How to Regulate Your Nervous System

[@sadiaarman363]

" The problem is not a mental disorder. It is a situation that needs changing. Sometimes action needs to be taken and your body is going to keep sending you messages until you get it." Thanks!! 💥

[@ConsciousEvolution13]

Sometimes you can’t just change a situation at the flip of a dime. It takes time but it’s how you manage your stress or thinking during that time that’s important as well.

[@LAMM117]

I have also looked into all these things as well, and have switched to vitamin patches specifically around those specific vitamins that help calm the nervous system; right now its VICI - nervous wreck and have been incredibly helpful. As opposed to digesting them. I have also used the vitamin patch club which did help for a time but needed a broader spectrum of helpful supplements

[@lucymart2859]

I totally agree with this comment. The problem is not only a mental disorder. Some actions need to be taken indeed to reach some good results. As usual yoga and meditation are also very effective methods.

[@SomethingAboutANangle]

It starts in the mind love and your life is changing in more way everyday wether you see it or not I love you beautiful strangers keep you head up

[@thelustyargonianmaid5427]

This is half right. But you need a calmer state to be able to see clearly, feel feelings properly and not all over the place, being able to do the steps etc.

[@sorkiemernie]

“Healing changes the brain too.” Needed to hear that today. Thank you.

[@vgrannyvl2]

She is the only person I’ve ever heard say that… even my therapist never said that.😢😢😢😢

[@zjunegirl1862]

I've had anxiety since I was 7. I'm now 23. Determined to heal my nervous system. 💕

[@chloebanks3780]

I've had it since I was 8, and I'm 23 now as well. I'm with you in this healing journey!

[@maciwilson7021]

Hey! How is it going so far

[@blue2mato312]

I have struggled for decades. Sometimes better, sometimes worse but now I think I have found something that actually works, ketamine. Time will tell, but nothing has ever lowered my worst anxiety this quickly and lowered my depression as well except for temporary relief of benzodiazepines. Many drs know this, but it is still kept away from most patients. I wish I knew before my mum died so that she could have seen me better! It’s really cruel that more people can’t get ketamine treatment without costing a fortune when we have lost big parts of our lives.

[@tanyawieczorek6603]

How are you doing now?

[@EB-gt1pq]

@@zjunegirl1862 I think you’re an HSP.

[@The_Names_Bogdo]

Activated my parasympathetic watching this and crying relief of being seen and understood. You are a wonderful person for sharing with us all

[@Godisgreat-777]

Reading your comment got me a bit teary as well. ❤️

[@joannewebster8194]

I just read a book by dr Claire Weeks , she’s passed away now and it was kinda old fashioned, but it’s the best book I’ve ever read on the subject , simple , straightforward and discussed every single thing I’m going through with anxiety , and I’ve been going to a therapist for a year , book was soooo helpful ❤

[@tanyawieczorek6603]

​@@joannewebster8194I have her book Peace from Nervous Suffering, she sounds like she was a wonderful lady and a wonderful doctor who really understood the nervous person.

[@jemstar7592]

I get stuck because Im truly and introvert who gets exhausted quickly from social interaction (even with family) - I'm also socially anxious so I pendulate between not knowing where the line is between me really just not wanting to socialize or being afraid to.

[@mariecarie1]

Same here!! I’m trying to work on identifying why I don’t want to/am afraid of socializing and acknowledging how I feel and being okay feeling it. For example, I have an older neighbor I walk with, and we both have dogs we take on our walks. Casual relationships like this aren’t natural for me, so I always get anxious when she texts me to walk. I took some time to write out what makes me anxious-I’m afraid she’ll judge me and think I’m a bad dog owner (I’ve not owned a dog before, I’ve only had him a few months), and then she’ll stop walking with me and then I’ll have a neighbor who doesn’t like me. I realized I was catastrophizing, and more critically, realized she wouldn’t keep texting me to walk if she thought I was a bad dog owner. In short, I think taking time to figure out what it is that’s making you anxious/not want to socialize is helpful, along with just acknowledging how you feel and being patient with it. It takes practice and it’s okay if it’s not always successful.

[@Sranney2]

Great advice. I am introverted, not because I don’t want to be around people, but because I have nothing to say. So that makes me feel incredibly responsible for entertaining others. When really I want to be around them and only talk if I actually have something to say, which isn’t very often.

[@moseslmpg]

My two cents: I am very similar to this. Heavily introverted but also have social anxiety. The thing is, I understand that it is useful to have friends and acquaintances that can support you when needed (though that does feel a little too utilitarian to me), and I understand that a healthy social life is generally correlated with positive mental and physical health outcomes. However, I genuinely have no desire for social interaction, don't derive any satisfaction nor energy from it, and neither do I experience any distress due to the lack thereof. (I don't even have regular "online friends" because I simply don't have any desire). For me, being alone is an almost universally blissful experience. I have diligently tried to put myself in social situations throughout my life, on the common knowledge that it is a "good" thing, but these experiences have been almost universally uncomfortable and apparently pointless in terms of getting used to them. That's not to say that I regret any of these interactions. So I am coming to the conclusion at this point in my life that, while social interaction may be great for people in general, for people such as myself who find it unenjoyable and unfulfilling, maybe it's ok to not force myself into situations that are stressful and uncomfortable for no apparent benefit. Maybe there's nothing wrong with that, and the recommendations are just different for introverts. I'm thinking sometimes you just have to trust your gut (depending on your age and life experience, of course). (Of course if the social anxiety is getting to the point where it is interfering with life, that's a different story. But considering all the options for online interaction nowadays, this is probably the best time in history to be socially anxious.)

