The Dating Crisis: How To Not Die Alone

[@leonjhendrix]

Tried something different this time, learning as I go with this new format. Let me know what you think so we can make it better together!

[@nekemli2622]

Why shouldn't women make the first move? Men want to be approached too.

[@Tarunuknowbitch]

Sir keep it up! absolutely love it...♥♥

[@SOrionOgun]

Hey I thought you left youtube

[@robbintran4542]

Loved this topic!! It was interesting to watch. I personally enjoy this format. One thing I’d like to see is you crying… 💘

[@wyvard3435]

I'm so glad you're back. Personally, I think the lighting in your room could be improved (Your room is a bit "too" dark for a motivational channel). Hope this help!

[@brentsmith5604]

The real crisis is just how attractive dying alone starts to look.

[@GalaxieMarauder]

Doubt it. I suspect that loneliness will bring out a whole bunch of unknown mental health issues in elderly people. More women but not solely women

[@meowmix1569]

@@GalaxieMarauder you missed the joke.

[@patrickc8007]

Loneliness and lack of sex is what basicly quietly kills you.

[@herbayum76]

I just cant stand people talking when i am dying

[@kingrobthegreat7446]

amen

[@sethdecamp4919]

Let me tell you from experience- you can be by yourself and alone and at peace. You can be married and incredibly lonely in that marriage and that is WAY WORSE.

[@robertmaybeth3434]

...oh but what you mentioned is not even the worst of the worst arrangement either - there are so many situations worse than lonely! Somebody that spends their life driving you bonkers and blaming their life on you - now that's worse, FAR worse!

[@PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho]

And the man has to pay for it

[@dirtywordme]

Hear here

[@gregorylatta8159]

Facts.

[@Johnyrocket70]

I look for busy career women to busy to date. They make good friends with benefits. Use these busy women, bring out their inner sluttyness. Protect your seed that's rule no 1

[@iamkAIden]

Oh I’m definitely dying alone I’ve accepted that. But doesn’t mean I can’t still live a full life. I will keep hitting the gym, keep increasing my earning potential, travel the world, enjoy hobbies and join clubs, etc.

[@yeahyeah410]

Best of luck to your happiness

[@Kingkillwatts]

Hell yeah! Hoping to see you happy in life as well

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

#PassportBros

[@Johnyrocket70]

Don't let the internet demonize everything and make you give up. There's millions of busy working women to busy to datenthat make great friends with benefits.I've had multiple FWB at the same time. They come & go and there's plenty to choose from.

[@yeahyeah410]

​@@Johnyrocket70 I'm the opposite for monogamy and less body count better but each to their own I suppose

[@user-fk8tr5ev8q]

I used to think pandering to people would help them like me, turns out I was only teaching them not to respect me. One has to know their worth to respect themselves, that comes from the willingness to lose anyone and everyone. Once you're willing to let anyone and anything go, nothing can hurt you.

[@Doberman_6773]

I have 3 simple rules for not being a doormat - 1. Assume that a human interaction involves some degree of manipulation (the majority do); 2. Assume that a human relationship is transactional (the majority are); 3. Assume that people are looking for a 'good deal' (most benefit for least cost), and *DO NOT* let that come at your expense. I have 2 guidelines to help ensure I am not on the wrong side of this rule - A. If your side of the transaction is quantifiable (for example, "I spent _x_ amount of my time to save you _y_ amount of your money"), make sure you are getting something quantifiable in return. B. If your side of the transaction is not part of your daily routine, the same should be true for the other side of the transaction. These 2 guidelines are more for pattern recognition than things to be applied at the micro level. As a recovering people-pleaser myself, I find these rules and guidelines helpful to avoid slipping back.

[@Doberman_6773]

An object (or person) that is too useful, just gets used. I previously left a longer reply but I think the channel moderator is hiding it (the same comment has stayed up on other channels, which leads me to believe it's not a YT thing); let's see if this stays visible...

[@alaalfa8839]

Or as people are too busy to collect material things, thye also have less time to nurture the relationships. Maybe we need to practice minimalsm, and healthy lifestyle, like going to nature for a walk with people etc.

[@katiez688]

Being married doesn’t stop one from dying alone. The vast majority of the time one spouse dies before the other.

[@jazun33]

We will all die alone. Unless we're in a plane crash.

[@GalaxieMarauder]

So you are the dense one today huh?

[@jcransome5616]

Yah. Ok Go cry to your 9999 DMs

[@ragepig1059]

@@GalaxieMarauder so you're one of those sxless statistics huh

[@meowmix1569]

you missed the point. it's about living alone. most people are going to live the majority of their lives with a pet if their lucky

[@emomuzz5883]

In the game called "you can't win", the only strategy is to refuse to play.

[@andrewlukashchuk885]

I want to express my deep gratitude to the author of this video for his excellent work. 1. It's nice to know that people are noticing these problems and are slowly but surely starting to try to solve them. 2. Despite the fact that many facts were known, it’s still nice to hear that you’re not the only one who thinks so (to be honest, I myself got depressed and it’s hard to force myself to go on a date in our world 3. However, this video opened a new perspective on what is happening in a good way and that's why big respect to the author! (Now I have more motivation to go out more and get a normal and healthy experience in dating the opposite sex :) )

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

Very good to hear 😊

[@thepreseason]

28:14: “actually go on dates with people”… Ury makes it sound so easy. Im literally just trying to get a text back over here. Chris’s tinder swiping examples earlier in the video show the struggle of even getting a date to begin with

[@brianmeen2158]

Don’t use dating apps.. seriously, I don’t know why guys insist on using dating apps - they should cold approach so the woman can feel more of his actual presence

[@joept333]

I get messages back from numerous matches but the problem is their expectations are so high such as my height, my job, my income, my assets. Its never a conversation about what she can do to support me to be better to be a great family. Maybe it's time to travel to Africa brother. I was on a humanitarian job in South Africa. In a million years I never thought I would marry a black woman but she was very persistent, she would wait for me everyday, made food for me because she thought I'd be hungry and those things showed me she really cared about me. Now we're together and it was the best decision ever. She supports and cheers me up even on my bad days and I do the same.

