How Do ESFPs Compare To ISFPs?

[@ucjapecuch9094]

Oh yeah, Me as ESFP, I thought that I might be ISFP because when I do not like some kind of people or do not feel good around them I prefer be alone, it makes me boil inside of sadness because I have to make fun and just be myself but on the other hand I have to maybe protect myself from people that I do not feel comfortable.

[@MinjiLindsey]

Ten minutes in, I was like... This guy must have been hurt by an ESFP, he gets so upset. Twelve minutes in, "I am divorced from an ESFP." Yup. Ok. Checks out.

[@popkhorne5372]

I mean they are also low as fuck on compatibility. As an INTP so am i with ESFPs aka my dad. We are Never on the same page, but the worst is that he is good at everything i suck at and looks down on me for it. Well same on my side, i always think he is stupid. But well im here to improve that relationship.

[@Oilofmercy]

@@popkhorne5372 good for you mate

[@popkhorne5372]

@@Oilofmercy thanks, even if it is ironic.

[@Oilofmercy]

@@popkhorne5372 just to encourage you I'm esfp and a good friend of mine is intp. I love our conversations and he gives great advice. It is possible to find common ground. I wouldn't date him though but we were super close when we lived close by.

[@honor9lite1337]

@@Oilofmercy but I bet he's good in bedroom though 😜

[@wendygaetz8763]

I might actually be an ES- “The ISFP will ignore that you ever exist. Apathy becomes the weapon of the INTP superego” Yup. ISFP.

[@grimmseti]

They definitely do that. I hate it. They would never feel like it is acceptable for themselves to be treated that way.

[@wendygaetz8763]

@@grimmseti yes it would hurt us a lot, Which is why we choose that method of warfare because we know its effective.

[@bestusernameever6518]

@@grimmseti Yeah, but if we try to pay attention to the existence of other people, we get VERY drained (and I mean, VERY VERY VERY drained).

[@Cherryb0nb0ns]

That was my cue as well 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MajorSpam]

I guess ISFPs also can have failure to launch syndrome. Like we know what we want and when we start learning it and getting into the substance we realize in the end it'll end up pretty bland/repetitive or just not how we imagined it and we drop things, pick up new things, rinse, repeat. Until we're old and our pride stops us from taking new job interviews because we'd rather wageslave away instead of being in a conversation trying to justify our poor life choices.

[@sandradibiaso7316]

I love this video because ESFPs and ISFPs are among my favorite personality types. Never a dull moment with an ESFP or an ISFP.

[@darkisfp5543]

I always was impressed by the ability that esfp have to get their product done even in chaos they make me feel more safe or grounded they give me that vibe “don’t worry everything going to be fine” and I trust them with that . I feel like whenever I’m around esfp i feel happy like I’m true artist I just feel more confident with them

[@CSJoseph]

Dark Isfp you sure those aren’t ESFJs?

[@darkisfp5543]

C.S. Joseph yeah I’m sure at least for 80%

[@darkisfp5543]

C.S. Joseph but I’ll whisper in your ears and tell you that “ sometimes I think they are esfjs because the fact that they cook delicious food

[@prettylydia99]

Im a ESFP...!!! But unfortunately most South Koreans dont understand my personality. They just think that Im weird and crazy cuz too much standing out. So sad...

[@CSJoseph]

Don't give up :)

[@mominairfan2104]

Its a pretty popular personality type

[@kramerknipe4332]

@@mominairfan2104 In American culture sure. I think in some more traditionalist cultures it could be seen as rebellious & deviant, which isn't taken very well.

[@ChrispyNut]

@@kramerknipe4332 Yet, they're also the ones who need it the most, to give up some of the past in order to remain connected the reality of now. The SPs are critical in that role for SJs who (if the MBTI stats are true globally) as the dominant temperament, (numerically speaking) have a tendency to keep society locked into the safety of the familiar, but when the environment beyond their control is changing, they have to receive reality check from the SPs, just like NJs do NPs because of Se reality vs Si past/safety. The U.S is very traditional too... it's just so new it's harder to see because there's so much less "past", but can still see the pockets throughout the U.S. whether it's the English (British protostants (lol spelling)), Irish (Catholic), Spanish (Catholic) or the cultures that primarily started/matured on that landmass.... the White Supremicists, Soverign Citizens, anti-abortion, Red vs Blue (yes, plenty of people "use" tradition as an excuse for being arseholes but that's also true for everything).

