Stop Sending Them Energy

[@criptoexclusivos]

You didn't waste your time with guys, you invested your time to experience, learn and be who you are today!

[@cognitiveconnectionss]

Amen to that

[@hubblepopo]

❤

[@micaelaborges5460]

facts

[@GFUncovered]

AKA waste of time lol

[@basicinfo2022]

that does not apply to women. it means you were used and played with every failed relationship. be smart, ladies. dont "experience" countless players or mr. wrongs. you are wasting, not investing, when you give your time, effort, love etc to the wrong/toxic man.

[@dhamarsosa1913]

this part: you´re blocking blessings from coming in when you mess around something is not meant for you.

[@judithkraak4491]

Dear Lumma, I am a grand mother of 59 years old and so much wish I had a friend like you when I was young, could have saved so much heartache, broken relations and fatherless children. Now I'am on my own wondering why I am alone, as you say I will start watering my garden and see what bees I might attract, just to enjoy them, not to hold on or fill a void. I will find my community or partner or not, I will enjoy my garden. I really wish my granddaugthers will grow up to be woman like you

[@Rosie_959]

❤❤❤

[@brymarie8]

🥹🥹🥹

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

I used to be a baddie. My confidence was high up there. And then circumstances made me to settle for the bare minimum because I was desperate. And it completely shuttered by confidence. Now I'm no longer in a desperate position. I need to start working on myself again and get the old me back...the baddie.

[@girlygirl402]

Girl, yes at one point my ex called me a top of the line bitch but slowly overtime I became a bare minimum bitch. 😢

[@laurynbrown4751]

NEW SUB! “men used to go to war and now they’re scared to give you a label” I love u

[@jm8837]

"If somebody makes you feel like you are less than what you actually worth, you need to let them go" Yes ma'am😔

[@dancegoddesss]

yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaas

[@tania7881]

5:30

[@tania7881]

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[@tania7881]

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[@tania7881]

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[@googoodolls88]

I was dumped in 2022 and since then my life was in a wreck. One day I told myself to give me another 1 year to recover and fully move on from him. Today 2024, I have never been happier than now. I’m so ready for what my future holds for me! ❤ Thanks Luma!

[@Sparksflymich]

Lumma your confidence is shining through - I still remember how devastated you were in your last break up, you really gave me hope that I will get better. doing no contact for 2 months and tomorrow's supposed to be our 4 year anniversary. I will be OK!!

[@Sparksflymich]

AND GIRL YOU CAN SINGGG

[@andreakhayat381]

Ya you will

[@FeminineLogos]

You actually don't need them. You'll realize in a year or two you're actually lucky you guys broke up. Find a new hobby and get better in everything you do. xx

[@sydney6818]

im so proud of you!!! im only on day like.. 3 of no contact but its already getting better! i hope youre doing well

[@eevasdiaries7401]

Stay strong girl😭🩷🫂

[@stephanierosenavarro]

she's honestly like a sister sitting us down and giving us advice and I LOVE her for that!

[@khoakdoan]

I needed this video. My ex with BPD broke up with me and immediately got in a new relationship after we broke up on Valentine's day. For the past two weeks, I've literally felt drained because I've been waiting for a response from them. I'll see them online on various apps and I'll wait for an apology or some sort of response. I'll scroll through Instagram and see them like posts that they used to send me and now they're sending it to the new person and see them play the games we used to play with the new person. So much energy and time wasted.

[@khoakdoan]

@shan It took awhile but after 21 days of no contact and no change, I'm done. It wasn't easy but I removed them from everything. I see that clearly now, it was all a fantasy. I usually question things when they're too good to be true but she was keen and she knows exactly what she's doing. I appreciate the response, that shifted my mindset. Here's to getting better!

