You're NOT A Failure | Julia Kristina

[@lynnscorner6587]

This is another huge tasks for me - I always seems to give up before I finish -not trusting myself to complete the task -looking at others in comparison-but I’m working on it - taking it one step at a time -trusting myself that I can do it -and being okay with my decisions-thanks for the video -I look forward to them every Thursday-thanks you 🙏🏾

[@LOVE_ALL_AROUND]

This is probably my biggest challenge. I am in my mid-fifties and look back on my experiences and see lots of failures. In my earlier years I would push, push, push for what I wanted and it was not good for me. Then the last 20 years of practicing a deep spiritual path I have paid attention to open doors, or so I thought. I just don't trust my judgement anymore, Thank you for sharing your experiences. I don't talk to people like I used to about my private life so I greatly appreciate listening to your challenges/successes.

[@lttlod1]

The Rolling Stones song, "you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need" kept playing in my head throughout this video haha!

[@psycheread3258]

All my life I've felt like a failure. With success I've felt like an imposter. There's always something or someone there to take you down a notch and humble you. Good talk. You're not better or worse off than anyone else, but just starting from a different place. I needed to hear that today, thanks Julia.

[@jafrasar1]

Super valueable. I ‘assumed’ career pursuits were A LOT easier..than they actually were, or easier for others. Have had a consistency problem for, a decade. Finally realized, it is difficult for everyone, have learned life achievements are difficult for everyone. Not everyone shows the training,sometimes thousands of hours, it takes to ‘get somewhere’. I certainly arbitrarily made up my number of how long things should take. Inspiration is truly just the beginning.

[@lisaharding6691]

Totally agree, I will never give up we are all here for a purpose and only got one chance at our lives

[@sidlove5798]

@Psyche Read You are a priceless beautiful soul. When you feel bad, just remember all your accomplishments or blessings. Peace to you and your loved ones.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I know I’m not a failure Julia I do the best I can.

[@hunterdanielserpebecker5586]

I was a member of the Shift Society, one of the best decisions to make a life change and I am living with more happiness. I am in another program to be a digital entrepreneur with multicultural and multilingual creations. This video and the knowledge of the shift society allows me to have mindfulness, learn from my mistakes and growth the foundation. For example, I am a beginner with creations, taking photos of my creations, creating listings, finding keywords, promoting the designs. I am not a failure, I am growing each day. ENROLL IN THE SHIFT SOCIETY!!!! YOU WILL GROW AND HEEL WITH MAKING THE EFFORT

[@NFSMAN50]

Thank you for not looking at me as a failure, i used to think this because im 25, unemployed, in part time grad school, living at home, no relationship etc, but i realize that i'm still very young in society and that i should not compare my life to others, thank you Julia, my friend.

[@sandbar3000]

Wait until you are 46 with an MBA and no.one wants to hire you for a basic clerical job and everyone interviewing you is 32 and look at you as if you are 86...not 46! Jesus. I'm not dead !!

[@sandbar3000]

Living with mommy at 25 is fine I WISH MY MOM WAS alive now! I live ALONE! god I miss my mom. So much. I would hope visit her each weekend. I did not tell her I loved her everyday. Be thankful you live with your mom or dad. Thank them! They will die one day. Maybe 40 yes from now. 30 yrs from now. You don't know. Tell them you love them. 25? That's SO YOUNG.

[@castlemein5765]

I'm the same. I'm 23 years old, graduated from college at 20 and already a licensed civil engineer at 21, but I'm unemployed for nearly 2 years now, covid is a big factor. Living with my parents, everyday just trying to survive. I used to be more optimistic, but ever since the whole anxiety disorder kicked in, everything just feels so sad and dark now. I never thought I'd experience something like this.

[@chrishorbatt3504]

I really liked the example with your family, how you set the first boundary,. I'm in that situation somewhat often, but never said no!

[@kerriae4375]

I struggle because it’s like I have skills to work through some things , then a new challenge arises and Become so overwhelmed, I truly love how you “ break down” the things I learn with DBT .. being the “ SMART skill ..

