Intrusive thoughts or anger increasing?

[@brandonjosephboyle]

I've been struggling lately. It's like my mind is constantly looking for something new to latch on to. I'm sensitive to everything. These videos really help in understanding the mechanics of how all of this works. I need to allow myself the space to feel the anxiety more.

[@The.Gemini.Sisters]

I'm in the exact same situation. Hang in there❤

[@jakubpolak1459]

Hello. Are you any better now?

[@Blkmermaid823]

@@The.Gemini.Sisters same I’m in that right now I moved on to one thing of my body to boom my mind that I may be going crazy I already went through the phase of maybe I’m getting schizophrenia and I got over it and now it’s oh your going crazy and you might hurt someone like it’s just the thought that I might be going crazy it sucks but I know I can control it and even get over it it’s just thoughts that’s it.

[@The.Gemini.Sisters]

@@Blkmermaid823 i had the schizophrenia thought as well, then it was 'maybe i have multi personality disorder and not OCD', then it was okay, I know I'm not harboring a secret desire to hurt someone, but that's just right now...WHAT IF one day I wake up and really DO have that desire and DO follow through...but you have to understand this is exactly what OCD is. The nature of it is to keep moving from one worry to the next even if you realize and 'clear' yourself of one fear. OCD wants to feed on your uncertainty so it will just keep creating more absurd 'what if' scenarios' IF you allow it!! Remember that you CAN overcome this. To be honest with you, I didn't see a light at the end of the tunnel for myself. I thought I was doomed to keep spiraling into the darkness and that I couldn't ever be myself again. But what helped me was taking some CBD drops to at least get my body response under control. I notice that since my body doesn't flare into its panic symptoms (trembling, shaking, heart beating out of my chest, nausea, diarrhea) it is SOOOOO much easier to get a grasp on my mental state. When my body is not physically going haywire and reacting to the fear-based thoughts as if they are reality, it is so much easier for me to feel calm because the thoughts physically cannot affect my body. When they were causing physical response symptoms i would just keep spiraling into a nervous wreck all day and literally could not do anything but lay in bed panicking and feeling sick. I think CBD helps to target your adrenal glands. So by soothing your adrenaline response to the fear and stress, it helps to cut a huge part out of that vicious cycle of thought vomit-body reaction - which then further fuels more thought vomit. Hope that makes sense lol. This is just what's been helping me!!!!! But just so you know, I know exactly how you're feeling. It will get better ❤

[@Blkmermaid823]

@@The.Gemini.Sisters yup ive been thinking of taking some cbd because it's now that "what if" i get this "what if" the voices become loud even though I have no voices the mind is just playing a mind game saying "ok you do so what if they became loud" and i think with cbd it well help alot with the physical symptoms i get like tinittus and blurry vision and nauseous but I can see what is causing that but it's scary just hearing those thoughts and it feels like it shuts you down and then you can sort of ignore but in the back you are sort of like "well are you sure?"

[@dmt7674]

I’ve learned these negative responses comes from emotional conditioning and somewhat of a lack of knowledge about what emotions are and how they work with thoughts. It’s truly mesmerizing; these things are, I think, the ego’s part of when we can’t deal with something or don’t know how to.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It's great you're exploring emotions now!

[@anonanon7553]

I love love love the "when the smoke alarm goes off you don't have a noise problem, you have a fire problem". It's the perfect analogy for people with anxiety disorders

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It is so useful to see past the noise!

[@MrSwordstroker]

Ive said it before but this stuff needs to be seen by more people

[@George_Tropicana]

I thought the number of intrusive thoughts I was experiencing was unusual, glad I’m not crazy 😝 ty for making this video💙

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Very normal!

[@MrSeanVideos]

I know this is from over a year ago, but if I counted the number of intrusive thoughts that I had in a day it would be a lot. Yes, I had the thought while typing this, “Maybe I should count.” I am just starting on my healing journey.

[@harryom3497]

I was healed but now I am back at the same place 😢

[@Elle-hx8ji]

@@harryom3497how are you now?

[@sirahmad]

i don't believe you can come back after get healed or you forgot the education you got @@harryom3497

[@debbysterk2422]

Psychology of compulsions explained in such an entertaining way. Simple picture of our brain as a toddler throwing a fit....loved it.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks, William!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@sirjudesabalot Again, posting the same comment repeatedly and on other people's comments is just a compulsion and it's only going to get your comments removed.

[@SpringLove-s1c]

@@everybodyhasabrain Can you please help me. I been struggling for 14 years they diagnosed me with harm OCD and anxiety. I been in meds on and off for years. But the last 5 years I stoped taking them . Because they don’t solve the problem . They help a little and as soon as I get off everything comes back . So after I got off , I got really bad again. I am not so much scared of the thoughts any more but, like a year ago i had severe panic attack driving to work , I didn’t know what was happening I didn’t know what it was. I was getting severe anxiety getting hot fleshes felt like I was not me , feeling like I am loosing control of my body and brain. It was the scariest day of my life. After that my life changed for the worst. I was experiencing DP/DR 24/7 i thought I was loosing my mind for sure , I was googling to see what I am experiencing , I was googling symptoms and for sure though I am developing szesophrenia and still scared to this day with that .

