How to Overcome Self-Doubt | Mel Robbins | SUCCESS

[@lauradenoves8576]

While listening to this I was thinking about Nelson Mandela's story of when he was on a propeller plane, and one of the engines goes out, others start to panic, and even though he is aware of the danger, he continues to read his newspaper as if nothing is wrong, which has a calming effect on the rest of the passengers. After they safely land, he says to a friend, "Man, I was terrified up there!" but his actions reflected what he wanted out of life, to be a great leader.

[@scooterlovya]

✊🏿

[@cosmasmundiya8102]

I always say this and I am gonna say it again...Mel is just God sent maaan!!❤..or at least for me. Each time um on the verge of throwing in the towel and I watch one of her videos, I just experience this recharge of power, and it ignites the small flame in me that I never knew I still had. This is my life and this is serious man! I am thankful🙏

[@intunewiththeworld864]

"If you have a problem that can be solved with action, you don't have a problem." Wow... I felt that!!!

[@harrisonsokoipei4521]

A very powerful quote indeed

[@sarafaghihi1854]

Sameee

[@skreczmer]

My ADHD has stopped me from doing all the things I need to do because I’m so scattered, but when you have to move on the thought in 5 seconds you don’t have time to be scattered! It’s a miracle for me because I always used my ADHD as a crutch, a ridiculous crutch! Thank you for this!!!❤️❤️❤️

[@grumpoggo2636]

‘I’m calling bs. Almost All problems can be solved with action.

[@josiecarzo8744]

So true!!

[@LilMizzLae]

"This is what it looks like to try. The feelings are normal; letting them stop you, is a CHOICE."

[@vanezafigueroa3471]

Your doubts create mountains. Your actions move them. Boom! That was great!

[@iconaastratta8202]

It was

[@elizabethfarrell434]

@@iconaastratta8202 ,?

[@lynnrussell467]

Yes, it was great! 😃😉

[@barb8190]

Omg... I can believe I came across this video. In 2016 a coworker told me about a self help audio. I downloaded it and listen to it all the time. I used it for a few months, then my life was going good, and forgot about it. My life is a struggle on things now. Some good some bad, ive been soul searching and trying to find SOMETHING to get me back on track. I will find the audio and restart my life agian!!.. and im hoping it will help my partner too. Wish me luck. B

[@sadiaarman363]

If you have a problem that can be solved with action, you actually don’t have a problem. With competency, confidence appears. It also appears when we take action. Self- doubt, procrastination, these are only habits. By counting 5-4-3-2-1 you activate the pre- frontal cortex, and you go into action. Here's the definition of self- doubt. Its the decision not to. Confidence is the decision to try. You cant control how you feel all the time but you can always choose to take action. 4 traps of self- doubt. 1) Hesitating 2)/Hiding 3) Hyper- critical and 4) Help- lessness. Hesitating. When you are not sure. Uncertainty. It starts with the willingness to try. 2) Hiding is spurred by fear. Procrastinating. Expect it to always feel like a big deal. But what can you do next day that would force you not to hide. You read a book, talk to people, you figure it out. 3) Hyper- critical. Just make a choice to push yourself every day. 4) Helplessness. Triggered by insecurity and low self- worth. You.need to talk specific. Specifically, what does it look like in the next chapter?

[@Redservasian]

This advice teaches us to be proactive. By doing what we think about, we start to feel accomplished, which builds confidence, which can lead to success.

[@LonjeMarie7]

Service plus significance equals success ,she got blessed because she was a blessing to others!!

[@micaonyx5301]

The way I beat self doubt is I find someone who has done whatever I want to do and realize they're no smarter than me so if they can do it I can too. That's how I bought my first motorcycle. My cousins had to drive it home from the dealership. Every morning after work I was on that thing until I figure it out. Here I was 120lbs woman trying to ride this 750 cc motorcycle. Yes l probably fell more times than I care to remember. Yes a few strangers helped me pick it up, but eventually I figured it out. Right now at nearly 60 years old I'm roller blading in the park in 90 degrees weather while listening to this. I don't look pretty but I'm having a darn good time.😉

[@iamgodsgoodness8940]

Good job! One more thing left to do. Restore your relationship with your Father in Heaven. John 3:16, Romans 10:8-10, 2 Corinthians 5:19-21 You are greatly loved!

