How We Almost Sabotaged Our Relationship.... | Jeanine and Kaleb

Welcome back to another episode of Happy and Healthy, fam!! Today , we are doing DATING ADVICE! We open up about how we almost wrecked our relationship with self sabotage and our advice on it for you. We also discuss relationship anxiety, answer your questions, and of course do a READ IT ON REDDIT!! Hope you enjoy this episode!!
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[@rebecataveras873]

"Is it sabotage or are you just toxic?!" - LOL! Can't get anymore real, love it!

[@AJay-md1ll]

My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs & we only dated for 6 mos because we both knew from the moment we first went on a date that we were meant for each other. We eloped, had a small little gathering with less than 50 people to make our marriage official and introduce our closest family members to each others families. It hasn’t been smooth but we’ve had the best ride together ❤

[@pisicacutecat4869]

Congratulations! Your story is almost identical to mine. My husband and I only knew each other for 4 1/2 months before we eloped and then 11 months later we had a church wedding. We've been married for almost 18 years. 🙌🙏✝️🛐

[@NicoleRodriguez-de1hk]

I love when you guys just tell random stories about your relationship, whether it be when you were dating or married! Kaleb does such a great job of leading these convos 👏🏼

[@dreamchaser7603]

You are such a cute couple 💕Those conversations are needed before marriage, it’s crucial to build deep emotional connection and trust before you get married. It’s ok to date and be engaged for way longer, it takes time to open up… Christian dating most often looks inauthentic and more like interviewing each other, rather than being vulnerable… Your consciousness, heart, soul and body should align… It takes time… or it won’t… don’t force it then…

[@bellaangel4422]

My husband and I have been married 5 years and we still learn and grow everyday. Patience is always key.

[@dreamchaser7603]

This is so sad …you both felt misunderstood 😞 You have different attachment Styles, guys. She is fearful-avoidant (that’s why she denies it and bails) and he is anxious ( that’s why he felt anxious and is hurt easier)… Usually it’s the other way around… You are not crazy!!! Being mindful of your own and your partner‘s attachment style, learning about it and communicating, will make you more secure. Don’t live in denial, it builds up shame and guilt. The truth sets you free!!! Don’t feel guilty of not being secure, it’s not your fault!! It’s the result of life-Long traumas and different personality types.

[@gevaphillips4959]

I was in a relationship when my dad passed away (we ended up getting married) but it was extremely scary to think about continuing the relationship. The pain and grief you go through when a parent passes away is unimaginable and you truly turn into a new person. I would advise the young lady to be patient with her bf and try her best to take herself out of the center. Encourage her to listen to him when he is sad and provide any practical needs she can. What he is going through is horrific and her best bet is to just let him deal with his emotions, and not take anything personally.

[@sulee3379]

I appreciate kaleb’s vulnerability and honesty to share his story. Thank you. So comforting to know men also go through this.

[@Hope_Crum]

Y’all have permission to “shoot the sheesh” whenever you want 😂 I love it. It’s always raw and authentic.

[@austinmalayil]

Both of y'all are setting such a great example for the younger generations

[@HappyandHealthyPodcast]

❤

[@huntergreene7306]

He hit the nail on the head, men don't want to just be friends- some women genuinely do. It's different lol

[@naomigiselle00]

Establishing healthy eating patterns, women's health, getting out of ruts, thinking your life is over/pressing on, prophecies you've seen fulfilled, are all podcast ideas that I'd love!

[@ItsNicoleAnderson]

Yesss

[@angeladargie4829]

I love marriage topics. Hearing y'all's takes on world events from a Christian perspective would be interesting too.

[@annie5593]

I love how Kaleb validated where you were coming from when you had all your fears and talked about how much pressure there is in Christian dating culture. He's very emotionally mature and I thought that was so sweet like he really understands how you felt. So glad God brought yall together!

[@eminenceautumn]

Great episode!!

[@yezkex]

Such a great podcast!

[@hannahdavis8022]

hi i would like to hear more ways to grow as a christian ways to share the gospel in everyday life and to hear you life updates as well

[@normalemus5117]

i loveee episodes when you guys do it together

[@marinabarriero]

I pre-ordered your book from Target!! I can’t wait

[@nz7780]

I’m really glad you brought this up: women will be all in and invested and wanting things to go as planned, BUT we will use the word “IF” (“If we get married maybe we can take a trip to Bora Bora and stay in the little cabins on the water”) because we don’t want you men to think we are pressuring you. Because it’s been ingrained in our brains that men have commitment issues or that we may scare you off, etc. Hope this helps a man out there NOT read into the word “IF.” She’s bringing up marriage and being future minded, keep it at that. 💗🙏

[@producTIMity]

Looking forward to another insightful podcast!

[@ryliechase3002]

This is SO helpful!!!

[@democratbot1298]

Wow I love this podcast I learn something new everytime

[@shafaghkamkar4009]

Loved this episode. thank you. I appreciate the honesty and authenticity

[@danikacarter9589]

I’m celebrating 13 years of marriage in June and I’m still learning a lot!

