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[@CarolineGirl81]

I’m 42 and am no supermodel, and was really tired of dating in LA, when I met Wally. I was thinking I wouldn’t commit. (I traveled a lot.). But Wally made me smile and laugh every single day, was adoring and devoted and so cute and charming, and handsome - and EVERYONE loved Wally, and we even started traveling together. We do some of my favorite activities together: hiking, bird watching, cuddling on the couch. Wally even watches Matthew’s videos with me! I never thought I could be so happy and free. I never thought I would feel so whole heartedly committed and not wondering when the other shoe will drop. I’m not always wondering if my tummy is too big, if my singing voice is terrible, if I’m too messy or too neurotic. So contented and my heart is so full. Wally is my 12 pound Jack Russell Poodle mix.

[@djann531]

Love that! Dogs are the best!

[@dee2022uk]

Im the same age as you. Would love a dog too :)

[@belleofthecamp6530]

😂

[@Magamomma22245]

I had a feeling this post would end with a Dog.

[@JessicaDarling2]

My soul pup is named Abby, she’s a Jack Russell Terrier who is 16 years old, closer to 17. ❤ One of the many things I love about her is the way she makes people smile when they see her. I get asked almost daily how old is my “puppy”? 🙂 Thanks for sharing about Wally. 🌷

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

I've been friends with a guy for years, started spending time with him. One day I realized how many qualities he has that I like. He finally asked me out, and I am delighted to have such an amazing man. Because so many people speak of "The One" and believe that, they pass over some amazing people. This guy wouldn't normally be on my radar, but we fit beautifully together. We get along so well.

[@Sustainablewealth777]

I've listened to a good number of youtubers , but there's something about your channel, the topics you choose, your insight, and the knowledge you give out that makes you exceptional . Thank you Mr and Mrs Hussey

[@R.James.]

Puhleazzz. You and basically all other women wouldn't have given a sh... if he wasn't as good looking as he is. His channel would never been this popular if he was an average guy doing what he does. There's plenty guys with a channel on YT with good messages about these topics, but none of them bar a few, are gaining traction.

[@Sustainablewealth777]

@@R.James. well, I never talk down on good things like riches and beauty, so if you say he's attractive then glory be to God 😊 that's wonderful. If you had to choose you would choose to be handsome too. But in the part of the world where I come from, men doesn't necessarily have to be handsome, physically they just need to be well built, strong, and healthy which is something any man gain attain with enough effort. Then if he is intelligent and insightful then he is truly what a man should be. I see that in him and if I see something good I always acknowledge it no matter who

[@R.James.]

@@Sustainablewealth777 Lol that is exactly my point. Good looking is the whole package, it's not just his face but his body as well. So let's put it this way, say the average of both of those combined has to be in the good looking range which means he's attractive to most women. So if he wasn't as attractive as he is women would've never given him and the word he spreads a chance. Resulting in barely any clicks on his YT videos, making him never become popular. So circling back to your original comment: No his messages aren't really exceptional, you and most women on this channel just think that and take him serious since he's such a good looking man.

[@Sustainablewealth777]

@@R.James. if his messages isn't as insightful, why did you notice that he dropped a video and why did you watch. Please let's leave all these pretty privileges of a thing and be a sincere. Why don't you try putting something insightful out, I promise I'll watch 😊

[@R.James.]

@@Sustainablewealth777 The point is that his looks got him this fame. His channel grew to this point because women are into him. Had he been not so good looking, hardly any woman would've clicked his first few videos back when he started YT. He's probably still be on a few thousand subs maybe or even had quit by now. No matter how 'good' his messages are, you AND all the women who made this YT popular (as you all click his videos and/or subbed to it) likely (I guess like 99% of women) clicked on whatever random Matt Hussey video first because of his looks, not so much the title. Only then afterwards they stayed for the content and partially his look as well. But again, women got pulled into his content because of his looks initially. And women tend to forget about this or do not realize it or some simply won't admit it.

