DREW BARRYMORE ON: If You STRUGGLE To Find & Keep Real Love, WATCH THIS! | Jay Shetty

[@anniehoward0]

I have 15 years in and out of service industry between NYC and LA... EVERYONE in the industry knows Drew is by far the best celebrity to wait on. She NOTORIOUSLY tips 100% on her checks (yes, 100..) and is so kind to everyone in service. I've met, worked with and served many famous people and Drew's kindness is unrivaled.

[@grannyronna]

Thanks for sharing that. It says a lot about her.

[@mylittlebug14]

that's really lovely

[@RadPlad182]

I’m in the service industry too and people like that are special

[@AvisWrentmore]

I have had friends that have met her and same the same. She's a sweetheart to everyone....

[@MilenaKoncar]

All this that u are describing of her is ABOUT HER,NOW. But i met her in her early 20s (I was that age too) and she was THE worst ever when it comes to attitude. Everything that she describes she hates now, SHE was before when she was younger. I know people can change for the better, but wether i like it or not, that bad image of her stuck with me and its hard to now see anything else, although i appreciate she changed, that bad feeling stays forever.

[@Aneedanothaone]

I would rather be single and at peace than be in a toxic relationship. I fell in love with myself being single 🤣 and realised that loving myself needs to come first before I can care for others

[@eljeer123]

Learning that now at 49 years old. 😊

[@Open-DI_239]

49 next month here

[@beatincheeks]

Says every hoe alive

[@ticklemysoul]

Absolutely 💯 same here darling. I fall more and more in love with myself after my spiritual awakening from my Twin flame journey. Healed high vibration and so much at peace now 🧿🙏☯️

[@fbueller]

I needed this. Thank you!

[@WithMunchkins]

when i found out that i wouldn't have another child naturally, i decided to be a mother to the wildlife around me, planting flowers for the birds and bees, refilling the hummingbird feeders, and nursing lizards and whatever i find back to health. i haven't met the right person for me yet. i asked for a soulmate, a highest vibrational match, and i got a dog who is amazing 😍, he is my soulmate. sometimes i wonder if i will ever find that person who can enjoy life with me, and be happy and loving. but maybe that person is me.

[@judepoynter3850]

That is so beautifully put. I’m going to take that perspective on board. 🙏🏼

[@vegancatlady1017]

Omg can we be friends 😭

[@WithMunchkins]

@@vegancatlady1017 💛💛

[@jblank1862]

🙂❤

[@kristinecollier9155]

I haven't even watched this yet, just skimming the posts. Your reply is my life!! I am married, but we are night and day. Opposites do attract, but they do not make a happy marriage. Animals are my children, domestic and wild. I feel you! I really do!

[@sharongibson1161]

I'm almost 60, been extremely happily single since my divorce 20 years ago. I haven't even dated, just focused on my two beautiful daughters, and my extended family. Much less stress, less drama

[@hennagal7360]

Thank you for sharing - Peace , in your day and night and headspace is worth a lot isnt it 🌻

[@officiall.d1010]

@sharongibson1161 I can relate 100%. Content and peaceful too at 62.

[@Venusbabe66]

Well done! ❤👍 Same. I'm into my 21st year (8th year celebate), tried dating but realised as I learned more, that as an INFJ with cPTSD due to 17yrs married to a covert narc, that I am much more content, happy and peaceful on my own with a furbaby or two. Never looked back! ❤

[@susanmarie2231]

I am 68 and divorced 35 years ago after a ten-year abusive marriage.

[@Anna.21.]

I definitely appreciate the peace of mind and less drama that staying single provides..but how do you get passed not having someone to cuddle, kiss, hold hands with, fall asleep next to, wake up next to, come home to, etc. You don't get lonely or miss physically intimacy?

[@torycook1215]

I found out in my 70's that it is easier to forgive when I was happy in my own life. Point being: Getting your own life in order and having peace and happiness is forgiving yourself first, before you can forgive others.🌹❤️ 🙏🌺👍💕🌴

[@stephanienewton6618]

Well said 🙏🏻❤️

[@mailiensmith648]

True story

[@fkngr8]

OMG Tory, you said this perfectly.

[@Luvlyc2017]

I am glad she is doing this ❤

[@Desiree_Laine]

🤯🤯🤯♥️♥️♥️

[@brookeloupe3205]

she is a wealth of curiosity and hard work aimed at reaching her higher self. I couldn't stop watching because you can feel the energy of her self-actualization. she gonna be levitating soon for real

[@jmuscoe]

Yesss! She’s so close! The interview she did with Jenette McCurdy - Wow! I look at her in awe - what she has been through and overcome. Whoever thought she needed to become a talk show host is a genius. She’s healing herself and I believe she is almost ready to tell her truth. I’m here for it. ❤️

[@JocelynE-v8x]

Very self aware - the man she is now divorced from is a spoiled rich narcissist from NYC. She was too good for him.

[@afterthestorm9355]

I’ve listened to this 3x-wisdom from both Drew and Jay. 🙏🏽

[@amandadidomenicantonio3135]

I don't think there's a more genuine, pure, and beautiful soul in the public eye than Drew Barrymore. What a light in the darkness she is. ❤ This is great.

[@MollyMarine]

I love how she says "don't blame others, get on with it, keep going." So true. Ultimately, no one determines your path in life except yourself.

[@jessicaphillips763]

Yeah sure

[@Jmay411]

Metaphorically speaking- It’s okay to put the blame where it belongs but that doesn’t excuse me from having to clean up someone else’s trash that is now left in my yard.

