How To Show Your Ex You Have Changed While In No Contact

[@TDBS-1984]

Hey guys. Not exactly a "success story" but a positive one from my perspective - basically haven't seen my ex for almost 2 years, absolutely zero contact and spent the past few years focused on myself, hitting the gym, getting into shape etc. Happened to see her at the shopping complex food court an hour ago with this Neanderthal looking guy who was shovelling food into his face like a complete slob - she was clearly not impressed from what I could tell by her body language being turned away from him. We made brief eye contact as I walked past and she looked a bit surprised to see me. Didn't say a word, kept walking and strutted on by. No feelings of jealously or anything towards her, more of a "Seriously? That's what you've downgraded to?" kind of feeling. No contact works (for you to heal and improve yourself) and almost 99% of the time they never get anyone better - Remember, you were the best they had and they have missed out!

[@CommandoMaster]

Initially u want her back, and she doesn't, but once u moved on, she will want u back. That's the ironic thing.

[@TDBS-1984]

@@CommandoMaster Exactly... The logic makes no sense!

[@aless55]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you

[@CiluhStyle1]

💯💯

[@Marialaguarda]

Have the same situation but even 2 years gone and no contact on,t twice happened by accident call and massaged say what’s up? And now he moved out the apartment we bought together I don’t know where I am in his ❤️

[@adamholgate2882]

This man has saved thousands of lives, what a gentleman.

[@guilhermenunes3044]

I broke the no contact rule in a healthy manner and learned something. Please don't try this at home. I realized that my ex also wants to make things right and act naturally, by choosing the right words. By healthy manner, I mean that I didn't mention anything about our relationship or feelings, just being polite. Although my heart was still upset with the situation, I managed to stay quiet and go back to no contact. Remember, both of you are hurt, and distance is crucial for healing. Even if you're okay, your ex may still be hurting, so it doesn't matter. You need to give them space and time. I also learned that breaking the no contact rule doesn't help you feel better, it's best to continue maintaining no contact.

[@ryanjames3260]

STAY IN NO CONTACT! OR FAIL!! The choice is yours! It’s that simple.

[@StolkPhotography]

He's absolutely right this time. It worked for me (my ex now regrets the break up, even apologized for her rude behavior but I have changed and not interested anymore)

[@minashah9933]

How long did it take for her to come back?

[@JoshP86]

At least she apologized, mine is a piece of garbage that monkey branched me after 4y of LTR 🤣now I'm close to reach 1 year of NC.

[@StolkPhotography]

@@minashah9933 2 years

[@ch76504]

@@StolkPhotography holy 2 years wow

[@JoshP86]

@@StolkPhotography 2 years to apologize? dang 😮

[@wandayarbrough]

Once trust is gone that's it no matter the days of no contact. Someone that can hurt you many times over and never apologize you Don't need them. Start new. Been over a year now. I am fine. I am doing me.

[@skinner1790]

a year been 3 since i have even thought of dating someone

[@mpangmeibodu6599]

Can’t wait to get back together and tell you we are getting back together😊I’m still in NC and waiting for him.Please pray for us to get back together soon🙏

[@ronaldwow]

❤❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 hope so

[@Camcam75]

Update ?

[@mpangmeibodu6599]

@@Camcam75 got back together in fab last week but i made a big mistake by taking him back directly without showing him some reserve like coach Lee said and now we are like in separation again and im in NC again.If you are in NC,please remember to show your ex some reserve don’t take your ex back like me.Even if we are interested,we have to show them we are not desperate then only they will fight for the relationship.Seriously,im an idiot person.I should’ve shown him some reserve and showed him im not desperate but the happiness feeling i had when i got a text from him made me weak and made the biggest mistake.

[@Camcam75]

I’m so sorry to hear that! Praying for you How long were you in nc? Go nc again!

[@mpangmeibodu6599]

@@Camcam75 at first,on and off like for 10 days or 20 days after the breakup but i realised that i needed to do longer and it was very difficult for me not to see his text for that long but i had to do like coach said and gave him the real breakup and he reached out to me after about 50 days.

[@sensomusical]

Day 14 NC and all because of coach Lee. I've seen all the videos and it always give my heart some peace. I will continue and every time i feel like giving up , ill come and watch coach Lee videos to keep me going. I did fail last time with 14 days NC and i regret it. But not this time! No matter the outcome ill stay strong! Listen to this man because even if you don't get your ex back, you will have control over your feelings. Thank you for everything coach Lee 🥰 Thank you for helping us all. ❤

[@ryanjames3260]

Do not contact them!! If you do you will 100 Percent lose them for good i absolutely promise you that will happen if you break no contact

[@sensomusical]

@@ryanjames3260 i did break once for one day but haven't since then. And I won't! I'm working on myself and I am much stronger now. 3rd week NC and ill continue..i did break the NC cause i wanted to know the real reason for the break up but to be honest i don't want to know anymore. But thank you for advice.

[@ronaldwow]

Any update ?

[@Rohanxetrri]

Have you contacted her?