[@martinb9415]

Guys believe me f dating apps. I tried it for years and had very little success. If u approach women in real life u will have more success and most important u improve ur skills and confident very fast!! Ik its hard especially in the beginning but believe me it gets easier with every time. And most women are happy to be approached even if they reject u. BTW most women are nice people that don't want anything bad for u :). Ofc u have to be carefull and look from women to women if she is good for u or not but most don't want u anything bad!

[@insomniacresurrected1000]

@@brianmeen2158If you are not using dating apps, you seriously reduce your reach. Where do you expect to meet women? 😂 At work?

[@SubvertTheState]

​@@insomniacresurrected1000 Actually yes. That's about it though. And you can't listen to the words these purple pilled guys use because they are typically successful and have the same experience of dating that they always have. Red Pill isn't about cheating on women. They say that so that they don't have to hold women accountable. Normal guys in the west can't hold women accountable. So they need an equation. Modern feminism is femal supremacy, I want it all queen culture. Red Pill is almost 2 decades of sociology, evolutionary psychology and medicine developed into a thesis on dating in the modern West. You seriously cannot call that "hating women" or the "feminism for men" That's what successful, blue pilled woman fans say because they don't experience the evil, delusional, psychotic nature of women today. THEY are the ones who get all of the best from women, and have no idea that the fact that they were on "Love Island" makes them a Chad.

[@Kaybee29523]

i used to absorb alot of red pill advice back when i was a teenager abnd that led me to finding the fresh and fit podcast. now i am grateful for that time of my life but it was also starting to get depressing. one thing i realised from my past experience with dating is that i have never ever dated chicks like the ones invited in these podcasts. i always had a way of identifying them and steering clear but i just never realised it all this pent-up anger and bitterness towards girls id never date was toxic .

[@GalaxieMarauder]

Thats because they record in Miami and that's what you get in Miami Shallow vapid money hungry women

[@PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho]

That attitude is in most women. Get to know the nice girls and when they get used to you it will come out.

[@GalaxieMarauder]

As a teenager you never made enough money to date them

[@knightmer3645]

@@GalaxieMarauder You are a troll, I see your 2nd comment here and for sure it's funny but you're trolling hard xD

[@GalaxieMarauder]

@@knightmer3645 its the truth. A teen and a young man hav two different income levels so they perceive women differently

[@JohnSmith-ps7hf]

People die alone everyday. The worst is dying alone, broke, and homeless. My career, wealth, and freedom are more important than those used holes.

[@KikiLachowski]

You don't care about my used holes? Heartbreaking

[@janick01ify]

It's a good point. there is no good woman anymore. My brother is a good catch in every way, I watched him get excited about this total ho on this dating app. I thought, what's the point. This society is gross I blame contraception.

[@wlgt3257]

Things look grim frens, but have faith in yourself and who you are. I have been married for near 20 years and things are not easy on this front either. I don't demand things, but if you do not stand up for yourself, your interests, in any relationship, you end up with less. Of course there is a push and pull in any relationship, but finding a parter and keeping a partner takes work, commitment and compromise. Appreciate yourself and your partner, come to a union together, not one sided, for you or her.

[@togotfury]

A few years ago I went to petco like I do every week. I see a pretty girl in the reptile section looking at the bearded dragons. It's rare to meet a woman who likes reptiles and I have a bearded dragon so I thought why no at least try to talk to her. I approached, smiled, and said "excuse me." She looked at me, scowled, and said "I have mace." I will never approach a woman ever again

[@ladyfish22]

Coward!

[@marciebaker9816]

Oh come on, don't let one bad egg sour the lifetime of experience

[@ChickFenwick]

Lulz. That was funny. Be less sensitive. Move on to the next

[@togotfury]

@@marciebaker9816 my lifetime of experience includes giving an origami flower to a deaf girl in highschool on valentines day because i thought she looked lonely. she invited me to a school dance and when i went to pick her up, she and some friends pelted me with raw eggs and took a photo of me to pass around school. i tried to kill myself that night. women have always treated me horribly

[@mishkathlay]

@@togotfurythat’s literally the evilest display of disgusting humanity I’ve ever heard.

[@dudedude949]

Everyone will die alone. Plain and simple. Sorry not sorry. Embrace the solitude.

[@tiroles]

Nope.

[@bundyted-nw6eo]

Facts. Life IS crap and suck, except for women.

[@juuppi]

I was just listening to a piece with lyrics like: "I sometimes miss the touch of your hands, I always knew you won't care about a rascal like me".

[@mahdireichenbach9222]

Man! i really like you. the way you pick topics and talk about them and all things you highlight on them is incredible.

[@christopherhayes5238]

I have to admit that, because of all the friendzonings, I have gone MGTOW for the time being. I want to meet a woman, get married, and have children, but I'm done with actively pursuing women. I'm done with the friendzone. For whatever reason, either I'm invisible to women OR they friendzone me. I don't know if women only see me as a friend OR if they are "politely" rejecting me OR both, but I'm done with wasting my time and energy pursuing women only to be friendzoned yet again. Lets face the facts, when a woman friendzones/rejects a guy, she is, for all intents and purposes, telling him that she doesn't him as the father of her children, nor his DNA in her offspring. But I don't sequester myself, and I come into my university's campus and its library almost everyday, so if I happen to meet someone and something arises, then great, al-hamdulilah, but I'm done with actively pursuing women. God wills what He wills.

[@christopherhayes5238]

As for Tate, supposedly he converted/reverted to Islam about a year ago or so. But for him to be a Muslim, he'd have to do almost a full 180 degree change in most of his opinions and his lifestyle, and I have not seen that in him. But, as a Western convert/revert to Islam myself (since December 1990), al-hamdulilah, I realize that it takes a lot of time and energy to completely re-orient oneself from a secular Western mindset and lifestyle TO a religious Islamic mindset and lifestyle, so I need to give him the time to do so.

