How To Unf*ck Your Life

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you guys for the incredible amount of support over the past years, but especially last year. I plan on making a post about it, but you’ve really all changed my life. Whenever you click on one of my videos, it makes way more of an impact than you know. Let’s keep evolving.

[@SyNcLife]

Thank you for doing this.

[@antoniomontana2034]

Thank you for all the great videos man

[@Jdub0126]

damn Cole you have this shi down to a science eh?

[@SleepingShadow200]

You too changed our lives

[@jakobpowerflexer]

When do you take in new changes ? After the two you picked. And thanks for a really inspireing video!

[@deadplex3995]

As a guy with - no friends - out of shape - spend all day inside - hates myself, this is godsend

[@yahlilevi9316]

you'll get better, be careful of the dip tho, just got out of it

[@shiyrentaylor7625]

How much has your life changed in the last 6 months since watching?

[@deadplex3995]

@@shiyrentaylor7625 Hey, thanks for asking! Six months ago, I was really struggling with depression, isolation, and a lot of problems. I had no friends and spent most of my days alone, barely interacting with anyone. One night, something clicked in me while I was deep in thought, and I realized I have a knack for deep thinking, probably thanks to my ADHD. Slowly, I started making small changes like doing squats and pushups, cutting out sugar and outside food, and focusing on self-improvement. I read books like Atomic Habits and developed a plan to better myself. Eventually, I decided to aim for studying abroad and started preparing for my 12th grade boards, IELTS, and SAT and must obtain top scores in all in next 5 months. Now, I'm out of depression, still working on my goals which for now are getting top grades in all examinations. It's been really intense, and I don’t know if what I want is even logical or reasonable but losing isn’t an option right now. Now I dislike not myself but the person im stuck inside, im still alone but I don’t feel lonely.

[@chrispalmer2178]

You've got this brother

[@deadplex3995]

@@chrispalmer2178 thanks dude

[@yusrafatima2594]

The amount of effort you put into your videos with all the editing, adding graphs and ton of research makes me so happy that people like you are not only helping your own self but everyone else as well

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for the love

[@thomasbrownjr8491]

He pays for the editing and graphics , a lot of KZbinrs with this kind of quality do

[@ColeHastings]

I actually edited this one, but I do have an editor now that edits like half my vids

[@thomasbrownjr8491]

That’s very impressive , great video

[@AndrewAvenaim]

For real I was astonished by the whole video. All the way from intro, to the slight edits, snip it’s, etc, the whole video was very well done.

[@CorinthianIvory]

Being hard on myself is realistically the biggest issue in my life. Thank you Cole.

[@fleetingworlds8610]

Same. I'm my own worst enemy

[@Cerevini]

This man helped me from felling Like shit

[@dogeprissy9850]

You're neurotic, stop being a little bitch.

[@cband8030]

@@fleetingworlds8610 everyone is, that’s the whole point of being human.

[@bonk7779]

@@cband8030u dont get it lol

[@EDWARDTHE9TH]

the one quote "perfection is the killer of dreams" had changed my life

[@ayush_._senpai]

It's been a month. There is no way I can express how grateful I am to you. This video changed my life for the better.

[@draru4365]

hows it going

[@ayush_._senpai]

​@@draru4365 ​Actually pretty great, I have a build a decent physique, i am consistent with my studies, i have a lot of friends now, self-care etc you name it. But even after around 5 months there are "weeks" where i am playing games 24/7 no good habits nothing, but i am kinda of used to that dip and after a while I get back on good things again.

[@UndergroundCongress]

Yeah how’s it going ?

[@UhBlink]

I never found this video before my transition into a functioning member of society, but I can tell you these were the steps I took for myself. Creating a whole new identity, going from someone who stays in their room for weeks playing nothing but games, avoiding school, and hell even starving myself. I've built such a great life for myself in the span of a few months. I lost 50 lbs, I got a girlfriend, a job, friends, and I never stay home for longer than a week. I'm always doing something. Life gets so much better once you're finally out of your shell. Don't waste it, this is your life.

[@bosoxbandit]

A week????? Get out there more my friend. Happy for you.

[@Seshewn]

Yo your comment j cured my depression lmao thx.

[@jean-michaelclarke5262]

What socials yall use 😮‍💨

[@JustTry-ZM]

I think the FBI recommended this video to me for some reason 😅

[@hitlordaa3479]

I can't. My anxiety won't let me. I hear about something terrifying and it haunts me for weeks. I can't get over it. So I just stay home all the time. Everyone is also always toxic. It gets really annoying after a while. Makes you feel lonely as well.

[@tritagiftw]

You changed my whole view on the Self Help Community. Keep up the good work!

[@ColeHastings]

Cheers

[@rigelb9025]

That's such a good point. I mean, compared to most self-help content I've seen throughout the years, this one looked & felt a lot more like actual SELF-help than the bulk of them, who often lack a clear structure & methodology that can be applied.