[@darksideofthebright4284]

"Quick things go out as quickly".👏

[@8k_all_day664]

The timing of this video was perfect, meeting with my wife this evening for dinner after I've been in smart contact for a month. Not rushing anything, only looking to end the night positive. 👍

[@chevy2583]

update us on how your meeting went, and good luck buddy

[@BasketballTruth32]

Let us know

[@8k_all_day664]

@@BasketballTruth32 @Chevy ...back in no contact 7 days, she's posted photos on social media with items I gave her with meaning. She lost feelings for me 2 months ago, she said we could be friends and that I was her person. I began working on myself, she gets a little upset seeing my changes, during dinner I let her know I could not be her friend atleast not yet, she got emotional and brought up the past. I can see the no contact taking effect, I'm stronger because of Coach Lee's videos, watch them! Better yourself and be polite whenever your partner contacts you.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Good morning Lee. I have been with you for many years. I learned MORE from you than I have learned in any self-help /psychology book I've ever read. My Therapy was successful, however, your "YOU TUBE" videos helped me throughout the times I needed them the most . You are the BEST..❤️💙

[@luckyjackson9117]

*👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻I want to share with y'all how A good man with a great heart restore my marriage back after 5 months of breakup I found his handle from someone else's testimony and I contacted him, told him about how much I love my partner and how I want my partner back, he told me to relax and he will help me am still very much in shock till now with the result my home was restored and the love was more than what it use to be.. am so greatful, save someone today by telling them about this great man....*

[@briray8449]

Sadly in my case, he’s not experiencing our breakup the same way i am. he broke up with me and immediately got with another girl. he isn’t feeling the breakup because he has someone to distract him from the pain and guilt he’d feel. very unfair in my case.

[@skiiiii664]

Give it time… He will regret dumping you. Almost every time, when somebody gets into another relationship quickly… It eventually fails. And when it does fail, he is going to think of you and have some regret. The best thing that you can do is to stay no contact, do not stalk his social media. Block him completely. And improve your life and live your life. And do everything in your power to not think of him because that is going to help you move forward. You will see, he will regret leaving you, and hopefully at that point… you tell him to pound sand.

[@briray8449]

@@skiiiii664 if he does regret it and comes back, im not letting him in. he made his bed and now he’s gotta lay in it. he did it to himself. he needs to learn he can’t mess up and hurt someone and expect them to still be there when he needs them.

[@JoshP86]

Move on bc he would not care about you anymore, I got monkey branched a year ago and that kind of person will never comeback. They already have someone new, like you said and that will stop them to experiencie the real break up. You will feel way better in 6-12 months, of course it takes time but is the best way.

[@skiiiii664]

@@briray8449 the right person for you would not leave you like that. I think you are wise to be strong, but when you are in love with somebody, and they come back… Sometimes it is not so easy. Always remember that your ideal partner would not leave you like that.

[@chouxmaya]

God im so scared if this happens to me it would shatter me

[@ManTimeT.V.]

Hey Coach Lee! Just wanted to let you know I enjoy and love your videos and I am very thankful for them. I am going through a separation now for 2.5 or 3 months now. My eyes are definitely getting opened and I think what you are saying is true. I am doing my best to follow what you are saying and so far, this past week, things seem to be "changing" positively for me. My x is contacting me a bit more, being a bit nicer to me etc. But now I'm not completely sure if I even want her back ( if that time comes ) I have been working on myself now for 3 months while she has done basically zero to work on her issues. I told her that she will regret losing me if and when that time comes...and she knows that I am changing for the better too. I am a catch and YOU GUYS reading this are too!!! Keep your heads up guys and girls! It does get better over time. Follow what coach Lee says and it will become much better for you. Thank you Coach Lee. Take care pal.

[@billberka2646]

Coach Lee I've said it before but are you like a family member. I've been following your instructions for the last 6 months and slowly she is starting to move back towards me. I've gotten into the best shape of my life and brought on more purpose for myself as a whole and it hasn't gone unnoticed. Cannot thank you enough!

[@judithbrown9699]

Coach Lee, You are fantastic ! I followed your advice on no contact and my x came back. I looked at your other videos and realised my x is an absolute idiot. Thank goodness you opened my eyes. Thank you, your amazing.C

[@RealCoachLee]

Judith, I’m very happy for you! Would you please email your story to Amber at [e-mail]? We would like to use your story to encourage others but won’t use your name.

[@bossbruda]

We need more videos on exes rebound right after the breakup! Thank u coach for the help and the videos❤️

[@zaravr]

7months nc/blocked I still cry but I have to look forward. I didn’t listen like you have taught us, indeed it was a very long time and it was inevitable. Your teachings are better than anyone ❤

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

Who would ever break up with You? You're pretty AF lol

[@scottverge938]

​@@OiVinn-eq1ml looks aren't everything

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

@@scottverge938 To me it does

[@scottverge938]

@Oi Vinn dude no offense at all to Sienna but good looking women can can be abusive, controlling, disloyal. All kinds of stuff. Looks might be the initial thing that attracts men but they aren't the be all end all. And believe me, I'm all about looks as well.

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

@@scottverge938 I feel u lol

[@NickRitumalta]

Lee, as a man who's had experiences with relationships, I can definitely say that you speak of truth. After breaking up with Girl 1, I focused on myself. Never getting back with them or being someone who seems desperate to have them back in my life. After getting Girl 2 on the other hand, things started to heat and Girl 1 started to miss me again. So when you said that "being better" will not always attract them back, you spoke of truth. I did become better as a man, but getting that 2nd girl really started that kickback fire in Girl 1 again to find me attractive back. Glad to see your content man, hope to see more. P.S (Funny thing about it as well was that Girl 2 is Girl 1s' best friend. So in reality, she basically lost two things at once)

[@fahim618]

😆😆😆

[@macrogutz9908]

Savage 🤜🤜 been there. Good luck

[@JustLIkerapunzel]

Ok it is pretty messed up thou to - out of ALL PEOPLE on thisbplanet - you'd go after the best friend of your first ex. Like for sure the betrayal of that "friend" is even worse but still tht is just so low imo

[@kathyglass2922]

Ouch!!!!

[@poemsjones4184]

😂

[@christian72589]

“You can only do all you can do”. That’s the most important aspect of this whole process. Sticking with everything you’ve taught in your videos Coach Lee-it’s the only logical method. Thank you for offering the world this type of support. Even if it all fails, we have a plan and a process to follow rather than simply wallow in panic and pain.

[@theninjamermaid.]

