How To Make Your Life Exciting Again | Mel Robbins

[@wendyd2572]

Holeeeey crap! Now I understand the meaning of “midlife crisis” from a scientific, relatable position. I get it now! And I’m smack dab in the middle of it. I have been reflecting on the last 5 decades of my life (54 year old divorced/single mama). I go by the decades and think what l was doing at each stage in life. And yes!!! 0-40 were exciting times. I traveled, I had a constant stream of close friends I did things with, learned from, shared ideas with .. and then 50 hit. And I feel sad, lonely, depressed a lot, uninspired, stuck … habituation has got me by mental vice. Thank you Mel for bringing this perspective to life and giving me that awareness that I needed to break out of the mundane “habits” and get back to my old curious, adventurous, free spirited self. Love you girl! If we were neighbors we’d be picking flowers and berries and adventuring together 😊

[@Bluejewels422]

@@wendyd2572 totally hear you! 46, divorced and wondering what my second half of life is all about…

[@maryannsipat3295]

This ❤

[@genefernandez6778]

Wooow! I am not alone. I am divorce, living with my children. I am wondering what about my life.

[@fatimasmiggen6497]

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[@morenahlatshwaya]

Definitely we are in the same page of life and I was wondering if you can my friend?

[@mallorygraf8574]

The first 30 years of my life were filled with so much family drama and sadness...esp first 20 years due to my parents divorce and their subsequent horrible life choices that affected my sisters and me. The unpredictability of those decisions never made me feel safe or secure and there was no routine other than the fact that someone would be drunk later that day. All this to say that due to my NOT boring childhood, I welcome routine, calmness into my life with open arms at my age of 62!

[@lb1798]

Same. When people say..."What did you do over the weekend?" and I can say...my weekend was uneventful....THAT WAS A GREAT WEEKEND FOR ME😊👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾‼️

[@jamieraegro]

I'm 65. Friends say they've never seen me so happy. Find your passion. Do what you like to do

[@rainforestblessed5031]

Yes!!!

[@jomartin6209]

I'm feeling you.

[@danawright8306]

I saw this post that said, commit to try 8 new things a month. 8 is a lot but I love and enjoying the challenge. And no I'm not bored. So even when I have nothing to do, I have new memories which keeps me happy. Planned trips, leaves room for excitement to come!

[@jtedder2489]

I’ve started putting this to work. Instead of going to our lake house and raking all weekend I signed up for a pontoon boat bird watching tour and a kayak bird watching tour at the Audubon Grebe Festival in August. I also signed up for a few 4 hour bus tours through our community college to SF Fleet Week, Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Festival, and Dickens Fair at the SF Cow Palace. Totally out of my introverted comfort zone but my weekends have to become more than housecleaning and grocery shopping.

[@elsamorales3350]

Good 4 you, I’m trying to do same thing.. get out , n do exciting things.. going to strawberry festival in few weeks.. 😊😀

[@Unathi_Sithole]

Mel Robbins single handedly changing my life is my highlight of 2024.❤️🇿🇦

[@Bluejewels422]

Explains a lot about being bored and the monotony of everyday life and relationships.

[@mayatasa]

Oh my God, this is exactly how I feel about my life !! I am so happy for this episode,because now I realize I'm not alone and it's not all in my head, like my husband says, it's real. And thank you for acknowledging it and giving me ways to pep things up. Mel , your podcasts make me feel so normal , thank you.❤

[@Hanna-fu1gb]

I love what you did with your husband!! Sleep in a tent under the stars and the full moon,wow!! Yeah its the small things thats make the big changes! We travel alot with our 4 kids, small and big ones and thats make life more exciting!!❤

[@MauiJOY]

When I was a flight attendant, my love life with my husband was great..so glad to see him after being 3 days away...when I took early retirement, we divorced after just 8 months as I realized he cleaned the house in anticipation of my coming home that now became MY task along with so many other things including me noticing actually how he was not present when he drank everyday. He was not a violent drunk, just absent...no initiation of new or fun...This is making me understand it even more and validate my feelings that by my being away, having my own adventures then returning...things did "re-sparkled" LOL Perhaps we need to all create some real changes from routines.

[@mysweetlife388]

I am on holidays solo. I have a great deal of time to reflect on my life. I have also made some definite decisions to add sparkle to my life when I get back.

[@AprilMay-s8e]

That’s great! I need this!

[@ChristopherClyde12]

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

[@ChristopherClyde12]

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being

[@ChristopherClyde12]

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

[@giorgiaw]

You can't make somebody love you. People change. Love yourself. Look after yourself it will get easier Think of it as the start of a new chapter in your life. You need to be happy for her and move on and start to live your life. You need to let go . It may be hard, but live your life instead of existing and focus on your future . Be happy.