[@beckynolan9989]

You are my hero

[@annecaulder9495]

Girl, the county has classes to teach how to ride! And 750 cc is a lot for us little ladies. Another item off my bucket list. I stopped rollerblading around 45 years old when I fell and broke my coccyx. I’m like you, just a little younger, and I’m building a camper van all alone and about to launch my own business again so I can be self employed and location independent and travel with my doggy.

[@gilmourishgilmourish6205]

Way to go !!!! 👍🏻😁😁😁

[@julielevesque2668]

I was wondering why a person with anxiety like myself does downhill biking and it doesn't scare me...I built confidence...I pushed through my fears and the self-doubt started to dissapear. So glad I discovered a passion of moving meditation. Biking is amazing to help alleviate anxiety! When there are obstacles and rough terrain and you crush it...oh wow...what a high!

[@JF-vy5jz]

The more you raise your self awareness the more successful you will get - you need to become your OBSERVER - like the eye in the sky

[@rakhshandarashid108]

Wow. That’s the most amazing speech I’ve ever heard I really look up to you and I’m only 11 ❤️❤️👍👍

[@oktobersown82]

I LOVE that you watched this and your only 11🤓💪🤗

[@elkiness]

What a sweetie you are! (I'm an expert-- ;-) being a teacher, and grandmother to 6! I love your age, that's the level I like to teach. When my two big grandsons were 11, we invited them to your yearly overseas trip--exchanging houses. It was such fun. Now that they are big--one just finished the army here in Israel, the other is serving--in a parashooter's course now--I know I feel especially close to them because of the trips. You English is good! I was in India 1/2 year ago and loved it--Karala. Regards from Israel.

[@Eric.Poirier.]

i am 5

[@susanmarie2231]

Thank you for the 5 second countdown. Great reminder and a brilliant flashback. For many (most, or all) of us, counting down was programmed in childhood so this is easily relatable and retrievable from memory. Counting down to dive into a swimming pool, counting down to launch a rocket ship, counting down to get back into your seat (in classroom), counting down to start a race, etc. Counting down was a "call to action" from childhood and I am so grateful for the reminder!

[@sharonzenit541]

I watched this video less than 24 hours ago, and it has already been a major positive help!

[@zenzenreseller8865]

I just want you to know that this video has helped me a lot today! I’m going to stop hiding and being hypercritical. Thank you love you Mel

[@sallymay3643]

Iam happy 4 u. GOD bless u & yr loved with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@gilmourishgilmourish6205]

I can’t count how many times I have counted 5 4 3 2 1 watching this video. I wanted to get up and do something but Instead I watched the video. 45 min well spent, now .... 5 4 3 2 1 .. get going and realise the dream. Great video! Thank you 🙏🏾!!!

[@pamelagracegibb6375]

"when we define the dream, it's become a plan."

[@LonjeMarie7]

She is brilliant her techniques help me to go on stage for the very first time to do a stand-up comedy routine this is life-changing!!

[@sallymay3643]

Iam happy 4 u. GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@giveuponyourdreamsanddie3369]

She is literally the only realistic "motivational speaker"out there 😌

[@pamelagracegibb6375]

"if you have a problem that can be solved with action, you don't have a problem."

[@LennyPane78]

Calm Grace Amazing!

[@YogawithAliBeale]

I clicked on this cause of the title not knowing it was Mel... Happiness!!!!

[@jrtg1990]

LOL same.

[@deborahsmith9922]

Thank you for this it couldn't come at a better time. I've gone through all of these and was in helplessness and playing the victim when I want to move forward in my business This is great! and has helped me move into action!! THANK YOU

[@sallymay3643]

GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@fayiaforay]

She surely one of the best speakers in the world

[@maheshpatil5022]

This is one of the best speech. Appreciate for uploading this

[@timothyolabiyi1566]

You are a wonderful woman & God will continued in his power to be with you & your family both home & abroad. My new chapter is can you do me a favor to help me financially with $20k - $50k to start a small home based business. Thanks for your help & your understanding Remained bless

[@rajaakhan8690]