[@bec.des3]

You guys are stupid adorable. It’s hard not to believe in fairytales when you two sit across from each other filming podcasts, deferring to each other and giggling. I can imagine you sitting across from each other in 20-30 years filming podcasts in a similar way 💓

[@StrongSolace]

Very well said especially about the friends part. If you’re going to feel a twinge of jealousy or sadness when they meet someone else, want to flirt with them, or subconsciously looking for ways to be closer to them than their new significant other, then your “friendship” is a byproduct of a romantic fantasy in your head.

[@catboxcleaner3532]

My God, Audrey is A Blessing. You both chose well. The green plant environment is very pleasing. Thank you.

[@spaghetti8008]

This is so so real and so important. I was in one of those ~hopeful~ "friendships" for 11 years. I had to break it off completely (it's been about a year and a half no contact) and it was so hard but it worked! I'm finally in a healthy relationship with someone who actually returns my feelings :') thank you for everything you teach!!! ♡

[@Berryandmango]

That's a nice background. I like the dynamic between Mrs Hussey and her husband. Sometimes, partners can be awkward but they are not.

[@ireefree2024]

I had a list in my mind what my partner should have... well, it was lot's of superficial things. Then I changed my perspective and found the love of my life ❤ he's not what I wanted from my list but all what I needed. I'm started with Matthew's advices 6 years ago. Now I'm almost 5 years happy and 3 years married. Still it's not always easy to have a successful relationship and most times I'm the problem because of traumas in my life. But it's worth it ❤

[@nap871]

That's because you preferred alpha masculine charming guys who you are instantly attracted too, and wouldnt consuder being just friends.bbut went for the nice guy who treats you like a precious gem stone. At first you said he's nice and sweet but there's no spark or chemistry. Later on you said fk it - good enough.

[@ireefree2024]

@@nap871 no, not really. My husband is more alpha than my ex ever was. He's has his own mind and is really good looking even better than my ex. Speaks always the truth. My ex told only things for his benefits and manipulates all the time. Also my husband is not avoidant. That's the big difference. I had chosen guys who would keep me distant and have only the superficial things checked. The spark back then I only had if I feel a distance, that was a long time ago. Chasing is for the forest not for a successful relationship. Now I have real sparks in my life. If miss my husband if I on a business trip like crazy and he makes me happy more than I thought it could be possible. But my bad childhood brings up trauma. That's also my chasing came from. Never have the feeling of being good enough or know how to handle security. I would never settle anymore for anybody who's not worthy. Better be alone than in a bad relationship...

[@ireefree2024]

My answer is gone... so once again. No, not really. My husband is more alpha than any of my exes. He has a own opinion and always is honest. Better looking than any of my exes as well. The biggest difference was that I have been unconsciously chosen the avoidant guys. That was my list. My ex before my husband was the best example for that. Always lying and manipulating even for small things. And all of that was because of my childhood trauma. Only feeling sparks if I have to prove of being worthy. With my husband is was and is totally different. But video's of Matthew and therapy help me. I would never ever go for a relationship like that again. Better be alone than with such a person... And it's not only because he's a good guy. He has so much more on the table which before him I don't even consider to be possible. So nobody is perfect but for me he is and I'm for him. That's all was matters.

[@franziskani]

@@nap871 Been on some manosphere vids lately ? It is interesting how you make up stuff about a stranger on the internet - and as the answer shows you were off. That is the problem with those channels: lots of grifters that cater to the feelings of men that feel hard done by by real or imagined slights and disadvantages. AND they torture and bend their ideas how humans evolved. Evolutionary psychology isn't really a thing and certainly these males have no real idea about ethnology (as an academic field).

