No Contact Rules To Ensure He Will Return And Miss You (Doing These Wrong Can HURT You)

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Elliot Scott

Elliot Scott

Күн бұрын

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@dbedazzling1
@dbedazzling1 2 жыл бұрын
Don't ever make him feel more special than you. You are the special one. Treat yourself accordingly.
@AR-do2ob
@AR-do2ob Жыл бұрын
Yes. He is just a person
@karolinah12
@karolinah12 4 ай бұрын
Sadly many women are desperate for a status or validation from men.
@lisabuckner243
@lisabuckner243 3 жыл бұрын
Basically, act as if the person died. Literally dead. Games only work if you want a toxic relationship.
@vgirl2755
@vgirl2755 3 жыл бұрын
🪦🥀
@debmccafferty1007
@debmccafferty1007 2 жыл бұрын
I have no idea what happened to the ex. I asked him why he sent me a catfished photo of his son to show my daughter. End of story.
@SOY_NEZUKITOXD
@SOY_NEZUKITOXD Ай бұрын
I'm doing that and he is desperate and obsessed with me. I kinda feel sorry for him.
@hannagg9365
@hannagg9365 2 жыл бұрын
My mom always told be the biggest “punishment” you can give a man is to walk away and NEVER go back. Well, now, sadly, it’s come in handy!
@hannagg9365
@hannagg9365 2 жыл бұрын
@Aluka Emmanuel yeah, as if I have NO idea this is a scam! Umm.. but NO, THANK YOU. We have PLENTY of very proficient and qualified people here in the US if I shld need any assistance.
@blueblaze9862
@blueblaze9862 2 жыл бұрын
I did no contact by blocking him. He tried to reach out but I still ignored him. I'm so God damn proud of myself bc I really liked him. But I just CAN'T let someone disrespect me. I don't care how much I like or love the person
@demetriastevens7164
@demetriastevens7164 2 жыл бұрын
Say it again
@theeladyj
@theeladyj Жыл бұрын
Same … i just cant allow it , i love myself too much
@softlife45
@softlife45 10 ай бұрын
How do you know hr reached out if he were "blocked"? 😂 hmm
@blueblaze9862
@blueblaze9862 10 ай бұрын
@@softlife45 u can check
@ajackson646
@ajackson646 10 ай бұрын
@@softlife45they call or text from a fake number. There’s apps. Let them pay a little extra just to sweat lol.
@SoulyBeauty
@SoulyBeauty 3 жыл бұрын
You wouldn’t talk to someone you were dating everyday? Wow. Did I hear that right? Boy... a man who’s truly interested in you messages you to check in at leasttt once a day. Expecting someone you’re dating to talk to you every day IS a realistic standard. Don’t accept anything less.
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,,
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
✝13046489694⏯⏯
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
Save his contact and message him on WhatApp for help....
@tiarabrown5056
@tiarabrown5056 3 жыл бұрын
Period… that’s just protocol.. these are Manboys 🤣🤣🤣… I pray for women!
@lunachilde2000
@lunachilde2000 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed...it doesnt have to be an itemized list of what you did or are doing but a "good morning, have a great day" or "good night hope your day was awesome" is perfectly fine.
@PT-zz9ks
@PT-zz9ks 3 жыл бұрын
When guys don't give you what you deserve, call him out then move on 100%. Remove them from your social media, do not reach out. It may be months or years later but he will circle back with regrets.
@keyaapathak
@keyaapathak 2 жыл бұрын
Should I block him? Or keep the convo open for communication?
@BabyFaceRose
@BabyFaceRose 2 жыл бұрын
@@keyaapathak nope block 😭
@AmaraOhaji
@AmaraOhaji 2 жыл бұрын
@@keyaapathak block him
@sweetvonbettie1
@sweetvonbettie1 Жыл бұрын
I have mine matched on bumble after 4month of investing a long relatio ship, idk if i should unmatch him after days of no contact, when we use to do it everyday.. i reached out n called him out on it, n he replied apoligizing saying im sorry my dad got admitted which i believe it, but i also notice he got back on n turn his location on bumble meaning he is actively on... after that , its 4 days n still nothing. Idk anymore i hate this shit
@niksiniksi6033
@niksiniksi6033 Ай бұрын
⁠Blocking is the best medicine!
@MrsArwena
@MrsArwena 3 жыл бұрын
Assuming that he doesn't want a relationship is the best advice. It's better to be pleasantly surprised than disappointed.