[@ljkoch99]

I'm an ambivert so I'm both ESFP and ISFP

[@chloroxbleach8561]

ISFP; Nice video very informative and nice format. After watching this video I noticed that i actually always get distraught when people dont affirm what they think of me. :/ When they would i turn more happier then i would end up giving them gifts :)

[@melancholikak6844]

Isfp; I do have a problem bringing projects or ideas to completion in the midst of chaos. I have an esfp close friend who gets things done amidst chaos. I really envy that about her. If I anticipate chaos or disorganization ensuing for some time, I will not dare tip my toes into a new endeavor.

[@CSJoseph]

I am an agent of chaos!

[@juliahansen2439]

Hi from The Faroe Islands. My husbond is an ISFP. This was so helpful. I learn a lot from your canal. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@JulietTheGirl]

Ehh... I still feel I am perfectly in the middle of ESFP and ISFP.

[@sinae317]

Me too..

[@David-oy6ck]

Use the type grid and archetypes :)

[@hannah_marie97]

Me tooooo, dude its annoying me that I can't decide 🤣

[@JulietTheGirl]

@@David-oy6ck I tried, I can't even decide if I am idealist or artisan :D and can't understand if I'm and extrovert or introvert.. right in the middle!

[@David-oy6ck]

@@JulietTheGirl I originally thought I was ENTP because I am quite extroverted. Later I realized I was an INTP and that I am just extroverting through my subconscious ESFJ and unconscious ENTJ. Realizing that I have NE parent (intp) instead of Ti parent (entp) also helped. You'll figure it out :)

[@Moana_moo]

I’ve always thought i am an ISFP but after this i think i am an ESFP with major self esteem issues(like i was bullied in elemnetary now i am 16 but still...). Like i’ve always been a performer in some kind of way and never minded the attention in fact craved it. My favourite things growing up was playing outside(yet i wasn’t encouraged because my parents were overprotective) so i channeled all my energy on singing and making plays and playing cartoon characters. As they were overprotective. Even so i was always a bit more “quiet” though outside the stage and too much stimulation drained me. In Elementary i was a bit shy but still that “performer” and enjoyed playing with children. I’ve always been quite a slow runner though(i was chubby as fuck and didn’t have much contact with sports) and kind of was bullied. I befriended some girls who later bullied me badly and this made it hard for me to open up again. I do get energized by spending time with people but honestly the feeling that they don’t want me to be there is what makes me drained not being with them. I do need a lot of personal space though and after too much “interraction” i need space maybe because i don’t talk that much because i basically have nothing to say not because i want to “listen”. I also tend to not hang out with people i want to where i belong with “the party crowd” because i get that fear that they are bored around me and don’t want me there.With my group of friends i am life of the party though. My full self comes out when i am with them. They are real introverts and they are much more chill than me(they are INxx).

[@Moana_moo]

My mom also tells me how growing up i used to always perform and socialize unlike my sister who was very quiet and needed solitude. Now she has much more friends than her and i secretly envy her because i really need that social life i just don’t know how to have it because i have the feeling i bore everyone. I do also enjoy being alone though. I also get to be angry with my friends when they don’t wanna go anywhere and simply prefer to stay in. I am not very open and vulnerable because i was and some friends took advantage of me and bullied and exposed all my secrets. With my Close friends i am definitely the loudest person in the room. When i am in big crowds i sometimes “space out” not Daydream but simply am in my head.I also have this “intellectual” side like i love to read and inform myself about animals and the world around me even though i’d much rather watch a documentary about them

[@subilee743]

damn something about this feels like we're really similar or like this is how i would have written this comment lol dunno if that makes sense... anyways although we def had some different life experiences i relate to parts of your childhood with the not being allowed to go out and liking being an "entertainer" and even having a sister lolol oh also i'm sorry about those classmates and i'm glad you have good friends you feel comfortable being yourself around now:))

[@akaboo69]

Ok as an isfp do I care if people feel comfortable not sure but I care if a female feels comfortable I always want to be chivalrous. But with a group of people I do what I want but I dont like being judged or criticized. If I'm around people who judge me I flee. I am me I'm not here to please people

[@KillerCroconaw]

I thought I could possibly be ESFP until you said ISFP doesn’t like not feeling appreciated at their jobs. There were so many jobs that I left because of a lack of appreciation.

