I BANNED My Husband's Female Friend From Our House For BEING RACIST TO ME r/Relationships

[@2Ten1Ryu]

I don't feel bad for Mary. At all. Some poor life choices don't give you the right to be that stupid and mean to others.

[@WobblesandBean]

Ten bucks says Mary wants the husband. Edit: CALLED IT

[@kp2223]

Wft Mary! She fucked all her Male friends at some point by her own admission

[@sazzaxeight3124]

Yeah being the town bike for all these lads and ruining how ever many marriages doesn't make her a victim it makes her a desperate idiot.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Turns out Mary was the *"curva"* the boys met along the way.

[@pansprayers]

The first time my husband ever heard someone make a dig at my ethnic background was the absolute last, because he made it so absolutely CLEAR that it was the shot heard around the world. Never, ever put up with this garbage.

[@amelianekomimi1936]

Same here. My mom is native and people call her a praire..you know. My dad got pissed real fast and it WELL KNOWN he will not tolerate that shit

[@pansprayers]

@@amelianekomimi1936 yup, I'm Choctaw and Cherokee Freedman. I've heard SO much crap.

[@vpombovp]

You got that right sister.

[@kolacic80]

It definitely wasn't a joke. His mother called him over to rip him a new one. God bless his Mom for doing what was right and not protecting her man child and his awful behavior.

[@melkat606]

The “mother in law” did play it very smoothly

[@ajzephyros7454]

Yeah definitely wasn't a joke and bless that MIL for actually standing up for her DIL and future grandbaby as opposed to her darling son

[@sgm8265]

OP still needs to hold him to the fire for dismissing her feelings and concerns as unfounded. Make him understand it will not be tolerated again.

[@WobblesandBean]

Story 1: Yikes, OP. He doesn't have your back, and he doesn't respect you. He probably has a thing for Mary, or vice versa. Edit: LOL I knew it, Mary slept around the entire friend group and tried to wreck as many marriages as she could. What a cμπ†.

[@agnesstrzykowska4300]

... you wanted to say " ale kurwa"😉 Greetings from Poland 😁

[@DIEGOSHAY]

I think you meant to say “the entire friend group slept with Mary because they didn’t respect their own marriages”.

[@amelianekomimi1936]

Even worse i think the husband was still banging mary with how little he tried to keep op! He was basically like meh i dont care.

[@iamhungey12345]

@@amelianekomimi1936 It's not surprising.

[@anndownsouth5070]

@@agnesstrzykowska4300 you. mean twat. Good British slang.

[@kayasmith9789]

That husband is either sleeping with Mary or he got feelings for her either way DIVORCE HIM👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@One.DeSanctis.]

Paused at 10:04 Mary is not "one of the boys," unless this group of men have intercourse and catch feelings for each other. Mary is the group pass around girl. She has no actual friends as "the boys" would not tolerate her controlling behavior and constant presence without multiple of the boys using her to keep their willies wet. Disgusting phrase? Yes. Disgusting behavior, too. OP needs to let the other wives and girlfriends know the nature of Mary's relationship with that entire group of men. I'm guessing there never was a LD BF for Mary.

[@damien678]

I'm FtM and before I realised that, in highschool I was still able to realise that "one of the boys" line was their excuse to have me close because they crushed on me. They also did exclude me from some of the "guys things" as well, while including me in others that got more sexual or close in nature. Although they at least joked around that they were gay with each other 🙄 but yeah. You really aren't ever "one of the guys" if that even has to be stated in the first place. I wouldn't even have an issue with her sleeping with them all if everyone, including their partners, were okay with it, but they weren't even made aware of it! Ffs!

[@alichamay7012]

@@damien678 It's a group mentality thing. There are stories of women friends doing the same thing. If everyone is doing it, it's not cheating. Equally, the term 'down low' also comes to mind. I'm sure in your case they were targeting you because the could 'justify' it as you identify as a 'guy' so it's not cheating. But people who are still closeted on their sexual identity will have group meet ups and some will randomly go off during group events to relieve their urges because they tell themselves it's 'keeps them faithful to their partners' and 'they are keeping safe because they are keeping it in the group' and the whole above if group is doing it=not cheating. Now, one would wonder why not join a swinger group? Reasons: 1. They don't want any stigma judgement 2. They know their partner doesn't want it 3. They want to cheat, but they don't want their partner to sleep with others. Some mix of the above.