[@farmgirlre4634]

OMG Julia! This was the Little Kick in the Butt for me. I spent my 3 days off just laying in bed being depressed about how my life as sort of ended up. I choked up on some parts of the video because I do give up to easily when I know if I just keep going I would get through it. For instance, my overcluttered overstuffed house....like my many unfinished projects I have lying around...and many un-started projects that I know that just need to just do it. Thank you! I am downloading this video to keep watching like when I get in this mood of being a failure at everything when I have done so much in my life. Many people call me a very strong and determined woman then when I look at myself I don't see it. I learned to say No awhile back and learned to just be selfish for myself and my daughter and of my time. Again, more videos of this kind! And again, Thank you for the kick in the butt! God Bless you!

[@janekiceniuk1578]

Wow, everything I've said to myself. Trying to pick myself up after several awful yrs. I do need help. Your videos have helped me identify with issues, but I need help getting them straightened out.

[@sidlove5798]

Thank you Ms. Kristina for your words of wisdom. Peace blessings love hugs to the universe. Let's all be nice to ourselves. We are all uniquely strong and beautiful. Keep dreaming.. your desires and goals will be achieved if it is your destiny..never give up or in

[@chrishorbatt3504]

The saying back in the day was "you gotta pay your dues" People today don't want to hear that. Another good video, thanks Julia!

[@ElyJane]

Julia you are such an amazing lady, full of incredible wisdom and teachings💖 Thank You🌈💕🌈

[@allroundabundance]

Great video and reminder that action and patience are key. Really brought to mind the quote 'Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished'. Thanks for sharing :) :)

[@williamblakeanphazethe1st831]

Great vid sister, also the comparative thing is what causes jealousy and envy amongst others. If only people realized their individuality the world would be a better place.

[@terryfinnigan6313]

Thanks Julia always helpful

[@fearitselfpinball8912]

I like your channel. I feel like you have a lot of wisdom - your channel reminds me of the proverb, "Those who walk with the wise grow wise." I like you best when you don't seem too perfect--I like your anecdotes about your own past struggles, challenges, failures even. They make me hopeful.

[@jonhinson5701]

Julia, another excellent video. I especially love it when you speak of boundaries. I have learned that I do not need to explain myself to others. It is so freeing.

[@robertduran3842]

I thank God that you had the resilience to go to school and share that remarkable Beauty from within to teach and inspire...you shine from the essence of heart that radiates and captivates. Love me some Julia wisdom.

[@cdex00]

Hope will always keep you going.

[@carissatregub3778]

You freak me out, chica, in a good way, the best day... ur helping me save my life and I love you very much im holding back so many tears right now I can't believe this was just published right when I needed this!!!

[@carissatregub3778]

I commented too early in the video...omg ... no longer able to hold back the tears 😭

[@fleep9008]

If I did not fail, I would not be where I am at this moment in life. And, I am at peace with "Me".

[@ericaa.2022]

I have been improving my hard skills and my soft skills to achieve a goal. I had my first NO. It was hard, I cried. Sometimes I used to feel that I was not enought. I keep my endeavor and discipline. Thank you. Hi from Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷

[@lesliengo8347]

I think this should be taught in school. I am currently studying for graphic design and creating a simple website takes effort and time. I get irritated when I don't get the results I was seeking. I feel more pressured when there is deadline coming, and along with multiple courses per week it really makes me ponder do I really want to continue. Although there is nothing wrong with failing a course, when one does fail a course they would have to pay extra tuition in order to take the course again, adding more anxiety to students to not fail a course. I am going to put effort in learning and I can always ask for help when I need it, and if I fail a course I am going to remind myself it is all part of the learning process. Thank you again Julia for your amazing content!