[@jillharrison3924]

thank you for this well put together presentation! it was very informative and easy to follow. i am grateful that i could process and understand all of this detailed information. i know it will better help me help my 20year old ISFP daughter in many ways. one of which being safety. i intuitively have done things to keep her safe (unappreciated by both her and her ESTP father). because you said you read the comments, i thought i’d share a bit more with you. she is everything you described an ISFP to be. things were going pretty well up until the age of 14-15. she was a successful ballerina (which pushes your body hard), and was also a talented artist, song writer, and musician. very unfortunately, however, a progressive, systemic medical condition took away the life she led at 15. she’s been in a bad place pretty much since. before the illness changed her life (btw she kept dancing while in very bad pain, until she had to stop. she had been pretty independent, successful, and very responsible and loving. i’ve struggled in how to figure out what i could do (or shouldn’t do) to help her, especially now that she’s 20 and has (at least temporarily) moved back in with me. i now feel like i have a beacon of hope thanks to your clear advice. i wonder whether she might see any change in my behavior toward her as fishy, because she’s smart. i guess i can just go right ahead with your suggestions because it’s it’s true that she doesn’t recognize or fully understand people’s intentions. she will probably just take my showing her “increased appreciation” etc as a happy mood thing. finally, it was serendipitous that you said what you did at the end about ESTP’s having an Ne demon, too, and to watch out for that. My kids’ father is an ESTP so….yeah…this was all very eye opening. i can attest to that portion of your presentation ringing true in that regard, as well.

[@Rekshva]

keep up the great work , I really like learning about personality types and you make great lectures

[@CSJoseph]

Sypher866 much appreciated, please help get the word out

[@CSJoseph]

Sypher866 much appreciated, please help get the word out! :)

[@Rekshva]

I dont have many friends but the ones I value will surely hear about this alot xD

[@astonish_injurer5598]

After watching these ISFP comparison videos, I've realized that I've mixed up my mom's ego and her shadow. *Slaps self*.

[@4thNebula]

Great points about how to inspire an ISFP via positive Te.

[@honor9lite1337]

And how we can do that for example?

[@grimmseti]

@@honor9lite1337 Yes. How?

[@886tiffster]

I’ll see if this is true about my sisters. Younger sis is ESFP and older sis is ISFP. Me: INFJ in the middle

[@Jess-yv7zc]

That was so funny about your old ISTP boss. I'm almost certain my coworker is an ISTP and when myself and an ISTJ were training him in, the ISTJ kept trying to force the ISTP to memorize things the same way she does (by meticulously checking and re-checking her notes every single time) and the ISTP kept refusing because he likes to learn by handling/doing the task and memorizing it that way. So super funny, bc years later the ISTJ is STILL checking her notes (just to be absolutely certain) and the ISTP's memory is not QUITE as good he seems to think it is...and I would know, bc I'm an INTP hahaha. Myself, I reply on either a jotted note or our ESFP manager in order to assist my short-term memory--bc unless/until it's part of my "system", it's not getting done. Very interesting as well as entertaining.

[@collin5547]

My dad is ISFP and my mom is ESFP. They’re not together anymore

[@charlee2470]

What happened in their relationship?

[@charlee2470]

What happened in their relationship?

[@sandradibiaso7316]

I think ESFPs are good artists too.

[@hannah_marie97]

Me: isfp Mum: esfp = NIGHTMARE, we clash like the titans!!!!

[@Mugzchunch]

Same with me and my dad!

[@wendygaetz8763]

SAME! Thats so interesting

[@Bonnie-sd7et]

Can you elaborate a little on the dynamic please?... I'm considering these two for me and my mum and we've always clashed.

[@Mugzchunch]

@@hannah_marie97 I can second this. Sometimes my dad can have such a short temper and it doesn't take much for him to go off. But of course for the most part we get along extremely well. Its only ever when he's in a bad mood is when we don't get along at all. I love him though.

[@hannah_marie97]

@@Bonnie-sd7et Our cognitive transitions are competing, and so one has to compromise, which causes resentment.

[@maria_s3731]

Is it an ESFP or ISFP thing to never know what i want but to always know what i don’t want like i make choices by finding out what i don’t want?

[@CSJoseph]

Yes

[@maria_s3731]

@@CSJoseph how do i know if it’s genuine shyness and insecurity or introversion

[@Bonnie-sd7et]

Sometimes I wonder if I'm an ESFP instead of an ISFP. When I was younger I started lots of college courses. I could never choose one and didn't complete them. As I got older I finished a couple but never set up practice in either modality. I view them as a learning experience and my life's altered because of that but I'm only now in my forties really figuring out what I want, which feels quite daunting. Although the fact that I'm a jewellery maker at home doesn't sound very sociable. Confused. Could I be a more bubbly ISFP rather than a shyer ESFP. Might social anxiety be the issue. I'm currently maybe 90% sure I'm an ISFP due to the alone time I need daily and the fact that I'm totally obsessed with aesthetics, artisan silver and gemstone jewellery, painting, interior decor and individual style. If I couldn't see colour I'm sure if die from the pain. And it continues 🌸🌈🌟 Edit: ENFP feels more like me after all this. I knew it, that's why people think I'm quirky...

