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Everyone longs to live a purposeful life. You need intuition and persistence to discover what you're here to do, but childhood trauma can block this awareness, and keep you feeling trapped and unable to find your purpose. In this video I respond to a letter from someone who feels lost; hear my advice for steps to take to find and live your life's purpose.
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[@tomtbi]

53 years old and still in search of my gifts....

[@redllarbxen3237]

Wouldn't you just take a leap on Ayahuasca Ceremony, shedding light on yourself

[@khemaloving4031]

Same here

[@lorrainericciardi7479]

55 and same thing. Since I became disabled and couldn't be a travel paralegal anymore and therefore stopped hitting the gym before work 5 days z week and my kids grew up I feel useless unneeded. NO purpose and so I just stay in bed. No reason to get out of it. I don't want to lose anymore time

[@spinnetti]

I know my gifts.. Just don't know what to do with them.

[@lightitup33333]

59

[@valerier4308]

I'm a retired teacher. Now is not a good time to be a teacher. The pay is not commensurate with the high cost of a teaching degree. Plus, teachers are blamed for everything and get no support from parents or the administration. Finally, these days, many students have serious behavior problems. I retired early because I was assaulted by a student during class.

[@wdlovesthee736]

Its interesting because i felt at peace giving up the idea of a "purpose". I just decided to live a good life according to my values. Life is its own purpose. Humans may be the only animals who seek further instructions. So interesting.

[@user-ze8du7ow2o]

This has crossed my mind as well. Its can be seen as a testament of the omnipresent love. That he loved us so much that he limited gave us free will and understanding. Now we're fighting our carnal animalistic nature with what we call principles.... Aka LOVE.... What's the first thing you reach your child.... Your warm embrace....and how to protect itself from harm... By teaching guidelines...... Just remember the prodigal son .

[@ladyraven3418]

That's a beautiful gift, in and of itself. A rare thing. I'm glad you were able to achieve some sense of inner peace that way. Were it not against my core nature, I think I should have done that by now. My stupid intuition has kept nagging me otherwise.

[@happyandfree11]

This was me for many years. I cried out to Jesus to get me away from where I was living and He gave me a way out. It involved moving to a new state. The new surroundings opened my eyes to so many new possibilities for my life. The city had a vibrant energy, unlike the city I grew up in. I found joy there. I hope everyone reading this finds their way.

[@nensi1972]

... thank you for posting that, ...i am asking the Lord to help me on thst way ,too..., for i exactly have that feelings you had about the city you lived in , and finding that new place ,too, for moving on....🙏🏻🌹❤️God bless you...

[@triplejmom7826]

Sometimes a job is just a job. For me it’s to help the people at my job. I like what I do which I didn’t always with my previous jobs. I have hobbies & they’re for my enjoyment. I’m a mom & loving my kids & trying to be a good mom is my major goal now. I may not the change in the world, but maybe I can raise them to be the change ❤

[@AA-wc3tw]

I think my "purpose" is to focus on myself and learn how to live for me and me alone, to do what I want to do instead of what others want to do....instead of giving my energy to people in general....instead of giving my energy to people who who don't reciprocate it. I mean, I wasn't getting my needs met doing things the way I was doing them. So it's time to do something different.

[@RenIvyFemmexo]

Everything about this comment ........ I'm right here with you

[@spinnetti]

so, to be 100% selfish? That's fine for you, but I doubt it will bring you fulfilment. Exercising our gifts to benefit others is what brings most people satisfaction.

[@charmedprince]

Yes this is very much me. I just turned 34 last month. And I feel so off from my life. Especially after giving a lot of myself to and for others and having it not reciprocated is the worst realization of my life ever. I'm gonna be selfish from now on. I am ghosting everyone and I will be spending the next 2 years of my life doing only the things I want for myself while I reparent myself and become the version of myself I so long to be. 😟😮‍💨

[@charmedprince]

Yes this is very much me. I just turned 34 last month. And I feel so off from my life. Especially after giving a lot of myself to and for others and having it not reciprocated is the worst realization of my life ever. I'm gonna be selfish from now on. I am ghosting everyone and I will be spending the next 2 years of my life doing only the things I want for myself while I reparent myself and become the version of myself I so long to be. 😟😮‍💨

[@AA-wc3tw]

@@spinnetti You're assuming things about me based on a couple sentences with zero context about my life and zero knowledge of the things that happened to me that lead me to finally choose to put myself first.....You have the right to assume what you like about a stranger based on a couple sentences, but--based on the context I haven't shared in my OP--I know what's best for me.