[@f8hmida]

@@khoakdoan that’s actually awesome, i applaud you for realising your self worth and not wasting time on a person that doesn’t deserve it 👏

[@Prosperityessentials]

Give yourself closure by never going back & embracing God’s love for you. God has better ❤ Jeremiah 29:11

[@alenad668]

@@Prosperityessentials Girl, thanks for this text. It come at right time ❤

[@letmethinkaboutit8982]

I mean this from a good place so please don’t take this the wrong way. You need to get off of social media and start focusing on you and living your life instead of watching what they are doing. By wallowing in that negativity, it will continue to harm you and your healing process because the more you focus on them, the more you hurt yourself and prevent yourself from doing the healing work on yourself. I know many people say to get into a new relationship, but that is the worst advice because that person will only be a rebound and you guys won’t last which isn’t fair to you or the new partner. Only seek a new partner when you are good and ready as in healed and have worked on yourself. I hope this makes sense and helps. In the meantime, I wish you nothing but the best.

[@Mary-du4on]

I was talking to this guy who would sneakily point out my insecurities and I dropped him after a few red flags, and I’ve been upset about it bc I kept thinking of the what ifs. But I came to my realization that someone who cared about or liked me wouldn’t have made me feel that way.

[@Tralala11133]

Factsssss

[@mht4908]

I recently dropped one of my close friends because he kept commenting about my weight and started to criticize what I post on my socials. He provided me a lot of support when my ex of 4 years broke up with me, but the red flags were just too much to ignore

[@zinazoulou3574]

@@mht4908 update? about your break-up

[@smartpoota9223]

The timing of the universe is always right. Everything you said resonated heavily. Ur right I enjoy being single. It’s amazing. My soulmate wouldn’t make me this anxious. I think Ik what i have to do. You posted this 3 days ago and I feel a very divine attachment to the number 3. Thank you. You’ve earned a new subscriber!

[@AngenelleCarrion]

You and i glowed up together- went from feeling worthless and insecure to worrying about myself, taking care of my physical and mental well-being, feeling so much more confident overall. Thank you for posting that 1st break up video ! Makes me happy knowing how much our lives can change positively in just a year.

[@luenanda4432]

I’d almost never heard stuff like this before and all these straight up facts I needed to accept. The whole vibe and comment section is really nice and kind too. Thank you for this it really opened my eyes and I feel like i’m not that afraid of rejection anymore. I was just hating on myself too much. I like myself a lot more now after years and tons of struggles and this video made me feel so validated and safe. Thank you for this!!

[@lummaaziz]

Love you too!

[@jyotithakuri7348]

When she started saying here’s step one, I was ready to pay all the attention and take notes lol but after she said “you can’t“, i was dumbfounded and couldn’t control my laugh😂😂😂

[@Ehaehaeha]

MEEE😂

[@sudeekshapachori3679]

hell yeah. I was so focused and then dangggg😂

[@taramariaca]

OMG MA'AM, do you know how pretty you are! wow

[@harmonytsmith]

I was never lucky when it comes to relationships and that stemmed upon not actually loving myself and it attracted negative energy.

[@ProphetessShay]

The bees come to the flowers so water your own garden. I love it 😊

[@bplovelove3119]

I think what I 110% percent agree with you on, is that you can't force romantic relationships onto people you are interested in. But part of the reasons why a relationship does not work out, is you're just not socially compatible or even compatible with your romantic partner. I think the biggest downfall that women do is they use intercourse and looking pretty as a way to compensate companionship in a romantic relationship. In a long term romantic relationship, sure your lover is going be there, but there are times where he wants to be alone or do his thing without you. And that is when we as women need to balance being masculine and feminine. And focus on our own life when the person is absent and we have time to our selves. A guy doesn't want a clingy person, he wants a person that gets him and doesn't want a female that thinks everything revolves around her. Because we women have done that, we have done things whether it's no contact or straight up kiss the guy when we think we could get more attention and affection from the guy, but that caused him to distant himself, because again we as women did not take time to understand his personality and lifestyle. And the reason why we fall for losers, is because we are unbalanced in some way and have baggage in our lives. If you were a person that is ready for a long term relationshio you won't jump on different multiple dates with men. You would heal your self and after you recover, take care of your body and mind. It is normal to want a romantic partner that is your soulmate, but you want a romantic partner that is emotionally available and is compatible with you. And is someone that will make your life feel balanced. Those qualities are hard to find, and that is why I have been single for years.