[@SpringLove-s1c]

@@everybodyhasabrain After that DP/DR feeling I was constantly scared and I don’t feel like my self on and off thru out the day, it feels really scary . I have a family and I have feeling like it’s not me and it’s not my kids and even when I am typing this feels weird like it’s not real and life is not real and it scares me that I am loosing my mind. My sanity 😢😩

[@SpringLove-s1c]

@@everybodyhasabrain I don’t know what I have anymore , if it’s possible to over come this . I haven been to doctors I don’t want meds. I been getting little better by listening KZbin videos , I get little better days and I am so happy that I am getting better , than next day I feel terrible again and I feel like I will never get better and there is no cure for this , like yesterday I was having not so bad day , and the word suicide pooped in my head just one word and right there at that moment I had that huge fear over me , just because that word popped in my mind . Like why am I getting that ?? Please help me what can I do . Can I recover . What I need to do to feel like my self again to feel normal . Please help

[@0lagunjujuwon680]

I was always so angry when I was still battling with my OCD symptoms. I fought plenty times and almost had my eye blinded over something I would naturally overlook. OCD sucks but do yourself a favour, the earlier you start working on recovery the better. Don't be lazy. Don't fall to compulsions. It's mighty tempting. But if you do it, you are nailing yourself to being extra sick. For every compulsion you do, you are making it harder to ever get better. That's the raw truth. Discipline yourself. No compulsions if you want to live life. Don't make OCD a habit. It will destroy you totally. Totally. It might start with contamination and get to more serious themes. So don't underrate the softest of themes. Encourage the soft ones and they invite the big bad Wolfy ones and does with scare your brain to death.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

So useful to understand!

[@0lagunjujuwon680]

Thank you Mark, I owe a lot to your own experiences and lessons. From Nigeria here. Thank you for all you do, we are family by life experience.

[@sw3ettouch]

I can say that I beat this violent intrusive thoughts towards my loved one's for 60%, they don't really scare me anymore, but sometimes I slip and let these thoughts rule me, I get the feeling of sadness and anxiety again because I think that I am truly going to do these things.. Lately I have been feeling strange, but I think I am healing and this is part of the process. I've been in a really violent environment both physically and mentally for years, and now that I am finally in my own peaceful place, with a good job, good wife, now that I feel rested and at peace the years of sadness, grief, anger and grudges are attacking me.. I know that I will become a better person when all of this is over, but sometimes I just feel tired of it all. I am thankful though for it has changed my perspective of myself, mostly thanks to you Mark.

[@alexm.5510]

Wishing you health and good vibes 🙏 very inspiring story

[@alexohunter3631]

Did it take time

[@sw3ettouch]

@@alexohunter3631 Yes, allot of time, it still does. But you learn to live with it. You Just have to accept and let it go.

[@kevinjohnsloan1157]

So frustrating that we know there intrusive thoughts and not real but the OCD still persist even though we know it’s irrational & not real like a annoying kid poking at you every day! Love the videos Mark keep up the good work you really help people & your vid/books changed my life for the better.Thank you brother

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks, Kevin! Happy to be part of your adventures!

[@WiWillemijn]

My life is now basically waiting till mark uploads again

[@sammullett17]

Somebody recommended this channel to me, and the opening 2 mins is exactly how most of my thoughts work. It's exhausting!!!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Brains are funny things!

[@angelsmith7930]

Thank you for this. Perfect timing for me, been struggling today and this video explains why. More videos at this uncertain time would be such a help. Thanks again.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

:)

[@diannacanale2983]

Thank you! I have undiagnosed OCD all my life and have caught myself many times during this pandemic, bringing issues from 2 years ago to the light... Feeling guilty, texting people, and just doing my usual brain cycles. Never ending and discouraging... I've found your videos sooo life changing 😲

[@everybodyhasabrain]

I'm glad you're finding them useful on the journey!

[@claudiamello7684]

Invaluable- makes me value my brain differently, and maybe stop degrading it. Gonna go give it a big hug.♡

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Enjoy giving it compassion!

[@Protick1994]

I loved your honesty as you did say what you promised to say with the video title, you are better than the whole crowd of mind engineer out there who just explains and magnify our problems and then tell us to consult them for solutions.

[@jeaninelanza981]

Omg! I have been having a lot of intrusive thoughts and anger as well (which I can control the anger thankfully) but its been really hard these past 2 days and I thought my medication wasn't working. Glad to know this is all normal

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Give that brain a big hug!