[@huffhere]

Thanks Julia! Been dedicating some time in my Trading research to watch your videos, that have offered some fresh perspectives.. Keep on Keeping On! *cheers*

[@axlfox4048]

I failed out of college in 2012 just 3 months from graduation and it destroyed me so bad that for 2 years I honestly believed I was a failure and in that 2 years was diagnosed with a Generalized Anxiety Disorder. It wasn't until 2012 when I basically made it public to the world that I felt like a failure when I entered a fan lyric video photo contest for Skillet for their at that time new song Sick Of It. I entered a photo of me holding a sign that said FAILURE. I eventually became 1 of 91 people chosen worldwide to have their photo featured in the fan lyric music video for Sick Of It on KZbin. My picture was in the very middle of the video and it wasn't until that day that I honestly no longer felt like a failure.

[@rachelpratt6821]

Hi I'm rachel from alberta Canada. Looking forward to watching your videos. ❤

[@Machi74005]

Perhaps I missed it in this lesson; however, if we keep plowing along for a long enough period of time and are still getting little to no results, instead of just keeping on shouldn't we perhaps step back, take the "40,000 ft level view" of the situation, and maybe try to figure out if we are even pursuing something we were never intended to be doing to begin with?

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely. If it's not something you want, don't do it. If it is, don't give up.

[@solidcatink]

Taoism. Going with the flow. If you're not getting results and it's making your life miserable, and the universe is showing you another path, take it. I live my life this way since forever, for right or wrong. Am I successful in life ? Some would say that I am very successful. Others see me as a failure. Some days I feel successful. Other days I feel a failure. But to me, it is more important to live a beautiful life in each moment, and go with the flow.

[@damagedbybrokenpromisewatt7843]

Your voice is so calming

[@TheMk596]

Thanks Julia for the wonderful advice, Your an inspirational and a role model for us all. Keep up the good work. You asked how long are you to take to get the project/jobs done, well my answer is as long as it takes, to get the job done properly. Plus there's no better feeling after completing a project or job properly.

[@amilton1015]

Again another 'great' LESSON. Thank you so much. AUDIO PERFECT ALWAYS.

[@mamabear5488]

Were here again Julia! Thank you💕

[@stoogey1]

I've been working on not thinking I'm a failure for not saving my mom when she died when I was 9 years old. It's been 33 years since she died, and I feel like I've got nowhere. Every night since she's died, I've watched her die in my dreams. I've watched her die over 12,000 times. Every morning I wake up just reminds me of how much I'm a failure.

[@maviyesil649]

I think this weight has been on you for so long. As for a nine year old you should have been supported and explain how life works etc. But do not forget it was never you're fault. You need to face the pain and go through it it's easier said then done but I think it's time to forgive yourself and let you're emotions flow like calm water. Youself need to figure out how you can forgive yourself. Cause in the end you are there for you. It's okay for to get help but don't get attached to that. Take it in your pocket and learn from it I hope I didn't trigger you and I hope it made sense

[@Lauren-gs1eh]

You were just a child. You are not a failure.

[@rebeccacarraway480]

You are innocent. You are worthy of support and peace.

[@Krystolsenergy]

Thanks for being so clear. Subscribed!

[@annetnabbosa3067]

Thank you so much @ Kristina, your uploads help me more so on the topic of "INDECISION " that you made recently it was great for me,surly my life didn't remain the same .

[@rachallearmstrong3638]

I love your videos and I am so thankful that I found them! They help me so much and I just started sharing them with my brother who struggles with OCD. I can't wait to find out how it helps him! Thank you Julia!

[@bobbylincoln7869]

this is great julia i feel much bettert

[@denise331]

I’ve listened to this 3 times a day for the last 3 days

[@captaindan1000]

When they built Rome, they realized it takes a day to imagine the design and a lot more time to actually do it. It also required a lot of workers and resources. That's where the expression very likely came from. This video made me think of that.

[@junesherlock425]

Just how I’m feeling this morning

[@johnykryll]

Such great vids Julia, thank you.