@bollagurl
@bollagurl 3 жыл бұрын
I did no contact for the first week. I really thought he would call and see what was going on. He didn't , so I reached out and we fell back into the same cycle. I realize he doesn't care and he's never going to change. I've not contacted him for a week now. I don't plan on ever contacting him again. But the realization was painful.
@bollagurl
@bollagurl 3 жыл бұрын
No thank you, I don't want him back .
@bollagurl
@bollagurl 3 жыл бұрын
@@freshtamadrid2423 I've learned when they do this to just cut them off, it's a waste of time and they always go back to the same patterns.
@bollagurl
@bollagurl 3 жыл бұрын
@@freshtamadrid2423 I really hope you leave him, he's wasting your time , and in that time someone better could come along . I'm happy mine didn't swing by because I know seeing him face to face girl he knows how to use his words to get what he wants. It would be so much harder. I pray strength for you.
@freshtamadrid2423
@freshtamadrid2423 3 жыл бұрын
@@bollagurl thank you 😊
@fancylyrics.
@fancylyrics. 2 жыл бұрын
How long the No contact passed before you reached out to him..??..
@Mindsetolympics
@Mindsetolympics 2 жыл бұрын
Like I always said “LEAVE THEM RESPECTING YOU.” & most importantly “LEAVE RESPECTING YOURSELF”
@guacgirl
@guacgirl 3 жыл бұрын
The more I learn the less I want to be involved. At any rate, I want to say Thank You for all the insight. You seem to be on of the better dating coaches out here. I feel you are actually trying to help women understand.
@browneyes6795
@browneyes6795 3 жыл бұрын
Wooow so if he comes back, how do you know how long he has to prove himself? Or if he really has proved himself before you show him you care and like him again? I personally don't think this one I dated, went on vacation with, dated for 1 month and I really started liking him a looot, is coming back, but slyte chance he comes back, I understand don't jump right back in, but what should he do for how long to show me if he is or even can give me what I want and need from him? Not material wise, heart felt and emotionally wise. How should I know, he is real from the heart or just wants to get it in? It's only been 4 days, but I do miss him, but don't ever want to be anyone's fool🤷🏽‍♀️
@KayciazWorld
@KayciazWorld 3 жыл бұрын
@@browneyes6795 Honestly, if he's already shown you who he is..I'd just leave him. I understand where Elliott is coming from but personally I don't have patience when it comes to guys like that. You have one time to show me what you think of me i.e. Being disrespectful, dishonest, untrustworthy, etc ....and I'm done. Because their behavior is typically who they are. Very few guys decide to actually change...
@jasminaloulova9202
@jasminaloulova9202 3 жыл бұрын
@@KayciazWorld You are 100% right. From my personal experience, when I gave too many chances to guys who were stringing me along, playing hot and cold, coming back after ghosting with grand statements of love and I took them back, the same cycle was repeated over and over again and nothing changed until I cut the cord forever. Once a man shows you who is , believe him and don't waste your time giving him a second chance or in my case multiple chances. Men do not appreciate a good woman.
@mellead8727
@mellead8727 3 жыл бұрын
Jasmine is 100% correct. If you take someone back, someone who gave you the silent treatment (and I don’t care if there was a death in their family) they will start taking you for granted and never stop that cycle. Texting or calling someone takes two seconds, if you are the woman he is crazy about, he will reach out. If he goes 2-3 days without a word (no matter what the circumstances are, even if you argued) then he just doesn’t value you and never will.
@mellead8727
@mellead8727 3 жыл бұрын
Because men in love have the urge to reach out to the woman they are crazy about. Not doing so would be too much to handle. A man in love can’t help himself but reach out
@stephblenheim4283
@stephblenheim4283 3 жыл бұрын
He comes back for his ego and to check if he can still have you and nothing else. A man that's trying serious about you isn't ok with losing you if it was the real deal. 99% of the time they come back because of their ego because he's been rejected elsewhere, bored, etc.