[@tiffanyle256]

Loved this, great explanation 👍

[@Patternlogic]

I really needed to hear this. I was broken up with a few months ago, it was my first relationship and it absolutely crushed me. I went through the rabbit hole of questioning my self worth, asking him if we can try again, etc. Finally coming to the other side and realizing I don’t need his or any other’s validation. I’ve always been me and I’ve always been an awesome human being. Breakups are hard but for anyone going through this, you got it! Breakups are lessons and this was my biggest lesson to always love myself and understand I am a woman of high value ❤

[@bondpenelopebond]

For the past few months, I'd been crying almost everyday. Feeling like a burden to a guy that I wanted to want me back, but unable to let go of that obsession either. A few days ago, I decided I wouldn't cry about it anymore and to my own surprise, I'm feeling a lot better. It's easier to focus on myself now. I haven't completely healed yet but I'm getting there. Hopefully I'll remember this lesson when I do.

[@champagneprincess4]

Confidence is actually so important, ur right. Like yes pretty privilege is real but confidence boosts u up so muchhhh. Even if someone thought you weren’t attractive ur confidence will literally have them being like “wait a min..”

[@Sofancyxyz]

I ignored the red flags and I can only blame myself but I’m over the mind games with myself I deserve better and that’s that.

[@diazjames]

i broke up with my boyfriend about 5 days ago, after being with him for a year. I made that decision purely because it was so toxic and abusive and i felt like i really deserved better than to be treated like i was just used for his pleasure, happiness, and to satisfy him at my own expense. i tried so hard to talk about things, wait to see if he really would change or at least show me some appreciation, or validation. finally i had enough and it was the hardest decision i’ve ever had to make because i still love him, but i know that its whats right for me. I have been going back and forth on how i feel about my decision but ultimately i know im finally looking out for myself, bc he never really treated me like i deserved, he never showed that he cared about me, as much as i want to believe he did, and that is not someone i want to be associated with, i dont want to have someone who makes me feel like im worthless in my life. i want to convince myself he loved me, but honestly i think he just loved the thought of me and how i made him feel. a part of me wants to see how he is doing bc i have been so used to the same routine for a whole year, but im trying to work on myself, and understand that this is an opportunity to grow, and let go of any bad tendencies ive had for a while, while also ensuring i get what i deserve, and not settle for anything less. thank you for this video and every other video, i know i can overcome this and end up on top, i deserve better. I AM WORTHY OF BEING LOVED, AND I DESERVE THE WORLD. i wont be scared to love anymore, bc the right person will love me the correct way, the genuine way.

[@joyjemmott6278]

How are you doing now?

[@levashneereddy5388]

I was dumped for someone else so my confidence is at an all time low. Definitely needed this video 😊

[@Freespirit2312]

Rejection is protection. And while I know how much it hurts, this too shall pass. Sending you love and 🤗 hugs.

[@levashneereddy5388]

@@Freespirit2312 thank you for the kind words 😊 Just at an all time low in my life, but just like everything else i will overcome this situation as well 🤞

[@Rosie-wx2hc]

Totally relate babe and it feels so shit… but you will get there you will start to notice their flaws and how the only reason you were replaced was cos they downgraded they couldn’t meet you at your level, sending love ❤xx

[@LuSanification]

I feel you, I'm going precisely through that, I broke up in Valentine's day after a 3 year one-sided relationship. Things will get better and it's ok not be ok and not pressure yourself. I feel that with a bit more time and commitment to ourselves we will be more confident and the best is yet to come. I wish you better and keep being true to yourself 💜

[@kaoshi_kutie]

You will get through it girl ❤️❤️

[@GwenMotoGirl]

I love your pep talks! Great advice knows no age. I’m old enough to be your grandmother. You showed me how to move through an unexpected breakup. Thank you.