There are so many things that need to be done.. The assignments I get assigned at work, cleaning my room, learning new skills for my job (can't do well without them), managing my expenses. Basically everything.. From buying new clothes to getting new shoes... Everything.. And just thinking about all of this is so. Overwhelming! I literally don't want to do anything.. I've become apathetic

[@adrianhayton9883]

Mel you are helping me help myself. So thank you for educating me in a new way of thinking ❤️x . This is my very first discovery of experiencing you . Thanks for being here x

[@karas_jo_na_sek7088]

Mel hi I'm Joana. I would like to thank you for sharing your thoughts. I've been feeling pretty weird lately and this is the first time I had some kind of light that I think it will brighten.☀️. Cheers Joana Karasek.

[@mattr4886]

Yes it's simple; 5,4,3,2,1, but it works. It's a matter of forced refocusing of your mind. She's a great speaker and always worth listening to.

[@ladywiseworldinspiration7102]

Truly inspirational, Mel! Wishing you continued success in all you do! Plurking (play + work = plurk) the connections and communication, spreading joy, co-creating and imbuing inspiration!

[@LonjeMarie7]

I LOVE her voice,And her teaching style ,she is being extremely humble because it’s not stupid, I use it !!And I teach it to others.That 5 second rule,Is what gave me the courage the first time I did a comedy routine on stage, I said instead of being in the audience ,I’m going to be on the DAMN STAGE!!

[@nancylane8092]

Bravo!

[@surlespasdondine]

I find Mel Robbins a good example for the fact that often by instinct you choose a career that has something to do with what your gut tells you you should be doing, even if it's not the right thing. Meaning: Practicing law was not right for her, but looking back, it makes total sense because she is not trying to help people in another way, and she can now use many of the people skills she learned over the years.

[@Estiallina]

A 46-minute talk about a 5-second technique! LOL Actually I think it's great! I love her no-nonsense attitude.

[@abenaampomahnuako1788]

Exactly what I thought. I was thinking it will take 5 seconds😁😂

[@sallymay3643]

She was funny 2.

[@DonnaGBN]

Yep, awesome!

[@jubilee4usnow870]

Yes, people need everything broken down to the least common denominator to reach their soul. We were blessed with 46 min of power-packed wisdom and encouragement.

[@thabsilemahlangu6098]

5 second technique is my portion from now on!!!

[@LonjeMarie7]

Everyone that went on stage did very very wonderful that takes a tremendous amount of courage, the biggest lesson is even though you are afraid do it anyway ,courage is not the absence of fear ,if you weren’t afraid it wouldn’t be courage

[@kathycastrission7103]

The whole premise of this video is huge! Change is within YOUR control, no one else’s. Go do it! 💕

[@suzannenorthcutt5100]

i love the the signs! I'm addicted to synchronicity💗 You have helped me become a better person🤗 Thank You!

[@Oldhippiechickadventures]

This really really works! As long as you make a move on 1,seriously WORKS! Thanks Mel Robbins!!! You ROCK, WOMAN❤😅

[@DeniseGorham]

I've been doing this for years now and I'm 67 years old.

[@EBSJones4]

There is also a good book by Dr Susan Jeffers: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. It's said to be one of the few self-help books that actually work. I've read it a few times - messages like that don't get absorbed in one reading. I come from a negative family. If I listed to my dad, I'd never leave the house. Basically, feel nervous, but do it anyway. I've been teaching for a couple of decades. It doesn't stop me feeling nervous as hell before the start of a new course. But I admit that to my students and they are surprised, but then they perk up because they are nervous, too. So we laugh together and then everyone relaxes.

[@rbfarrell1]

This lady is so right on. So Real.