@tbd7059
@tbd7059 3 жыл бұрын
Not 100% true most of us want to change and realize we have issues that need to be worked out . Love is weird and strange theirs no correct way to be in a relationship
@stephblenheim4283
@stephblenheim4283 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your input @TBD? I think I've just had some bad luck. I do believe good men exist and actually some come back because they feel something for you and are truly regretful
@TravelBug189
@TravelBug189 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you. I think he comes back for one or all these reasons 1. His ego. He wants to know if he’s still got it 2. He’s checking if you have a boyfriend. If not, he’s gonna try to get back in there 3. He’s horny 4. He’s realized the grass isn’t greener on the other side. 5. Tiny percentage come back because they’ve had time to heal and reflect. The only way to know (if you even want to) is let him in back in very very slowly. Don’t give him an ounce more than what he’s giving you. Watch him and mirror his actions. If he’s only texting every 3 days and they’re vague then you should also be vague. It might seem like a game but my point is let him prove himself. Always know that you’re the prize
@ladynottingham89
@ladynottingham89 2 жыл бұрын
​@Katy Cunningham Yes, people don't change unless some serious trauma makes them rethink their whole existence. This kind of breakthrough is rare. Going back to an ex is like that verse in the Bible that talks about a dog going back to its vomit. Unless it's the father of your children, where you owe the kids to try and do everything you can to salvage the marriage for their sake, there is no one on earth worth going back to and risk getting burned again. Maybe it's just me but once the beautiful thing about loving someone is seeing them through an idealized view, even if they're an imperfect human. Once they shatter that special thing what is else is there? Just someone to relieve sexual tension with, and what woman wants that?
@BabyFaceRose
@BabyFaceRose 2 жыл бұрын
@@tbd7059 I agree with this! I’ve seen it
@majamaja8690
@majamaja8690 2 жыл бұрын
Finally one reasonable "no contact rule". If you go no contact, then you must have a good reason for it, and you don't reach out ever! When (if) the other party realises their wrong doings, AND if they see a value in your relationship - they will contact you. And then you can negotiate. Otherwise, they'll just assume that you going no contact is just a bluff, which only decreases your value as a person. Good luck! 🍀
@_voyageuse
@_voyageuse 3 жыл бұрын
Guys act this way cause most of the females are easy nowadays, and they know that there are girls who will give them what they want, so they dont feel like being bothered at all. Keeping high standards means keeping wrong guys away.
@niksiniksi6033
@niksiniksi6033 Ай бұрын
Exactly so!
@yeddins4278
@yeddins4278 3 жыл бұрын
We have to learn to be comfortable being alone. We also have to understand that we can be a great catch and still not be the one for a lot of the men that we meet. Our he is a lesson not necessarily your husband. Give him some room to show you who he is and act accordingly it’s no script needed. These guys know what they are doing and you gotta be the one to tell him keep it real or keep stepping and mean it.
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,,
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
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@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
Save his contact and message him on WhatApp for help...
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
You get in contact with him on WhatsApp. He's name is Dr Oge
@LaNereNere
@LaNereNere 2 жыл бұрын
No contact for me is for my healing...🥰
@jasminaloulova9202
@jasminaloulova9202 3 жыл бұрын
That was a brilliant video, Elliot! Thank you!. I realized that harsh truth after my divorce, when men have been stringing me along for months and years, going hot and cold, pulling away, coming back with grand statements of love and although I went completely non contact, I always took them back, for them to repeat the same cycle over and over again until I could not take it any more and cut the cord forever.
@niksiniksi6033
@niksiniksi6033 Ай бұрын
They are making one crazy with that behavior! It is crazy!!!
@Magnoliasdiary
@Magnoliasdiary 3 жыл бұрын
This video is freaking amazing 🙏 Detach from the outcome, work on yourself, live your life, get over him, stop waiting for him.
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,,
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
Save his contact and message him on WhatApp for help....
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
✝13046489694⏯⏯⏯
@Rachel-rs9wh
@Rachel-rs9wh 3 жыл бұрын
I believe I’m doing the no contact right and for the right reasons..I’m moving on been dating and focusing on me..I’m just letting it go although it is really hard when you really wanted it to be something meaningful after talking for months and putting in so much effort and communication..but it is what it is! I obviously didn’t mean anything to him or else he wouldn’t have put himself in a position to lose me..
@Teddy3inDC
@Teddy3inDC 2 жыл бұрын
That last sentence…. Yeah, no. He didn’t put himself in a position to lose you, you put yourself in this position. Did you communicate what you needed? Did you deliberately say and spell it out, or did you assume he would know “if he really liked you”. I’m curious though. Have you been in contact with him in the last 10 months?
@pr5160
@pr5160 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Elliot. I've watched enough of your videos that I know I'm doing no contact for the right reasons. I don't low my standards anymore. Love you!
@Mellie726
@Mellie726 10 ай бұрын
Excellent advice Elliot. He has ghosted me and I have a feeling it's b/c he is not only an avoidant, but b/c I told him something that reminded him of my late husband, . If he does want to come back, he's going to have to start from square 1 if he wants to change/see me again.