[@franziskani]

@@nap871 young females (and males) have immarture criteria for selecting partners and it is relatively new in THIS society that they can also only look for mating partners. So that creates some distortions - especially ! online. Everyone talks about 20 % of the males getting 80 % of the matches - but that is ONLINE *. Women get more matches - and as it needs some time to sort through them - of course they tend to raise their critera. HR does the same, when they get a lot of applications, they get stupid with what they ask for. This is a human thing, not a male or female behavior. Those recent hiccups do not prove the half assed theories of the manosphere grifters. and the bit that kinda fits - applies to a certain age group. In the United States, not so much in other wealthy countries. In the U.S:: Still partriachal structures along with a lot of women doing fine financially AND a highly competitive society in general. Women allegedly being always on the lookout for a "better" man is not even true for the U.S. Let alone for other highly developed nations like France, Germany, Switzerland, Canada. I do not fault the U.S. women being (subconscioulsy) influenced by society to look more for wealth than their sisters in other nations. Apart from the societal pressure (and that is a remainder from the time when males 100 % run the show) there are real practical considerations. In the U.S. the income decides whether you get healthcare or not (good & timely ! care, and the current insurance "solution" does shit for you if you have a costly CHRONIC disease because the co-pay will hit you every year anew. Since not so long the finances (and status coming from that) also determines whether you can end an unviable pregnancy and whether you can avoid to have a child that is going to die or that is going to deplete all energy or money because the (lifelong) care it needs. Wealthy couples can go to another state and get the procedure done. Their doctors (that serve the affluent) will not rat them out (a pregnancy ended, I as the doctor do not know why), and Republicans will also not bother them with prosecution (and if they would be stupid enough, the families will have the money to pay for good attorneys). Republicans will go after low income / low- status families / women that have miscarriages (or they mask abortions as miscarriages) - but only if they are low income, and preferably people of color. The hell a (typically Republican leaning) DA will target white middle class suburban families - because those people can hit back, and as targets will get sympathy from other Republican voters. People _like them._ It is not that long that the reproductive capacity of young people was not that important and only used later. In the 50s and 60s a LOT of young folks married between the age of 20 and 30 and also became parents - it is new that this is not NORM anymoe.

[@vz16881981]

You guys addressed alot in this video that resonates my love life currently. I do feel watching this is divine timing, actually. I have been in a romantic friendship for years. I kept telling myself, she wasn't the one, that I didn't want her, that she wasn't attractive enough, etc. But lately I have been doing some deep inner child work and uncovered alot of not enoughness on my part. I don't know how to receive love because I've never had it and was imprinted with self-hate from a very young age, and if I had it, I sabotaged it. And here I am, 42, realizing that I am doing this again with her. She recently drew some firm boundaries with me and it hurt like hell. I've realized that it would crush me if she moved on with someone else and when she is not in my life, I think about her constantly. I've realized that I love her, that I feel safe, seen and heard with her. This is the type of love I've been looking for but I've been rejecting it for years bc I have been looking for love from my ego's perspective (shiney new object, unpredictable, inconsistent, bombshell, lusty kinda love). Last night, I made a list of all the qualities I want my ideal partner to have and she checks off all of those, every single one. I do believe I have been addicted to the chase and hope of finding "the one" and when I get rejected or date a toxic person, the self fullfilling prophecy becomes true "no one will ever love me". However, I have come to realize that love has been staring at me for a few years and I rejected. I've realized there is comfort/familiarity in rejection, either I am the one doing the rejecting or I find someone to reject me and then the false belief becomes true "i am unloveable". You guys touched on this, the subconscious pattern of "you like me, there must be something wrong with you" and "this is too easy, there must be something wrong with her". And so this neverending quest for love continues, it's so sad because I think its rooted in the fear of diving deep with someone and the not enoughness mentality so we continue deflecting love. I'm so glad I am doing the deep inner child work because I would not have been able to make these profound connections in my relationship patterns and childhood trauma. My search for love was being driven by the ego, a status symbol/the hottest person I can get. But the deeper I dig into my past, the clearer my values in a partner become, the more I realize what I need vs what I think I want. I've done so much inner work for many years and finally arrived at the point where I am looking at my relationship patterns and feel blessed that I have an opportunity at healthy love. I hope this helps whoever reads this.

[@Rmr0924]

I ALWAYS thought no matter who I was with that there’s someone better out there for me…always thought the grass was greener…until I met the girl I’m currently with a month ago. I don’t look at anyone else

[@diezuckerbackerin5112]

Just a matter of time.