[@damien678]

@@alichamay7012 I meant for me that this happened before I came out, so I was seen at most as the most tomboy girl in the group. Now that I think about it, I stopped being included so much as "one of the guys" when I got more open about my attraction to girls in our larger friend group at highschool, although that could have been for other reasons but. Well.

[@damien678]

@@alichamay7012 And yeah... that sounds pretty bad, I wish they'd just be brave enough to openly be swingers, or polyamorous.

[@alichamay7012]

@@damien678 My apologies. You are not wrong to think they grew uncomfortable with your admission to being also attracted to women.

[@bricksloth6920]

Holy fuck. Yeah kick the girl out and if hubby insists on supporting her he can leave too. Zero tolerance for racism, especially from life partners

[@piratekit3941]

I had an ex friend who went after a male friend's wife in this fashion. Calling her a foreign gold-digger (she made MORE than her husband!) who only married him because she wanted a US visa (they moved out of the country afterwards!) In the end, it cost her the friendship with our male-friend, because she was so paranoid on all his wife's flaws. If a spouse doesn't have your back, it's the biggest of red flags I could picture in a relationship!

[@thanos8077]

Story 1: I don't feel bad for Mary at all some bad life choices doesn't give her the right to treat someone who had nothing to do with those problems like garbage

[@chantalalexander]

Plus it seems in the group she wasn't "one of the boys," she was the resident sidepiece.

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@chantalalexander she had enough of their DNA in her to count as one of them

[@chantalalexander]

@@emilybarclay8831 😂 that's messed up but accurate.

[@보모]

the “just friends” group dismissal is echoing the guys going on cheat trips story

[@brandi5126]

Omg!!! I totally knew she messed around with more than one of the guys. I knew it! So glad op dumped her loser husband. He cheated and lied. Hope op finds someone who is deserving of her kindness and love. She also dealt with everything very well.

[@GIChiyo]

WOW, story 1 either the husband has feelings for her, or she values her more that Op aka HIS WIFE NTA, yikes forever Edit: FUCKING CALLED IT, but her "excuse" is a ploy for sympathy and complete bs, which is not surprising seeing as she is quite possibly still with all the friends

[@amelianekomimi1936]

yep and hubby - ex hubby is still banging her

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

It’s really fucked up how Mary was basically the group’s sex doll. Regardless, it doesn’t excuse her racism or how she treated OP whatsoever.

[@Sammvoy]

I mean she kind of puts herself there by choice…

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

really gives weight to the trauma bonded by battling an evil spider clown monster theory.

[@bleachparty8570]

Mary is an adult, she made those choices herself. So its not ok for her to take out her issues on OP. She gives me mega "pick me" vibes. The girl needs therapy.

[@videofan1010]

Mary was loving the crew and chose to stay. Gross.

[@elisejackson2854]

It was consensual so why pity her?

[@akemiflameborg]

OH MY GOD NOBODY CALLS ANYONE A KURWA IN POLAND my jaw literally dropped when I heard that xDDD The girls in the movie don't call each other that, they are using this word like you'd use fuck in English. This is literally so hilarious for me to think anyone would call their friend a "kurwa" in a friendly way because that'd be sooo out of place!

[@agnesstrzykowska4300]

Greetings from Poland 😁 You are 100% right

[@akemiflameborg]

@@agnesstrzykowska4300 też pozdro z polski xD

[@chits28]

Let's not forget Roma Sinti were victims of the Holocaust too, whatever the friend is saying is not funny at all. And wat kind of jeans is ruined by red wine?!😏

[@Jessidafennecfox]

Jeans from Wish

[@cliffdweller990]

​@@Jessidafennecfox Those get ruined if you sneeze on them..

[@sarahpeterson6497]

So many don't know they were also victims in the Holocaust. As were homosexuals and people of color.

[@alison6437]

@@Jessidafennecfox Those get ruined if you look at them wrong

[@mbyerly9680]

OP said the jeans were white. The one's I've had from major jean lines back when white was popular never looked right after any kind of bad stain. I don't drink so I can't say what red wine will do to white jeans.

[@RaizelSX]

Story 2 is an automatic NTA for op, SUPER YTA for her husband. Never! Never name your child after any exes, or previous flings, or crushes, thats disrespectful as hell Some lady did that to her husband without telling him and when he found out she gaslit him all the way to divorce and into co-parenting

[@CygnusPrime]

*Story 1* Never trust a woman who only has guy friends and is referred to as "one of the guys"

[@shells500tutubo]

They are called "attention whores". They claim that they don't like women because they are all catty and backstabbing when it is just projection on their part.