[@sandradibiaso7316]

I can't believe this video only has 11,000 views. These are two very interesting personality types.

[@optimist-ri1439]

I've heard this before, that ISFP can not discern the intentions of others so therefore are taken advantage of... So that had me pondering if that has ever happened to me... Must admit my memory is horrible (as I always admit), but I can't remember if I ever allowed this...Maybe in my younger years..pre-teen - teen. I don't know what it is but I can feel if someone is trying to manipulate or take advantage, & it will either send me in an internal rage (IF I love/tribe them I might go along with it) or I will walk away quietly... just trying to wrap my head around the belief of not knowing a person's intention towards me. -ISFP

[@Kalanicoe]

I’m going to have to stop saying I’ve typed myself for the last time because this may never end lmao the struggle is real.. can’t tell if a background or starter (movement/control initiating/responding) and cant tell if I’m an SP NT or NF... like seriously can only realistically narrow it down to ESFP ENTP ENFP INFP INTP ISFP it’s funny I’ve questioned everything so much at this point that I could believe anything about myself within these types like I could easily believe I was any of these for a couple days and then question it again which is what I’ve been doing I don’t want to say idk myself cuz I think I do But “obviously” not right? But I live for this process so screw it If I could just stop saying I’ve figured it out False alarm False alarm False alarm

[@user-mn5ge3mq9f]

I'm pretty sure that you are an enfp. Trust me Im being serious

[@astonish_injurer5598]

You're either a Ti user or you're emulating Ti with Fi hero and Te inferior, which eliminates ESFP and ENFP. I'm leaning more towards ISFP or INFP, as the more I review your comment, the more Fi hero vibes I get.

[@Bonnie-sd7et]

Haha same. What's your current certainty? I can't decide on ISFP or ESFP because I feel too introverted for one and two extroverted for the other. Years ago I thought I was an INFP, then an ENFP but the more I watch and learn the more those two don't feel right at all. I'm all about my surroundings ~ the colours I wear, the decor in a room, other people's moods etc are huge for me. Now I'll watch the video.

[@rawthenticatedflavors9109]

Yes, you are absolutely right; ESFP's, due the necessity to Se in order to Te & before Ni, require protection. But as you also stated: What ESFP wants/needs to experience... Vs. Your attempts to protect (Rules, anecdotes, analogies, bribery-LOL...etc..). Therein lies the problem. Advice?

[@Moana_moo]

Even so this video made me even more confused. I do agree with the “lying” ESFP but i also need constant appreciation(i didn’t really got it) and with the “mood” part. I do need to “manage things” and love it but i also need a lot a lot of freedom and if i feel trapped I’ll still do it anyway. I am a bit of a “dreamer” sometimes but more that dreamer part is me being lonely. I hate criticism and need validation and yes a bit narcissistic but need it. I love being taken pictures of even though i am damn camera shy. I do know what i want yet i am still questioning “Is this really what i want?” And i do tend to go for it but change it at One point. I mean,i had 10 different career choices so far i always knew what high school i want to go but when it came to applying for it i questioned it. I went there because my friends were there. Growing up i picked like 10 different hobbies and sports as well but still gave up on them. The only thing that Stayed was music/singing. I am insecure about what others think though

[@elisabethschlarb3059]

Guess what, a shadow-focused ISFP won't let themselves have what they want though because they've been conditioned to be about what everyone else wants and they'll be depressed at the same time... Just something to keep in mind those who are reading this as that was the case for me!

[@LinYouToo]

28:26 isn’t that highly narcissistic? It sounds like The ESFP places a high degree of value on how others perceive them and when they don’t get the validation they want or feel they deserve it causes an internal fracture. Did I misunderstand? Someone who would be that predatory sounds like they don’t have a conscience. That’s malignant narcissism in some, immaturity and others.

