6 Things I stopped doing to better manage my stress

[@JemRochelle]

YES the news is the WORST! I stopped watching the news several years ago, and it was SO helpful for my mental health

[@nancycianchetta4831]

Yes, sad. They say if it bleeds it leads and always focus on the bad.

[@AlliV286]

Same here!!!!

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

Yes well I learned a lot by reeducation ‼️

[@plixplop]

At minimum, stop "watching" the news on TV, they drag stories out and even then it's aimed at an average level of comprehension. You can get way more information and depth much faster by "reading" the news.

[@PhilGregoryFX]

Scott just keeps getting better.

[@joanfolds476]

It's unfortunate that individuals who experienced a traumatic childhood don't learn healthy boundaries. Therefore, they haven't been able to gauge their limits. Many suffer from FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). We may be able to enjoy our lives after we deal with our trauma. But, we can't relive our childhoods. Thanks for sharing this information.

[@janicesitzes241]

Being organized is so important and I have struggled with it for years .

[@bobhope5114]

You need to simplify...at every turn.

[@nurshark10]

I’m an RN, BS. Nursing is the worst. There’s always a staffing shortage, who will care for the patients because Sue called out. Mary is on maternity leave, Beth is on vacation! Can you please help us in your days off???? What days off?! You constantly call me in every day I have off! Patients need care but mistakes are high when you work 7 - 12 hour shifts!!!! It’s always so. The hospital doesn’t want to hire extra RNs ($$$$) but the other nurses are burned out. I retired early!! I couldn’t do it anymore. I was suffering and patient care was suffering. Enough!!!!! I’m done and very happy!!!

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

I know there is a lack of good medical help , but you better stay away from hospitals 🏥, it is not a correct treatment they give you anyway try alternative ways , Go to Universal truth school 🏫 Santos Bonacci channels much love 🧡 from 🏫‼️

[@Dzanarika1]

Good for you!

[@cathlaurs9754]

Same for me with my work. Now I've got less money but more freedom 👍.

[@msmanager2775]

I’m on the burn out phase right now as a nurse too. I don’t want fulltime employment bug recently been difficult to eggs gifts with casual working now I’m forced to get into permanent employment. I’m so anxious , I’m offered a high position and been there before, don’t really want to do it. I’m still looking for other opportunities right now even for less money. I’m not retirement age yet for another 25 years but been a nurse for 20 years already and I’m done physically mostly .

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

Yes well it is getting crazier day by day I am aware of the problems ‼️Just try to take care of yourself first ❤️‼️

[@jeankipper6954]

I'm now almost 74, and I live near Seattle, Washington State. I quit watching (and reading) the news about 40 years ago, when the central story on a slow weekend was a vehicle accident that killed a number of kids, IN MISSISSIPPI. "If it bleeds it leads" is their mantra. It keeps our whole culture in angst and upset. Too upset about things that don't matter or that we can do nothing about, to think clearly. Absorbing ALL of our attention and energy, so we can't do anything about what we DO care about. Despite avoiding the "news" or at least the editor's version of it, it's really impossible to avoid knowing what is going on. Truly. It's impossible. But turning down or out the screaming hysteria really helps.

[@SandySez]

Stimulation, period. Glad you discussed the 'watching sports' example. There's something to be said for going out, chatting with friends, socializing, etc to offset depression. But at some point, when I hit rock bottom, I realized that my nervous system needed a break from ANY stimulation. Even what is typically considered positive & therapeutic activities. Anything very stimulating & mentally or physically draining was setting me back.

[@janicesitzes241]

I had to stop watching the news , it was making my anxiety so much worse . I have felt so much better. If I want to know what is going on in the world I may pick up a newspaper and read it. It’s a boundary I can put in place to protect what I bring into my life.

[@lindasmith6786]

Newspapers also dramatise. That's how they sell papers. There's not a lot of good news, really in newspapers.

[@InMyBrz]

YOU are 100% correct I am stuck at home spending too much time online and at YT Right now that is what I do When I go out shopping or for a walk, talking to people, I feel 100% better I need to limit my online and YT time and spend more time walking around people, walking on the beach, trying to get at least 5,000 steps per day

[@Yoshoggutha]

If you have too much frivolous crap, start selling it online. I've made over 5k selling my collectibles and books on Mercari over the course of a year. It feels great when you make a sale!

