Manscaping, When You’re Over 40 (Gay & Over 40) Patrick Marano

In this NEW SERIES of Vlogs called Gay & Over 40, we talk manscaping. How have things changed since our 20's? We look at the difference between then and now!
Manscaping for gay men is ritualistic. It's a right of passage and a reflection of the time we are living in. A delicate balance of preference, trends and desire.
But things change, styles change and our bodies change. Let's talk about it!
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[@willbe939]

I love the way you talk so openly and honestly! Watching you is like talking to a good friend! Kudos!

[@PatrickMarano]

Yay! Thank you!

[@amadeusandrew76]

Tuuuuuuue

[@davidmezainis7814]

@@PatrickMarano You look great for being in your early 40s!

[@Idrick-fu7sz]

Thanks

[@chrisallen7911]

Patrick I first watched your bathroom cruising video because I thought , this is ridiculous !, Started watching several others and you are SPOT on for 45 plus! Now I find your humor and ability to talk about any embarrassing subject with such ease is astounding! I never met anyone like you. Your X must be crazy to leave you! Your very nice looking but the fun and confident way you present yourself is utterly charming.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you so much Chris.. I really appreciate the comment!

[@jolro2002]

Put a smile and smirk on my face. Now I need to wait for the sequels, i.e. "When you're over 50", "When you're over 60", etc...

[@kevinhenrich4423]

I am 60 myself and rolling on the floor laughing at this!!!!

[@toadstooltarot]

This is so funny. At one time I would have viewed it maybe as tragic. But one reaches an age where it feels pointless to fight the inevitable and easier just to laugh it off.

[@PatrickMarano]

I'm glad you think so! Thx for commenting!

[@leigh4925]

My life! This guy is brilliant! More power to you.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you! xo

[@batmore1]

Just found your channel. Love your thoughts, your attitude, your honesty and your humor. That fact that you are so damn handsome is just a huge plus!

[@1pelicanmarsh]

AGAIN loving you remark on not worried about the trends/etc. it makes someone so attractive so real life, so relatable!

[@marklicon1329]

Patrick, love your varied and highly informational videos. I’m 54 but didn’t really come out until about the age of 35/36 and I began to realize how much the “closet” kept from view! I recall going to my local gay club in Beaumont, Texas, The Copa, now having been closed for several years and Covid-19 essentially ended other gay clubs as well. I was a total wallflower; but, not knowing anyone or protocol I barely spoke, the bartender was very kind and slowly made me feel at ease, introducing me to regulars and if I wanted, I could hang out at his bar and he’d introduce me to friends and other regulars as they came in (this man became a dear friend, a roommate and one of the best friends I’ve ever made). Well, I learned a lot, fumbled through some of the finer points most gay men don’t often discuss openly and here you are discussing them! You’d have been a godsend back then. The thing that saved me was that I never feared asking questions, no matter how embarrassing or basic, which made me realize how much a guy had to learn. I’m still not sure which animal I’m supposed to be! Thanks for talking about things so openly, comparing from your 20’s to your 40’s (I hope some of the 20 somethings watch and realize they won’t be young forever and the things they tease, or outright are ugly about, will be part of their lives one day). Keep these great nuggets of knowledge videos flowing!

[@vaeItaja]

I just googled 'Patrick Marano young'. I was not dissapointed.

[@PatrickMarano]

lol cheers!

[@izodman]

@@PatrickMarano Ok that got my curiosity and I just searched your name for a pic and a Hansome fella! Still even now- age with grace and class 👍🏿

[@mggentry]

the long eyebrow hairs (I call them wizard hairs) are the ones where the cells replacing the hair have had a minor mutation to no longer know when to stop growing. I had my first in my late 20s. BTW thank you for teaching the children about the horrors of body grooming in the 90s-ish

[@PatrickMarano]

hahaha my pleasure... it was such a chore

[@ricklwoodliff5286]

Just came across your blog. OMG 😳. I’m a fan ,so funny and so right. I’m over 50 now, I’ve stopped manscaping 👇 down there because the belly got in the way. No matter what position I get myself into it’s so funny and terrible at the same time. I huff and puff , when that starts I give up . It’s sucks to get old. Yesterday I was 18 today I’m in my early 50’s what the heck happened?

