Instantly BOOST Your Charisma |

One of the simplest ways to increase your perceived charisma is…⁣
to PAUSE!⁣
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Studies demonstrate that charismatic people are supportive, sensitive, nurturing, and considerate. Not only that, they also exude a mysterious, almost intangible quality that’s a unique combination of quiet confidence, credibility and presence. ⁣
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When they enter a room, people look.⁣
When they talk, people want to listen.⁣
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And the best part about charisma is that you can develop it. ⁣
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One simple way to develop charisma through your presence and perceived confidence starts with how you communicate. ⁣
Next time you’re interacting with someone, see if you can pause for 2-3 seconds before responding. ⁣
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I call it the 3SP - 3 Second Pause.⁣
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Of course, you’ll still want to maintain eye contact so they know you’re paying attention, and you want to have an engaged look on your face - a blank stare will probably raise some eyebrows and might even prompt an “are you ok??”… You can even take a small breath before you speak so you ‘audience’ knows something’s coming…⁣
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This is a particularly useful skill when in interviews, on panels or when presenting in public and answering questions. ⁣
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Have you ever seen anyone use this and what did you think? ⁣
Or have you used it? How did you find it? 👇⁣
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-House, R. J., & Howell, J. M. (1992). Personality and charismatic leadership. The Leadership Quarterly, 3(2), 81-108.⁣
-De Cremer, D., & Van Knippenberg, D. (2002). How do leaders promote cooperation? The effects of charisma and procedural fairness. Journal of Applied Psychology, 87(5), 858.⁣
-Tskhay, K. O., Zhu, R., Zou, C., & Rule, N. O. (2018). Charisma in everyday life: Conceptualization and validation of the General Charisma Inventory. Journal of personality and social psychology, 114(1), 131.
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[@WorldBeater123]

Imagine two friends having a conversation and each one waiting 3 seconds to answer every time a question is asked 🤣🤣🤣

[@doit7779]

Same Like the indian dramas . 😂😂

[@neonyoutobe5405]

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[@babypenkinese]

That definitely happens when you’re as high as a kite.

[@mauricioesma]

(Waits 3 seconds) Right!?

[@steepdeej]

If this was your first thought that came to mind after this video I don’t think you got the point. Maybe, I dunno you. We’ll see

[@romeshbhat8362]

My wife asked if I love her, I tried 3SP. Now I cook my own food

[@salmaabbasi6978]

You silly goose !!!!🤣🤣🤣how is it working out for you 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@SarahPrincess-bh7tf]

😂😂

[@DB-xo6xh]

That's a long ass time!

[@noemistephanie93]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@brucewayne2184]

Person: *does a 3 second pause* Me: *walks away because I think they're done talking*

[@leovylrivera1930]

This guy is funny 😂

[@RajinderSingh-mj6xc]

Love your words. Same here.

[@Clumsy_dame]

Thats why you have to maintain eye contact😅

[@aberpatricia5730]

😂😂😂😂

[@lauraberry6081]

Maybe do a 3sp after theirs lol

[@ratnak5370]

Me who can't even collect my thoughts in 5 minutes 😭 Edit: Thanks for 1.2k likes

[@armandodemiguel7989]

I tend to have the correct answer when in bed, 5 hours later.

[@peaceman97amd97]

😂

[@abdotp]

🤣🤣🤣 me too man

[@Shamuto7]

Started looking creepy staring silently for 5mins

[@pubududanansooriya3548]

Bring it up guys, these conditions can be improved. 💪

[@abba3629]

6SP = Double Charisma. 9SP = Triple Charisma. 12SP = Quadruple Charisma..., Keep going for 24 hours = Full day of Peace & Absolute Charisma.

[@MindSphere861]

😂😂

[@milindthakur8658]

😂

[@smallfootprint2961]

Yes. You don't have to jump into everone's talk. Being patient, and waiting to respond is wonderful... and if I am talking with someone who is constantly interrupting... i can let them talk. I can let that person who needs to talk, talk. It's my gift.

[@Catthepunk]

So charismatic.

[@ambriaashley3383]

Same.

[@pawelpawlowin95]

You're speaking to slow. I would left the room if you talked to me like that.

[@joniman6899]

@@pawelpawlowin95 work on your patience

[@pawelpawlowin95]

@@joniman6899 Sorry I was high when I wrote that

[@superkowstar]

I can’t stop looking at her hair ❤

[@Onmysheet]

And her.....assets

[@sihamben2806]

I use this technique naturally just so I can collect my thoughts and have better response. 👌🏼 nailed it

[@lokeshdubey]

I’m using this in my fights with wifey! I can think of better comebacks now

[@kshitijguleria8594]

🤣🤣🤣

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Haha that's funny and kind of cute

[@suntzu1409]

You can think of better comebacks now, right? Right?

