Is Gen Z's "bed rotting" trend actually self-care?

[@AnaPsychology]

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[@lovrijanbiceps]

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[@EricaChronik]

Bed rotting AFTER getting things done for the day is great. Bed rotting before you complete your tasks is a recipe for disaster. I’ve been coming out of a recent depression, and simply getting myself out of bed first thing sets the tone for the rest of my day.

[@duskadown6751]

i think it's called. resting

[@Zawoalowany]

​​@@duskadown6751did silicon valley reinvent the bus again?

[@ratsalad178]

i bedrotted away a couple years of my life and in my experience it was 100% an avoidance behavior. i simply did not have the skills to self soothe/regulate/process difficult emotions. i can't get those years back, but often you just have to fall to learn how to get up

[@Kam-no2ku]

wait this whole time i was under the impression that my generation knew and understood bed-rotting to be a self-destructive behavior considering that "rotting" is literally in the name. the fact that some view this as a form of self-care is not only new to me but kinda insane

[@thefaerieprincessfromhell666]

Yeah really.

[@StarAllKungfu]

No less insane then changing your sex on any given sunday.

[@prorok21]

Toxic positivity in a nutshell.

[@JordanCantFight]

Litteraly, self care is litteraly just justifiying toxicity now

[@Kate-vd3hl]

I think it's the minority who thinks it's healthty

[@akirashiori6265]

As someone who took a mental health day today, and often partook in rotting during the height of my depression, bed rotting is the last thing my mental health needs. I’m going to school full time and work full time, getting the responsibilities done or having a day just for hobbies is great, wasting an entire 12 hours being comatose feels like such a waste of the avg 60 years I have left to live. Young adults who readily throw away those days 1-2 times a week is insane. That’s so much time they’ll never get back

[@randominternetguy4357]

I've been bed rotting for a few months now, watching this video as well as reading the comments has been really helpful for me. I use it as a kind of escapism and run away from my own emotions, thoughts and responsibilities. This started occurring more and more after I started college. I did well academically, however everything has been so overwhelming. I have a hard time making friends; I have a habit of only seeing the worst in people. So, to run away from my emotions of loneliness I'd just go to my phone and lay in bed all day. I usually don't even do my chores (I do laundry like once every 2-3 weeks it is pretty disgusting sorry anyone who reads). That's my story I guess. I'll try to stop my habit of bed rotting from now on. Thank you Ana and the community for the helpful video and comments. And to anyone who's reading this and going through a hard time, you're not alone. Please care for yourself and look after yourself, not by bed rotting but by doing your responsibilities.

[@zehenglai1816]

thank you

[@anotherenclosedlivingbeing1989]

For me I haven't started college yet and have been stuck in a loop of bed rotting and getting out of bed to try to be productive for about three months since I broke up with my ex partner, I understand completely how one just tries to avoid the emotions you're having by looking at your phone watching something that hopefully doesn't remind you of your pain. Getting up has always been the best act of self love for me personally because it makes me feel efficient and builds my confidence and belief that I am enough and I do my best, thank you for sharing, you're not alone either and we can definitely overcome this unhealthy coping mechanism, hang in there I believe in you❤

[@randominternetguy4357]

@@anotherenclosedlivingbeing1989 I went through a similar phase after my breakup. Part of what made my life in college so hard was because I was fresh out of a breakup and the said relationship had a lot of codependency issues. But I'm doing much better now. I get what you're going through, it will be hard. However, I'm sure you'll do better slowly with the self-care you're doing :)

[@rebecca_stone]

Depends on your personality type and commitments. Im a bit older than Gen Z, with ADHD, an intense job and prone to getting on the more manic side, a habit of overcommitting and burning out, and struggling to relax long enough to even get through a movie. Usually out of guilt or feeling like my to do list is never-ending. I think if I could manage to do this for one day it would honestly do me the world of good!