[@PatrickMarano]

It happens to ALL of us (that's the only thing that keeps me going lol)

[@christopherpericolosi-king4979]

Patrick, you are just so beautiful, smart, and funny! I'm glad you're spreading awareness! I'm just about to turn 41 and some of this stuff just rings true! Hard being gay and 40+!!

[@sandwrson7498]

EVERYTHING that Patrick has said comparing your 20's to the 40's is SPOT ON. Relating to a ken doll looking like a picture instead of a person. Remember the tall white bottle STIFF STUFF no matter how you place your hair , it would stay that why... Patrick is super handsome🥰

[@rodme858]

Omg, your vid is so on point, it’s scary! Thanks for bringing humor to the issues. Just turned a happy 50 and I would not want to be in my 20’s again. Unless, of course, I know what I know now. It does seem unfair at times. And, other times, it seems perfectly timed. Keep up the entertaining content. Love your sense of humor!

[@PatrickMarano]

thanks for that Rod!

[@donald6787]

You were hot in your 20s, you're hot now in your 40s and you'll continue to be handsome the rest of your life.

[@PatrickMarano]

that's very sweet

[@jamesj7518]

Patrick, you are so humorous and relatable --- with some wisdom thrown in. Thank you, Friend!

[@PatrickMarano]

Wow, thank you!

[@Ashley-ip6su]

omg man. classic content. I totally relate. I love it. I am so happy to hear, all of what you were saying. keeping it real,and I love it.

[@PatrickMarano]

thank you!!!

[@shanekelley3055]

Just For Men hair shampoo and also beard wash, has been a god send! Keeps my hair, beard and chest absolutely normal looking. You have to use different styles based on their use...but it works!!!

[@DMichaelHunter]

Patrick: am thoroughly enjoying your vids. Am about to turn 70 and all the things you’ve talked about re: rogue hair is very very true. The brows, nose, ears, your spot on. Be glad you have a fill head of hair. I was chrome dome by the age of 30 which makes rogue hair on ears really noticeable. Bear hugs, David

[@stephenroe8417]

Nasal Hair so true. Nothing in my 20.s and woke up on my 30th Birthday to a nostril forest!!!

[@PatrickMarano]

hahahaha, thanks for making me feel more normal Stephen!

[@stephenroe8417]

Not too normal I hope!

[@tommunyon2874]

Waaaay past 40, and my current 'sig-oth' much admires my hip-to-hip triangle of man fur. Our generation was not into grooming anything below the collar bone.

[@PatrickMarano]

Right on Tom! Love it!

[@kaleogagne4429]

OMG you are hysterical.....I feel the same way!!!!! I am bald then I find 3 inch ear hair...OMG my eyes are going as well!!!!

[@stevenbennett1403]

Love your videos!

[@cityguyusa]

20s vs 40s vs 60s. Nobody shaved anything in their 20s. Most of us (my friends and I) didn't shave much in our 40's. I asked my bf at the time to shave my hole and he was grossed out. I was thinking how good a tongue would feel on my shaved hole. So I did it myself and a few days later I regretted my choice as it grew back in. No one much cares in their 60s. A few shave their balls which I like either way and it does feel good when you are shaved they are so sensative BUT my ball hairs don't grow smooth out of my balks so if I shave them they bleed profusely. It's just easier and safer to not shave them for me.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for sharing!

[@flag5488]

I’m very blessed in that I’m not a bear, and I very little hair on my body.