[@MVP0137]

I discovered this myself. when you daydream, or goto a room and forget why you went there, I count to 10 and keep moving. I've been wasting 5 seconds each time, I only needed 5 seconds

[@DeniseGorham]

Im 67 years old and have been doing this for years now. Its not a new thing. My grandma did it, my mom did this. I just wanted you to know that. I commend you for writing a book. However, what you said in your conference is that you thought of this. Thats what is referred to as a flash of genius, however, to me, this is nothing new. I took psychology years ago, but its also life experiences that can change us especially when we've gone through horrific events. I have other ways of tricking the brain. I just wanted you to know that ive been doing this for years 😊

[@solomit1]

True confidence comes from being present living in the moment practicing meditation can help to understand ourselves to break old thought patterns

[@5unshineBear]

So true! Silencing the external world and make the internal world louder :)

[@5unshineBear]

In a good way though

[@bethbartlett5692]

You're worthy - You're good - You're supposed to succeed, again - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Go create your Successes - "Success is a Journey, Not a Destination" -author unknown But wise - PS - To the Speaker - CONGRATULATIONS! 🏆

[@charliegrei7830]

Beth Bartlett how do you feel worthy and like you matter?

[@bethbartlett5692]

Charlie Grei Are you asking in general or how I do it? Understand that every person on this planet has a soul, we are soul energies having a Human Experience. Energy is eternal (Physics) Thus we have a purpose for this life journey - (worthy) To understand healthy and balanced "self-love", I look at myself in 2 ways - 1) the child I was at about 4 or 5 - I feel love and compassion for that child 2) my work, efforts, giving, caring for others, friends/family, my accomplishments, my spiritual side/my soul, all of these comprise my adult life journey - The pain, and the gain - I respect my fortitude, ethics, and integrity - I look at the challenges and my response to those - I understand my poor decisions - and I applaud my good decisions, I look towards resolving those that need work and I keep in mind I am in a human dimension, with human ego - but I know I must work toward "a Greater Version of me" - I love my value and values. I keep Wisdom and Mature Minded a conscious point of what is right - (as opposed to Adolescent Ego Minded DRAMA) I make an effort to realize we are not all on the same page or chapter, and I attempt to be patient with those whom are - yet to get the mature or life purpose, and I make an effort not to judge - For this, I respect myself and have self worth and self love. Hope this was what you were asking - Thanks -

[@lemunek]

@@bethbartlett5692 thanks for sharing the details with us. That's beautiful ❤️😍 here I found wisdom and grace.

[@karlakuharic7114]

Wow! This is really inspiring and is in line with my current situation I wish I discovered this years ago, but now is the time. I have been contemplating on resigning from my very good job as I call it the golden handcuffs. I have been hesitating for years due to fear and the what if's of life. Thank you Mel for opening my eyes to the possibilities to move forward and following my true passion in life, and how I can give back. I have the key to these handcuffs and it's time to unlock them and get out of the trap that I have been in for years. I already feel liberated just saying these words!

[@Capkma]

Hi, i hope, you get out of the trap. How are you today about all this? (from a random stanger who just read comments, three years later...)

[@jubilee4usnow870]

I needed you very much today; in the best (not to say worst) way. God Bless this message and the messenger 💝

[@susantevin8818]

Mel..you really inspire me...I thank God for you.I hope one day I'll be able to attend one of your conferences.

[@sallymay3643]

GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it♡.

[@helenelanzieri8150]

The best ever......watch, listen and change your life...Thank you Mel

[@jasonmuhammad1784]

This rules kicks ass Mel! I talk about it all the time in presentations ( with attribution of course)

[@reenaseth5846]

Thank u Mel for being my friend am from india luv u ❤

[@ot.irenee]

This really helped me so much Ima start using the 5 second rule more often

[@carolinerandallart]

I got chills when the girl said she wanted to give a voice to sexually abused children. She's amazing.

[@savvy2172]

Am in total awe of Mel. Thank you so much.

[@lanawebster2078]

Mel, I relate to what you said about the many jobs not knowing.....I am in the process of exploring the next chapter....what I know for sure is I want to be "in the arena" to help lift the emotions of others....

[@tashadeluca]

LOVE THIS! I've been doing it for the past couple months, life changing!!

[@rinchendolma2721]

Thank you TEDx for organising such lovely a programme.

[@tmgf89]

Women supporting women. This is beautiful! And this talk has the kindest comment section on youtube too!

[@akanshashankar8589]

Women supporting women is against evolution. Gees that rhymes.