[@TrugoyEveryDay]

It's not a challenge, it's a symptom

[@12icki]

I thought we all agreed it’s a depressive behavior

[@instagamrr]

I’m an elder millennial, been bed rotting since becoming an adult lol

[@abstractmonke296]

I'm a younger millennial and same, I've been doing this since like 2009

[@instagamrr]

@@abstractmonke296 same! Right after the Great Recession, when I realized the whole world I was promised wasn’t gonna be happening haha. Graduated college in fall of 2008 🫡

[@goddesschess]

Same

[@frogwitch]

! TW: violent death by ableist neglect ! i hate this term, because it reminds me of a story of Lacey Fletcher who was left to literally rot alive for years on the couch by her ableist self-absorbed parents. and they justified it by her just "being lazy".

[@aight33]

And exactly that example should tell you that there is a reason why people lay in bed/couch and get like that. We don't do anything without a biological reason because we are biological animals. So if someone "bed rots", then no, they're not being lazy and there is ALWAYS a biological reason why their body and mind "choose" to do that. And it's probably not a choice either but a logical consequence of their biology and environment interacting with each other. This video is just toxic productivity.

[@pinkroses135]

Many raised themselves and I think this is part of them navigating that

[@sealwhiskers3515]

This hit the nail on the head for me

[@DevoidVoid]

Or in my case and others, were the first gen raised by the internet 😂

[@scumie815]

True.

[@maddyG7414]

I gotta be honest, I found myself feeling a bit defensive with this video, and shocker, I’ve been dealing with a bout of depression caused by the beginning of a stressful job while also doing a calculus course that I find really tough. So I’ve spent several days in the last months or so just laying in bed most of the day. When I was younger and feeling the same, I would spend nearly every Saturday this way. And I mean…I personally see nothing wrong with having a more ‘lazy’ day once a week. But when I’m healthy, those days consist of me reading in bed for a bit, then maybe cooking a nice meal, taking a short walk, having a long shower and then retiring early to watch a movie and draw. When I can’t even get out of bed to shower or make a decent meal for myself, I know that’s a sign that I’m not doing well. So this video was a reminder that I do in fact, need to pursue help at the moment.

[@rylanrussell9595]

The new "self care" really = self indulgence, which is, very rarely helpful. Real self care = taking care of yourself; doing things that are objectively beneficial to you (eating healthy, exercising, socializing, cleaning your house, paying your bills, meditating, etc)

[@78deathface]

I think a lot of it has to do with gen z being the first generation to come of age knowing that the future is one of decline and probable doom. My nieces are gen z and they feel no purpose and see no point in striving for anything. I’m in my 40s and I totally get it, I grew up believing the world I was inheriting from my parents was gonna be better and more prosperous, but once I hit my 30s it was increasingly obvious that the material conditions of the vast majority of people in the world would only be getting worse and more difficult to navigate. No matter how hard we work we will never truly get ahead. Unless you were fortunate enough to be born into wealth or a comfortable middle class family, you will have to try harder to just stay afloat. Maybe this IS just depression, I definitely have struggled with it, but I think this is a humanity-wide problem. It’s hard to envision a future worth working for, people have never been more individualized/isolated and it’s hard to feel like we hold any power to change the systems we exist within let alone our own lives. I’m gonna be that guy: it’s capitalism. Not sure who originally said it, but it’s easier to imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism.

[@Popopatop]

I think you hit the nail on the head. I’ve been trying to put words to this feeling I have but you described it perfectly. It’s also I feel so fatigued with all the standards, be productive, be beautiful, be a leader, be extroverted, be different, be cool, be thinner. Just everything feels overwhelming to the point where it’s like I feel I’m always not measuring up in some way.

[@ameliaetienne8521]

I prefer the old fashioned way of avoidance by keeping insanely busy and burning out later

[@CFChristopherB]

Haha, i know this all too well.

[@smcqueen123]

Surely this is not generational, everyone I knew took duvet days in the 90's when everything was getting a bit much.

[@detailedinfodisplay5210]

Its definitely not. It's just more visible and is a meme because of the internet. Previously people would just attribute it to depression, burnout, exhaustion, anxiety, etc.

[@y04a]

I love the idea of a douvet day much better than a bed rotting day! Especially because it likely would have involved magazines and books, TV maybe, but certainly not a smartphone.

[@mybirdsofparadise]

7:29 This is the advice that worked for me. I had bad insomnia and couldn't fall asleep for hours. I did lots of changes, stopped hanging out in social media for hours, strictly no phone scrolling in bed at all and other things, helped me! I have no problem falling asleep now. Going strong 5+ years with no electronics in bed and using bed for sleep only.