[@rachaelmccord2035]

I can’t seem to get over the time that was stolen from me that I won’t ever get back. It makes me so angry and panicked that I won’t make the most of what’s left.

[@lorrainericciardi7479]

I hope you find it. I've wasted over 5 in bed so far

[@ellenlandowski1659]

Maybe quality not quantity

[@powderhog7272]

70 years old and still looking. Neglected and abused childhood. 35 year marriage to a narcissist. I am still looking. Always worried I will be attacked - again!

[@redllarbxen3237]

Wouldn't you care for an Ayahuasca Ceremony?

[@peaceforyou-ag]

It's not about knowing your gifts but healing your co-dependant patterns enough so you may connect with and express these gifts.

[@asteriavlogs8312]

I have many gifts. Too many. I love to write, to draw, to sew, to make music. They fill me with passion and purpose for a while, and then those feelings wane and I drop whatever it is for the next one. They always come back around, I tend to work in cycles, but I was really hoping this video would help with the career aspect, rather than saying not to worry about it. I do worry about it. I don't know how to find a job that doesn't make me want to end it all. I don't WANT to work, it doesn't make me feel fulfilled or satisfied and only ever drains my already limited energy and drive, so if I could find work that meets that "what I'm here for" need, that would make everything so much easier. Unfortunately, none of my passions lend themselves to that in any realistic capacity.

[@redllarbxen3237]

Wouldn't you care for an Ayahuasca Ceremony

[@cb5284]

Hey, why don't you start a Tiktok/KZbin channel showcasing your skills?! I know it sounds obvious but have you thought about it? I like sewing channels.

[@troubleshooter166]

You might try Anna's daily practice. And then listen to Cass from Clutterbug. She doesn't like work either. She is rather rebellious and yet she has found a way to enjoy life, make a living and try new things. Anna also speaks of having to find. Seems like videos or podcasts might be a good avenue

[@anzelaiv]

I was always told by others that they feel better and more resolved when I listen to them, or after talking to me. I felt like that was my gift and gave it so much effort, until I realised it was my helper, people pleaser survival strategy at play. It felt good to do it because I felt like I'm earning love and friendship, but I was ignoring the resentment and the feeling of being completely drained afterwards. For now, I'm just trying to recover from my last "gift" and hate the idea of intentionally finding purpose. I want to just be, for a while at least.

[@brontesaurusrex7235]

I heard the magic words "might want to teach." Speaking as a teacher, oh my God do NOT go into teaching if you're not sure that's what you want to do. I love my job, but the struggle is real and lots of folks don't make it past 5 years. What I'd recommend as a first step, if you have any ties to local schools, see if you can get in as a volunteer. If you're in college, good chance there's a tutoring or mentoring program you can join to work with K-12 kids. I started out as a reading tutor, and it turned out that I was good at it. I did find my gift, my students were excited rather than embarrassed to be pulled out for extra reading support and they all markedly improved. My masters in teaching program required classroom observation hours as a prerequisite, and when I got to that step I already had teachers I could reach out to about that. I don't know if all programs require that, but it was exceedingly helpful. I kept going even when I completed the required time just because I really wanted to know what I was getting into. Very helpful experience to have before dropping thousands on tuition. Hope this helps somebody out there.

[@thebandplayedon..6145]

My 30 year teacher friend would scold me if I did not add an emphatic 'Hell Yes !' to this comment for her.

[@valerier4308]

I agree! I retired early from teaching because I was assaulted by a student during class. (I taught for 24 years and was planning on making it to 30 years.)

[@aem5832]

For me, it took a long long time to get this one. I believe we are here to affect people positively for His kingdom and help others. That can be in many many different ways. Using our gifts. When I discovered that guidance it became much easier. I grew up in a severely dysfunctional home and am now 64. I believe I am here for His glory. I know that sounds too simple but I have tried money, jobs, volunteering, relationships etc all with selfish motives and most times it ended up hollow. It took a long time to find my way. Developing my relationship with my higher power is where I found this.

[@Jenandr48]

You are definitely in your gift, and we are so happy you are! You've inspired me over the last 2 years to really be in mine. Thank you!

[@paulidevoss7249]

Anna I think you are definitely using your gift in making these videos, they are so true and insightful and help so many people. Thanks again!