[@sujalsharma7299]

@@ColeHastings Sir I started working on myself every month I do dopamine detox for a week or sometimes 5days it really increases my concentration but sometimes in life you think nah this is not enough I need to work more cause of alot of freetime and by this video i finally found my new goal that is working on my body and not only brain. I Will try my best thank you alot Sir.

[@korneliusoderso]

@@rigelb9025 Check out struthless

[@kile3734]

Sad situation is that onlyfans videos have more views than videos about self-improvement. You deserve much more for the effort you put into videos like this one ! Huge respect dude, we are gonna succeed kings!

[@orekiii1671]

that's a weird way to compare but go kings!

[@Iminawe69]

Definitely feel like putting down legitimate work, is the antithesis of what this video is about "King"

[@moommoom6915]

@Awe Someness The point is that people watch porn more than videos that help you improve it's not that deep

[@Etherion956]

@@moommoom6915 it doesnt help really, but okay

[@Etherion956]

the comparison does not make sense, when you see a video of only fans you are paying for a service, a service that will give you "pleasure". On the other hand, the self improvement videos are advice, they do not assure you that they will change your life because that already depends on your experience with them. For example, almost a million people watched this video, do you think it worked for all the people who saw it? Or do you think that everyone who put this habit into practice did this habit work for them? And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that this content is bad because it's ambiguous or not useful for everyone, its useful for some people, but I'm just saying that the comparison doesn't make sense.

[@reptalianruffy1207]

Post not clearity brought me here

[@MaleekeyK]

How did it go after this video

[@JentonAktinwson]

I recommend everyone to find the book titled Tate Mindset; it goes deep into all of this, and it changed my life

[@suhhh950]

i found that ebook on your channel last week and bought it. Thanks

[@Ketsado]

My life was decent. Worked, exercised, ate right, moved towards my ambitions, then I had a kid with the wrong person and everything fell apart. Now no matter how much I attempt to bounce back it doesn’t overcome the feeling of wanting to self delete

[@rokometer8]

Why do you think it is with the wrong person?

[@Ketsado]

@@rokometer8 because I rushed into the relationship too quickly without getting to know the real her. She was attractive and nice sometimes. Once I got to know her I realized how masculine she is and impossible to get along with. Oh and she cheated…

[@Yamaha_Piano]

delete the kid

[@martinjunior1206]

@@Ketsado Why don't you divorce her and get proof of her cheating so the court can't be biased

[@jeanc4109]

@@Ketsado sounds like my uncle. He got divorced, moved in with family in a different state and he’s way healthier. Even though we don’t talk I’m so proud of him and love him so much. You got this, this community loves you and believes in you

[@TheDoomerGoGetter]

I really like the two small steps, in the past I got overwhelmed with self improvement trying to do a million things at once & beating myself up if I didn't do a habit one day. My two small steps is get better at making KZbin videos & get better at boxing. That's all I'm focused on for now

[@victorl13764]

Simplifying your life & goals helps a lot

[@TheDoomerGoGetter]

@@victorl13764 true

[@fry4549]

How long u have been training in boxing?

[@truesnuh4781]

When you fail, it feels like you are the only human on the planet it has EVER happened to. Everyone feels this way when they fail (save for some narcissists) but once you remind yourself that EVERYONE fails on a fairly regular cadence, and that life is going to hold more of them for all of us, it reduces the overwhelming weight of it and puts it into perspective. I always say to myself when I stumble "someone else is stumbling at this very moment, we'll be okay, let's help each other when we fail" and it has done wonders. Don't get angry, instead be kind to yourself, your inner child is still in there trying to figure out this hot mess we call life.

[@JayeSmacks]

thank you for this

[@phasemontony]

a

[@yohaizilber]

Also another huge underrated thing that gets overlooked! I identified these 3 things in my best days. Have a meaningful conversation with someone in your inner circle, create something you find beautiful, and learn something you didn't know before.

[@Ninjaair64]

One of the smallest steps I took this year is taking care of my mental health. Since then I have been going to therapy, putting myself out there online, feeling better about myself physically and enjoying life more. Now I'm just trying to get my financial goals met. It really is all about small steps and slowly growing each day as you improve in more areas. And appreciate the victories no matter how small.

[@dolphin-studio]

good luck doing that with high degre emotional numbness

[@Cloud-xy1mq]

How can I make my mental health better when i can't afford therapy and neither will my insurance cover it and I have no one to talk to.

[@saugatjarif8272]

@@Cloud-xy1mqjournal. Talk to yourself in a paper.

[@cheeseballs3825]

Thank you, Cole! You will be celebrated for generations as one of the greatest men to have ever lived. The world needs men like you now more than ever to help the lost get back on the right path. The future is bright and full of hope. May the sun warm your face, and the wind gently touch your back.

[@Th1boi]

Go touch some grass please

[@ryanc970]

Ok bro it's a good video but he's not Jesus

[@IBoofRanchDressing]

Its very very likely no. One will even know of his existence in 10 years. His channel is not evergreen content

[@cheeseballs3825]

Well he's done an awful lot of good for me! I feel like a lot of people suffering like me could be helped by his videos.

