Don't Stay In A Broken Marriage Just Because You're Dependent. You Have Rights!

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[@anutiwari4628]

Hello Sridhar , I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart . I have got married last year and yes there are so many ups and down In Our relationship . I have started watching your video from last month and trust me I can see things are improving like anything 😊 your are not only saving a lot of marriages but also ensuring a happy married life Lots of love and thank you so much Anu

[@pratyashabaruah6873]

Great content. Thank you for this!

[@problemsolution267]

Papa ko mummy ki value budhape me hoti hai jab uski puri zindagi sacrifices me khatam ho jati hai. Humari society me jo ladka apni parents aur siblings ko wife ke upar rakhe use achha mana jata hai. Aur isi achha banne ke chakkar me papa mummy ko secondary rakhte hai. Use sacrifice aur adjustments karvate hai. Aur jyada tar families me agar sabhi bhai beheno me sabse jyada papa kamate ho toh sab unse chipakte hai. Aur agar dadaji ne life me kuch kamaya nhi ho toh woh bhi apne sath sath apne baki bachho ko settle karne ki responsibility papa pe dal dete hai. Jab papa bimar, old ya unsuccessful ho jate hai tab unka koi bhai ya behen nhi hote unke pas. Yeh rishte sirf tab tak hote hai jab tak unki shadi nhi hoti. Shadi ke baad bhai behen alag hote hai. Aur jab jeb me paisa nhi bachta tab purane sare ahsan bhul jate hai. Tab papa ko koi chacha ya bua nhi puchhte. Dada dadi ka pyar imp hai par parents ka pyar apne bhai beheno me bata hota hai. Bas mummy ka pyar papa ke liye kabhi share nhi hota. Bohot Indian families me aisa ek successful beta hota hai jo apni puri kamai parents aur siblings ko settle karne me uda deta hai, apna future, bachcho ki padhai aur apna budhapa secure nhi karta. Aise me unpe agar bura waqt aye toh ye bhai behen nhi puchhte. Aur dada dadi bhi pehle apni security dekhte hai. Yes, parents can be selfish too. Sirf mummy bure waqt papa sath khadi hoti hai. Par jab tak papa ko ye baat samaj ati hai ki unki ardhagini hi unki priority shuruvat se honi chahiye thi tab tak uska youth, uski zindagi khatam ho chuki hoti hai. Ek aurat jitna pyar apne pati se karti hai utna pyar na woh apne bachcho se, na apne parents se, na apne bhai behen se karti hai. Toh pati ko bhi sab se upar apni patni ko hi rakhna chahiye. Hulchul movie me yaad hai woh dialogue mai apna sindoor bachane ke liye apni mamta qurban kar dungi. Papa dadi ko bhi dadaji apse jyada pyare hai toh apko bhi mummy sab se jyada pyari honi chahiye right from the beginning of ur marriage not after wasting her whole life. Aur jo log kahenge ki wife shadi se pehle ladke ka income dekhti hai, lekin jab wife shaadi hone ke baad agar pati financially unstable ho toh sirf wahi wife sath deti hai. It's better that men should change their priorities after marriage. Maa baap ka karo par zarurat se jyada nhi. Aur bhai behen ko settle karne ke chakkar me toh bilkul mat pado. Dadaji is an unsuccessful man. He did not earn much nor gave any comfort to his children. Whatever he earned his first priority was dadi n himself. They had a separate room with proper bed n bua papa n chacha would sleep on the floor in the hall. Since he was earning then dadi first served him the food n the best food n then papa n his siblings would eat. They all went in municipality school with no fees. Papa was the only one who was bright in studies. Chacha n bua weren't. After 10th, papa worked in grocery stores, did odd jobs n completed his BCS. He got a good job in IT. Whereas, chacha dropped out of college n became an accountant in a shop n still after having a 7 yr son is doing that with 15k salary. Papa opened a business for him. He didn't pay attention to it thinking that it's papa's money gone into it n concentrated on his job, result, business shut n papa lost all the money. Bua's marriage expenses were done by papa only. All this was dadaji's duty, not papa's. Now he gives dadi dadaji all the comforts, in fact compromises his own n mummy's comfort for them. He doesn't remember he slept on the floor n dadi dadiji slept comfortably in the bedroom. When they earned they prioritised themselves, not their children. So, do things for ur parents but prioritise urself n ur kids n wife..