[@kidsundance9021]

THANK YOU for your channel man. It's really helping me in these last 3 days, I recently subscribed. Man today the thoughts and anger began rising due to the uncertainty of a yoga mat I bought was really new or used because I found some hairs on it, intrusive thoughts and compulsions increasing but now I understand things better, I'm im the process of improving from my OCD and this helped me a lot. Thanx

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks! Enjoy the steps ahead learning how to handle this brain stuff!

[@kidsundance9021]

@@everybodyhasabrain Mark have you ever talk about disgust OCD on your videos?, I deal with it a lot, it is so crippling for me sometimes, disgust of thoughts, things or people, maybe you did a video about it I'll try to find it, but I think in its roots it is the same as any case of OCD so I'll learn from your videos too to deal with this type of disgust OCD 👍🏻

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@kidsundance9021 It could help to not see that as a special/unique thing. I always say judgments are the first compulsion. Judging something as bad, disgusting, shouldn't be there, etc, is just totally standard. It's fundamental to how mental illness works. Every one of my videos assumes that as part of the problem. This video on intrusive thoughts and vegetables we hate might be useful to check out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jpurq6uwfdOVZ6M Turnips are disgusting!

[@martinpena6715]

You've helped me more than years of therapy

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Happy to help!

[@martinpena6715]

@@everybodyhasabrain omg I never thought you'd actually see my comment haha this is pretty cool, I just wanted to thank you! I just found your channel and watching just a handful of your videos has made me realize some habits I've trained my brain into doing, habits that I thought made me.some sort of crazy haha but thanks to you I realized I need to be kinder to my brain and give it a hug once in a while. Just, thank you so much for all the information you pass along with each video you post

[@harshmeena4]

*So Basically in childhood many of us had ocd but not savere and we were also a cowerd kid which get scared of many things, but now when we have become brave but the brain which has ocd becoming more and more cowerd after seeing us becoming Brave and careless,so it's showing these things so we won't become careless and remain safe!*

[@ghosthunter6475]

Wow I felt teary eyed while watching the end part. I’ve been through so much hate and I wanted to control the situation stop the hating stop the anger

[@scottadams6549]

Such a Brilliant Video Mark for these times we are in! I've definitely noticed this has been happening for me too. The "Getting to Giving" point is so helpful I find. Thanks as always mate! Stay safe 🤗❤

[@pauljohnson6884]

Mark.. Thank you for All your Help. You are Amazing and Thanks for all your ❤

[@SaintSimonTrenf]

I’ve never felt so understood.

[@samdoyle5155]

Needed to hear this so bad today. Thank you.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

:)

[@samealey8517]

Wow this video is amazing for my Pure O 👏 The brain as a toddler speaks miracles! Thank you 🏆

[@WiWillemijn]

Haha I love when you act out conversations in your head, I used to make exactly these kinds of videos where I would have a conversation with myself - educational and funny -I only just saw the carnage under the car increased with every new clip, hahah. And the guy is super happy driving the car

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Yes, he's being so reckless and irresponsible!

[@FestiveTomato44]

This video helped me so much to understand the bigger picture! Thank you so much.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome!

[@RobinVanger]

I have intrusive thoughts but without the compulsions, just the checking in my head like constant conversations with myself trying to convince myself so exhausting. Your videos are so helpfull though!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It helped me to see those are compulsions. Just because we do it inside of our heads instead of outside of it doesn't make a difference.

[@michelevanhulse9339]

Robin - Does it get you “stuck” unable to move from a chair (or wherever you are when it hits) for sometimes hours before it ends ?

[@RobinVanger]

@@michelevanhulse9339 It does not, I have always been able to continue what I was doing while actually having panic attacks and it would freak me out. Moving and continuing to do things was my coping mechanism. However, I started going to a therapist last year and I just finished. We did EMDR + Behavioral experiments In order to tackle my thoughts and it worked so well that as of now I am done with therapy and I feel so much better and stronger and the thoughts have almost completely gone away and if they do happen I know how to handle them now :)

[@zestylizbiz]

@@michelevanhulse9339 i think everyone experiences it differently but when I feel myself ruminating I stick to one place typically the couch or bed and I don’t want to do anything at all in fear of my intrusive thoughts.

[@MAMP]

This helped a lot I have been bugging out the last 2 days

[@zovi3363]

You make it sound so simple to not be this way. I have had false memory ocd for 15 years and it's not gone away

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Leaving this stuff behind does involve making changes. There's no reason it would've "gone away". False memory OCD is all about us doing compulsions to check and chase certainty about stuff in our heads. If we keep doing that checking and chasing, then it would very naturally continue.