[@warrenpeterson6065]

I have advanced C-PTSD and have never known my purpose in life or known how to love. This is now evident to me looking back thru my life and reviewing the damage I did. It has not been all bad thou as I have a high IQ, have led large corporations, and am very artistic. Today I understand my C-PTSD rules my life and every decision I make.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We're here to support you! Nika@TeamFairy

[@miamia8824]

I'm 39 and all I've seen are multiple dead ends... I've lost all hope. There's just enormous suffering and loneliness

[@stormysmom222]

I am 39 too and exactly where you are

[@EverydayImmortal]

After overcoming my own darkness, I realized that my purpose was to share the things I've learned for whomever they may help. And to be a living example of the things I want out of the world. This one is harder to live up to, but I am learning every day.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@ANGIESWORLD]

I’m so happy I found this page. Thank you for all your help!

[@spinnetti]

Pursuit of happiness will never find it. Do first, then motivation, purpose and meaning will follow.

[@Ged1356]

I feel this way and I am struggling to find a purpose. It suck’s when there is no one to listen to

[@triplejmom7826]

@@Ged1356 just pick something & don’t feel bad if you’re wrong, just stop if it’s not working out & pick something else. Also, just because you’re not wonderful at it at first doesn’t mean it’s wrong; especially if you’re enjoying it. Practice makes perfect as they saying goes. Try art, music, dance, a sport, cooking, sewing, etc. every journey begins with one step. 49 year old here. It’s also never too late to start something. ❤️‍🩹🙏🏼

[@redllarbxen3237]

Wouldn't you care for an Ayahuasca Ceremony

[@louisemoore7715]

Fantastic comments...I have taken this further....In some cases of emotional disorder, there has been actual physical brain trauma.....hit in the head, physical head injury of some sort....along with the emotional trauma in childhood. I had both....There is one doc in So CA on Sunset Blvd., Edward Wagner, DC who addresses this subject...and his students all over the USA....It is energy medicine of the first order...Much illness originates in Brain Trauma....Your perspectives on day to day regulating actions are superb! Thank you again!!!

[@hopeandcoffee97]

I found my calling and have begun to make a decent life out of it but my god if i had reregulated earlier, i still look daily at that list of 20 something things that one does that retraumatises them because I was ALL of those except one or two. It sometimes still feels like there is nothing to do if not that or that you're turning lifeless if you don't do them. But then most days you are alive and making progress, the real realisation comes the first time you are recognised by many people who are not emotionally abusive. This video is also gold, the element of service is a very useful pointer. My friend also did the same and we're both shocked by how what we are can remain so hidden in plain sight, everyone else can see it and light up when they see you 'clean up' your act.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Lovely.

[@cristinaroe2166]

Dear Anna, my life has been to date quite empty. I have had so much trauma plus I had a terrible time with medics and psychiatrists who still haven't diagnosed me properly. I have had to work these out myself after much research. I have never known what to do or be because during childhood I wasn't allowed to be myself and received no encouragement and wasn't listened to. I believe I am also on the autistic spectrum just to complicate matters. So you can imagine just how confusing and frustrating life has been, having missed so many of my targets and developmental stages whilst waiting round for therapies that didn't properly address my issues. I feel quite drained now and washed out. I wonder if I've completely missed out or ever achieve anything. I feel so sad and also live alone which I find a lonely and constant struggle. Most men don't want to help and are too selfish to love and care for a woman who's different. I do pray that this will happen one day after all my suffering and struggles. I pray God will strengthen me and that my life won't be in vain. 🙏

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. We're here to support you! Nika@TeamFairy

[@jasonfitzpatrick414]

I think my gift is art. But, my current cptsd is really making it tough to get into the zone. I'm just having a frustrating time right now. I do artwork about every ten years. It is weird. I am super focused when creating. I go into another dimension.

[@redllarbxen3237]

Sorry for that

[@PhilipGokhan]

Wouldn't you care for an Ayahuasca Ceremony? It'd certainly help on your journey to inner healing

[@notscot6788]

My purpose is to ignore people who say life has a purpose.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Purposeful people don't care if others ignore them.

[@vivisimonvi]

"My head is like a bag of cats" Please pick someone's story that might include the phrase, "I behave like a racoon trapped in a trash bag."

