In The Bleak Mid Winter

Winter is here - and it is not just outside.
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[@jamirasweet]

I LOVE YOU HG TUDOR 😘😘😘😘 UR VIDEOS...UR VOICE...IS SO HYPNOTIZING AND HIGHLY INFORMATIVE ...But this to ALL THE world will never rid the NARCS just like Co/dependants and empaths will ALWAYS excist!!!

[@somebodysfalling]

Poetic and cutting. The symbolism within this as multi faceted as the snowflake. While trapped beneath the ice of your pain, you warn those that see your beauty to understand the danger of your coldness...and to expect that beauty to melt away. I see a fragment of “selfless” within that. Merry Christmas, HG.

[@Think-dont-believe]

I live in Colorado and I hate snow.. Ive been married to a pathological malignant Covert Narcissist for 17 years.. looks like I need to make some changes... great analogy..

[@casse1458]

Your words are unbelievable brilliant

[@wonkyspacebuns7820]

Many creatures live in snowy realms, they have adapted over the years to do so. It only becomes a hindrance to the ill equipped.

[@casse1458]

Sunshine well said

[@Angela-kg7bf]

Brilliant analogy

[@kathyvenne3885]

Thank you always HG.

[@midlifewild9252]

Yes, sounds familiar. I hate winter....always have. Your words are beautiful, hypnotic and chilling.

[@Peonyprashanti]

Midlife Wild. Me too

[@creator2149]

Winter isn't so bad. it's hell in a snowstorm with a narc but, winter isn't so bad in itself.

[@QuentinDaniels1981]

Good analogy, HG. But just as the snow arrives, it will eventually melt and when it does, woe to the layer' of said snow for the destruction that came from it.

[@KnowingtheNarcissist]

Spoilsport! Maybe a cold shoulder will redress matters?!

[@Peonyprashanti]

Knowing the Narcissist Hahahaha

[@brendabarney6471]

I LOVE YOUR VOICE. VERY WELL PUT YOU HAVE HELP ED ME SO MUCH THANK YOU

[@wonkyspacebuns7820]

Cold empathy.

[@TheOriginalBeachPossumPage]

I believe as you yourself go through your own "treatment" or acknowledgement of being a greater narcissist, that the better you are starting to see the difference between beauty and pureness of "good" and the sharp bitterness of "evil" between the empath and the narcissist. I know you may still think that your condition or may still be perfect for you the way you are but at least you can see and recognize the difference. Either way, the words you used are perfect and seem quite telling. Nice.

[@lashawnroyale9185]

Spot on analogy🎯

[@lillianwasserman1837]

Oh my. You sound exactly like my all time favorite villain, I just love him. Ready … Dr. Zachary Smith of the Jupiter 2, Lost In Space. Oh dear William We are doomed, doomed! On another sad note, my x told me who he was when I started seeing him. He told me this... you know that I am the devil and you will be playing with fire.

[@Pattie-o7f]

The Nex always secured some supply for the long cold winter. Surely he would dry up if he didnt. I noticed that pattern. As soon as spring comes hes back to his old tricks again.

[@lillianwasserman1837]

My x told me that he is a completely different person in the winter. Indeed he was in at home a lot more, spending more time with me. But as soon as spring and summer came he was out on his motorcycle disappearing from Friday to Sunday bar hopping and showing a completely different persona that I had in winter. Hanging out with his kind, and other women. Who the hell knows what else. Always insisting he is faithful and only out with his friends riding. Riding what??

[@Unknown90010]

Very true

[@kimwawalker6818]

I see what you did here, HG.

[@MsHoneyFly11]

Wtf is he talking about?🙄

[@cmickie3296]

I don't see a difference between the Narcissist and the codependent. One is labeled evil and the other benevolent. Self-martyrdom as a way of manipulating and controlling others is Narcissistic (and pathetic). Here are two narcissists going through the motions. One addicted to love and one avoiding it. Consequently, they are both feeding their Narcissistic supply.

[@hayleylongster4698]

I concur. As both impulses come fundamentally from a position of low of self worth, I see both as essentially the same thing. Maybe a co-dependent is just a narcissist with less gall ;o)

[@PaperMario64]

C Mickie then you need to do more research. They are at opposite ends of the pendulum. Both the result of some form of neglect of abuse in childhood. The narc goes to one extreme to get its needs met and the codependent goes to the other extreme. The difference is this: the narc will manipulate or abuse anyone to get fuel - they do not care what result is for the other person. They feel no empathy or remorse and will blame the abused for allowing themselves to be abused. Nothing is ever their fault. The codependent is the opposite. They will allow abuse to continue because they seek love from outside sources. Their empathy will work against them in that they make excuses for abusive behavior and will blame themselves when not at fault, all because they lack self love. Most have been raised to place everyone else needs above their own. Unlike narcs, who place their needs above everyone else’s.

[@cmickie3296]

Paper Mario From my perspective both are exploitative, entitled, lack boundaries, are out of touch with reality, use magical thinking, need another human being to be complete, blame others, and are resistant to change. It matters little what motives drive such self-centered unhealthy behavior. I could be wrong, it is only my observation.

[@kathyvenne3885]

Those we're some ignorant and cruel commits. You don't know the difference? One is empathetic and one is the devil. No a codependent isn't desperate for love LOL

[@nnnnnnnnnnn7292]

C Mickie I see it this way. A true co-dependant (who survives the longest time with a narcissist) has next to none personality. With time even that small amount goes away. And a co-dependant turns into a pseudo-narcissist. Exactly the same she lives with). A narcissist has a broken shattered center. Hence - no integrity. Therefore a co-dependant keeps stealing a narcissist's fake persona to have something to distract her from nothingness. A narcissist leans on a co-dependant for some stability in his constant cycles of hesitations.