[@zovi3363]

@@everybodyhasabrain I have tried very hard to not engage tho it's like you're saying it's a choice

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@zovi3363 It can really help to see that false memory symptoms depend entirely on actions we're doing inside of our heads. We can do things differently. The bananas in the brain don't label themselves. This video explains more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pqOxZ5KCqZaJkMk

[@zovi3363]

@@everybodyhasabrain I always feel tho people are too quick to blame mental health sufferers for their issues like they've chose it somehow. Thanks I'll have a look

[@HM-fb7sq]

Love your videos mark, thank you for you help. Humor is who I am and this OCD has brought my humor down a ton, your videos help a lot! I'm on the beginning of finding recovery and I look forward to your videos!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Humor is a great friend on the recovery adventure!

[@honeycheesechips]

Thank you for this, I’ve been feeling so shitty and so guilty for my common theme obsessive thoughts.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

They are human experiences you can have!

[@868timeless7]

Mark just wanted to say thank you for everything!

[@868timeless7]

Ive found myself falling off the wagon like everything was fine only to have to remember that hey.. you cant go back to the same practices once you feel better, its what got you there in the first place so gotta keep up with this, it isnt depressing anymore because i know this is the right way and the happy way not the other way around that I was just used too.. time to get used to this!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Yes, taking care of our mental health can be the new practice we enjoy :)

[@cleverhandle420]

I felt this lol. I got diagnosed with ocd during lockdown bc compulsions I used when I was religious (I’m not anymore) came back with new non-religious intrusive thoughts. I couldn’t understand why I felt like I had to do it to reassure myself in that way but I just felt that if I could get it just right it would calm my brain because it had in the past. It helped me realize that something deeper was going on and I finally got help from someone who understood OCD and ERP. As much as I hate the thoughts I’m glad it happened because for the first time since I can remember I know I actually can live without all these controlling, reassuring behaviors I had depended on for most of my life and just accept that all that stuff can be there and I can still live my life the way I want to. I hope mental health awareness increases bc this year has been very mentally taxing for everyone.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks for sharing about your journey! Indeed, this has been a challenging year. It's great you've found new skills for handling the brain and everything going on around it.

[@adityakrishnajaiswal8663]

One word -awesome. It will definitely change my life for the better. Thanks a lot brother A grateful stranger:)

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Enjoy putting these skills into practice!

[@daniellemk1]

You are incredibly insightful!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks!

[@tres.I.I.I]

You are a godsend, thank you.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

:)

[@Paul99370]

very informative videos, helps a ton, thank you

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks!

[@louise5780]

Thank you Mark!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome, Louise!

[@mikebucur8461]

Another great video Mark!! Your videos has literally saved my life.

[@imanem9142]

absolutely brilliant explanation, thank u!

[@alexyu1927]

I’ve been having many angry thoughts, this one in particular eats at me. Where I can physically dominate someone in a fight yet I back out. My thought is , why is it me backing out ? I can hold my own , even though I ran through the scenario so many times like what would happen after, and things such as me going to jail pop up which doesn’t bother me because I’ll at least know that I didn’t back down to some guy. This video definitely showed me that , I’m not going to get any resolution by doing the what if but to hopefully let time heal me.

[@itchaban]

Excellent Mark!! 💪♥️

[@everybodyhasabrain]

💪!

[@brandonjosephboyle]

I'm suffering from OCD and want to finally get better. Your videos are really helping me, man. Thanks.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

I'm glad you're finding them useful! Enjoy the steps ahead :)

[@sirahmad]

dude you are genius@@everybodyhasabrain

[@annanguyen159]

Thanks, this definitely helped.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome!

[@xsuneaglex]

This was really helpful. Thank you

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Happy to be of help on the journey!

[@meron205]

my intrusive thoughts are actually decreasing but there still this annoying voice in my head saying its not going away at this point i'm fed up and i don't care cuz i'll know i'll be fine and i will get over this hopefully :(

[@chelzyramirez3663]

Lately I’ve been progressing and suddenly my thoughts started increasing so much from all sorts of ocd themes my brain hurts but I have hope I can overcome it

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It really helped me to keep the focus on actions. Thoughts and emotions can do whatever they want. It's how I act and interact with experiences that matters.

[@luckykaushik2473]

Okay but this is the last last time i'm doing this .😂😂

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Just one more time, really. No, really, this is really the last time!

[@OCDSuomi]

@@everybodyhasabrain The Beginning of the end of the beginning :D

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@OCDSuomi Oh yes, but really this time, for sure!

[@soniczforever5470]

Great video, insightful. Hope you are safe and well. Love your attitude.

[@FREE.ON-Snow]

Timely, ty 🙏🏼

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome!

[@shannon150]

I needed this video so much. Thank you

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome!

[@lukeoliver9785]

If only we could make our subconscious mind conscious! We would live our lives so much more piece full. Our subconscious mind is a evolution fuck up n we’ve gotta guide it consciously. Thanx 4 teaching me that marko, your a legend!!!!!🤙🏾

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Enjoy taking your brain on an adventure!

