how to never feel shy again

[@parkachu00]

the bob ross of self help dropped another banger 🔥

[@MayaTalhouni]

Spot-on comparison!

[@poojalohumi1598]

Mad accurate

[@chrike01]

Killer description

[@lonestarr1490]

That's so typical! Guy changes his look slightly by growing two centimeters of hair on his head and people immediately start mocking him. /j

[@MayaTalhouni]

@@lonestarr1490 i didn’t really understand it like that, i believe what was meant is his presentation and explanation style is easy to follow and comforting, like Bob Ross 😅

[@ophelia5547]

I’ve been thinking lately that maybe I’m not actually shy, but because everyone around me has been saying that my entire life I just started acting like one

[@benwherlock9869]

Yeah if people tell me I'm quiet I tend to get even quieter.

[@ophelia5547]

@ literally! Especially if they mean my voice like if you can’t hear me I’m just gonna shut up

[@francisco646]

You can overcome it. Who you want to be shouldn’t be held back by your fear of what people expect out of you. Hopefully people tell that to you in a loving way.

[@ophelia5547]

@@francisco646 that's true, but considering where I live I think it's better for me to keep acting like that around people here

[@universeslap]

Well, I'm also naturally quieter and more sensitive to loud sounds and people are calling me shy. I like to think about myself as more deliberate, but it still annoys me, that many people are considering me to be weak, because of it. I value sensitivity and observance more than power and realization probably.

[@thech8zen1]

One day I was at work and just had an awakening. I looked at all of the customers in line and was like "all these people look nervous and awkward. " It was the first time I realized that it wasn't just me and it's a normal feeling.

[@lonestarr1490]

That's called sonder. Sonder describes the (moment of) realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own. I get this every now and then while on the train. I look around at all the other people and suddenly everyone appears to be trying hard to stay in a role they haven't got the script for.

[@recklessnotion1899]

​@@lonestarr1490​​ Sonder is also a great song by a band named Northlane ;)

[@chen-gongfu]

​@lonestarr1490 your comment made me smile. 😊 very true and relatable. Thank you!

[@anotherspirit8897]

Sonderbar

[@thech8zen1]

@@lonestarr1490 Yeah, it definitely happens way more often when I'm traveling.

[@GeorgeDimovelis]

My main problem was that social interactions were incredibly draining really fast. The way i fixed it is literally to become as chill as possible, tell myself that even if this interaction goes awkward it doesnt really change anything when i go home again. With this mindset i was able to feel myself genuienly laughing, having fun, and i could be with others for hours without getting tired. I know this may sound like a magical fix, but its really ALL IN YOUR MIND

[@MikZran]

I was once at an event where several people were rich and powerful in some industry I know absolutely nothing about. Since I had no idea who these people were, I ended up having really nice conversations with people that everyone else was afraid to talk to, haha. So you're right about how not putting people on a pedestal does work.

[@Freeman1000000]

Being shy isn't such a big deal, but being a coward-that's the real issue. I know this from experience, because I've spent my whole life as a coward, especially when it comes to interacting with others, particularly women. I could list countless moments when I knew exactly what I should say or do, but as a coward, I couldn't bring myself to act-even when I knew for a fact that the girl I was interested in was into me.

[@dpistons149]

Damn bro dont be so hard on yourself.

[@abraxas_x]

That's shyness indeed...

[@HoboGardenerBen]

Ah yes, my life, lol. Also gotten past it sometimes and gotten the girl. All the sweeter for the main awkward failures. That said, I am not smooth, more awkward failures still to come but I'm more ok with it :)

[@Sbs2134binth]

literally, the best thing that could happen to youtube. please never stop making content

[@Zelta.]

wake up babe new newel of knowledge video dropped

[@LordWickett]

bloody nice! A helpful thing for me was to never pull out my phone when in a social environment. Because the phone is like a save guard for the fear of feeling shy. Once you put that save guard down, you are open for new situations, as well as the opportunity to proof yourself that you will survive any social interaction.