@Oi-wi2mr
@Oi-wi2mr 3 жыл бұрын
No contact means 'bye bye, I'm soo done' I still hurt but you're not worth my time anymore. I'm so done. They never were my family in the first place, and yet going to try to hurt my feelings? I'd rather be single.
@Wikkedfit
@Wikkedfit 3 жыл бұрын
Being single is AMAZING. Seriously, this gam okay crap is toxic and unhealthy. I have my 2 kids they are almost grown and I intend to be single until it’s my time. These attachments are so unhealthy with the mind games. Not worth it
@passion8princess261
@passion8princess261 3 жыл бұрын
This was "Outstanding" Elliott, You're getting so much better at explaining , or either your information is finally sinking in !! A big "Thank You" to you!!!
@kimt8162
@kimt8162 Жыл бұрын
Yep, I had this relationship for 5 years. I didn't realize it, but he was taking me for granted. Your right, you need standards. Regardless of how cute he is, or how nice he seems. If you don't have standards, he starts getting these weird ideas that will surprise you. Don't make HIM the priority. I know it seems the opposite of a relationship. He's right, make HIM reach out to you. Yes, assume he doesn't want the relationship. He has to prove to you that he does want one.
@kristynholland7663
@kristynholland7663 2 жыл бұрын
I love you Elliott! I did “no contact” for the wrong reasons….and that energy is felt. They know your BS’ing. Keep working on yourself ladies -so when you do go “no contact” , you are truly done ☺️
@kimberlywood7783
@kimberlywood7783 Жыл бұрын
I'm doing no contact and told him to leave me alone. Standards have been called out too many times so it's the last resort. 👌 🔥
@annyespinal8077
@annyespinal8077 Жыл бұрын
Omg this is so true, I was in a relationship for 2 years everything was good , until he wasn’t putting less effort, I broke up he came back but wanted to be casual after been in a serious relationship, no way I said no
@desapegoemocional
@desapegoemocional 2 жыл бұрын
That is 100% true!!! If women across the board would not put out unless men proved to them they are going to commit the they would!
@Xianne027
@Xianne027 3 жыл бұрын
The best advice I've heard from any coach: "If women would say, 'I won't sleep with you unless you like the dust underneath my boots' " Thanks, Elliot! My backbone is straightening out now! 👍
@jesshoskii
@jesshoskii Ай бұрын
No contact = absolutely being prepared to never speak to them ever again.
@danteinferno2752
@danteinferno2752 3 жыл бұрын
You are the only dating coach to say these...I have commented so many times, and how they are educating women how to be attractive, what men want stuff. But none say until they kiss the bottom of your feet.
@Frecks
@Frecks 3 жыл бұрын
Love your straight forward no Bull s**t approach
@megan9549
@megan9549 3 жыл бұрын
"Hold your standards" raise your water level and don't date d bags. So done with losers. Single for 3 years, getting my self love on. Best decision I've made regarding men probably ever...
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,, ,,
@musammustafa962
@musammustafa962 3 жыл бұрын
✝13046489694⏯⏯⏯
@gurlonice8013
@gurlonice8013 3 жыл бұрын
Indiffrence it what you need too feel. Angry is a high emotion, sadness, love all high emotions. You can tell if someone is indifferent about you. And thats how you not should act but hust really feel. Easy to say i’m 6 months in NC and still miss him while he is going from angry towards me to missing to checking to.... he isn’t indifferent. He has still high emotions. He still cares tho 😏 but I don’t bye
@misstango1001
@misstango1001 Жыл бұрын
You probably just saved my sanity and life. So true. U put it out there so we’ll. Thank you
@mariahconklin4150
@mariahconklin4150 3 жыл бұрын
I am not lowering my standards at all. I just do things in a passive aggressive way which turns into me being hurt, then him calling, then him telling me he is hurt, then me trying to explain soooo I’m just going to try and communicate better and not be wishy washy. I’m Christian so I’m not having sex until marriage.
@bollagurl
@bollagurl 3 жыл бұрын
Make sure he's not a narcissist, make sure you are actually wrong and your not compromising your belief for his. Some Men love to play mind games.