[@wildfire9280]

@@ryanc970 no he’s literally his brother

[@ivangohyindin6154]

Last year around the same time this video was posted, I started trying to 'try harder' in life. I did most of the things Cole did (granted that I learned it somewhere else) for about 3 to 4 months, feeling like I'm on top of the world. It was not easy, but it felt like a hard fought war. After that, repetition started getting a toll on me. Burnouts were regular, and falling into 'Entertainment Addiction' eventually made me stop trying almost completely, only 6 months into it. Now, I'm still in that pit hole. Time to time, I think back to the old days where i fought like a champ, a real man, and look like someone I would admire and aspire to be... I'm still not 100% sure what went wrong, but I know a few of the culprit at least. Perfectionism and the fear that came along with it. Hope anyone out there trying to 'try harder in life' don't repeat my mistakes.

[@chad4275]

Yea I’m the beginning i had so much motivation and purpose but I’m trying to be better

[@andreasnosal3917]

Try to counter the "culprits", write those things, that stop's you on paper and try to find the answer. Easier said than to be done, but that is the key for me :) Never is late for improvement.

[@banditoshots720]

I know it probably wont mean a lot from a random person like me, but you can do it man, i truly believe in you to get back to where you were and push farther.

[@sydnayyyyyyy66]

I think a big part of it is working on yourself and trying hard in order to feel good about yourself. Like u said about feeling like you were on top of the world for those first months. focusing on how hard youre working in that moment and the pride that comes with it instead of only what you want in the end. loses its value after a while

[@sunbear76re]

This hit hard, I just realized I’ve gone through this not once but multiple times and now noticing it I don’t feel as bad reading you experienced the same. Because I feel proud you noticed and trying, this makes me realize not to be hard on myself. I fail. A lot. To a point I feel cursed for life. But the fact I try, the fact I get back up and notice my mistakes shows I’m not a bad person and crave a change. Proud of you! It’s the journey not the destination, so so proud of you! Your experience helps others see the fact we’re not bad or failures. We got this and we’ll be successful, and everyone who reads this.

[@mustbecome]

I think one of the most important parts of truly changing who you are for the better is: realizing that your habits really do form your IDENTITY. Good or bad, they're not just things that you do, they're things that you are. You can expect the quality of your outputs to be similar to the quality of your inputs. Been awesome following your journey, Cole. Keep going.

[@Lilmomo-st5zh]

This is honestly so inspirational; I’m at a point where I’m trying to pull myself out of a rut- underpaid, overworking job where I have to flip my sleep schedule at least 2-3 times a week so I never feel like I have the energy for anything else. OT every week, no sick/vacay time, working 6-7 days a week. I’ve tried starting with my diet, but that’s about all I’ve accomplished in 2 weeks- it just seems so hopeless- but then I see a vid like this and I think for just a moment, maybe- just maybe- I can do it

[@EnderTrev5]

starting with your diet is actually a huge step, we are what we eat so not eating like shit leads to not feeling like shit

[@zachwalford5918]

You can do it!! 🎉

[@murgegaming4483]

You got this 💪💪💪🙏

[@pimpinondemhos101]

Honestly diet is one of the hardest things you can conquer. You got this my friend, get after it!

[@coocoo9120]

You got this 👊

[@erichgund8848]

I really appreciate these videos man. I'm in this same scenario. In the past few weeks I've been hit by a wave of nihilism and an unexplainable feeling of laziness. I have been procrastinating severely recently and spending all my "free time" on the internet. My sleep and exercise have suffered as well as my porn use. I'm trying to get back on the journey of life and reinforce a better identity. Don't give up kings. Keep your role models and values close even when you're at your lowest.

[@t5.0ny]

Keep being excellent bro! Every morning you wake remember you can do whatever you set yourself to do because nothing is stronger than knowledge of one’s self .

[@crunchybroll4731]

Jesus christ is your way out of nihilism

[@chickennugget5372]

@@crunchybroll4731 maybe to you, everyone has their own way of overcoming problems, don’t have to project yours onto others like it’s the only way out

[@kolter00]

He who takes more pride in the actions it takes to attain the result than the result itself can’t be stopped. ACTIONS > RESULTS

[@ruimira6263]

I'm starting this journey first thing in the morning. I've been doing really bad in life, I avoid social interaction with my closest friends and even my really, but really supporting girlfriend, I avoid most of the classes because I find them boring or because I just want to go home and "hide" myself from everyone, I can't even start a conversation with a stranger without getting weirdly uncomfortable. I want to change that, and I will change that, I'm tired of living in this loop in which I have zero control over my life. I can't promise I'll come back to this comment, but if things go right, you will hear from me again. Stay safe everyone, the world is such a better place with you in it.