[@TyAngelPurple]

Thanks so much Jeanine and Kaleb! I love it when you two do podcasts together! So much wisdom and advice! I wish I would have known these things months ago.

[@aidasall4815]

LOVE how real & raw you guys are! two of my favesss fr ❤️

[@kaitlyncantillo]

I actually really like when you guys talk about what’s going on in your life’s cause usually the body of Christ goes through the same things :)

[@matthewd9034]

Praise The Lord!

[@DahliaTuong]

Hey Kaleb, thank you for being truthful and vulnerable here ❤ we all have human feelings and anxiety and those self-sabotaged thoughts. You guys are actually so courageous for sharing your love journey ❤❤❤

[@loving.and.laughing]

oh i would loovee to see you react in like 25 years to your early married podcasts😍😂 just laughing and loving!

[@marcy21ish]

I love the conversations you guys have. It makes me hopeful to find my person. Also I hope I remember this info when it is that time lol

[@thao12]

Wow. Your story is so real and relatable. I can relate to your trauma and self sabotaging habits so much. This is so real. I thank you both for being so vulnerable with us. Thank you.

[@peaj4993]

Thank You Kaleb for sticking up for women with a past and double standards .

[@ajuarez121]

Thank you both for sharing and for your insight, support and advice to others! Great insight and compassion to all inquiries! Thank you both for all you do in helping others understand how to be happy and have healthy relationships! ❤

[@savannahchampagne5518]

Self sabotaging gives you a false sense of control. Good job identifying it and being intentional about changing those behaviours :)

[@mco6533]

Thanks for both of your vulnerability- Kaleb, I appreciate your advice (applies in any relationship) that when you’re heightened/anxious, call a friend or family member ‘first’ and ask them to help you through what you’re feeling. Essentially waiting until your nervous system is regulated. Also, agree on patience. Also, love you two but, with the utmost respect you two do not have an ‘age gap’ -an age gap is over/beyond 8 to 10 years. Just so you know as an audience member, I see you two as same age range…it’s like 4 years. And Jeanine, preordered your book! I really like as a man, Kaleb does not shy away from telling the utmost truth about things that have occurred and that are now learning lessons in your relationship. And great advice during the Q&A.

[@Florinda_Estrada]

Ya’ll are so fun! Lots of wisdom in this video. God bless you’s and your ministry. New subby here 👋🏽☺️

[@markietaylor3411]

Welp! This Podcast is for me :/ Thank you for this!!!!!

[@melissa-wz6uj]

Kaleb your a amazing young man and your mom must be so incredibly proud of who you are! Jeannine your such a Godly loving woman and I love seeing you live for our king Jesus ❤❤❤❤ Keep it up you two😉 😊🙌👊

[@matthewd9034]

Praise The Lordof all creation! Hey keep doing what you both are doing! 😀👍😎

[@blagoneraspadljivonanebesima]

So happy to see a couple like you, glory to Jesus! He gave you such simplicity and reason. And it's not reason to be jealous, Father can pour immensely Holy Spirit on ANYBODY.

[@Solodolo18]

Jaenine ampola ward I love you can't wait to God brings us together this week amen amen amen 🙏

[@xjoemallardx]

I usually self sabotage even before I ask the person I like out.

[@matthewd9034]

Great example for young couples!! Jesus is the answer and you both know it!😀

[@matthewd9034]

I pray that The Lord blesses your marriage union😀

[@danielaleroux]

May I please ask, what do you think if they self sabotaged the relationship and actually ended it? ( 4 years of a relationship) proceeded to try again and then ended it again self sabotaging it for a second time.

[@LEE200LEE]

Awesome video! I have a question, I've had anxiety about my relationship because we are from two different denominations, (adventist and non adventist) how do i then navigate this? That's the only thing that worries me about the failure of the relationship My boyfriend is adamant that it can work but I still have doubts. Is it something I should be worried about?

[@JoieSchmidt-TrueLove4evah]

My ex husband threw me on the concrete & put me in a chokehold & more. I choose to not press charges & after we separated his mom signed their home over to him. I lost a husband & all my plans of the future with him & was traumatized for a long time afterwards & he got a house for free from his parents. It made me question how God truly repays us for what the devil did to do us wrong? And the reason i held onto hope for so long was because the first time he put hands on me it didnt hurt & he begged forgiveness & told me true Christians forgive easily. I was going to leave him at that time, but he begged me to forgive him. After that everytime i forgave him right away, it got worse.

[@Mmejiaaaa]

Can you do a podcast episode in Spanish please ❤

[@havannahkauffman2477]

Get you a man that look at you the way Caleb looks at J haha

[@rosederogene9069]

Love your podcast. However, Jeanine I think it's best to use your phone after the podcast, because it seems rude when Khaleb is speaking, you're texting.

[@marinabarriero]

Self help!

[@techh8837]

Are you okay with Caleb like other women’s photos of themselves and following them? Where’s the boundaries in that.

[@mycupofcocoa1125]

lol u keep saying age gap, my moms was 8 years no problem the man was older. But 4 years at Lear ur still in the same decade millennial

[@HappyandHealthyPodcast]

for me, it was a big deal. he was 23 and I was 28. not anymore though! :)