[@michellelessner6477]

My midlife has had me move across the country from east coast to the desert if Phoenix escaping a financial, emotional and physically abusive relationship. I'd rather live alone (with my son) in the desert experiencing new things here! It's the best time of my life!!

[@felisasolares7311]

Anticipation as part of real happyness. Antoine de Exupry said it beautifully.. "If I know I'll be seeing you on Friday, I'll be happy since monday" ❤❤❤

[@sallyje720]

Mel, I love your KZbin videos. I've listened to you for a long time. I always download the workbooks but sometimes I have to step away. I feel like sometimes and this is just me. It becomes all about Mel and her accomplishments. And like I said I love you. You have a great message. Pat, yeah I think it takes away from that. When you know I don't know that's just me. I turned to Oprah and I listen to her and her love and kindness for other people and it just resets my soul. But I appreciate your your videos. They give me real factual information

[@lynnmichelle5482]

I actually don't habituate to beautiful views, each time I'm on holiday, by the sea, in nature, every time I look out I feel so joyful and inspired by the view, so grateful that I'm there. I could never get bored by a beautiful place ❤

[@gamacaluso]

This was wonderful…. I’m excited for the changes 🎉❤ Love you Mel

[@mariosiaven2965]

We 50's and up are usually caught up in the daily rut and often times seeing the neighbor's grass getting greener by the day, so it makes a lot of sense to get accustomed to break the daily patterns we have been acting out for the better part of our lives like it is presented here, i'm looking to put most of the advice given here into practice see how it comes along for the betterment of us a late 50s couple soon to be empty nesters and hopefully happily retired with these tidbits in place for a better thankfully day to day shot at life

[@Mandragoraever]

Our society is so much spoiled that we started complaining about simple and stable things and looking for a constant excitement

[@ValerieLadner]

Wow love this. I have been complaining to my husband about our mid life being “rinse and repeat”.

[@micaelagarcia3251]

Right! Same here with my boyfriend. It was so different before we moved in together

[@rosemaryd284]

At least you know what marriage would be like. 😅

[@jamieraegro]

😂😊

[@LocasMindset]

Bravo!! Well said! Midlife can be a time when we stop learning and growing as much. Sure, a lot of changes happen around us, but they're often driven by external factors rather than our own thoughts. Think about it! as kids, everything we do is spontaneous, but as adults, our actions become more about deliberate choices.

[@elenagvobornik1531]

I love you Mel, good morning 😃, Thank you for your support. I’m in the point of where I go to sleep by 4 pm, have no desire to do anything else, I work and get stuff done but I just feel like I am not caring or don’t have a purpose anymore.

[@maryannsipat3295]

Soo me😅

[@juliebee61]

ive always embraced change, and now i know why. stagnation is boring! I'm so ready for new adventure and i want to move. My husband, however.....

[@AprilMay-s8e]

Same here!

[@annikahirvonen]

This episode was amazing! Thank you!

[@Thegrowingparent]

6 years in marriage and for the first time, we will be going to a nearby city for vacation.. this message came at the right time, i have the vocabulary for what I’ve been going through “midlife crisis’”😢 looking forward to the exciting family get away and I hope we come back rejuvenated and not stressed with 2 kids ❤

[@janemarshall316]

Wow why so long to take a vacation?? We usually get away for 2 weeks at a time 3 or 4 times a year! Not always together but also with friends, family etc.. could not imagine not having a life without adventures!

[@roxanne9681]

😅

[@VeronicaVeeTV]

I completely get it. I understand it because I lived it. Those who walked it, are the ones that dont need an explanation about your circumstances, because we're too excited for the hi5 we're giving you, when you finally do arrive at your goal ❤!!! I'm giving you all the cyber hi5s 🎉👏 You did that!❤ I don't know you. But mother to mother... Human to human... I'm hella proud of you for keeping the goal alive! Many give up! LORD KNOWS I almost did as well. Especially when multiple tragedies hit. It feels like our wants will never happen. But it's happening, because you pushed! That counts for so much ❤ Congrats! I hope you RELISH in that vacay bliss!

[@SuzanneJahn]

So habituation is new to my vocabulary but wow it explains so much ❤ so if you get used to the smell or mess you don’t see smell it or see it anymore. Here is the solution I’ve found go visit someone else’s house whether it is cleaner or messier. Either way will open your nose and eyes to the smell and clutter. I help seniors with cleaning their homes. The homes Are in a variety of different states so it shows me motivation to be happy with what I have.

[@simplyputcrochet]

Excellent message today, thank you Mel! Definitely going camping.

[@juliebee61]

@@simplyputcrochet camping cures a lot of stuff!