[@jemstar7592]

I also feel like little to no social interaction is needed for my peace of mind. The problem arises with having to find a middle ground with my husband and family who like to get together a lot. I get terrible anticipatory anxiety every time there’s an event to attend and if I don’t go, then I feel guilty, like I’m letting them and myself down for not confronting my fear.. like if I don’t force myself to do it, I’m giving up an opportunity to work on my anxiety. It’s a no win

[@bliss3174]

Fuck. Same

[@catherinemorgan6163]

Taking the time to sit with my emotions. That's the piece I needed. Also, not fighting against the sensations of anxiety, but accepting them, being with them first, so I can move from a place of allowing instead.

[@Securetwo]

Juuuust statting to do this in last few days, maybe week or so- encouraged to see what I am doing laid out just so as you have. Thanks!! Blessings on your process. 🙂🕊

[@Arkarian1987]

I suggest people to also look into the gut-brain connection. If you eat poorly, or have low stomach acid or low bile flow, you could be missing essential nutrients to support the nervous system, like B vitamins. And if you have dysbiosis (unbalanced microbiome) you could be deficient in GABA or serotonin etc. If you have a leaky gut, your body+brain could be inflamed due to particles going into the blood stream (partially digested foods, LPS, bacteria, etc)

[@24goodbuddy]

Thank you for this comment.

[@Chelsea-lyn]

I’ve recently looked into this and have had really positive results/improvement!!

[@blue2mato312]

Yes I believe this connevtion has a lot to say. I still need to improve my diet, but I have been too depressed and anxious to even think about or managing that. Now I have some relief from ketamine which I also am starting to believe avtually will help reset my brain and nervous system. I figure I have a poor microbiome. Some things van improve with food, but not all. I will save up for a full microbiome transplant and hope that I am lucky that it can stick, only humans who have had a healthy microbiome before the age of 2 can retain the transferred ones over time. It can help with allergies and other autoimmune issues too, and I believe there is a link between (awful) neirological illnesses like Parkinsosn, Alzheimer and ALS and the microbiome. Specially Parkinsons since I read a lot about it while it took my mums life.

[@naominaomi6508]

This is very true. Diet, vitamins, and minerals, are too muched overlooked. People think blood tests showing withing the normal range means "no need for it", but this is unfortunately not true. I supplementet magnesium, b12, and potassium (please follow up with doctors in regards of potassium), and it has been a world of difference. Doing breathe work and so on is great too, but it wont really work on its own if there is an imbalance with vitamins/minerals. With vitamin b12 (and D3), you want to be in the higher range. Getting in the right dosages is very important.

[@costealucia5357]

@@blue2mato312 Is possible to do a microbiome transplant? How that works? Can you help me with more info? Thank you!

[@Alexandra0729]

Have been struggling with a panic disorder for about 8 years. 30 years old now and as soon as I hit that age milestone, all of a sudden meds stopped working and panic attacks became more frequent. 8 months into being 30 and still working on it. This video was so helpful towards the journey of getting better. Thank you.

[@StarOnTheWater]

I'd go even further: Embrace your feelings! Don't just allow them. Like a mother would embrace her child even when it's crying and pooping all the time. Celebrate your feelings like they are a welcome and wonderful achievement. I'm a way, they are, because our bodies are amazing to produce them. It is just a part of life and even though they sometimes makes us feel unworthy and ashamed, emotions are ultimately what connects us , if we let it be.

[@rebeccajones9757]

That yawn was amazing! Incidentally, when I was on antidepressants, it made me yawn all the time. It never occurred to me to use a yawn to relax. I usually use it to stay awake.

[@shorty63136]

“Sometimes action needs to be taken & your body is going to keep sending that message until you get it.” Whew. This message right here.

[@sronnau99]

Agreed! BOUNDARIES!

[@Briimariexx_]

This is exactly what I’ve figured out. Going to continue practicing mindfulness and working on my physical health as well

[@SinfulScents]

@@Briimariexx_ it doesn’t hurt to ask , I wonder what you do for mindfulness? I started yoga and walking but I think I need to do more 🤔

[@KarmasAbutch]

I’ve mentioned this before but I really appreciate your focus on practical and tangible advice and solutions with actual steps to follow and practise. It makes you a Unicorn among Horses IMO. Thank you, again. 🙏 Some of us have brains that just don’t do well with vague “solutions” like learn to *be present and live in the moment* lol.

[@ro_orr]

Samee lol I need to know exactly what to do

[@iamjuliagun]

I hate all these vague ass gurus telling ppl to breathe and just be in the moment lmao

[@carleymills322]

Exactly what I was thinking!! Well said. 🫶🏻

[@Old52Guy]

Thank you. I've been in a dysregulated state / survival mode for years. This is going to take some work.