[@janeenscuderi2596]

Perfectly said!!

[@joelleorlando]

I, too, have been single for 7 years. At 56 years old, I sometimes feel like damaged goods from the society viewpoint. I, however, feel so complete with my children and grandchildren. I feel so at peace now and never have the desire to find a man to "complete" me.

[@yolandagray-rozier6912]

I was married for 20 years, have two children and been divorced for 16 years. I have often thought that love is expressed through many relationships and I have no interest in ever marrying again. I love my peace. Thank you for this conversation about love. There needs to be more conversations like this. WOW!

[@ekagelashvily5192]

I have never been married and I don't have children. I turned 43 3 days ago. I realized I do not want a romantic relationship or children. I want my peace.

[@freedom7146]

Yes, exactly. Me too!! I was married for 21yrs, I am 60 no children and a happy widow. I will not marry again, once was enough. I love myself and this wonderful journey I am living.

[@screen7136]

Males have a history of heroísm, not abuse. Most females made money in the past through fashion decoration and beauty industries. Something that males did not participate in allot. The gov did not have social or financial safety nets, the family was both back in the day. Raising responsible and capable people was very important. People didnt have the luxury to raise a brat.

[@salleyswett8272]

Me too, just length of time differences. I protect my heart and have remained single for many years. I do sometimes long for a life partner but have such gratitude for the wonderful other types of love in my life. I also have a strong faith which sustains me in the difficult moments. I do worry about perhaps becoming selfish and guarding...putting up walls so to speak.

[@vivavictoria2010]

I too was married for 21 years, with 3 children all independent and I love my peace, and my ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want. Sounds cheezy but it's so wonderful! There's a good man in my life, but we don't live together. It's the best!

[@fearless7989]

I hope Drew keeps talking about her sobriety. There are so many women who need to hear this conversation. She prob has no idea how many women want, and need, to stop drinking. I have a lot of friends who hate themselves right now, bc they are being invited on dates "for drinks" with men, and are unable to say No, and doing things they didn't plan on or want. They don't know how to socialize, esp. on a first meet, without drinking. A lot of bad men on dating sites are counting on these women to overdrink, too. It's a problem.🤷🏼‍♀

[@Open-DI_239]

Good comment

[@jmallett6081]

People don't realize that once you use alcohol to self medicate your problems, it is not easy to stop. People who are doing this in their life understand this. One, you don't have another way of dealing with your problems that you find works for you, yet other people judge you on your choice of using it for any reason. Next, your body gets dependent on it, in spite of the fact it is destroying your body. Tendencies toward dependency are passed down from genetics, so it is not all that simple to see why people get caught into this trap. I have to admit that the only thing that stopped me from using alcohol is the fact that if I didn't I would not stop high blood pressure and other health risks, it was clear if I didn't stop, it would be the end of me. Otherwise I believe I would still be doing it. I still don't have anything to solve my problems, yet my mind is clearer to think about things and stop making excuses. I do other things like self reflection, vaping, CBD, time with animals, time with nature. I still have a void in dealing with problems sometimes, I am working on that. I thought I was a functional alcoholic because I didn't drink and drive, I didn't use it during times I knew I had things to do in the day like work, time to meet with people, errands and things I absolutely had to do. After living it, I know that even if you think you are doing the correct things to prevent some issues, you are still not functional. This vice creates problems, it does not solve them. It is simply a temporary source of escapism. Yet, the issues you want to escape from still are there and you still have them at the end of the day. I still want to find ways to escape the ills of this world and my own issues, but if I am honest, I am still here with the things that are not ideal, and I am an idealist at heart. I cannot change the external world that sucks, I can only change how I think and what I choose to do in the moment. I can also find things to balance my life so it is not all about looking at the darkness, but appreciating the good things too. There are still beautiful things if you venture enough to look.

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

I just started dating again. Instead of a bar suggest a coffee place. Be honest if you are uncomfortable in certain types of places. If he's a good one, he will be amenable. I have friends that invited me to a dinner, some of them are clean and sober now, so instead of bringing wine or beer, I brought juice and tea. If someone is supportive they will not put you in a bad spot. I prefer for a few first dates to be sober. It helps me evaluate how things are going.

[@vg2binkey884]

They can say no if abd when they want to be saying no thru them bad enough even!

[@biancamichelle11]

She’s not sober. She said she still drinks.

[@faceitnaturals693]

About 25 years ago, I was at a friends party and Drew showed up. She was there as she knew someone who invited her. I was a regular person not in the entertainment business and she walked by and I mustered up the courage to say Hi. She came and sat down next to me, a complete stranger and talked to me for over an hour.She would put her hand on my arm and was a very warm person. We got into a very deep conversation together. To this day it amazes me that she even bothered to talk to me at all since there were far more "important" people at this party. She really is a gem.

[@afterthestorm9355]

I believe you!

[@paigez7680]

"We can't be mad at people because they're not what we want them to be."

[@sharksbite]

Just came here to post this. Great quote

[@alabaster193]

Ever since we were children, we've read books and watched movies about people falling in love and living happily ever after. It brainwashes you and sometimes, it doesn't happen. I've had my share of freedom for a while now and I like it. I'm happy with my independence. Sure it would be nice to find the non-problematic love of my life now but I'm not actively pursuing it. Also, please don't envy couples who seem perfect. I know of one couple right now who look picture perfect and they're always fighting.