Hoping someday i come back here with my own success story.

[@RealCoachLee]

Me too!

[@theninjamermaid.]

Hi Coach! He came back and we're working on our relationship and moving forward together 😭 We still have a long road ahead but thank you so much, coach! Your videos got me through so much!

[@dawnokeefe8456]

​@@theninjamermaid.I'm so happy for you! ❤

[@karolkozak64]

Here's the thing. There's a lot about people's egos that gets in the way. Say my GF broke up with me a few weeks back. She spoke to all her family and friends who probably know 5% of the stuff but they will show support to her - you should go and conquer the world, he was not enough, it's best that you broke up. Well, she's not going to come back. She's gonna feel like an idiot if she gets back with you because she will feel the pressure of her own system and environment who will be judging her. I think many times a couple does not work it out just because people are afraid of other people's opinions.

[@kevenrowe2958]

That’s what I’m scared of !!!!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@Keven Rowe I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@xcoachkim]

Sometimes other people's opinions can influence them especially in the lead up to a breakup. However, within the dynamics of attraction, those outside influences can work to your advantage. If this kind of thing interests you, I want to recommend Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." I hate to use this word….but it's really transformative! The workshop is for saving your relationship after a breakup or separation (or if it looks like one is coming). You’ll also have a coaching call every month for 6 months so you won’t be left alone to handle this yourself. Anyway, I suggest getting more information about it. You can schedule an appointment to discuss at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I genuinely believe this experience will be enlightening and immensely valuable for you.

[@hollyirisdrucker2201]

Coach lee, I shared your videos with a friend of mine . ( A man) he has been married for One year now. The marrage began to break down and he began to realize that he wanted a divorce and he wanted to go back to his ex girlfriend. It took him a few more months to get up the nerve to find her and call her. Which he did. She the ex girlfriend said she would meet him for drinks and now they are back together again. Its been a few months now. I ran into them on the street. And they were very lovely dovey. Cause both of them for different reasons watched your videos. So folks have hope. No contact works!

[@captainbligh3894]

Thank you Coach Lee , I watch several of your videos a day, have been for four months no contact. I have just written a change letter and agreeing she should have gone. I have much to improve. but also everyone notices I have already changed a great deal. No alcohol, gym five times a week, etc etc. Your fan from Thailand.

[@mylovelyman2]

Time and Patience are the greatest of warriors Tolstoy

[@ptrsrfns]

I love your no-nonsense approach. You're one of the best out there!

[@thabomotaung7703]

My ex of two years,actually contacted me today after 2 weeks of no contact.She keeps sending me pictures of ourselves when we were all happy.Some of our close emojis we created for ourselves. She is really hungry to talk more.Am keeping my cool,n taking things slowly,even though part of me is so happy n excited,I dont wanna push her away.She must feel the consequences of a breakups and actually talk about it.Am keeping it casual n not heasty to respond.I feel her positive energy.But I dont wanna to jump into conclusions now.I keep on watching Coach Lee more videos to keep up with the programme.Thank you Coach Lee,you are awesome

[@LostSoul-iq4gc]

Thanks Coach Lee. It’s really hard knowing the person I love doesn’t want to even talk to me. Your videos keep me going and keep me strong.

[@devinm.608]

going through the same thing :/ she left me on New Year's

[@JoshP86]

They always have a backup plan.

[@ronaldwow]

Any update ?

[@dronetheworld4k67]

we have been together for a year (we knew one another online and we even agreed to get married, family talked to one another, and we even picked the home furniture and styling together 😢, she wronged me and let me down several times at my weakest times and would never admit she was wrong, one time she felt she was wrong and came back to me and talked back to me, i insisted she admits for her previous mistakes if we should come back together, she said no, and i did upset her a few times too BTW but i learned from my mistake, maybe too late though as SOMEONE eventually caused US to breakup (talk about a nasty behavior) we were together on daily basis video chatting, talking 24/7. we even arranged to by home furniture together (i paid for it of course thats how things work) but she always stood with me in shared things and we did together and she was honest and never lied and a nice nice girl (but for that one drawback she never admits she was wrong) i figured out she was probably too immature and NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIOSHIP BEFORE and hence doesnt admit she was wrong and she was stubborn according to her sister ! we shared video chats when we ate, slept, watched movies together and even did nasty stuff together lol we would literally sleep everynight just one the phone till morning, we both fit the bill of being dumb, and we fell in love day one, and for me being in different relationships (physically) i never knew wtf live is till i found her, i fell in love with her with my brains and then with my heart, she is the only girl that gets me turned on and not any other female does that to me but her. and i guess i too. anyways after someone stepped between us and screwed things between the two of us, she told me you broke our relationship and trust (i called her a harsh word or seemingly harsh to her) she stayed with me for 3 months trying to convince herself she still loves me, but one day she said i dont love u anymore sorry, and i broke ! :( she insisted i stayed friends with her and i said NO then begged me saying she was going through depression due to her MEDICAL CONDITION and that i am the only one who understands her, so i swallowed my pride out of HUMANITY and AGREED ! latter i admitted to her i still lover her... she said ok let me think and one day she just pulled away and told me i will go through a long term treatment which am now allowed to talk to anyone, i will only reach you once am done she wasnt lying she was going through a long term treatment, but i figured out she was using it as an excuse to escape the relationship, SHE LEFT ME HANGED FOR A MONTH not being able to reach her and i was worried sick for her, 4-days ago my female friend exposed her, she told me she aint going through sh*t, she was using her instagram normally, sending happy birthday congrats to other female friends and probably just bailed on me and left me hanging coz she wasn;t brave enough to break up with me (again immature behavior and she was NEVER in a relationship before) i found out for sure i went to whats app (which she installed for my own sake only) and i was talking to her like crazy while she finally appeared online, she probably read all my messages, ignored me (immature childish behavior) she removed her whats app status and pic. and exited the app, and there i crashed and broke into tears on phone with my female friend. (i am suffering from depression myself) since am having depression am on an emotional rollercoaster ride, some days i say i dont want her and pray to have a better life-time girl/wife, the other day i get tears in my eyes wishing her back ONLY IF SHE CHANGES AND STARTS TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY FOR HER WRON DOINGS, because i cant take the heart breaks easily (again i got depression) and we literaly knew one another to get into long term relationship and eventually marriage ! its been 4 days when i found out she doesnt want to talk to me for damn sure, i sent her tons of whats app paragraphs and sms (for 4 days) but then i stopped ! because not much more can be said at this point :( ----- we are in a holy month called ramadan as a muslim which lasts for 28 days, i decided not to talk to her since 4 days, am i on no contact rules or not really ??? ----- and will she come back or no, i am 6 years older than her, far more superior, will hopefully get a third good job soon, buy a car (always had one) live a better life in every aspect and single (and good looking as fuck just a bit overweight now and depressed), she is Divorced, cant find a job where she lives in 3rd world, she is pretty as F, but that divorce stigma is a huge let down for a girl in the 3rd world, and doesnt even leave house on weekends, will she get back to me ?... sorry for the long text :(