[@terrylasin3709]

Oh Lord break-up and past memories I hope you find peace and happiness

[@GwenMotoGirl]

@@terrylasin3709 thank you! ❤️ I’m free now.

[@terrylasin3709]

@@GwenMotoGirl so happy you free my ❤️. How I wish you could pay him back for the pains he cost you .

[@lummaaziz]

You are so welcome!

[@GwenMotoGirl]

@@terrylasin3709 it’s ok. I want the best for him and I think that has been key to my healing. I bet you’re a great friend to your friends.

[@prithamukherjee8039]

Your videos have helped me a lot through this time. He broke up 3 weeks ago and I didn’t know what my life meant anymore. I did not know how to go forward with my life knowing that I am the reason that the relationship I wanted to have for my entire life got ruined. I feel terrible at times but your videos have made me get up and take a shower and eat my food at some of those times. Maybe these videos are saving many lives, literally! Keep on doing the good work. ❤

[@NatalieBrook]

I am just crying with HAPPINESS 😭😭😭it was so important to hear those words and find out how beautiful it is to live your own life ❤ I am so grateful to you 🙏

[@nataliec3740]

I was like that, I was healed, fine being on my own, happy, not looking for relashionship just for the sake of not being alone. And at this very moment he came into my life and completely destroyed everything. I'm not myself anymore. He's hurting, I'm hurting. But he won't let go of his own comfort and the situation he's stuck in. My point is that even when you're at your best self enjoying life it still may happen that you'll get even more hurt than ever before. I have no idea how to get out of it now that nothing works anymore 'cause I've used all my resources and tools to heal before and those just won't work now. I don't see a way out

[@lesfruitees]

I think I really needed this video … It’s been a month since my ex and I broke up. I realized he was talking to a few other girls and when he knew I knew, he told me I was crazy, that I needed to see a psychologist, that he was disgusted by me… and he blocked me everywhere. And since the breakup, every time I see the same car he had, I can’t stop to read the plate number, to see if it’s him. I kinda became obsessed with this and the idea to see him again. And yesterday, it just happened. It was the first time I saw him since the breakup. And my heart literally dropped in my stomach. I felt so weird and sad, because I realized we simply became strangers to each other, even though we once had a connection together.

[@susanasandoval3297]

🥺💔

[@choccococo7224]

FELT

[@telepups28]

Girl how you doing now??

[@yessievillanueva1766]

I agree girl, if anyone makes you feel less than….let them go. We’ll said 👏 and yes confidence is key.

[@lyudmi2273]

I’ve been doing all this. Reaching out, caring, caring, showing love, support. On the other side, he replies after hours, and just apologizes and that’s where the conversation ends. When he’s with me, it’s fine but In the meantime, I’m doing all the effort 😢

[@lyudmi2273]

I update: we spent the night together on Tuesday. He broke it off yesterday morning saying he is starting to use dating apps again to find the ‘one’ cuz he never saw me as something serious or someone to keep long term…

[@felizidadfeliz2968]

some advice that is unsolicited: if you care and he doesn't (while having the time and all the that), stop the caring. if he starts caring after that, start avoiding him because that's actually lovebombing. Don't do all the work, work on your attachment (it could be anxious attachment)

[@tanyamerry2736]

@@felizidadfeliz2968 how does someone caring after means they are love bombing not trying to say you ain’t correct just wanted to understand that!

[@jd6331]

​@@tanyamerry2736 Because he's seeing you step back, so he starts throwing everything at you all at once to keep you hooked. But then other times you just get breadcrumbs.

[@Sairaiam3]

Thank you for this Pep talk. All your videos helped me especially to improve my self-esteem after a terrible breakup. This Pep talk is perfect for me because now I was not looking to date and this man came into my life but he is playing the "game" and pulling away. I will be true to myself because he just meets 60% of what I want in a partner and I won't give my energy and take it a sign of the Universe, because when something is meant to be, I will not have any doubts.

