Life Hacks for Trans Guys

[@lvcienes]

When I feel dysphoria because of my school uniform (girls need to wear skirts) I would just look in the mirror and say "MAN, CHILL NOT EVERYONE GET THE CHANCE TO CROSSDRESS!" It made me slightly happy most of the times. :')

[@draalttom844]

Why do you go there? Most of the true girls I know can't wear skirts

[@skin_jeggings9420]

Me too. I am AFAB and the dysphoria hits HARD.

[@skin_jeggings9420]

LemonDrink123 private school

[@skin_jeggings9420]

LemonDrink123 me neither

[@h.5361]

@Please ask for my Pronouns not all private schools have a uniform tho

[@allowmetointervene]

"UNICORN SLIPPERS CAUSE MY FEET ARE COLD." okay i love you

[@theboxygenie]

Thank you, I couldn't hear him properly.

[@Pretty-Boy-Spencer]

Something I do when I get misgendered and/or have to wear feminine clothes is just thinking 'damn I'm so good at drag people think I'm a girl'

[@gabbycox74]

Lol u go buddy

[@ayyydn]

Omg I love this, thank u!!! 💕

[@Colegandara5873]

My mom made me wear a dress and I just had long leg hair it worked and my mom is yet to ask me again

[@オラオラオラ]

I pretend I’m just such a pretty boy people think I’m a girl lol, it helps.

[@BubblegumKoi]

Better than crippling dysphoria!

[@jayjaythejetplane5390]

I got an ad on this video for menstrual underwear and it said "for menstruating humans" at the end and I got so excited

[@Kira.Kitsune]

That sounds really funny, yet it is such a simple solution for gendered advertising! ^-^

[@isaacs8783]

What company is that I want to buy the hell out of their products

[@abby520]

i got that one too!

[@alexandernichols6414]

Jay Jay the Jet Plane I got the same ad

[@thomasjackson6295]

He actually made a video trying them (:

[@eliasklein9311]

If you wear v-necks and your binder is visible it usually looks just like an undershirt, so don't be too stressed about that in my opinion^^

[@thomasmorris9990]

tyyyy

[@weirdogirl1275]

I’m on the non-binary spectrum and I sometimes wear my binder under my one piece jumpsuit, and the suit has spaghetti straps with a v-neck, so when I wear it like that, it just feels very stylish, like I’m a stylish enby. Also, I bought some new summer stuff recently, including a red bikini top, a pair of men’s swim trunks with a striped sunset color scheme on it, and a short sleeve summery yellow button up shirt. I layered it all together and looked in the mirror today, and…..wow. That was the first time I ever thought I looked hot. EVER. It made me soooo happy! I'm a happy enby ready for summer! 😁😁😁

[@graysonrogers-barnes6302]

@@weirdogirl1275 That sounds like such a vibe.

[@lukath7]

super late to this but wanted to say that color depends a lot too, a skin-tone one may be more noticeable than a white or black one which can more easily pass as an undershirt

[@17carat]

i bind, i have a masc haircut, i wear masc clothes, and i still get misgendered by every single person i meet. totally love life

[@nori9590]

try training your voice to speak lower & tell people "um, I'm a guy" if they get it wrong

[@FormigaFit]

anthony grassi do youwear tightt shirts, have a Bieber or hipster cut, you wear tightt jeans and converse low tops?

[@ScumFreezebag]

Well you are a magnificent man :) ignore silly people who can't grasp your gender x

[@Dariraine]

Get a shirt & write "don't misgender me, IM A GUY"

[@lemonboy7994]

anthony grassi saaammme, yesterday this lady was all like "excuse me sir" and i got rrly excited but then she went "oh sorry, i mean ma'am" and all my hopes and dreams were crushed right then and there

[@zutters7244]

I’m gonna really need this. I’m a trans male in the very beginning of my transition as my parents are homophobic and transphobic. You’re my inspiration and I love your videos

[@jonnadiaz2942]

Suicidal_Muffin

[@Sephalgie]

Do what's best for you! You are perfect! ❤️

[@anonymoususer3179]

Suicidal_Muffin good luck with your transition!!

[@conmanjammin]

I feel you

[@christopherl.8615]

Im in the exact same situation legitimately. And I've learned how to pass better with the help of jamies videos!

[@atomicundeadz]

Trying to figure out if your trans is like- Me: I'm trans Me: wait no I'm not Me again: no no I experience dystopia Me again again: but what if I'm not tho and I come out then I realise that I'm not Me: *watches countless ftm timeline videos

[@sorbetsalut7933]

"dystopia"? That's one way of describing GD lol

[@therealsouljaboy1858]

Oml meee. It sucks! 🥺

[@atomicundeadz]

@@sorbetsalut7933 I didn't even realise I spelt dysphoria wrong till now I-

[@sationalsen]

I'm going through the same thing. This comment was posted eight months ago, so... any improvement? Are things clearer for you now? I'd like to know what to do, help-

[@atomicundeadz]

@@sationalsen tbh im still in the endless loop of am I- arn't I, I've been kinda of pushing it down and not really thinking about it (which you shouldn't do aha) . My advise though, if you are going through something similar that is , too get a gender counselor (admittedly this might be hard considering the current state of everything atm) . Also possibly just take it one step at a time, talk to your friends about it maybe even a relative (I understand though if you don't feel you can). Honestly theres no timer on these things its gunna be confusing for a while but eventually everything will turn out alright. 👍🏻 i wish you best of luck 😁

[@originofsymmetry8987]

I just have a one big problem, *Changing Rooms and Toilets*

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

OriginOfSymmetry I only have one problem, PEOPLE. Chaning rooms or toilets aren't the problem, it's always people.