[@lilfairykiki122]

Mary isn’t “one of the boys” never was unless there is some fruity activity going on in that friend circle. Every single one of those wives in that group needs to divorce those men, even if they were one of the few Mary hasn’t slept with because they knowingly kept this dirty little secret and will probably sleep with her in the future. The whole bunch of em are slime balls and I’ll bet you those trips away had some Greco up activities going on if you catch my drift. Disgusting. Mary is not a victim at all, she’s a racist, selfish, pick me who has no problem fooling around with married men and bullying their wives because she’s good enough to smash but to to marry and takes it out on the other women. Everyone has a sob story, it doesn’t make what she did ok.

[@SnowyWolborg]

Twenty seconds in and I think I remember hearing this story a long time ago. If I remember correctly, the female friend had a thing for the husband and tried to pretend like they were just cool.

[@indiashante1560]

So basically Mary was the friend group's bicycle. Wow. I don't feel sorry for Mary at all. Op needs to drop her husband and his dysfunctional friend group forever. I'm glad she ultimately did that.

[@vpombovp]

Story #1Ever notice that it’s Fine when bullies call you names, but when you call that bully out on their nonsense and insist that they stop then “You’re Too Sensitive”! Horse Crap

[@mobiusstripper7279]

I really appreciate the fact that you include OP's replies to the comments. That is missing from a lot of other Reddit reading channels.

[@MissBoxxx]

Uh, you need to lose the husband too if he's gonna gaslight you like that.

[@jimfahey2329]

I'm pretty sure those dudes ran a train on Mary!

[@JK-sh8rc]

Story 2: So OP's husband needed his mother AND his friends to tell him he was being an AH before he realized it? And this guy is 29 years old? Not sure I'd buy the whole "it was just a joke" explanation if I was OP. Sounds like a really lame excuse. Seems like OP is going to be raising 2 babies. I pity her.

[@wasewegdelarosbil2188]

Mary sounds like a pick me.

[@franl155]

#1 - being offensive while drunk is no excuse: "In vino veritas". If she wasn't thinking it, it wouldn't be there to come out when her filters were out of action.

[@alichamay7012]

There was a story that reminded me of story 2. OP was getting upset because her husband was acting like a kid and using baby/meme talk in public and just at her. Turns out he had a bet to win a pricey baseball card from a friend. He never apologized, his mother sided with him, and he stayed an idiot. Yep, OP fortunately got ready for a divorce.

[@rubymeaddle]

I remember that, everyone in the comments was saying it was a kink and were dragging people in that kink scene.

[@crimsonwolf9604]

My mom had a friend from Romania, she told my mom that Americans romanticize the Romni Culture too much. Though the vampire aspect she thought was hilarious considering what job she and my mom had. The were nightshift phlebotomist, also known as the vampires of the hospital.

[@andreeasilivestru2307]

Although there are Romani people in Romania, I don't understand why the Americans romanticizing them is related to her Romanian heritage, unless she actually is Romani. People from Romania are ROMANIANS, we have our own share of minorities, like any country, but we are honestly tired of generally being all called “gipsies” or Romani when we have our own culture, heritage, language and make the biggest part of Romania's population. We have a totally different ethical background and it is not like the Romani population is bad or anything like that, but we are different ethnicities and we are tired of that confusion, be more aware and respectful of our people.

[@amandab8433]

1st story : YAY for OP getting out of that awful relationship. I am in a mixed marriage, married for over 26 years. I in the beginning when were still dating his best friend kept making subtle quips about my race, I'm Black, that made me feel uncomfortable. He was never outright racist, but was skirting the edge to have a plausible "That's not what I meant". My husband kicked him to the curb, and never looked back best friend or not. 2nd Story : I'm so glad they were able to come to an understanding. My husband and I made a list, and got veto power over any name. I wanted Christopher or Sébastien for our oldest, but my husband said he wasn't naming our son after my childhood cats. Fair enough 🤣. Unfortunately the name he ended up with happened to be after a well known weatherman. His first and last became my sons first and middle names. I didn't know what/who people were talking about when asked if we had named him after the guy. At that time I didn't watch a lot of TV, so had no idea who he was. Funny thing is that 8 years later the man happened to be presenting at the local fair in Marin County, and my son got to meet him. The name made him laugh, and then they took a picture together.