[@felixlenert3649]

There is no person in the world that is going to make you stop from looking at the other grass, you have to put an end to that yourself. Be satisfied with what you have and grow together towards something that is even better. I had 3 relationships, the first one was fulfilling, but we were young and in the long run I wasn't happy anymore with the energy I put into it, the second one was very unfulfilling while the partner herself was awesome, and the last one, while it ended after 4 months, was probably the person I was the most happy with, and not because there was nothing better for me, there sure is, always, but because I was happy with what I had, what we mutually gave ourselves. Unfortunately, I wasn't the one for her in the end, which is a shame, but I learned that it is very important to categorically doubt the "is it greener on the other side" questions, because they are irrelevant. (this doesn't mean you shouldn't question think the grass is greener if you could have partner that doesnt physically or verbally abuses you). But there will always be a prettier partner waiting for you, or a smarter one, or a nicer one. But humans are packages and if you can deal with the one you have, that is BIG in itself.

[@katiehealer8861]

I have had to live stories in my head since childhood. Real life was frightening. Chaotic, unpredictable, violent. 😢 Turning that around and learning to love myself and another.❤

[@maggiem5830]

I watched the show and was also thinking the same thing about the feeling of holding onto someone. I did it for a few years with someone and have had great success since moving on. Similar to that “twin flame” energy!

[@artbygilik]

I was in a friendship like that for a few years and it was one of the most painful things and kept me from finding or seeking a real relationship. That friendship ended abruptly without closure after we went on a vacation together and he never spoke to me again. I later came to realise that it was actually limerence, and even though it’s been a year and a half since it ended I’m still recovering and mourning what this friendship / attachment stole from me and that I allowed it to go on for so long

[@lubnasami511]

Good for you for knowing that it was limerence and admitting to it. It will be difficult but it will be worth it ant the end. Get help from a therapist if you can.

[@franziskani]

Regarding limerence - I reccommend the channel Following Fenna. Short vids, insightful, relevant, concise - and kinda funny. She is making fun of herself as well - as a recovered limerent that now counsels people. Fenna said she wanted also to post on things like burn out and self love - but she started with limerence which she knows from personal experience. She got so many reactions that she concentrates on that with her youtube uploads - for the time being.

[@artbygilik]

@@franziskani I watched A LOT of videos on the topic while I was dealing with getting out of it so now I don't really consume related content. It kept me stuck in a way. I now have no interest in ever talking to that person again and feel remorse for the painful years I robed from myself by being so delusional. It got me really sucked into the whole manifestation coaches and all sorts of mess. Now I have much more peace and I have lost all interest in romantic relationships.

[@olenasvitla5965]

I’m stopping your video to write this comment. I haven’t been following you for past 1-2years, and was hesitant whether i trust your authenticity. Now i 100% do and more open for the message BECAUSE of your partner. She is great! 😊 Congratulation on finding each other ❤

[@thayspascoal8004]

Love to her Audrey’s perspective! She is amazing and so thoughtful! You two together are incredible

[@Berryandmango]

I enjoy the podcast with and without Audrey although, she truly adds so much value to this channel. When she comes on after being absent for a bit, it feels like a special wonderful treat (like when my Mum used to make dessert on Friday evenings, back when I was a child. It felt so special).

[@halcyon_hound4524]

As per the novel, the 'One Day' of the title refers to St.Swithin's Day (July 15th) ~ the day they met in summer and the day we drop in on the lives of Em and Dex for the two decades that follow. According to the folklore, if it rains on St Swithin's Day, it will rain for 40 days; ditto if the sun shines.

[@amandayorke481]

Interesting! Thanks for that titbit.

[@alexanderdeadmansche]

The show makes that format super clear, they have a calendar reel at the start of each episode to illustrate that its the same day but the following year. I thought it was mental that these two missed it

[@carmenlabomba6449]

It's called One Day because in the movie and the book, they meet up or call each other on the anniversary of when they met. Also Audrey is fabulous and I love hearing her perspective on things. I find it often resonates with me. Matt you're great too! Big love to you both and thanks for all you share! 🤍✨

[@krazimitzi]

I love how we’re just watching them falling deeper and deeper in love with each other on screen ❤

[@Berryandmango]

Oh Audrey, thank you so much, for raising the point on how exhilarating the feeling of seeing someone for the first time and experiencing that strong connection across the room. It can be so powerful but, can cause one to lose your head and go completely mad :); you raised an excellent point. The challenge I guess, is to get beyond that point.