[@calebdennison4546]

I don’t know how long it will take but I know I need to keep pushing myself

[@pamelabarrell3153]

Thank YOU !!!!♥️♥️♥️

[@evanamiart91]

Is it okay if I see your videos everyday as I have autism so everyday for me is 10x more challenging and 100x easily discouraging? I want to be a great artist and get discouraged easily when I see other people's artwork so I have gotten into a habit of watching your videos BEFORE I do art and it helps me do 4-5 hours a day and Im getting better. Would you do a video regarding mental disabilities such as autism to help people like me get through everyday in life? Your videos have helped me, thank you 👍

[@evanamiart91]

64GB

[@ArielRaskin]

Hi :) thank you for your videos . Great stuff and it's a pleasure to listen :)

[@waynehendrix4806]

Thanks for that talk. It reinforced most of my life decisions over time, to avoid anxiety, which went pretty well so far. I'm hearing Dokkens "you got to stick to your guns" in the background.

[@greys7734]

Hi Julia, thank you for this video, it helped me shift my mind. You talked about how you felt bad about not spending time with your family when you made a boundary to not go to the family gathering. My family guilt trips a lot and often say they're "disappointed" if I don't attend gatherings and that I don't spend enough time with them. How did you get past that thought?

[@lize8714]

Hi 🙂 I haven’t checked in for quite a while. this was a really good video, not only for myself, but I’m going to share it with family. thanks Julia 💐

[@Theresiliantnorwegian]

Awesome!

[@terrysheldrick5093]

Love your talks Kristina. This talk resonated with me; like all your talks do. Very 'thought provoking'.Thank you

[@jems1191]

"It takes as long as it takes".

[@garryleach8517]

Thankyou julia so much of what you say resonates with me i set aside time each day to listen to you and i am really enjoying becoming more self aware of my actions it's an exciting time for me at the moment and something that i will continue practicing and improving upon.

[@ToFinallyLive]

Thanks for this Julia this is helpful. There are really a lot of things that's out of our control, but we forget our mindset is something we can be in charge of.

[@evea9811]

Needed to hear this today! Thank you!

[@timothystone7104]

I agree with 40%overall ,usually it's 90% or 100,all I'm saying is there are always more variables to the psychological equation that effect outcome,moods,that's all.

[@paperdollyglitzzy]

This was a great video. I really needed to hear a lot of this. Thank you so much.

[@sistergrimace1567]

Whatever it is- once you make it a habit, you're over the hump. Then you will feel weird for going a day or two without the thing that you've written into your life. Success will come- or not. Enjoy the ride.

[@MariaSantos-gm7ps]

Thank you Julia Kristina

[@dutcheslove975]

Good stuff! Thank you

[@Heiligenbeil]

I needed this badly. Thank you Julia.

[@danachristinebagares8322]

Hi Julia. Im new subscriber. Love your videos

[@lucilephilippe]

You're amazing! You've inspired me to create my KZbin channel, thanks for inspiring us!

[@carloshernandez.9925]

Incredible lesson thanks so much Julia

[@Ragh.B]

BIG one Julia ! this is mirroring my behaviors, Thanx !

[@khyati7733]

This was such a helpful video! Thank you :)

[@lisaharding6691]

Brilliant to hear !!

[@tommycornelis3543]

Thank you for this video. It is what i really need to hear right now! 🙏

[@luvseat1]

i been learning about all this and thank you so much for opening my eyes!

[@Blossomstastymealsandlifestyle]

Thanks Julia! You spoke to me!💕

[@tarasiefring4571]

Hey Julia. Can you tell my what microphone you're using? The audio in this video is great!

[@ellabotha5505]

Thank you! Very helpful 🤗🧡

[@jackiem3740]

Love the Beyonce reference

[@TOLupe-ty6jb]

Hello Julia I'm a very short man who is 40 years old, raised by over controlling parents who have told me what I can and can't do my whole life and I'm sick and tired of it! I have no confidence, no self love, no self worth, and low self esteem please help!