@freezyrachel5974
@freezyrachel5974 2 жыл бұрын
I lower my standards for a guy , who have to work intensive for 15-20 years of his life to achieve what I have achieved in my life. He was the one chasing me around and being so nice to me in the beginning. I wasn’t easy but so Naive and only looked good in a person. He once said ‚ sorry but yes you’re easy‘ when I asked him ‚“ Am I too easy for you?“ that destroyed my self esteem and took so long to get back to being myself again. I wasn’t playing mind games, I let him continue with his behavior like partying until 3:00am in the more knowing that I have an exam on next day, his friends were so important, i felt so neglected . He broke my personal boundaries ,that lead me to depression and anxiety. Girls learn from my story and set boundaries , never lower your standard. You should be able to say what you can accept and what you can’t. He will take note in everything. If you let him break lt once , twice and thrice , he will destroy you whole as a person. Find yourself first before you find someone . Man should add value in your life not depression, anxiety and pills.
@pappico
@pappico Жыл бұрын
9:53, I never realized how true this is. Geez. I feel so bad for being "easy" and lowering my standards just because I want to keep him.
@nina_summers
@nina_summers Жыл бұрын
This is so helpful. Yes it’s very exhausting when a guy doesn’t value your time and effort like they used to. Time to cut
@amiami9536
@amiami9536 2 жыл бұрын
Who are you that you think he can change for you? But this is how things go, if he realises you are that one and he can lose you forever, he will change. If not, it has never been worth getting involved in this. It's proven - men need time and space to miss you, women forget and detach along with passing time.
@SuzD0n
@SuzD0n 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes guys think I'm doing no contact/sulking when I'm just really wary and distant with men :( actually, this came up in the recent live chat, I was saying I wouldn't let a guy know if i wanted a commitment on the fourth date. I can see how this looks like playground tactics but I just need longer to read them and make sure I'm not gonna end up in a hospital again :(
@lisabuckner243
@lisabuckner243 3 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna guess that you were raised by at least 1 narcissist or came from a toxic family, like me...if so, dr Ramani, on KZbin is awesome! ❤
@SuzD0n
@SuzD0n 3 жыл бұрын
@@lisabuckner243 Hi, I remember you from the chat :) i was made by 2 people who were too young to know better and should never have married but hey , here I am lol. Thanks for the recommend. I try not to be defined by the past and just want to look to the future. A big part of that is that i need to know more about the male mind for keeping safe, not into relationships much at all really, so I'm an outlier!
@koko223311
@koko223311 2 жыл бұрын
If he left me one time then he will left again ! I do no contact because I am done ✅
@happyas8
@happyas8 2 жыл бұрын
I am on forever no contact due to being treated how i didnt like to be treated. I will never be second option to no one.
@anber4129
@anber4129 3 жыл бұрын
you obviously care about women. i like ur videos. tysm
@karolinah12
@karolinah12 4 ай бұрын
Coach, in the past, women across the board used to have good healthy standards for their own protection. Men can live a lifetime of casual sex and have various "aboads" with various easy doormat- women. Men respect eachother ,but pray on desperate women. Thank you for the enlightenment
@tinkerbellUK
@tinkerbellUK 3 жыл бұрын
He ended it with me 3 days ago in a really angry and overreactive way, saying id made him feel small and inadequate and swore at me. As i had tried two says prior to tackle the subject that i like birthday presents as he never got me anything. We did go for a meal which i was grateful for but the previous week he’d pushed me away and wanted space. The reason for space was id established he didnt want me to be his girlfriend after 8 weeks of dating. So naturally i was looking for any hint of effort/care. Probably looks needy but ‘space’ hit me hard. Im trying my best to forget and move on.
@amytango
@amytango 3 жыл бұрын
I just had a guy tell me that I was pushing him and he needed some 'space'. He tried to say his moodiness was my fault. I tried the no contact thing and I think he likes not hearing from me. I think I'm doing him a favor by staying away. I think I'm going to come back around him in one of those NASA t-shirts that say "I need space". haha
@jasminaloulova9202
@jasminaloulova9202 3 жыл бұрын
Once a guy starts with the BS " I need space", the wisest thing for you to do is to cut the cord permanently. I know it's very hard, but it spares you all the heartache and wasted time.
@astridkate5328
@astridkate5328 3 жыл бұрын
Ladies, it’s very simple. If you act normally, and have absolutely normal expectations, but the guy is feeding you BS, then: - he feels suffocated : bullshit, he just doesn’t like you enough; -he doesn’t buy you gifts, he wants you to make an “effort”, he wants women to chase, he isn’t “old school”: bullshit, he doesn’t like you enough. Have him meet a girl he likes and watch him buying gifts & paying drinks and dinners; - he doesn’t know if he wants a relationship as he is busy/traumatized/has responsibilities/too stressed/ doesn’t know what he wants: bullshit, he doesn’t like you enough. He has time to (try and) sleep with you, but can’t dedicate the same time to getting to know you? Stop finding excuses & stop fangirling and chasing these guys. Leave them alone. Every man deserves a chance, and one chance only. If you tell him & he still continues with the same behaviour, it’s not a coincidence, he isn’t forgetful- he just doesn’t care about you. Cut your losses & stop wasting energy on these guys. The minute you feel confused or played, then it’s already over.
