Got Full Custody After My Crazy Ex-Wife Attacked Me at a Restaurant After Tricking Me Into Missing..

Got Full Custody After My Crazy Ex-Wife Attacked Me at a Restaurant After Tricking Me Into Missing Work - All Because She Lied to Her New Boyfriend That I Was De*d.
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[@Olimar92]

What was she expecting by telling OP "We need to talk about our son in person" and just running off afterwards leaving a note like she's 10 and being a brat.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Funny, that was the catalyst of her eventually losing her custody and showing her true psychotic nature

[@benrussell-gough1201]

She probaby thought that it was a risk-free cruel prank (and it 'serves the bastard right' in her mind) and didn't count on her mother folding lke wet origami and spilling where she'd gone on her date.

[@spoof2062]

What was the Ex's end game with her boyfriend? Did she really think she could hide the fact that the kids' dad was alive forever??

[@danacarter9147]

Exactly. And given OP's ex-MIL is clearly naive about her daughter's antics, there's a possibility that she wouldn't mind her grandson being raised by randos.

[@BaeBunni]

Yea "the most important relationship in my life" Even if Op didn't confront her then he is gonna run for the hills when he finds out she made up some crazy crap like that.

[@benrussell-gough1201]

Yes. Living a lie is easy and changing that policy is hard.

[@highasheckgaming]

Meets the parents Oh so you look over him over him every two weeks? No? His father does? From the grave?!!?!?

[@hennessya96]

Given she was getting more and more aggressive and then pulled this stunt, she was probably planning on pushing this guy to violence then using it against him to get full custody and just write him off as if he was dead. This woman was planning on exiting this guy from his sons life but it flipped on her

[@Thaddius0]

leaves child with babysitter during her custody time neglects child when hes with her uses child as a pawn to get revenge on her ex physically violent yeah... i think you are in the clear OP. dont feel guilty for looking after your kid

[@danacarter9147]

Damn. If someone got wind of the ex's behavior, they would contact social services to take that poor kid away from her, place him in foster care, and then, with mentally stable and loving adoptive parents.⚠️

[@kit4616]

@@danacarter9147Adoptive parents?? The kids dad is still plenty alive and the foster system is horrible. Why would sticking this kid in a foster home be any more effective than just granting the father full custody??

[@low-keydrama1260]

Nah OP isn’t in the wrong. Ex has proven to be an unfit parent and an unhinged person. She willingly made these awful, petty and selfish choices and didn’t even consider their son . It says alot that the boy doesn’t want to go back to his mother

[@TwilightMysts]

Arguments and disliking each other happens, but deliberately interfering with the other person's life, even to potentially having career impacts, is definitely crossing the line in my book.

[@grandparedpill2695]

So she set you up like a bowling pin, knocks you over, leaves a petty note, and doesn't expect you to retaliate in one way or another? This woman has a really low opinion of you, she doesn't think you're as tough as you actually are, and she mistakes kindness for weakness. This is her own damn fault. And to hell with her mother.

[@notovny]

So... how did the Ex think telling her BF that OP was dead was going to work out? I mean, OP is still alive. So at some point the fact that he is, and is still involved with her son would come out. The son presumably would mention that OP exists, right? Unless they were planning to disappear with the son in the near future?

[@STAYATINYARMYSIN]

I mean she did forbid him from telling his dad about her boyfriend , he sounds young enough that he’d do what either of them say with a little pressure and without questioning them

[@notovny]

@@STAYATINYARMYSIN .. that might work. "You're forbidden to mention your dad to BF, he'll get angry." "Don't mention OP to Son, he's still pretty broken up about the death."

[@roevhaal578]

@@notovnyit might work for a while but it will definitly come out

[@nikolicpavle5055]

No no, don't worry guys, her relationship is over now and she can devote herself to her son starting from now. What a joke 😂

[@BaeBunni]

Till the next love of her life that thinks the dad of her son is dead lmao.

[@prophetofthemightysquirrel5434]

A bad person cannot be a good parent. The most important piece of parenting is behaving well, because children will absorb everything you do and start mimicking your behavior. Just because she "cares" about her child, doesn't mean she's a good parent - she's just a walking life support person for the child, nothing else.

[@BunnyTheOverlord]

Depends how good you are at separating that from what you show the kid. I've known a few people who were definitely not the best of people but managed to raise good kids.