[@aubrie_morgan]

Same here! Feels good to be understood finally.

[@rosemaryjohnson6308]

We have to do the work I was married to a narcissist for 36 years who destroyed my life and shattered my heart into a million pieces he would not work we had two beautiful children I work 2 to 3 jobs for 36 years I was only a paycheck to him he was verbally abusive a Percocet narcotic Seeker a raging alcoholic and then he divorced me 11 years ago thank you Jesus so he could chase some other young sing and it's taking me 11 years to discover who I am and have some type of self-love and self-confidence and I will never get involved with another man again absolutely never get involved with another man I would rather spend my last several years be working and being by myself because I can't stand the stress working a stressful professional career and then coming home and walking on eggshells in my own f****** home can you believe it and recently he's been back he's been wanting to come back so I'm blocking and he wants my last 50 Cent really he never works you really think I'm going to let you back in my life and give you my last $0.50 we can Grayrock this s*** no effing way will I ever let this man dance and if he does anything anything at all I have no qualms about getting the law involved he can go f****** victimize another mother f****** b**** because he's not going to f*** with me any f****** more I wasted my whole entire life on him I deserved a wonderful I deserve your wonderful husband and man but I never got it and I might my life is flocked and it can never be repaired

[@KosmicKittee]

You've got this! 💪🤗💗

[@teresarobbins5258]

Same ❤️

[@adaptercrash]

Hide in a dark room. It's affected by so many variables.

[@sronnau99]

I’ve been practicing and training for years and you drove right to the heart of the issue in less than 10 minutes. And that’s why I send my clients to watch your videos. Thank you!

[@CatherineIves]

You can feel this way forever. I had a friend who passed away years ago who never got over childhood trauma. Lived with it well into her 70s.

[@KosmicKittee]

Been stuck in FFF due to anxiety and OCD for almost a year now but I'm finally learning to just sit with the intense feelings, let them flow through me, feel into and accept them like an observer. Took me a while to get there because I'm stubborn lol but absolutely makes so much difference in developing resilience, strength and confidence. Your videos are extremely helpful. With gratitude and blessings, thank you Emma 🙏💚✨

[@bkirstie]

your parents most likely didn’t nurture you properly

[@KosmicKittee]

@@bkirstie Can you relate? I can somewhat agree re the nurturing.. I was often told things such as "you're too sensitive," and "don't cry"..Wasn't hugged very much and only sometimes gently comforted when going through traumatic events (parents not big on that stuff especially my Dad) and basically, like so many other children, not given permission to feel my feelings. So what happens? We end up shutting emotions off then they become stuck in the body. Unreleased, trapped emotions equates to various health conditions. However, I'm working on it!

[@Maddie9185]

My nervous system was out of control after a terrible fall. Tapping, deep breathing and staying away from negativity it’s what works best for me. Also Qigong and hormone replacement therapy.

[@robertmarianomolina295]

I'm 21 and I developed anxiety during the pandemic, I'm glad I'm starting as early as now, I can't imagine being anxious for decades.

[@daphnekapsambelis8790]

"It's not ok to feel disregulated" YES... that's exactly what sends me into a downward spiral - thank you so much for pointing this out, I will keep it in mind and I'm sure that'll be very comforting.

[@eternal_s0ul]

I didn't expect much from the gently tapping on the face, but instantly started to giggle and felt so much more relaxed! Thank you for this, I also feel less alone reading other people's comments. We've got this!

[@mahaylialay2664]

I was having severe anxiety after something that just happened with my mom and i came across this video. For some reason reading these comments made me feel better and made me feel like im not alone.

[@YasuTaniina]

After getting diagnosed with POTS and going through 4 months of treatment I've discovered that 80-90% of what I thought and had been told by countless professional over 20+ years were mental issues were in reality physical issues. Don't get me wrong, there's still some mental issues there, but the best thing I've ever been able to do to help my whole autonomic system is getting a proper diagnosis

[@jsmitala89]

I have pots too!!

[@BuriedTeeth]

Same. The whole body needs to be looked at.

[@analozada9475]

What are your POTS symptoms? How did you get tested and diagnosed? Thanks in advance!

[@jsmitala89]

@@analozada9475 dizziness, anxiety, fast heart rate upon standing, brain fog, stomach issues, urine issues, bowel issues, headaches, migraines, blood pooling in feet, red and purple feet, itchy feet in winter, lightheaded ness, blood sugar drops, insomnia, heat intolerance, worse around period. I was constantly googling for years and finally found a go fund me page about some kids who needed $$$$ for their treatment and they had this syndrome I was looking at for years. I decided to message this lady on there and she told me about the Facebook support groups and I found a cardiologist who was aware of pots (hard to find) and I wore a 24 heart rate monitor, did some urine sodium test and did a tilt table test. It took like 6-7 years for me to finally get there because no one listened and kept telling me it was anxiety. I didn’t even know I had a high heart rate at all until I started testing myself at home and it can actually go as high as 160 standing

[@djpower8791]

Hard same.

[@brendakrieger7000]

I just started journaling yesterday. It's helpful to get the screaming inside my head onto paper. It feels good so far.