@lindageorge9271
@lindageorge9271 3 жыл бұрын
@@astridkate5328 love what you said
@emmanuelkeister1643
@emmanuelkeister1643 3 жыл бұрын
@@astridkate5328 not really you both meet in the middle or thing ain't gonna work. Buy him something too. Stop using men for money why we don't look you woman always want but never going
@karolinah12
@karolinah12 4 ай бұрын
Very true, if you have different values, it cannot work until you both agree to compromise. Some guys are like little boys and will try to brush concerns off without acknowledgement
@milagrossramirez
@milagrossramirez 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Elliot! I really love your videos, specially your honesty! I was thinking about do no- contact with a guy I like so much but I know he doesn't deserve me. He is a player, he is playing with me and his girlfriend simultaneously. I was thinking about doing it in order to get his attention and I have realized I would be doing for a wrong reason. Thank you so much. I don't know exactly what I am going to do with that sh*t I am feeling but I appreciate so honest advice:3
@Crazzzyhead_xx
@Crazzzyhead_xx 2 жыл бұрын
What’s happening nowb
@musikfeedme156
@musikfeedme156 Жыл бұрын
This might not be a serious question but me and my boyfriend (not sure if we are dating) are in a no contact situation for about 10 days. We did it because we were fighting so much and we lost the respect for one another. He blames me for everything.. tells me i’m the problem and I just don’t feel that I’m entirely responsible for everything because he has done some cruel things to me but he never takes accountability as much as I do. It was frustrating to talk to him. So we did the 10 day no contact and now i feel like he’s gonna forget me and say “I’m way better off without her I can do better.” I’m so scared of that idea. I did everything for this guy helped him a lot in many ways. I just don’t feel valued so that’s what the root of the problem is here. I respond to that. I hope I can get some hope in a positive way
@victoriajensen6588
@victoriajensen6588 3 жыл бұрын
Elliot is right! IF the guy treated you like a shit, then this is sure that he wants back for benefits. But if you met each other 1 month and then decided not to be romantic, and if there were not at all or bad relationship between you both, then there is a chance for new relationship in the future.
@SofeeYAH
@SofeeYAH 2 жыл бұрын
I LOVEE how straight up and direct you are 😂 "you're easy" 😂😂😂😂 Its so true though, men act how women have allowed them to. If anything, I think women have absolutely RUINED the game entirely. (Of course men aren't frickin angels either hear me out). These men are acting like this because we have let it happen 🫠 Now I can't even tell a dude I want to get to know him and go on multiple dates before he gets to be intimate with me, they want it INSTANTLY 😂 We are truly in hell in terms of dating
@Lotus.louise
@Lotus.louise 3 жыл бұрын
Just literally so valuable. Thanks a ton Elliot! I hope to get your course soon.
@liatkan
@liatkan 2 жыл бұрын
you speak truth my friends. keeping my standards in check and my boots clean.
@Sparksflymich
@Sparksflymich Жыл бұрын
i am going to listen to this every single day elliot
@misstango1001
@misstango1001 Жыл бұрын
He was a covert narcissist. I tried so hard. Now I’m learning
@erikamonique44
@erikamonique44 10 ай бұрын
I agree with you on the women having standards bc it’s very true !
@DC-bp8sx
@DC-bp8sx 3 жыл бұрын
Everyone should report the people trying to scam people in the comments with spell casters and WhatsApp nonsense
@xxyy1318
@xxyy1318 2 жыл бұрын
I did it today a bunch. Several videos too
@As-cc9ug
@As-cc9ug 3 ай бұрын
Omg they are on every channel
@cio7710
@cio7710 5 ай бұрын
He told his parents about me after our first date. He told his best friend about our chemistry; his best friend said “yeah you guys are getting married.” He said he never wanted to make me feel sad, like my ex did. He said he wanted to wife me up. He gave me his hoodies and pants. He said I didn’t mess anything up, said we’d do so well in a tree house together. That was the last thing he said to me. I’ve been through so much damn heartache this past year. It took a lot for me to come around to dating again. I keep watching these types of videos to understand what’s going on, because things aren’t adding up to me.