[@liam-rb4eb]

It's SO important to also monitor your social media/digital consumption

[@monacaensam9465]

And “No.” is a complete sentence

[@lynda5333]

😂

[@john-ic5pz]

only if we're willing to show our teeth. it is a complete sentence but too many ppl don't see it that way. ✌🏻

[@janetslicer3637]

Absolutely! ♥️ 😳

[@Johnjingleheimerschmidtt]

Sure, if you want to be a self-centered a-hole. News flash: You can both stick to your guns and abide your needs while being transparent to the people who are in your orbit and/depending on you

[@sm0g-810]

​@@Johnjingleheimerschmidtt No you're well off the Mark. Too many people think you need a good reason to say no and that's got to stop.

[@evilsensei8262]

For me, it’s reading comments on KZbin, Reddit and other social media that causes the most anxiety. I feel bad and beaten up after viewing them. I am doing my best to avoid them. A concentration of judgmental and mean posts/comments about my group of people on Reddit for example nearly destroyed my mental health. It was so hard to look away, scrolling to see even one good comment. I realize that now it’s called doomscrolling.

[@fran1982ification]

I am a Sociologist! And I had to change my professional career because I was only getting internships doing social research. They made me feel that I was lucky enough that they want me to work for free. I love sociology but I moved on to social work because I was always working for free....

[@kimsnyder5456]

I grew up with two narcisstic parents so I struggled with hoarding. Of course I married a covert narcissist unknowingly. But I spent a huge amount of time organizing our lives and home including spending weeks organizing paperwork into a mainstreamed filing system. A year and a half later while I was going to school and working and taking care of the baby and taking care of the man child and doing all chores and maintenance I came home to find my husband dumped all the files in with all the papers to be filed and bills to be paid and all the other papers he could find into a big mixed up mess. I felt myself break that day. That was nearly three decades ago and I haven't been able to recover from it... yet. The husband is no longer in my life.

[@artlego1007]

The more I sit around with anxiety the more tired I become.

[@BrendaNeedle]

I' m a retired Nurse now, but when I stated the pay was $5.00 an hr. The same with teachers, public servant's . They referred to our profession as a " calling".

[@charlottebronte4233]

A person only has so much room in their brain for anything. I’ve found that rather than watching actual sporting events much, I enjoy shows that analyze sports teams of the past, or sports movies.

[@andreah5554]

Congratulations on reaching your 100th podcast today, and on deciding the main focus of your second book! Thank you for sharing so much of your time, knowledge, experience, and encouragement.

[@NetflixTopVideos]

Physical activities are so important, thank you Dr Scott this one so useful as well. 😊😊

[@AddolfHittler]

🎉

[@artsyladie7]

I can so very much relate to what you are saying today! And I stopped watching TV news/MSM and internet headlines 3 years ago or so. I feel so much calmer in that regard. And I learned to limit my social media in various effective ways but to still enjoy and be in the know. Thanks Scott!!

[@Yoshoggutha]

Watching the news is pure poison for the human mind. Sports aren't even entertaining anymore, and it's all the same boring nonsense that doesn't affect your life in any way. Put the damn phone down. DO NOT use your phone for the first two hours when you wake up instead of reaching for it the second your eyes open. Find a piece of nature and go hiking or walk with music on, and you'll feel infinitely better. Go to the gym for an hour each day, and you'll notice a huge difference in your mood.

[@carolineharrison9288]

Yes I quit watching the news it just raised my anxiety on things I can’t control other than voting. I’m selective on what I read.

[@Subdood04]

“…a certain level of permissiveness to be disorganized…” 🤔 that’s thought provoking for me.

[@williamstennett7136]

You’re a genius, brother. Thank you for helping so many people with your profound videos!

[@j.r.1823]

"It's a cultural thing to be a mild hoarder" (especially for all of us living in the US). So true! I am from Europe, but my husband is American and we do currently live in the US. He definitely has an issue with owning too much and having a very hard time letting things go. It causes me so much (unnecessary) stress! I definitely want to go into a more minimalistic direction myself, it's just hard to start when it seems so overwhelming and you have to deal with resistance from your partner as well as your own.I started, but then gave up again because it's just so much.