[@amazinggreats5333]

I don't think so. I've only ever seen the 'dream killer' prey on people who are not just harming themselves but creating a toxic environment for everyone else as well. Those people aren't just not giving validation, often they are making it impossible for people to truly be themselves by imposing their view of others onto them in an oppressive way. "You HAVE to act or be this person and do / think these things and you cannot be anything outside of these parameters." Yes it's true that that wouldn't happen if they were validating others, but it's a bit more extreme than you're making it out to be.

[@edennis8578]

Narcissists are actually dangerous to the people they're closest to. They will take everything you have, your time, your money, your energy, then leave you, beat you, or kill you if you don't give it to them. ESFPs, on the other hand, are extremely generous people, and if you are cold to them, they'll usually just go away.

[@thaisplouvier5403]

6:50 Te child : all generalizations, all beliefs, belief systems. Care about what you believe, not about whether it's true or false. Vulnerable to group think. "I like you so if you feel that that's true, I feel that like it's true too" 10:00 INTP Superego : apathy 10:15 ENTP Superego : insincerity - If you don't give me the freedom to do what I want, I'll just lie to you and do what they want anyway. 11:30 If you give them freedom they'll start trusting you, then go out of their way to give you a great experience.

[@universeprisoner176]

So I'm not a big fan of therapy, when I was 15 one of the several therapist that "gave it go" had said to me "people are better off juggling hand grenades and being with me." I didn't fully understand what part of my behavior was to blame until I go older. If I would have known a lot of what you have taught. I would have maybe explained to her that talking is not the way to go about to "fix" me. I got sent away to a 28-day volunteer juvenile program and in the program my mom and I had made a truce to start over and build a new relationship. Upon coming back home from the program in the car she let me know she cleaned my room for me for when I got back. I remember thinking that that was pretty odd that she told me this like there was something more she was trying to say.... My contest winnings, my drawings, my poems, comments or notes on my work, you get the picture... everything I displayed on my walls..gone. 2 days I didn't come out of my room. My estp younger brother came in with a stack of his artwork telling me if I wanted I could have and hang his artwork up on my walls. Whoa! To be honest that was all I needed to accept what happened. Acknowledgement, validation, someone else who gave a shit. I never told my therapist what happened just let her blame and label me. Less than a year later my mom put me into foster care. (Back it up She and my dad adopted my siblings and I when I just turned 6, after our bio parents left us with a friend to go for a drive and must have gotten lost lol. Dad died from cancer 7 years later) anywho just before turning 17 I was adjudicated and in foster care because I might be a bad influence or my brother and sisters. I was middle child, had 2 older sisters, one was 16 and pregnant and the other was a closet criminal/with addictions. I just did what I wanted to...lol... okay maybe not funny but it kind of is... I lied by omissions and I guess sex and drugs she could turn her head from but my behavior she could not stand that... I secretly hated the saying "a face only a mother could love" two mothers that "couldn't do that"...Iv matured through learning things that helped me develop better conclusions. I can see and admit my fails pretty easily. I dont get as bitter as I used to and I do what I want with a lot less shame.... I don't even know if that's a good or bad thing... SMH...ummm also it has been a while since I've said anything, but I still think you're cute. -isfp

[@universeprisoner176]

Btw i know my mom is a J just not sure on the rest. I'm trying to figure it out but I get sidetracked each time and forget to go back to it.

[@CSJoseph]

You are not too bad yourself :) That being said, always do what you want. If there are people in your life preventing you from doing what you want, get away from them please.

[@CSJoseph]

She sounds like an SJ type of some kind, likely an SFJ at first glance. Did you do the playlist on "how to type yourself and others?"

[@universeprisoner176]

C.S. Joseph lol well... I'll refur you to your own words... Data flows right through... I will even try to learn in small intervals. Example, I will reword bits of information using a thesaurus.... Problem with that is I'll see a word that looks really interesting and totally go off my target ending up in a conspiracy theory playlist about the plants and trees starting a war on the human race....

[@universeprisoner176]

Oh so to answer your question yes I have watch the videos... Twice... I assure you that I will probably watch um again...

[@sandradibiaso7316]

Figuring out if you are an e or an i is the first step. Do you get energized by a lot of people or do you get energized by yourself or one other person or a very small group of people? If you need a lot of people to be energized then you are an e if not then you are an i. We all need to be left alone when worn-out or tired.

[@Nise_R]

ISFP: This is Spot On. At different points of life, I have been an ISTP but lately as ISFP. These traits described, I will admit, sound like me haha.

[@sylviacline3472]

16:10 “Don’t do that, that’s dumb!” 🤣🤣

[@akaboo69]

So Si critic can manifest as regret?