[@bananaphowone2121]

I just hope that the OP told the friends wives know about Mary messing around with the other guys

[@kp2223]

This was my first thought exactly. Just because Mary moved away and you all agreed to distance yourself doesn't mean you shouldn't tell them that their husbands were cheating on them.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

A redhead named Scarlett sounds like a bond villan... I like it, but I wouldn't want to grow up with it. Hope the child got/gets a good name, not one affiliated with others and their expectations, and lives happily.

[@mbyerly9680]

Scarlett Johansson seems like an awesome person, and her characters like Black Widow are pretty dang spectacular, but I would never give a child an uncommon fannish Marvel actor name. That's not cool.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

@@mbyerly9680 oh yes. Especially when there are so many options! Hells, you could even come up with a new one!

[@kristys7172]

Both parents need to agree on the name period.

[@dmb25108]

Story 1: I’m of Hungarian decent and many Hungarians are of Romani (gypsy) decent. So I understand the feelings about the racism issue.

[@tsubakiofmelancholy6297]

I don't understand why in modern day, people are still racist to the Romani. They suffered enough in history as is, without modern people making it worse. Same for any ethnic group.

[@judev3197]

Story 1: just start calling her drama queen and when she objects just say oh you're being too sensitive. Mary is an arsehole but your husband is a bigger one for allowing her to treat you like trash. She has no respect for you and he lets her have no respect. You don't have a Mary problem, you have a husband problem.

[@kazzuo32]

#1 Thats so fckup, if people is tell you racist stuff call it out "heyy thats racist" and if your husband lets his friends say racist shit to you and won't defend you he won't defend your children either. #2 No names of ex's. Give the baby 2 names you choose one your partner the other.

[@robertx8020]

#2 Not in this case I would NOT even want it as a third or tenth name! What is stopping him to use the second name as a first name? It's creepy as heck! NO COMPRIMISE! After the update: so it was a stupid joke?? OMG

[@anymous8407]

Did someone actually tell op in the first story just ignore racism?! And lol Mary giving the sob story as an excuse I honestly don’t believe her

[@potatoempress5731]

Story 2 husband got his ass handed by his Mom LOL love that!

[@97scarletwitch]

My husband and I put a little bucket labeled "names" on the counter. It was a family thing. My husband, myself, and my oldest daughter would add suggestions and periodically go through them.

[@Germania72]

That word "Curva" which I think it's spelled "Kurwa" in Polish is used by Hungarians as well (spelled as "kurva") and it's a swearing that means "hooker". It's also like saying "f#ck" in English. The "V" is pronounced like "V", not like "U".

[@britvica]

Whole ex yugoslavia says kurva for a hooker. But we don't use it as "fuck". We use it directly intended to someone for hid/hers behaviour. It is always derogatory.

[@thatsmuggamer]

For Story 2, as Story 1 has so much bullshit it gets me fired up just to think about it, this experience is what a healthy relationship looks like, at least after the chat with the mom. You talk out your problems and all that shit! WOO

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

It sounds to me like your husband Your husband's friend is the girl who got passed around the circle this this is why they still hang out no because cause she's there side chick

[@EllieC130]

Story 1: Honestly I got a big read of “that escalated fucking quickly”. Like she was definitely being super ignorant don’t get me wrong but that went from shitty bigoted jokes to open bigoted hostility real quick.

[@danisonice.]

OP tolerated her because she's uneducated? This woman literally educated herself on how to be racist towards OP specifically.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story two: of course he likes the name. It's obvious he didn't move on from her. If Susan wanted to date him, he would dump OP so fast

[@JasperCatProductions]

Oh yuck, your husband wants to name your baby the name of some chick he was and is still hot for? That is repugnant……….no frigging way would he that to my baby. You are with a man who is in love with someone else……..it hurts but come on.

[@terrysyvertson9205]

in story 1 op NEEDS to give her husband an ultimatum, either he ends the friendship with mary and cut her out of his life forever and block her on everything or op packs up her stuff, goes and stays at a friend or family members house or hotel and op files for divorce

[@johnburnside7828]

In the baby naming story, OP is in for a LOT more crap like this if she stays with her "partner". Dump him NOW!!!

[@iamhungey12345]

Mary's lucky the OP didn't bite her.