@nadia3mar
@nadia3mar 3 жыл бұрын
Always appreciate these little reminders. Thank you, Elliot.
@kattoo13
@kattoo13 3 ай бұрын
I went no contact over 4 years ago with the intention of staying no contact. He reached out 1 week and 3 weeks into it, but I never replied. Best decision I ever made.
@kavya2987
@kavya2987 2 жыл бұрын
Hi, I was in a long distance relationship and we broke up because of that . We had strong bond and thought we could at least talk and try to be friends . He is an introvert person , he takes time to open up . He was at least taking the leap of faith of opening up his vulnerable side . But I guess I was selfish and wanted more so I used “ no contact rule” and guess what? It made it worse . He is now more formal than ever and I’m confused as to shut him down or still have hope . So no, it doesn’t work for every situation. Some relationships have no other choice but to break the bond for temporary purpose but that doesn’t mean like forever. You can be friends or why to tag that relationship for that matter ? If you really care about someone - be with that someone - don’t play mind games
@Lauren-e5m
@Lauren-e5m Жыл бұрын
Being an introvert doesn’t mean shit lol I’m an introvert and I will at least open up to my partner . He’s not into u
@pritalaras
@pritalaras 3 жыл бұрын
Good points.. i am increasing my standard everytime I do no contact. He needs to prove it first and treat me like a queen. Don't give s*x right away when he comes back. And men always come back for our assets of course.
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
You get in contact with him on WhatsApp. He's name is Dr Oge
@zmaf1543
@zmaf1543 2 жыл бұрын
How do women not know these things? I watched this out of curiosity but the comment section is shocking. Sorry ladies, I too am a lady. No way in hell do I put myself or standards down for a guy (or anyone for that matter!) Come correct or don't come at all. U don't want me 1, I don't want you 100. Return the same energy. Simple as that! This guy is spot on. I guess I know the game cos I come from a father who taught me from a very young age "don't ever let a man trick you". Goodluck to the ladies here that are struggling though.
@rakastellar8955
@rakastellar8955 3 жыл бұрын
The videos are just what I need. They are harsh, but true
@irinamurphy92
@irinamurphy92 2 жыл бұрын
It’s probably the most powerful explanation I’ve even came across!
@Thislife78-p1w
@Thislife78-p1w 2 жыл бұрын
Billy Bob, Jerome... i like consistency 🤣
@naturallykae
@naturallykae Жыл бұрын
I was laughing at that part too lol !
@librarose319
@librarose319 2 жыл бұрын
My thumbs up just gave this video 1k likes
@nicolewelage4190
@nicolewelage4190 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate this video and your immaculate timing for what's happening with my situation! Thank you
@OriginalInsightsTarot
@OriginalInsightsTarot 2 жыл бұрын
God I love how how honest this is!
@misstango1001
@misstango1001 Жыл бұрын
I watch this over and over
@elementalAlma
@elementalAlma 2 жыл бұрын
You are the most keep it real tell it like it is dating coach out there. It’s real and raw. Ya my best guy fren
@johncieclark3897
@johncieclark3897 3 жыл бұрын
Elliot is the absolute BEST. Been listening to him for YEARS!!!!!! 💙💙💙💙
@gabrielavalonpa4886
@gabrielavalonpa4886 3 жыл бұрын
whatzapp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he: lp you out text him now he can solve your problems :: don't waste your time here .
@HashtagAPI8
@HashtagAPI8 3 жыл бұрын
Works like a charm every time
@bingus9869
@bingus9869 2 жыл бұрын
This hits hard..6 days nc after staring my issue twice...dead to me unless needs are met, I agree x
@eva-nr2bs
@eva-nr2bs 3 жыл бұрын
Just and simply. Good job. Again .
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
You get in contact with him on WhatsApp. He's name is Dr Oge
@julietcharles7258
@julietcharles7258 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for this, thats exactly what am going through and am doing the no contact because am totally done
@jazzqueen1
@jazzqueen1 3 жыл бұрын
this was a good video Elliot
@Love_Moleboga
@Love_Moleboga 2 жыл бұрын
Your frankness is so amusing 🤣 "You're an idiot..." 🤣
@c.j.mackay4032
@c.j.mackay4032 2 жыл бұрын
Your nuggets of wisdom are great.
@Still_I_Rise
@Still_I_Rise 3 жыл бұрын
Another great video, thank you!! Also, do you have 1-1 consultation services? If so, can you share the link and rates?
