How to handle the person who talks too much

As a group leader how do you manage a conversation that one person is dominating? In this video Craig explains and demonstrates a technique.
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[@breadleywheatler9242]

I like to turn 180 degrees and walk away from them.

[@helenalmonte4356]

I want to rate your comment and give it 10 out of 10 ⭐️ but I can only give it a 👍🏼

[@JediBunny]

Bahaha YES!

[@Florencethomas405]

I like the fact you use maths as a solution 😂

[@paulinamalek1788]

I feel like his first point of repeating back what the person said will make the person talk even more.

[@TacoMexxx]

Paulina Malek Oh it definitely would lol. It would make them repeat themselves and soak up all your energy 🤣

[@RaunakThomas]

Exactly

[@timalan333]

It will they need to shut the fuck up

[@Mindsetolympics]

👀👀👀👀

[@laleezy77]

Right..I'm not repeating anything...silence is KEY u don't want to encourage them! However that is a group setting ...one on one..I'm not saying anything

[@tactusmediacompany]

Gets into the presentation at 0:53

[@masonkirby9044]

This is a video about who talks to much.

[@a_little_distracted]

It's just a 3 min video.

[@persipina2008]

What if you are alone with that person and she goes on and on repeating the same damn thing!! So annoying!!!

[@tactusmediacompany]

1. Validate the comment 2. How to be a mediator 3. Allow others to get their chance to share - be a facilitator, make them feel heard Ways to validate: type comments on a wall

[@jane_7193]

Very intelligent and ethical way to deal with the situation. Tremendeous respect for you, Greg.

[@420los323]

There are employees who do not care about work. They are always talking about their problems that are outside. They don't care about work.

[@begitteolsen3784]

I am a " talker" and my colleagues simply tells me to shut up. :)

[@pnutbutterjilly]

this will help tremendously with my upcoming project - thank you!

[@MeekNotWeak77]

Thanks for this! Such useful information. I can see how this will work in the current situation I am facing.

[@ggstylz]

Nicely done! You’d want to hope however that they weren’t the only person in the room you were validating 😂.

[@Prog47]

just nod and say nothing

[@tjs-_goated7449]

Prog47 True but that's going to make them talk even more. I might be wrong but that happens to me lol

[@lostchildhood3179]

Savage_Aiimz-Tv same , you can‘t talk after 20 minutes

[@kristina_biblija]

That's literally my mom

[@t.y.6640]

Mine too 😭 And I hate myself for hating it but I just cannot DEAL.

[@davidwirth2716]

Repeat it back and end that topic , but then they go on to something else! Some people just can't help themselves!

[@truthreigns3465]

It is a serious mental problem is what it is

[@davidwirth2716]

@@truthreigns3465Torture for the listener , you have to have an exit plan in the future or you will be angry you wasted so much time. 😶

[@foreverraining1522]

What's even worse is the person who not only talks too much but digresses and talks about stuff that's not even related to the topic. I have such a short fuse for people like that. I regard them as mentally degenerate, so i'm not as nice with them as you are, but your approach seems very effective. I'll use it for this one misfit on my job. He gets into a meeting and won't stop talking. He'll talk for the whole hour if you let him.

[@tommyparkerparker]

I know a couple of people like that.

[@aylex1974]

" I have 5 min for you because I have to do something else" teachers what else?

[@ItsJustJavier33]

Had a phone call with someone and she talked for a good half an hour while I’m just sitting there hoping she finished her stories

[@jungleman4238]

This man knows his shiz

[@BrucexfromxCanada]

Twice I have had more to say in political meetings than time per person was allocated. In each case I had onyl about 15 seconds. In the first case the leader did much what you said. He knew me well enough to know that I had a real point if importance but also that I could easily come up with quite a detailed speech on the nature and details. As a result the point was minimally referred to and pssed on. Later, a chance t o post the details on the internet arise, and so I posted a detailed comment, referring to the original meeting and my 15 second comment. I was not truly comfortable about being only allowed 15 seconds for a subject that was truly large, germane to the general theme of the meeting and very complex, however I still did what I could as the chances arose. On the second political meeting on a different topic, when the "15 second timer" arose, My first comment was the trepidation caused by the shortness of a mere 15 seconds. Then, I "flagged" the sub-issue I had had in mind. I can psst on the internet in respect of many, many topics, in English, French or Spanish. Today, I think this is essential given the common constraints of time for all. However whether such comments will engender further dialogue of one sort or another may be the concern. If, when or where, this does not happen, it may be the harbinger of too many not caring much about anything but their own concerns, and even if there is a threqat in the offing, they may still be all too concerned about who is going to be the "hero" to solve the issue than whether the issue ever gets solved "before the barn door has to be loosed after the horse has fled." In smaller groups, sometimes people expect that, using an arbitrary number of 6 in thre group, each participant will have exactly one sixth of the speaking time. This is not always the best answer in true respect of the stated common interest of the group. If it turns out that one or 2 of the participants have a notably higher degree of de facto expertise that can be of help to the stated common interest, and the 1/6 rule is imposed, the group loses in respect of its stated interest. However if the real interests of the group are more social than productive, the underlying hypocracy is wasting a lot of time, and I, personally would prefer to have known the undertone explicitly and forthrightly before taking the trouble to participate. Since this all too often is less than explicitly forthright, I will want to know before entering, what is/are the circumstantial reasons supporting that common desire to deal with the original topic. Hence if I watch for the existence of groups, I may see many startups and many which have been around for some time, but I am really looking for those underlying circumstances that can drive the true stated interest, and a few practical details that might determine if or not I can get to the venue, and if it does not have a high cost attached. I may email the leader or organizer for some of the simpler questions if what I see up front is enough to show some sign of promise, otherwise I get all the life interaction I need to survive anyway.