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Good one! I used to live where raccoons wrestled and screamed outside my window. Really unnerving sound! One time in the morning, after I fight I heard, there was the corpse of a raccoon with no tail -- VERY heavy to move. And the thing was, it was heavily decomposed. Like they were fighting over a corpse. Yucky but true story.

[@user-do3qz7kt2m]

55 and I didn’t know what my gifts are or my talents it’s not clear to me😢I try to do a kindness for someone else everyday…..could this be a gift….confused,comments from everyone most welcome 🙏

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Sharing kindness is a gift as well. If we all did this to each other, look how beautiful this world would be! Nika@TeamFairy

[@16voyeur]

The timing for this video was amazing, Anna. Thank you!!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so glad! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@evaescrihuela1162]

Thank you Anna for releasing this video again, really timely for me.

[@cicada12345]

thank you anna for making this video❤! i really appreciate it🥰🥰

[@dg2517]

I really needed this. Thank you.

[@Alisa12568]

Really brilliant video, excellent x❤

[@thebandplayedon..6145]

I relize rhis is old, but yes, you are nailing it & we're sooo appreciative ❤

[@glittercupkate]

I love your gift fairy.....you've helped me so much and now I'm happy and living my best life

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Wonderful!

[@MarionForster-h4o]

It is ur gift,U r in ur thing,ur brilliant,thanx again

[@LiaaT__]

Not finding it. I just get really depressed. My family doesn't usually understand me and my mom got mad at me for telling her how I feel. She says I am too negative. I feel absolutely alone and no relationship ever worked for me. I can't connect to most people and I can't find a career that would make me happy. I can't even finish school now that I'm 23 I can't study at all college frustrates me.

[@anthonylfrye7922]

I am retired from a successful career, cut short by cancer. I have tried to re invent life, left by a woman for fear of financial security. I returned to school and found my gift was helping others. Unfortunately I met a woman who appeared very independent, but in fact as we got close, she withdrew from fear of being hurt . Ghosted, I had to start again, only to have messages of regret from this woman I had confessed my love to. She wants to reconnected but needs time. I have been patient while she gets involved with other m wen for validation sexually. She fears true love, so I can't validate her needs. It is a painful lesson. Right Woman wrong time? Wrong woman right time? Only moving on will tell. Life can hurt.

[@lanefaurot]

I love this video!

[@caoillainn]

I had no idea growing up, or while working. Now I'm retired and I still don't know.

[@redllarbxen3237]

Wouldn't you mind an Ayahuasca Ceremony?

[@namonrice1770]

We all are here for GODS ENTERTAINMENT BY WAY OF TORTURING OURSELVES! While he claims he knows better just give he to him !

[@PeterDeMarco-fk1ph]

Thank you 💯

[@lorrainericciardi7479]

I really needed this today. I've been in bed for years. I want out but can't. I'm not trustful or good with people so I pet sit because I enjoy spending time with dogs. People overwhelm me. I have not one good memory of my mother maybe 2 or 3 lunches where we were drinking heavily and now she has alzheimers and can say the sweetest things to me or the cruelest and I don't stand up for myself because I've always lost and my father gets upset but never took my side. Just removed me from the home or the call or conversation. He has to go behind her back to speak to me alone or help in any way. He says she doesn't mean it. She's got alzheimers so I should ignore it. But what was his excuse when I was young? I asked him once if he knew of her condition, drinking and abuse when he wasn't home. She had to have him all to herself so put us to bed at 7pm all through grade school. He said that's a long time ago. And so I should focus on now. Not a straight answer but an affirmative one in my book. He just passed me around to relatives and friends to keep me out of the house at her request. Eventually it was apartments. I wasn't just the black sheep and scape goat or punished. I was banished from my entire immediate fame. My Dad and brother and her..which was a relief but to this day she jabs at me crazy and my father and brother won't stand up for me. They just pretend it isn't happening or walk away. I thought I was nuts until I finally stopped visiting them and spoke to my brother and he confirmed that they were aware but didn't want to get involved. Now I try to keep the peace for my Dad's sake. I needed a mother.

[@lindakarner1430]

I can totally relate. I'm sorry that you had to grow up that way. We needed a mother; it was our birthright, but it is a broken and imperfect world. I have gotten through life on the promises of God in the Bible; I have felt connected to a few people, and I have felt surges of joy a few times also, always connected to my relationship with God in Christ Jesus. But I long for a richer, fuller inner life, and especially for connection with safe people . . ..