[@graceclement5922]

Love Matthew. Love Audrey. Love Matthew and Audrey. You unpack the issue and give us all the facets, good and not so good, in a gentle and kind way. No judgement. Thank you!

[@eirabee]

Need Matt and Audrey to make another video after finishing the last two episodes of One Day!!!!!

[@andrea.garmedi]

✨Yeeees please!!✨

[@BakerBongos]

Ha yes! I read the book so know how it ends and deliberately didn't watch the last 2 episodes because I'm fragile rn and want to live in denial lol

[@diezuckerbackerin5112]

I'm 44 and always held a candle for someone. I'm used to it. No real-life-guy ever could break this chain. I've been in relationships, but never with somebody I've loved. Today I think, it's better to have these fantasies which make me feel alive, than beeing with someone who doesn't get you feel anything. Both ways are painful.

[@zuahajsuas]

Will you go on a date with me? Any chance?

[@brittanilaree8787]

I think the film adaptation of the same name was heart wrenching... I'm not sure the series is the same plot as the film, but it's worth watching. But be prepared to feel all the feels. Life is short, enjoy the little things, and try to spend your time with the people that make it easy to be yourself around them ❤️❤️ Thank you Matthew and Audrey!

[@Nikki.....]

More Audrey please 😍She is amazing and the conversation between you and 2 perspectives makes the videos more interesting

[@elizabethpiatkowska8848]

Dear Matthew and Audrey, I found your channel only 2 weeks ago, and it has already transformed my life and how I look at my past relationships. Now I look forward to start a new, healthy love story 🎉❤ thanks

[@GodHelpMe369]

my dream list for what I want in my partner-to-be: 1) wealthy/generous 2) deep thinker/excellent communicator 3) warm/soft/safe/gentle/kind 4) is in regular ongoing therapy, and a men's circle, continuously doing his own emotional work and always evolving spiritually 5) deep connection to Jesus 6) traditional values, extremely chivalrous 7) wide awake/red pilled 8) calm patient excellent driver 9) loves to travel, loves to go out and do things together 10) our relationship with each other, with ourselves, with God, with our families, is always TOP priority 11) bold and free and radically honest

[@bindicat9070]

I want to live happily no matter what! Love the relaxed casual look and that you are so happy to be married ❤ I need something to change! Can’t wait for the book!

[@taylorlane6289]

This was an amazing conversation since I’m going through something so similar. Holding on to years of a relationship. Knowing it will never work. But the hope is what drives us both.

[@bakemono716]

I have to say orange is down there in my least favorite colors but I didn’t even realize the book cover being that color till now! Still doesn’t change the fact that I have preordered and cannot wait to get this book!! In regard to what or which type of podcast, I personally like the ones like this, where you both dressed n acting comfy, and talking about important day to day topics.

[@kimkish899]

Matthew you have helped me so much in the past and thank you! I am so happy seeing you grow and change successfully with your beautiful wife where you compliment each other wonderfully ❤️

[@avalonmoonshine5760]

Only 2 minutes in and I can see how comfortable you both are with each other ❤️

[@maggiem5830]

Good show! It is shot on the same day in July throughout many years

[@libnabarron6000]

Love your podcast with Audrey! I always enjoy listening to you both together. 🧡 Thank you, Matt!

[@connierumbaut6244]

Love these podcasts with you and Audrey!! ❤

[@anastazjamalczyk7683]

Absolutely love this video and message! it's life changing in some ways, thanks so much for sharing the wisdom and perspective!❤

[@conflictofinterests]

I love Audrey. Cannot get enough of her perspective. You complement each other ❤

[@satyamyogaderby]

Love you both!! I really benefited from this we do kid ourselves and lie to ourselves! There comes a time where we need to be honest with ourselves and not hurt ourselves with false hopes!