[@TylerEngland-bb3tb]

Well if your going to convert to islam dont expect western women to live that ass backwards lifestyle. Your only going to be able to marry muslim women so have a good time with that !

[@sarah.moh22]

i love the vedio so much, im an arabic speaker and i find it so much relatable to my arabic cluture as well. i find in my arabic culture what most men are trying to find in a girl is" respect". theother thing is, the clibs you added in your vedio made me feel i watched a lot of vedios in one single vedio! i couldn't feel so much engaged ! Cheers from Suadi Arabia!

[@jhonnythefox7903]

I though that you guys have plenty of wifes for each man😅

[@sarah.moh22]

@@jhonnythefox7903 In Islam it is acceptable for a man to get married to more than one wife in some cases like if the first wife can't get pregnant for example Here maybe a man can get married to another one to have kids. Maybe another type of men would just get more than one wife for no reasons. And I know a lot in my community they just have one wife. we just can't judge. But in Islam it is acceptable, if the man can treat every one of his wives fairly and in certain reasons for doing so.

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

@35:00 Leon, women, scholarly women, over the centuries have, in fact, studied what men want but it seems that discovering the simplicity of what men want is what lead to the defensive posturing of women. Not one singular human on this planet has needs that are that simple. (Side note: this is not a stab at you in anyway because I very much appreciate your vlog and want to see more like it but I just want to engage in a constructive and open dialogue about my response to it. I hope you or anyone that reads this isn’t offended by my input here) Actually, I and many of my peers were taught that what men want is simple: someone who is “sweet, encouraging, caring and who wants a hero or who wants to be protected and saved” But very few women, who check all the boxes for being ideal physically and have tried to redesign their personalities in order to give men what men *really and truly* believe they want have ever felt fulfilled. TBH, ‘sweet, caring, encouraging, etc’ is far too vague. It seems counterintuitive that men should speak for all or most men since men are human and just as complex as the rest of us. And therefore, men giving advice to women about what men want is part of the problem. There are fundamental differences in our biology that separate us be we have the same, very complex brain in our skulls that is responsible for very intricate, nuanced and complex processes that define each of our moods, our wants, our needs and is ever changing as we age. No man is that simple. Women trying to live up to the simplicity of men has created such extreme feminists which in turn creates even more extreme misogynists (for lack of a better word). It also creates a culture of no accountability for men because they don’t have complicated feelings and experiences to unpack or express since their needs and requirements are simple, yet vague. Every one should focus on what they, as an individual, wants and let every man speak for themselves.

[@minabotieso6944]

The internet dating stuff is very vague and unhelpful because it always talks about all men and all women in general but everyone is in different situations so it’s hard to find advice that works for you. That said you can totally make decently accurate generalizations of what men want that apply to most men. The point of what he was saying about that is that women today don’t care what men want which is kind of true and creates problems

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

@@minabotieso6944 I don’t know if women in general don’t care what men want. I have never encountered one women in my life time who has not cared what men want so I’m not sure how accurate that statement is. I do know that men often have unrealistic expectations of women and tend to minimize their own complexity by trying to convince women that their needs are super simple. However, when men and women get into relationships they usually discover that both of them have a ton of unresolved traumas, possibly different kinds undiagnosed mental issues, and a long list of complicated human issues. Which ultimately affects their mood and behavior on a day to day basis. These normal human fluctuations can be confusing if you’ve convinced someone that all you need is x and when they try their best to provide the “x” you said you needed, they don’t/can’t received it well because of some complicated internal experience that they’re going through that they haven’t learned how to express. And the same goes for women. So what I mean to say is, men nor women can speak on behalf of their entire gender or most of their gender. Our individual experiences and needs are so variable in real time that we’d be silly and irresponsible to try and convince any one that our needs are simple. Which is what well-meaning men, especially, are trying to convince women of on behalf their entire sex. However needing something like total transparency about one’s thoughts and feelings is more valid. Needing someone to be curious and attentive is more valid. Understanding that anger, insecurity, some level of criticisms, vulnerability, intellectual engagement and stimulation from each other, mood swings, etc is something that should be understood as unavoidable in relationship building. And a man nor a woman should be expected to suppress the multi dimensionality of their internal experience and suffer in silence in order to accommodate the other. There are feminists and just women in general, who are not part of any movement, who understand this. But I don’t hear any men elaborating on their understanding that women are not simply delicate, obedient, loving, sweet creatures who should understand that if they are too opinionated, it could be naggy, or annoying or problematic.

[@shahrzadmoadeli]

You're right, I as a woman too need to ask to question of "what do men want" and study. There's been so much focus on women in business and career, which is totally fine, but that's not what attracts men. I'd love to hear more about this topic from a man's perspective; what do men need and want. Great video!

[@Scottie93]

Problem is no one cares what men want. The beautiful women they every man truly wants only care about what they want and so they only go for certain types of men and get used. Then they complain “where are all the good men at?” While refusing to change their standards

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

The Three Dating Tendencies by Logan Yuri: 1. *Romanticizers*: unrealistic expectations of relationships being easy and effortless and any trouble means the partner is not the soulmate 2. *Maximizers*: unrealistic search for the absolute best partner, often engaging in extensive comparison and evaluation before committing. They may have high standards and constantly seek reassurance that they’ve made the right choice. Watching for the “Frankenstein Version of a partner” 3. *Hesitaters*: unrealistic expectations of themselves: “I need to accomplish x before I am ready for love”. Often held back by doubts or fears about getting hurt or making the wrong choice, leading them to proceed with caution and sometimes hesitancy. I’ve created a fourth dating tendency because they DO, in fact, exist: 4: *Balancers*: individuals with realistic and human expectations of themselves and others and value communication, mutual respect, and collaboration to create fulfilling partnerships.

[@HackersSun]

4 is me, because I swipe right on everyone as a girl, but I can't find anyone that is clicks with me and its tiring over a couple days if I swipe left its because I feel that the conversation would be a bit... pointless... my ex just happen to be 6' 3" high class accent british dork, very frumpy appearance, on disability but he neeeever touched a dating app and he was chronically online in rp gaming circles by his photos I knew what type of person he was, and dumping all of the men on my profile gives me decision fatigue

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

@@HackersSun are you saying you’re a floor because you give everyone a fair opportunity?