[@thatgirlkiwii]

i love how you speak so softly lumma, it makes your videos feel like older sister advices to me

[@maia18]

im going through my first heartbreak, we ended things in april and i started watching your videos like a day after that breakup and im so grateful for finding ur channel, you’ve helped me a lot. i feel like your videos already made me a lot stronger and im learning to be on my own. ily:)

[@Lovergirlstudiio]

Omg I just realized after watching your documented break up video that you were that girl and now you’re this confident Queen giving me advice for my heartbreak now, wow I’m so proud to see the transformation 😮👏🏽

[@hennehlovesyou]

Everytime I feel regret breaking up with my ex bcoz I love him so badly, Lumma's messages suddenly pop up and give me thousand of reasons why I should love myself, respect myself and priotize myself more. I realize that I've wasted time to miss a person who doesn't love me as well as deserve my love. Thank Lumma, I love me and love you!

[@-d-5578]

So deep it made me cry 😢 thank youuuuuu for the reminders....im in s situationship of 13yrs..doesnt look like things r gonna change into a relationship... what's sad is all the frustrations & loneliness during this waiting. Questioning my self worth so many times but ended in the same cycle over the years....and like u said. I lost myself, lose my self confidence... I hv given so much of myself...my youth.... it's so hard to leave after I hv invested so much and yet.... i feel stuck in the same dark spot.....I realky need the courage to move forward alone... so afraid of being alone eventho I feel like that now... thank you again for sharing. YOU ARE A BLESSING!!! Pls don't stop what u r doing

[@brittanyh8022]

you are so strong i’m going through the same thing right now and i literately feel like death

[@icantseeyou1294]

I’m only 20, but everyone (especially my parents) makes me feel like I should be in a relationship by now, because soon I won’t have the opportunity to find someone. I think the main reason I haven’t found love, because on an energetic level I’m still clinging on a guy from the past. He was literally chosen someone else over me, but I couldn’t get over it. I waited, waited and waited that one day he realiezes what had he lost. I stopped seeing his girlfriend better than me quite early on, it just hurt me that, he… He, who was really important to me, didn’t choose me. Thank you! I really love your energy!❤

[@dreamypurrz]

Your channel is such a safe space! And as you said, being single in an opportunity to upgrade ourselves in every way. Loved the video 🤍🤍

[@Hachi.899]

Where you talked about giving 100% of yourself before and losing yourself after the relationship ends, that's me rn. Thank you so much for all your pep talks, they've helped me so far get through this breakup.

[@priyankar8176]

Lumma.. thank you so much. I have been watching your videos for quite some time now and everytime I have had a hard reset and put on the right path. This video is special because just some time back I reached out to my ex-match and was on dating app feeling like shit about myself. I realise I need to work on myself and build myself up. I hate being this desperate. All your videos encourage me to be a better person. Thank you very much! I wish you are blessed abundantly for all the work that you do.

[@ashley__c]

7:00 This is so true! We have to validate ourselves and not wanting breadcrumbs from someone who won’t change for us.

[@rishita5324]

WE NEED MORE PEP TALKS LIKE THIS ONE😭

[@BethDiaryofAnIntrovert]

Yes, and after he knew that I always gave him the energy he used me until he met someone else because he was too weak and scared of being alone so he was stringing me along while trying to get to know other girls. I tried so hard to get him back, now I look back at last year me...I was soooo silly and wasted of my lifetime wanting that selfish jerk back. Now I'm so happy, and I'm not drying by being lonely. After narcissistic abuse now I got my confidence back, I have more time for people who purely care about me. And Thank you Lumma for reminding me of this and how proud of myself now.

[@spinelessimp]

i think this is what my ex is doing to me. this just sucks beyond words.