[@user-hv5oe1zx1x]

she'll be furious and defeated lmao man u guys r cute mashallah

[@chaossage8852]

Okay, that one was a really good advice, especially for someone with social anxiety

[@gteixeira]

It is not, don't follow that. People will pick on you.

[@souravupadhyay2029]

Just go out of your house with friends for morning walk somewhere you will learn to socialize slowly im progressing too.

[@Bananabear20]

No they won’t

[@Luey-E]

​@@gteixeirayou seem like you got some anxiety to work on lol

[@gteixeira]

@@Luey-E Not at all, I'm not anxious. If you give people a silent stare of 3 seconds they will call you a creep.

[@yehfish88]

This is true. I always make “um…well” sort of fill-in words before answering. I do find people that use the 3SP tip really attractive and professional. Thanks for pointing this out!

[@jackmorley7444]

I happen to do this naturally, I didn't realise it was a thing for charisma lol. I always thought it was better to come out with a well constructed sentence than a muddled one

[@nabadayhalder]

I paused 30 seconds and made Eye contact with you 😂

[@charleybrown5713]

Being who you are and being authentic is the best way to express yourself.

[@olivertaveras9896]

It's too surface level. The confidence comes from self esteem. Knowing that you're awesome how you are. 3sp just comes out naturally. High range of emotions and expressiveness comes from high self esteem

[@ThePojengsidur]

Confidence comes from knowledge, relevant critique, calmness, achievement, the way others look at you anf vice versa, etc. and when you know your own knowledge, then the pause comes naturally from conteplating. If the question was complex forming an answer might also take some time. I now think that self esteem is crap.

[@Luey-E]

​@@ThePojengsiduri liked everything except for the way others look at you. People who are prepared but not afraid to be wrong are truly confident. They do care about what people think but only people who are close to them and who they respect

[@salmaabbasi6978]

Yes, like Jordon Peterson as an example. I noticed that with him.

[@itsalaynnaguys]

My 3sp goes: “…uh…. *answer*”

[@Dissociatedaf]

That’s the only way it’ll go. I don’t think she realizes other people in the world actually exist 🥴

[@Bananabear20]

You’re just used to never improving

[@Jonathan-mm5zx]

I usually do this but glad to know it is a formal way of communicating👍🏾

[@HiteshP22]

She is so charismatic😍

[@ekamonthewise2395]

I thought I needed to roll for a charisma saving throw

[@mandoball1980s]

You said all that without pausing or taking a breath. Very impressive

[@jlib7389]

I can't keep eye contact for three seconds.

[@stephirothermy9938]

I feel like if you did it could read creepy. Maybe allow your eyes to relax & look slightly to the side or behind the person you’re speaking with instead of staring into their soul through their eyes 👀 lol

[@syedahmedyoutube]

Try for a minute

[@rohitjagtap14]

I am highly impressed by the personality you've created, your utter delivery, mannerism, along with charisma you pour in your confidence. There's too much to learn from you. Just Thank you! keep making more videos regarding Personality Development.

[@azamthaheem994]

You are an exceptional lady having enormous faculties of heart and soul.

[@ryuk6517]

Me : taking a 3sp Someone else jumps to answer the asked question.

[@RajinderSingh-mj6xc]

Great. Happens with me often. 😊😅❤

[@casabellakollam3663]

You are full of charisma ❣️

[@pankajdabholkar4939]

Maam you have an amazing positive vibe. Bless you.

[@shekhargupta6718]

You are so high on confidence

[@bigloudandnoisy3601]

I’ve always respected people who I can visibly see their thinking process unfold as you tell them a problem and don’t blurt out in emotion instead. Those are the best managers and leaders In the workplace imo

[@aabdille]

How amazing those little tips Zarai 😍

[@adnanezerraf9821]

Mindblowing accuracy in pronunciation.

[@gladstoneb879]

3SP...😊..self confidence is key..😊

[@vishalprasadacoustic]

Shadè thanks much. You deliver such good quality content.

[@ailispique1245]

I do this naturally but im just dissassociating lol

[@gregmoverley7525]

Love the Content. Thank Yiu for Sharing !

[@faisaladris1225]

Amazing way to explain keep up the work

[@jeffersonchen4680]

You don't see to apply the 3SP in this clip yet you are still very charismatic.

[@madanmohan3896]

You are amazing in your content.

[@bennguyen9847]

It’s always refreshing to listen to her…!

[@mujimax007]

I find your tips very useful. Thank you!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Glad you like them!

[@bethbaldrias1778]

Thank you for your shared tips

[@terrencenizam1775]

Ya so true you are the epitome of that person...❤❤❤ Pause

[@princeps722]

You look fabulous 🤩

[@TimothysDream]

Shadé! I randomly came across this in my Shorts feed. So fantastic to see you spreading helpful tips. I hope you're doing well. Hope to dance with you again soon. - Tim

[@ShadeZahrai]

Tim! What a lovely surprise. Hope you're doing great too! Yes, thanks to social media we've had an amazing journey that's taken our business global in a big way. Faysal and I moved base to Koh Samui Island so look us up if you're ever in the area.