[@thepainteduniverse3648]

I don’t spend time in bed, but I do schedule Sundays as my mental and physical rest day, and I think it’s very helpful for me. It gives my mind and body time to decompress, meditate, etc. When used properly I think the technique can be useful.

[@hollercat606]

I can’t help but wonder how much of this is chronic fatigue from long covid. Especially because some people are getting covid multiple times a year, they never get the chance to fully recover.

[@valnsky]

Oh stop it. Long Covid is called laziness. The only two people I know who have had ‘long covid’ are obese, underperforming at work and lazy in their personal lives too

[@becsingleton7951]

That's such a good point!!!

[@FireflowerDancer]

It's related to Covid but not in the ways you might think. We all are more isolated in our 'cells' slash apartments since we have had a reduction in our 'third spaces.' And we are more screen dependent. As a sensitive person, I notice I have inflammation and eye problems from being around LED and other high-brighness screens. Night time headlights in people's cars are also brighter than they've ever been. These higher performance lights put a lot of stress on our nervous systems.

[@hollercat606]

@@FireflowerDancer I definitely agree that Covid had HUGE social knock-on effects. I graduated with my undergrad degree in 2013 and I became really close friends with my classmates because we were always bumping into each other in the anthropology department. I met my best friend who’s like a brother to me now back then. I can’t imagine how my life would have turned out if I hadn’t had that experience :/ That being said, I think post-covid fatigue is more common than you think. I’m glad you haven’t had to deal with it though. Stay safe & stay well 😷

[@Fenjar4022]

As someone who is recovering from chronic fatigue rn, I can say that chronic fatigue and long covid ARE a direct consequence of how our society is chronically overworked, unstable and hasnt learned how to actually be in tune with your body, your needs and your emotions.

[@Al-Brown_BluesChannel]

Mhh ... I was born in 85. There is no TV in my bedroom and I do sports - at least thrice a week and I try to read a book every month. Furthermore, I still enjoy playing my guitar. Well, I don't have many friends but the ones I have, I cherish. So, I often spend my time alone and I'm totally fine with it. The only thing that I'm really guilty of, is celebrating my siesta. Apart from that, I still try to get up at 8 am and I always try to go to bed before midnight. To be honest, I lost my job this year. My dear mama has passed and I was not able to go on working - 9 to 5. However, my days are structured and I'm about to get back on my feet.

[@TrugoyEveryDay]

Keep your head up you absolute warrior

[@mairam1072]

I disagree with you, but I appreciate this take and will definitely agree that when it comes to depression it can be very unhealthy considering that it leans into the vicious cycle. I too did that after my last job and it lead to so much anxiety and depressive like symptoms. However, now that I am so busy with school I don't necessarily just sleep on those days because of the amount of work I need to do. So I typically sleep in Sunday, read something fun, dance, and make myself yummy meals while continuously going back to bed throughout the day to watch something or to nap.

[@uchuuseijin]

I knew I was depressed the whole time I did this and now people are calling it self-care?? Bro I lost entire years of my life to self-care I'd do anything to stop self-care from happening to me again

[@feefs4763]

bedrotting is so comforting 😔 i wish i could learn better ways to cope

[@Kate-vd3hl]

Does it really make you feel good? Or is it an easy distraction?

[@mariahspapaya]

@@Kate-vd3hlI personally love laying in bed after a long day, way more than sitting on the couch or anything watching tv. There’s something so comforting about laying in bed for me

[@feefs4763]

@@Kate-vd3hl makes me feel good! i do everything on my bed honestly. i study, i watch shows, play games all on my bed

[@miro138]

Out of curiosity, do you have a hard time actually sleeping? as in falling asleep and staying asleep? I've read some anecdotal stuff that your body can learn to associate your bed with things other than sleeping and it can make it hard to fall asleep.