[@nathanluebke6253]

I need an explanation of the "Its Just Tacos" sign

[@AKindJester]

It's just tacos

[@themobilemage2137]

Taco addiction? 🤔 Wouldn't be a bad thing. Got all your food groups in a taco supreme ☑️

[@mimig6511]

Thank you Scott, you are one of the most relatable therapists on the internet. I thank you for all your insights. Stopped watching the news quite some time ago as it was not good at all for my mental health.

[@wendyroe5154]

I am so grateful for the work you do Scott. I'm so happy your channel found me! I want to let you know that because of what you're sharing I'm starting to trust myself after such a long time. I'm realising I'm already doing a lot of the activities/tools etc. that you recommend. This has given me a lot more trust in the person I am, my intuition and my 'future self'. You have also provided a coherent framework for anxiety that I'm starting to work with. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!❤

[@sglenn704]

🎉 Congratulations!! 👏🏻

[@wendyroe5154]

@@sglenn704 thank you! 🌞

[@Grace_Ously]

🙏 Thank you for sharing ❤ 1. This is why I stopped watching news years ago 😊 100% agree with your words. 2. Never watched sports myself. Love doing it for fun and exercise though 😊 never competitive 3. I have always been a neat & tidy freak. Organisation is my middle name, in my nature. 'A place for everything and everything in its place'. Amen. 4. Simplifying your material things is such a weight off. 😊 I have never had much $ and it rarely concerns me. I value the $ though Simplify living, simplifies life. 5. I had NO boundaries 😮😢 I was a people pleaser. I am a learner on this one. I recently become aware that I need to take more time to think about my decisions and stop being a YES person. 6. NEVER been or desired to go to a gym 🤔 love hiking though Such good advice. ❤

[@splosionsmcgee]

Do you have recommendations for those of us that may have periods of days, or even weeks, when unable to be physically active? Is there another way to activate that destressing effect while layed up from, say, a surgery, or the flare period of a chronic condition? I find those to be my toughest times and biggest struggles, and, personally, am facing a series of 2-4 surgeries over the course of the next year, so finding a way to activate the effects of physical activity to alleviate the rumination that comes with being sedentary is a HUGE concern for me, and i know there are others that struggle with the pain/depression cycle, the inability to even take a walk every day to "get out of their head." Suggestions?

[@kaceykelly7222]

Excellent! We need to keep hearing these because they all work. 😊

[@candycewindels1337]

I watch like 5 minutes of news at a time and I'm done with it. I have a fiancee who wants to be overly prepared for whatever happens in this world. Sometimes I have to tell him to just not tell me certain things. He talked about super volcanoes and I didn't sleep for a week lol

[@lisakrushinski9436]

What a valuable video! You speak with such authenticity and compassion! Thank you!

[@paulabhatt8211]

Thank you for talking bout this 🙏🏽 it is so useful as we have stress daily 😮

[@capricorn1970i]

Besides the great content I would like to thank you for your clear pronunciation. As a viewer from Germany, English being a second language for me, it helps a lot to understand what you say 🙂 Thank you 🤗

[@daniellefournier978]

True. English as a second language for me too. But it is easy to understand his videos…

[@OrganisedPauper]

Oh yes. I’m hearing impaired. I can understand almost everything he says, despite his accent not being familiar to me as I’m British.

[@probablypoetic8759]

Thanks, Scott. These items you listed, I have, for the most part, done in my life. In fact, I did some spring cleaning this weekend, which I had been putting off. 🙂

[@johnbillings5260]

I learned a long time ago to halt and think about things I enjoy that are stressing you out and then thinking about if I still actually enjoyed it at that point. Looking at you, NES.

[@avivashore3769]

Thank you Dr. Scott

[@northern999]

1. Stop watching the news 2. Stop watching sports / competitions 3. Stop to be disorganized 4. Stop buying so much crap 5. Stop saying yes to everything all the time 6. Stop skipping the gym

[@blowersm]

This is brilliant as usual! You have so many incredible insights into my life. thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@sharonhoover644]

I have been watching your videos for a while now..... You have"saved" me. Thank you greatly!