[@mtteo99]

same, I always hurry up as much as I can and try to go in when no one else is there. If you pass at least a little you could give a try to the toilets that you prefer

[@anonymoususer3179]

OriginOfSymmetry same

[@owenpridgen4406]

DieAlteistwiederda I feel the same way the first time I used the Men’s bathroom I was out of it from taking meds to help me relax for a MRI lol I barely remember much lol . I didn’t use the men’s room till now all the time . Once people call you the right pronouns u know u pass then u can use what bathroom u are needing to use . If u are FTM I would use a STP even if u use astall no one will know are trans if u stand to pee lol . Sitting it sounds different lol u can get a cheap STP for 50.00 that is a packer too . In the locker room u can go to a stall to change .

[@reubenbryant]

I can cope with the toilets but changing rooms is a big problem. I do a lot of sport and travel all over, some places only have gendered changing rooms which is a problem when I’m pre everything.

[@shylilkid5767]

"Get in touch with lgbt centers in your area" Me: *lives in a very homophobic and transphobic area* *is in the closet* *has transphobic family* "Ha...ha... If only"

[@Cedarwoodbiome]

i guess find an online group thing - i guess -w-“”

[@virgil8429]

Online ones work :]

[@lord7thss3xslave40]

SAME 💀

[@jamesh.8344]

I can painfully relate😵

[@milathewitch9310]

OMG sameeee!!! I live in a very homophobic country

[@alicaradec8545]

Jamie: “watching KZbin videos can really help. Hello!” Me: *shy wave* :3

[@finnthetrashyvirus3080]

my parents might be getting me my first real binder for Christmas!!!

[@christophervishy8273]

Finn The Trashy Virus, I'm so happy for you!

[@goliath1961]

Congrats

[@owo1357]

Nice

[@DaddyBlueJay3207]

Finn The Trashy Virus congrats!

[@partly_disconnected]

Me too:D Good luck to you

[@Alex-ch4vz]

For me it really helps wearing baggy, black t-shirts with print when I can't achieve flatness. They hide all shapes very well

[@asparaguslord6790]

Alex Quottrup Pullover sweatshirts that are a size too big are also amazing!

[@bellamcmillan4465]

I wear over sized hoodies and baggy shirts 👍 go team

[@martinsenior2458]

I've told my parents that I'm trans but they won't let me do anything that forwards my transition They let me cut my hair but it took a very long time to convince them I really want to be read as male but my parents won't even let me buy a binder or even tell me off for wearing two or more sports bras My dysporia is really bad because of it

[@DaddyBlueJay3207]

Morgan Exists on my gosh, I relate with you so much. My situation is the same as yours. It gets better, don't worry. I support you. Dont give up hope

[@ryangarza9864]

Morgan Exists yea same my parents won't use male pronounce nor my preferred name

[@FormigaFit]

Morgan Exists do it secretly like I did.

[@jayson8753]

My parents are the same but kinda worse. My parents can buy me all the men's clothes in the world but they refuse to call me by my preferred name or cut my hair.

[@vincentcole5706]

same man

[@bryntendo]

I definitely find black, dark grey, or bold colours like green or red to work best for binding. Even if the skin colour ones match your skin perfectly (which is unlikely), there's still the fact that the fabric is a different texture and sheen than human skin, so they will never be invisible. If you've got a black/grey/red/whatever full tank, it just looks like you're wearing a singlet (undershirt/tank top/whatever it's called where you're from) under your clothes - Which helps with the inevitable lines they leave as well. Hide it in plain sight =D

[@bryntendo]

Waffle _ Yeah I get what you mean, but in my experience the skin colour ones are way more noticeable. I work in a pretty hypermasculine field and am cis passing, it's always awkward when people notice the straps or top of the chest hem under my uniform when it's a skin tone one; but no one thinks twice when it's black or grey. I wear full tanks so it doesn't look like I'm wearing a sports bra, even under t-shirts or business shirts. Nude colours will still be noticeable and leave lines, but at least if it's a full tank it won't look like a bra. Grey or white works fine too, just skin colours make it obvious it's 'not supposed to be seen'. You can still see them, white blends better under white shirts than nude colours, and in general t-shirts + binders aren't the greatest mix. Maybe a dark shirt, white is unfortunately a bad option if you want to hide a binder.

[@jetlamengioi2343]

I'm not trans, but I'm watching this anyway because it's cool, Jamie is cool

[@jetlamengioi2343]

Videoteca de OLi definitely!