[@peepawfart]

@@BunnyTheOverlord raising a good person does not make you a good person or a good parent LMFAO. It is physically impossible to not be yourself around your child for 18+ years. It literally is not possible

[@ritaerror7829]

@@BunnyTheOverlordtwo options, either it's something really outside of kid (they won't know how you act at work, if you only do it at work) or the kid is smart enough and just adds those behaviour to "do not do" list. Second one mostly ends up with kid being resentful toward the parent, less common them being a doormat (because if they end up like parent, then they aren't a good kid/adult)

[@Lichor2369]

Sounds like she had it in her head that once her and OP divorce he was going to come crawling back, when that didn't happen she started to get aggressive.

[@CionJSBJJ]

He shouldn’t feel bad at all. If he had lunged at her for any reason, do you think anyone would think twice about taking away custody? It wouldn’t matter how good of a father he was until that point, it would all be null and void.

[@Malix2238]

Always remember the ancient text "play stupid games win stupid prizes". She lied about her ez being dead she brought her son in on her lie and to top it off she was messing with her ex husband for no reason.

[@Gemarald]

10:42 WAS ABSOLUTELY SICK!!! Never have I seen it done so SLICK before!

[@m4x927]

lol, initially I thought u were commenting on something the OP or his ex wife did.

[@TheSlyFoxThatCreeps]

that's what im saying that was crazyyy

[@bookgirl2]

The MIL is just worried about her grandmother time. The full custody is the right move.

[@YouArentSlick]

It’s crazy how many of these bad wives end up being bad moms too contrary to what the husband says. Like bro if you couldn’t tell she was a bad wife then maybe double check her mothering abilities too, at this point you know your judgement is questionable

[@BaeBunni]

Not completely some people can be much better parents then partners. The venn diagram is small but it's not impossible. Like my Ex-bil is a pretty bad partner but I never really questioned his commitment to his kids.

[@mohamedemad2051]

Regardless of How unhinged and shitty Op's Ex-wife is towards him and his son, What kind of a good mom tell her boyfriend that her son's father is dead when he isn't ????

[@deettekearns9092]

Why the hell was any of this done in front of their son???

[@quadryjohnson2099]

Because the mother is a Psycho, who couldn't leave the father alone through her own immature actions.

[@_arkybee]

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@stephaniex90]

lol the voice change at 12:55

[@MakotoJay23]

she didnt lie, she was just planning ahead

[@karlwittenburg5868]

So beyond what the ex-wife was thinking with saying dad was dead, what did she expect OP to do when she left that note? Clearly they’re not compatible so I don’t think she was wanting him to get jealous over her new bf. I assume she was hoping he’d just give up and take an L over his missed party but since their son is at stake, he obviously can’t just leave it. And if she was trying to sprit him away then he’d be immediately calling the cops for kidnapping when his son wasn’t returned. The only other thing I can think of is that mom was hoping that introducing the boyfriend would bring a different father figure and she could use that to push OP out of her son’s life. But she just had to try to rub it in OP’s face because she’s petty. Classic

[@nancyriggs8170]

Did she not realize at some point the new guy would realize what a huge liar she is.. She did start it by telling you to come back and miss his work event..

[@Riri_734]

They both seem petty but the ex-wife is on another level. Plus lying to her bf about the kid and marital status, trying to get back at the OP in various ways as well as that physical assault just shows the kind of partner she is. Moreover she neglected her son while she happily had fun with her bf and even told her son not to snitch on her. The son is better off in full custody of the OP.

[@ritaerror7829]

I dunno how petty that is of the OP... in separate instance it seems bad, but when he had to live with her as wife, then as ex, and saw how much bs she's pulling, it's not unreasonable to get mad like that. It wasn't "I'm gonna kill/hurt you" mad but like "there's 100 things why this person is shitty, nr 1" type which is mostly acceptable?

[@PMMcIntyre]

I'll always be amazed at how much damage a single mother can cause

[@jo4ogameplays]

This sounds so outlandish that it might just be real

[@SuperThekid1991]

I ain't gunna lie I can appreciate that level of petty from the ex-wife 😂😂. But OP you got your get back now stay on your toes cuz she coming for you bro bro

[@kossettereaditte7552]

Unironically I've seen exs act petty like this with their kids and it always confuses me

[@absolem04]

Im questioning why he got blacklisted though after she lunged at him

[@benrussell-gough1201]

From the prologue, I think that ex-wife's mental health took a turn for the worst in the last couple of years of the marriage. Remember he stared saying that they suddenly couldn't talk without arguing and screaming at each other? I'm wondering if that's when something happened to her that knocked her brain out of whack or something. She needs therapy and possibly a CAT scan of her head.