[@StacyKrueger]

If I was story ones Op, I would let the friend groups other spouses know that Mary has been friends with benefits with all of them at one point. And that she actively had an affair with your husband. Because op's husband may be the focus now, but who knows who else in the friend group will be the next focus.

[@fleacythesheepgirl]

Sounds like Mary had more trains ran on her then Grand Central Terminal. Get tested!

[@maheenahmed6653]

Okay. This is controversial but of Mary got pregnant and didn’t even know why the daddy was. That’s just pathetic. I get it happens sometimes. And there’s nothing wrong with having sex with multiple people close together unless it’s cheating. But Mary is literally the girl from those TikTok’s making fun of pick me girls and “the female best friend”

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

In addition to all the revelations, Mary, as an adult, is so delusional that she doesn't realize that even if she had married OP's husband when they were younger, it's NO guarantee that they'd have been happy together. It's likely they'd have been miserable, since obviously he's never loved her and wouldn't have been a good husband, especially when in his late teens. Heck, he wasn't even a good husband to OP as an adult. So, they likely would have made that child miserable. He didn't even care about Mary enough to not use her as a side piece, yet Mary must have thought if she kept sleeping with him for those first two years that he was officially with OP that he'd eventually "come around". Yeah, this friend group are immature and quite codependent. Well, maybe they've all grown since therapy, in which case they were immature and codependent for a long time.

[@gail8834]

In story 2: Are they from “IT””. Sounds similar to that friend group.

[@britvica]

...and it all comes down to conclusion- there are NO just friends in opposite gender friendships: not where wives, husbands, life partners are excluded. There is no "one of the boys" girlfriend. Either it was or it is sex or it's going to be. Everytime your husband is not defending you, but the one who insulted you: he cares for her more then for you.

[@libbi7325]

Why tolerate racism with people and your partner. It tell me your husband is rasice too. And if no one in your group stand up for you it seems all is full of crap

[@robyncrytes]

Are those fishing trips really fishing trips?

[@debc6260]

Hope 2nd OP really is careful in the future with that man-child.

[@redh9249]

So Mary was the group "hole" .... bleh... the whole group is nasty

[@hakudoushinumbernine]

Not wanting to stoop down to their level is part of the problem. When you stoop to their level, others realize that what they've been doing isnt right. That wakes people up.

[@teslagirl1]

At least part of Mary's story is sus as Hell. Maybe she slept with multiple guys...but it would not have been impossible to figure out who was the father. If there really was a baby(Mary might have been removed from home by her parents for mental health treatment if her sleeping around rose to the level of illness)she did not have to hide her pregnancy. UNLESS Mary KNEW the baby didn't belong to the guy she really wanted, could not risk that coming out and chose this way of hiding the fact. I agree with some redditors that Mary's dramatic story of witches and spells and trauma seems to, at the very least, be embroidered liberally with thread from Stephen King. That Mary has trauma, I don't doubt...at the very least she has been sexually available for multiple men she has long term friendships with and they've made use of this but kept her at the "one of the gang" level, never actually elevating her to the role of girlfriend in any public way and certainly never giving her the coveted title of fiance or wife. No guy in that group was ever, ever, EVER going to do so KNOWING she slept with his friends, multiple friends multiple times. The history would have made that untenable for most men...even if trust and fear of her cheating were not an issue for them. Knowing that she has been a convenience as much as a pal is probably traumatic for her...and her resentment seems to indicate that she definitely knows...and that might be made worse if her past with them included any kind of threesome or moresome activity. Could also be worse if Mary became known between the guys for a particular skill. A girl in my school whose dad was a local celeb had so little supervision that she ended up spending more nights than not having mostly unprotected sex with, as she put it, "NOTHING off the table. No taboos." Now, clearly Betty just wanted her dad's attention...and she FINALLY got it...but she also got time in a treatment facility for her "issues"( and to protect her from the pregnant wife of our school vice principal, a lady not amused to find herself with an std traced back to Betty) In the end, Betty ended up with a reputation that seemed to follow her(and was occasionally "renewed")and a tendency to try to deflect attention from her sexual adventures and misadventures by creating fictitious traumas of great drama to distract people from messy soap opera of her life. My guess is that Mary's traumas, both the real ones needing treatment and the fictitious ones she's using to try and manipulate her friends and OP, all have essentially the same origins...shame at her own behavior. And this is where Mary realizes, deep down, that she isn't TRULY "one of the guys" because most of THEM could OWN their sexual adventures, boast about them, be told "you're the man!" and looked up to by the less successful members of the group. They do not need to feel the shame Mary feels for the same three way or the same videotaped bj. It isn't fair to Mary that there should be such a double standard, but the cold truth is that there IS and it is brutal. Part of me feels sorry for Mary, though Mary is clearly as much of a bully as Betty could be but part of me thinks Mary is very dangerous. This group, effed up as her role in it is, is all Mary has and she has shown that she will fight to keep it. OP should put a continent between them.