[@sirahmad]

i was scared before but not now at all i am awaring of whats actually going on

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It's useful to have that awareness!

[@jiyounghwang9437]

Thank you !

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome, Ji young!

[@Rostam92]

Great video 💥👍🏽!

[@mariposa_1127]

Right in the middle of your video my computer crashed and at first I thought you were demonstrating an intrusive thought. :)

[@everybodyhasabrain]

The computer had an intrusive run time error!

[@homestead.hippie]

Great video ❤ 🙏

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thanks, Danii!

[@vernie7882]

”Are you breathing right?” 😂🤣

[@mrsk8016]

I love your videos, thank you for this ❤

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Thank you!

[@Bubblegumgamer1818]

Anyone else have harm ocd? But are getting annoyed or maybe even slightly angrier easier lately and then it terrifies them?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

That's what this video is about!

[@MisterDozer]

Thank you for this! Exactly what I needed to hear right now. P.S. my brain has been obessesing over eye floaters lol.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

:) Brains love to do that!

[@samba5168]

Oh my, thank you!

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You're welcome!

[@wanmeireles7182]

Mark, I've been watching a lot of your videos and I would love if you could talk more about the shifting from "getting" to "giving" and how it's useful to mental health. You also emphasized that on your book so I think that would be a cool theme for one of your next videos? What do you think? Thanks for the awesome content!

[@Dizzybubbles]

I'm having constant intrusive and unwanted thoughts saying "Please shut up or I'll kill you." To people who either annoy me or talk to me sometimes. Or "Oh that person is nice/cute, kill her." I've also been having a lot of intrusive thoughts again about harming others. And my question is if the thoughts that I mentioned at first are also intrusive thoughts, because I find them very scary. I haven't had a single problem with my thoughts etc for the past two months, but since last week they started to happen again and it's been going on constantly

[@ilovechik-fil-aandcanes5219]

i feel you sometimes they dont show up as what ifs they show up as actual thoughts that seem so real and scary and ngl I feel like I'm loosing myself because I don't want to become a crazy person it fricken sucks

[@luckykaushik2473]

😁really enjoying and useful !

[@mikebucur8461]

Super helpful video!!

[@rijukoshy7206]

I have been there pal..... Many times.....still

[@Miltonbosss]

The problem with me Mark is that I wanna be so perfect that I don’t get any bad thought or emotion. It’s gotten to the point where whenever I get a bad thought or emotion ( even like loud music) it scares me because I’m on so much alert for negative shit that it’s going wild. Even writing this it seems silly

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It really helped me to recognize that mental health is about having any thought or feeling while being myself. Judging thoughts or emotions as bad and trying to avoid and control them is a one-way ticket to Mental Illness Town.

[@Pumbarumba]

Hi, You said in earlier videos is that we should start acting by our values and cutting of compulsion. How do i know what my values are if my brain is continuously getting into arguments in form of various fantasies, scenarios, urges, etc?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

That sounds like you're describing a normal human brain, there. That's not a barrier to picking some values. It's precisely why we use exercises and tools outside of our heads to set values. I made an online course exploring exercises for identifying values, and there I describe them like compass directions: www.thetoolkitstore.com/product/the-values-course/ It could help not to see them as "MY values". Values take us places. They're an effective way to move in a direction. They're not attached to us or part of us. And just like navigating the wilderness, we don't know for certain where they'll take us. Based on some guesses, and maybe some information from people that have explored the wilderness before us, we pick a direction and try it out. And we learn. If the compass directions don't take us where we want to go, we adjust course and explore new territory.

[@haneenbany-mohammed4981]

i love your content! thank you so much :)

[@OliviaClaireyt]

I’ve noticed i get anxiety even thinking about getting an intrusive thought. it’s been awful for me. im consistently in fight or flight :(

[@harryom3497]

Yah, me too

[@JGProductions6581]

The scariest thing about these thoughts is that if im in a presence with another person, and I am getting a thought that *DESPISES* me, I start humming or moving around and saying some random things so that I can chase it away, and when the person next to me tells me to stop, it makes the entire situation worse than it already is.,

[@sudipakarki5109]

Read Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts by Sally Winston & Martin Seif... It can help you a lot to understand how we get stuck with these thoughts and how we can come out of them

[@JosiahSCooper]