[@feefs4763]

@@miro138 not anymore!!! i meditate before sleeping and it has helped my insomnia so much

[@myrtila]

I have the habit of bed rotting since... a little child. My mother has it as well. I think it can be beneficial if it is for a specific amount of time every week. When i bed rotted for days on end, not only did i feel depressed, but looking back at it, my life had no meaning. It's a tricky situation

[@hollowedboi5937]

I see from multiple sides how odd being online and having these terms can be- to "rot" in bed sounds like accepting death. Though on another side it feels like a counter-culture to hustle culture, or the feeling like you constantly have to be doing something at all times inevitably leading to burn-out, perfectionism, and a feeling of never being good enough, hence low self esteem and high self shaming. I don't think just rotting till death or working till you die are good cuz they're both extremes. Instead keep moving, but focus on one thing at a time. Don't multi-task, and give yourself time to breathe and reflect between tasks like 5-20 minutes. Do energetic activities that aren't a task but a pass time you can enjoy, mental or outright physical. Though then again, this is the internet. With around 8 billion individuals making decisions there's gonna be different in action and intentions. So do what you will with your time, though at the very least reflect on the time you spend and if its what you want to actually be doing with you time both short term and long term.

[@raelindashoates975]

Damn, I didn’t even know this was the term for it. I used to “bed rot” a lot in my early 20’s but looking back it wasn’t healthy. It was because I was genuinely not happy in that period of my life. Fast forward, I’m now married and a parent and now “bed rotting” is not even a thing anymore. My mental health has greatly improved. I will say I have been guilty of couch rotting all day when my child was away and it did not make me feel great. By the end of it, I felt like the life got sucked out of me and I did not feel rejuvenated at all! Only in certain situations is bed rotting healthy but to use it as pure leisure? Not good.

[@internetdiary]

thank u for this video! as a recovering bedrotter, i found a lot of value in it 💐

[@haritc8462]

Speaking from personal experience, I think that calling bed rotting a poor coping mechanism or a symptom of depression would be better than calling it self care. I can rot in bed for an entire day or even an entire week and I will usually feel a lot worse than if I had gotten up and done pretty much anything else.

[@banandababa]

I agree with everything you are saying but what about looking at the root cause? gen Z and millennials have it rough compared to the previous generations. Most of us can’t afford a home, to raise children, to live a good quality of life without being in debt. Even if they are married. The economy and inflation has never been worse. It’s not easy and the youth are working so so hard for so little reward so it’s no surprise they are burnt out and seek comfort in their beds. Also I think the TikTokers are just making funny relatable content to go viral. There’s comfort in laughing at our insecurity. I don’t believe anyone genuinely sees constant bed rotting as a good thing.

[@user-mg8if8po4e]

❤❤❤

[@emo_jester69]

Yeah bed rotting is a symptom of the system we are in

[@rina-nv5yr]

I know for a fact that bed rotting doesn’t make me feel better. Personal story: in early 2021 I lost two of my family members within 2 weeks and having things to do was very helpful. Yes, everything about the situation sucked, but if there were no preparations for funerals, no paperwork, no relatives around to cook food for etc I would’ve lost my mind. As you’ve said in the video - it was something to occupy my brain with instead of spiralling into my misery

[@cutienerdgirl]

As someone with Clinical Depression, mental health days are imperative to my overall productivity. When I didn't take mental health days, I would get burnt out easily.

[@beejuo]

as someone who fights depression on a daily basis, bedrotting is alls i do. from the age of probably around 13 if i didnt have school i would bedrott, im 18 soon and i still bedrott. around a year ago i couldn’t attend college anymore and dropped out which lead to me being in bed 24/7 untill september where i enrolled back into education and finally started to leave my room again. last month i relapsed back into not being able to handle college again due to one of the worst mental health episodes i have so far experienced, and have not attended for around a month. alls i have done is bedrott and i hate it. i want to get up, i want to be social, i want to leave my bedroom and house but i cant. bedrotting is the worst, i feel like ive wasted my teens away. it makes me feel like shit and has put me behind in life and education. seeing people glamorise bedrotting is the thing that pisses me off most about my generation. it isn’t something that should be promoted, it should be talked about, emphasising the negatives and the harm it causes.