[@unifiedvoiceworks]

Drew walks her talk...a kind and authentic person. A friend of mine used to live and work in L.A. (not a famous person). He said he met Drew in passing, and she was so sweet and down-to-earth.

[@sharrdashah3807]

Jay’s answer on love is fantastic, where he says to look at all the other people that love you. I just realized that I don’t have to buy into something I don’t believe in. Romantic love is great if it’s real, still too narrow if it controls me or dominates over me being who I want to be.

[@aliciagiaquinto]

Drew is the only celebrity that I find speaks with raw honesty and all heart. She is so beautiful, please tell her that she inspires so many. I really enjoyed this podcast this week

[@YenahisDiaz]

she made me tear up a couple of times during this interview

[@katedurr9160]

She’s so beautifully compassionate, beautiful and aware xx

[@AmbrosiaK]

It's true, there's so much pressure to find 'the one' your soul mate, movies, song.... it's endless.. I liked Jay's response that ALL LOVE MATTERS as much as 'the one' Wisdom on another level! Thank you ❤

[@freedom7146]

Yes SO true, I loved when he said that too. All love matters!! And for myself now after being married for 21 yrs and a widow, Love means Freedom.🙏🎶

[@dil84]

I don’t think anyone can love Drew anymore she’s so adorable and genuine

[@ArantxaGómez-n2z]

You did her dirty with that thumbnail, thanks for feeding into the narrative of the sad old single woman

[@littleripper312]

She's really led an interesting life and turned out such a wonderful person.

[@rubyg2004]

Drew made me cry with her question. I got emotional because I felt where she was coming from, and I've been asking myself the same question. Thank you for this! There are so many of us out there experiencing the same issues. ❤

[@meesh1002]

Same here! I’ve been trying to get to the reality of that I honestly might not get married and how to be okay with that.

[@emh8861]

I believe societal pressure doesn’t help. Society makes you feel like a loser if you’re single . Most married people I know are miserable. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@kaceyleann]

Me too!! 🥺

[@Open-DI_239]

I agree

[@scoobysnax8127]

Look at how people reacted to Chelsea Handler’s comedy clips about how she loves and celebrates her single, child free life. So many grumpy men and women berating her for celebrating this and accusing her of actually being really miserable when all of these so called gleefully happily married with kids people are waving their pitchforks at her, frothing at the mouth. 😂

[@janetvansky3621]

I once read: MARRIAGE IS LOSING ONESELF IN A CROWD OF TWO. At 77, I've learned that romantic love is the LEAST true and pure love we can experience, because of the way men are conditioned in our culture, which is to be dishonest, not only with others but with themselves. Until that changes, and they learn to honor the feminine within themselves, and remember that they came from their mother, relationships will continue to fail.

[@tnt01]

👍

[@halsey6541]

soo trueee!!

[@fauvettesor]

Woah!!! Feels truth!!!

[@XristosKarasavvas]

it's not only men and the way they r raised, women r raised badly too u know...ask any married man what they r facing, some things u just don't expect not only from a woman from anyone really...Until people learn to RESPECT and not do to others what they don't want others to do to them this will continue.

[@healingypsy]

Drew was born the same year as I did. ET would not be the same without her magical cute ways and those blonde pig tails. As I've gotten older it's nice to watch her as I too went through my teenage years, 20s, 30s and now late 40s from little girl to woman. Everytime I come across her interviews over the years it feels like that old childhood friend from kindergarten you meet sporadically at diffrent stages of your life. She is natural and herself, which makes her so relatable in many ways and as girl myself I would love to have someone as genuine, loyal, chatty and introspective as Drew Barrymore as one of my best mates.

[@lisao6928]

I almost forgot she was in ET! One of my fav movies ever! We're the same age, too :)

[@musicalmetamorphosis]

Unbelievable interview. So apocalyptic. Drew really reveals her heart. So much is put out there about mental health, relationships and inner self work. Thank you Jay.

[@RRP9860]

Best advice, don't go into any romantic relationship with preconceived expectations. If you don't expect anything to come of it, you can't be disappointed when nothing does. Also, always stay absolutely true to your own personal values and boundaries. That right there, is what makes you "safe". Listen to your GUT, it's rarely wrong.

[@sk8oasis788]

Super special conversation. I hope that Drew knows how profoundly kind and special she is ❤

[@georginafronda496]

I second that she is beautiful and loved even by me and I don’t know her up close but am in love with her just as I am in love with me and being single again.

[@Vejur9000]

Drew’s appearance here is life saving for many, to be sure. Well done. There will never be, another Drew Barrymore.

[@Kat-id7rz]

There will never be another everybody

[@jmuscoe]

There will never. 🤍

[@Barn499]

Drew is so inspiring. She always brings such warmth and compassion. 💗

[@emh8861]

And humor.

[@TulshiCoach]

I love this podcast! The fact that with all the abundance of love, it isn't perceived as being enough unless you have a partner or person to share it with. No wonder there's a narrative of being single and responses include: 'Oh why?!' Or 'That's okay, you'll find someone' as if that's the only goal in life?! I've been single for a long time and only now have I truly valued it for what freedom, adventure and love I can bring to all areas and all people in my life. If you took time to read this understand you are deserving of unconditional love. You are unconditionally loved ❤️ the truest source of love is within you ❤️

[@brenonduff753]

No one I know has spoken to this issue so clearly as Drew. There are many advantages to being single, like volunteering and relating to more people lovingly.