[@mmaantj]

Jet Lamengioi army

[@ianb7599]

Agreed

[@bamboocafe9413]

*clears throat* KIM NAMJOON, KIM SEOKJIN, MIN YOONGI, JUNG HOESEOK, KIM TEAHYUNG, YOUR PROFILE PIC IS JUNG JEONKOOK!!!!!

[@icy733]

@@bamboocafe9413 oof you forgot 'PARK JIMIN'😅

[@kalmorgan1383]

To all: Trying to get hormones on the NHS is disgustingly slow. The GIC believes it’s fine, because most people get the relief from simply coming out not the hormones. IF you cannot wait 2 years for hormones on the NHS (yes, it likely takes that long if not longer), I recommend getting the ball rolling with a private clinic and setting up a shared care agreement with your GP so that you can have the injections administered locally and at no cost. I instigated that NHS GIC referral in August 2016, had the initial appointment in June 2017 (they had a cancellation) and the second appointment is Feb 2018! Be warned, you will need to divulge how you know you’re trans, stories from your childhood and your teens over and over and over and over. BUT, hang in there.

[@Doglover-gh9ut]

Kal Morgan do u know if u have to be 18 to go private? I'm almost 16 and my parents are supportive so they could sign whatever forms there are. But I'm not sure if I have to be 18

[@zwmr1771]

i’m just commenting to see what u say to dog lover 12

[@jonahbeard2806]

I had my referral to GIC June 2016 and I am currently still awaiting my first appointment; they said it will be sometimes in 2018! I am currently looking at potentially starting a shared care agreement because the wait is killing me.

[@cousarn]

Doglover12 ik it's a late reply but you can start hormones from 16 with parental consent at private clinics!

[@sebthelombax6733]

@@Doglover-gh9ut this is super late but GenderGP allows you to start hormones under 18 with parental consent

[@asherstrickling2467]

I call my period my man period or man-stration.. lol

[@anonymoususer3179]

Asher Strickling I call mine my Meriod

[@asherstrickling2467]

SmolBean Vlogs thats beautiful

[@kromeriffic978]

I like saying "I've fallen to the communists," IT Crowd-style

[@pancakelord83]

I call it Metal Week because c'mon, pissing blood for 4-5 days straight is fUCKING METAL

[@rianmarquand5508]

Shark week is a favorite of mine

[@morganelliott6165]

For getting T in the US, Planned Parenthood has expanded their HRT services to more locations in the past few months. I don't think it's offered at every clinic, but the chances that there's one in your area are much better now. They use the informed consent model, so as long as you understand the risks and your bloodwork comes out ok, there aren't any hoops to jump through. For me it was 2 weeks from making the first appointment to doing my first shot. They also will do sliding fee scale if you need it or don't have insurance or whatever.

[@foolsupright8512]

Morgan Elliott I’m not sure about Planned Parenthood, bc I went somewhere else, but I legit started the day of my appointment at my clinic, so they’re definitely streamlining things as much as possible

[@lolerionark186]

+Morgan Elliott In Canada, you have to be 16 to take T so I still have 26 months to wait to even get HRT rolling.

[@SuperSilli15]

I wish I lived in literally any other state, West Virginia has nothing

[@noewriter6235]

@@SuperSilli15 I KNOW I LIVE IN WV AND THERES NOTHING FOR HRT

[@Loveyou-vw6ps]

Is there an age limit to start T in the US?

[@nonyabeezwax7049]

My closeted ftm self: gets yelled at for walking with the girls The teacher: Why are you smiling? Me: no reason

[@soulful_soda]

Nonya Beezwax yoooo I had that happen to me to once when I started to transition and it made me so happy about myself

[@galaxychill9578]

why is your teacher yelling at you for walking with people?

[@goldendoqqs7685]

@@galaxychill9578 teacher's afraid of cooties obvs

[@orbitkittii]

the ad: even on *HER* period, *SHE* can me: also me: *clicks Jamies videos to recover from 15 seconds of pain*

[@LilToya_111]

Ikr :') I relate a lot

[@RoundSeal]

Binding is so insanely frustrating for me, I know the 'better' way to put them on is to pull them up but I also have really wide hips, way wider than my shoulders. FML as a chubby trans person uughghhgh Thank you for this! You brought up a lot of small things that I never really thought of myself. I'd like to personally vouch for menstrual cups being the Best Thing Ever if you're fine with them - I can't ever go back to disposable stuff. And THANK YOU for mentioning the needles, I am absolutely terrified of them and that is something I was _massively_ worried about.

[@alexanderrosen4610]

Selkie there r ones that open side ways, hook to close up just like bra...

[@pywlwywry]

To me, I feel the easiest way to wear it, is to make sure my skin is completely dry, and I wear it slightly rolled up, and pull it over my head. Aft it’s reaches a level that’s...on top of my chest, I roll it back down!

[@alexanderrosen4610]

I remember stuck halfway in the bathroom in the beginning.... I always go head first, and it will become a mess that all rolled together. Then I search for the bottom part of the binder (require certain level flexibility of course), pull the side out bit by bit, in the end you basically pull the binder out. Save as taking it out, I rolled it bit by bit. Once I get my head out, it just fall off.