[@mylinhnguyen3751]

How you doing, hope youre doing well

[@thetravellers1253]

It's not so bad knowing there are others out there like me . Hope we all succeed in this journey. I may be late but thank you very much cole for this. I needed it ❤❤❤

[@Randomguy__709]

WE GOT THIS

[@xEuryale]

I hope your life is better ❤

[@user-zw5ht4cp5f]

Hello

[@SofoArchon]

To unf*ck your life, you need to stop giving a sh*t about things that don't matter, and focus on what actually does. Simple as that.

[@alenaatoutlemonde4036]

Not as simple for getting rid of those cognitive distortions and whatever habits that keep you from doing what you want to do. Your worst enemy is yourself, but you gotta learn to accept and love yourself.

[@sebastiann9279]

Thanks i needed this

[@justframealtf4615]

true, you can do what ever you want as long as you feel content and fully happy with your life, people just want to push their agenda on others, the only thing they accomplish is show how miserable their fake lives are, bunch of american psycho beat off's.

[@fuckshitfuck69]

Exactly!

[@Hichi1337]

Then how to figure out what matters and what doesn't?

[@lmsiv5829]

Bro in a time where the media is dominated by the Tate, Peterson, Groggins, alpha male grind, etc mindset you are finding success teaching people how to improve their lives in (my opinion) the correct, healthy, and encouraging way. 🎉 that is huge

[@BonsaiSoul]

my mum passed away 2 years ago when i was 19 (22 now). i cant lie she did ALOT for me, she was an angel. i was still a kid when she died, i didn't know how to be an adult, it was such a massive change. i spent all my inheritance money in 5 months. now ive been in a pit, unable to escape. recently ive been trying to get better and improve my life. im applying for jobs, quitting bad habits and trying to get healthier. this video helped so so much. most videos are just like (exercise, eat good, have a job) but i a[appreciate that you go into the more mental side and how real the struggles can be. thankyou for this cole. like and a sub

[@RBlizz]

Great video Cole, my birthday is in 15 minutes. I’ll be 32. I’m no where near where I want to be I have nothing to show for my life. Covid ruined my life. It was a tipping point. When I lost my job I just became a really negative, unmotivated, lazy, depressed, lonely and anxious person. I feel so lost. I really appreciate your content. Among other things I will utilize these tactics and get out of this rut and live a prosperous, productive and healthy life. Pray for me. I’ll pray for you. God Bless you all. Spread peace love and happiness KZbin!

[@kursegasp6136]

This video just came out at the best possible time for me. I’ve felt like I’ve been relapsing into my old habits for a while now and that I’m just going to go back to sitting in my room, by myself, with nobody to talk to. You just gave me hope again. Thanks man

[@chickennugget5372]

I feel the exact same way, some things like this come perfectly timed as if it’s a sign from the world that we need to get our shit together lol

[@Resolve_Revolution]

My life was great, going out working out almost every day having a purpose in life but in the last 2 months i got my first panic attacks and anxiety so i stop everything i loved and stayed home... I hope i can get better and start going out again and not staying home.. Thank you so much Cole ❤️

[@labyrinth123]

same... how are you now?

[@cpy6735]

Hey cole, you have helped me throughout my early 20’s so much. I have had so many personal issues that I constantly hate about myself , but you’re my saving grace , you always show me the light and give me hope that I can change to the person I want to be. Thank you ❤

[@ColeHastings]

That means a lot to me. Im happy i could help

[@Milo-Mike]

What are you doing now?

[@ssashank2599]

Beautiful sir.. That's really really good.. Please donot stop making self improvement videos its absolutely helpful.. I will remember this video forever.. And when I succeed in life I'll come back here and comment "I did it" ( that's my promise)..

[@yahlilevi9316]

i'll be there when you'll write that, good luck bro

[@mkdegrat]

How’s it going 13 days later?

[@tuukkafilppu7889]

I'm pretty proud of myself. Last year have been a hell of a journey. Started to cut off my bad habits one/two at a time and I now can tell the difference clearly. First I started to sleep better, after that my goal was to stop pleasing other people too much. I deleted almost every social media apps from my phone, started to do things I like. Also fixed my eating schedule and started to eat much more and little bit healthier. Got job from a storage and allthough it's pretty simple and repeats itself I like it a lot. First time in years I started to feel good, motivated and you know stuff like that. Set a few goals etc. I'm just so glad that I started this jorney :)

[@IloveYT196]

This actually is one of the most high quality video I have ever watched.

[@M.J_]

The small steps is the most important part of this. You need to changing your self image before you can explode with progress in a given area of improvement. These small steps easily change your self image towards goals that you have for yourself. Taking large steps with clash with your self image will lead to you doubting yourself and potentially quitting.