[@jerleanli1513]

Love this , it makes so much sense , something to be aware of moving forward . Thank you 🥰

[@EmeraldPath2]

I have been watching your podcasts regularly for quite some time. I took a break for nearly a month, and now I'm back. "Re-sparkled"

[@mariehaverty8209]

I bodered my mind about silly things as soon as I got this things changed. It so simple just do different. You’ll be glad you did, it works. Thank you gorgeous woman, 👩 ❤

[@denisem543]

Thanks! I liked this. Yay for camping 😊

[@darnitthelma4247]

I avoided partying from 25-42 to bring up my children but wow a couple of weekends where I actually said yes to meeting friends and letting my hair down made me realise I am more than mum! I am still fun & I am not “old”❤😂🎉

[@michelled.3849]

Yes! Sunday around 4:00 totally sucked because ugh…work or school the next day.

[@nolitaorallo786]

I totally love it! Experimenting new things to make life exciting and more creative. Let us all do it❤

[@Emarinaturals]

I absolutely enjoyed this episode. It makes so much sense now thinking about it . I’m excited to include new routes and routines into my days ❤❤❤

[@LindaSevers]

I guess that explains why staying home with a hoard of children is SO rewarding! Every day is its own surprising adventure. 😊

[@MariaBanholzer]

Thank you, merci! So inspiring!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@martamitchelldesigns]

The colour thing is crazy! 18:25

[@veredmishler9676]

Mel is the Best !!!

[@kristenalbert2012]

So many great messages. Loved this!

[@samFrit]

Lovely, thank you so much Mel.

[@deziraewilliams7985]

That test is trippy! Even the yellow in Mel Robbin's logo disappeared for me. 😮

[@inangelskeeping]

I loved this’ and helped me try something new! I’ve booked onto an oracle card class so I can learn a new skill and get my YT channel up and running ❤ also camping with the kids… and a trip away with husband so we can enjoy the first 72 hours! ❤❤love you Mel x

[@polyglotmona]

Thank you so much for these explanations. That really helped me understand why I love my new lifestyle 👍

[@mikebirnie6381]

Ideas? You Mel...love you...and what a great night!...love yiur guest speaker Dr Sharron...so insightful and i inspirational ...blessings

[@kristinhillegas8976]

Good morning Mel! I am listening to this episode as I am picking blueberries. This makes so much sense and so simple, thank you, explains why I like variety! Maybe I’ll make blueberry muffins instead of blueberry pancakes !💟

[@paulabecker7483]

I was picking Blueberries and listening also❤

[@sdeonmahadeo2594]

Excellent episode

[@Mel-y4l]

The color thing makes so much sense. Love it

[@aldonakloczko]

Excellent info.

[@michelled.3849]

Distance makes the heart grow fonder

[@CintiaOliveira-h2i]

I agree these moments are really cool, I'd like to feed my family properly but I'm currently unemployed 😢

[@brettturpin8692]

Wow! Absence makes the heart grow fonder

[@sylviescopazzo2445]

Really great podcast!!

[@indirajayaraman4758]

Great ideas to implement.

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

Sex life - if you've had libido checked by doc or that's not your issue, it could be that you're exhausted or feeling under valued by your partner, or your partner doesn't bother to make it pleasurable for you

[@nadezhdaegorova8979]

Thank you very much for another cool guest 🙂 Nadia from Russia , Yakutia.

[@Gypsy218]

Fits in with happiness set point as well

[@bernadettelampman6394]

Loved it

[@samaralaliaabzu2837]

I get a ton of that variety on this podcast!

[@Jones8orejas]

I loved this episode. I watched it whie I cleaned my house.

[@celiasantos5563]

Love you Mel! Great staff ❤

[@Melodie007]

Another good one Mel

[@SherryTomlinson-r2y]

I am living in a tent due to mycotoxins in the house. The school in this neighborhood has basketball court. Got me a basketball. I am 68.. lol change is a necessary . Mom told me native Americans never stayed in the same spot. Always up rooting

[@shereenmcac]

Mel, thank you for these episodes. They are so informative and amazing. I have a life story I would like to share with you. Is there a way to contact you? Thanks

[@ValentinaLukjanceva-fl6dp]

Thank you. You explain why my new job became bored

[@clara3322]

Interesting about creativity at the end!

[@Rosesnflowers7]

I broke my shoulder so here am I and I'm looking inward

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

Motivation

[@jmduboncifuentes]

What does it mean if the black sign doesn't go away?

[@veredmishler9676]

I wish my husband would be open for this !!! I am so ready to do something different with him . Does it have to be me planning it?

[@darnitthelma4247]

Plan together you have to both be happy ❤

[@patuxenthistory6410]

I have a brain injury. I don't think I'm unhappy but can't feel excited or ever get beyond a flat mood.