[@kitdaniel9186]

tbh Ive got a hell of a lot more flexible and stronger just from putting on and taking off a binder daily

[@scouttyra]

Same here! Although I don't tend to really get stuck with the over the head method (possibly because I have had a tendency to wear sports bras that maybe was a bit too tight in order to manage dysphoria both before and after realising that that's what it was)

[@superfanboyalert2229]

where i live, teens (maybe adults too, not certain) are required to have a physical before the rest of the steps to going on T, and my mom got me an appointment for a physical on the 4th of december and i'm sooo excitedddd 'v'

[@michaelmcavoy3637]

Super Fanboy Alert physicals are horrible :/

[@maxonmesser985]

I wore my binder for fifteen hours today and it started to hurt so I took it off asap and I think I’m okay now. Just take a break whenever you need too

[@casperbryan9614]

Maxon Messer you shouldn't wear a binder for more than 8 hours a day. Please stay safe. 😀

[@somekindofperson9766]

Oof. I made mine myself and the way Ik I'm definitely dysphoric is, that I've been wearing it non stop for six days now. It doesn't hurt. I mean non stop. I sleep in it and try not to shower because I hate it. I'm filthy but I can't get myself to undress on my own and even less when there's people around. FML

[@kazemizu6284]

@@somekindofperson9766 hey dude, I totally get what you feel like, but PLEASE take a break. Even if you don't feel it, a binder can deform your ribs and will make top surgery either ridiculously difficult or in bad cases impossible. ESPECIALLY with self-made ones. For showering, I suggest showering in the dark, so you don't have to see your body, and making it a race (i.e. how fast can I possibly shower) because you'll think about something else. Take care dude and stay safe!

[@beanvillus]

@@somekindofperson9766 You could try and wear a baggy t-shirt or something when showering so you don't have to look at your body. It will impede showering a bit, but at least you don't see yoursef, if that makes you feel bad. And please, take it off while you sleep. It's so important. It's just that, a binder squeezes your chest together, and it's a little bit harder to breathe in it than without, that's why it is so important to take it off after 8 hours. If you sleep in it, you could (in the worst case) pass out from a lack of oxygen and now one would notice. You could really hurt yourself. I know it's hard, but please, take care of your body. You do no one a favour if you don't. Things are going to get better. Lots of love ❤️

[@ardenchaplin349]

I watch a lot of trans guy videos for someone who isn't a trans guy

[@cand1boy]

Angel Chaplin So i am not only one? Great. 😊

[@delgrant9696]

Oh yeah same!

[@axdonat]

That's how it started for me, haha. Now I have a trans flag embroidered on my bag and call myself a dude.

[@Raih570]

Same here

[@Jamie-lj8eq]

Saaaaammmeee

[@sophie-vd6xj]

I'm from Germany and I love your videos Thank you Every time I see you, I know I'm not alone, so I do not give up

[@Jammidodger]

Thank you :) You're definitely not alone!

[@eviesharp17]

I'm really glad you made this video because I needed advice like this but also I have a burning question: WHERE IS YOUR JUMPER FROM??

[@Jammidodger]

It's from Primark! :D

[@williamhistoria]

Jammidodger are they in a small size? Its a hella cool jumper

[@Jana-qm7og]

I'm not sure wether I am trans yet or not but I really love watching your videos. You are calming to listen to, really sweet and informative. You and Shaaba are amazing together, too, and I love your couple videos to death! Thank you for making videos! 💕

[@therealpostmortem]

Quiet Ky Hey there! It’s been a little while. Did you find out yet? How’s it going?

[@squeaktheswan2007]

I've been questioning too! It's not easy to find this stuff out, but if there are any tips you have, could you post them?

[@TheTattyWolf]

Is it weird that I like to call my period "my time of the month" because i can trick my brain into relating the pain to being being a werewolf rather than a born female? Not a furry or anything I'm just a massive fan of werewolves and it helps these days that my brain is still very imaginative. Edit: currently laughing at the "not a furry or anything" yeah na you were in denial my dude 😂 -a year later

[@spitedrowning]

omg yessss

[@ZijnShayatanica]

That's how I framed it even before I realized I was some flavour of trans!! It not only makes me feel less dysphoric, but also makes it somewhat easier to deal with that entire frustrating ordeal.

[@bigmanthomas]

I call mine “early death” Edit: period = Early death

[@thatperson8741]

wait...is it not a werewolf thing? people who menstruate have a monthly ritual to pray to almighty blood gods.

[@igobyross8045]

I call it “shark week.” Still awesome

[@kaseyvanwert633]

I call it Blood of Angry Men week. Les mis anyone?

[@hommasse]

Holy shit, me too! I also call it “Pulling a Schoolboy.”

[@alexanderhamilton6249]

I call it Stay Alive 😂😂

[@catarinafrazao9643]

That's a great way of thinking about it. (I'm FtM, but I'm not out on this school related account)

[@hawkins8665]

YESSSS!!!