[@giannishen]

You did a really great job, thank you so much for sharing! You are the kindest, friendliest, and most handsome KZbinr I have ever watched! I hope everyone support you, everyone please share, like and subscribe! 👍🤩🙏

[@rooneyrythm]

There's good one's, bad ones, but no 'the one'.

[@Sustainablewealth777]

I'm beginning to believe too,🥺

[@Speedyreedy1218]

There's couples who have been happily married for decades to "the one." ​@@Sustainablewealth777

[@rooneyrythm]

@@Sustainablewealth777 That's a good thing

[@user-vu4bb2se7m]

That book cover.. omg.. Orange, how could you😁😁 I think you both are amazing poeple and i love to watch your video's, it always gives me so much peace and a new way to look at love. Just wanted to say, thank you both for just being you💎 greatings from Holland x

[@lalihlab]

I knew it! It should be “One Day”. 😊

[@MyVlogTherapy]

You and Audrey for the win!

[@LALA-fy8ng]

"love need space" love ittt!!!

[@Ivy285]

All of your content but particularly whatever you have with Audrey.

[@Stella-kn1sl]

I am so happy for you both that you have found each other. You both deserve it. Because you asked Matthew: I think Audrey is so enriching for the podcast/KZbin channel. This episode was incredibly beautiful, informative, gentle and calm. It was so cozy and the time flew by listening to you guys. Matthew you pulled me out of a deep slump a few months ago with such honest and really enthuastic video. No one had ever done that before in my life!!! I like the 15-20 minute videos the most. And I like it when you speak with tons ;) of energy. That's why I find the videos with Lisa Bilyeu so incredibly powerful and great. Those videos give so much hope and also make it unmistakably clear what the consequences are if we live the way we do, what the price is. And you both say it with such fierce energy that it always totally gets me. You feel personally pushed to want to change something in your life, it's just great. Conclusion: Matthew you alone are really really great, together with Lisa Bilyeu even more energetic (want to sell a Honda not only a car ;)) and you in combination with Audrey, very great, very gentle, very warmly enriching. Please keep it up, I'm always very happy when a new video comes out. Thank you so much for your important work!!!!

[@MariyaTerzieva]

You two are the best! Loved this episode and all the episodes that are with the two of you.

[@BusyB-pi9mn]

I loved every episode of One Day. Best thing I have watched on Netflix this year. 100 percent agree with your thoughts about it.

[@Lie-cd4du]

one of the best interviews yet :)

[@Bu2lup]

Hi Mr. & Mrs. Hussey Loving the botanical background, nice too see Audrey, implemented the women’s touch. ❤ Great welcoming, and calming effect . Best Success 🎉

[@tylaevans3716]

Loveee episodes with Audrey 💖

[@miamoose9528]

I love listening to Audrey💚

[@chirokathleen]

I’ve come to believe that some people are completely terrified of the emotional pain they’ll feel if they push for an answer. I’ve seen friends do it, they stay and stay and it drives me batty to see that. It’s a combination of becoming conditioned to the circumstances and inadequate emotional processing skills. They’re paralyzed to do anything about it. It would be great to hear your take on the subject of people’s fear of experiencing emotional pain. It’s deeply somatic in my opinion and too debilitating for some to invite change.

[@Amy_LKW]

Love the episode...kinda hurt a little bit as it was a reminder of my old self

[@iselili2]

I want an Audrey only podcast ❤ never thought I would like someone more than you Matthew, but she rocks😎

[@MoonLight-gm6zm]

I love Audrey!!! ❤ You 2 are a match made in heaven! 💞 Soooo happy for you! 😇

[@yaelli4378]

Hahaha I've also just started watching this series! No spoilers, please! What an importand episode this is. I have a friend that must listen to this.

[@mtasandy]

For the record, I love the color orange! It's one of my favorite colors. lol And yes, I'll be ordering the book.

[@fatimafoster6551]

My favorite ones are the ones where you and Audrey do the podcast together. She makes your KZbin channel even better.