[@rositasouza1216]

Could you please make a video on mental health deteriorating due to PMS please. And how to deal with depressive symptoms associated w PMS. Thanks ❤

[@sealwhiskers3515]

I don't think people taking mental health days are bedrotting for fun on those days, but I also think they're taking those mental health days for the same reason they are the least productive: because they're chronically, to varying degrees, not doing well. At least that was the case for me. So mental health days didn't help me rise back to health afterwards because I actually needed deeper help than that, but they helped me recover enough to become a mediocre employee again before the cycle continued.

[@crim-jim6814]

I think the stresses of our world have really caught up to our generation in particular, I genuinly believe if in the fall and winter part of the year school was centered around being outdoors, more people (me included) would get out of bed more. We need a change to our education to change the way we think.

[@Ridcally]

I was doing this before it became mainstream

[@1111Paiste]

Your videos are always balanced and nuanced and informative!! Thanks for working so hard on them.

[@TheCrimsonIdol987]

I have to take your three basic guidelines and add a few due to my autism and ADHD diagnoses. I've found what I know to be "bad brain days" where either autism or ADHD sap some of my energy when I've not been tending to their needs. For me, I only "bed rot" during a meltdown, where I've found lying down helps. Even then, it's only until it passes. After it passes, I find getting up and listening to or writing music helps.

[@amazeus1980]

Life is phucked up. Everyone needs a brake sometimes…we are in a rush non stop.

[@fisyr]

There are probably healthier ways to take a break, than staying in bed all day (unless you're sick or really physically, not mentally exhausted). Going for a walk would be on top of my list.

[@aight33]

Exactly and this video is an example of toxic productivity. Very disappointed by it.

[@Doxygurl]

This video is especially interesting as I have missed a lot of work days in my life due to my depression and anxiety. Particularly I’m prone to fits of tearfulness and have humiliated myself previously if go into work on one of those days because the smallest thing can push me to start sobbing. I used to feel very guilty about doing anything BUT bed rotting on my mental health days since I thought if I was taking a sick day I needed to be laid up in bed. It’s definitely validating to hear that it’s more helpful to gently put yourself back into your routines as I often do. I find that if I try to have a semi-normal day at home I’m more equipped to take the next day head on and go back into my daily life.

[@mono90286]

I do this pretty much every hour that isn't school. It's a bad habit that I need to crack.

[@hopek7033]

Neurodivergent people sometimes need to withdraw and decompress

[@lentilswoo]

I was extremely depressed and burnt out when I dropped out of high school and I bed rotted many days. And I do think it helped me recover and I think actually what you suggest is counter-productive. Being able to regress to a childlike state with zero worries or responsibilities, it cleared my mind and I got in touch with my natural motivation. Overall I didn't have an unhealthy lifestyle, I went out a lot, jogged, did art, got involved in social activities, not as some trite self-care regime but because I really wanted to make something of myself. Those occasional down days, those hibernation days, were invaluable, but they would've been totally useless if I'd always guilted myself about them. I've come to increasingly resent "forcing myself" to do things, it's just the same emotional assault I suffered in high school that made me depressed in the first place. It made me unproductive.

[@GTChris]

In the Netherlands we as long as I can remember had this expression "rotten in bed" which means the same.

[@Kate-vd3hl]

Rottend in bed?

[@portugeese_man_o_war]

As a professional rotter this shit sucks. Its a boring way to live but it is easy as hell. But i only rot cause of habit and I feel depressed or have some kind of negative feeling or something cause I dont wanna deal with it. Ive been doing it since i was a kid. Rotting is called that cause you're dying. It rots not only your body but your soul. I gotta fuckin kick myself out of the house and bike everymorning so I can actually live and face my life. I rot cause i cant ever disappoint myself if i dont set any expectations on myself. So i do the easiest things and turn to my bad habits. (KZbin, gaming, unhealthy food. But mostly youtube. KZbin fuck you you addictive piece of shit) Its good to chill. But its not good to rot. If you wanna chill make sure you arent doing stuff thats detrimental to your body/mind or try to limit it. A little bit of KZbin or junk food isnt the worst (tho be aware of the trap of this shit. Social media and junk foods designed to be addictive so moderating can be very hard. Especially if you're in the state of mind where you just wanna chill/rot, you have a lot less willpower when tired) But anyways just chill in healthy ways like going outside or maybe instead of KZbin watch a movie or read a book. Idfk Im just mad at myself and went on a rant. Ill leave this up tho it could be od value to other people. Sorry for the poor grammar, English is my first language.