[@toille951]

Love your attitude and how you attack the problem in multiple ways, probably the video on this subject I've taken the most out of 🙌

[@ReadySetReddit1]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="280">4:40</a> was a great addition to the video. It’s like a family guy cutaway kind of thing, which is great because I love those😂

[@swoop93]

unironically your vids have got me out of my self-destructive state, even managed to start a band at my campus. keep doing what you're doing brother 🔥

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

I WANT FRONT ROW TICKETS TO YOUR FIRST PERFORMANCE AT THE O2 ARENA IN LONDON.

[@pepegthepig]

@@NewelOfKnowledge NOW THAT'S MOTIVATION. HOLY!

[@eliesnguessan]

Im 20 and I am autistic. Applying your advice has improvedmy social life massively. You are a G thank you.

[@kevinsaysyuh]

All good things come to an end, but do know that with this channel you are doing miracles. There are people in this world with issues of self-esteem and past traumas, and information such as this one is behind a paywall like therapy and you are here giving this out for free. I'm glad to have come across your channel throughout my lifetime.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Kevin, I'm glad to have you here brother. Thank you for your words. LET'S CONTINUE FORTH TOGETHER.

[@lorenbeverly4007]

Good belly laugh from the jumping off a cliff sequence. Very relatable. The lack of dialogue between the two was spot on!

[@kokoado]

Trust me, I've talked to other people, and they've showed how much they didn't want to be bothered/talked to by me

[@kevinsaysyuh]

There is the exception and they do exist, they are just fucked up and sadly there are bad apples in life. Sometimes its just the circle you have around, it is hard to go out of that circle into a new one, but you know what? If you never leave the old circle, you will never meet the new. And you will regret never trying! A bit of courage and an open mind is all it takes. -Said by a guy who does not know how he would act in that situation. Best regards. Note: Self-improve, we are materialistic as a species and it is OK, look and be approachable!

[@snoozyq9576]

Me too. It's not the exception. It's really common

[@CloneUnit-sq2vs]

U just couldnt get them to match ur vibe dw there will be other opportunities

[@jamad-y7m]

So what are you gonna let them bother you? Are you going to stop being happy because other people aren’t happy?

[@paololigori]

We are social animals. As long as you don't center the convo on yourself/ say something offensive the problem is on them. Also the west is fucked up

[@hypatch8014]

Bruh the way this guy lays out everything makes me feel incredibly incompetent in my abilities, I've been working on my social anxiety for a couple of years, and I feel like such an idiot that I've not overcome it yet

[@Lin1Lin2Lin3Lin4]

It makes sense that you feel that way because you're so close to your problems. They can be all you see. The fact that you're willing to share your experience speaks to your openess, though. That's admirable

[@xavalintm]

Keep working on it man, you'll get there. There's a lot of people who are not even able to recognize it.

[@emlyo1c2u]

Well.. I have read tons of philosophy and psychology books for YEARS just to say something meaningful in moments like this and.. I can't think of anything😅.. Guess we are all shit at something we really want haha🙏🏻🫂

[@Quodergo]

I appreciate you noting "not in an egotistical way." It's always estranging to pull upon a healthy ego to bolster yourself, and I'd gotten into a vicious cycle of correcting myself back and forth between feeling narcissistic or pathetically shy. It took a while, but I realized that we're acceptable the way we are.

[@gringoperry]

i like the occasional bits of humour you place into your videos. it makes me feel more connected to you and thus makes me more open to new ideas. thank you for existing man, you have helped me out so much. thank you.

[@90Gunni]

This is honestly the most practical, precise and clear video on this subject I have ever seen!