My brain is almost as intelligent in its ability to fool me, as I am to counter-intuitively respond. It's a challenge! Sometimes I don't even know what I want in the moment, and I experience anhedonia (a fall in anticipation) when going towards what I felt and or thought I wanted. I have to then retract myself back to my next subset of values-if I can't necessarily identify what I wanted in that moment-and then pivot again, when it becomes more clear and obvious, but maybe I'm _supposed_ to face that uncertainty. Maybe I've been fooled by the uncertainty of not knowing what I want, to do what I don't want, into checking and or compensating elsewhere. What do you say? Is forcing the direction essential in that circumstance, irregardless, of whether I know what I'm doing is actually what I want to be doing? Anyways, the voice commentary is harsh!-they are relentlles-no reasoning with them: It's not always 'if I'm a bad person', it's the direct accusation, and the only way I can deal with them, is to accept I am 'evil'-irrelevant of that actually being the truth-so yea, there definitely are varying levels of severity to this whole 'OCD' complex thing. So many different ambiguities and unknown mechanics, I still have yet to learn, and it's been almost 3 years-since I originally learned the ERP protocol from your videos-my brain has given me one hell of a ride, that I never originally wanted to go on! My thoughts are still muddled and definitely not where I want them to be, but I'm still pushing through, 'cause what else am I going to do? I'm here and there's no escape. I want to deal with it, than live in fear, anxiety, intimidation, anger, guilt, shame, jealousy, etc.-through the fight or flight [fawn and freeze] mode-of compelling pressure, impulsive urges, etc. And I've been _tricked_ so many gosh darn times! Geez. It's really when the audible voice commentary picked up in late 2017-early 2018, where it convinced me _they_ (figuratively speaking) was totally different than the basic, unwanted thoughts I had experienced before. I would provoke them, saying stuff deliberately, as diffusion tactics over and over-which just insured I would keep hearing them and beyond-'til this very day, so that's a sort of physical 'karma'. I was returned what I gave. I'll keep working on it, though, got to let go and just be more often-so difficult-to just be present sometimes, but that's the way it is, gotta go through all these sunbconscious, unconscious, triple-mind layers of dialogue and get some social interaction. They rebound in isolation a lot more effectively! I noticed my thoughts are quieter, when I'm in an interactive circumstance. Anyways, thanks for the video. Cheers! - Josiah

[@JosiahSCooper]

@@MegaFahad2000 Yea, I know. I'm short on it, though, and the internet can only do so much. Thank you for caring. Being "alone" isn't the problem-it's the response-and even then, knowing more people suffer isn't always a consolation. This world is hard to bear, indeed, without all the pains and worries and fears of others-it's worse still-when the few who do care are desperately short in supply. *Peace*

[@JosiahSCooper]

@@MegaFahad2000 Yea, dealing with it, rather than avoiding--is--the only way out.

[@Classof-et4wd]

If my brain says check or I hit someone I say go to hell when the police come knocking at my door I’ll worry about it. Ocd has been nothing but a liar and I don’t buy it anymore. I’ve Gotten so mad about it recently because it’s been nothing but lies interrupting my life making my life harder and doubting myself. I am thankful for this time because I am finally able to nip this ocd crap in the bud!!!!

[@miraavella1894]

Yeah im weird...i get over a thought then i get a new one and an other and an other.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Yes, it really helped me to see that the things I thought I was doing to "get over a thought" were actually compulsions fuelling that cycle. So when we notice that, it's a great time to take a different approach because we can see how we're making that cycle spin and spin and spin.

[@DadeWilliams]

🤣😂 your videos are making me feel better 🙌

[@everybodyhasabrain]

🙌

[@marksamuelsoncable]

Hi Mark!, I'd deeply appreciate your reply. Why is it that you say the more you chase control and certainty the less you will feel?

[@hueso5071]

I noticed my intrusive thoughts can get triggered when I get upset or frustrated about something. I usually have thoughts about harming a family member, I got into a disagreement with this family member and it triggered my harmful thoughts about them. Then it’s like “what if I get so angry at this person that I actually harm them” it makes me question it and I start getting scared, also starting to have doubts. Is this normal???

[@bensonwest6821]

Im so lost, but this is hilarious!

[@prashareet1785]

Basically ... When you see a creepy person who is a criminal... And then there goes my brain... How does the criiminal sees people thinking how to do violent stuff...i dont know but the brain just shows all those images .. Hurting others... And you start to look at the world like that criminal... It feels really creepy... And really this hurts...

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You can see where the compulsions start! It helped me to recognize that judgment is the first compulsion. When you judge some as "creepy" and stick that label on them and attach meaning to it, then it naturally fuels all of that other stuff you don't like. But you don't have to go around judging people as creepy.

[@dakgeNy]

Our Brain is so Complex...

[@everybodyhasabrain]

But so simple!

[@joeychakhtoura5546]

So basically whatever thoughts we have, we should allow them to process in our brains and just " watch the scene without judging or asking anything " as i like to recall it and gradually, slowly and with time it will fade away. This is all new to me, i panicked ( still am kind of ) at first and i thought something was really wrong with me until i decided to do some online research and voila ! I am giving myself some time. its been a few months yet i am getting gradually better, if i feel like it's getting worse later i will seek therapy. I used to watch documentaries about crimes and CSI, somehow the images got stuck !!! I am researching more about reassurance and how its done properly, i am also being vocal about some of them and journaling it helps me a lot and i believe if you talk about them, you don't give them too much importance and they stop being as sticky with time. is it right, any tips ?! Thank you !