[@amazinglynn]

Not to downplay OP’s feelings, but Mary is xenophobic (prejudiced against people from other countries) not racist (prejudiced against people with different skin colors) although she could be racist too lol

[@tiryaclearsong421]

I would say this is racism since half of the bullying was based on racist stereotypes of Roma people.

[@amazinglynn]

@@tiryaclearsong421 still xenophobic. I’m assuming OP is white bc they’re from Romania and didn’t state otherwise. Making stereotypical comments based on where someone is from (Romanians being witches, Chinese people eating dogs, etc) is xenophobic. Racism would be “black people are criminals” or “white people can’t season food.” Sometimes can be both like when someone calls someone with brown skin a terrorist. The racism being making the assumption that they’re a foreigner/terrorist based on their skin color, and the xenophobia being them calling Middle Eastern people terrorists. So TLDR: racism is based on outward appearance, xenophobia is based on country of origin/ethnicity

[@skyeperez8305]

She's both. G**sy is a slur for Romani people (which IS an ethnic group) BUT OP isn't Romani. She's Romanian. All the stereotypes Mary was spewing were racist stereotypes against the Roma. Also, racism isn't JUST skin color since one's ethnicty/race isn't determined by skin. I'm paler than a ghost so I am white, but racially and ethnically I am Latinx (specifically Mexican). If I get called a racial slur, it's still racism even though my skin is white.

[@amazinglynn]

@@skyeperez8305 1. She wasn’t being racist, she said nothing about her appearance or stereotypes as a white person. Mary made comments based on the stereotypes of people from her country, which is xenophobia. 2. I’m sorry you experience harassment from other people for something as insignificant (to them anyway) as country of origin. 3. If you get called a slur for being Mexican and not for being white, that’s a slur based on your ethnicity as a Mexican which is xenophobia. A lot of people confuse the 2 bc there’s a lot of confusion between race and ethnicity but both are equally wrong. 4. I hope I don’t come off as hostile here, I love debating with people on issues like this and am not mad or trying to be snarky lol

[@oldwoman5942]

Sounds like Mary is jealous and wants OP’s husband.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

Story 2 - moral of the story, when your man is being stupid and immature, call his mom...she will take care of it.......

[@oldwoman5942]

Baby name story…so OP’s feelings are unimportant. Husband is still obsessed with Susan.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

I don't believe for one second that the husband was just following through with an inside joke, that makes no sense. The only even halfway realistic explanation is he never got over Susan, and instead of admitting that, he fed that lame story about the joke to his mom so she wouldn't see how obsessed he was over Susan.

[@paulahowlett8452]

You don't have a friend problem, you have a husband problem. Tell him to choose therapy or divorce. If he can not drop his racist jealous friend then he can drop his wife

[@libbi7325]

The baby name is showing you your supposed husband is still hung up on the other woman. Better open your eyes now and not later. He still have feeling for her. Divorce

[@msmaria5039]

Nah, he was being a full on idiot.

[@mommieminnesota3108]

OP you did the right thing never look back move on let him go. That long distance relationship is nothing but some and mirrors.

[@weezylone]

It's called vino veritas, and it's a thing people have known about since fermented beverages became a thing. So like around the same time as human language.

[@atinyevil1383]

I feel bad for Mary. There’s a lot of reasons. That being said, taking out her frustration on someone else by being racist isn’t cool. Also, she should have put a stop to this bs with the “friend group” (they are not her friends). The “friend group” is definitely to blame as THEY are the married ones, but it’s not like she didn’t know.

[@oldwoman5942]

In Canada you can’t take the baby home until they’re named.

[@martabieniasz3686]

It means the same in Polish and is highly offensive. I never heard people using this to address their friends, and calling someone that is an offense punishable by law.

[@InvasionAnimation]

Story 2 I bet he wants the other person. He just lying so he can see his kid.