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
Message him on WhatsApp now. He's name is Dr Oge
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
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@mo0729.
@mo0729. 3 жыл бұрын
This video was pure gold, Elliot! Pure gold!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
@jaylynnfarr1276
@jaylynnfarr1276 2 жыл бұрын
What if you didn’t give him any ass-ets yet? 😂 and he knows you won’t without a relationship and he comes back?
@kaeli1983
@kaeli1983 2 жыл бұрын
“If you had a backbone…” 🥶
@mingakinsgibayuxds7542
@mingakinsgibayuxds7542 2 жыл бұрын
Eliot really speaks to me, to normal people. Other dating coach are so philosophical, abstract and ambiguous.
@somisworld229
@somisworld229 3 жыл бұрын
Then I will lose him forever but I want him back
@irinacar
@irinacar 3 жыл бұрын
Great video Elliot.
@jesuslovesus8054
@jesuslovesus8054 10 ай бұрын
You are my brother, I thank you, I apreciate you and I love you🥰
@annas9720
@annas9720 2 жыл бұрын
my favorite dating coach ❤️
@audrey4150
@audrey4150 9 ай бұрын
You are the best dating coach plus you’re funny lol
@gigi5310
@gigi5310 3 жыл бұрын
Love you Elliot! That's exactly what I'm doing and thinking!!!
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
You get in contact with him on WhatsApp. He's name is Dr Oge
@Valentinovixen
@Valentinovixen 2 жыл бұрын
I dropped all his shyt off at his work. He wasn’t even there . I never called I didn’t text I just dropped it off. He also has not reached out. I think it’s safe to say it’s 100% done done ! How’s no contact for you on that??
@loribrown8945
@loribrown8945 2 ай бұрын
Elliot I love your videos. Been watching them for years. I’ve got a problem with the father of my child completely disrespecting me. I just had his baby 3 weeks ago and I’m having such a hard time. I need some advice or coaching
@mamatried925
@mamatried925 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks again for the good advice 👍
@oxSoNyAxo
@oxSoNyAxo 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Elliot, I want to buy your course but I had a look and I have questions about the price..💭 Also, thank you so much. You're communicating so clearly how women get screwed over, finally, no bs! Love it! 🥰 We lack understanding these things logically fr. You're also helping me understand men in general. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@xmswayzemx
@xmswayzemx 3 жыл бұрын
I probably did no contact a little too late but it was unintentional honestly. I woke up one day and was DONE being dumb and too tired to care anymore. Cut him off back in April and haven't heard from him since. Do I miss him...a little. I miss the companionship/friendship. But if I can't get what I need from him then I'm moving on to someone who can. Looking out for and loving myself more these days. ✌😘
@BrooklynBaby100
@BrooklynBaby100 2 жыл бұрын
Did you hear back yet?
@xmswayzemx
@xmswayzemx 2 жыл бұрын
@Brooklyn Nope. Haven't heard a peep from him. Sometimes I wonder what he's up to and if he still thinks of me.
@briannarichardson1596
@briannarichardson1596 2 жыл бұрын
@@xmswayzemx He probably still does think of you . You were the only one that didn’t feed into his BS, the only one that probably had the most self respect to go about your business and not accept less . You won boo, love him from afar and continue loving yourself 💕
@jadegarner3357
@jadegarner3357 11 ай бұрын
Have you heard from him now?
@Rhugheswiesel
@Rhugheswiesel 3 жыл бұрын
So empowering!
@mydizzymelody
@mydizzymelody 2 жыл бұрын
Is there a video on how to make sure he DOESN’T contact?
@Meowlicious_dance
@Meowlicious_dance 2 жыл бұрын
So if you are in LDR and you put effort to come to their city, it's not realistic to ditch friends plans, who live in same city and can see them any other day? Boy bye
@debmccafferty1007
@debmccafferty1007 2 жыл бұрын
Had a failed LDR. Ex was one state away and could not plan a meet-up. I knew he was a busy guy but, really?
@alexandraness1388
@alexandraness1388 3 жыл бұрын
Amazing video Elliot, thank you 😊 🙏 🙌
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to a powerful spell caster who helped my girlfriend. Getting her love back after two years of no contact
@user-li3fe7wh2v
@user-li3fe7wh2v 3 жыл бұрын
He's name is Dr Oge. Message him on WhatsApp now
@heatherbmorrison
@heatherbmorrison 3 жыл бұрын
What do you say to a guy that comes back after a few weeks but texts in the middle of the night? This is a guy I miss.
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