[@ThatBlond2.0]

Is this the music theatre section of this video? If the answer is yes I'm finally satisfied

[@shuffle2220]

Me: I’m gonna be more masculine Also me: *screams “puppy” in a high pitched voice*

[@NexusAkayuki]

What would you do when you actually like having long hair? I feel like most trans guys feel the pressure to whack all their hair off to somehow prove that they are "trans enough". What if you like long hair?! ....It will inevitably make you look less passing. What do you do in that kinda situation? -a genderfluid person actually struggling with the same shit

[@dannyphantom9878]

Nexus Akayuki I guess it's still the same, tell the people they are misgendering you. Maybe wear it in a bun or something like that. I never had that problem, because I already had short hair when "I was still a girl".

[@tealkerberus748]

Some men have long hair. I guess you'd look at typical hair styles they use - it tends to be the basic ponytail or man bun, they don't seems to use complicated braids and stuff much. A man with long hair is generally assumed to be secure in his masculinity. If your face, figure, and clothes pass, your hair shouldn't be a problem.

[@Fitzroyfallz]

If you’ve got other things like masculine clothing/binder etc I think it works. Lots of men like having long hair too! Facial hair (minoxidil hair growth cream can help with it) is a good way of passing too

[@leafisvibing9973]

I'm stuck in a position and can't transition, and my current plan is the moment I'm done with school, TRANSITION TO MALE AND ACTUALLY LIVE MY LIFE

[@widowmakerssucculentleftnu6411]

Beard looking good 💪🏽

[@cepfins4875]

Hell Yeah!

[@phoenixburk6731]

In my experience if the baggy t shirt doesn't cover everything, wearing a button up or flannel shirt over it helps especially if you don't have baggier t shirts

[@oakleydokley7099]

i'm coming out tomorrow to a friend wish me luck.

[@bravodevdas]

oakley dokley good luck!

[@JOHN-kc1pw]

oakley dokley Comment back on how it goes! Wish you the best, friend!

[@fraserefeyardim1995]

good luck buddy

[@theoj7091]

oakley dokley I’m a bit late but I hope it went well!

[@oakleydokley7099]

he took it well and was ok with it

[@foolsupright8512]

I’ve been “out” for a good 4 years now and I’m still learning sm from your channel, even as I’m starting HRT The period one especially

[@juliang9256]

just imagine if someone did the condom thing and it like..... Popped

[@fletcherandjunk2246]

Julian G that'd be a nightmare

[@arbys5896]

New way for a trans guy (pre bottom) to b*st a n*t

[@et_2112]

💀💀💀💀

[@nathanthetailor]

Me: *Wears a nice new button up shirt that is baggy enough to disguise my body shape.* Me: *Brushes my short hair in a way that frames my face well and I like the way I look* Me: Mum do you like my shirt? My mum: Sure. *pointed look* you still look like a pretty girl though. Why would you do this?

[@michael97590]

Oh, I'm sorry. That sounds rough

[@Jigenn742]

I had a similar situation, my grandma said: do you think flattening your chest makes you look like a dude? I'm sorry to disappoint you but it doesn't, you still look like a girl Me passing in public almost every time: 😐

[@joycelinlgbtq]

I haven't had chocolate fingers in ages! Now i'm craving, Jamie.

[@em9325]

oh jeez i read "now im craving jamie"

[@yourholyauthour6975]

the best thing i can feel as a trans is strangers considering me a man and i swear that's the BEST FEELING EVER like yo , it gives some otherworldly satisfaction that can never be expressed enough 💀

[@mossy1379]

Something I use as an AFAB Non-Binary person, is makeup. I wear make up sometimes, so if I feel Dysphoric, I can take it off and it helps with dysphoria. I feel like this might work in reverse for MTF people?

[@MysteryGaymer]

Muffintops hi friend what is afab?

[@mossy1379]

Sutan Does Assigned Female at Birth

[@Envy_May]

a fabulous

[@pissarotta]

I've been crying all night because my mom said i'm too young to be transgender, i'm scared to start high school in this body

[@liamvoncannon]

Buying a menstrual cup was one of the best decisions ive ever made, it only needs to be cleaned every 12hours, I can't feel it at all and it lasts a year for the price of 2months worth of tampons. I would definitely recommend it (if you aren't too bothered by reaching up there)

[@CelesteLynnK]

Liam Voncannon Same!

[@rosastrohhut]

Should last up to ten years! 💪

[@alexanderrosen4610]

Liam Voncannon for me it hurts to put anything up there...

[@ghostie9642]

I'm watching your videos since a long time now and I have to say one thing, it's thank you, I'm pre-everything, I was very depressed I was thinking about death But your videos help me a lot So, thank you so much, you're the best

[@Jammidodger]

Hey, thank you, I'm so glad my videos could help you :)

[@moltenkitty7157]

Seth Ftm i hope you feel loads better soon xx

[@june7466]

Definitely helping me out with a lot of understanding. My boyfriend is almost to the point of where he can get T and top surgery. He keeps sending me these videos and I absolutely adore them. Keep up the good work! You’re helping so many people.