[@Aalon-w3y3f]

i can't believe no one on youtube is talking about magnetic aura from Talesio

[@kleinereverie8763]

I'll definitely consider whether I need a day to bed rot. Before, during and after my mum was dying from cancer I never took a day off. It's been two years now since she passed and I still haven't taken a proper break. I think I need time to grieve instead of pushing myself day in day out.

[@aleidius192]

I think there is a healthy cycle of exertion, rest and recovery and if you get stuck in one of those phases then your health will suffer. In addition to the proportion of rest to exertion being important, I think some types of rest are much more healthy and restorative than others. laying in bed consuming short form content for hours is a lot less healthy than taking a long walk and reading book when you get home.

[@becynical000]

I am suffering bed rotting... I don't know how to get out of it

[@Frank-ju8qr]

I think this is a video I had to see this month. I realised I power through on my outside responsibilities (education, work, social stuff) but after that period my only strategy is to nothing in bed while watching videos non-stop (which is not even restful). Last Saturday and Sunday I took my first rest days after 17 days and I did nothing and felt bad, assuming that's just the natural state of things, eventhough the past summer has been my most restful summer in a long time, where I was constantly doing things.This is what I needed to hear. Maybe rest is in maintaining that balance in between the underdoing and overdoing switch between.

[@1sharingbeinglove756]

Sounds like depression.

[@95julius02]

sounds like addiction

[@andyk6192]

bedrotting is self care for me. I have severe ADHD, and also experienced pretty notable neglect as a kid, which I have compensated for that by always doing things, never sitting down, and chronically burning myself out because I never knew how to notice my body’s needs for rest or how my brain worked. An advisor in my social work undergrad literally told me to do nothing one time, and said to not worry about my paper deadlines which she spoke to my instructors about, and that was the first time I really was able to do nothing until I was able to resume my tasks with confidence. I still struggle to prioritize slowing down but the idea of just “rotting” for a bit has been a light hearted and helpful thing for me. If I don’t rot, I will have rotten food in the fridge, overflowing dishes, missed deadlines, etc.

[@niewazneniewazne1890]

Going for a walk is the most important part of my day. It helps to set up the rest of my day into wakefulness(with a nudge of pistachio tea with a bit of honey, absolutely recommend). There is more to ensuring that one doesn't sleep throughout the day. However preserving walking 8kms(a single loop of my local lake across) a day has become one of the most important things in my life.

[@meis7]

this isn't about the topic but your headband is so cute omg

[@CodPatrol]

This is a new thing? Already invented, ain’t nobody got chores and my bed is essentially my bed and my couch. What are you supposed to do outside everyday that’s so important, people don’t call you first and you could probably stay silent for a month without them saying anything, where do you get the motivation from to convince yourself people outside the house are worth the effort

[@AidaKittyBoy]

My biggest issue with bedrotting right now is that I work a 9pm to 6 am job, and on my weekends I tend to try to keep that going. But this means I'm always up at whatever in the morning, in my apartment and not wanting to do anything to make sounds that could bother my neighbors. On top of that, since Covid most overnight places I used to go to just to get out of the house (mostly stores) are closed during my waking hours. Add to that most parks close at sundown and I have a nasty reaction to alcohol, I can't really go to parks or bars. Not to mention the money needed to spend time at any restaurant/bar that I just don't have. I at least try to draw or write occasionally on bedrotting days, but I really don't have much I can do outside or unrelated to a screen.

[@nnebaby_123]

I think there’s a difference between rest and rotting.

[@prorok21]

Apparently putting an avatar that is a hyperextension of a glamorised by social media perfect image of a "average person" is extremely exhausting for most people. Well that's that.

[@cherrycreeper]

Oh Anna... You should be paid for this. Thanks so much!

[@thatsclassicher1149]

And Gen Y. No amount of sleep is fixing the exhaustion. I've had COVID at least once, likely twice, and I wonder if this is the mark it left on me. I am just so tired and weary.

[@juliahcornell]

That definitely sounds like it could be long covid, you should get yourself checked out if you can.