[@Gypsy218]

Shes being simplistic, theres so much more involved in wanting something someone else has, also people are not all the same in terms of their need for novelty.

[@jimivane5095]

It’s a jumping off point.

[@veredmishler9676]

I wish my husband would be open for this !!!

[@tammys1111]

I’m almost 50 and I love owls. I would totally do that Mel lol

[@Moongirl68]

Makes me think of that old saying “Variety is the spice of life”.

[@Reactswithwater]

Gosh not me the anxiety I experience before the unknown is awful. I am much happier just getting up and doing spit of the moment trips. If it was on a calendar or planned ahead I hate it. Same with weekends yes I enjoy not working but I have so much to get done so I don’t look forward to it.

[@Gypsy218]

I was just thinking that, the day before I'm a wreck with packing, etc. But far enough away I'm both excited and nervous

[@natsR87]

At 37, could i be in a "midlife crises"? Because im definitely in this habitual bore and its causing major problems for me in my marriage and myself 😢😢😢

[@Georginape862]

I'm enrolling in nutrition classes now!! 😂

[@Giant_Little_World]

We should all watch videos on youtube of children life in thirld world countries, then we'll appreciate our life much more 😢

[@ziyandamaphini4722]

I always have anxiety for Monday on Sundays..

[@AprilMay-s8e]

Hi Mel! I need to get a job at my old age 😂 47 years old but i have no work experience as i was a stay home mom 😭 any advice?

[@JB-gt5ws]

Office assistant

[@trudykrieling88]

Maybe you need to just become your boss. I am sure you got all the life experience to do it. KZbin and find out what you can do. There are many women who started late and made a success.

[@louferguson7048]

Start an in home daycare! So many people would rather do that than a nursery. You have a lot to offer!!! Believe in yourself!!!

[@omshreevidya626]

Network marketing 😍

[@AprilMay-s8e]

@@omshreevidya626what is it?

[@hideosuzuki3609]

Economics 101 coming back to me lol law of diminishinal return

[@kaycholly326]

Dr sharron... Its ideal not idear i never seen a r in the word idea?

[@sassysandie2865]

😂 She’s probably from the East Coast. They have that accent.

[@DebAllen-y9c]

FYI Some accents put an r at the end of a word that ends in an a. Example- Some Brits say Moner instead of Mona.

[@mikebirnie6381]

Did you get her message...or were you focused on IdeaR?

[@rainforestblessed5031]

Well, the cross Stayed black to me. Maybe it greys easily for extraverts who need constant external stimulation.

[@michelled.3849]

So the The huge change in my life should be great!?

[@kristikiser8762]

❤

[@sillyenne7071]

So… the nullifying effect of a constant, prolonged or frequent exposure to a positive stimulus

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

Is it anticipation for the weekend, or dread for the week ahead. I mean, today, most people hate their jobs

[@rozdevin2468]

You're forgetting about the reason older people aren't running around and living life- Their bodies can't do what they use to.

[@marelizbella1586]

😊

[@Rfe_Music_official]

What about the thought "I'm boring" everything I do I just think I'm boring after all😔😔

[@rocioruiz5622]

No I think you just need too find ppl that like the same things you like !!! ❤

[@mr2nut123]

At 1:19, if I were to publicly announce my guess on what you tried last night, I would be abolished from KZbin 🐒😂 Good morning Mel!

[@JB-gt5ws]

I was going to guess- made Mexican street corn lol

[@mr2nut123]

@@JB-gt5ws 👀😆

[@Honestprop]

If you need a video editor am here lol 😊

[@affiongarchibong6668]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@bethlove5757]

Oh Lordy, no thank you. I want boredom, nothingness, and a baked potato for dinner.

[@loujon191]

Not me

[@ritawomack7864]

Hell yeah la Luna motel

[@DrAlTaie]

It kept being black and I never seen gray.

[@downhomegirl5]

We spend our whole life trying to get comfortable but then we get there our now grown kids move out & take their stuff & your things too because they are entitled brats. You adjust from your kids treating you awful & basically like a floormat.. and start to crawl all over again.

[@sassysandie2865]

This might explain cheating….

[@sallykeates8096]

I enjoyed this podcast episode but did not enjoy so many adverts?!?! Mel Robbins why do you do this - it makes it hard to follow along with so many breaks! I think I counted 10 at least! Come on, please do better for your viewers and not just look at how much money you can make

[@jimivane5095]

I got no adverts. I think it’s from your end, if u have YT premium or not. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@sassysandie2865]

Julia Robert’s “privileged??” Maybe she worked hard for what she has. Is this doctor “woke?”

[@loujon191]

Privilege just means she has opportunities others don’t which is true. It doesn’t mean she didn’t earn those opportunities