[@beautifulblessings3418]

I love the concept of using 54321 not only is creating action, saying those numbers to yourself subconsciously creates change, persistence, optimism ,coexistence, & self determination. Love it! This countdown is also used in dance, music & many other things in life. Very inspiring. I will definitely be putting this practice to use in business and all I do. I wish all that come across this content be inspired to create change with themselves and master the skill of confidence in all that you do in life. Beautiful. 😁🤩😁🤩

[@akmamoh2354]

OMG, im here for the first time listening to her getting inspired all and just realised today is October 6th. Happy Birthday Mel Robbins :)

[@rickpreisinger1887]

Mel, my take away from your talk is "The One Thing." You used "The One Thing" on every member of the audience you invited up. This is so simple and yet so profound advise. It made me realize I have to many things going on and overwhelm stops me from doing what needs to be done to move forward. I will prioritize my work and 5,4,3,2,1 take action on that one highest priority activity.

[@coachingwithroxy4552]

Question: What is the ONE thing you can do, that by doing it, makes everything else easy or unnecessary?

[@excelpinoy1086]

Such an inspiring woman! This is every woman should do. Thank you Success Magazine!

[@akanshashankar8589]

Each woman is unique. One role model for every woman is a bad idea

[@katknip865]

Mel Robbins is awesome, and so is Success Magazine.

[@wbu4]

I️ love this woman with all my heart

[@aminasajjadi3445]

I love the fact that you always have practical solution for problems

[@Living-Online-Today]

Thank you... This is so motivating and I needed to hear it.

[@sallymay3643]

Iam glad u found the video. GOD bless u with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@grand-georgeproductions3857]

Thank you for the message. Really helpful. Really love to see women elevate the world to grow out of circumstances that hold us back from achieving out goals and finding or place on the world and value in ourselves. Thank you so much Mel Robbins.

[@sallymay3643]

GOD bless u with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@zpasm]

Elavate the world? U think the pyramids were built with procrastination?? Fml..

[@cstylez2nspire999]

Oh my God, this video and speaker was magnificent and very much needed. Thank you for sharing.

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[@buysmartt7108]

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[@tshegotlhapi6731]

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[@LonjeMarie7]

She did excellent on stage she’s beautiful too ,she will make it , congratulations on helping kids have a voice

[@pamelagracegibb6375]

"if you're hiding from trying something new, the key is baby steps."

[@BJRodgers2010]

feeling like "SH*t today myself & I am a very motivated person. Confidence is what I am looking for right now!

[@Mr_Kenneth]

LOVE YOU MEL. 5 Second Rule WORKS. THANK YOU

[@youknowversecityknewsdonmw4577]

your real-ness is a medicine that most need to swallow. Bless you Mel! My name is Mel-vin. Your stupid rule is not stupid at all.!

[@sallymay3643]

GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it.♡

[@albertcipriano1541]

Woah, I'm so addicted to her. I'm damn serious to change the way I view my life. Thanks, Mel.

[@sallymay3643]

Love yrself trust yrself. GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@nourishnutritionandhealth7789]

Thank you Mel Robbins for the opportunity to go up on stage with you. You gave me the courage to change my life that day. I hope to be back on stage some day sharing with you my dream that I turned into reality. 54321.....GO!

[@AjithKumar-vt4ic]

Oh wow is that you on that stage with her ! I have seen the real passion in you that you wanna make your company bigger nationwide ! 54321 just do it

[@Liimiinaa]

Congratulations!!!! I was wondering if we'd hear from some of the awesome individuals who went on stage. Thanks for sharing your success story!

[@lynellholmes6361]

Good job Kelliejoe!!!!!

[@lynellholmes6361]

+Lynell Holmes Good job Julie!!!

[@auntphyllis45]

Bravo 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@benitabrink-lawrence1100]

Awesome insights...especially for my situation. Excellent work Mel. thank you. You're REAL👍🙋🏻‍♀️

[@nicolebond3264]

I so believe this. I’ve been trying all this motivational stuff.....and on most days, I still felt worse deep down.

[@tommyislit7902]

How are you feeling now?

[@angelacc3002]

I am unsure, outside of being a parent, what I am doing. Unemployed now due to covid. College again at middle age. I understand her hole she was in. I understand the no confidence and full of doubt. I will try this 5 second rule.