[@stardustdeath2497]

You lost custody of our son, Stay Mad

[@2magnet]

This is some top tier Minecraft parkour

[@ioxemi]

Just had to say that... the book was most probably 50 shades

[@TheGreyParse]

The only thing I'm still curious about is why she held so much burning hatred for OP that she'd go so far as using their son as a pawn just to hurt him Whence stems this infantile rage

[@Rj-ij6ko]

So clearly, if Op had attacked his ex in public and was aiming to get full custody, everyone would be telling her to stop and she’s going too far and to let it go right? Naw Op was not and is NTA. I’m just curious what the end goal was here? Like the bf was eventually going to figure out Op was still around…? What was her plan…?

[@joshfly210]

Just switch man for woman and all her friends wouldn’t be trying to stop him from getting full custody.

[@umagovindarajan4339]

Even her child is more mature than her 😂😂

[@Justcallmerosa]

The title is already insane

[@BrightElk]

I know it always sounds like a joke but seriously adopt a pet for a few years before you have kids. It’s not a perfect science but how your partner treats your pet and divides up the responsibilities is a huge indicator of how parenting will probably go. If your partner is mean, cruel or ignores your pet that’s probably how they are gonna treat your kids. If you find yourself always feeding the pet taking it for walks or scooping the litterbox prepare to be carrying the bulk of the care responsibilities. As for my dad idk how my mom didn’t see the red flags as he kicked their dogs and cats with glee and she thought he would be a great dad! Now he’s locked up. 🙂 As for my husband he absolutely doted on my cat and even made him homemade cat friendly birthday cakes every year. 😂😂😂 And now he’s totally in love with our daughter and he’s an amazing cook and the chores are divided up evenly. Please do a pet trial run before having kids.

[@ashishgautam2418]

Yes brother.. you did everything right. There's nothing that you should regret.. but one thing I'd say that let your son meet his Nanny sometimes.

[@markmessina7895]

She is not a good mother. Just nonsense.

[@atiqahdiyana5665]

Son wants the dad. Enough said

[@jetkirby]

You can't sneak around telling people lies while wearing clown shoes with horns in them

[@Vic-pg4rg]

OP was really wrong of how he handled things before he put down his foot. He let his ex doormated him too much and it led to this event. I'm glad that he finally decided to stop and got full custody of their son. A bad wife is equal to a bad mom. He even said that she was like this before. So I don't get why he would marry her when she had so many red flags to begin with. Let this be a lesson to us all. Look for the red flags and take them seriously.

[@DarkEinherjar]

Play petty games, win petty prizes.

[@WTC-1990]

The "stay mad" comment at the end of the letter proves she's a bad person, I would have filmed her and posted it online of her pathetic attempts at begging

[@niteninja0133]

Yup women can never do anything wrong they are always perfect and can attack people and nothing happens

[@Kage5944]

NTA Ex wife needs to seek help. All the aggression building up for however long before she attacked op screams something is wrong. There is some kind of mental problem going on that she may not be aware of and had it been noticed early enough I’m sure things would have ended up differently. Right now is she is unstable and protecting your son is top priority.

[@markmessina7895]

A 6 year old was napping ? Really ?

[@kennycai8695]

Honestly, I am still wondering if pettiness is also a trait of narcissism, cause I am still trying to figure out what this ex-wife's endgame is. Although given how the MIL reacted by trying to guilt trip OP and give him crap, I have a hunch the rotten apple did not fall far from the tree. OP, while I am glad you and your son are safe, I still think you deserved a smack to the noggin, cause if you had paid attention to the red flags sooner, you won't even be in this predicament. While you cannot turn back time, I still applaud you for not giving in to your ex's games.

[@thabihotboy9376]

For the son at restaurant part OP was 20% the asshat there. Only for the sake that the Ex left the note and went petty would I award the 80%

[@ladyweasellou3367]

People who write these posts must be considerably better people than I am. Their ex acts awful twords them and their children until the op of the story finally retaliates (usually in a way not really that bad and frequently in a pretty understandable manner) and then they are verbally attacked by the ex, along with the ex's friends and family and even their own sometimes (despite it not being their business) and then the OP will feel guilty or bad about it, a lot of times forgive them, say things to defend the ex (he said she could be careless sometimes but not really a bad mother - which is incorrect going off the behavior described- she's a mother)! I've had my share of awful ex's and break ups after some pretty awful situations and.... As I said, I Guess these people are better than me.... Because I don't feel bad, guilty, worried, etc twords them.... but i do wish some thing bad upon the cruel ex.... And that each year the bad is exponentially increased.