[@kcd7836]

She is so beautiful and speaks in a calm grounding way❤

[@imsocorkyy]

I knew you would be talking about One Day! Also I love you two together on videos. So sweet 🤗

[@yaelli4378]

If I'm being honest, when you first started bringing Audrey with you, I felt that she was a bit hesitant, perhaps as means to not over shadow you or say sonething "wrong", because she knows how much this is important to you, and those episodes were a bit less interesting, but I feel that since then there has been a shift - you seem more comfortable together on the podcast, and Audrey brings AMAZING female points of view that I dare say are sometimes even challenging in terms of what answer you will give, and it adds another level of complexity that otherwise might have been overlooked or missed, and I love that! And she articulates in such a great manner, that I love her input and feel that it helps me too. I am less fond of episodes where you bring in guests. I mean, some of them I love and follow myself (like Dr. RAMANY❤), but sometimes it is less interesting to me, because I feel like their thoughts about certain things are more of "vague" lessons, whereas when you put in your thoughts about a topic, I feel it is clearer and more comorehensive. BTW This episode hit a chord for me, as I was feeling deeply connected to an ex-boyfriend that has wasted so many years of my life, even when I thought we can "just be friends", that Audrey's comment on that was spot on. Luckily, I was already listening to your podcast during the pandemic, so that lesson has been long time learnt, but it still brought back some sad memories of that situation, and I wish I knew your podcast 10 years ago.

[@whitetigerification]

These situations are rough to get out of...the what if keeps me holding on. I think it's tough to get out of because there isn't anything really bad going on as far as abuse. But it can take a mental toll. Not sure how I got here. Thanks for your videos!

[@michellerose7591]

I enjoy all your podcasts & especially think the ones with you and your gorgeous Wife is very gentle and such a good listen xxx keep up your great work Mr & Mrs H xx 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺👍👍🌺🌺

[@soma-xj2gq]

A luxurious life be blessed on the Matthew Hussey academy. May your company filled with money and happiness. More and more sale of your book is wished by your well wishers.

[@nikkig1146]

I remember watching One Day starring Anne Hathaway. Can't wait to check out the remake!

[@taraz6786]

You need to watch Ambika’s performance in ‘This is going to Hurt’ on the BBC. She will rip your heart right out with her performance & the moment I realized she was in One Day, I didn’t even hesitate in binging it, I just knew it would be great. 👏

[@sameez2009]

I love the way YOU appreciate her on minute tbings

[@clairemarie33]

Great topic. Also you both have to watch One Day the movie version. It's so good you will love it!

[@leonnaemeka1795]

I love videos of you and your beautiful amazing wife Audrey together sire... It's my favorite, and I'd love to see more of videos like this 😍❤️❤️❤️ Love you guys sooo much, and thanks for the tips, advices, knowledge and insight. They are far beyond helpful, you guys are the best ❤️

[@rebeccayeatesmakeup]

I’ve spent over 18 years obsessing over a guy I really liked but never moved to the romantic stage. To be honest I never really got to know him probably as was scared of him rejecting me. But in my mind I imagined him to be everything I wanted in a long term relationship. Your both right that the fantasy is what what keeps us holding on to someone that will never see your worth. Also that they make you feel that you don’t deserve anyone of high value because of being rejected by them. I feel this has held me back from exploring and finding a partner that’s better and fits the reality of what I want and looking for. I will be honest it’s really hard to switch the fantasy and constantly comparing possible partners to that person off (which I have excepted it’s something that will never turn off as we’re all human) but like you’ve said before Matt it’s just to be consistent in my dating life and give myself compassion/self forgiveness when I feel these feelings or have self doubts about my worth.

[@sashgalaxys8145]

I have already pre-ordered my dear Matt and Beautiful Audrey ( Mr and Mrs Hussey).. Loved this topic.. coz I am going through this.. I am sad too.. :( I will join your 19th March Live Video. Happy to see you guys.. so lovely.. 😘

[@pegbuckner5074]

I love the cover!! I ordered it a month ago!! 🧡❤️🧡

[@northshorelight35]

There is a reason I don't date men who has a best girl friend. They are probably in love and either don't know it or won't accept it.