[@CSJoseph]

yes

[@HersheyCakeKat1886]

This video helped me, because I am kinda conflicting between me being an ESFP or an ISFP, to the point I have come to the conclusion that I am an ESFP on the inside, and an ISFP on the outside. My true inner self is an ESFP, but I present myself an ISFP to other people.

[@CSJoseph]

Perhaps you're saying your Si critic doesn't like initiating for worry of becoming obligated to help? If that were the case, it wouldn't make you responding it would make you someone who prefers to initiate, but chooses not to.

[@HersheyCakeKat1886]

@@CSJoseph yes, exactly! I prefer to help people, but usually choose not to because of the worry for becoming obligated to actually help them in that exact time, or, right then and there.

[@LinYouToo]

26:32 would this explain then why some of them are like walking encyclopedias wehere the quote source material and statistics and so on? And don’t necessarily come up with their own original thought?

[@alexpark472]

This really puts into perspective why we all need each other.

[@arande3]

Wait, so I've noticed that all the types have their quirks, like SFPs are derpy about Ne and Ti. In the same way that all types have their own unique super-ego, all types must have their own unique version of self-actualization as well. I seen u mention dat in ur vids b4, so plzplzplz cover it in a future season. Kthxbai

[@CoranceLChandler]

I have one sister of each type. The differences are vast

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Yep, that’s them!!😄 And since they need protection- ENFJ would be great for them- for warning and stuff ✅🥰

[@Cello_Rebels]

I'm sorry but 2:15 cracked me up

[@logicalperspectivekanki4190]

"probably an SJ parent" lol too true (intp observing ESxP's with SJ parents btw)

[@littleviolet510]

Been watching this and that video, reading about the types to type myself. I mistyped a lot. I think I know my type now. Thanks!

[@stephenvirtudazo1783]

I am an ISTJ-T trying to find out if the girl I like is an ESFP or an ISFP. We are compatible in some manner but the process of getting to know each other is very slow because I'm too afraid to ask her some personal questions. She's quiet and reserved but also she has that adventure fun loving personality. Now I understand that she's probably an ISFP.

[@sl4511]

As an infj, how do i help an isfp who's created their whole belief system based on insecurities and past negative experiences?

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

Ti trickster for me, as an esfp- AGNOSTICISM. “Nobody can know the truth of anything, there’s too many variables.”

[@idiotslife8508]

Can't an isfp be energized by other people? I'm always energized by being with other people but after a while I want to leave because I get bored. I believe I am an esfp but people around me say isfp but I know I'm shy and afraid of judgments of other people but at the same time I don't want to perform for them. Idk lol

[@空内]

(Note to self I love them: but continue to avoid exfps...my only enfp friend I trusted last year ruined my THIS year. Now I have to face a new future and I'm starting to be at solace with that now.)

[@kevinfukthezetamale4298]

In the animal kingdom I view ESFPs as monkeys because of their playful but chagrin demeanor, whereas ISFPs on the other hand are sloths who appeared to be low-key and hates being disturb.

[@edennis8578]

Oh, lordy. I'm an INTJ with an ESFP husband, and yes, I have to protect him from making decisions that aren't wise. Luckily, he usually trusts me.

[@AbsyntheAndTears]

INTJ here, I had an ESFP husband...it lasted 2 years.

[@marielguerin8959]

much appreciate 🪂

[@akaboo69]

I do critsize my past experiences. Nostalgia is not a thing for me. And yes I've claimed to have a perfect memory

[@GrismerMusic]

Is there such thing as asfp? Cuz I'm an ambivert

[@CSJoseph]

watch the ambivert episode in season 15 playlist and you will see that you are wrong.

[@空内]

Ohh when my dad got a raise... he bought a lot of stuff.... and gave us a lot of money.... and I think he and I know better :D

[@ma_iii]

VERY USEFULL

[@haruhina952]

Love your content!

[@honor9lite1337]

What is "being thoughtful to them" mean? Can anyone give me some example of that? (I'm not English native speaker)

[@amazinggreats5333]

Example: "oh I remembered how you said you need a new phone charger last week so I picked one up for you on my way home from work" or, "I know how you like to have this specific coffee before a stressful day so here, I made you some before your big day today"

[@honor9lite1337]

@@amazinggreats5333 Hmm... So, it is mean our actions that is considered 'thoughtful' toward them, yes?

[@honor9lite1337]

@@amazinggreats5333 are you an ISFP?