[@MrHDProd]

Dating is not hard. Woman just want Chad and Tyrone. That’s it 💯

[@LilReezy_1437]

This.

[@leontaecoleman3644]

Exactly they want the perfect man.they don’t want no guy that’s under 6,0 tall.they don’t want no 5,9 or 5,10 man.they want rich men.famous men.any man that works a regular is invisible.

[@jutsu1]

Yes, women don't want the nice guys.

[@_WOR]

I really don’t like when Mexican, Indian or black people try to date our girls.

[@breaknfiction21]

@@jutsu1being nice is not anything exemplary. Most people are nice. It’s literally the bare minimum for human interaction.

[@stark1836]

Thank you. These conversations give so many different perspectives and are all relevant. Well done

[@LionBrine]

Just when I needed this the most. Leon I am sorry for failing your DRVN challenge as well. Really been struggling, hoping to become great again

[@panizzutti]

Loved this video! As a 19 yo on a self improvement journey this helped me a lot

[@nekemli2622]

31:15 Society never fails to remove women's responsibility: blaming men for not approaching them, rather than encouraging women to approach men

[@nekemli2622]

32:20 the question for men is "how to approach women" but the question for women is "how to make men approach me". Men have to do and women have to do nothing. Men need to actually approach and women? They need to.. make eye contact

[@alf3071]

bro even if u approach them they make no effort or reciprocation so what's the point anymore

[@lukaskettner3597]

Your game is bad or you have little value or you suck at displaying your value

[@lukaskettner3597]

Yes and that is good. A man is as good as the value he provides. Taking action is displaying value and approaching a man is very high risk for a woman since he either has so much more value than she has that he is not interested(has better options) or he actually has much lower value and his inaction is an indicator for that.

[@nekemli2622]

@@lukaskettner3597 An attractive man gets chased by women, not the other way around. Also "approaching a man is very high risk for a woman since he either has so much more value than she has that he is not interested" that is completely untrue. Most of the time it's way more risky for the man since the man is the one always getting rejected, not the other way around. "Taking action is displaying value" And women display value by inaction, being lazy and not approaching men, sure.

[@Pandering_equalsmoney]

Nice video. I get your points. I would say a lot of guys just busy. Going out today is outrageously expensive and in general we expected to foot the bill. So I just go to work, go to gym, on weekends I take on my hobbies (cooking currently). Upgrading my house, which is also costly. There are barely any low cost, high coed interaction areas. In the gym, I tend to zone out and focus on the weights.

[@HackersSun]

I'd say the lack of interesting 3rd spaces is to blame too :P

[@Ironhime]

Chris Williamson absolutely nailed it with his 1st point

[@nathanrysnan960]

Oh im gonna die alone

[@Zonalar]

You can do it, Nathan. Times change, people change, you can change. Dating may be difficult, but that is exactly why you have to make it a conscious effort to participate in social settings and talk to people you don't know, like talking to a friend to a friend who brought a female buddy.

[@nathanrysnan960]

@@Zonalar naieve bullshit

[@brianmeen2158]

You are patching yourself out. Most guys I know are average looking with average jobs yet most have gfs or are married.. seriously, I know very few guys that are truly incapable of finding a girl that finds him attractive. You must be pro-active though!

[@insomniacresurrected1000]

How is that a problem?

[@insomniacresurrected1000]

@@brianmeen2158 Maybe that is your friend group prescribed to you by your girlfriend or wife. Many blokes, me included don't want this shit.

[@alejandropalma6856]

20 mins into the video so far: thank you for covering this topic, it's just necessary... Btw, I really like this format.

[@sid5201]

Why is it bad to be alone? I think it is a blessing.

[@Doberman_6773]

Without a family to support, most men are minimalists. This is bad for the economy.

[@GearZNet]

​@@Doberman_6773 There is also a critical mass issue with lonely unattached men. Men who are not moored to a society tend to make a society unstable. Tens of millions of un-moored fighting aged men is a disaster waiting to happen.

[@Doberman_6773]

@@GearZNet While that is historically true, I'm not convinced that it still is, in part due to the 'male sedation' that Chad Williamson* mentioned at one point in the video. Currently, the overall trend among these men seems to be LDAR (Lie Down and Rot). To me, this indicates that the economic concerns are more immediate, whereas what you mention is more in the realm of 'future possibility'. These men would also require some form of charismatic leadership, and the Establishment is aware of this. * - the first person I heard talking about male sedation was Rollo Tomassi; I think people understand the truth of this, but gynocentrism simply won't allow the idea that "One of those Red Pill guys" might have anything useful to contribute. Also, yes - Chris Williamson is a Chad. For him, these problems are unrelatable.

[@robertmaybeth3434]

@@Doberman_6773 Yep, my bad lol. Men need so little you'd think corps would be doing more to encourage couples and kids. The kind of things I buy as a single man are mostly fast and convenience foods, car products and computer and video games. A far cry from mini-vans and college scholarships etc. as the true masters of us, the corporations, have surely noticed by now.

[@roykliffen9674]

@@Doberman_6773 Bad for the economy? How? Women have become strong and independent. They can do anything a man can do, and in high heels to boot. Fifty percent of the population - men - have build this society; let women have a go at maintaining it and let men step aside and give them every opportunity. Not doing so would be misogynistic. I'm doing my part already.

[@ashaaib]

Incels has been saying this for years but no one was listening

[@bundyted-nw6eo]

Facts

[@tesos_]

I love this new format Leon! welcome back

[@fernandomoralesyt]

Love this “laid back” style, love you bro.

[@vannhantran547]

i fall into the category: false expectations about myself. For instance: i want to date after i get a good job or after i build a new house for my parents

[@DeadCat-42]

Yeah I didn't really try till I was successful with a house. Then gave up at 30 and I was only attracting obese women I had no interest in.