[@MendelFarkas-yc7gk]

it looks like Tracy Steal My letter, and I would like to share my experience, I am a teacher for the last 6 years and I don't feel fulfilled and also I do a lot of volunteer for Organization for kids ,so I would recommend that she should start be like a volunteer for some organization and for a living you should take any job you should figure out what is your style and your skills and then you will figure out which job is for you and you will feel "successful" and your gift you will use for a volunteer job!! LOVE ❤❤

[@D.M.S.]

What if you hate your gift? For example: When someone is an amazing shot, but doesn't want get near a weapon. Or when nobody cares about your gift? What if nobody gives you a chance?

[@Sarcasmarkus]

I'm sure my life's porpoise is out to sea.

[@Anonymas-di6zc]

Hello dear Laidy Anna 🧚‍♀️ Thank you for your Work. I specialy appreciate that you talk about how it feels. I feel and can understand it more and more and that means that i have a much better perception and my feelings aren't confusing that much. And i feel the difference with the daily Practice 🧚‍♀️. I would like to do the DP twice a day but i need more time to work my self up to it. And i had the thought that sticking to ones a day for 20min, is good and not easy. Why wanting more and be disgusted by the DP and that's one of my biggest fear. I want to feel proud to practice every day and stop beliving that i have to be perfect, didn't go well for me 🙄 By by 👋

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for taking the time to comment. So glad to hear the Daily Practice is helpful for you! Keep up the great work! Nika@TeamFairy

[@ananimity7332]

I am in my 50's and I don't know what I want or who I even am.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We're here to support you! Nika@TeamFairy

[@ananimity7332]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you. I don't know how you could. I've tried so many things

[@BrendasArt]

this isn't reality, some people are fortuned, others less, others doomed. when life give nothing to climb up with nobody will climb up. we are group animals that don't dwell right alone wasting a entire life and there is nothing they get except a few lucky ones that met the right person on the right time that's life, unfair.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You say this, yet here you are on a channel about healing and changing your life. Maybe you're just discouraged.

[@BrendasArt]

@CrappyChildhoodFairy after thousand trials you have to face reality eventually, if the solution was that easy it would already be solved years ago.

[@emmadedic4483]

I needed to hear this, do you offer 1:1 sessions?

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

My team can coach you in my healing method. You'll find info at crappychildhoodfairy.com

[@user-ze8du7ow2o]

For someone who believes we all share one brain one soul. This explains why we the world may seem so dark. If thats is true. I wonder if we will ever fully heal .

[@stormysmom222]

😢 I don't know why I'm here and it frustrates me

[@22RosesGrow]

What is the difference between cptsd and ptsd?

[@mariam-r5u]

Can you please make a video about intrusive thoughts and how to control them ¿

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You may find this video helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rIXQamiKnt6siZI You can also share a letter with Anna here if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_Letters -Calista@TeamFairy

[@hopeandcoffee97]

Also, if I were to change another thing I did .Please,please avoid crabs in the bucket type discouragers who are doing something they don't love and can'y handle anyone else enjoying their work.They can literally make one waste their life. It's sad that they're frustrated with their lives but resist the urge to soothe and comfort them by becoming small especially as women (because men really are how trevor noah's mum says especially in hyper-patriarchal cultures like mine,I am just being realistic). Lots of the love to the writer, you sound so responsible and level headed, I was never this matter of fact or calm when I came out of a situation. Hope you now get to have fun, appreciation and discovery too! :) ❤

[@stefaniasmanio5857]

Hi. I thought it was teaching... I think I am a good teacher. I do my best, but I feel empty and useless ....

[@prettywoman853]

Come on, Ana, we know you only posted this old video to show us before and after comparison on how much weight you lost lol 😅😅😅 I’m just kidding, you look amazing, and thank you for a great reminder!

[@Irene-jh7re]

I get you. But sometimes can you stop TALKING . IT KEEPS GOING. Hours Everbody wants to spill THEIR TRUTH. . 30 min is also fine.

[@squirrelydan4885]

I believe this is your gift also! In the few videos and short time I’ve been watching You have made the most sense out of any doctor,therapist,pill pusher, has ever!!! Also your videos are helping more then all the time and medicine they forced on me which I knew it didn’t help and I believe did more harm. My brain hasn’t been the same since With your videos and information I alrwsy know I can be who I’m meant to be! Plz continue your gift as I’m reborn again because of you and the all mighty! Thank you!

[@user-xu3kz4ru8f]