[@DriftlessWarrior]

Sports...it got so much easier when my favorite NASCAR driver retired at the end of last season after a stellar 23-year career. I did pick another favorite but decided this was a good time to practice not keeping up with every tiny thing that happened. It was kind of tough several days ago not to get sucked into a zillion online stories, because there was a big post-race fight. I'm learning to say, "OK, that's enough, on to something else in my life now." ;)

[@blackstripened]

Hi Scott, I love and appreciate your content, thank you for all your time and effort you put into your videos. I guess this video is filmed on a phone so it's understandable, but could you please look at the camera lens when talking to the camera? For all of us who like to watch, not just listen, it's something that makes us feel like you're talking to us, instead of your own image on the screen 🙏💌

[@jodyanitawoulf2729]

Thank you Dr Eilers. This was very helpful.

[@Bearcub599]

Very good advice! Thank you as always for your hard work.

[@carolineharrison9288]

Dr Scott, Absolutely correct on the overdoing I’m on disability and need and want more $ to live. I mostly do remote volunteer work and love classes as I’m 57 ( my brain says 38) in process of becoming a Maryland State Peer Support Recovery Specialist I needed 46 CEUs and have over 150! I also end up being the one backing up for the leader of our Mental Health and Faith Ministry and a dedicated NAMI facilitator. At one point I was close to working a full time job from home just not getting paid for it. I’ve had MDD, anxiety and ptsd for ages but after a major fire almost 2 years ago that’s led to financial disaster and dealing with my hearts adopted adult son’s 8 psych hospitalizations this past year I live in a state of constant panic. I also stopped watching the news, and have a tendency to procastinate organizing my many packages of class materials. I’m trying to switch to a trauma informed therapist. Everything seems too overwhelming!

[@deborahbasel184]

I stopped watching the News about 6 years ago. Best thing I've ever done for my mental health.

[@lordfernandez5318]

This is true for me. My conversation with my therapist goes this way: I am sooo tired because I have a lot of work to do. But surprisingly - I am not anxious about it. And this makes me continue doing the work. 3:57

[@sm0g-810]

I've been gradually trying to eliminate unnecessary frustrations, annoyances and stressors. Although this is not a chronic one. I have cancelled all subscriptions associated with Amazon. I just spent 20 minutes trying to figure out how to cancel audible. I just realised that they make it deliberately hard to cancel on certain devices. After I finished the process I realised that was such a necessary stress to go through. I decided to cancel prime as well. Because do I really need everything the next day like they say? No! I can wait for most things. I'm not giving my money to a company that deliberately makes it harder for me

[@MrSpinteractive]

Much appreciated. Thank You!

[@alisonbyford4092]

Hey Dr Scott, I don’t watch the news, I stopped after seeing images from the Ukraine invasion that I couldn’t unsee. I don’t use social media, I don’t even know where my phone is. I randomly check sky news headlines to check whether Putin, Trump, or Kim Yong Mental have been assassinated yet. I’m going through some ambiguous grief and passively killing myself because I’m too weak to live in this world. I’m on a 3 year waiting list for mental health team. I’m surrounded by pointless acquisitions. I can’t get out of this funk. Thank you for doing these videos, I didn’t think anyone would understand these things I’m doing and not doing. Thank you for understanding.

[@EB-gt1pq]

I Budget enough so that I have an extra $1500 a month. With all my health issues, I’ve decided to get a job with less responsibility and less pay. I’m so happy I budgeted.

[@Praetoriaan]

7. Don't have toxic people in your life. Avoid emotional manipulation at all costs. Choose your partner and friends based on this principle

[@Teaandhoney38]

This was awesome! Thank u ❤

[@jeannemoore6657]

I can so relate!