[@adinkoert5815]

update?

[@guilhermeribeiro7733]

Hi, today is my birthday and this is one of the best gift of today 😂 Me and my ex are coworkers and she has been starting convo in and outside of work quite a lot, this after a long period of NC. We ended because I neglected quite a bit her and i have been trying to be more mindful about the way i show that I care to the people that are important to me.

[@tiarajessy9491]

happy birthday!!

[@dunrida7459]

how long it took? i was in the same situation because i neglected her and had personal problems

[@guilhermeribeiro7733]

@@dunrida7459 Abt 5-6 months

[@guilhermeribeiro7733]

@@tiarajessy9491 thank you

[@jannlewandowski5540]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 🥳🥳🎉🥂

[@ic5994]

The only change that is acceptable is to not like her anymore. Let her see that you'll never want her in your life again and and keep your dignity!

[@r.maelstrom4810]

That has nothing to do with dignity

[@ryanjames3260]

Do not chase. Do not plead or beg. Every time you break no contact they will lose MORE attraction for you. No contact means you might hear from your ex but it’s not 100 percent. I will tell you what is 100 percent though… contacting them you’ll never hear from them again. If you keep making that mistake I absolutely Guarantee that will happen.

[@robertknox1964]

When my ex walked out on me I went full “no contact “. No phone calls, no touch, no text, nothing. Since she’s been out of my life, I’ve been very happy. If someone comes along that would be nice. But I’m working on myself now and don’t have time for a relationship.

[@vquito02]

I just want to come on here and say thank you. I was going through a really rough time and listening to your videos helped me transition to a positive mindset and has helped me stand stronger. Thank you for your confidence in your words and for sharing your knowledge.

[@lmf458]

Just over 4 weeks and he's liking and commenting on my IG posts. I'm not responding, just observing his building anxiety!

[@RedZorn]

Coach Lee, you have always been one of the best coaches, but in the videos in the last 3-4 months you have created a whole new level. It is amazing how on point you explain what steps need to be done and the breakup dynamics behind it. You are truly the best in the world with this. Thanks for your insights. I learned so much from you. Much appreciated & thanks from Switzerland!

[@RealCoachLee]

Thank you for such kind words.

[@rhythmsharma3287]

you're so accurate!! you understand the psyche of people so well. I love your videos!

[@lovelykitty_]

When you explain it like this it makes so much sense, I never heard this kind of teachings, I was so dumb lol

[@xcoachkim]

Hey there, if you would love to learn more about Coach Lee's teachings, he has an upcoming live workshop called "Relationship Reignite". It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@camburgess6717]

Todays been about 2.5 months of pure no contact in all phases. my very first Gf of almost 3 years broke up with me, very rough break up, said things I regret, she texted me on thanksgiving to say i was talking behind her back which i wasn’t, that was when i blocked her. she has a new bf now, but im becoming a better man and hopefully she can see from a distance. Maybe one day she’ll forgive me for the things i said. Head up y’all everything happens for a reason!

[@wildlifestories1229]

Coach lee I really loved all of your videos could you make another video about The interview with the dumpers because its inspirational...

[@Sparksflymich]

Coach Lee!! I appreciate your videos so much please don’t stop creating them ❤❤

[@771]

I love your content Coach, I am curious how well it applies to women you never dated but perhaps were starting to get to know, blossoming relationships that ended before they could begin .. ?

[@ashleyditto6497]

Change up everything and disappear.

[@magnolia654]

Hi ! Your method works after 56 days of staying strong and not contacting him he reached out !! 🎉 First date tomorrow ! I’m so happy thank you 🙏

[@jblasutavario9549]

Whoa! Sweet. Have a great time and drop an update over the weekend. All the best ❤

[@XanRussell]

Nice😊

[@JKNat9004]

Good luck to you. 🕯️

[@beckyredding6232]

Good luck

[@juanlaoss1063]

Amazing good luck 🎉

[@luciiii6907]

I was dating my gf for 4 months then she lost attraction and started meeting with some other guy I was a bit angry about it n told her that if shes gonna keep meeting him imma break up, didnt get no response she kept meeting him. So we kinda ghosted each other - no contact for 3-4 weeks and a week ago she reached out and texted ''I thought you'd reach out, you forget about me so easily'' and she says she loves me and been thinkin about me every day. I don't know where this is going though. No contact worked apparently

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

Check if she is a narcissist as she wants you to chase her - Red Flag!!!