[@JennyJin-YoungLee101]

Slaying with those unicorn 🦄 slippers there Jamie?

[@faylinndivello8204]

Oh my gosh I had no idea there was a non-needle version. A gel would be perfect if I ever decide to go for T. -Josia

[@joeshimamura9620]

I kept it locked up for almost 30 years. A few years go I came out my parents didn't appreciate it. Long story short, after my parents passed I discovered I did have a support system with the rest of my family. I would have discovered that much sooner if I had came out to the rest of the family first. Nice video though. I became curious while surfing youtube for FtM information. Not that I always need it but...I still watch them. I wish I would have found this sooner it would have helped with my transitioning.

[@kyraleitner9460]

I've been watching your videos for the past 2 or 3 weeks since I've accepted that I'm trans, something I've pushed deep away for 15 years as well as telling my wife, my mom and sister that I'm trans which was extremely hard. And your videos have helped me a ton! thank you so much 💙

[@luke_x_sky]

you're so comforting and you give off such a friendly energy:)

[@marcossecondhalf6794]

I accidentally told my parents and now they’re trying to force a bunch of girly things on me and I really hate it, hopefully I can try to move out at 16 or get emancipated 😓

[@caeneusii]

Yeah, my parents aren’t forcing girly things, but they’re regularly telling me how much men suck and why I shouldn’t be one. Like, do they think I want to be trans?

[@ohmygawdneilcicirega]

oh. my. gosh, i am so sorry that is happening to you. you deserve respect for your real identity. and i’m sorry you aren’t getting it.

[@killer_punk1605]

For my binder "hack" is if you are between sizes get the bigger size so you can put it on easier and it won't be as tight

[@xxLucianVamp]

So,I only came out a couple days ago,and I've been binging your videos and they're already helping me a lot,so thank you so much!

[@thisismyname3929]

i live with my unsupportive dad but my mom's supportive and she'd most likely get me all the stuffs i need to transition but idek how to ask for a binder, let alone T and top surgery......

[@Doglover-gh9ut]

Tristan Bartholdi I felt like that too. I didn't know how to ask for that stuff. I would start by just bringing up the conversation of t. Don't say you want t at first just mention that t is an option. For binders you sorta have to toughen up and just ask. Say your chest makes you uncomfortable and that a binder will make you more comfortable. Definitely don't mention the health risks. I would definitely ask about binders before you ask about t and top surgery. Baby steps are still steps. What I told myself is i came out I can be brave enough to bring up these kinds of conversations.

[@thisismyname3929]

Doglover12 yeah i was definitely going to mention the binder first, but she already knows some of the health risks, so i have to try to convince her that it's worth it. and she also knows about T, i just haven't told her that i wanted it. and im only 15 so i wasn't planning on having top surgery for a while but i'd like the other two to happen soonish. but thanks for replying, it helps knowing im not alone :)

[@thisismyname3929]

Waffle _ i just turned 15 too, and i have money, i just have to get the binder delivered to my mom's house so my dad doesn't see it. plus i just want to 100% know if she would support it

[@katdaley6854]

I absolutely love your videos. I found out about you on buzzfeed and I was absolutely fascinated with your story, and i have a lot of friends who are trans and gender queer and all that and it’s really cool that I can learn more to kind of understand their situation a little bit more

[@ArtsyWeeb]

One of my best friends is trans! Her name is Leah. I’m jealous of her because she knows her gender and I have no idea if I’m trans or not. I’m not sure if i wanna do testosterone when I’m older and the only “girly” thing I like is makeup. I have no idea what my gender is. Help!

[@rowan2407]

maybe you're non-binary?

[@andrewhannaford2995]

Hey Jamie so the maximum time you can wear a binder for in one 'session' is 8 hours but how much time should you wait to wear a binder again?

[@legoduckie]

8 hours per day is the timeframe that most people use. I’d recommend taking days off if you can, like weekends or just whenever you can bear to. The timeframe can change from person to person though. My partner has asthma and a slightly fucked up back, so they can only wear theirs for about 4-6 hours at a time and they don’t wear it very often or else they have a hard time breathing. If I wear mine for too many days in a row, my sternum and ribs start to ache. Tldr; 8 hours/day, but pay attention to what your body says because it’ll tell you if you start to fuck it up.

[@kyleolsen9217]

Your videos really have helped me through alot. I'm starting hormones in a few months and watching your videos really helped me get through everything till i got to this point ❤❤ thank you

[@Jammidodger]

You're welcome :) So glad they could help, and all the best with starting hormones! :D

[@wixkedbruixes]

i love that it never occurred to me how hot i'd be as a dude. like i always hated myself and looking back on it, it never felt quite like me. but now i'm hot and happy so i'm doing great lmao

[@Kleineganz]

I keep hearing advice about stepping into the binder...but there is no way my binder would ever fit over my hips and thighs (you skinny bean pole, you). I struggle with over the head, but it's the only option for me.