[@anthonyleslie1643]

When I qualified as a newly licensed skydiver I certainly felt a lot of shyness as the new guy on the dropzone. What you said about putting others on pedestals certainly resonated as I'd ask myself "why would an experienced skydiver want to jump with me ? ". After turning up and doing the occasional solo jump a few times I realized I'd have to open up to people. I noticed that other people were in the exact same predicament so anyone that was there alone I made my way over and said hello and introduced myself and they were delighted. It is comical that there are people out there that are less anxious about throwing themselves out of a plane than starting a conversation with someone new. Excellent channel by the way.

[@Kn0wOneNos3]

On paper it really does seem absurd to not fear jumping from a plan but be afraid to talk to a stranger for any reason. But good on you for getting over both of those fears. 👍👍

[@anthonyleslie1643]

@@Kn0wOneNos3 Thank you. Fears so much of the time are absurd and can be funny to look back on when we get over them.

[@ShannaCat]

I really appreciate the way you communicate. It feels like a conversation with a friend. I always want to joke right along with and answer your questions like we’re just too chums chatting.

[@amurense]

🖤 after 3 years in therapy for agoraphobia, social anxiety & mutism (unable to speak) i got diagnosed with AvPD; this is literally how I feel in groups ! i hope someday i can apply myself & make friends haha

[@pleasurestrategist]

Omg love that analogy “buyer vs. seller”!!! GOLD!! Holy shit that really helped me shift ❤🎉

[@homsthoughts]

This man is a blessing

[@Kn0wOneNos3]

Just one minute in and I already wanna give a thumbs up. From someone who has wasted thousands of hours watching a kajillion KZbin videos since its inception and who waits to give thumbs up until the video is over 99% of the time, it's kind of a big deal. So yes, I am special and you should feel honored. 😂J/k man, awesome video!

[@drestotv4444]

I'm so glad I found you mate. When the pupil is ready the teacher will appear

[@slushyized]

I love the simple classical way you always deliver your videos!

[@calculatedrush]

You're creating an insane amount of value. I'm excited to be here as history is created

[@trishayable]

I used to be very shy and very socially anxious where rarely left the house. I couldn't even speak without stuttering or look people in the eyes when chatting with people. Then I used alcohol to help me cope and became an alcoholic, which helped me get out of my shell, but after all the terrible experiences I've had with people I've met in my drinking days, I'm back home being a recluse avoiding social contact outside my immediate family. I'm still pretty shy and socially anxious, but I'm more jaded and tired of people's stupid bs and easily see right through them, but at least I can carry a conversation and crack jokes with anyone now.

[@j20py56]

A lot of this stuff felt like a review of The Like Switch by Jack Schafer. Good stuff!

[@rawanben-nakhi1130]

Thank you Mr. so much! “I know labels are for food” but really I am really a shy person. I think it’s because I have so much love in me towards people or sometimes the need for them to love me that if revealed it would either misunderstood or humiliating. I need this shyness to hide this pathology 😅

[@Lexusinator]

Really appreciate you and what you are doing! Your engagement and hard work should not be taken for granted! :)

[@bethanypratt2658]

This is very timely! I've got a Christmas party coming up that I had been feeling nervous about.

[@rosario_sonhador]

so helpful, I hope you know you're always helping us bro, may you find happiness in doing it !

[@martyfraser9648]

Newel of knowledge always seems to drop a banger when you need it most ❤️

[@klararychtarcikova964]

so interesting. can you do one about public speaking? i usually get so stressed about it that i genuinely black out & regain consciousness about 5 mins after & i'm haunted by flashbacks of all the things i could have said better if i wasn't so stressed lol

[@mirzatabib]

God knows how much i like you in your videos😂 pure positive and fun energy for me while i watch. Thanks man🙏🏻

[@JennWatson]

Much love to the best teacher in the whole world !!! Thank you for all you do! ❤

[@Miminaysmn]

Love your videos, like always :) I used to be very shy but now I love socializing, I always end up overthinking and regretting it, so it's really nice to know that I've probably helped someone feel better about their embarrassment haha

[@GailsOfLaughter]

Hi mr.! I really really appreciate your video on overcoming shyness! I was just worrying how I'm going to carry out the client meetings for a new account when I haven't had much exposure doing client meetings. The one who previously handled the account was very much like the person you described: relaxed, shows empathy, very human. I'm working towards becoming like that and your video has sparked inspiration in me. Thank you thank yoi very much mr!