[@macrogutz9908]

Bro don’t let her play those games with you. Keep your dignity above all

[@luciiii6907]

@@NMTDelightfulMusic she's not a narcissist but im not gonna chase her ever, she chased me at the beginning but stopped. She broke up a few days ago and said she needs time 😅 and wants to keep contact with me

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

@@luciiii6907 🤪

[@jannlewandowski5540]

NMT DELIGHT, I don't think she's a narcissist , but I would NOT play her "game."

[@deezgex]

I got told no matter what i do, say will never come back. Stay the same if i want to but no matter what it will never be with them again.

[@onenickelmiracle]

People often watch these videos when they were with someone who acts as if they were in a higher league than you and they're never resolvable.

[@mohammedeldor8347]

2 weeks of no contact and at 2 am she contacted me apologizing. I was not happy and her apology is not accepted from my side but still I avoided the debate or talk about anything and simply said thank you and wish you the best. Deep inside I have forced those words out while inside of me I was screaming all the unanswered questions she left me wondering about. But in the end it is useless so avoiding drama was the best option. I do not want her back, I just want closure!

[@Jisami_78]

I haven't watched this kind of vids but I did the no contact and changed myself. After 8 years my ex came back.

[@Naterade719]

8 YEARS?! How have you changed in almost a decade? I'm curious!

[@Jisami_78]

I just focused on myself and started to have hobbies. Also, I'm rarely active in my socmed accounts.

[@dawnokeefe8456]

Whoa! Are you still together?

[@Jisami_78]

No, never again.

[@Naterade719]

@Jisami_78 I understand. I had to block my ex so I could move on myself. Time to leave the past behind.

[@derricehill3474]

I can’t wait to see this works for me.

[@Ms.ambernicolle]

Going on 4 months of no contact. Interesting Journey.

[@baboothebaoonrtx1884]

Dear coach Lee, my 3.5 years relationship ended 3 months ago, she hasn't reached out. I sent a clean slate message a little bit before Christmas and she said she appreciated it. Went back to no contact. However 2 days ago her grandpa passed away. Her brother informed me of this. I was wondering if I stay in no contract or if dropping off flowers and a condolence letter would set me back on getting her back. I truly liked her grandpa, and I feel sadness about his passing. However I don't want to make things worse

[@santoshraj1203]

Great video, right on time. Thanks Coach!

[@TJ_Watts_]

Update: My ex wants to meet for the first time after she broke up with me. She says there's a lot to talk about so I doubt it’s a “get back together situation which I wish it was” And I'm nervous as to what I should do or act. Back story it's been 2 weeks since the break up and she's reached out a couple of times since, some days she says she will always love me but we aren't good for each other (I feel like we could have worked through anything if she allowed it) and she's also messaged me stating that she loves me but goes and blocks me and unblocks me and watching my stories etc. I can tell she is still upset if I'm not giving her full attention now. What should I do? I'm nervous and don't know what to expect being that it seems like it’s going to be a serious conversation. I do want to be with her but some things will need to be fixed on both sides if we did workout. Her planned exit showed me a person I wouldn't want to be with. I just don’t know what to do or if I should even meet up especially being that it seems to be a serious convo and not a get back together convo. Looking for advice.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Andre, it sounds like a game to me! Blocking & unblocking, etc. Kids stuff! I personally would not meet her. You may be hurt again. This is only my opinion, but being hurt is not my idea of meeting someone to get hurt AGAIN!

[@jenniferalfonso7541]

Hi Coach Lee. Your videos have helped me get through a lot. Is there any way you can make a video about whether an ex can come back after a 2nd breakup? Please 🙏

[@RealCoachLee]

Hi Jennifer, no contact can work a second time, especially if it worked the first time.

[@jenniferalfonso7541]

@@RealCoachLee Thank you!! That's encouraging! 😃 😊

[@swoOpingjen0216]

@@RealCoachLee Sorry, I just saw one of your videos regarding the dumper, so I need some clarity please. How do I know if I'm the dumper, or the dumpee? We weren't exclusive. I asked him if he sees me in his future, and he said no, so I walked away from the connection. Since I was rejected, am I the dumpee, or because I walked away am I the dumper? Knowing would help please, since most of your videos are for the dumpees. I told him I didn't want to separate, but him not seeing potential for a relationship is giving me no other option and I told him if that's the case I respect his decision, and he just said thank you. I felt like I was being strung along, since he knew from previous conversations that I'm looking for potential commitment. So am I the dumper or dumpee? Does it matter if he's the one who was taking me for granted? I'm just confused how this would affect "no contact". Thanks again in advance.

[@ruthuwadia2578]

@@swoOpingjen0216 i would like to know too please coach lee help out with this please

[@inonihannah-bw9vo]

Thanks so much for the video

[@kolinsc2374]

im too glad i watched this coach, although ive said to my ex im changing myslef twice 🤦 but i guess its ok since the 2nd time i said,she was the one who initiated about her problem on me.

[@robertbenedek4463]

Great video!

[@amirmansour8449]

Well like i said before me ex choose to take space and i respecting that yet it was more like a fake breakup because she is unsure of her mental state after her past relationship I was too good to be true for her so instead she made the mistake by not wanting me in her life so she can recollect her peices and to figure herself out which i really do respect that , I miss her to be honest and sometimes I have bad days which all i need is her because she felt like home.

[@agneskorondi5551]

Very very good videos,and they are for everyone 👍

[@MezterpieceTheater]

Hey Coach, does all of your advice apply to relationships that lasted 3-4 months where we didn’t tell each other we love each other as well? We were definitely thinking shot a future together and made future plans but those specific words weren’t exchanged.