[@everybodyhasabrain]

I can't imagine how reassurance can be done properly. One thing that can be helpfully is not getting caught up in needing to fix particular images or thoughts or other brain stuff. Mental health is like physical fitness--it's much broader than particular issues we dislike.

[@joeychakhtoura5546]

@@everybodyhasabrain I am sorry, but i didn't really understand, not getting caught up? what i was trying to explain that instead of not thinking of them or replacing them sometimes i'm just allowing them to float ( movie to play in my head ) until either i get too anxious or it fades. Is what i'm doing KIND of right?

[@lsgirl8814]

Do you have any videos on mental checking/testing?

[@hassaanrauf4349]

This is really helpful! Everytime I get OCD it's usually about me being uncertain of what things make me feel and ruminating till I get some sort of relief. I try to cut the thoughts out and follow the anxiety curve but I still feel like the thoughts are important and I need relief to move on. I also experience relapse while dealing with one OCD so then I have two or many more in my head that I just have to bear, even the old ones that I've recovered from come back. Is this normal for OCD?

[@burningtirez4548]

Can you get anxiety from not getting anxiety from it? :/

[@everybodyhasabrain]

You posted the same question on three different videos. THAT is the type of compulsion fueling this.

[@youngbs8263]

Hey mark I was just wondering if it’s common for ocd , pure o In particular to twist your dreams while you’re asleep ?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Checking on this IS the compulsion. It's what's known as "reassurance-seeking". It's just like the compulsions I was describing in this video, with going to check the van. You can just look at what the uncertainty is you're trying to resolve by checking if it's common. For example, if you want to chase some certainty about a diagnosis, so you were looking online to check if some symptoms were "normal" or anybody else had them, and then you found that "pure o" label, so you were excited to put a name on this! That's the compulsive cycle I was talking about in the video. So now your brain sees that you liked that certainty. So then it throws up another uncertainty: "Well, what if it twisting your dreams means it's something else?!" And then the hunt begins again for certainty. It can really help to not get too stuck on a label like "pure o", see that cycle of checking and chasing certainty, and break it. We don't have to chase certainty about the stuff our brains throw up. It's weather. We can do the actions we value with any weather in our heads.

[@burningtirez4548]

My head hurts man

[@danieldooley1868]

Can u get intrusive thoughts without ocd , but they are very frequent but I can dismiss them mostly , I also don’t do compulsions but now that I have a concern for having ocd it’s almost like I fear doing compulsions like I’m scared I will develop them or have to do them even though I don’t have any, ive had the problem since January but have gotten much much better but I’m still very very concerned that it’s ocd what do u think mark?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Of course. All you need is a brain. I don't think there's anything in this video about OCD. This is for people alive right now with brains. It can really help to not get stuck on the labels but instead look at what actions are healthy for us. For instance, with this message, you're trying to chase certainty and reassurance about something you're afraid of. That's not going to help make things better. Compulsions like that only create more uncertainty. I find it useful to approach mental health like physical fitness. We don't need a label of a disorder to start improving our physical fitness. And there are behaviors that will help your physical fitness and there are behaviors that will hinder it. Each day, you get to decide where you want to take your physical or mental fitness, within the context you find yourself :)

[@DW-2022]

A few months back, I had like super serious compulsion disorder and before I realized, it's like gone. And now I'm only troubled by literally unreasonable thoughts. IDK how and when that happened. Lol. Like I worry what of I don't study while I know it's up to me. Any thoughts on this?

[@lister11811]

Hi I am so confused about what HoCD mean I have been diagnosed used with Ocd and thought all these thoughts weren’t true but now people are saying Hocd people can realise they are gay, so confused.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

I've responded to this question on one of the other videos you posted it on

[@karthikmandanna5474]

Angry because of increase in intrusive thoughts, is that normal?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Ah, so this is the uncertainty >> anxiety >> checking compulsion cycle that I was explaining in the video. You don't have to react to that uncertainty by checking for reassurance.

[@ROHANKUMAR-oi6bw]

Hi mark when I have the horrible thoughts about real life events, sometimes I would just instinctively like shake my neck or grimace or like make a groan. I know I am not doing it on purpose I think because the thoughts are so bad and make me feel horrible emotions, it’s like a instinctive reaction to the bad thought. I know I’m not doing it on purpose cause I have no control over doing it. But I have other uncertain stuff about it like “am I doing it on purpose” and “is this a compulsion” and “if it’s not a compulsion then what is it”. Is this all things I need to stop answering? Because like it just happens instinctively from horrible thoughts but it makes me doubt myself and if I’m recovering properly. Thanks

[@everybodyhasabrain]

That's a compulsion but so is judging the thoughts. It sounds like you're skipping over one compulsion (judging thoughts) and then getting upset about the natural result of that (the physical flinching). Thoughts are thoughts. You can see that judging thoughts is creating a lot of stress in your body. So why not cut out the judging thoughts? They're just weather. It's no different than seeing clouds in the sky and then getting really upset about them.