[@nickss6990]

R. E. Bruce Martin Dude Jesus get to the point

[@BrucexfromxCanada]

Everyone knows that everything in nature is inter-related, but who ever thpught that meant that it was all inter-related within the paltry 3 contextual layers that one might often glean from most conversations. When one thinks out of the box, that box, which in reality is THEIR person al box., will grow in accordance and they with it1

[@steveinphillyswirl970]

R. E. Bruce Martin dude, do you ever stop? even your comment wouldn't stop

[@steveinphillyswirl970]

R. E. Bruce Martin are you insane? like, criminally insane?

[@thirtythreeflavors]

R. E. Bruce Martin I see what you did there.

[@truthreigns3465]

Teenage girls with ADHD can talk 16 hours non stop u til they literally shut down and go to sleep, I love it with my step daughter since she was 7 and she is 20 now and it still drives me insane and I can’t even be near her it’s just non stop all day and night

[@iamcrocodile3148]

LOL Fingers crossed that someone else will want to talk...

[@haroldfridkis9657]

I've encountered people at work who are like that. Anybody who talks too much is a "chatty Cathy"

[@tinkerbell2882]

Oh ok so acknowledge u heard them. then u can talk .ok ill try that today thanks .i was shutting him down but i want him not to shut me down too when he’s done airing out his shit

[@djde4th877]

you really think if you give someone 5 minutes they are gona stop at 4:59 good luck!

[@Lezahardy]

I’m sorry but this for my situation is BS! I’m a caregiver for a gentleman who has a freaking obnoxious daughter who pins me down for HER conversations where she will freaking talk non damn stop for at least 1 hour or more! She is known for doing this by many, family etc. I kid you not when I say CONSTANT NON STOP TALKING! When I leave her dads house my nerves are rattled! Sir, with all due respect, any advice is welcomed.

[@americablessgod1273]

Good job. That's very polite. Can you teach us how not to talk too much when we know a lot :-(. Help

[@beingofstrange]

if people want to know whatever garbage info you want to throw up at people, they would google it themselves. like you did.

[@katkatkat5]

@@beingofstrange that was a garbage reply. 🗣 🗑

[@katkatkat5]

Excuse me I’m so sorry but I do have a meeting to go to/errand to run/need to clean my cats litter box, have a good day

[@galacticrachel]

whos here because your mom nonstops talks russian in the middle of the night it gives me a headache

[@tjs-_goated7449]

I just got my first car and she keeps on going on and on and on and on about the rules to the road. Ughhh

[@galacticrachel]

lol

[@biggooeyyy]

u ignore themmmm

[@jackd105]

Chaicciarone

[@ZeeshanKhan-vc2cz]

My aunt take a lot I ignore

[@natashamudford4011]

Zeeshan Khan My mom... I avoid. I was hoping this video was more about family or friend difficulties, rather than the business world.

[@t.y.6640]

Natasha Mudford Same here, it’s my mom who talks too much.

[@biggooeyyy]

that’s itttt or u imitate them until they can’t take it

[@mortgagefinancing5558]

try not to walk forward and backward when you talk it displays insecurity ..for the most part good video though

[@beingofstrange]

most retarded comment on earth lmfao, talk about judgmental

[@SuperMichelleDJ]

Just tell them to shut up. You don't have to play their stupid games.

[@luxuryspacegaycommunism]

This is awful advice. So let me get this straight, somebody's been compulsively talking and complaining and the cure for this and the next step is to hear them out again? As if the decades of rambling and complaining weren't already enough. What, was all that torture just a warm up? How about we all get the balls to tell these people to STFU