[@Blvckbeardd]

Needed this video pretty badly rn . It’s only day 2 on a relationship that ended off of something really fixable . Comment or like this so i can come back to it to update y’all i really think I’m gonna get her back … i love her and i feel like god put her on earth for me . She said she’s contact me in about a month because during our breakup call we both vowed to drop some weight ( I’m chunky she’s not heavy almost at all she’s nuts lol) but it’s a reason to be in contact in a month ! Again someone engage with this so i can find it later 😂😂😂

[@sincere2511]

I’m In Day 2 Two Aswell Bro I Can’t Even Explain How Much I Messed Up

[@Blvckbeardd]

@@sincere2511 same bro… we got this . Patience is hard af but I’m tryin

[@shinynoob4890]

Im feeling you bro, I got together with her while I was in a very bad spot mentally and although I was just a shadow of myself she was still obsessed with me, until she left me 2 weeks ago and told me that she just isnt the type for relationships. Now I have gotten out of all that stuff and I feel great mentally, but I dont know how to show her that I have changed. I will be seeing her at a party in a week and we will have had 3 weeks of no contact at that point. Any advice bro?

[@sincere2511]

@@shinynoob4890 Continue Doing The No Contact, Until U See Her Again.

[@sincere2511]

@@Blvckbeardd I’m Back With My Girl, But She’s A Sweetheart, Idk How Your Is But However U Know Her, I’m Sure U Can Get Her Back, Just Hit Her Up In Like A Week Or 2, Let Her Know Youre Just Checking Up On Her To See Hoes Shes Doing, No Extra Convo Tell Her U Didn’t Want Anything Major Just Seeing Hoes She’s Doing, Then Wait About 5 Days To A Week Then See If Shes Willing To Go On A Date With U. Don’t Tell Her You’re Going To Talk About The Relationship Until U Guys Sit Down. Best Of Luck To U Bro 👍

[@Magpie-wr8gg]

It's the Avoidants who need to change!!! Instead of running away from love, commitment and intimacy they need to work on themselves to figure out why they avoid such fundamental needs all humans desire. Desiring love, commitment and intimacy is completely natural, healthy and normal and running away from all that is the problem!

[@shawny979]

Right! Learn how to communicate healthy.

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

They wont change...

[@sj3969]

You need to change. Stop trying to change people and just find someone compatible.

[@norswil8763]

That's why they left you, pointing the finger and not taking any responsibility for your own anxious behaviour. Too needy, jealous, smothering, possessive, not appreciating their needs. So many angry, anxious types attacking their avoidant exs without a scrap of ownership of their own mistakes.

[@JennyWong-vu2bf]

Thanks for your videos Coach Lee! Do you think you could make a video on if your ex is fighting the desire to contact you, and what you can do to "discourage" them from trying to move on? Would be much appreciated!

[@maxsheerin8219]

If they want to move then the kind thing to do would be let them go and notbget in their way. (Thays whay i think anyway). We will move on too one day. They have to walk their own path.. I would want my ex to be happy. Roght now, I would be so sad that it wasn't with me but i would never get in hs way. He still deserves to be happy. Everybody does. Stay strong 💝

[@beckyredding6232]

4 weeks NC , stay strong, been working on myself. I've found out stuff about myself I didn't know, taking day by day

[@beckyredding6232]

It's been 7 weeks now

[@donbraga4863]

@@beckyredding6232 Keep on going, you can do it!

[@beckyredding6232]

Basically two months now it's hard but I'm pushing threw it

[@ronaldwow]

Any more update ?

[@frotusrwa]

@@beckyredding6232 yh gimme update

[@jessieflowers9207]

Damn this is good

[@JuNpwr]

Coach Lee, I’ve been watching most of you’re videos and helped me get some answers. However my story is slight different so I wish to have 1 on 1 consulting if you offer that option

[@RealCoachLee]

JK, I’m not doing individual coaching at the moment but a coach on my staff DOES. He is Coach Rex and you can book a call with him at myexbackcoach.com/coach-rex. He is OUTSTANDING at helping people get an ex back. He was a mentor to me when I was younger and he works directly for me. You can email [e-mail] with questions about coaching.

[@user-ld4bj1hk5k]

Hey Coach, I was wondering if you could do a video / series on what to do when you and your ex are in the phase of slowly getting back together after no contact and how to maintain control when they say they want you back and want to work on things. I’ve noticed it’s quite easy to get distracted from the work you put into yourself after no contact. How can we maintain that hard work we’ve put in ourselves when the dumper comes back?

[@RealCoachLee]

Hi L, I actually have information on that in my Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@kelseydaniel637]

Hi Coach Lee, I just watched your video about “30 day rule” and how that’s not valid. I am very curious does no contact days start the day after break up or is it from the time you officially stopped reaching out? It’s been 2 months and I keep reaching out. But your videos are helping so much!

[@RealCoachLee]

It starts from when you stop reaching out.

[@brandybraham5624]

I guess I need to give this a shot

[@Mixedbeauty11]

This is a great viedo, that is true I have no contact with him. He, blocked me everywhere; it’s impossible for him to see I changed.

[@KK-vs3vz]

My ex called me and made plans for us to meet up on 3 different occasions but each time he didn’t follow through. He doesn’t message me or call me on the day of the date to cancel either, he just goes silent. Coach Lee please advice on what we’re meant to do in this situation? Why does he keep asking to see me but then doesn’t come? I feel like ignoring any of his messages and phone calls from now on, cause it feels like he is just messing me about.

[@kiyaahrendt1318]

Coach Lee, 3 weeks into no contact and my ex is now liking my pics and watching my stories. He used to always say I was too focused on him and that I wasn’t having a life outside of him. Well, I’m looking better than ever. I’ve been posting in the gym, hanging out with friends and attending events. Is this why he’s trying to get my attention again ? He even commented on one of my post and it was vey flirty. I have still been silent, because he didn’t make direct contact like you’ve mentioned in other videos. I feel like he wants me to reach out first so that he doesn’t have to do much work.