[@kidm0bius190]

says "attacked me" yet not even a few mins before says a waiter stopped her lol wtf which is it my dude. FAF.

[@chantheman2308]

This feels like an AI story tbh

[@LadyKurta]

What?? Imagine saying "my ex partner attacked me but I don't know if it was good to press charges because they aren't a bad parent" bro??? Imagine if the ex was the husband and he attacked her .. he would literally be in jail... This is actually sexist and I feel bad for all the men out there believing this kind of things and suffering this treatment in the hands of evil women and even the law who always favores women... That was literally violence and nothing can justifies.. not even if she was "a good mom"... Laughable

[@markmessina7895]

Unrealistic

[@DeatGaming]

I wonder was MIL trying to subtly out the daughter for the sake of the kid without taking the flack of calling CPS herself.

[@JoelPerry1]

I'm not crazy about how op responded, but it ended well.

[@thomasritchey1365]

The pitch change at 12:51 is strange, I have no clue what kind of application this channel uses but they need a new one. The repeats and strange intonation makes it unenjoyable

[@LadyZubat]

But I don't understand is why the fuck did the fight at the beginning start over a simple mistake? He's acting like his ex-wife at least with that one thing needed to be a flawless human being.

[@someguy-sq1kg]

On the note left on the door just write funny on it and leave

[@ladyweasellou3367]

That whole fool me once fool me twice things is in this story.... When you're rude, aggressive, selfish and obnoxious ex suddenly acts all friendly and stable one day out of the blue and you fall for it then you have no one to blame but yourself.

[@musiclova6368]

Why does the voice change at 12:54?

[@Garbagecant24]

“We were pregnant”. Tf is this guy talking about? Men don’t get pregnant😂

[@peachyarts386]

people usually say "we are pregnant" since they created the child- sure the woman is pregnant but the man made her pregnant..

[@fredahoward1447]

She's after the child support

[@alandgomez5905]

Obligatory 'grain if salt story', but why lie? Like, he's still in the picture. What's the big picture supposed to look like?

[@rand0mn33ss]

My god, these two are horrific people. That poor kid

[@SuperThekid1991]

I agree both are petty asf

[@danialdirty5656]

i don't get these people, like she's still the mother of your kid? mate, there's a old saying: the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

[@AW-xc1xc]

Say that saying again, but slowly.

[@sadifislam1028]

what the fuck?

[@chloui4246]

6t h

[@Corn-Pop.]

fish don't like you and they never will

[@lupinhankins7657]

115th!

[@tylermurray2191]

Fifth

[@eliasb.7240]

Eleventh

[@squiggle463]

Sixth

[@angelofstarsx..]

SECOND!!!

[@Yahya1.786]

First 🎉

[@UKYO19]

Third 🎉

[@TinaMartinez-gz7hv]

FOURTH 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@ivyrose6393]

Is this story fake here's the part I don't get the kid is 6 and is able to read the bad words in a book.

[@AW-xc1xc]

Plenty of 6 year olds can read, what do you mean?

[@jeanbean_bc]

Interesting how a 6-year-old (kindergarten/1st grade) kid being able to read is the one thing that made you decide the story is "fake" but go off ig

[@ivyrose6393]

yes 6 years old can read that when most start to learn to read books with pictures kids books not a book for a grown adult

[@curator9024]

​@@ivyrose6393Are you dense?

[@MysticMae21]

My brother could read by the time he was 3.

[@MrArielK]

Yet another misogynistic story

[@clamiyep7008]

How is that mysoginistic ? Had she been a proper parent and civil co-parent, none of that would've happened.That person is not safe to be around, please don't simp and see things for what they are

[@MrArielK]

@@clamiyep7008 90% stories in this chAnnel, the woman is the villain and they are all AÍ generated, maybe you don’t see things how they are

[@fampirz4255]

​@@MrArielKHoly you are narrow minded

[@AW-xc1xc]

You're just a baiter, aren't you?

[@BoloJolo]

@@AW-xc1xc a master one, at that.

[@highasheckgaming]

Normally id say ETA But She told her BF that her babies father was fucking dead how you gonna hide that? The mom is 1,000,000,000 times worse so i gotta give her the title

[@Halfcocked1222]

Neither of these people should be parents