competition. Hope she moves on and finds a better partner❤

everyone at work seems like a potential partner but they seem so obscure

Finding "The One" is something which should be seen as a pragmatic/practical journey. It's not impossible, however scientifically, it's rather improbable. The idea of such an undertaking is inherently foolhardy. With divorce rates as high as they are and getting worse by the moment, my hat goes off to anyone even 'keeping their eyes peeled' much less actively expending energy on the search. Furthermore, Very little has been spoken regarding the relentless maintenance required to keep a meaningful romantic relationship filled with stability & quality. In all fairness, times are like that of the biblical hero 'Noah...wicked and corrupt. Our current culture promotes hypergamy and hidden, calculated promiscuity. I don't fear much in this world, however empirical scientific data proves meeting 'The One' would probably be a devastating experience... especially for someone seeking to stay single for as long as possible. Ancient wisdom passed down through many generations and lost within the annals of history might be the key. In this case, the wisdom goes a long the lines of: "You are forever responsible for what you have tamed". A relationship without a sense of responsibility and allegience is like a bird without wings.

IN OUT

NO SAME FIGHT CRY

I thought it was obvious that thinking too much is the problem. The question is *HOW* does one think less? For example, when I notice I am overthinking and try to reduce my negative thoughts, I unfortunately also completely dissociate. Then I have fewer anxious thoughts, but I also feel nothing and find no pleasure in any touch.

Speaking one’s truth is always the way!❤

What about when he does tell you what he wants and asks for your approval? Do really all men need to have several sexual partners ? We've been together for more than 20 years. He's also very jealous if I am friendly with other guys... but still wants to try crazy stuff...

I have been experimenting with aphrodisiac herbs and have found certain ones of them that 1] increases desire and 2 ] increases sex fluids. We need to keep up our ojas, [Jing in TCM] subtle life energy. I am a student of yoga and of sex too. Being celibate did not work for me. So, now I am capable of enjoying sexual arousal, the feeling of being fully alive. I can enjoy sexual pleasure with or without a partner. Since my wife died 3 years ago I am open to having another female partner. My standards are high, so I don't want sex without love. I have yet to meet a woman who is not afraid of intimacy, who enjoys touching and being touched....who is affectionate, a good friend, etc.

Many people who struggle with intimacy have been sexually abused as children. The memory usually gets cancelled, but what remains are the feelings of unease and shame, as well as the "stubbornness" to defend one's body and space around it.

I usually spend "transition time" outside the house, so there is no conflict. Generally, I find modern, small flats terrible, especially those without any possibility to retreat because all the rooms are shared. We give each child a room for themselves but deny it to ourselves.

Masterpiece. THANK YOU

Usually I don't comment .. but I did not really what this lady was appreciate.. what she was grateful for.. I think she was very pushing what her needs was .. but I could be wrong.. man has different mindset.. as we women can be a bit codependent.. maybe that's was the case??