[@minimunk7]

@@honor9lite1337 Pretty much, actions activate their Se so they really like concrete actions showing them thoughtfulness but big picture it's like "I remembered this thing about you so...". "I remembered you loved the band Nirvana so I got us to tickets to see their show" "I don't think you want to do that, I did it 2 years ago and it sucked" "I know you hate that activity that our friends want to do so we can stay at home instead if you don't want to go" It's similar to consideration, "making their life easier". "I know you forgot your charger so I went home and got it for you" "I'll go and get the groceries" "I'll clean the house" "I know you didn't want to do that so I did it because someone had to do it" (though this sounds like you're guilting them but you get the thought) "I know you had this problem and I've solved it for you, you can do x, y or z to solve it. "They lied to you to take advantage of you (intent = Ne), let's get back at them" I think including them in your plans is especially important, if you're going somewhere to do something, like meeting friends to go to a concert and you bring them it makes them feel special.

[@joshgreen194]

I'm just gonna go with ESFP for now, I even got it on the 16 personality quiz multiple times and got SFP(I couldn't finish the test because it's hard to judge between movement and control) on CSJoeseph's test

[@CSJoseph]

Good instinct using the skip button, you can focus on Initiating/Responding as well. If you can't tell if you're initiating, that's a good one to ask the people who know you best if you're a background type or a starter type as far as that goes.

[@justina2320]

Exactly a video for me. I come to very conflicting conclusions on whether i am one or the other

[@Iceman219]

ISFPs: rock solid self-concept. Strong sense of what they resonate with. Rigid existence. Maintains their identity and life path all their life. Princess energy: Example Dita von Teese. ESFPS: dynamic life experience focus. Creates a life that's aligned to them. Fluid existence, ever changing. Child energy: Example: Hitomi Mochizuki.

[@Хдыщ-г2е]

Oh, I don't even know. I`m similar to ESFP and ISFP. But more on ISFP for basic functions, but on ESFP for behavior.

[@akaboo69]

Band leader were you hinting at me lol (:

[@JamesTyreeII]

I was so hoping that this guys bitterness towards his ex-wife yes FP wouldn’t come out in this video and he was doing fine, but then he got derisive about a SFP’s being the life of the party and I’m very disappointed. Can you just not let your bitterness come through man? Please? Not all of us yes FP’s are like your ex-wife in the ways that you dislike so clearly

[@magh7202]

Hey, Joseph great video as always. Do you think I should pursue medicine because I was always interested in it and want to help other people (and my mother who is an ESFP is also a doctor). Many videos about ISFP's make me kinda insecure about my planned career path because it seems like the destiny of all ISFP's is to find their passion and become a great artist and give people good experiences. Even though I play the piano I still want a stable income and a respected job. What do you think about that?

[@CSJoseph]

It is a very healthy thing for ESFPs to just try everything. But be careful with your committed big decisions. Don't give up.

[@akaboo69]

Same band for 6 years lots of line up changes I finally let it die. But people used to tell me give up ghost. My book I need to get back on but in general I always was a founding member of a band.

[@---ls5ts]

You literally own my esfp life

[@Kana_108_]

I get tingly in my heart watching your videos...... what is going on.. I think I'm SFP.... I wonder..

[@sandradibiaso7316]

I always say I believe so Fi/Te is part of me. I always believe what people like Jordan Rubin and Dr. Josh Axe have to say. I believe everything Jordan Rubin wrote in The Maker's Diet and The Great Physician's RX. I do what these men suggest because they are into all-natural living. Eating organic food is important to me. I value a healthy lifestyle.

[@suellen7853]

So I need protection ahahhah I (an isfp) dated an entj and it was really depressing, I always felt I wasn't being valueted enough so after 4 long years we decided to end the realationship

[@kleddo3126]

Same im isfp as well never went thorugh abuse so hard with an entj

[@sandradibiaso7316]

Wouldn't ESFPs do reasearch on things that they believe in their ESFP ego when they are in their INTJ subconscious? Wouldn't their Ni inferior make them question whether Republicans are truly all conservative or not and if Democrats are truly all liberals or not?

[@Amrrkevin]

13:00, 24:00

[@amyhoggard5071]

ESFP here.....and Wow, this guy seems to realllllyy not like ESFPs.