[@Galloway8786]

Even if "bed rotting" isn't being done by a depressed person it is mimicking the actions of a person with severe depression. I don't understand why anybody would mimic the behaviour of someone who is mentally ill and failing to cope.

[@vv0of]

i think it might be because that's what they want to hear. if you grew up with people telling you to work to a seemingly unrealistic extreme that you're fed up with, and one day you're told that it's okay to do nothing, you're likely to take it too far. you're changing one extreme end for another. or, at least, that's what I've seen.

[@Miresgaldir]

I always feel so burnt out, and after work I definitely couch rot... I've been trying to get out of it. Sometimes it works but then I burn myself out in other ways. It's a hard balance

[@MrRatMommy]

8:30 not being responsive, not reaching out 9:40 mental health days - absenteism and presenteism

[@marielux7372]

I take one day each weekend to make it a “relax” day. I take a bubble bath, eat good food, watch movies, read, nap etc. I’m single and no kids, work full time M-F so I’m not neglecting anything important. If I don’t get the rest day, the next week feels stressful as heck

[@nathalyolivares8311]

Thank you, I needed this

[@absolutelycitron1580]

Tysm for all of this free insight. I wish you or someone like you could be my therapist

[@Ari.K99]

Bed rotting is only ever helpful if you are so stressed out that you are getting physical stress symptoms. Spending a day in bed and calling it productive can be good in that way. But only laying in bed is never good for your mind and body. Everyone needs to consider their own health and their own life. Saying something is only bad or only good does not help anyone because we are all so different.

[@gagank478]

Great video. I was interested to see what you were going to say about this. And we actually agree entirely on this matter. Cheers!

[@johnt84]

Appreciate your perspective. 💯🔆

[@hidansektas]

i need to have a rotting day cause if i dont i quite literally get extremely physically exausted. i work as much as i have to. 40 hour work week, gym 3 times a week but i need to bedrot at least a few hours a day and on sunday

[@raelindashoates975]

@@hidansektas a few hours isn’t bad but bed rotting the entire day is outrageouse

[@hidansektas]

@raelindashoates975 if i were jobless id bed rot the entire day but you know , no choice i have to work

[@caitlin8349]

I know that this isn’t what the people on TikTok are talking about, but I just want to make the point that the idea of staying in bed isn’t nice or fun or at all appealing to me because of times in my life I have been bedridden due to ME/CFS.

[@SafetyatHome]

I’m a GenXer and I bedrot for 4 days straight. I don’t have any motivation

[@Mpxyzm2by]

Talk about watching true crime regularly and its effects on the mental health of an individual.

[@Mpxyzm2by]

I used to watch true crime everyday and eventually I had to stop. Controversial topic but I would LOVE to hear your video response to my topic recommendation!

[@Tocinos]

True Crime content 🚩

[@nilavakar8068]

Rotting is a good thing is such a crazy idea, what if our cells began to think like that? Damn...

[@Mystic_Paths]

For some, doing nothing feels regenerative, while for others, it may worsen feelings of depression or stagnation. Cmiiw

[@Jocelynjade]

Me watching this while bed rotting

[@umeshmukhiya2166]

this format really suits me

[@jkk5948]

Calling it bed rotting is just nasty in itself.. Geez...

[@rodrigo100kk]

Ana looks cute using the bandana, really cool style. ^^

[@iloveminiapplepies]

Bedrotting is basically my everyday life for about 5y now cause I'm disabled (and working from home) and I need to say I love it. I mean, being disabled sucks but living in bed is definietly my thing. I do not feel any need for including people in my life, I started to dislike traveling abroad, me being outside was limited to minimum. I'm wondering if maybe some people are simply built like that?

[@judasdubois]

This is why I appreciate being a gamer, everyday I have like 6 different games I have to do a daily in. Wait uhh crap that doesn't sound better...

[@brahmanwithin6623]

Bed rotting is a form of giving up/extreme comfort seeking.

[@curseofcontext]

eyes on the shadow! the mental health day. that's so funny! undangling to relax the earlobes.

[@oksanakaido8437]

If you can keep it to once a week and generally meet your responsibilities and keep your life on track even with the bed rotting, I honestly don't see what the problem is. Then again, I don't subscribe to the idea that "if you CAN be productive, then you MUST be productive".