[@deborahbull5968]

I stop watching the news

[@CondemnedToBeMe]

problem is social media is way worse then the news, and I need to be on twitter for my work

[@katsfarm2062]

Me too

[@omartrachen6794]

You have to at some point

[@anafernandes225]

This video is very useful for me 💛

[@16marlin]

EXCELLENT !!!😊

[@HeatherOrdover-CraftLit]

4:41 Listen to The Daily Beans podcast! The only news I’ll listen to, now. (from “Muller She Wrote” podcaster Allison Gill). I can keep up with the parts of ‘what’s happening’ that matter to me, but even better-each episode ends with “Good News” stories sent in by listeners. Lovely and often hilarious, ending with the Good News means that’s the last thing you hear before they sign off. (search for the “super fantastic megaplastics” episode and listen to the good news…but NOT over morning coffee -unless you want a massive spit-take)

[@sm0g-810]

I actually remember someone saying something about football (soccer) in the UK and saying it's not a hobby, it's a way of life. That guy is probably kind of person who would get way too stressed over it.

[@laMoria]

Stress is when I just realised I lost my ID card. Anxiety is when I fear that I will loose my ID card despite it being tightly packed in my bag.

[@daniellefournier978]

News: More difficult for our generation with modern technologies and communications. Decades ago, for example during WW2, people woke up in the morning, opened the TV and discovered all the horrors perpetrated (Pearl Harbour, atomic bombs, holocaust, etc.). Today, we have all the horrors (wars, actual genocide, etc) LIVE AND IN OUR FACE. No news in streaming for me anymore…

[@NetflixTopVideos]

No news for me too, I am the same. 😢😢

[@TeaRose9]

Definitely my body stays in constant physical pain from living in stressful environments.

[@chaii_latte]

I was wondering, if you could make a video about indecision and OCD tendencies toward analysis paralysis.. and the fear. And constant obsessive rumination/ worry that drives people insane..

[@LissaRes]

Excellent

[@kevincorncone]

1:21 to 1:49 is so accurate, especially since this was during puberty for me :')

[@susanmercurio1060]

Doesn't stress cause anxiety?

[@CMoore8539]

Yes

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

What are those panic attacks when I wake up day after day ?‼️ 14:27

[@TeaRose9]

Same.

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

@@TeaRose9 I know now it is something you have to change or remove from your life , start whit toxicity ‼️❤️

[@janicesitzes241]

I hate buying something I know I have and can’t find it!!

[@MC-mq9rg]

Frustrating, but search until you find it, on positive side you'll get a major clean up done, which will be rewarding in itself.

[@karenirving7088]

I find a lot of KZbin is focused on selling stuff. All those Art Haul videos. People mistake art with collecting supplies. I have really cut down on all my screen time.

[@brianbrenton1025]

Our lives have been very different.

[@Houdini_Bob]

I stopped watching politics in 2017 when I destroyed TV because someone came on babbling their typical stuff and it just hit at wrong time and before I could stop myself I snap kicked my TV and cracked the screen. this made me reflect on things I can and cannot do anything about.

[@Yoshoggutha]

This is like when I lost my shit and got really mad and kicked my car years ago and fractured my big toe. Needless to say, I haven't kicked anything since then. 😂

[@CMoore8539]

I quit watching politics two years ago and I have no regrets.

[@Houdini_Bob]

@@CMoore8539 I figure if there were anything of national/vital importance like another 911 it would be all over tv, radio and internet so no real need of watching. I will hop on our local tv website to see whats going on locally but won't click on anything.

[@klpuhelin2816]

So true! 😅

[@airiello]

I'd be interested to know what that extension is that calculates your income against your purchases

[@Lino75]

Can someone sum up the list of things to do in order to decrease stress? Thanks in advance.

[@natalier5461]

Create a simple morning and night routine. Take some time to do self care. Do some yoga or stretching, meditation, go on shorts walks, listen to calming music, journal your feelings and thoughts. Set a time limit on your social media apps. All those things helped me reduce my stress 👍🏻

[@Lino75]

@@natalier5461 thank you Natalie. Are those the same things Scott listed in the video?

[@foulplay99]

I stopped watching the news years ago, purely because I don’t trust the news media to be impartial, and I hate all the drama, trauma and upset. Since then I feel a bit ignorant about the world, however I feel a LOT less negative. I also stopped going on Facebook. News headlines are set up to make you feel something without you knowing nuance, context or what else is relevant. We are getting trolled 100% of the time. YT is getting the same way. I have to regularly avoid channels which sensationalise everything, but when you get past the thumbnail the article is pure guesswork and conjecture, and rarely what the title said.