[@viancazavala999]

My partner and I separated some time ago and they were my first romantic love and actual partner. There are moments in my life since then that I’ve found so much joy in not being in a relationship. But there are also those moments where it feels so scary and lonely to not have a partner. Hearing Jay and Drew talk about how romantic love is not as important as we make it out to be gives me so much anxiety. I need to accept that I may never have another romantic partner who makes me feel loved and welcomed? This just shows me that I need to continue watering my garden. I loved the conversation ❤️

[@lorrilewis2178]

I don't think it's so much that you "need" to accept not having romantic love - it's that we overvalue romantic love and undervalue other kinds of love. The people I've loved the most have not been in the category of romantic love. Other people will have a romantic love relationship that will happen to be the person they love the most. Great love comes in different forms.

[@viancazavala999]

@@lorrilewis2178 thank you so much for your response Lorri, you’ve given me something to think about 😇

[@bianca4829]

@@lorrilewis2178 I think that’s a really good way to put it.

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@bianca4829 Thank you. Another thing to consider is that you aren't wrong about feeling scared if you live alone. But even when you get into a romantic relationship, there's no telling when one of you will die. Then what? If you don't want another romantic relationship, you can live with a best friend or a group of best friends and you can be cared for that way. It's a good solution to old age I think.

[@kierasthoughts2480]

I have always absolutely love Drew and this interview confirms why. She is such a kind and genuine person.

[@beez991]

Drew is the most honest celebrity I've seen. I admire that of her

[@dianesalisbury2]

Wow, I so needed to hear this today about not having that romantic relationship. I'm 59, divorced for 7 years I've been struggling with that being single stress so much my whole life. But I know I'm surrounded by love and have a large large capacity to love... how beautiful! Thank you

[@jgator6694]

Gosh me too. I am 62 and divorced and had several long term relationships. I refuse to let society pressure me into thinking a single person is incomplete. I have made a decision to remain single. I am complete..independent, whole, self sufficient and happy. I have learned to love myself and know myself more since being single. I even listen to a podcast about single living. It’s great.

[@colourfulsouls]

I’ve been single awhile, when anyone asks me I say I’m “happily divorced” I’ve had boyfriends after, but not in a long while now. I spend a lot of time in the hospital, I have 3 kids, work etc and I said I need to spend my energy getting healthier and stronger and be with my kids before I think of dating.. I’m thinking of it now, my kids are 20 18 & 17 now and I’m in my 30’s, I’m open to love & relationships now

[@officiall.d1010]

@@jgator6694 Perfect, I 100% agree. What's the podcast you mentioned here?

[@jgator6694]

@@officiall.d1010 It is called: “Solo The single person’s guide to a remarkable life” 🙂

[@MothGirl007]

I love being singe and am super happy that way.

[@baghashvili]

Drew is an amazing soul ❤ This interview was really inspiring for a female who is single in their 30s and being pressured by the society to settle down 🙏

[@rainbow9987]

32 years old and still single. Female too. You’re not alone.

[@merydelgado8180]

Same here, now we have a different point of view and it's so liberating, greetings from Perú ;)

[@jelliepops]

@@rainbow9987 33 years-old. Single, female. I look at it as it’s time for myself, peaceful time to focus on my goals and healing. :) I feel complete, it all starts from within. Others’ opinions are just noise, don’t let it cloud your mind. :)

[@felicitygrace5113]

Being single in my 30s was the best time of my life

[@maric820]

Currently going through it. I so wish for peace.

[@vanessaleighl7093]

I love Drew. I relate to Drew. I also struggle receiving love. Drew embodies such love and I attain for that. What a gorgeous conversation.

[@ashleyhuang2483]

I love how relatable how she makes letting go of shame and guilt

[@mellead8727]

she would be a wonderful friend to have, I love how genuine she is.

[@silvertales]

Thank you for this interview with Drew, it was wonderful. I love how honest and open she is, how transparent about her own struggles and insecurities. It’s real and raw and beautiful. We are definitely conditioned by society and the media to fine “The One,” to the point that it leads to many of us thinking that if we spend much of our lives single and unattached that there is something “wrong” with us.

[@TheWilDOn31]

Yes, we shouldn't think there's something wrong with us. The truth is most people struggle with the relationship - romantic side of life one way or another. But me personally, I really have a need to share my life with someone, to feel loved and to care about someone, and this weighs heavy on me.

[@Frip36]

There may not be something wrong with you. But there's definitely something not right with you.

[@geoc1005]

​@@TheWilDOn31This podcast really celebrated independence and finding love places other than with a significant other, but some of us really feel a strong desire for that one-on-one love partnered relationship, and there's is nothing wrong with that either! We are each made differently and if that's your heart's desire, nothing good can come from denying it. ❤

[@hennagal7360]

"The Ultimate form of liberation is Change" Wow this is a really powerful take away - keeper - thank you Drew 🌻💛 respect 🙏

[@juliechertow]

so so proud of you Drew, our inner world/meditation is truly the only way to really be able to experience our true divine nature!

[@sneetchyone]

I am also stuck for the same reason - from the past relationship failures and having been single for 7 or 8 years I am afraid of letting someone in for fear of what they would do to my peace. But I still crave it. and get lonely. But I do also think it is societal pressure dictates that I feel bad about not having a romantic relationship- when really I feel better about myself then I ever did when I was younger. Its sort of confusing. I get the frustration and I know why the tears came so easily for Drew - I totally get it.