[@sherrijones9728]

I needed this message right now in my life! Awesome video! I so want to attend one of these events!!!

[@huh_wtf]

Hope u dont let that motivation surge fade away!

[@elizabethvargas4165]

Right on .

[@kathleen9272]

confidence is not in the doing its in the being

[@alicemolan9594]

a great talk as usual Mel Robbins. You are a master explainer :)

[@adavis8598]

First time listening to Mel and I felt like we were kindred spirits. She understands what it is like to have self doubts because we are human and through changing some habits we can easily succeed!!❤️❌⭕️❌⭕️Thank You Mel!#MelRobbinsrocks

[@janered6132]

Amazing! You can beat self-doubt in 5 seconds... i just wish she could explain it in less than 5 minutes.

[@khatijahwill9803]

It’s funny. I’m in sales but calling is the least thing I want to do everyday. I dreaded it. But it’s the one thing that I know will double triple my performance. I tried this 54321 method today & it worked. I dialed a number, count back words n push the green button. After 15 mins, I’ve done calling 10 contacts. Omg! Thank you Mel!❤️

[@WyntersFrost]

I do think she is very good, she has charisma!! Esp now in this era lots of people are really down in the dumps, life is hard now so her 5 sec rule seems like a " wow" factor for alot of people.. I have severe fibromyalgia and disk disease.. and other medical issues.. That rule does not always work for me. lol. but I do hope it helps alot of for all who listen to her. She is really a great speaker.. :)

[@kathyphillips2727]

WyntersFrost A Great Quote I heard from Bob Proctor and it resonated deeply.. I truly believe in it.. A body at "Ease"...Cannot be in "Dis..ease".. I guess you have to truly believe like I do..along with the awareness..knowledge.. understanding..and taking action to resolve the very deep seeded issues that are the ultimate cause for "Disease." Stay awesome Mel...it really suits you..and inspirational to others. !! Thankyou for sharing your story.. x

[@WyntersFrost]

Guess I am not at ease then.. :)

[@GabrielMarquesMusic]

Check out Dr Robert Morse about fibromialgia. I healed from severe health issues by his advise :)

[@harrisonsokoipei4521]

So inspirational ," confidence is the decision to try " I will keep trying

[@eezee5744]

And easier by saying to self 5-4-3-2-1.

[@susanyang5870]

I was struggling with uncertainty today. But I just used this rule to revise a PPT that I have been dreading to revise. I turned it in to my client. Though I know that I might have to revise it again, at least I have revised it once. It'll be easier next time. Thank you for you advice!

[@julieellington1480]

Oh my word. Its February, I am nearly 50, I am unemployed - for the 3rd time in my life - I also have a 'portfolio career' as I never found something that would stick. Finances are low, my other half is struggling financially too. I am laid in bed thinking how shit my life has become. How fat and lazy I feel. I divorced 5 years ago and lost everything. A career that I was pretty darn good at, overnight due to a disaster which totally wiped my confidence and as a result suffered from severe depression. To the point I was constantly thinking about topping myself. I am searching for the next chapter, I do have an online business which keeps calling to me to call potential clients but I lack the confidence on the phone. 5 secs...watch this space.

[@mememint7044]

You now have audience!!😌 Goodluck!

[@AN-pq9to]

"You can be a negative, frustrated, depressed, anxiety-ridden son of a gun and you can still take action..." Gosh, that was harsh to hear, personally...

[@sallymay3643]

She described my mother.

[@sallymay3643]

GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.

[@codypolar6593]

The trick there is, to take a HELPFUL action!

[@mariomills6794]

Cotton cady

[@ruthmacclure609]

5 second rule - tell on yourself - all brilliant and it resonates so loudly!

[@Tana3730]

This is exactly what I needed to hear!! Perfect timing.

[@sharleenmangeri4244]

I loved Mels, stories and I loved how t h ey moved the mountains... It gives hope for when you doubt...Thanks!

[@colleencasey5807]

Man..I used the 5 sec 'rule', years ago before the 5 second Rule was thought of by Mel. Well it was actually 3-2-1 DO! Too bad I didn't think to tell others about it. I'd be wealthy and Life would be way different. Cool to know that more than one person can have 'new ideas' while also thinking it's an 'original thought' It's whoever decides to take the idea and create something out of it by taking action.