[@user-ok6oi1hi4f]

Absolutely right.aapki bat sach hai.hamare yaha " adarsh beta " banate hai not good husband or father.and other chacha are not adarsh bet.he is only think of his wife.and there is problam start.aapne jo kaha hai wo India ke 90% family me hota hi hai.aur badi Bahu sirf Ghar ki kamvali banke rah jati hai.aur bada beta sirf gadha jo sabka boj uthata hai.aur jab usko kisi ki jaroorat hoti hai tab patni ki Siva koi sath nahi hota.tab ek aadmi ko samaj ata hai.par ab pachatane se kya hot jab chidiya chug gai khet😢😢

[@lishyajennifer]

Listening to this video is healing in itself. I hope this video reached ore and more women

[@pallavimantri5358]

Thanks Shridhar for the information and guidance you have provided and is of great help God bless you

[@anmoniteotia9406]

Thank you so much for enlightening videos 👏👏

[@blessingthecakehouse]

Great topic make more in depth video on this topic

[@Sunshineme15]

Rightly said

[@jayaanant6743]

Very helpful

[@sonasandhuji]

This is my story .. I'm 31 years married n suffering from relationship cancer due to kids

[@vaishalishorts12]

Very informative video It has been 1.5 years of my marriage,my marriage also has gone under several ups downs,all kind of dowry demand,no husband support,higher mils interference,nd violence to a lot extent But me in love accepted everything dat after sometime,things will change..things will be in my favour someday So by having trust on my luck, honesty nd God just forgiving all nd trying to adjust everywhere... After committing all kinds of mistakes,my husband keeps audio nd video proofs..on dis I showed anger dat by doing dis, marriage can go in other direction if similar things I started to do So I never tried to record anything or anyproof,no written Statement even inspite of being true, Nd He possesses all which are in his favour Really awkward...

[@prabinprabhakar4687]

Law is biased towards men in the age of equality

[@user-ok6oi1hi4f]

Mentally crualty is more dangerous than physical Bcoz it's can't explain to any one and some time people can not understand this feelings.like not allowed to call or meet her parents or brother/sister.or check your phone delet photos and massage 😮 and so many this kind of non sense.yelling,push you back and blackmail you.its crualty.not give you money for your clothes or other things.

[@problemsolution267]

India is actually changing for worse with times. The bench of judges r cheap n foolish people who r wrongly influenced by the Western culture. In fact, I'd say that the Britishers were more cultured then and valued marriage n had made a law that adultery must be a punishable offense. And yes, it deserves to be. Life of the criminal's yes the criminal's spouse gets devasted when the partner cheats. Like murder kills the body n a murderer is meant to be punished, the same should be done with a cheating partner. And worse in the case of wives. If her husband cheats n gets a divorce, her mental state gets badly affected. She'll crazily go into depression. And since having a partner in life is very essential n basic, it's still very hard hard to move on in life with a new person when a woman has already given her physical n emotional love to her husband. Also, our country is progressing in a completely wrong direction. Laws r made to legitimise adultery, live in relationships, prostitution..But it's still very backward when it comes to marry a divorcee (woman). A woman will carry a "second hand" tag after divorce n will have to seek a divorcee or a widower for marriage. And it isn't a backward thinking that every person wishes to have a virgin partner. And a woman expects to have a virgin husband too. But she has to compromise as she isn't a virgin after divorce. So adultery must the most punishable offense.

[@npslajpatnagar4girls479]

V informative videos u r making

[@abdulaiymanaiymanahmed4853]

Need 2nd part too

[@pragatibhushan8697]

Such women are raised usually by narcissistic parent ,they put up with such abusing partners. They are emotionally not able to survive on thier own.when and if they heal emotionally they can leave them

[@ruchisuri4478]

Omg, i can relate 😭😭😭😭😭

[@blessyhemima]

And how about she not willing to separate regardless how toxic/voilent/abusive he is? My mom bearing domestic violence till date, still ain't wanna separate. Their toxic relationship just ruined my upbringing I still live in fear. That would lead to my death someday

[@Ganesh23432]

Omg 😘sir ap kitane smart ho , apane mere hotot se savalo ka javab de diya , me bohot confused thi ❤thanks

[@tarannumnadeemshaikh2099]

Ya baat boht sahi kaha Mera saat nhi ya hi howa tha or meri life boht achi hai alhamdulillah aap ki baat so k boht acha lagt hai sir

[@shaikmusveerahbanu976]

Sir mujhe 1week se gussa tention thinking ane par vomiting ho Rahi the ab suddenly heart ke peeche se samne ki or ,jaese kisi be piche se kuch chana ya pakad jakad rakha ho aesa feel ho Raha hae aur gardan aur shoulder Aria me bhe dard hae ,ye Kya ho sakta hae sir

[@sasirekha4488]

The information was good but nothing of this happened in my case. All proof and evedence waabut i did not receive the alimony not sny financial help.s submitted

[@29197404]

Hello Sridhar, my wife is rude, egoist, hiding everything, non communitive, having Suspicious nature, her mother and sister spoiled my marriage. We are at stage we are silent(no talk). she is not giving me the time even to talk from last 9 months. because of kids I am living in the same place. I am(employed and working) doing everything even all household work. I am totally stressed and exhausted. kindly guide me.