[@iCKREATE]

Please don't lose this for anyone. I was you and got into a relationship for company. But, it just broke me & I have lost my strong self. I feel lost today. I think why did get into the relationship at all. I was so strong and headstrong and happy. Now I am healing myself. No point of letting anyone in to spoil my peace

[@judepoynter3850]

This is such a parallel to my situation. Thank you for putting it into words. We do need to protect our peace and sanity 😊

[@judepoynter3850]

@@iCKREATE wow! I can so relate to that brokenness. We do need to protect our wellbeing as it’s really hard to build ourselves back up when this happens. I wish you all the best as you heal ✨

[@nfbconnect]

We had similar “lifetime movie-like” upbringings. That comment on life becoming about the mastery of reaction is so on point. Her and Selena Gomez have some great insight on this balancing act we all have to do (mind/body/self/others) in the face of trauma and chronic ptsd from childhood. Our brains change and everything becomes about making space between the moment and your reaction to process, while also being able to hold yourself accountable (with compassion). This kind of stuff really needs to make it to American school curriculums in a health class. Kids need a roadmap to understand their emotions and the relationship between emotion, thought and action.

[@wildfemmes]

That comment about mastering reactions really resonated with me too! It's a works in progress and it's that #jugglehood of all the different versions of ourself where reflection and awareness starts to really grow.

[@equinnox70]

Amen, well said.

[@sayusayme7729]

So true, beautiful insight

[@maryhalverson5713]

It's amazing how quickly pesky issues can disappear when focus is placed on the well being of others, rather than obsessively striving to work on our "inner selves." It is selfishness that's the root cause of all of the world's troubles.

[@Sarasapien]

She’s so genuine and real. I absolutely adore, Drew. I hope she finds that one special someone ❤ she deserves it ❤

[@socorroacevedo6182]

Drew had a lot she needed to get out. Jays listening skills speak volumes about him and why he understands humanity in a deep way. Shhh

[@ArchitSach]

Even the intro has wisdom packed in it. "Do the dishes and you'll feel better" - that's because (a) you're DOING something (using your body) and (b) you're HELPING someone (either those you live with or your future self! Do the dishes people, it's a great first step to a great day, week and life!

[@mohamm3d312]

Fantastic point!!!

[@mohamm3d312]

I did the dishes after reading this haha

[@storyarch1084]

@@mohamm3d312 I'll 'wash it forward'

[@storyarch1084]

well spoken words sir!

[@fayolasaunders6342]

I need to do the dishes right now, I will give that a go

[@fatimaahmad1955]

On point.. The moment I figured out that romantic love is over priced.. I became more appreciative of my life

[@michellemonet4358]

Single is quite nice..❤😂

[@roka2031]

I do think romantic love is the most special love there is..IF..it is done right...at the same time....People need to tap in to what makes them happy...and this is coming from someone who is happily single

[@itme7297]

It's not overpriced. It's just not done right anymore.

[@Jakilyn]

The hard part for me, is waking up realizing I'm 43 with 3 children & 2 failed relationships never having met a true love. I wanted a partner to grow and build with. I fear of losing time. Life is precious and how wonderful it would be to share that with someone❤

[@SA-lz1vx]

At 30 I feel the same. I never got married or have kids.

[@vickibazter3446]

Universal truths

[@gsgarciag]

​@@SA-lz1vxI turned 50 this year, never married and no children. My life is the complete opposite of what I imagined it would be. And I'm still single now. I have been madly in love before (in my 20's), and I'm not sure if I'm ever supposed to feel that way again. I feel like there are so many great parts of life that I've missed out on, or am missing out on. I'm afraid of spending the rest of my life alone, but I don't know how to remedy that. Meeting someone is very difficult.

[@july821]

Tell yourself you deserve to meet that special one. Often times we do not meet them because we are sure we will never meet them.

[@sbloome77]

The loves of my life have always stayed in the friend zone (my fault) and I have only had poor relationships. I had two beautiful male soulmates and they were gay. But I would be happy single and if I really find someone special who thinks of me the same way so be it!

[@shannoncoppin2124]

Great questions and answers! I appreciate the focus on other types of love than just romantic love. Also, for women like myself who have been told “you don’t know true love until you give birth” it is important not to buy into those narratives. Not having had kids feels like it holds a huge stigmatism as well. The greatest unconditional love cannot be limited or defined to one kind of relationship, but is possible in every relationship and to yourself ❤️

[@kristinecrowley8321]

So true! A mother’s love is not always profound and unconditional. I have children and for sure it’s the most powerful, unique and significant love I have and probably will ever experience. However, I don’t have a relationship with my own mother because she has issues, is a very hateful and spiteful person, and I was her scapegoat. She essentially told me to my face that she hates me. So....there’s that. Everyone deserves unconditional parental love but it’s not a given and it’s not always the best or only place to experience deep love/connection.

[@latenitetubing]

Thank you ☺️

[@joannebell3405]

Appreciate your answer so much, have needed to screenshot so I can re-read 🙌💗

[@fearless7989]

@@kristinecrowley8321 Thank you

[@Wiggy8]

Wisely said - wisely said….from another woman who has not had children. It the way my life happened.

[@staceys173]

Loved this. It’s so true. You need to love yourself FIRST. Then everything will fall into place. When we work to understand ourselves and learn to appreciate and respect ourselves, it’s easier to be able to learn to understand & respect others. To be able to treat others as we would want to treat ourselves. So many females were raised that marriage was the goal or dream. Truth is marrying just anyone won’t work. Once you know yourself it’s easier to pick someone that resonates with you. In the mean time, strive to love your life and be happy. Helping others creates more harmony but do not sacrifice yourself. Everything needs to be reciprocal. Balanced.