[@crisdanpadilla3561]

Wow very cool

[@jess1987]

After a rollercoaster of figuring out which 16 personalities I fit more in. None really fit me more than 50%. There should be a 17th personality just for me! Thought I saw myself as an ESFP. But, I think I see myself more with ISFP. I love my alone time (not to recharge, just simply because of comfort). But, I also love the company of other's, even if we just sit together and not talk (as long as they are there). I'm not very artsy I can't draw to save my life. I don't really even care for art. I am creative with clothing and writing and I've dabbled in making jewelry and cards years ago... I'm not too sensitive. I love adventure, but I don't "chase" after it. I can be the life of the party in smaller groups, I don't mind being the centre of attention! I'm quite stubborn 🙃. I also struggle with anxiety. I sweep my problems under the rug and always try to have a smile on my face, even if I'm in pain. I only overshare my feelings to certain people... I get awkward/uncomfortable if someone is crying, or I made them cry, I usually comfort people with humour or uplifting words... When you spoke on the types needing protectors; that is one of my top priorities for my future husband!

[@dgmr2583]

This is 100% me and i have a huge problem to decide whether i am ISFP or ESFP. I feel like i’m exactly in the middle!

[@martasw8885]

I hate this is true...

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

Peace CS. Dope material (as usual). So, I get ISFP in books & on a couple sites. Don't necessarily relate to the stereotypes... But, I do feel like an ISTP in & INFP's body.. Cognitively speaking lol. Maybe INFJ.. You said something(s) which fluorescently stuck with me here. The chaos & systems bit. I literally have to have a system in place for anything. I don't do chaos.. *Unless* I can deconstruct it with a system (think EMT.. Or, the fact that I have to actually organize the dishes before I do them. No. Really though. I do that).. If I can't think of a system, I can/do experience deep paralysis. I often do struggle with knowing what I want though.. But, when I do know.. I get quite obsessed. Any thoughts on that? Also... Question: How does the INTP superego show up for the ISFP? Do you find it's (mostly/generally) a gratifying experience for the ISFP? Or, "grippy" & exhausting for the ISFP? Or/&, an abrasive experience for the one it's directed at? Thanks again man.. And, looking forward to your feedback. Peace.

[@CSJoseph]

WhoWillYouCallOnThen? Definitely exhausting and abrasive. INTP superego goes maximum apathy and indifferent to the world.

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

C.S. Joseph Peace CS... Thanks for the retort. I don't know which is doper... The fact that you took the time... Or, that your line sounded like a dope rhyme (I swear with GOD I just spent extra thought to avoid rhyming that LOL.. Happens ALL the time). iDigress. Ok. By "apathy," do you find that it's straight up dgaf callous? Or, is it for a cause? Maybe just going all in with disregard to the "other" because it's gotten to a point where the ISFP *can't* care anymore? And, by "indifferent," is like also like "dgaf f~you" disrespectful? Or, focused on (a) goal(s)/cause(s)? Also... Something just came to me.. I find that things which bother me (which isn't really *that* often unless it's value/benefit/harm related &/or blatantly disrespectful) "snag" with me often. More often than not I can't exactly/satisfactorily say precisely why... Until I spend about a day mulling it (meaning my feelings: "why the/how *dare* they/why the f did I/am *I* tripping?" etc. Etc.) over and making sure all the options/points are exhausted & make 360degree sense to me. Then, I can communicate it clearly, firmly, Truthfully, & Respectfully. Otherwise.. The other options are become recluse, explode with "how dare you intentionally s#!t on my back & tell me it's snowing chocolate" logic & anger, or, make myself look like a fool by trying to write something without editing it... Or, by spending forever editing it LOL (though, writing does help). Is that an ISFP thing? Or, does that look/seem to you that I'm a different type altogether & in the grip or something? Your thoughts are valuable. Thanks in advance. Peace & Respect. PS.. Respect, Truth, Beauty, Clarity, Purpose, & Heart Logic are everything to me. Even when it doesn't appear that way. Or else... Why bother? PPS.. I do apologize if your comment is actually directed at me with respect to my type related comments (towards you). Never intentionally disrespectful. As you have probably intuited by now (whence reading my "PS" comment).

[@mbw6785]

WhoWillYouCallOnThen? Did you figure out your type?

[@sandradibiaso7316]

Would an ESFP and an ISFP make a good couple?

[@WonkelDee]

It’s not ideal

[@sandradibiaso7316]

@@WonkelDee It would be fun for awhile.

[@optimist-ri1439]

Umm, I don't know about that. But maybe great best friends. Me ISFP with ESFP best friend.

[@denisesiddon7241]

Maybe but esfp will be too noisy and active for them

[@milabellaful]

Lol @ truthy