[@kumaraayush]

Cole has been the only self-imporvement channel that has managed to reatain me as a viewer. He always finds out new and unique topics rather than reiterating the same points again and again

[@cheeseburger7788]

@@weeklydeltarunenews hamza has waaaay too big of an ego

[@Vik1919]

​@@cheeseburger7788 Hamza is pathetic

[@notxcarter]

Gonna start this right away tomorrow morning. Dealing with a lot of self hate, a ton of problems, and a really rough patch in my relationship rn, but if I want to become the man she needs me to be I need to start now, with the next smallest step. Hopefully I can update this comment in a month or two with some real progress to show for it. Thank you Cole, you hit me where I needed it. Wish me luck.

[@juanruiz7876]

you got this king im starting at 0 today too

[@Crimson06]

Good Luck man!!👍

[@ironinfernoplays3380]

how is it going?

[@jakestatefarm1331]

How’s day 14?

[@psahd92]

How's your 3rd week?

[@ryan99842]

if you want to go deeper into the rabbit hole, 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood is a must-read

[@lootpotato]

I just recently started creating my new Identity, mostly when I got my new job, and been seeing the changes around me little by little. I been finding more peace within my own self and I know this just the start.

[@ColeHastings]

Really is dude. Hope to see you in the call tonight!

[@boolbertram2509]

My life was going good, I had just moved out of my parents and met someone who I thought was the one. I then made a mistake while drinking and suffered a major injury it’s been nearly a year and I’m still not where I want to be and I’m about to have to move back into my parents and I no longer have people in my life. I was stuck on painkillers and I’ve been in my house in my bed for nearly a year. Im just In the beginning but I don’t want to give up I’m gonna fight for my happiness

[@dogwithanak.mp4]

as a 14 year old, this will help me greatly. thank you for showing me the way forward. i now have a plan to improve myself in my teen years.

[@MeganMarieMasters]

I searched this up, I’ve been severely depressed for 9 months I do nothing I have good grades but I lay in my bed all day, I wasn’t having good hygiene, I never talked to anyone, I stayed in my pitch black room all day with no job or purpose just scrolling on instagram…im tired of it, I deleted it started trying to help myself bc I am the only person who can get myself out!!!it is my responsibility nobody else will do it for me, my hygiene is better in starting to work out, im finally going outside again, eating healthy,washing my clothes and I feel amazing I’ve been working on my skin and it’s clearing up. If anyone is reading this Ik it’s not easy but you can do it, your the only person who can and it sucks but everybody is alone you only have yourself…I hope whoever you are you get out of what your going through…have a great day❤

[@adamsnguyen00l]

pretty sure that there's no way you're going to see this but I just want to say. Thank you. Thank you for changing my perspective of the life I'm having right now, thank you for motivating me into doing what I really wanted to do for a very long time, and thank you for helping me become who I really want to be, starting from tomorrow my journey will begin.

[@Finaius]

That is the power of identity change. One of the most effective ways to quit a habit for me is to give up my old self, like deciding that my life ain't about sleeping in no more, or I am the type of person who doesn't have the choice to sleep in.

[@Black1ion]

This channel deserves way more credit.. going through an awful time in my life right now and these videos help me a lot and give me hope... I dont think im at a stage where i can be disciplined enough todo everything you explained in this video but hopefully one day i will be.. Thanks Cole.

[@Qwerty.240]

Is everything okay now? Hope you're doing well.

[@juliperez2220]

hey you should do an update man i hope everythings better now

[@youknowwho7896]

this isnt a self imporvemnt channel its an story channel ... The story of the combined effort of us people

[@Joemamareal]

I’m going to start my journey on self improvement because I’ve been depressed for far to long, been dealing with depression for a year and a half now after experiencing a terrible relationship and already dealing with self esteem issues and feeling worthless seeing others happy while I’m struggling to even love myself, this video is inspiring me to get out my bad mindset and realize that I can change and that time will do me justice in becoming the person I want to be, I will come back and let everyone know if I’ve gotten better and Ik I can, thanks for putting this video out I know it will help me, I no longer will let my depression ruin me

[@labyrinth123]

good luck, you got this!!!

[@xanderwindeymusic]

Good luck brother. I made that choice a little over a year ago and.. it is worth it

[@veggiesesh]

Been in probably the worst rut of my life for the last couple months. I started taking some steps on self improvement a few weeks ago, and they are crazily similar to what this videos suggests. I still have a long way to go but I’m already beginning to feel a lot better. I no longer am constantly in a battle with my negative thoughts. (Obviously have not gone away completely though) here’s to the journey and the hope I’ll come out the man I want to be

[@zeg2651]

What I find myself in right now is that I'm relatively happy with what I do and where my life is going. The only problem I have is that I'm holding on to emotional pain, meaning I constantly expect being emotionally hurt, so that once someone actually hurts me, it just feels like any other day. The simple thought of letting this guard down, gives me anxiety => I seek comfort in the pain, which is not good, and I'm currently stuck on that and don't know how to get out of it

[@stinkynoke]

i did something like this but ive got a program on my computer that tells me to drink water, workout, and do all those things when i turn it on. everyday reminder because i use it everyday until eventually my adhd caught up and now i do those things everyday. genuinely have been the happiest i've been since covid started. :)

[@VXTViczee]

This was motivating bro. Do you remember which program u used?