[@melvin6228]

When you approach more than 10K people that you find attractive and constantly want to improve yourself, then there's no problem. Perhaps easier said than done - I've done it and it wasn't easy. But it is that simple. The first 2 years that I did this, I was always rejected. It was rough, but I had no better use of my time and kept on learning. It worked out, happily married atm 15 years later :)

[@yurigansmith]

It's not that bad at all. Women are sharing their inner universe like they've never done before in history, and they're doing it all over the place, putting it on display for the whole world to see (which rarely happens in a face-to-face conversation). The ordinary ick list is the epitome of a rapidly expanding global consciousness, a giant leap towards a deeper understanding of the true inner workings of the female psyche. We should all be grateful for having the opportunity to exist in such an exciting era.

[@HackersSun]

its more about being careful to pick the right one, imagine if you had EVERY average girl with sweatpants matching with you, and the fact there's soooo many guys to sort through its ... tiring....

[@khayon4364]

As a practicing Tibetan Buddhist - the "do0n't have kids, don't let them be born!" makes me chuckle. Sadly in our faith/worldview that isn't how that works! On a different note I agree with how you addressed the issues with this kind of "independence culture" that is going on to an extent that is truly not sustainable.

[@FrostedSeagull]

I was taught by a Tibetan Spiritual Master. As you would know, the core of Tibetan Buddhism as well Christiic Gnosis is Annihilation of the Ego. In the West, they worship the Ego, especially Lust and Greed which they delude themselves is Love and High Value. It is the Ego's ( and there are thousands of them) headed by the 7 Deadly Sins that has led to this current social catastrophe.

[@khayon4364]

@@FrostedSeagull That is a great point. I very much agree with you on that.

[@Geektaard]

I have accepted that I might be alone without a partner and that’s okey.. I’m sick of the dating culture and it’s not worth my peace. I will focus on living my life with travels, work achievements, experiences etc. And if I meet someone naturally through that life, then I’ll welcome it with open arms ☺️

[@unkopower7899]

animals, at least dogs when they die, like to go off and die alone. I think I understand the feeling. I don't think I'd mind dying alone.

[@goodplant2486]

I like your observations. There is really a big dating gap nowadays. Nowadays, I see guys dating guys, girls dating girls rather than the normal relationships of a guy and a girl. The social media drew the picture of perfection in every girl and boy. Even the short story turned into short movies advertised daily on FB/KZbin, always showing a character married to a secret billionaire. For sure it influences more people.

[@fionafidela]

I didn't expect this video to be hilarious, but it is. Every second has a value, it's kind of overwhelming, but it's true. I only jumped into this dating pool recently and most of men's expectations are unrealistic, it got me thinking if they even socialized at all or met women ever.

[@RiderZer0]

My biggest problem honestly is exposure. I live in a small town, the options are very limited, but also my group of friends has completely dissolved, almost all of them moved out of state, and the few that remained are married with kids and spend 90% of their time at home. So I just buried myself in work and my hobbies to keep myself from falling into deep depression. I need a lot more exposure. Just really hard to get.

[@laladeyarmin8553]

These conversations seem to be geared toward people that have already lived through their youth wildness and are now reeling from how much risk they subjected themselves to snd now they want their innocence back. Evolution got these freedoms. Now we can appreciate the opportunities we can find in mating and friendships. ALL LIFE IS SUFFERING EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY

[@AkshatDAlly]

Personally loved the knowledge, but here's what I think- - Reduction in both frequency and length of clips from other sources (podcasts) would be better, because switching from people to people, personality to personality roughens up the experience a bit. Also I felt a constant wait for you to take the stage back whenever any clip stayed for a bit too long. - The parts where you had the face cam improved the feel a lot. - A little need for music to keep the flow going. - yep, that's pretty much it. Really Happy for the experimenting you're doing, you'll find the right spot soon.

[@leonjhendrix]

Feedback heard! Thanks you have no idea how much I appreciate it!

[@ecoconatus8089]

Love the transition to podcast and love your style. Different point of views, balanced view

[@julianaroh5509]

I am completely celibate because it scary to look at the world and how People act very shallow and hyper stimulated..I wish relationships were as meaningful as before the 90s. Without much stimuli (internet porn,Instagram,social media)people were forced to build substantial relationships.

[@saulothebebop2581]

Ironic how social media is slowly killing society....

[@Anonimo_Veneziano_13]

The occidental society is fucked . This is an elite plan for slaughter the society.

[@themoon69420]

I'm perfectly fine with dying alone. The only people I would want around are already dead. Every other relationship I've had in my 38 years of existence, romantic or otherwise, has turned out to be artificial. Friends I knew for most of my life and thought of like family were never my friend to begin with. I'd much rather die alone than surround myself with more fake people who pretend to give a shit.

[@brendanobern5535]

Dropping alternatives? Setting realistic expectations? Gasp! Are you suggesting that we GROW UP??? I'm floored.

[@laurenpaer252]

Chris makes some great points. Though one he often misses is men often don’t want a woman smarter than them or who makes more money. It’s not just a preference for women but for men too. Men who make less are more likely to cheat on their spouse. So it’s more complicated than he’s making it out.

[@brianmeen2158]

Of course it’s more complicated. Many women seem to think that it’s the fact that they make more money than The guy is what’s the problem but it isn’t always. Women that make more money than the guy(for whatever reason) tend to be less feminine and less sexy. My neighbor is a great example - she puts all her effort into her career and this leaves her little time to go to the gym and stay in shape and be in a feminine frame. Guys want attraction, feminine and friendly and many women seem to overvalue their career and that it will Impress a guy. It doesn’t. Many guys will date a woman with no job if she is cute and feminine. So again the messaging between the sexes is getting crossed

[@brianmeen2158]

As far as men not wanting smarter women - it really depends how she holds herself and how the large the disparity is. Now if she constantly tries to challenge the guy to prove how smart she is then of course no man wants this as we compete with other men all day long! That said, the intelligent women I’ve met seem to lack in other areas like femininity or social skills. Then when these women fail to attract men they immediately think “oh he’s intimidated by my intelligence or my career” but that’s rarely the main problem. So basically yes Chris is simplifying things lol

[@VoxWodler]

I'm am here in NYC. I approach women day and night, I have for years. At parties, on the subway, street, ect. I am also on the apps. I have had some points of success but overall it's been a complete failure. My sticking point is money. I am not rich and I hesitate to spend. I believe that women overwhelmingly want rich men who spend on them.