[@gray5485]

Kleineganz Saaaame. I’m actually kinda thin, and was blessed with a not that curvy body, and when i tried to put on my binder for the first time i ripped it a little bit because it’s just awkward stepping into it.

[@JonTanOsb]

For larger bodies, like mine, I used a back brace with a Velcro closing. Just wrap it around to fit. It removed easily as well.

[@claramercadal2863]

Me: a cis women Also me: I’m definitely the target audience to this video... yes

[@mwoodyard00ify]

Thank you so so much! I didn’t know about the gel. I was so hesitant about the needles, the gel is such a relief.

[@arthur6703]

You're so lovely❤️❤️ I'm lying in bed with a sweater on watching you and I feel so nice and comfortable. I've had a bad day and nothing felt right, but nothing is better than this :) Your voice is very lovely and calming and these tips are good and so helpful. I have started transitioning in the closet and I cannot thank you enough. This is the first video I'm watching and I really like your channel :)) Definitely subscribing ❤️💓❤️💓 Have a good day!

[@brianwagner7357]

I came out as genderqueer a month before i came out as trans. It was definitely a faster process than i thought it would be. But, coming out as genderqueer/nb first gave me the confidence and comfort to explore how i really felt, and it didnt take long for me personally to realize that im actually a guy. It was very relieving to be able to start my transition in this way, but i still struggle daily with many things that have to do with transitioning(mostly being impatient). And already having depression makes my thoughts and feeling difficult to process. Watching your videos has really helped me in seeing that i will get past these awkward moments and i will have more awkward moments to accept as they come. The fact that I've found videos like this is really helping me look forward to the process of transitioning and being my true self :)

[@coltongerstner6720]

For shark week: certain birth controls can completely or at the very least make it a lot lighter. One example is the IUD, the process of getting it and taking it out is uncomfortable, but the in-between times with no blood are great. Typically periods stop altogether after about 6 months and after 3 get notably lighter. I recommend this for anyone under the age of 18 because they are free at planned parenthood (w or without insurance) and you don't need parental consent!! It is painful to get inserted and when it needs to come out but other than that you can honestly just forget about it

[@123penrose]

The pill and patch can also stop periods if you don't want to do an IUD for whatever reason

[@villain_hitoshi_yamazawa8287]

Yesterday I asked my sister if she loved me cause we were doing the headphones challenge thing and she said this without missing a beat "of course I love you your my brother" she is one of the o ly ppl who support me being trans and I legit had to stop and take a second

[@swiftlyaswiftie]

1:30 I learned that the hard way from coming out to people (transgender to just my online friends and ex) as lesbian, then bisexual, then transgender then pansexual all in the same year also me acting straight and a girl for the start so basically what people thought about I was Girl & straight Girl & lesbian Girl & bisexual Boy & bisexual Boy & pansexual

[@mvvvnvnnm1081]

I thought I was a lesbian at first too. Turns out I'm a bisexual guy. I just couldn't even imagine being with a guy as a girl because it would make me feel more feminine.

[@elijahmight]

The little “hellooo” at 3:03 is like a shot of seratonin it’s so cuuute! Thanks for making this video Jamie :) really helped me out

[@nothark]

I'm ftm (but like genderfluid?), and I like to reverse psychology myself to feel better. When people use she/her and I don't pass well, I pretend I'm mtf and think, "wow, I must be doing really good" lol

[@divinationis]

When quarantine is over, I'm going to ask my parents if I can legally change my name and go on testosterone. I'm 14 right now, and when quarantine is over it'll have been over 2 years since I came out. I'll update this after I ask!

[@amelie1003]

omg go for it bro you deserve it

[@mia51601]

GOOD LUCK BRK

[@Fitzroyfallz]

How did it go?

[@one_gawky_geek_kid]

love your videos, pls do a life hack video on clothes. I am of pre-everything and very short in height, only 5 feet. It's very difficult to find shoes and denim and shirts from men's section, especially shoes.

[@Mezza]

Have you tried teen sections? H&M have great stuff that aren’t too young, great for basics to build your wardrobe. Obviously you wrote this a year ago so this may have changed for you!

[@JonTanOsb]

You can probably find shoes and clothes that fit in the boy's section. Plus, no sales tax.

[@liam3moonnnn]

I have the gc2b binder and it’s amazing. I wear it during the day (like 8-9 hours) and don’t wear it for like 2-3 days per week to protect my ribs and back. :) it’s really comfy. At the beginning I was struggling getting it on but after like 3-4 times it was okay

[@asherstrickling2467]

Give me all those hacks! Love you by the way

[@renferal3774]

Thank you for helping me to understand the issues that trans people have. I will always be supportive of someone who is different then myself.

[@SkelitonWren]

Remember: Having a slight bump, or even a large one on your chest makes you look buff

[@atlasbutnotthetitan393]

Your hair looks so fluffy, I love it! Just realised this video is 2 years old, youtubes algorithm sure is odd

[@tobycowdroy-pollard5017]

I've been out since 1st april 2019. I haven't even been given hormone blockers yet so I'm struggling with life. I'm a boy and oestrogens making me feel shit

[@Ace-vl9xi]

Late to this video but you're videos are always so random and so hyper. I kinda see myself as you in the future and it makes me happy considering the fact that I am completely unsupported by my family and friends. I see myself in you because I am energetic most the time and I'm told that I'm so random that nobody can predict me. (you're random cause you just throw random things in the video like the slippers because your feet are cold) Also I like really love your videos!

