HELP! My family are TOO accepting of my sexuality...!

[@damianleah6744]

The performing monkey analogy is spot on. I had similar, so I started retorting back with deeply personal questions about their private life. Needless to say they didn’t like it. 😂😂

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Quickly shut them up I'm sure! 😂

[@veggiet2009]

I think the "I'm just gonna be single for awhile" is a good answer. Before i started being open with my sexuality and people assumed i was straight if the conversation of a girl ever came up i would just say "oh I'm happy being single" generally the conversation would end on it's own, if not right away it would come to an end pretty quickly.

[@bardootv3504]

Loved when you Joel asked Kegan to load the dishwasher. The look on his face was priceless! lol

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Shock and horror 😂😂

[@hectormorfin6153]

This is what I love about you guys. Your relationship towards each other is genuine, respectful, family oriented and very playful to each other. It is great to see a health gay relationship. You don’t see many on the internet. Great job guys!!

[@diannamacdonald3716]

You two are very wise. I think you are well suited to give advice.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Aw thank you!

[@alankanen1052]

Very good advice. Sometimes boundaries must be drawn.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Absolutely! Even with families!

[@orielwiggins2225]

Gosh, what an interesting quandary to respond to. Well done covering all the bases. Love the advice.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you! We're so glad you enjoyed the episode 🌈

[@corgiowner436]

Well intimate questions about the mechanics of your sex life are always inappropriate but the family sounds like they want to be supportive but are anxious about the fluid nature of his sexuality.

[@boydhunsaker7326]

Great recommendations! I would approach any one of these ways or a combo of them.

[@trippyerinsd]

Perhaps those family members wish to be invited into his social lifestyle here and there and are inquiring in hopes of a connection, however awkwardly 🤷‍♀️

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Could be! That's a new way of looking at it for sure 🤔

[@ajaxon319pldunbar]

Keegan and HRH Prince Joel, thanks for another interesting topic. Thank you, Behind-the-Scene (BTS) Harry. This was one subject that I would have never imagined being addressed as my family situation is totally opposite of the one discussed. In my family, the annual Thanksgiving gathering of brothers, sisters, cousins, nieces & nephews & their spouses occurs with absolutely no one ever asking me anything about my openly gay-centric life. It's like being out of the restraining gay closet only to find myself in the spacious yet dank gay basement where things pertaining to my gay lifestyle are tucked away in a corner on a shelf and are not sought after at all. I may be wrong but it feels like my family makes an active, concerted effort NOT to be aware of or talk about a big part of my life. I guess I'm envious of the writer's situation even though he feels his family is intrusive.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That sounds tough with your family - we're sorry to hear about that. Maybe they will come around after a while or have they been like this for years?

[@ajaxon319pldunbar]

@@happyhealthyhomo Thanks for your response. I always hold out hope that the family will be more forthcoming with an interest in my life. It's been this way for a while but I think a thaw may be brewing as some nieces have reached out to me after Thanksgiving, inviting me out for drinks to talk. They said they felt bad that I was being ignored during the family gathering. Small steps. I never say never. As a young man, I said gay marriage would never happen in America and I was proved wrong. So, now I hold out hope for all good things.

[@ItsCoreyLynxxYall]

In accepting families we fulfill our evolutionary duties. One of those duties is to be a "healer" which can include being the entertainer that keeps everyone's spirits up. Though I can understand it getting to be too much when constantly in the spotlight.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Interesting what you're saying here, family roles can definitely play a big part in these scenarios

[@daveluna7931]

😂😂😂😂😂 I feel like I'm on a soap opera because my family also wants to know about my dating life

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That does sound quite funny though - you should play up the soap opera vibes! 😂

[@daveluna7931]

😂😂😂 yes 👍 I am with Joel

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you! 😂

[@LordJazzly]

Most of what I'd have said has already been said in the video; the only other things I'd say are that - if it's a really _big_ family, then it's possible to end up being 'the gay one' at family gatherings just because the gathering's reached a size where you might only be able to keep one or two things about each person in mind when it comes to getting into conversations with them - and if you're the only one who's not straight, then that's going to be easy to remember. In that way, it's like being the only one who owns a boat - even if it's a ten-foot dinghy that you only take out once every couple of months, and not a big part of your life, you'll still get a lot of boat talk. However, that said, your love life is _not_ a boat, it's very personal, and setting boundaries that you're comfortable with is important. Speaking of boundaries - the other thing that could be happening is that people are talking about your dating life between themselves - one of my extended family members recently went through something fairly personal and I head about the entire thing, as it went on, without ever seeing or speaking to the person involved - or indeed ever _asking_ about it. So people might be taking the chance to fact-check in person; if it's that, then - again, there's a question of setting boundaries, but that might be more difficult. Large families tend to trample each other's privacy just a bit, in order to cut down on the amount of direct communication necessary between individuals - as the size of a group increases, the number of possible connections between members increases - not geometrically, but by triangular numbers, which is almost as bad. Lastly - while it is possible for people to try to cover up discomfort with a kind of cheerful enthusiasm, that doesn't typically last for very long, is built upon the assumption that the discomfiting circumstance is temporary, and would be difficult to coordinate in a large group who meet sporadically. I think the guy who wrote the letter is in the clear for people secretly not accepting him if it's already been as many years as he says. Also, for the 'woe is me' thing - while it is good not to take support for granted (as it is demonstrably not a universal) - at the same token, setting your expectations for acceptance at a level that is lower than you could reasonably live with is under-selling yourself, and failing to get to the point of why you'd look for acceptance in the first place - so that you can live a decent and fulfilling life.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you for sharing your take with us, this is well said!

[@jimtrue1465]

I know you don't choose the ads that appear on your channel, and not everyone sees the same ads, but I thought I would let you know that your video was interrupted by an anti-LGBT+ ad when I watched it.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That's terrible we're so sorry you had to go through that! Yeah, it is out of our control with the ads, I'm really sorry about that. They need to fix their algorithm!!

[@calvind2054]

So many curious questions from family members on this one. It’s possible that they might be honestly curious about bisexuality since he gave them that possibility. If this was me and I was feeling I need to wait to really know for sure, I would offer them this information. I don’t know and won’t know who that person will be until we meet. That hasn’t yet happened. When I meet that person, man or woman, and feel there is a possibility of a relationship, then I will let you know. Although, I personally feel pretty sure it will be a man. Because every time a person says I think I might be bisexual, it’s because they thought about being with a man. I’m just saying…. Seen this too many times. And he did say he was in a 4 year relationship with a woman and now don’t know.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Interesting point 🤔

[@scifigeek1217]

So the food videos went from fun to oh im not eating now so why do them i guess

[@dennis-qu7bs]

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth

[@oscarwinston1159]

Seriously?! Some of us have had to carry a lot ; to have families now, be so more aware for you now.