[@oglatnik]

Am I the only one here who actually finds doing this extremely helpful for myself and my emotional state?

[@CodPatrol]

Your description for the channel says you have a manager to handle emails or advice, how does that even work, how does somebody apply to be a KZbin secretary manager? I have no idea how that conversation would get started to begin with, that’s a pretty niche job

[@mr.irrelevent8956]

Bed rotting days are bad. Self care days where you actually take care of yourself and do restorative activities are good. Sitting in bed all day isn’t a restorative.

[@Maria-gd4vf]

I personally need to bed rot every week, I have been doing it for years now, since I was a teenager. This is just how it is 🙂

[@uwu384]

Nah samee

[@mariahspapaya]

I swear I need one day a week at least where I lay in bed all day

[@oksanakaido8437]

If you can keep it to once a week and generally meet your responsibilities and keep your life on track even with the bed rotting, I honestly don't see what the problem is. Then again, I don't subscribe to the idea that "if you CAN be productive, then you MUST be productive".

[@Maria-gd4vf]

@@oksanakaido8437 same

[@bananbanan6520]

You need to find a purpose and get over it

[@madhatterline]

Not sure if im convinced that 'bed rotting' is any less healthy than the previous generations coping of being workaholic or just generally pushing yourself to burn out. I think if you have nothing particularly pressing & you feel you need a day, then take a day. Then get back on it the next day. Just don't forget to do the other work you need to in life to help yourself, break it down if you need to. And for people who are burning out or breaking down. Absolutely take a day to self sooth & switch off. Apart from that I think it's easy to not consider what it's like to grow up in a world where they are always switched on. Finally, maybe rotting wouldn't be such an issue if access to therapy & support was easier to obtain.

[@DutchessAshley]

I guess im just always chronically stressed and depressed. I usually resort to this for escape.

[@bink865]

I did this when suicidal. It doesn't help you develop courage

[@mondoenterprises6710]

Excellent video btw!

[@petrhorak3268]

I am bed rotting when depressed and don’t have the energy to do anything. I don’t get how it could be seen as a good thing when it is the symptom of my depression. I tried to get up and sadly it doesn’t heal my depression.

[@Glue_Stick98]

18:54 FIT THE FACTS

[@HelloworldWelcometoMylife1]

I can't stop thinking about work sometimes ms so taking time off well not to lay in bed all day long but to relax and have fun it's not like you describe I need it to recharge from work and stress It not total inactivity it a rest priority day but not in a bed

[@x3AnimeFanXD]

4:49 I agree. I'm trying to work towards my childhood dreamjob but I have trust issues in myself and the future due to trauma. If I had a job I would be able to finally find fullfillment but it's also hard to find the right job. I have auADHD so most jobs I started out with didn't last longer than 3 months because they wouldn't make me happy and force me into social situations I can't deal. It's easy to become addicted to electronics and bed rotting when you are unemployed and (job-wise) lost.

[@broidkanymore-zc4lt]

i have to take naps thruout the day cuz i get tired every few hours or so, but my sleep gets fucked cuz of that, wtf do i do? slowly poison myself by masking it with caffeine?

[@DKZshimi]

I mean,..even the term being used is a negative. Wanting to "rot" isn't a good thing at all and I do believe it is more of a cover up for underlying issues.

[@matthewhanson498]

Its definitely in the middle. For me at least.. I cant sleep away chronic illness. and your letting your environment get gross is a sure to have more impacts. However I need rest. Laying down feels good in a way I can hardly describe, I feel a physical burden melt away as I stretch out my legs and embrace warmth. I've had to leave jobs because I couldn't physically keep up with them. the effort and stress would cause a flare up in my gut. I could lose blood and have to spend the day at home in exhaustion. I would much rather have a light work schedule that lets me rest as I need. I love working hard. I love the praise for the effort and size of my paycheck. I cant overcome my physical barriers though..

[@halfmoonjoker1907]

I really like the idea, but I’m terrible at it. Last week I decided my bones hurt and I’m exhausted so I wasn’t going to move all day! I ended up doing a 5 mile run and everything kept hurting. IDK what the solution is but it wasn’t that!