[@cherylpa527]

You are such an amazing therapist and human! I've been following you for several years, so glad to see you have over 1 million subs, you help so many people and I'm thankful for you! ❤️

[@carleymills322]

I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear this video today. It truly came at the perfect time. I was having such a terrible day battling myself and then feeling bad I was feeling so bad and low energy. And when I feel like that I tend to just isolate myself from the entire world and just lay in bed I just feel so stuck and like I can’t get myself out of that stream of thought/feeling. This video helped a lot and made me feel a little better and more hopeful. Thank you so much for what you do. The way you explain things makes it so easy for my neurodivergent brain to understand. And it’s also clear you have a big compassionate heart. ❤️❤️❤️

[@alizd1096]

I've been super sick (flu) this week and I've binged watch your videos about anxiety and emotions and let me tell you it's been fantastic during this time your voice it's so soothing and I feel heavenly peace when I listen to you and also whenever I'm more alert- because usually due to the flu I've been sleeping or dozzing off- I always wake up at an important point like: I had no idea anger could be a secondary emotion! anyways thank you! God bless you a lot!😊

[@Lifeafterthedarknarc]

You’re so comforting to me! I find others on here with this same subject, but no one makes me feel like you…so I always come back n hence here I am 💜

[@pirad7799]

I really like you. You must be the most compassionate and down to earth therapist in this space. Love to watch your videos.

[@firestarblue]

Your videos are perfection: not too long, packed with skill-building tips on something specific and oozing with acceptance and compassion. Thank you!

[@courtcomposer]

Thanks! I am currently reading The Body Keeps The Score. It has made me aware of the subject discussed on this video. This video discussed some of the aspects addressed in the book.

[@valeriesnyder9541]

Thank you for your excellent, concise, evidence-backed ways to handle anxiety. I especially appreciate the point about having compassion for oneself and accepting feelings of anxiety, rather than feeling ashamed or trying to rush through them.

[@curveschar]

100% accurate for me. Your description was me. Reading the comments I now understand I’m not the only one who feels this way. Thank you

[@markhealy4059]

I know that feeling getting more stressed because I'm stressed but the last while I've learned to accept it especially when your going through a hard time in life ...love the videos thank you

[@_VanHelsing]

♥️ Thank you Emma. For making these videos, especially for making them so accessible to the world for free. You're giving me the skills to function daily and I'm now employed thanks to your help.

[@quianabrown8379]

I have been anxious for so many years. At 44 I can’t even get a call or text without assuming the worst. It’s started to affect my physical health.

[@boogyjuggy]

baby steps, breathe

[@liandra7884]

😕

[@animeweeb798]

just wanted to say that your going to get through it and it’s okay

[@erica9314]

@quiana look into accelerated resolution therapy, it might be very helpful

[@Fleming-ql]

Maybe you could ask a friend to send you nice things every once in a while, like a cat video or something to make you laugh

[@gember1382]

It's so nice that there is so much more knowledge about the nervous system. 30 years ago, when I started therapy, there was little knowledge about that. It would've shorten my healing journey with years, I believe.

[@SouthernGothBelle]

I’ve been watching all your nervous system healing videos and they’re so helpful. I’ve been in therapy for years talking about anxiety and it didn’t help much because the root of my anxiety is complex trauma that dysregulated my nervous system for years.

[@mountaingirl6479]

Thanks! That was really helpful! Esp the part about acceptance of difficult emotions. One of the beauties of KZbin is being able to watch some thing repeatedly. I’ve seen this before, but I’m understanding it better each time I watch.. 😊

[@steve-fb1bm]

When nothing helps I watch a video of yours. Always does the Trick:) You've helped me so much, thank you Emma !

[@ktrmeadow]

You’re always astonishing. Healing changes so much. Thanks for all giving and positivity you share. Continued blessings!

[@Hollyfae]

Thank you. I'm really struggling to get people to understand that my child is struggling with this, and not simply choosing to be "difficult" (at school). It's amazing to me that so many people can't understand that this is a very real issue.

[@baus7]

This right here is why I'm homeschooling. My son has social anxiety and often times gets hyper and goes to 90 mph to offset his feelings and need for quite and still.

[@tabtab9437]

Thank you, I definitely need to practice self compassion and allow myself to sit with it.

[@leannshort2211]

You really are amazing!!! I subbed to your channel a while back and should’ve kept going with my nervous system regulation exercises. I have finally realized that my disregulated nervous system is due to childhood trauma and it has led to chronic, systemic illness. I am making it a point to take time out of each day to appreciate all the little things and all the blessings that I have in my life. Taking time for self-care and love.. 💕 I will get better. I know it. I appreciate you and your channel! Thank you and God bless!! ❤️❤️

[@linpena9802]

I’m very grateful for you and your channel. Thank you for taking the time to create these videos. 😊🙏🏼🌟💛🌟

[@michealcherrington6531]

I always felt something dragging upon my spirit but never found answer that maintained. Shutdown. I am an INFJ, skilled at that. Humbling to have missed my own self for so long when I see everyone else preternaturally. But I confess, seeing shutdown has been the perennial weed and already undertaking my healing inspires something better than hope. Belief.