[@CloudDistrictEnjoyer01]

my biggest problems are my height and voice

[@asparaguslord6790]

If any of you are getting swim binders from Underworks, I highly recommend getting a size up, not only because you will be wearing them while doing physical activity, but also because you need to pull them up (as Jamie described) and it’s kind of hellish getting them on and off, especially if they’re wet. Good luck and happy binding!

[@sydneygillum9869]

I heard unicorn leathers when he showed his slippers and I had to watch that part 5 times until I realized he said slippers

[@Rachel-fi4sc]

I know this is super late, but THANK YOU SO MUCH for the velcro hack. I have hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, so my shoulders, neck, and back are often very painful. I sometimes need help getting into and out of tight or compressive tops / sports bras / swim togs / etc., because my shoulders don't work right. I've got a whole stack of tight sports bras in the back of my drawer that I can't really wear anymore because of it, but now I'll get to wear them again, and adding velcro is gonna save me SO MUCH PAIN! Thank you!!!

[@Rachel-fi4sc]

Having spoken to my better half, who is also much more accomplished and experienced with sewing, they suggest a zipper or buttons may be better than velcro, just due to longevity. Velcro will wear out and lose its... cohesion (if that's the right word?) faster, which is why it is used less often in clothing than buttons and zips. And, it shouldn't be too complicated to add that little panel of fabric to protect your skin from a zip, either.

[@teoohdoor5497]

I generally pass, but the depression of seeing the boys I grew up with become taller than me, gain facial hair and a deep voice, it's alway a reminder that I'll always be transgender. I'll never be a real boy. My mum is sweet but she doesn't know that her words have an effect on me, she calls me beautiful, says she likes my hourglass shape, and it should be a compliment but instead it embeds all my insecurities and confirms my self doubt. I'm so lonely, my friends don't understand, my family doesn't understand, I don't trust anyone enough to share how I really feel. I feel like a stranger to myself

[@toadiethegoose]

I hope things get better for you ❤

[@beefromashroom]

Even though I'm a cis girl I really enjoy watching your videos. There's just something in the way you talk about all this that is interesting and good to listen and watch

[@Alexisasloth]

UNICORN SLIPPERS!!! 😍😍😍😍

[@ratking6831]

For periods, TomboyX has period boxer briefs/trunks with a floating gusset that you can attach pads to. A pair of these + reusable pads was a life changer for me!

[@Countrymansean]

I felt that life lesson. My mom is verbally and psychologically abusive and I've rly been feeling like shit lately. We stan Addison Grace.

[@rainbowunicorn7977]

I love the help you give to people on their journey.

[@PunxGirl]

Um. Yes. Hello. I recently made a video about my own experience with coming out as trans. You were actually the inspiration for it. So thanks!

[@WhiteN0iz]

Man, thank you so much for these videos. :) I wish I'd had this resource ten years ago, happy today't kids have people like you to look to for advice.

[@m1ckzilla]

My name and s kitty and when he said bye kitty at the end I freaked tf out lol

[@RaineInTheRain]

I bought my first binder last night and that’s the biggest step I’ve been through so far and I’m so grateful that I have a job so I can afford one

[@leaf7567]

If there is any swedish people here that are teenagers I would recommend going to BUP, they will help you contact a doctor and things like that c: Had to figure it out on my own lol but they are really helpful! :) Best of luck

[@scouttyra]

If you are under 25, go to ungdomsmottagningen.

[@YerLocalXenon]

My teachers have been saying I should contact BUP(they’re in Norway too) but my parents have to know first so I’ve been trying to avoid it. But it really is good! My friend talks to them once a month because of personal reasons and she’s getting better. I recommend it to others in Norway and Sweden if you aren’t too scared to talk to your parents about it!

[@tkh69]

AHHHH THE CUTTING BINDER IDEA AND ALTERING IS AMAZING

[@MarsAugust6157]

for me fellow muricans: planned parenthood does do hrt depending on location!!!!!!!!!!!

[@staticllamas3423]

Me: *cries in Australian*

[@ezrabronwynadkins571]

on binding: I bought my binder from an etsy seller who makes a lot of trans friendly wear and it's made with your measurements so it's WAY more comfy and customizable

[@brynhallman2959]

my mum wants to refer me to GIDS because i'm non-binary n want to start binding but my mum thinks its dangerous n i've explained to her that its only dangerous if use don't do it properly/safely.

[@matsumiyano7202]

It's always such a bless to see your videos! I think you really helped with the tips, plus you transmit... good vibes lol I feel more encouraged to face the hardships of the world, so thank you very much!

[@puppup0942]

When you wear a towel in a shower due to chest dysphoria, and it flattens your chest better then your binder