[@ROHANKUMAR-oi6bw]

Mark Freeman sorry I’m kind of confused. How can the physical flinching be a compulsion if I am not doing it on purpose? And also the thoughts naturally cause me pain because they are of bad memories, like I’m not trying to judge them, but they cause me pain because their of real memories or pain that has occurred? Sorry I’m just a bit confused what to do from here

[@ROHANKUMAR-oi6bw]

Should I just again try to stop working out if I’m doing things right or not and whether I’m doing compulsions or not and just shift the attention to actions now and my values now?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@ROHANKUMAR-oi6bw That stuff you've written out there: I would approach it as beliefs, not facts. It's totally understandable that we believe a lot of that stuff but for leaving these challenges behind, it helped me to recognize that the things I believed about how I interacted with the stuff in my head was just wrong and unhelpful. This stuff you're describing is all changeable. If you can access a professional or a good workbook, those could be helpful ways to start learning about changes.

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@ROHANKUMAR-oi6bw That sounds useful!

[@makaramarshall9371]

When i get mad I get these thoughts I feel so guilty what should I do I'm so sad and feel so guilty

[@everybodyhasabrain]

When we get mad, we're trying to control things. So the brain throws up these thoughts because it's just trying to give you something to control.

[@ashwinipriyadharashini3863]

My thoughts. Is popping every minute.i am going to die..today is the last day ..24/7..not the sucidial way..but natural calls..I am. 5 month postpartum..why am.i getting like this thoughts??

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Instead of chasing certainty about why we get thoughts, it can really help to shift the focus to changing how we interact with any brain stuff. You've just had some big changes in your life, so like this video explains, it would be totally natural for the brain to throw up thoughts because of all the new, uncertain things. So it's useful to recognize that thoughts are just things we experience, like gas and indigestion. Changing how we interact with that brain indigestion is very useful.

[@qccharles7366]

I have the thoughts when i am angry sometimes but i dont think its normal and i dont like them

[@everybodyhasabrain]

Those are things you can think!

[@qccharles7366]

No its the bad ocd type thoughts

[@everybodyhasabrain]

@@qccharles7366 Oh, in that case: those are thoughts you can have!

[@nishantpuri3180]

I wish to get some help with this So, my fear is Intrusive thoughts, violent ones for that matter. I get scared by them and feel substantially threatened. It feels as if they are me. I reason out and normalise. I sometimes feel guilty about this. My mind cooks up stories that no, what if you were actually this. At my core I know that isn't true. But how do I learn to get over it now?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It really helped me to work on cutting out compulsions. Right now, it sounds like you're doing compulsions and thinking it's good to do them. Like in your message there, you mentioned a line you'll often see when people are wrestling with this stuff: "At my core I know that isn't true."

[@nishantpuri3180]

@@everybodyhasabrain Thanks alot Mark! So I get rid of them by not re assuring but rather letting them pass, no matter whatever they are.

[@innnnhhjjhhhjiioloookk]

Why OCD always trys make me feel annoyed

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It doesn't. Those are the compulsions you're doing

[@alphawavesready6639]

I'm heterosexual and i keep having intrusive thoughts of what if im gay or gay thoughts. Never acted on any of it but it keeps giving me anxiety and just bothers me. Should I try CBT because its becoming intense

[@everybodyhasabrain]

It's very useful to learn mental health skills and make changes. Asking if you should try CBT is like asking if you should try exercise. CBT is just a general term. If you notice that you're running into issues with physical fitness, of course it's useful to look into improving physical fitness. If you notice you're running into issues with mental fitness, of course it's useful to look into mental fitness. Either of those will involve making changes and doing some hard, sweaty work.

[@alphawavesready6639]

@@everybodyhasabrain I been meditating everyday, praying to God, watching your videos, and more videos on CBT. I dont why i said should I try? I called my doctor for a therapist and asked them for CBT but they haven't called back also have to wait for them. It's been a week i been doing those things to help me. Even if i was feeling weak to those thoughts I still worked out and did other things to help. Its all in my head and I want to overcome and grow out of it. I journaled today and try break down these thoughts and also im learning CBT and trying to apply it.

[@shalondastuart2860]

Do you take any medication Mark?

[@everybodyhasabrain]

No, I've never taken any psych drugs

[@shalondastuart2860]

@@everybodyhasabrain wonderful