[@a.r530]

Wow I this video made me feel so seen. I live with my controlling Narcissistic father and I can't afford to move out yet. Some days I'm able to grey rock it and tune him out. But other days it gets so hard. Just days of sudden crying and hard to breathe. My family means we'll by trying to help, but they always say "mind over matter" and "I can control the situation if I just use my mind". Knowing this makes me feel less crazy and feel like a failure for not being able to control it. Thanks so much. I hope others who feel same know that "you are not crazy for not being able to control it with just your mind". It is a lonely place to be for a long time

[@johanneslucker1401]

The last one is really important. Don't try to escape what you're feeling. Give some love to it and try to feel it even deeper. But not in a hurry but with a slow breath, a warm hug to yourself and a smile of compassion for you.

[@cest.lucille]

Hey Emma, could you possibly post a video on how to release strong tension and pain in the body? I have really bad psychosomatic tensions in the upper part of my body and i can never let go of this causing my pain and discomfort to get worse. i thank you so much if you could help me and i am sure so many others with this topic🫶🏻 from a friendly subscriber 🥰

[@zaibakhan1989]

I Recently read the book ‘Mindbody Prescription’ by Dr Sarno, in which he addresses psychogenic pain. This book was life changing for me. Basically, any life experience,whether good or bad, brings up emotions that get trapped in the body and show up as symptoms that include pain and mysterious rashes. Even positive life events like getting married, having a baby, getting a promotion puts so much performance pressure and creates subconscious anxiety/anger/rage. The answer is to honestly acknowledge out loud (like literally say/yell) the things that are bothering you and/or journaling and putting all concerns onto paper (eg now that I’m promoted to senior management, I’ll have more responsibilities and have to put in longer hours and won’t be able to spend time with the family in the evening, I’m afraid of the commitment…..) Basically make the subconscious into conscious so that the emotion gets released Another thing to try is trauma informed yoga Wishing you well on your healing journey

[@corinnminyard4859]

Hi, I also need to release terrible mind/ body pain that I’ve been dealing with for over 50 years. Horrible stabbing pains that come and go each time I think about something that upsets me. So many things upset me these days so I’m almost in constant pain, I’ve read Dr. Sarno books, several of them but they didn’t help. 😟 I have also been to several therapists, but no help there either..what else can I do????

[@zaibakhan1989]

@@corinnminyard4859 some things to try, when I say try, I mean dedicate to them serious effort and time. A lot of times we think we’ve tried things but the effort has been superficial. Also, such things don’t have a one quick fix, but a more holistic lifestyle/mindset approach You might have to Google for more details - eating nutrient dense meals that focus on healthy protein, fats and micro nutrients rather than calorie counting - exercise whether endurance or resistance that suits your body type, even if it’s just 15 min dancing - trauma informed yoga stretches eg. by Dr Arielle Schwartz on YT - breath work exercises and other grounding techniques to regulate the nervous system (free resource on this channel) - NSDR and meditation (start with any type and stick with what suits you) This has worked wonders for me so far. I like Marissa Peer and The Mindful Movement. You can even just stick in ear phones while sleeping for the guided ones - journaling in general, write about deep emotional fears and concerns, leave nothing out, but don’t describe triggering events in details- that’ll just retraumatize - keeping a gratitude journal- write at least three things you’re blessed with and thankful for - journaling/ therapy for inner child work and shadow work - having a spiritual practice if appropriate and possible. I’m a practising Muslim, so I have my daily prayers - keep a good routine to support the Circadian rhythm of the body - hang out and keep company with good friends and loved ones

[@willbyhalo]

Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Valerie Rein is amazing! The exercises helped me release tension in my body

[@KosmicKittee]

I highly recommend Somatic Experiencing (SE), developed by Dr. Peter A. Levine. SE is a body-mind therapy specifically focused on healing trauma by helping clients draw their attention to their bodies. Dr Bessel van der Kolk is excellent too. Sending blessings and healing vibes your way 🙏💗✨

[@diannefaustino5429]

Thank you for this video. It truly helped me. Baby steps. Thank you for making such a difference in so many lives. Thank you that you chose this career.

[@canuckveteraneducator7670]

Thank you. I am finding your videos now…and learning a lot. Peace be with you.

[@thatidealself]

Always my go-to for my mental health needs. Thank you so much for your work ❤

[@roxannlegg750]

THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU..... yes situation DO need to change. Im tired of being diagnosed with tuch tonnes of mental health issues when i have life dynamics that are soull destroying. A husband whos developing premature dementia. An adult austic child whos still got developmental delays and creates emergenies all the time thru just pllain dumb life choices. A father with terminal cancer who is not married, is a recluse and YUP - Im the eldest child and only daughter. Its all falling on me and my health is suffering, and for the first time in years im relying on anti-anx meds, relaxants and other stuff I source myself. I finally got my medical science degree - and doctors finally kinda take me seriously with my health conditions, and treat me accordingly. THANKYOU for saying sometimes its more that life needs to change!!

[@poliver12345]

Thanks I was a people-pleaser worked in sales & self-employed so business meant taking abusive works from others...Now I evaluate the response but deep breathing is a really good idea!