[@sheilad4704]

I love Drew, she is amazing, beautiful human inside & out! 💕

[@EvesRevenge]

Me too!

[@rhiannonrhiannon6285]

I love what Drew said about being single and loving it. I am single now and love it and feel guilty that I feel that way. So crazy that I feel this way.

[@xpsxps1339]

No reason to feel guilty. You are fine; your life belongs to you; enjoy:-)!

[@JB-pe2yn]

This woman is amazing!! When she mentioned the "B" side... I felt that incredibly deep in my soul.

[@judithcharvit7982]

such a smart and profound woman . I love you both

[@ryanjohnson4249]

I agree with you. She is such a smart and profound woman.

[@LittleAMV]

i love her so much; the way she speaks openly about her life and emotions has been so pivotal in my healing for a lot of things i have gone through these past few years. she truly does just have a healing energy that emanates even through the screen.

[@gangstamum]

Drew... thankyou for being so relatable and real. You are an inspiration. Much love to you xxxxx

[@FlowersandSun22]

I’ve watched her for years. It was nice hearing her story and see how far she has come. When it comes to love we attract people based on where we are at in life. It’s important to work on yourself..that inner work is important

[@Castlebahun]

Jay with his calmness and authenticity, has a special ability to bring out the best in people. That is what I have noticed about his conversations. They are honest and raw, exactly what we need the most in today's society. Drew has always been one of my favourite known people. She is real.

[@grannyronna]

Completely agree about how much Jay brings to interviews. He not only listens, he receives. Then he is able to respond more fully than almost any interviewer I've seen. What a gift.

[@garyrickards9562]

I am single 5 yrs, I’m so scared of being hurt again, to the point where I don’t give mine unconditionally anymore, except to my son who is my whole life, the trauma of love changes us, and unfortunately not always for the best. I used to love being in love, now it just seems like to much effort #drewbarrymore

[@jamiezuzu7326]

Sounds like me.. my son is the only one right now and it’s been 5 years and I’m scared to live again

[@-KMA-]

I’m going through the same where I’ve convinced myself that I will be single for the rest of my life because I don’t want to feel that again. I’m opening up but also working on things within and sometimes it just takes awhile and that’s ok. 10 years for me and still learning. You’ll know when it’s right.

[@vg2binkey884]

U said it. U used too. Now you don't. That's you prob thru it. No one else's.

[@joyell821]

I thought it was just me

[@mariavazquezcastro1968]

Gary, you should have a life of your own, separate from your son. I am also a single mother of one, and for the longest time, I only focused on him and forgot about myself. It's not healthy.

[@ceilidhpitaw]

When she talks about those moments of talking in a circle when she was growing up, it really reminded me of the impact that "Talking Circles" had and still has on me. I am Mi'kmaw First Nation and in many Indigenous cultures, we have ceremonies and talking circles where we pass a feather or object around, and one by one, we share our stories, or we answer a certain question that was asked. Usually, in the beginning, a lot of people are scared to share, as it's unfamiliar. As the rounds go on, more and more people begin to chime in and dance with their courage. It's quite a beautiful experience. Often it's in a tipi, lodge or outside but it's always by the fire. The fire not only helps keep us warm but it invites our ancestors and passed loved ones into the space so they can also support our truths, stories, experiences, struggles or pain. Thank you for this beautiful interview

[@JuLeZ274]

This is beautiful :)

[@grannyronna]

What a beautiful comment. Thanks for sharing.

[@sandrahardy5418]

Drew is so wise and so eloquent!

[@LorenaGonzalez-mu5no]

This was so deep!! I’m in a 26 yr old marriage and because I can’t hurt others and I want everyone else to be happy I feel stuck and I know I’m not happy. I live with tension and overthinking.

[@sbloome77]

You’re not alone. I have been in a 10 yr relationship and I feel I am not treated the way I should but I also have a hard time when I think of not ever seeing the person again. I also don’t have the savings to live alone. Advise: It’s difficult but do what will make you truly happy and make your life better 😊

[@ksc743]

Jay interviewed Michelle Obama recently where she spoke about marriage and communicating. Also really worth listening to.

[@XristosKarasavvas]

u should communicate more your emotions, to tell someone hey that I don't like or this annoys me won't kill them. I want to be kind too but sometimes that is not the way to go with certain people. Only u can make your self happy, your happiness depends on you and only u. Do things that make u happy, be with like minded folks. Avoid negativity, toxicity, also what you think is your reality, think better things and improve your reality, your quality of life. It has nothing to do with money, its all in our head, LIVE IT UP

[@NamasteTexas]

I feel like I can relate to Drew more than any I can with any other celebrity. She's such a beautiful soul!

[@andreaandrea6716]

It's true.... we HAVE placed Romantic Love on a pedestal and that makes it incredibly difficult to maintain. However, there IS something to be said for romantic relationships that then morph into/BECOME that person you just LOVE, who is your best friend... and whom you cannot visualize life WITHOUT.

[@edlobato1251]

I think Drew shines even brighter on the inside!

[@Memesdailyt4]

💯✅

[@skfhdsjknldgfv]

It's so wild that dating has gone downhill so badly that what was once the worse possible way to break up with someone, is now how we hope to get broken up with, as opposed to the ubiquitous ghosting.

[@ayshakocer8373]

I love Drew she's no afraid to talk about her struggles given her background work. She made me cry too when the moment she went to "romantic partner" conversation.... great podcast😍

[@Fatima_316]

Such a beautiful conversation. Drew is one of the BESTTTTT people in Hollywood; SO inspiring, down to earth, and loving as a human being. Great episode, would love to see her on the podcast again sometime

[@wildfemmes]

I 100% agree!