[@Little_Red97]

Exactly what my ex did to me. Had me taking care of him through a kidney stone when my childhood cat was sick and dying then dropped me a week and a half later, started ignoring me when I tried talking to him about it, and started seeing/sleeping with someone else. 8 years on and off.

[@spinelessimp]

@@Little_Red97 i hope to god you are done with him on and off. you are worth stability and adornment beyond words.

[@444von]

yo you SAID exactly what happened to me and gave the best advice i love this video

[@hanhvu3716]

I am in the same boat with you! Let’s heal together!

[@remvibes4641]

It feels great that its on my feed and click this. Its very true and i love what uu said. I've been a people pleaser and chaser in thr past. And now im learning and doing these things uu said. Learning to value uurself, builing confidence and loving uurself. It's very self-soothing. Not relying on others in uur happiness.

[@Kedo002]

As a man, this women knows what she’s talking about. Her looks drew me in, her confidence, wisdom, self-love kept me

[@greciamartinez3484]

girl do a oeptalk on forgiving yourself & self love !!

[@talia4205]

Do a peptalk how to not loose yourself while being in a relationship!! Pls❤️❤️

[@BermudaKove]

I don't normally leave a comment but this is by far one of the best, straight up advice I've watched on KZbin. Thank you ❤.

[@outroseok]

"I was waiting for replies, posting on my story and swiping up to see if they viewed it, checked their following" FELT, I'm so guilty of all these. I thought I was the only one who checked someone's following lol... ended up having a talk with him and he said "he needs to focus on himself" damn it hurt like hell bc I feel like I was lead on but it finally pulled me out of the fantasy world I was in when it came to him.

[@undsoweiter1263]

I always feel full of energy and ready to change things after watching your video ❤❤

[@veeenusaurrr]

Omg Lumma! I love you, girl! I forreal watched this twice & took NOTES the 2nd time. It’s been so inspiring seeing you grow since I found you through the breakup video. You have shown me that life can get better after a breakup, that being single IS hella fun, and that you CAN find BETTER love still! I also love how you’re Filipina. I don’t see many young Filipina influencers, so I appreciate you, your words, and your beauty! I’m gonna buy one of your Lumma Studio pieces to support! Keep killing it, beautiful! 💕

[@LunaGatuna888]

So glad I came through this video. So true! Currently seeing it like a challenge… I want him to give me the same level of energy and attention he did before and now he doesn’t and is so frustrating why he act like this so many whys I question myself what went wrong … but this person is distant now and I am just obsessed because the more I get ignored the more I get obsessed wanting to know why… what can I do better… it’s horrible to feel this way like I’m wasting all my energy and I want this person out of my head.

[@kelsmichellleee]

See this is why I love you!! Subscribed a year ago when I was going through it, you always deliver & say exactly what I need to hear. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@xmistaxcashxcoll]

Yup never force anything. You can be friend and talk. No touching!

[@vari5509]

Just recently got over someone but began feeling things.... This was the nudge I needed to know I'll be ok. You're helping so many people with these videos :)

[@kaylalaguna21]

I needed to hear this! I’ve spent a lot of mental energy seeking validation. I am glad you have it figured out and can remind me that I gotta water my own garden 🌸

[@Soj-88]

Please please please make more videos. I've seen thousands of videos and this is the best. Keep going. Keep growing. ❤

[@wassabilove1111]

Spitting truth in EVERY SENTENCE omg got a new follower cause you're on my energy💫

[@allieparent4001]

There is actually a guy I met through work who absolutely already treats me like a queen but I told him I’m not ready to date since I just got out of a relationship. I’m here comparing myself to some chick he got with three weeks after we broke up. I got my shit together and faced the pain not walked away. Know your worth you deserve it. My ex ran away from it and treated me like shit. Sometimes I get sad about it but watching these videos when I’m alone makes me feel better

[@extraordinary.9711]

god you’re just in time… i just ended my ex situationship a few days ago and it hurts so much cause i miss him so much. i literally been stalking him and he doesn’t even gaf abt me. tysm girl.