[@joannthomases9304]

Love this soooo real amazing girl !! Thank you for being here for us !!! Best talk so far !! I'm amazed at honest people !!! So real. I have the worst shakes I know. Lol. Well, not funny.

[@musikgalaxy7737]

Mel is so great, I like her. She's so smart and funny.

[@ainelawlor5755]

Love this ladie ❤❤❤❤

[@pamelagracegibb6375]

"take at least one action a day" toward your goal.

[@ballinrich1841]

Notes from “How to Beat Self-Doubt in 5 Seconds” I recommend watching the video in its entirety, but here are some notes I took. If you want to change your life, count down 5 4 3 2 1, then do what you know you should be doing Your Doubts Create Mountains Your Actions Move Them What’s your next chapter in life? Myths About Confidence 1. Confidence is a personality trait 2. Confidence is fixed 3. Confidence starts with belief - This is not true. The positive thoughts can sure help, but taking action is the key. The Truth About Confidence: - Confidence is a skill, not a trait - Confidence is situational - Confidence begins with action If you have a problem.. that can be solved with action.. you don’t have a problem The Confidence Competency Loop Try => Succeed Or Survive The more that you do something, the more that you build skill and competency. That’s where confidence comes from. When you have a fear of failure, you start to overwatch think. This leads to you doubting yourself, and it’s a loop. - the same is true when you’re feeling unsure, nervous, feeling like a facade, overwhelmed, fearing rejection - These feelings are normal, but acting nervous is a choice - You’re not a doubter, you have a habit of doubting yourself There is only one way to break a habit loop. You have to insert a different behavior. This is where 5 4 3 2 1 comes into play - it activates the prefrontal cortex In 5 seconds you can change anything, that changes everything. New Definition of Confidence: - Confidence: is the decision to try. You can’t control how you feel at times, but you can always control how you act. New Definition of Self-Doubt: - Self-Doubt: is the decision not to. The 4 Traps of Self-Doubt: (make sure to check 28:00, was an amazing thing to watch) 1. Hesitating - Triggered by uncertainty - Waiting - Overthinking - Wanting your work to be perfect The Progress Principle Research conducted by the Harvard Business School It set out to find what makes people feel like they had a productive day when they get home. The answer was super simple. Did they make progress on one thing that mattered to them? Every morning, leverage the progress principle by writing one thing that you can do, no matter how small it is, to make progress on something that is important to. Use 5 4 3 2 1, carve out five minutes to roll that ball forward. 2. Hiding - Avoiding people, being silent at meetings and around people you want to talk to - Procrastinating The key is taking baby steps towards your dream that aren’t as daunting 3. Hypercritical - Arguing against yourself, usually caused by past failures - “I’m never dating again, not starting up a business after a failure, etc.” Make a decision and stick to it. You know what you should be doing. Don’t allow yourself to continue to be paralyzed. 4. Helplessness - “Nothing ever goes my way” - “I can’t do anything about my situation” You need to get more specific. Be specific about your goals and how you see them playing out in the future. Details, details, details For a business, think employees, location, wages, etc. You have to take your dream and form it into a plan.

[@nusratjahankhan7131]

BallinRich thank You ❤️❤️

[@machduel]

Wow thank you for the notes!

[@another_august]

Thanks for the note. 🙏👍💪

[@madhuvijayasingh]

What I have noticed is that you all deal with people who are young and who have many more years of life ahead of them. It's as if the senior citizens have no right to a better existence. Why should it be so? We feel pained too,and feel desperate and depressed, helpless and hopelessabout our chsllenges. And matters seem worse because there are not that many years ahead either. Couldn't someone, anyone, reach out to us? Vijaya Singh, India

[@yolandayoung6519]

Mel YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!

[@ShoroukA]

Wow! I really like her! Very realistic and practical advice.

[@hank5324]

Confidence is something new knowledge doesn't change .

[@rupinderrajput]

I am surprised at the effectiveness of 5-4-3-2-1 method. I feel much energetic without any additional vitamins 🤩!! Bonus: it puts a smile on your face🥰😊