[@Watashi.Atashi]

Is difficult to do it but you have to do what's hard

[@ColeHastings]

Yessir

[@andrewrivera190]

I am living in Japan. I have things relatively stable. My life isn’t exactly bad but I haven’t been accomplishing some goals I want and I am stuck in some old habits. It’s very important to be thankful for what you do have. Most people I talk to in my line of work are very lonely. I am thankful I do have friends.

[@RigmorTalonbeard]

I wish I saw your videos before i fucked up my life, but at least you have the step by step process to get out of this rut. I honestly believe you are better then a counselor because you have real advice that you used to get better, rather then generic advice that necer works

[@ROMANMAKEAMOVE.]

Love this video. I have been struggling with my life of stress, obesity, hateful, and hopeless. Today, I decide to change my life to be better in all aspects. Thank for this video.

[@JoelClaytonYT]

I went through all the steps just barley and I already feel so much better. Knowing that ups and downs are normal helps me know if I keep pushing through and not be super hard on myself like I have been, I can make real progress. I’m saving this video in my notes to come back to and watch when I’m in a dip. Thanks for making this video. I subscribed and turned on post notifications. Looking forward to more videos from you!

[@ColeHastings]

Awesome to hear, keep it up!

[@prinstyrio0]

The "new identity" part is such a big one I learned myself as I was hitting my twenties. The phrase "just be yourself" never hit me well, it's a phrase often repeated without the context or care to analyze it for a person and how far it goes. When you stop looking at the person you've become so far as "yourself" you can start realizing how it's at times used in the wrong context. The person you're now isn't a complete being, you always evolve and change with your surroundings, and you can shape that yourself with effort. Bad habits, behavior or just the way you unconsciously react or think without saying or expressing something can be changed, and may very well be why you're not getting allow with other people and the world. You can't truly forcibly change others nor the world, no matter how hard you try, but you can change yourself and force yourself into it. It may sound disingenuous, like whoever does this or yourself is suddenly faking, but fake a personality enough and in time those things may likely stick, as long as you work on your thought process behind them, they aren't fake, but the new you. So instead of getting stuck on the "just be yourself" (even if there's things we really can't change like the things we love doing that's not harmful), think more "be who YOU want yourself to be". And not in the way of completely changing yourself, but look at yourself and see yourself objectively, see yourself as not "self" but someone else, and ponder on what qualities of yourself is really damaging and what could be elevated. Your kind thoughts be more outspoken, your way of judging people to instead be silenced and give them the benefit of a doubt or just your way of trying categorize life and everything into black and white, instead accept that a lot may just be grey. It's a hard thing to describe and rather something you gotta work yourself, like anxiety, depression or other mental issues.

[@JP-sw9vm]

Well said

[@cartierzay5210]

Indeed

[@ZapCCannon]

Man, this is way too relatable, especially if you're coming just right out of the dip. The structure and self-reflection is a massive help though, something I'll definitely pick up.

[@Kimchi-y9w]

Thank you so much for this. I will try my best to change my life. I'm tired of living my life as someone who doesn't have work and just let his emotions and bad habits control him. i wanna be someone better and different from who I am and I will achieve it.

[@fedirhilchuk7340]

After this video, I thought:"I need to change" and "My life is fuck3d up". This gave me a big amount of motivation to change my life for better. Thanks for this video. I hope you' re also change your life soon!

[@nathananderson8720]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 3 months ago about self development. Now I have 224 subs and almost > 90 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[@ColeHastings]

That’s so sick man, keep it up

[@nathananderson8720]

@@ColeHastings Thanks so much! I realized that the main reason for doing this is not about the success but the inspiration I've been providing some people with my stories while helping others do the same as I shared the lessons & experiences through making videos to have a sense of meaningful purpose. Therefore, I’m planning to quit nursing to pursue youtube full time as there are lots of issues in our traditional health systems as these don’t align with my values. It’s a huge learning curve but I love helping people through making videos.

[@CallMeDaddy-bl4ej]

If you feel hopeless. hold on the the fact that the realization of what you do wrong, and you knowing you need to change is already a big step up. Youre already on a good way and 30% done, dont give up.

[@Ronniefil]

"Please take action on this video instead of just mindlessly consuming it " Gracias!!

[@antonysmith9527]

I cried when I watched this. I feel on the sidelines of life and it seems that I will never have anything good. God give me strength

[@adrippygoose]

During this journey, remember "the end is always better than the start"

[@beeeeez9598]

I struggle with cyclothymia (something similar to bipolar 2) and decided to watch this video during my depressive episode. The fact that you made me get out of bed to write on my journal is simply enough for me, considering that was something I could not do. You have no idea how much your videos help people. Thank you so much!