[@fufufuaru]

“one of the boys” turns out she’s the damn bicycle

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story one: it's disgusting that because someone has European blood, which is a Romanian is, is still seen as ok to be racist because them.

[@kp2223]

Story 1: op should tell all the wives that Mary has slept with all their husbands

[@lia-chan8581]

Gypsies are Indian, not Romanian. They immigrated to Romania.

[@mbyerly9680]

"We don't talk about Mary, no, no, no!" Sorry, but the first story update just called for that.

[@darninacoleman2562]

Romanian isn't a race. Your husband is putting Mary ahead of you. You've been dealing with this for years. Nope they're having sex or something

[@lucydean4028]

Off topic, but you look identical to my younger sister. It's uncanny. Just an observation.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@lucydean4028 Plot twist: It's your younger sisters evil twin

[@ElizaBetsy_]

Romanian isn't a race it's a nationality, but hurtful stereotypes can be based on nationality. Roma *is* a persecuted ethnic group, many of whom are from Romania.

[@pansprayers]

It's an ethnic group, and a deeply persecuted one at that.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

@@ElizaBetsy_ Considering how many of the stereotypes being used concerned Roma people, it's probably pretty fair to call Mary racist.

[@sgtjarhead99]

Pretty messed up. All the wives/girlfriends are probably wondering what was actually happening during these "fishing" trips. Wouldn't surprise me if this was just an annual orgy event.

[@colonelrobertsjr.7882]

There's something about Mary...

[@lorifiedler13]

Truth in wine.

[@bonefetcherbrimley7740]

Romanian witchblood sounds like a kick ass metal album name.

[@brandonshelp4682]

Ah, love the double standard from some of the commenters. Women can have exes as friends, or the man is insecure. How dare a man remain friends with an ex!

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Mary turned out to be the curva all along. Shocker.

[@arnold-shortsnigga]

My friend and her twin brother are named after superman and supergirl, they have their birth names lol

[@guywhowatchesvideos-z2e]

racism typically applies to racial ethnicities, not nationalities.

[@wheelsndealz]

About the name story, I'll add a different perspective. Naming my child after a former crush/relationship/etc would actually be closure. I would never date anyone that shared a name with a family member or pets name or the female version of my own. Maybe I'm the only one but I think it's weird. I couldn't imagine dating someone with my daughters name cuz yeah, you could never say her name during sex without getting sick. Oh but the update really ends that.

[@pansprayers]

It's weird. Don't do this to your partner, ever. You're either over your ex, or you shouldn't be having an entire human being with someone else. Your 'closure' is for you - your children, and any pets you share with your partner are not the appropriate vehicle for this.

[@wheelsndealz]

@@pansprayers yeah, I didn't recommend it. Just pointed out that I would never be able to be in a relationship with anyone that shared a name with a family member or even a pet. So was giving another view to the whole, he must still have feelings bc he wants to name her after her.

[@alienbearcub]

I guess I would be Mary in my friend group. But like it's only because I'm the only girl in the group. It's a weird way that we all became friends so I'm not out there being mean to other women. I always get really excited when my buds bring over their new girlfriends. Like it's another girl to help me convince them that watching the same movie every weekend is not hanging out! I don't know why anyone would ever feel like they need to have all these guys romantically interested in them or want to completely take over them. I love my guys but they are my guys and not my boyfriend(s) for a reason.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

You are nothing like "Mary." She is what you would colloquially call a "Town Bicycle."

[@carboy101]

Story 1: Mary is trying to get you the fuck outta there so she can be with your husband.

[@singer2be256]

Why is the term 'gypsy' offensive? It makes me think of fantasy and fairytales. It sounds like it would be a compliment.

[@TheLilyMustang]

Does that name have some weird curse attached to it?

[@vampire9545]

What teen girl didn't have a witch phase? 😆

[@JoseGutierrez-ry1bk]

1st story no your all goo the so called friend should never make a come back

[@fishsticks3729]

I was the 1000 like and I finally fulfilled my dream of making the number change LOL

[@triciawashburn8766]

The witch thing could be true I mean it sounds like a crazy lady but I hung out with self proclaimed witches in hight school to but I am also old enough to realize it was all fake and there is no such thing.

[@nadiahinson3515]

Story 2 husband in love with the so called friend

[@iamhungey12345]

Looking forward to April Fools special.

[@kimpedersen6402]

husband and friend are sleeping with eachother

[@annabordelon6663]

Name: op's hubs is in love with the other woman