[@itsmebuddy4580]

Aweeee...Nice tip. The way you articulate the tips makes a big impact. Thank you.

[@cdt_pranaykzala1024]

I recollects my face expression with your video 😊

[@yvettedejesus3109]

My dad taught me this and it's really helped me out.

[@nurazlan74]

Nothing beats sincerety. Say what you mean and mean what you and stand your ground. Sincerety requires courage...

[@germanshepherd8187]

Great stuff as always Shade

[@Chris-pj7jg]

Thank you very much for the advice given. I will surely adopt this. Kind regards.

[@Agonyrate]

thank you Shadé.

[@KINGTANISH07]

Your content is awesome 💯

[@careercoachcorporateleader7008]

Loved hearing your thoughts! Keep up helping people with nice contents

[@desh_d]

You are amazing !

[@tamiressoares9303]

Girl I just landed here from KZbin shorts, and I really have to say I love your outfit 🤍🤍🤍

[@rorisangmodisane6894]

I like this woman 🧠

[@asmatkhan5906]

Such a brilliant information, thanks Shade

[@ShadeZahrai]

Glad it was helpful!

[@nicoldavis-johnson7080]

Like your advice. Thank you for sharing.

[@Mushroom321-]

great content !!, & discovered the pause works.. 😊😊

[@VIJAY-io1hz]

Grey colour wow 😮

[@SandeepKSinha]

In your videos you speak quite fast without the 3SP yet the charisma is so strong 😊

[@marcosg20248]

Love this ❤ yes I have to work on the 3Sp 😂 I think I sit in the other camp right now 😮

[@arupsan]

If you interview me I will be entirely silent😂 No pause which is called “NOSP”

[@azafu8942]

Thank you queen

[@belpri633]

What an actual great, practical and easy to apply tip. Thank you!

[@sachinsharma2609]

Good advice, thanks

[@becg6832]

Absolutely! … I’m loving your intelligence charisma generosity and teachings.

[@DeezNuts-zz1mi]

Thank you miss, now im a certified "Charizzma Of Oz"

[@manojdarak2815]

You are wonderful lady....everyday I listen to your video 5-10 minutes. Thanks for spreading your knowledge God bless

[@chanelschannel4705]

You nailed it

[@elianamoreira4075]

Gosto muito sim das suas aulas prof

[@akadirnilavane2861]

Super information!

[@gregoryclark7566]

Great advice. I took 3 seconds before I wrote my response.

[@KenHoyer]

Great advice

[@kelvynjayy]

Spot on!

[@healthtips7687]

I love the part that you often repeats your clothes ❤️❤️..........and away from the sick mentality of not repeating clothes ..... that's great indeed

[@phoenixkb134]

What a Fucken weird comment

[@chotabine1551]

So lovely voice I never hardly my hold live

[@phoenixkb134]

So lovely voice I never hardly my hold live? WTF?

[@willsalberg]

There is so much knowledge in such a short video

[@pjeromardesic]

😍😍😍 so simple and so empowering

[@1007amir]

This might actually be really helpful! Thanks for sharing!

[@ItsAllAnillusion]

This is what I do in all my interviews

[@giotapapageorgiou489]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@alimroz1421]

Nice conversation

[@reshanyousef8178]

You are really a wonderful speaker, thank you very much for those words🙏🏻🌷

[@wendypoet6487]

Sometimes the pause is for constructing a lie or some deceiving answer. A truthful person just speaks from the heart especially when among friends.

[@ashimrai4260]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@ZhiznTV]

Help full for second language learning. I'm Indian and my first language is hindi and when I start speaking specially English front of my friends they don't understand my points so I'd give them couple of seconds to understand that for better reply. And that's really work for me after all language is only a way to correspond with anyone so they real accept it.

[@mad9777]

You give out a fresh kinda energy

[@jsarkar1091]

Thanks, Sis.❤️💞🙏🥰

[@yashk4051]

They look good

[@resyjr.2645]

U hav a great charisma...

[@ritikarishi3916]

Thanks for sharing.

[@user-pn6qh7nk5q]

Your hair tho🌌😍

[@Grainne777]

Thank you, I love your lipstick, it’s a nice colour, I can never find the right coloured lipstick!

[@k.k3260]

Aha that's nice ... Thanks for sharing

[@elianamoreira4075]

Eu amo essa aula prof

[@ismamsakib5382]

You're amazing

[@alvincamacho3477]

True Charisma! 🙏

[@Miami11155]

I love it✨

[@elianamoreira4075]

Eu amo suas aulas prof