[@kevinwilson3337]

They want rich good looking men who they are genuinely attracted to. They care about looks too

[@VoxWodler]

@@kevinwilson3337 yup

[@lurkerOfStorm1349]

We’re cooked folks 🫡

[@sleepysleepy9913]

Just being around women more often is a huge benefit like huge

[@ArkansasBassMan]

The thing I hate about the 'dating' podcasts is that its .0001% about dating and nearly none of the people are even wanting to date. Its just an emotional shitfest like a modern Springer or Maury.

[@juliusmulius8335]

Erster! Du machst echt richtig geilen content. Schön das du deiner Art und Weise treu bleibst

[@goldenmanuever1176]

Its extremely challenging to find someone who isn't drunk or high half the time, have half their body covered in useless tattoos, and a credit score above 530.

[@DeadCat-42]

Around here he women are mostly obese tattooed single moms. I wanted a wife and children, none of them would make a good parent.

[@kjell2991]

Hey Leon, this was my favorite video after the purpose one from you ever :) grüße aus Hamburg

[@starfox300]

Very calm and balanced approach, nice one Leon

[@zaynyt3420]

There are super feminine woman and those are the ones who make the men drop their guard way faster. But the problem is they want the strongest men out there internally (Hypergamy in a nutshell) but at the same time emotionally available. Which are two contradictory aspects because a man is only strong in the eyes of a woman when he's not attached.

[@davesmith1682]

Wow, less people are grounded today. And porn messes up expectations for a real spouse. Yes get married and have a family. Nothing like it! Also remember to grow together.

[@A_W2016_love]

Everyone’s looking for unrealistic traits in each other, very difficult now a days. As someone who has a husband just saying we seem to be together flaws and all and accept people are not perfect.

[@ozzycortes]

The way dating is now, I rather die alone. It’s not worth it anymore.

[@dying_wolf]

I liked it before finishing the video, because of the video topic.

[@unreactive]

It's always exciting when people I've been following for a long time end up crossing paths!

[@robertobravo6834]

A real man loves himself so much that he doesn't need the love of anyone else.

[@lebonhost1266]

Leave your useless statement for you. This is the defeated man statement.

[@intentionalmovementcorp]

We are made for human connection, it’s not necessary to be so independent. Our society tries to be toxically independent. We are supposed to be a community!

[@robertobravo6834]

@@intentionalmovementcorp Hens and sheeps are also communities.

[@jacob_mickel]

Dude, great video. Highly enjoyed watching, very insightful and eye-opening.

[@megapet777]

10:05 imagine some gigachad takes this as his to do list.

[@Adam_Banks]

I’m 100% a hesitater. Like I decided I’m going to lose weight and get in better shape (maybe 20lbs) before I start dating. I am now down 120lbs telling myself I’m not going to until I’m 190lbs lean at 12-15% body fat AND when I get promoted at work/make more money lol it feels like it never stops 🤣 27:23

[@Adam_Banks]

I did get cheated on a belittled really bad in my marriage (I’m a divorced single dad) so some of it may be a defense mechanism like be in such good shape the next one can’t criticize my weight or call me ugly, make so much money the next one can’t call me broke, etc. I feel like if I jump back into the dating pool as-is I’m just setting myself up for failure. That’s just me tho lol

[@scottm2553]

I was afraid to interact with women because I didn't want to offend them until my early thirties because of people like this 14:05

[@alexbogush]

Your search will benefit from doing interviews with married people who don’t put themselves on social media, don’t portray as relationship experts, and just have good families. You probably won’t find those on social media. The only way is to look around.

[@JadesFitnessBucketList]

Gosh its so scary how many of these clips feel like its men v woman, when its not a 0 sum game. Men and woman need each other, no wonder people feel so hopeless when trying to date. Also I feel the indecisiveness of human interactions and paradox of choice are something dating apps (which are predominantly how people are dating now) capitalise on to keep people on the apps and spread them too thinly amongst many banal text conversations with lots of people which make it feel so tedious, almost like another load of work emails to reply to.

[@jasonreviews]

IRL dates are not fun either if you even get them.

[@JadesFitnessBucketList]

@@jasonreviews perhaps try doing things you would do anyway so it doesn’t feel like a waste of time if it doesn’t work out. For example I love fitness so as a date I used to go do a fitness class or even do some pull-ups and calisthenics in the parks for free with them. Doesn’t have to be expensive and then there’s no pressure you just hang out

[@minabotieso6944]

But we have to admit this is not a both sides thing. In mainstream society we do not talk about men’s issues with empathy. Being zero sum at men’s expense is acceptable. We talk about women’s issues with empathy every single day. Indecisiveness and paradox of choice or choice paralysis in dating apps are issues that almost entirely specific to women (example of how we don’t care about men’s issues) men face other issues like no choices

[@minabotieso6944]

@@JadesFitnessBucketListI have tried something similar but you can’t do a bunch of dates using your hobby and it will ruin the hobby to have it tied to a bunch of inevitable failed dates, and they might not like your hobby and that’s ok, that’s why I stopped doing it. You probably have more to your personality and life than just working out. Have empathy for men that getting dates is super hard

[@JadesFitnessBucketList]

@@minabotieso6944 of course I have empathy the hobby suggestion was just an idea. It’s merely an entry point to sharing an experience with your date and getting to know one another. Like everyone else I consider myself multifaceted with various passions and interests. With regards to the choices option I appreciate men and woman have different issues. For many men it’s the feeling of having no choice like you mentioned, and perhaps feeling invisible where as for women it’s the opposite like getting unsolicited attention. I once heard a saying that goes ‘women choose who they date, and men choose who they marry’ Make of that what you will. I agree that up until recently men’s issues were not dealt with with the same empathy as women’s, but I am seeing a positive shift. All we can do is share our experiences hoping that talking about these issues can open a gateway to possible solutions to these modern day dating problems.