[@adaniiivvv]

Literally going through some situationship type thing right now & this is exactly what I needed to hear! You always say it so perfectly girl. Love this video 🫶🏽 oh and love your hair straight!!!

[@lilgr0ck]

I love your energy. I reallly needed this. I love how you take a situation & look at it with a new perspective. Totally helping me with my confidence being a woman. So much love & positivity.

[@bybyana26]

Im fine being single was single for almost 3 years. I was ready to date. Dated this guy for 4 months when we got to the conversation about being official he all of the sudden didn’t want anything serious. Smh 🤦🏻‍♀️ I took me a bit to let him go completely because I was operating from my ego and scarcity mindset. If we are not self reflective our egos will grab a hold of us. The sooner you let that situation go the better it’ll be.

[@selenagreat5854]

I got dumped a day ago and I am struggling. The urge to text them or go see them is overwhelming. Everyday I hope someday I will be ok with being alone.

[@Mayorals07]

I got dumped two months ago and it still feels like the first day. I understand the feeling of hoping I will be ok in the end, with myself. I get tired of people telling me “the right one will come” like no! I want to be my right one right now lol. We got this.

[@selenagreat5854]

@@Mayorals07 Wow. I felt that. I wanna be my right person now too. Thinking of a relationship right now is gonna make me throw up. I am 3.5 weeks in of no contact and I am so proud of myself. I hope you are doing no contact too. In my experience it helps a lot. It also helps to understand that the person who broke you CANNOT fix you. You have the power to heal yourself! I wish you well on your healing journey! 😁

[@Mayorals07]

@@selenagreat5854 thank you for that! We tried to stay in touch in the beginning. But that was not a good idea and I’m sure it’s part of the reason I am still trying to hold on. I’m only 1 week no contact. It’s hard but I’m looking forward to finally healing. Good luck to you too!

[@josneiryjablonski3324]

write down EVERY bad thing they did to you on your notes app and reread it every time you have the urge to reach out

[@debashreechowdhury2837]

How are you now?

[@shreyamitra9220]

I am so grateful for you , so so grateful. You donot know what this video means to me, and even a lot of your other videos. Thankyouu so much.

[@rebeldope._.]

This was great Lumma! ❤️ Please make a video on how to bring back the energy to myself and stop giving them energy even subconsciously

[@liz46529]

I was heartbroken looking at these videos a while ago, but now these videos are IT!!!! Love this new energy 💪❤🎉

[@masoomakhambati976]

I love hearing your pep talks! You're such an inspiration, Lumma!

[@LauraTrujillobeautyloving]

Devine timing and the universe brought me here! The first video when I opened YT and was just telling myself how I can’t be draining my energy with this person and woke up to this THANK YOU ❤️✨

[@sabrinarobert9623]

I absolutely needed this video along with all your other ones, I absolutely adore you and wouldn't have made it this far on my healing journey without you!!! Love u babes!!

[@dagmarelize]

She’s a QUEEN with really good advice❤ We love these video’s. More pleaseee😊 I’m gonna send this to my bff cause she needs it😂

[@MissEcstatic]

This talk just slaps 100x! Thank you so much!!!! And your voice!!! ❤️

[@317yellowgurl]

This was good! I used to be n think like you. Remember what you love about yourself is the key!! I fell off and lost myself but now I’m ready to be a better version. Thank you beautiful!

[@maxzy44]

I needed to hear this. Intense connection then to be breadcrumbed until it fizzled out to nothing. I regret texting him but it’s done. Going to keep to myself and let him go. He has no ambition or drive. Content living off of others and that’s not attractive.

[@illegirl1792]

Your video made me feel better. One guy I was staying with gosthed me and then I found out several lies from him and he showed up dating another one and he had told me he didn't want a relationship. I'm feeling like garbage and used by him and I've even come to question my worth.But watching that video made me revisit things.