[@luchaostar]

thanks bro, love your content ❤

[@hlebus228]

thank you SO MUCH for your videos! they have been a great help! also thank you for being a cool and inspiring human being

[@srak7747]

this channel is really great thanks for making videos about these topics helps a lot 🙌

[@poltergeistbingo9144]

You're always so sensible and helpful :)

[@favOriTe-v6e]

my favorite event of the month is ordering sushi and watching your videos

[@sarxux]

This is literally my favorite video on youtube

[@amensoul1242]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="282">4:42</a> u saved my day man :3

[@milkssiah]

great video, love that you give useable examples of what to say and do. Much easier than trying to interpret someone's words. Keep em coming

[@PatternBreakerTarot]

Busted! Love you, Newel!! 😂😂😂

[@chayapanchayapan243]

Yep..not just you. Everytime I see a cliff or on a high ground

[@jamad-y7m]

The call of the void

[@katiek9017]

Thank you for this one. Keep em coming🫶🏻

[@TroyMarch-up8yp]

Eyy, first viewer! Appreciate the content as always mate

[@D201-s2u]

Banger. So succinct and helpful.

[@ajhmate]

Love the videos - this one is particularly great. Sidenote - bring the buzzcut back. It was elite.

[@nnamdiuzoigwe9512]

Bro your videos are so helpful to me…Thanks for all you do…watching from Nigeria

[@_ycovers_]

I discovered this channel today, and it's certainly the best thing that happened to me in a week✨

[@rwaneuin6259]

Wow, I really needed that. Thanks.

[@mbh8621]

This is a great channel. Thanks

[@mylostmarble]

Thank you :) So much gold in this!

[@Jory-gw3cn]

You are so amazing I can’t believe how we have the same brain and how u come up wi all of these brilliant and bright idea thank u ❤

[@GogosUTube]

Thanks! I appreciate all of your content

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

@GogosUTube thank you :) that’s very kind of you. I appreciate you 🫶🏻

[@rjleatherworks]

Not just you. One of us!

[@andrewcox4324]

Absolutely brilliant!! 😃

[@PandaBeatBrothers]

Hello, Guy! I'm new subscriber, from the first video and this is my second. (also english is my second language) just want to say I love your style of presentation! Whiteboard and solid prep of topic! Ride on!

[@Korrosve]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="272">4:32</a> dont worry mate youre not alone

[@TheOfficialAndrew44]

i absolutely love your videos man

[@valca3867]

thank you, so clear and easy to understand and help me so much!

[@akshitsingh3838]

I'm so glad I subscribed to your channel Lewis. It's exactly what I needed since a long time from a self help youtube channel

[@Igor-m6v4q]

Love your videos! Always eager to see a new one.

[@ddemaine]

Thanks

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

thank you :)

[@Flo2]

thank you for this message❤

[@Gapetz]

commenting to stay on this channel

[@lorenbeverly4007]

Alan watts quote for the win!!! Major ups

[@Lin1Lin2Lin3Lin4]

"Babe! Get over here! Newel of knowledge dropped another video!"

[@doramy9689]

After this video most generic self-help content appeared in recommendations. I'm eternally happy I found this gem among all the junk

[@SynthWeaver]

Great one!

[@alitaghizadeh6155]

Of course im a shy person but i genuinely think i dont belong to any group of people, yet again still manage to communicate with them

[@fugu404]

I needed to hear this. Thank you Lewis.

[@frogetaboutit]

Genuinely enjoyed this video and the practical advice, though I spent a lot of it wanting to pin notes to your vest.