[@pannasnk]

When I should stop fighting after being pushed away so many times? I know after my own experience when I was hurt in past I've pushed away people but inside I really wanted them to stay and not give up on me... people give up on others so freaking fast 😣 I don't wanna be like that but after 4 months I started feel cold and unwanted... 😔

[@CherryBerryFashion]

you know the answer inside. and also no one should be telling you what to do and how to live your life, you have free will

[@timothystone7104]

Any thing and long as it takes.

[@cfjohnson7369]

I can have the dream. Pushing the button ... actually doing what needs to be done to start, that is the problem!

[@ravenhill-the-hospitaller-1968]

i know i'm not a failure, because i've not give up, you are only a failure when you give up.

[@CherryBerryFashion]

you are not a failure if that happens, you just failed. Our achievements are not a direct reflection of our worth as human beings. we are good enough just because

[@jimwalshonline9346]

Sometimes though, you're moving in the wrong direction. Quitting (and changing direction) is often the best thing you can do.

[@mitullala8857]

Subbed & can't wait to watch more 🙏

[@fabianamaria3734]

Great for me

[@davidvitale9338]

In music we call it “the woodshed”. We’d say “go home and woodshed your parts.”

[@AndCamil-il9ro]

What if you put in tons of good work and do all the right things for your proposed projectcand still don’t get a result?

[@leeramsey5988]

How do I get out of my job and get out that mind set of getting out fast food. And to get a better career?.

[@jamiecee4960]

Nope, I'm not. Never will be.

[@CherryBerryFashion]

Julia your mic is so crips, what is the name of it? Would love to buy one for myself

[@yvettemicacastro3792]

Hello I just want to know if you have a podcast?

[@stevecatanio8532]

Hard to focus. Lol.😂❤❤❤

[@gordonr.francisco5130]

Hi Julia - Hello and thanks. How do I sign up for your course? Gordon Francisco

[@calebdennison4546]

I want to be a professional motocross and supercross racer and a champion at both I want to be the best to ever race on a dirt bike and get paid millions doing that and pay off my parents debts and give my family what they need

[@That1PissedOffBoomer]

I'd be happy if I could just go to sleep like a normal person. Not be up until I start thinking the most insane of thoughts.

[@SamSung-pn6il]

This topic is not for me. I am a mature accomplished person and I know success doesn't come overnight. I recently started a relationship with a person and after 4 weeks, I know it is not getting anywhere. I figured out that after the 1st week and stayed on to give it a chance. I am walking away from it. Yes, it takes a long time to see results and if you can figure out ahead of time, you can walk away and start something new.

[@davidlleras7198]

Hii I'm new

[@unconversantcallowincandes1540]

Critiquing and criticizing are 2 different things, one is constructive (critique) one is diminishing and belittling (criticize). A projection of one's self is what's going on in the inside as a demand and a reflection is where you are in your life as a representation. Self doubt doesn't actually exist unless you may or may not have been narcissistically abused or challenged, this is a form or triangulating and cohorsive control based on external sources being or wanting to be driving factors as primaries. You don't know you can do something unless you've been told and or punished for committing "wrong" to inflict the harm of doubt. Rusty, non shifter, getting on the list soon, hi, I have to remind myself: love, my sweet lovely, ok kid, slow down and take it easy, then I'm like what's easy, I thought this was easy..oops, slow down. Learning that there is a tempo and timing in life and speed. Like a metronome keeping pace, the consistency in stability is where I tend to want to thrive, continuity in community, and agreement in safety and reassurance.

[@marciamitchell5188]

So much to say I am 40 I need results now But....

[@philnichols4281]

When to and why to use 🙈🙉🙊🐵

[@Nekotaku_TV]

Yes I am. You don't know me or my life. If you say nobody is then the word has no meaning and that's simply not true.

[@NewStarInStarWorld]

Nu name is H. A. I am happy with your video's

[@kolacao8134]

These advices are not for hikikomoris/NEET

[@mr.schmuck5785]

👍👍

[@davidstewart2761]

Why are all your videos in black and white?