[@shsjshwhwhrgr]

Honestly, being obsessed negatively just proves they might not be worth it. Find peace. I know that bad for you person might be beautiful, very attractive etc. But don't clown yourself. Your intuition really does tell you. If someone doesn't see a future with you, why is that person worth it? They might be fun to go out with a few times but doesn't it get boring😂

[@lionandva4ever29]

I just got out of a FWB situation almost a month a go. And I’m trying to take a break from the guy. And this video really helps kick me in the ass and say “DO THE BREAK”

[@BeautywithAmaris]

Listening to your videos for the first time. Girl you are a GEM!! 💎🩵

[@BeautywithAmaris]

You literally just made me realize what i need to do with my 50/50 bare minimum relationship. It will not be the easiest but guuurl THANK YOU. Will tap back in with you in a week or so!

[@polarbear986]

Oh, I need this right now. You're so wise.

[@JeanKolohiya27]

I really like you, Lumma. Your video makes sense a lot to me. Keep making videos like this. I got you girl 🥰🤍

[@tanyaahuja7424]

Thank you so much Lumma!! Will just say one thing, u give us the confidence we must and should have, keep up this great work!!

[@crystalalberto2230]

Your angel 😢I have been really going through it lately I just wanna forget him for good.

[@mollylamott7583]

i needed this so bad, so glad this came up on recommended

[@jimakos84]

you did mention it in the beginning that it's not necessarily addressed specifically to girls and giiiiiiiiiiirl im not even a girl and i feel empowered by all that you said. great energy :D thanks

[@mayatarin2545]

Girly, it is the first time I have come across you, andd I absolutely loved your pep talk! I felt so called out but I love it because you made me remember my initial mindset and how I was becoming too dependent on that person's breadcrumbs even though I knew they were not meant for me. I just wanted them there for my ego and aaaa girl what you said was spot on! I have healed and focused on myself like the babe boss I am and I feel like the best version of myself. My confidence has been the highest its been and I can truly confirm that the bees are attracted to the flowers of your self-growth and love. Honest,y everything is a lesson so I am grateful that it happened because if it didn't, I would not be the person I am today. I absolutely loved your energy, confidence, and wisdom. Lots of love gorgeous!

[@lummaaziz]

Love this!

[@Eddie_Jo_Torres17]

🙌🙌🙌 I am praising you for speaking the words out of my mouth. I agree and connect with your exact same energy. Amen to you for being such a wonderful beautiful, empress mode- soul. ❤

[@ranahabib645]

you just saved my LIFE with this video. thank you so much

[@yolowithyolanda]

i really needed this because ive been struggling to find videos on how to react after being cheated on, all of this resonated with me, thank you momma

[@joshuaguevara6745]

Girl, I needed this! Thank youuuu! I enjoy watching your videos. You saved me a lot from embarrassment.

[@nicoleotalvaro3293]

You’re videos are really getting me through this

[@reginadzhura6424]

I love you so much and your wisdom! Seriously your videos have gotten me through so many hard things and there are no words to truly describe the positive impact you’ve had. God bless you you angel. Keep making these amazing videos ❤️

[@btsdancestudio5691]

Wow this is so well written. You got so much nat. talent!

[@Fruzsi888]

I want to be as confident as you! But I see how much work you have in it.

[@EmmaM-q1l]

U ARE SO GORGEOUS!!!! I USED TO BE INSECURE ABOUT GIRLS LIKE U BUT NOW I LOOK UP TO THEM!!!

[@veronicawong8669]

in a breakup, i love this, this is exactly what i need to hear. please make more of these!

[@anisafarooq1426]

the bees come to the flowers- I LOVE THAT

[@mealea98]

Hey girl can you do a video on how you managed or procee the pain of someone cheating on you? Like I find it hard to shake off the betrayal..thanks! Love your vids xx

[@anamaelauriaga7541]

Thanks Lumma for sharing this. It gives me clarity on the current state of thinking I have right now.