[@JoVelvet]

Your videos are helpful. Thanks so much. My LDR ex and I had a little fight because I was dramatic and the next day he just told me he met someone the day we had a misunderstanding and that he was gonna give it a shot because he's not sure he can travel soon. It's the second time he broke up with me. We were not in contact the first time for 5 months and then got back but we did have some misunderstanding since but not anything major. My intuition tells me maybe he slept with this person so I texted him a day later when he broke things up and he said he hasn't and that I should just enjoy my freedom. My intuition tells me he'll come back but not right now. But I'm also inclined to just move on.

[@X0X0Gaven]

Just got broken up with 5 days ago. It happened with her showing up to my house out of the blue her saying she doesn't think she's the right one for me and then her leaving quick and blocking me on everything. We were together for 11 months and I feel like I've lost a part of me with the break up. The first few days I've tried to talk to her but now I'm just letting it go and seeing how it plays out. I'm terrified because I know I did wrong by overwhelming her with my emotions when she has a lot going on in her life. I'm unsure if she'll ever want to try again and I'm stuck I just really wish she would come talk to me and figure it out.

[@jabby17]

Update

[@frotusrwa]

Yea how are you any update?

[@its_dermo5588]

Ik how ur feeling bro, 17 months gone on Monday:(, hopefully she comes back

[@planetradio2]

I'm " Beyond No contact" I don't want him to contact me ever again. He ghosted me, He treated me with no regard of my status in his life, as if I didn't exist. His silent treatment was abusive too. It's been over 6 months of no contact. I'm beyond no contact

[@skinner1790]

thats what no contact is about let it go never think of them again find someone who truly cares

[@TrueWisdom992]

So why are you watching this vid ? 😂

[@VlogsbyR11]

Hey Coach, First of all thanks for your videos! Second thing is that, After doing no contact for a day, My ex reached me after 24 hours, Just said "Hi" Nothing more than that, We talked for a few (only 5-6 words though) and i let her lead the convo, I wanted to ask that if she reaches me out again, Should I ask for meeting or just continue texting? Please guide me sir 🙏

[@sashaharvey1963]

@Coach Lee you’re such a blessing to each of us. I’m sure you have a busy life and other things to do, but I have my notifications set for you and you don’t make videos often. Why if you don’t mind me asking

[@ParentalAlienationSupport]

Coach, what if you do not see your ex at all anymore. For example. If we live in different cities, work in different places and have different circles of friends? How do they know you have changed?

[@talktothehand4560]

Coach Lee, I am unable to purchase your emergency book guid online..it says there has been errors on this website Please respond with advise ASAP Thanks 🙏

[@RealCoachLee]

The errors were probably temporary because it's working fine. Just go to myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

[@Kevin_Borr]

It's been about two years now, nearly to the day. In some ways, I've made great strides, in others, I feel like I'm in a form of stasis... Any advice for me coach? Don't mean to keep too vague, Just finishing up from some overnight nurse shifts and always wanted to comment, but seemed to miss it. Thanks for keeping the content coming, appreciate it man.

[@r.maelstrom4810]

I am approaching that time mark too. I surely don't feel the acute pain i felt at the beginning and i've moved on with my life, feeling now more comfortable with the idea that i'm not gonna see her again. But due to the circumstances of our break up (an story with no completion basically because i was too late and cautious -she was an ex from the past who i've always loved-) something still feels wrong, i still feel wrong.

[@Rambo4President]

„Babe, I‘ve changed.“ „I don’t believe you.“ „I’ve watched Coach Lee‘s videos.“ „Marry me.“ The end.

[@magdadrague]

I started NC 52 days ago. He did not try to stop me or contact me at all. I wonder if he is a human being at all.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Magda, if you started NC 52 days ago, he's not going to contact you. Did you dump him, or was he the Dumper? If you dumped him, you're the one that makes the first move. If he dumped you, then he needs more time, or he decided to move on. However, give it a little more time until you decide to move on.

[@magdadrague]

@@jannlewandowski5540 Thank you for your answer. He dumped me in the summer, then begged me to come back, i did it, then he treated me worse and i started NC. In the last conversation he said "i will call you in 5 minutes, can't talk right now". He never called again, so do i.

[@motivmolotove]

Coach Lee can you make a video about bread crumbing?

[@shawny979]

Yeah, that's what I want to see as well.

[@deshaunlandry]

So what if I didnt do no contact very well and everything you’re saying I should’ve done I’m too late for

[@JeffFaFa728]

Does no contact work after a year the breakup happened and she has someone new? I started no contact once I found out she's in a relationship? Am I an anomaly or did I wait to long for NC

[@xcoachkim]

It depends on the details. After a year of NC, generally your odds have significantly tapered off. If she's with someone else and they've been together for more than a few months then it sounds like it's a committed relationship. Regardless, it's best to stay in NC and I suggest focusing more on you at this point in time. Speaking of which, I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@ynalysa]

Coach Lee I hope you will help me. I'm your avid fan since my BU. I did NC immediately after the BU then after 2mos he reached out to me several times saying he regrets the BU but just contacts me every week and didn't mention any reconciliation just some breadcrumbs like calling me in our call sign. We didn't have any formal talk ever since our BU. It's now 1month since he reached out to me. Does 2nd phase of NC works?

[@RealCoachLee]

It sounds like things could be moving in the right direction. Next time he reaches out I would suggest a face to face for coffee or something simple to catch up.