[@NelsonGuedes]

I wish I could remember more. This stuff could be really useful at tbe right time. Lost count of how many good videos I watched and how many good books I have read and it's a struggle to remember 😕

[@Luisa12718]

How is the timing of your videos always perfect😂

[@DaGleese]

Uncanny timing, I've got a presentation tomorrow

[@ms.suzylee2932]

Yes! I just want to say that I always thought a dry erase board in a counseling situation would be useful and fun! So to see it being used is very cool indeed. There's something to be said about writing it out, or drawing it and discussing it that is very helpful! You can stay on track then step back and see where your heads at or your story you're wrapped up in! Cheers to The visual thinkers I was invited to a graduation party and I was all anxious prior and the day of as usual I told myself repeatedly, "this isn't about you" it is about a friend's son who was graduating You're going to support her and him for this momentous moment And it got me there However I will admit that the mum has made remarks about bringing ppl around her friends that wld say the wrong things implying it wld make her look bad 🤨 You know, how you have to cut a piece of your soul to fit in the "group" The group dine on the individual for sport! I did the Irish goodbye said nothing and split just defated several hours later after putting my best foot forward Which may not have been the coolest but it seemed fucked up to be like ok bye. I'm out, it's been nice. So i got my mindshift there and socialzed But then it just was like ppl i was thinking it wld be nice to see and talk to making it feel like I was pulling teeth and it was not "mutual" which I think popped my energy bubble I mean obviously i could override this and just yammered away but I wasn't in that mindset It takes two Only when someone's trying can another person be resistant if you know what i mean, if that person didn't try there wld be nothing to resist And i get we toy with resistant energy and its a habit and just cause you're trying to change it up doesn't mean anyone else is Like when one person is friendly another can be their normal recoiling shutting down, not interested energy type self Its not about you!its not about you. But you better bring it and deliver! I just bought a comedy ticket and a Christmas circus ticket at the local theater One ticket because it was less stressful to me then asking someone or bringing another into it!? I'm going to be using the yeah so what mindset/ attitude hopefully i live to tell the tale! And im not killed by the masses for showing up singular If you're more passive asserting is like some muscle you have to suddenly build and it takes mad energy and ppl will perceive you as "aggressive" Its like we are supposed to be enjoying this very personal experience while what, taking nothing personal! 🥴 Cheers! Appreciate you and your thghtful content! Humans are tricky little buggers! 😉

[@ddreaug526]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="56">0:56</a> plag? Plagiarism? Freud? Freudian slip?

[@taylorkeller3661]

Absolute fire as always!! 💯💯💯

[@Sharlice87]

Fantastic video. Thank you!

[@kntbemad]

thank you for these videos :)

[@eiversonperez8915]

Always fully watching these🤩

[@infirite72]

The goat😊

[@lolasigal]

Thank You.

[@Eraserhead1995]

So helpful thanks

[@ajay6002]

My latest character development just dropped

[@yazandar6952]

Love to see lews hair grows in the thumbnails

[@cynthiabauer5763]

I'll try this but it's frustrating how everyone else seems to so easily keep talking for hours and having fun and laughing and becoming "best friends" while I have to make an effort to get someone to talk to me and keep the conversation going...

[@niloofarojani]

Helpful as always✨

[@green3487]

Thank you man with soothing voice and cool moustache. This was very informative ☺

[@seenochasm7101]

thank you 🙏

[@saintarcturus]

The information you’re sharing is excellent-I really enjoy your content! However, I feel like the visuals could be improved. I particularly liked the video you did on How to Discipline Yourself. The setting in that video was more engaging and visually appealing compared to your current setup with the whiteboard. If you want to use the whiteboard, maybe try incorporating a more dynamic or visually interesting background like the one from that video. It would make the learning experience more enjoyable and immersive. Keep up the great work!

[@jimh4072]

I always thought I was shy - but now I think I just can’t stand most people. 😂