[@ameliel8792]

Truth! I mean it's hilarious/tragic because I think that fact speaks volumes about the quality of the dating pool...

[@kimberlytaylor3987]

I couldn’t have said it better myself!❤

[@gloria.jewell09]

One of the best people to ever exist. Shes such a genuinely good person.

[@judithpriestess7781]

Adore Drew. She's an earnest, loving soul.

[@Luckykat218]

I loved this chat & I can totally relate to her about romantic love! Even after her crazy early years, she has turned into a grounded, soulful & funny woman. Flaws & all…I love her more than before 💫❤️

[@danagonzalez8220]

Such a beautiful interview. It brought me to tears. Thank you Drew for asking those questions that many of us want to ask but are afraid to ask. And thank you Jay for your beautiful answer. I have struggled with feeling ‘unlovable’ so many times and needed this! We are all in this world together! Thank you for just putting these talks out there! ❤

[@Prisy087]

Drew is so genuine, Drew is a mood, Drew say it out loud! Thank you for that oh so inspiring and emotional podcast

[@estyellie93]

So insightful! I have been prioritizing romantic love my whole life above all others. This mindset has been unfulfilling. I feel less alone in these thoughts/actions now. Thank you for the insightful introspection Jay and Drew! You guys are the greatest!!

[@AAAugustine]

Think I just caught deep feels from your picture. Lol... true. ❤

[@lita4458]

How wonderful Ellie. It is great to have breakthroughs and insights like that. You know what is interesting. I have been the opposite, and that is an issue too. It has never been important or a priority. And I have avoided it. And to be honest, and I know this is not popular thought, being more open to romance now has healed parts of me that I never imagined would ever change in me.

[@Theone-ou2xt]

sometime we over prioritize or over avoid love due to our childhood pain.

[@MilenaKoncar]

​@@lita4458BALANCE in all aspects of life is the KEY to peaceful happiness💯

[@lisawilliamsreal]

Drew Barrymore is truly a relatable and beautiful human being. Great podcast!!

[@Memesdailyt4]

💯✅

[@lisamariealaniz7538]

Agree beautiful ❤️ inside and out good human being a down to earth humble person

[@fkngr8]

Jay your take on love, beautiful. I didn't think I would be able to live without romantic love after my divorce. Now, after having had some time to heal, I don't think that at all. I have a lot of love around me from family and very good friends, I don't feel like my life is missing anything. Romantic love is a bonus, but I really don't need it and I am honestly shocked that I have found myself feeling this way because that was so unexpected.

[@SarahBatsanis]

How fantastic for you! You must be enjoying your own company, appreciating your own value & self love. How great is that! 🎉💝

[@fkngr8]

@@SarahBatsanis thank you! It is great!!

[@plotwhisperer5502]

The minute I let go of trying to find a romantic partner and just be…I felt like a freakin albatross flew off of my shoulders….5 years going strong, single, not dealing with toxic 💩 backing up my daily life, f*cking with my mental health and well-being. And Drew and Shetty are awesome souls in the world.

[@cheryllindsay7718]

Wow! What a beautiful amazing conversation!!! I love Drew and totally would love her as a friend! She is so wise!❤ I have been happily single since my divorce in 2003. I don't even date at all. Not only that, but I no longer need or want romantic love as it is a distraction from true happiness for me. The burden of wanting romantic love has been lifted from my shoulders. I feel so FREE!!!!! But at the same time I am not bitter about it nor against others having that in their lives. So I can still watch romantic movies and love them!

[@kp74952]

Absolutely loved this interview! The only thing I'm not sure I resonate completely with is what she said about following what feels good and what doesn't feel good. I think this is important information to pay attention to, but we also have to recognize that not everything that's worthwhile or even good for us in life is always going to feel good. In fact, sometimes it might feel scary, overwhelming, and just really, really hard. The key is that it should be moving us toward the highest version of our life and ourselves. I think a better question to ask than "does this feel good," is, is this something that a perfectly wise and loving being would choose for me? That should give you a pretty good answer.

[@Star-Mac10]

Drew has so much wisdom and authenticity. I first saw her as a kid, opening night for her breakout movie E.T. She's come a long way. Much love to her.💜

[@sunsetkindoflife]

I watched this conversation for me, but after hearing Drew's ghosting story, I need to share this with a couple of friends going through the same thing. And will appreciate this so much. Thank you for this wonderful interaction. 😊❤ Big love and hugs for Drew.

[@Open-DI_239]

Ghosting is such a terrible feeling, but after about 7 months of being angry, crying, blaming and trying to figure out what went wrong (What did I do?), I finally realized I’m glad he moved on and didn’t waste either of our time or tried to use me. I thought he was an amazing guy as well during our 3 months of dating, but I eventually appreciated his honesty and wished him well. I know I have a wonderful and beautiful heart and I want to keep it that way. Being bitter is like a soar that never heals. I’m still single, but I am truly happy and I am surrounded with love by wonderful parents, friends & associates. ♥️

[@grannyronna]

I've always admired Drew, but much more now. And if Drew can get ghosted? Then if it happens to us, in any way--not just romantic--it just means we are human.

[@BalladofJanine]

Drew has always inspired me, she is a authentic speaking girl I love to listen too! Thanks Jay for having her!