[@joannedomingo2398]

What happens when I walked out and now I’m regretting it because I miss him so much?A week later he knocked on my door returned things he borrowed turned around at my door and left

[@florinasimo5098]

My ex took my daughter with me lying to police that I broke his head with a hammer!!!! 😅😅😅😅 I lost my apartment, money and my child. So this breakup was because I made him German papers and I gave him a child. So I applied no contact because I don't need him back. Ever. I still come here to this amazing couch to change my mind in order not to loose my mind. I was lied, and betrayed but I do still believe in good men who treat you well and love you unconditionally. As I am

[@laurencel.7980]

do you do one on one coaching? where are you located? thanks

[@RealCoachLee]

Laurence, I’m not doing individual coaching at the moment but a coach on my staff DOES. He is Coach Rex and you can book a call with him at myexbackcoach.com/coach-rex. He is OUTSTANDING at helping people get an ex back. He was a mentor to me when I was younger and he works directly for me.

[@zeljkamarson950]

We are attractive and miserable to someone.

[@JKNat9004]

I'm (maybe I should say"we") are approaching Month 7 since the breakup after a nine year relationship. Recently we've started texting just a little bit. I'm scared of getting my hopes too high though.

[@maykhant2320]

sending hugs to u

[@bubblysprinkles]

Update?

[@ThomasCassonActor]

Mine gave me all the cliche excuses but then went into how I wasn't ready to meet the parents. Making her feel I wasn't that into it. I think meeting the parents is a big deal and offically we were together 2 1/2 months. But we were 'seeing each other' for 4 months before that. Any advice? I think slow and steady wins the race I wasnt quite where she was but I did like her.

[@josephfoster6313]

Good morning Coach Lee! Coming up on 9 months of no contact. Getting disillusioned about my prospects for reconciliation. What do I do?

[@RealCoachLee]

I have a video on that in the Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@RealCoachLee]

@@josephfoster6313 You are at the point where reaching out to him doesn't hurt your chances. I'd suggest a simple, "I saw xyz and it made me think of you. I hope you're doing well." Then wait for him to respond. If the conversation goes well, say: "We should catch up. When are you free this week for coffee?" If he declines with no offer of a makeup day/time, then you should probably do your best to move on.

[@rossblack4882]

Should I text my ex back during the no contact and how do I initiate no contact do I say or just stop replying? Because she continue to reach out

[@jannlewandowski5540]

rossbla, tell her to stop contacting you. Be nice, and be casual. Best of luck. I hope it works out for you. ❤

[@Tsisam11]

Hi, can you make a video for a situation where people still have to live with their exes before they move out?

[@NickRitumalta]

By the way coach Lee, do you offer coaching?

[@RealCoachLee]

Nick, I’m not doing individual coaching at the moment but the lead coach on my staff DOES. He is Coach Ken and you can book a call with him at myexbackcoach.com/coach-ken. He is OUTSTANDING at helping people get an ex back. He and I got our coaching certifications together about 18 years ago and he works directly for me.

[@qkau0556]

Hi coach. How about when am still in No Contact (week10 now). I disappeared completely on social media and no texting her no ntg. How can she see I have changed Do I break NC?

[@Andyange]

If you just got dumped please listen to this advice. Don’t give into your anxiety and send messages to your ex. This guy is the Jedi master of this shit!

[@dreykira2700]

Do NC without expecting the exes come back . Without Hoping ..Hope is dangerous in NC . DO IT OFR YOURSELF ONLY . I did it completely for 30days but she's not even saying sorry to me . ! She's a narcissist girlfriend . Who manipulate me for 8months . I put her in pedestal..that's the reason why Im not attractive to her anymore..she's treating me like her slave ..😒

[@chakrabartidola]

How to show that you have changed when he has blocked you and changed his phone number too?

[@Matt-st5ty]

I wish I'd have found Coach Lee earlier. But I'm worried I've already messed stuff up and it's too late. The first 2 weeks I tried to go NC without even knowing it was a thing. She reached out a couple times but then I started messaging her first after that. She wanted to be friends and see how stuff went in the future. By week 4 I'd decided I wasn't happy with the downgrade to friend and an option. We met in person and I explained to her I wasn't prepared to accept that, I wanted to date her as a minimum even if we didn't jump back into a relationship. I've been NC for 2 weeks now and not heard anything. I'm not expecting anything yet but also worried I messed it up by starting NC too late, by giving her an ultimatum of not accepting friendship but only dating and implying it's on her at this point if she wants me back which I think has created pressure. Have I made too many mistakes here? At least I found Coach Lee part way into this as I've been using his videos for therapy and learning what to do in the future!

[@HueyMullen]

Update?

[@Matt-st5ty]

@@HueyMullen I'd say the advice Coach Curtis gives is legit in a way. She's contacted me a few times, then even after I'd decided to cut ties and block her off social media, she'd text me when I got a new phone etc. I feel for MOST people my best advice would be to let the person go. She will most likely reach out to you to know she still has the power to get you back. Be the one to know your value and cut ties with them, it will hurt realising you will never be part of each others lives in the future, but you'll feel the power come back to you, over time you'll heal, you'll learn to grow and love yourself again. You'll realise the person you thought she was doesn't actually exist, that perfect person that you thought she was, was an image created in your own mind. The person for you won't risk losing you over whatever insignificant thing she lost attraction for you for. She will no doubtedly do the same in the future. She perceives her value to be higher than you until she loses you and then it's too late when she realises what she's lost. That's on her, not you. I'm happier now, my mindset has shifted, I got therapy, a dog, I've been working hard in the gym and mental self improvement, I've bettered my relationship with my family, and I have learned a lot through the heartache, I understand women a lot more although with that I have less of a desire to date them. This advice wouldn't be right for everyone, some people do get back with that person and live happy fulfilling lives, but for the majority I think my advice is the right thing to do. If I was ever in the situation where someone left me again, I would tell them "No problem, take care" and never contact them again, cold radio silence, deal with the pain on my end and use it as motivation to grow even more.