[@desengineers]

ok, really enjoying the format AND the content, man I am glued even though I have work to do

[@bumblebee_ms]

I'm so proud of the men in the comments who care about dating a good woman. Hugs to you all xo.

[@sweetpnme3342]

Just an observation that may be worth considering: The folks (men and women) who have the time and money to actually consult "relationship experts" do not reflect the dynamic of the general population (90-95% of the hetero/cisgender stratum). Respectfully, I think featured experts are missing the proverbial elephant in the room...The economic devastation of vulture capitalism/technofeudalism that currently plagues the Western world (and has existed elsewhere in some form everywhere else). As a gross over-simplification/simple point-Contemporary conditions MANDATE that men AND women MUST work..at LEAST full-time to just SURVIVE. We cannot AFFORD to buy homes, let alone properly care for children-Most especially in the US. We can no longer afford decent health care or have the ability to care for our aging parents, let alone afford memberships to clubs and activities where we can meet potential partners who share interests in common. And the political ideologies inspiring the likes of "influencers" peddling misogyny and "man-haters" simultaneously -are simply exploiting (for economic gain) the division promoted by religious and political leaders to retain power-by distracting us with the BS that keeps us blaming eachother-instead of the corrosive legal and monetary policies that are the REAL problem -That THEY CREATED, and rob us of livable wages (and by extension..deprive us of the time needed to cultivate relationships and tend to the myriad issues, essential to a high quality of life...and the social safety infrastructure to support the propagation of more humans. Just sayin'

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

Does any body else wish that there were some word pops ups whenever a name dropped or a really important theme was being discussed? Something discreet but definitely some word visuals. Anyone? By the way, *Leon*, thank you. A video that wasn’t hyper focused on what one gender was doing wrong was much needed. As a 36yo woman in a very solid 15y relationship, I’ve been ignorant to the dating crisis until videos like yours started popping up in my feed 3 days ago. so I started consuming but mostly of men dumping on/blaming women and women dumping on/blaming men. My husband and I met in our early twenties, young, ignorant and damaged. Which means we’re both entering adulthood with quite a lot of trauma & maladaptive conditioning from childhood so we were toxic to each other. Confused af because we didn’t know how to compromise properly. We didn’t understand how complicated the human brain is and how much influence our traumas had on us. But we decided to let go of all the stereotypes - cultural, religious, good/bad, right/wrong, etc - and just explore what we thought and felt organically. And then we explored those thoughts and feelings together and tried to unpack them. Year after year we got better at understanding how to unpack them. And currently, we are still unpacking *(such is the complexity of the constantly evolving human identity)* but we’ve got the right tools now and our wants and needs blend so seamlessly together that neither of us ever feel like we’re compromising any parts of ourselves to coexist with each other. That took about decade’s worth of work. As it should. What it means to be a human is serious business and getting to know and understand another human takes a lot of time. But going back to the dating crisis, ofc centuries worth of toxic masculinity and gender inequality plays an *ENORMOUS* part in women putting them guard up and, as it seems to me, some of them putting their guard up to the extreme, which means that if men are not individually taking responsibility for detoxifying themself from the traumatic conditioning of toxic masculinity and gender inequality, we may not see real progress. However, both men and women need to focus on healing together rather than pushing each other away.

[@leonjhendrix]

Appreciate the feedback NoWa!

[@minabotieso6944]

We are facing drastically different issues today than we did centuries ago. It’s not rational or relevant. Patriarchy is a system that benefited both men and women but obviously men more in previous eras but not today. Women today still Expecting the man to initiate, pay for everything and be emotional less + strong is patriarchal Modern men have not contributed to the issues faced by women in previous eras. Most men have no money or power. There’s nothing for men to take responsibility for. Most American men in their 20s are single. Many never in a relationship before. What did they do to women?

[@minabotieso6944]

Women are putting their guard up because in the past men had a great economic and social advantage to women which made men more appealing to women who could not secure themselves economically and socially on their own. Now in most Americans cities, gen z women make more money than gen z men. Way more women go to college. Women today have really upgraded their economic and social standing and now there are fewer men who are appealing to them. Women want a man who makes more money and is better than them in a lot of ways. A man is not going to worth it to be in a relationship with him if he doesn’t have that. I wish it wasn’t so but gender equality ruins relationships in a reality where women still want a man who makes more money.

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

@@minabotieso6944 generational trauma is totally relevant. The institutions that were put in place that silenced so many women for so long because of what went on for centuries is totally relevant. The kind of recognition that women are finally getting today was an uphill battle and is only very recent due to the centuries long battle. Most women today who are in a state of recovery all had/have different generations of women in their families who were impacted negatively by the toxic behaviors of men that have been normalized as behaviors that are intrinsic to men. Most women today have been sexually abused when they were children by some male person because of centuries worth of men learning how to sexualize women rather than empathize with heir humanity. Generational is relevant and felt on a psychological level and worse when the well-meaning men who are participating in the conversation are still asking women to be unproblematic and sweet. Women should definitely not have such unrealistically limiting expectations of men either but men have been imposing these expectations on the world for so long that i don’t know if Millenials will be able to recover from mindfuck of it and do better. It may take one more generation of humans really chasing self and emotional awareness to have more productive conversations.

[@nonFluencerNoWa]

@@minabotieso6944 Men are experiencing what they are experiencing today because women are rebelling against the Patriarchal expectations that, it seems as if, all men support - actively or in their complacency - since there aren’t public male voices denouncing the unrealistic expectations men seem to have about women. So there is much for men to take responsibility for. Introspection, reflection, de-conditioning, healing from toxic masculinity, developing empathy for women. But I completely agree with you that the subset of radicalized feminists who have experienced the Patriarchy many ways in their lifetime and witness it happen to generations of women in the families, outside of their families, in the media are attempting to recover from a very generational trauma that is so embedded into our psychologies at this point. Their sense of surviving has been so distorted that they are now expressing themselves just as toxically as most men did and are still doing. Which, on a psychological level, to some degree, is understandable because there aren’t any men out there proclaiming that their limiting expectations of women’s behavior needs to change. So, for the most part, we’re all under the impression that men are not really doing any real work emotionally and intellectually to internalize the reality that we are all complicated, intellectual, emotional human beings and it is harmful to inner growth and development to suppress our complicated internal experiences in service of another. We should all be able to express our thoughts and feelings without being seen as too opinionated, nagging, annoying, not encouraging enough, etc, etc.