[@kimkish899]

I totally agree. Also if they say they are best friends with their ex and still hang out. No thank you!

[@Magamomma22245]

This talk was so good.

[@sarahann9324]

I personally don’t think there is anything wrong with the color! I preordered awhile ago I can’t wait to read this when it comes out!

[@aky8164]

Definitely between orange and red 😃 Thank you guys for this video ❤️

[@l.m.6727]

Great ep.

[@melanalyvka6109]

Hey, dear people, I want to say "thank you". I was in search for something I could not even decide or have an exact question to (but it was a certain topic). Smith clicked inside - first emotionally and on the next day again consciously. P.S. not always sure about those comments here, but the digital world of nowadays is full of weird things, sewing doubts into the minds of ours, so why not spread smth constructive there, if it is honest? ❤ Stay happy and well tuned...

[@sailormoon5760]

It's so nice to listen to you too... You're so lovely 🥰

[@melissawatson9662]

I really like you Matthew and Audrey seems a lovely person; very happy for you, but wow the chemistry between you both is palpable!!! 😅

[@fruitsandvegetables4ever]

Best podcast ever 👌

[@djann531]

I like the funny animations, the cartoons and the people. Makes me laugh and helps explain situations.

[@elainegeber4604]

Hello! I am scheduled for Tuesday the 19th, having preordered your book. I enjoy your podcasts, there is a sense of compassion and caring in your discussions. I have committed to a contract elsewhere without much forethought. 🤦‍♀️ I have done a women’s Empowerment Program with Karen Allen, the best investment in myself I have ever made. I look forward to the program on the 19th. I believe it will be very interesting and informative. Thank you both. ☺️

[@bakytasykbayeva2300]

You and Audrey is my favourite ❤

[@jeanandersonlscsw2550]

I like your interviews with people like Dr Ramani . Also your wife has good insights

[@FB-yz8is]

Definitely you and Audrey together!!!!!!!!

[@gia4957]

Congratulations! 💞

[@SuperCinderella24]

'One Day' refers to July 15th of every year this couple meet each other :)

[@kcd7836]

Audrey is so beautiful, classy, with a grounded energy❤. I am also franco-english like her, love the mix ^^

[@mo_mirror]

Hey, Matthew, what do you mean without Audrey?? Never again!))) Thank you both for this episode, the theme is fantastic! I also enjoy your podcasts with four of you, guys ❤

[@kaiavera2800]

Watch the original movie 'One Day' with Anne Hathaway made from the actual book, don't worry about the new TV show. The movie is an epic feel itself without any unnecessary added extras as filler. Have a tissue box ready! Ps. Great talk guys, always relevant!

[@razarraz8276]

There's no such thing as "the one" it takes 2 people who have chemistry, connection and compatibility to make a conscious decision to want to build something together

[@belleofthecamp6530]

Regarding holding onto the “fantasy” the thread we created… I’m some ways I believe it’s a bit of a reflection. We believe we have truly seen our soulmate and we project our truest need: to be truly seen and loved fully. Letting that go is almost impossible until we meet another that meets that inner need.

[@sharonjackson6191]

You can do so much with your imagination and create feel good scenarios it's a beautiful gift visualizing being with the person of your dreams making dreams come true while creating positive emotions. Shit it can help you take positive actions. I allow myself to indulge in healthy imagination, after all our happiness comes from our perception of a situation and not the situation itself.

[@alexanderdeadmansche]

Like the podcasts with these two

[@marysunshine5575]

This show DESTROYED ME!!!!! I couldn’t see out of my puffy eyes the next morning 😂🤣

[@andrea.garmedi]

Omg me too! Watching them in interviews on the next day, helped me to soften the pain that the show gave me😩

[@melanalyvka6109]

Phantasy is for books and films or even netflix-programmes, and all the rest is for the! life. Orange is a creative colour. Thanks for the ideas. At some point I felt unaccepted because of the phantasy, but people are different and this is more than great (those some and different work with it :-).

[@jeanandersonlscsw2550]

You two are so adorable!

[@marigold605]

Nice thinking❤