[@canvassclinicalresearchinstitu]

Kindly share link for online event

[@udayabhanu6166]

Exactly my mrg life

[@aastha6930]

Sir good work and content is so less appreciated ...you are doing fantastic logical videos. Kudos !

[@deepikasaini4420]

Do make part 2

[@darkraigameingdk7738]

What if he says you go alone and don't claim your rights on the child??

[@dd-tn8ur]

The court will generally grant custody of child to mother,so dont worry,u can claim that in court

[@marianmarina9425]

My husband blames for every stupid thing.. like really silly..

[@blessingthecakehouse]

How we get money for appointing our lawyer if we don't have it

[@dd-tn8ur]

U just need to file ur case in court,uske bad har district me ek district legal services authority hota hai,aap vaha application de sakte hai,apko ek free lawyer milega sarkar ki taraf se

[@simarkaur9486]

Fake adoption case help🙏 how to deal with it

[@simarkaur9486]

More plzzzz

[@hajirabegum944]

Do you do counselling for ocd

[@simarkaur9486]

Narcissistic mother help plzzzz

[@anupamabirajdar-jd7rg]

Hello Sudhirji shaadi nibhahana is v v difficult. It needs v sacrifice. Better tell ur lady clients to stay away from it. Girlfriend is totally different from status of wife. Most of the men r thickskinned.

[@CK30585]

Only divorce lawyers are happy in such cases because they earn a lot. Even if the abused person stays away he or she has to pay a lot of money to get back her/his freedom. So better either marry after lots of interrogations or stay single .

[@shaikmusveerahbanu976]

Sir hame couple therapy karwani hae ,Kya karna padega

[@prembedi2551]

Marriages aren't successful nowadays. It is due to both sides being financially independent. It's better to stay single.

[@saurabhdamde1999]

Great video.. but what about men? I mean, sometimes men also suffer in toxic marriages...

[@dd-tn8ur]

Men can also get divorce on ground of cruelty,go and file case before court

[@rarity2]

But aapne kuchh chiizen nahi batayi hai.. Agar educated wife bhi ho but usne job na ki ho tab bhi kya alimony milti hai..

[@pause.think.reflect]

Definately milegi whether she is educated or not...housewife hai tho milegi aur agar working wife hai tho bhi milegi, but it will be based on the income of both

[@dd-tn8ur]

@@pause.think.reflect yes milti hai alimony

[@anupamabirajdar-jd7rg]

Young generation please follow Prashant acharya ji. Rather marriaging. Or follow Indian culture follow Karo to stay long time in marriage, like our dadi Nani's don't fight please. Hv more children half of problems solved. Try to learn old school pattern rather this modern revolution or fighting.

[@ushabhattpandeyofficial6900]

Sir aap ke or video Hindi me nhi hai pl Hindi me video bany sab ko English nhi aati pl

[@victoriadias5507]

Hi... Im new subsriber.... Í would love to be ur frnd...

[@sirishavura4824]

Hello sridhar, l watch ir videoes and like it but ur approach is biased towards women and giving more importance to husband wife relationship while in reality its importance in husbands family is little compared to their mutuaal relationships. Coming to the point ,my husband shouts at me before his parents and asks me to shut up before them and insults me everytime, he also insults me based on the unpleasant past happenings between him n our family.evertime he insults me before them all three join hands and support each other. Literally there wont be one word of aupport also. I dont have relationship with my parents n brother, they dont want to maintain any relationship with me or my family and they have completly cutoff relationship with us. They didnt help with my delivery also,i had to manage with my mil ,fil n husband. He insults me and disrespects everytime before his parents , even if i say one word also asks me to shut up ,due to which they also illtreat me much more at his back. Any word i speak with my child, he taunts me ,ur mother is irresponsible ,doesnt do this that blah blah blah,...etc. all three of them treat me like that. Any advice i give they treat it as useless and any word i speak they feel it is useless. I feel like crying and dont know what to do?? Later he will come to me and say i am stressed n exhausted and due to my toddler irritating him ,he is reacting like that. While i handle all her tantrums he only comes to her when she is happy n playful. And again starts the drama ...he makes her responsible for his bad behaviour. He does this willingly and as i dont have any support from my parents family they illtreat me yo outside world it is like they have done so much for u.only i n god know the reality

[@error4935]

Please make a video how not to masturbate....please please

[@prashant.psychologist]

Good topic and useful but you should make it in english,that were better