[@QurVgn]

How do we avoid the news? If my brain grabs onto a headline I’ll ruminate on it unless I watch it. Thoughts, chat? Also, is it possible to stop a particular ad coming up multiple times a day? It’s So godawful, I feel completely wrecked. Thank you for any thoughts!

[@GrumpyTweety]

For me, it’s board games. It’s like sports in this video. My friends don’t understand and always pressure me to play with them. I avoid hanging out with them entirely if I know there’ll be games. I know it’s just a game but it’s too stressful for me. Lots of rules. Lots of competition. Lots of deception. Lots of mind game. Nah, thank you.

[@EB-gt1pq]

I definitely have a problem with watching the news. The Palestine issue got me completely distraught.

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

How do you deal whit the problems of today Dr Scott? ‼️viv 2:27

[@sixtoomanycats9769]

I need to buy tacos now, due to 27:50 minutes of subliminal advertising.

[@Horsel335]

As a Vikings fan, can confirm it is a major stressor

[@CondemnedToBeMe]

I stopped watching the news years ago. Problem is most people then only consume "news" from social media ( running on echo chamber algorithms) and that is hour biggest existential threat

[@sglenn704]

Stay away from all Network news! It's all the same crap. They're counting on you getting excited and wanting to hear their made up gore. There are people on the Internet that do podcasts that tell you what is "really" happening. It's not stressful when you hear the TRUTH!

[@InMyBrz]

it's the worst thing you can watch

[@TeaRose9]

Love how you explain all of this so well because I have just been talking about all of these issues, especially the fact that in America we are constantly bombarded with being programmed to buy things and I just think to myself how crazy this cycle of consumerism is.

[@northlandparanormal5832]

How do I book an appt with you?

[@deborahbull5968]

Hi everyone 👋

[@kathrynarnold1966]

I've never heard you say that your adolescent anhedonia might have been partially due to the loss of habitual physical activity due to losing your friend base when your family moved.

[@meegankainady6136]

That is what I do. I say ok, if I make 10.00 per hour and I buy this 100.00 item that is 10 work hours. Would I go into work the next 10 hours simply to own that item?

[@paulmeyer8519]

Investigate Mike Mentzer Heavy Duty to cut your gym time down and get the muscle training results.

[@susanmullins7713]

Same purse ,ten twenty years Twenty year tennis shoes ,two pair Clothes always hand me downs thirty years

[@ngeee10]

Dang really?

[@jackiegerarde9938]

Sports addiction is a thing. Is a shopping addiction so different?

[@iart2838]

Positive news don't sell

[@gballmaier]

More Stuff, More Stress! So friggin true!!! This to me, has been one of your best programs. Thank you

[@kathymorris4553]

I think I need to stop watching the news. It depresses me, I get stress and anxiety

[@ramses962]

Medical dramas get me anxious. lol

[@gballmaier]

You said something very interesting in the beginning! You basically said that Anxiety isn't real, that it's a mental mechanism. So basically it seems that the next time I feel anxiety coming on, I should be able to tell my brain/myself, to " shut the F up, you're not real just a mental process that can't Effect me if I don't want it to"! Heck, in my brain that really helps me. And you are right on, with the balance between Stress and Anxiety. I know I have to manage my stress overloads, sometimes even more at certain times. But many times, I need to back up, make a Hit List, tell everyone demanding something from me, that things will take a little more time, and just try to knock off just a few important tasks pet day, till I'm caught up Thank you for being available to us low income, can't afford quality therapy from someone as good as you are. Thank you Keep it real, and id love to see the blessings you will get from your heavenly Father one day! Thank you

[@secretsquirrelaimee2212]

I counted money and time for multiple decades. I'm ocd about money. But I waste alot.

[@spep4114]

I can't stop watching the news not good

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

I want to know what is going on. I watch alternate news though. Specifically Redacted. It's a must for me. I hate being lied to and MSM lies.

[@PhilGregoryFX]

Me too, even though it is so depressing. Trapped by my phone.

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

@@PhilGregoryFX I'm trying to limit my news intake. Sometimes I click on a video just to see the headline.

[@lordfernandez5318]

One thing I had been doing with the people around me when they start complaining about their life, I say - that’s interesting - maybe you should talk to your therapist about this.