[@zoranmusic608]

These are the most wonderful people in the world, thank you. I love you a lot. Greetings from Croatia

[@brendakrieger7000]

Thank you so much for your advice and compassion💜

[@urszulagrzywinska326]

Your tips have always been a gamechanger 👏

[@flyingumbreons]

Why do all these videos seems so applicable to me? Do I truly have all these issues or am I just relating to all these different feelings? Anxiety, ADHD, depression, trauma, isolation/ social avoidance, rejection sensitivity, people pleasing, perfectionism, the list keeps growing.

[@veronicamccall9823]

I just found your channel and it’s great! I’ve been struggling with chronic anxiety for several years. It started out as panic but I don’t really get this anymore. However, it’s morphed into the tendency for chronic hyperventilation and it is SO hard to get my breathing back under control if I don’t reverse it quickly. Also experience a lot of diaphragm tension. A video on this would be super helpful!

[@NorthernNessa]

I don’t know if this is helpful but I find “deep breathing” too vague, the best thing to Focus on for breathing is trying to push as much air out as I can, even holding it there for a second or two after the air is out of my lungs. Doing that for 20-30 breaths really helps me. Don’t focus so much on the inhale.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

Yeah, "Deep Breathing" is a kind of useless term... Instead, look up exercises like "Square Breathing"... It's much like Vanessa Burdine described, but you count for each phase of breathing... Count to 3 while you inhale... then count 3 holding... then count 3 while you exhale... then count 3 keeping your lungs empty... I try NOT (explicitly) to close my throat or "lock the air" in or out when holding my breath. Focusing instead, I make my diaphragm hold that air in or out while I count... I don't know if that has much or any particular advantage, other than just a tiny bit more difficult than the usual closing of throat method... BUT as long as I'm going to practice "breath control" in any fashion, it's something to strive for... AND no, you don't have to count exactly to 3 for each part. It's just my example here. You can find a number that works for you, whether it's 3 or 5 or even 15 for each phase of the breathing process. The point is to focus on the process and steps of breathing... In-Hold-Out-Hold... repeat... etc... Some of that is distraction from whatever's raising all manner of hell in the back of your mind, and the other part is to actually help OXYGENATE your blood. Here's a kick in the teeth... Psychologists studying anxiety by experimenting, have to have a reliable method of inducing anxiety into their subjects... SO they use CO2 gas to raise CO2 levels in their subjects, thus inducing anxiety when applied in small amounts, and displacing O2 just a little bit to sustain that anxiety... When you hyperventilate uncontrolled, you actually DECREASE the efficacy of your body to Oxygenate blood, because the fresh air isn't staying in your lungs long enough to transfer the O2 and CO2... AND technically, you don't really feel O2 depleted. Try an Oximeter, and you'll see it can stay right up there in the upper 90's, and you feel breathless as hell, no different from when you've been at rest and obviously clearly oxygenated fully... SO what's up with that??? Well, any Scuba Diver with "Rebreather" training will tell you that you actually feel CO2 building UP in your blood and tissues, not the oxygen running out. The earliest symptoms of that is (in point of popularly known fact) "Anxiety" or "Excitability"... SO... by slowing your breath RATE, you actually increase your lungs' ability to bring fresh O2 to the blood stream, and transfer the CO2 out better for the energy spent. That's the paradoxical and self destructive "hell of it" with hyperventilation... and why and how "Square Breathing" exercises should generally work. It can take a while, too. You can only shed CO2 so fast, and there's not much you can do to alter those rules of nature... By deepening your breaths, you CAN move a bit more air than "normal", but not a lot, so allowing yourself the full time to "recover" as it were will do more to put off the next sensations of anxiety, even after you feel better, before getting up and trying to "get right back at it"... Really hope this helps... Hope it can at least inform some questions for future chats with therapists or coaches or whomever... ;o)

[@KarmasAbutch]

As someone who used to experience this it helped me a lot to understand that hyperventilation was over-oxygenating Me despite feeling I couldn’t catch my breath - so breathing into a brown paper bag initially solved it until I eventually learned how to focus on a long out breath then holding my breath after an out breath to get rid of the excess oxygen - takes practise but once you see it’s true and grounds you it changed everything and became a habit which solved the hyperventilating within a year - we are all different but just putting that out there in case it helps anyone ✌️

[@KarmasAbutch]

@@NorthernNessa seconded

[@snrkbol]

This is exactly how my anxiety manifests, too -- there are lots of videos on KZbin that I recommend following. (Not just learning the technique and trying to do on your own, but actually following along for at least 5 or 10 minutes) ...And then do them multiple times a day. This one, for whatever reason, helps me a lot. I do it before bed, when I wake up, and whenever I can during the day: kzbin.info/www/bejne/r165g4V6o6ifmrc

[@DesignedForHim]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this. Wow. I'm not even sure what else to say, as I'm still processing - so, just thank you again. You are a God send, and I pray that you continue to be blessed 💕

[@mandycollins29]

Thank you so much for sharing reason #2!! I relate to all 3 reasons 100%. But abuse in relationships can be well hidden and not apparent even to the victim. This is very good advice that I wish I knew years ago. I appreciate your message!