[@Austrasie2.0]

Great one!! This is a very interesting topic with an insightful perspective and reflection. I would just add that this video focuses on occidental men/women relationships, as it's vastly different across cultures. Already a bit of that dynamic within our own different cultures in europe, it becomes even more pronounced in places outside of occident. For example Asia where women are often more proactive, although it can sometimes be because you're not asian only (from my experience lol). Thank you for your research provides us with plenty to delve into on our end as always. I wasn't familiar with Alison Armstrong's work, but I'm already looking into it! Thanks for your work man it's always so good :)

[@IFitTX]

Great video Leon. The dating landscape is…interesting these days

[@GENERALMGR]

You can have someone at your bedside, holding your hand, but when it comes time to cross the line into the void, you go solo. EVERYONE DIES ALONE.

[@souljarohill8795]

It is absolutely tough. I’m an African American man. Dreads for hair. Into tech and just moved to a new state for work. I’m alone of course as my family and freinds are in my home town. Went to the store today just to get stuff and the social anxiety i had was through the roof. I feel like if I talked to someone they might think im creepy or something like that. Felt like eyes were on me the whole time which ik is just in my head and not true. In reality im new to the area and just trying to find a community of freinds, maybe a date, all the regular stuff. I feel like everything in this video and maybe my lil story is somewhat similar to how everyone feels. Everyone just feels like their being judged, not good enough, and overall just don’t want to be that person that everyone talks bad about.

[@siteking4289]

19:53 »Could there be better male role models out there?« Totally agreed.

[@minabotieso6944]

Focusing on needing roles models is very cliche and shows how the culture has fallen apart. Previous cultures without mass media didn’t have celebrities to look up to. It’s wrong and won’t work because male role models are by definition considered problematic

[@lilyonyoutube2991]

Sadia Khan explanation in this video makes so F sense. Exactly 💯

[@devinneubert]

Great video Leon, I like the way you adapt your content. Keep going, you are an inspiration! (greets from germany)

[@courseair1363]

The problem with dating is that its for short term relationships, hook ups and one night stands. If you want marriage or long term relationships you pick poeple who you know personally or your family knows and can viuch for them.

[@daisyh8481]

Have lots of sex. But don’t have kids, there is a lot of suffering. Not finding a life partner is one of the reasons too. Life is difficult

[@watchdog6619]

Also thanks, for stating how it really is, instead of red pilling your audience. 👌👍

[@annaso6544]

My own experience is that I pay for looking at all my potential matches and then feeling overwhelmed and doing nothing because I dream of getting in to a very charming and nice, respectful conversation with someone in real life 😂 that would be perfect because I can immediately say if I’m into him or not 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@simonsaysenjoy]

Omg two of my favorite people on the internet. Loved it!

[@kieranramtohal9645]

“50% of marriages end in divorce, so does that mean you shouldn’t get married?” Yes it does, mate.

[@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226]

YUP. It is precisely WOMEN, who have turned against us men and turned marriage into a rigged game and fleecing bonanza of men. Probably because that's what many of them have secretly wanted to do in the first place ever since and now they have been "liberated" TO DO JUST THAT. It's not even funny anymore how downright stupid most women are after all, because otherwise they'd recognize that they are completely pricing themselves out of the competition. The proof is in the pudding: If women were intelligent, they'd been seeing that coming for years and decades. But the fault is with us MEN. Because we allowed this to fly, we didn't punish women for this reckless behaviour. It's on US. And it will not change, unless WE men change. That is the truth.

[@Doberman_6773]

In a world where 97% of alimony was being paid by women, no one would be asking this question.

[@NorSS23]

Very good platform and very many good points. But certain things I don't agree with. Would love to have deeper discussion about it but for now - Good luck with this good content. 👍

[@theghostoftoby1779]

It’s over for society. We need a great reset to bring everything back to how it used to be. Ww3 , the apocalypse or something along those lines will do the trick.

[@johnny.561]

A third world war or apocalypse won't help, it will just do harm than help. if you're looking for a "great reset", unplug the cable for social media and have the world revert back to times where there wasn't social networks.

[@Anonimo_Veneziano_13]

I think what u said is correct. Sadly.

[@CountDownToSerenity]

no one will know, if anyone they say will die alone, online, will die alone because you wont be there.

[@hunkmad]

brother , You're doing a great job . Keep up the good work.

[@karltheheretik]

Leon, you got that "guilty pleasure" look on your face when the @whatever clips came up, lol! I'm with you, brother.

[@RFE-jl6lo]

Leon : "That's your entire life , that's your 20s" Are you being serious?

[@sushantdubey01]

Great video! one quick advice - Please increase the light on your face like chris.

[@TwoPowersCZE]

Been here for 21 years and I cannot find anyone

[@skyking6989]

Ya I don't think so. At 37 I simply don't have it in me anymore. The headaches, drama and bs isn't worth it just for a little kewche

[@flashpeter91]

but don't just rely on your online dating profile, polish your social skills, conquer your fear and approach in daily life. it's freeing and a much better choice than living under the discriminating rule of a match algorithm

[@herodotus6235]

It’s very simple. If you are looking for a partner and you are a man, don’t ever use Tinder. I have been married for five years. I did not meet my wife on Tinder. The hard truth is, women need to not have too many choices in order to embark on a serious relationship.

[@Kevfactor]

These people are just trying to sell you a book. "Hang out with your female friends.That'll fix ya." Way out of touch there, lol. Most people in this situation don't have friends