[@yazdanelysium]

Had bipolar....beat the shit out of it....sending love❤❤

[@beeeeez9598]

@@yazdanelysium Thank you so much 🥰

[@Ayashiza]

I'm so glad I see someone else here with Cyclothymia, I was also watching this video during the ends of my depressive episode, so it's comforting to know there other people with and who understand the condition. 😊

[@beeeeez9598]

@Ayashiza It's so rare to find someone with this condition to talk to, isn't it? Thank you for sharing! The depressive episode can be really difficult, indeed, but we just have to be patient with ourselves and live one day at a time. Sending lots of love ❤️❤️

[@Ayashiza]

@beeeeez9598 I agree with that sentiment, thankyou and sending love back ❤️

[@j.r.l.p2544]

Thank you for this useful guide. I feel stuck and living in a worse loop than I used to. I lost my social skills during the pandemic and have a hard time making friends again. Now, I'm gonna keep rewatching this video to remind me that I need to change. Thank you so much.

[@JimJuno]

I can relate to losing social skills. Also after the pandemic. It's really weird because social skills have always been a strong point of mine.

[@tcggggg]

Factssss

[@sTonE01678]

Two Coles are currently changing my life into a better one J Cole and you.

[@rendyananda4101]

I never felt this unstoppable for the past 3 years.

[@KidRohan]

Love this wholesome accountability-focused perspective on self improvement.

[@lagirl4648]

Cole, this is one of my favorite videos from you! I especially love all the examples! This is so helpful!!💗

[@ColeHastings]

Appreciate it!

[@hamzahjoudeh4406]

This is honestly one of my favorite videos from your channel because it honestly represents the state. I was in a few months ago, but luckily I was able to discover self-improvement discover channels like this search channel and I’ve been able to make extreme strides in my life but I’m so glad that I watch this video because I wanna continue to make sure that I become the best version of myself!

[@jaysonpratama7596]

i feel like fcked up bro, i've got no friends, i've got a low amount of money, i already sweat my ass off every single day, trying my best to become the best version, but that doesn't work, i feel a wave of loneliness, just feelin empty inside, like there's no purpose in my life, this pandemic has taken away a lot of things in my life, including self confidence.

[@Blackout-px7sh]

💔

[@pleyco]

I just graduated high school not too long ago with a extraordinary ranking passing my peers, but shortly after that I grew terribly lazy with no goals, false dreams, and no sense in direction to do what I want to do with my life. Today, or tomorrow morning I should say will mark the change of myself. I’m going to keep learning about my dream job, being a pilot and will make moves to do that! I really, really appreciate your video and hopefully I can come back to this one day as a pilot that could fly a Boeing 707. Thank you.

[@antoinecrenshaw]

Your videos always seem to come at the right time, so thank you for that. Despite all the work I've put into improving myself I never really gave much attention to the fact that I just stop my routine or am not as motivated sometimes and how it affects the bigger picture. I'm going to implement all the things you've demonstrated and catch myself when I hit "The Dip".

[@coolguycoolguy7267]

Put myself out there and be vulnerable. That’s how I unf*ck my life

[@ColeHastings]

You know what to do. Time to take action

[@coolguycoolguy7267]

Take action with no fear

[@KoopatoadYT]

​@Coolguy Coolguy Bravery isn't not being scared, it's being terrified but still pushing through.

[@coolguycoolguy7267]

threrees nothing to be terrifyed of, not even fear @@KoopatoadYT

[@placefantasy1821]

I appreciate you making this so much. I’ve been at my lowest recently and I don’t want to live like this anymore so I know I need to make the chance and start to like myself

[@That_Random_British_Dude]

What makes this different from a bunch of other motivational speaker videos is this is very realistic, plus editing, narration etc are very well done. You my good sir have earned a subscriber. Now gotta get myself out of this rut

[@peytonv8569]

Hey brother, I know you probably won’t see this but for the past few months I have driven my life into the ground and tried to solve my problems with a bottle and today was my rock bottom, I felt completely hopeless and as a last ditch effort I looked up how to fix my life and your video popped up after watching a few of your videos I truly feel a sense of confidence that I can pull myself out of this mess and change my life. I’ll push through this, truly I have been approaching the end of my rope and your motivational words and demonstration of the steps that need to be taken truly helped me god bless❤️.

[@Carrillo91]

Going thru a hard breakup and I *really* needed this. Thank you.

[@OldLadyMapleSeed]

I hope you’re really proud of yourself. This amount of dedication is super impressive and I’m sure the work you put into this video helped a lot of people. Also, you are absolutely gorgeous.