[@ommanipadmehung3014]

Your wisdom is such a gift. Thank you

[@mountsinai_]

thank you so much for the content you make! i started my healing journey recently, trying to treat my anxiety with regulation skills, and i've noticed that when i drink coffee/alcohol i feel a lot more anxious than i used to...confusing

[@dimplesa6713]

Thank you so much for such life saving information! This information will be a game changer during my next panic attack. Thank you sooooo much!

[@rainbow.magic.]

i am in an abusive toxic relationship and resonate with this so much. I can't even speak to him and barely look at him. Unfortunately, I have been financially dependent on him for 10 years being a stay at home mom for 4 years and working on and off. I have to stay in the situation to go to school so I can become financially independent. I look forward to my symptoms dissipating when I am free.

[@annanymous1527]

I came here because my dysregulation scares me. The part about allowing yourself to feel really hit me. I needed to be reminded of that.

[@666dielawn666]

I'd like to thank-you again for putting these videos up. I get alot out of them and can't really afford therapy.

[@esraaal-rashed3936]

Sending you hugs, this is immensely helpful! Thank you so much!

[@tiredartistt3875]

you are incredible. this has me having to do a big rethink on a lot of things in my life. thank you.

[@sarahfaith6531]

Thank you. This popped up in my recommendations. I almost never feel safe. I’ve learned how to maintain some normalcy but this week has been very hard because of my dreams and some personal issues that came up. I really have no idea when I am actually safe anymore (ptsd).

[@videhbhaav]

hey, i hope there comes a time when you find safety around you in people and situations but i really reslly wish you find it within yourself as well

[@annnee6818]

If you can, get trauma therapy to identify and habituate to your triggers but I realise this might not be possible. I'm sorry you're going through this, that sucks, it's unfair. Wishing you well.

[@1birdlove]

This video was super helpful and insightful, thank you so much for all the tools, I'm grateful for your time!

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Very soothing very practical and very helpful . Much gratitude to you Emma 🙏

[@slinkyminx2010]

Very good to point out anxiety can be a very important message as so many just see it as a disorder

[@shelbyartist9152]

Thank you. I loved watching this video, especially the example of the toxic environment.

[@shelleymcafee8197]

I appreciate this video, and Your willingness to help Us ‘problem-solve’ Our way back to Health! The situation You described sounds much like Me, and My mental-state/emotions over the past 25-yrs - except that the very-real danger I’m in is something that I can’t physically-escape; an extreme reaction to Mycotoxins, the toxins produced by many naturally-occurring environmental Molds, Mildews and Fungi. …You may recognize this condition by the names Mycotoxicosis, Mold/Mould-Illness, Mold/Mould-Poisoning, etc. For several different reasons, My Body/Mind/Emotions are much more reactive to the toxins present on the airborne particulate-matter (including Spores) which comes-from these organisms; they cause Me a great deal of pain - first with a skin(nerve)-reaction, then through a horrible inflammatory-cascade effecting My entire System. Mycotoxins are neurotoxins, which absorb into Our Bodies upon direct contact - through skin, lungs and corneas; longer (and more frequent) exposures cause a toxic build-up of them in body/brains resulting in a large Toxic Load. Mycotoxins effect the brain/body in many nasty ways including many neurological and emotional symptoms, so that plus the ongoing-exposure, plus my inability to predict exactly when exposure will worsen or end (as this depends upon environmental factors, like cloud over, wind-direction, humidity-levels, etc), plus My inability to escape it - in addition to the pain - My stress, anxiety and fear levels are constantly high and I’m extremely dysregulated in thought and emotion. Unfortunately, because these toxins are airborne (and as much of the particulate matter is too-tiny to be fully filtered by air-filtration systems) … I’m almost always in an exposure-setting, though have learned how/where to ‘shelter’ to limit this somewhat. I know that part of My extreme-sensitivity (and other autoimmune health-issues) are more-extreme because of My Childhood Trauma, and the Dysregulation caused when My DNA’s PTSD/CPTSD ‘‘switch’ was flipped-on and My genes began to express for hypervigilance. I also know that (because of My Scandinavian heritage), My Body has difficulty identifying Mycotoxins and detoxing them - so they’ve been building-up all My Life. Also, I spent My growing-up years in homes and environments where Mold/Mildew/Fungus were present along with height-levels of smog and a toxic Family-dynamic which caused Me to live in fear much of the time. I was diagnosed with a very aggressive case of Systemic-Lupus at 25 and began the current (highly-toxic) treatment regimen currently used by Western Medicine. Lupus effects any/all Health-organs, so those - and others caused by the ‘treatments’/Rxs - have caused many serious, terrifying and extremely-painful Health crises over the intervening 20+ yrs. 4-yrs ago I realized that living in Our Farm-environment was killing Me, because of the Mold-overgrowth situation brought-on by the desiccant-sprays containing Glyphosate - which is engineered to destroy flora, sadly including Our gut-flora; essentially the immune-system. I knew that if I stayed, I would continue in the excruciating downward health-spiral until I died, so My only option was to flee that toxic environment. My Husband chose to stay for his own reasons (mainly Work and Family-Commitment), and I fled to the area where My Parents live - approx 2-hrs dice away. With Mold Illness/exposure, One has to leave everything porous behind… so I fled with what I had on, and My medications/supplements; leaving-behind My His and, In-Laws, beloved Pets, Home, Community and Belongings. This environment is better, but I’m usually confined to the ‘shelter’ of a corner in My bedroom in order to avoid the areas of greatest-exposure - Inside and Out. Isolation, exhaustion, depression, anxiety, stress, fear, terror, etc (plus a myriad of physical/emotional/psychological-symptoms)… are now all constants in My Life, and I feel the ongoing-cycle only worsening with repetition; no end in sight. I am currently in treatment under knowledgeable and experience Functional Health Physicians, and I’m hopeful of the recovery this protocol often achieves, but can see that the emotional/mental dysfunction that’s developed (plus My CPTSD) is preventing My Brain/Body from healing. From watching Your videos, and others, I KNOW that it’s possible to stop what’s happening re My Inner-Self through neuroplasticity and the techniques You teach - but have yet to hear from You or Anyone how to do so when living-in constant danger; escape being physically impossible. How can We stop the Inner cycle, when physical-escape from danger is impossible??? I know that Many Others also live in inescapable danger, of different kinds; can You please address this dilemma?… Thank-You!!! -Shelley (Lol; I know, a loooong-backstory for a simple question, but it’s all relevant.) Thank-You so much!!!