[@mydizzymelody]

I feel just like her. I’m grateful to see that someone as wonderful as her is experiencing the same. The world feels less lonely now. Not that I wish this on anyone. But, these are just human experiences that we often feel so lost in because no one ever speaks on it. I’m grateful for people who are willing to be open and honest like Drew Barrymore.

[@lisamariealaniz7538]

Feel lonely and alone every day I have no friends no family

[@mydizzymelody]

@@lisamariealaniz7538 we have to be what we lack for ourselves. Become your best friend, become your mother to yourself.

[@wusrllygoood]

Her style is so unique and adorable! Love Drew!

[@afrachristiani835]

Thank you! This is 100% what I am thinking and keep preaching to my surrounding. It is so difficult to shake off this feeling of being the one who has not "reached the goal" of finding a partner, when meanwhile there is so much love around me. It hurts to work through this, but it needs to happen to be better abd not get worse.

[@kaleyjoplinRAWRR]

Well said , I feel the same way. It’s something I’m working on but it’s really hard. I was always content being single because I thought one day it will happen but it still hasn’t and now I’ve been thinking about the possibility that I may never find that person. Honestly it’s not something I want but sometimes life hands you these cards and you gotta make the best of it I guess. I do hate how sometimes people around me will straight up ask me why I’m not married or if I am etc. it stings a little more when this happens

[@wow50plus9]

It is a different kind of love. You can't compare intimacy, companionship and passion with a partner with any other type of love. Is not the same. When your heart becomes knitted to another person's...you know the level of intensity when you breakup and detach from each other. It is different...it s a spiritual union.

[@cindyhoelderle946]

I have respected Ms. DREW FOR MANY MANY YEARS. She is such an old soul, and aware of all that has gone around her since she was born. She was grown even before her own mother. I to can NOT gossip, I actually hate it and most people who do it. I'll shut down what I'm watching or listening to as soon as it starts. It's just not a necessity in my life. Ms. Drew is a very intelligent woman. Love her HEART & SOUL. IM WANTING NOTHING BUT WONDERFUL AND AMAZING THINGS FOR HER. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS HER AND KEEP HER. HUGE HUS DREW❤✝️😊

[@extremo2577]

This EXACTLY what I need I needed to hear at this time. Perfect timing.. Gods timing ❤

[@swaggym4208]

amen

[@msteaguer1908]

as Drew Barrymore stated on her choice to be with herself for 7 years partially due to her daughters. I understood and did the same, not because of the divorce, but because my Daddy died (2005)- he was my protector. My last male engagement was end of 2008, I didn't trust my judgment and needed to protect my 2 daughters. During this time I worked on myself. I'm now ready to go out and share myself with a few others. The giddiness I feel within and how I seek the things/joys I desire is imaginable to me. I am grateful.

[@bettyjones5375]

I really relate to this but I'm in the beginning of it

[@michelehernandez5992]

I have been single for well over 20 yrs and I love my life!!. I came to know who I am and know that I don't need anyone else. That is it there is nothing better than knowing who you are and what you want. It is really liberating.. ;-)

[@Memesdailyt4]

❤️

[@brandysalgado8191]

In tears! I've recently transitioned into the "I don't drink" phase a little more than a year ago, shortly after a very toxic violent relationship/prison/bad roommate situation I wish I had the courage or strength or security to write that post-it two years prior. When Jay said finding "the one" isn't necessarily the ultimate highest pedestal type of love, it is hard to explain, but it's like I knew this the entire time but it didn't feel right till that moment when he said it and Drew agreed. Thank you both for putting these words out for anyone to hear, it has truly helped me!

[@MaryEStevenson-Fowler]

Could Drew 'be anymore me' ? I took a little time out of my work morning to listen to Drew's interview with this brilliant person, Jay. It's opened my mind tremendously to why I think and do what I do because of my past and past relations.. whether it be family or partners.. I am so happy I took the time to watch and listen to Drew this morning. Much love to you. ~ Beth

[@EvesRevenge]

This is one of the most profound/beautiful/important discussions I’ve ever heard. Thank you. Namaste. ❤

[@diannahannah4194]

I watched the movie A Man Called Otto last night. And here talking about romantic love being put on a pedestal and maybe disregarding love from friends, coworkers, and other family members as not being "it" made me think that Tom Hank's movie showed this perfectly. He found the love he received from others after his wife passed, was fulfilling.

[@susanmarie2231]

Amen to not staying stuck. Stagnation feels like a slow deterioration. At age 68, I have never found “the one.” I had my son later in life at age 40 and he is the light of my life. But I’ve never found the love of my life, if he even exists, and I don’t feel the need to search. I have the mutual love of family and friends. Blessings and best wishes to Drew. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. Thank you Jay.

[@ksundermier]

Best podcast I've watched in YEARSSS. The wisdom and real vulnerability you both have is incredible, but the fact that you're also both willing to share it with us all. I could cry

[@Genxmom]

Drew, you are so beautiful, kind, and amazing. I’m a single 42 year old mom of two girls. I have been divorced since 2015. I am stuck too. It might be the very best place to be right now.

[@ricomcclinton2982]

She has always been really sweet, knew her a long time ago when she was young. Glad she's doing so great!! Great interview!!

[@alid3424]

Seen her in movies but never really knew much about her personally. Still, I felt like she was a genuine and kind human. What a beautiful soul; I enjoyed this interview.

[@Breylin24]

I like the way she expresses herself and her transparency!

[@chiaravischi]

what Profound Person she is. she got the Most of her "Up and down" Life. With a mother like that Her Daughters are very Lucky