[@Snagger__11]

Best video ever man! In a rut rn because I thought I was going to do well this semester. Yet, despite my greatest efforts, it’s not going well at all. The part that you mentioned about societal expectations got to me as I realized the only reason why I was so hard on myself was because of things my friends and father told/ expected of me. I will look back at my final roadblock note I made and definitely make some small steps today as well as identifying on a deeper level who I want to be. “If you don’t choose something, someone else will choose it for you”

[@latest5011]

Thank you. I'm a 14 year old high school student who's not really good socially and is constantly putting myself down, although recently I've been going to the gym and stopping negative thoughts enter my mind. This video will help me into becoming the kinder and better person I want to be, great video much love

[@lorebringers]

listen young fella, don't forget what i say now, i am 25, what i wish the most is to be again young like you, do self improvement at this age or you'll reach mine or even older and say "i wish i started sooner", go grind and don't forget what I said

[@zacharywoloszynski4258]

Dont hurt yourself at the gym, really common mistake.

[@latest5011]

@@lorebringers Thank you

[@latest5011]

@@zacharywoloszynski4258 I know, I always search up the workout I do for proper form to avoid injuries

[@creatorboix]

I am 14 too, i also hope to improve myself. Forgive your past selves and work for your future.

[@winstonceasear74]

Thank you for helping me get myself right if i didn't stay positive the negative will keep me down im strong and be positive

[@user-16276]

Was in the "dip" for few month and watched this video really helped me

[@Zigorate]

Very nice video.... A lot of people tell us "Be Disciplined".. But here, u show us how exactly we can be disciplined. Love ur work, man 👍🏻

[@EmaX004]

13:38 This single phrase made a click in my head, Im definitely gonna take action, im happy with my body but there are a lot of other things about myself that I know I can improve

[@rail7646]

Thanks Cole I lost 30kg in the last 6 months and built a good amount of muscle, I'm missing the last 10kg but I found myself sabotaging myself I feasted over 20k kcal in the last 3-4 days until my stomach hurt with junk and felt like a piece of trash, the W and L System helped me out here, my stomach still hurts from all the crap I put into me but I'm going on a walk now listening to a nice audio book while putting the first W on my wall after a whole week of giving myself just relentless pain. Stay strong brothers I definitely hit the dip here but I'll recover from it!

[@UnknownUnknown-cd4hh]

If you’re unsure, what person you wanna be? Look at your role models, and take traits you like about them.

[@joqc1486]

World is beautiful once you’ve find your place in it . I found my way ouf of it recently though and I’m just always sad . I’ve lost all my interest of living now and the only thing keeping me alive is I don’t want to hurt my family , otherwise I wouldn’t be here and honestly that would be so much botter , just thinking of if reliefs make me feel better cause I know there is a way out .. scary but true

[@Awindow]

You're absolutely correct dude , making small goals towards your target and completing them is much better than setting one big goal , this keeps me really motivated , I'll follow your steps too ! 🔥🧡👌

[@samgaming0626]

Today was my first day living on your advice, Cole. To be honest, I keep my motivation in me only on the pure belief that I can be much better than I am now. It's sort of like a placebo effect, huh. But your words and clear visualization made it clear to me that even if I'm not at the bottom right now, it doesn't mean that I can continue to stagnate. Therefore, with great faith in a better myself, I will follow your example and begin to change for the better. And although I could get by with a few words, I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. Thank you.

[@Elonamuska771]

How its going bro. All well and good hope you are doing great.

[@samgaming0626]

@@Elonamuska771 I am, in fact, doing better than before. Started to improve my habits and began jogging from time to time. Overall im doing great, thanks for asking.

[@fattymcfatfat5]

Im glad im no longer in a place where i need this video

[@EmilyMarie-yd5jy]

proud of you stranger

[@JoshTheWoz]

lucky

[@fattymcfatfat5]

@@JoshTheWoz it may be a little luck but it's also determination, sure your life is fucked and it may get fucked daily. It's so easy to lay down and take it. But ya just gotta get back up even though it sucks or it may not even be worth it. Enjoy the little things in life because one day you'll realize that those were the big things. I wish you the best of luck man.

[@JoshTheWoz]

@@fattymcfatfat5 wow thank you sm! I'll make sure to take your advice 👍

[@Kevkk099]

I was surprised on how easy but yet hard it was to change the way i think of life my self esteem now is way higher and i started with some small changes like, letting my hair grow to try a different hair style (i was stuck on the same thing cause i was afraid of what people around me would think), and by that i stopped caring about what people think of me. I dont care about what other people look like or do so why should they? Thank you so much for this video :)

[@garylicbread]

self talk is a natural coping mechanism. ive embrace the self talk but once i got to accept it its now manageable. awareness is the key

[@thunderlord5288]

I have been trying to improve myself and I know how those negative thoughts feel. I really love this video and Ill keep looking back to get myself out of the dip of mindless consumption and worthless thoughts. I feel like im in the dip right now but I love the little Ws everyday and I will try to enact some of the good habits i have enstilled. Much love

[@aviansnow]

0:04 and this man is already attacking me :(

[@nicks8991]

This is a goldmine of self improvement. It’s realistic and easy to follow 🔥

[@denispopal4100]

I can't believe how well you expressed my feelings and insecurities in one video. Well done Cole, I hope your thoughts will stick with me.

[@davidconlon7698]

This video might have saved my life