[@KellenAdair]

You poor dear. I wonder if I don't have Black mold? 8:47 Aggravating it all. Your Scandinavian heritage may put you at higher risk for C-,PTSD, too. Maybe that's Swedish Syndrome?

[@k.c.2860]

I'm way past all this. The tinnitus. The burning sensations on my brain. My cervical and brachial pains. The muscle tensions in jaw, scapular, spinal areas. Fatigue and depression. All with meds! It's crazy.

[@joelyisdoingherbest]

You’re so great, Emma! Your videos help me both personally and professionally as a therapist ❤😊

[@meganh5948]

Thanks! You have helped so much.

[@nayswan3136]

Oh my, thank you I remembered my most used app before. The InsightTimer, i used it 4yrs ago and kinda forgot it exist. Oh life, how came to this, I really forgot how helpful it was to me before. And I will download again today. Thank you so much.

[@AliKazi]

❤❤❤ thank you for another great amazing video. We can all learn and get better from theses mental health conditions 😊❤❤❤

[@nowyouareoneofus9684]

Watching you feels soothing. Like a professional friend.

[@brookehenderson525]

Thank you so much for sharing this video. Your videos helps me alot I'm understand how to deal with my anxiety and panic attacks. I have them alot when I go to work.

[@e_i_e_i_bro]

Do you have any videos talking about how Women's nervous systems are different? From my understanding it's believed women need to be more in tuned with child rearing. Keeping children alive and safe. Women are more prone to anxiety disorders. Now that women are expected to work on top of childcare, home care, etc we are seeing so many cases of stroke, heart disease, alcoholism etc. I think it's something we need more awareness of.

[@chasing_mentalclarity]

Emma , I have recently started to watch your videos. I am the person who has suffered from anxiety,stress and depression over the past few years. This has manifested into dizziness in my body. I don't want to go to any doctor cz I have spent a lot and they did not diagnose. I want to heal myself and live a normal life.

[@Amylovesandloves]

you are all amazing and deserve the best in life!!

[@ruthann2635]

You are soooo nice and helpful and a beautiful person to share your expertise 💖

[@noornazneen5211]

Thank you so much for this video. You speak from your heart.

[@amenhotep7704]

Thank you Mrs Mcadam❤

[@ericherman5413]

Please encourage your friend to get the waves shirt back in stock soon!! That one was my very favorite but I missed being able to get one. Thanks for all you do!

[@brigitterose562]

Thank you so much, you helped me and are saving my life.

[@Nunyabidness20]

Absolutley AMAZING!!! THANK YOU for this information my goodness🙏🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕💕

[@Baronesssa]

Been feeling quite dysregulated during the last month, your video was pretty helpful and gives me hope. Thank you.

[@asher_38]

it’s very true that sometimes it’s not just unreasonable anxiety and it’s your body telling you to leave an unsafe environment I feel like some of anxiety is also linked to being afraid of experiencing my emotions and not feeling safe with letting myself feel how can you train yourself to feel safe with feeling your emotions

[@TorringtonFernandopulle]

Really love ❤the way you explain very much clear and crisp.... Thank you so much for the video, and sharing very valuable lessons .... 🙏

[@ravon]

Love this channel!

[@yojiatiny]

omgg ravonnn

[@thorned10]

Thank you, thank you thank you. I needed somebody to just talk me through it. The breathing exercises don’t help when I’m having the physical attacks where I feel like I am going to faint or lose consciousness.

[@nb947]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing this! I am going to watch and rewatch it and try to do some of the recommended actions.

[@justpassingby0]

Thank you so much for making this video. Understand things a lot better now.

[@instantchampion]

Thank you for the wonderful advice!

[@bliss3174]

This is huge, you’ve helped me so many times Thank you 🙏🏼

[@titansky1001]

You are a godsend. Thank you for your great work!