[@frankcorrea8691]

What is all the fuss about having body hair?😮

[@rosspowell5586]

So cool. So real. So funny. When u collate all ur casts and finish the movie script who do u want to play u???

[@PatrickMarano]

Adam Driver?

[@markusskand9773]

this is the most REAL video !!

[@BaskingInObscurity]

KK, I'll remember that next time I play Charades. :) I got my first gray hairs at age 17 and had a distinct patch people sometimes thought was fake by 21. There was never a point in fighting it. LOL

[@RatchetRalph]

I love this series!!!!

[@wiredcoma]

New Subscriber Here, So glad I stumbled across your channel. I just binged alot of your videos and it's awesome to see someone just be themselves, while talking about various topics that gay men experience. 😉

[@PatrickMarano]

thanks so much!

[@michaelm6471]

Love your channel. I totally understand what you are talking about since I am 55. Though I bet the time you spent doing this video and the I took to watch this could have spent on manscaping more of our bodies lol 😆 yes you picked up a new subscriber 😀

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks Michael! I'm just happy other people can relate to what I'm talking about... it's not just me! lol

[@1pelicanmarsh]

I realize this video is not new but I just saw it. was funny as hell....I think from the aspect of someone I consider so attractive, seemingly immune to all that. Ive thought all this/lived all this, etc! I loved the tone of this as it makes you such a real person!!! Thanks!

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you for watching!

[@bernardantol4345]

Oh darlin’… how you always make me smile. 🐮

[@davidd6759]

Awesome vid! And spot on! I'm loosing hair on my legs and thinning pubes, but gaining it in all the odd places you mentioned. Ugh. Its a constant challenge. I was never super hairy, but liked the hair I had. Lol. The chest hair I do have is now turning grey, which I really don't mind, but does age me I guess. Love your channel! ❤

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you for writing David!

[@kevinhenrich4423]

wait till you have that day when your grey chest hairs pop through your polo shirt!!! ROFL

[@newworldlove7031]

Hi Patrick, loving your channel content as not many people cover over 40's gay niche! I remember holidaying in West Hollywood and everyone was smooth but I had a lot of body hair. Now working with a Lazer technician to remove stubborn back hair. Just bought your lazer machine to work on neck and shoulders. In UK you need a morgagage to pay for Lazer treatments!! 🇬🇧😉🙏

[@lornarthur3252]

Love these over 40 videos...in some ways I cans sooo relate...

[@flyjet787]

Cracking up! LOL. It's all true! (I have every issue you mention and I'm German/Irish).

[@victordepaul1061]

I’m all Italian, I’ve got rogue hairs popping out in all those places😮😮😮

[@kevinhenrich4423]

Just turned 60 and am ROFL I love watching your videos, this series is great keep up the great topics...Wish I had hair! mine fell out in the 80's

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for watching!

[@tomwebber9377]

Once I hit 50 I couldn't have cared less. I'm a very hairy man and it's what I have to work with, and it works. My goatee is gray/silver and my hair is still the same color it's always been, with more silver in it, but still largely in tact. Back hair, ear hair, nose hair........everywhere! I'm single and I don't feel like managing it all for someone else's approval. I'm the trifecta of every gay man's nightmare: A little overweight, very hairy, & single. Toss in the bite guard and CPAP and I'm sex on a stick!

[@PatrickMarano]

but you have an awesome sense of humour... and that is very important!!!

[@matthewdarnell3535]

Omg! Your comment made me spit out my coffee! That was so funny! I’m also a little scared because I think I need a bite guard! Ugh

[@leatherob1962]

I'm dead, tip of the nose, on ear earlobes, rouge 3 inch long eyebrow hair. OMG yes, I have it all and I'm not even a hairy guy.

[@Lorenzo11281]

Your so Right Completely yes he’s change so much that sometimes I don’t care

[@MilanOfCreagan]

omfg, you are so hilarious. Think I can relate to every single thing you mentioned lol . Eyebrows are there to protect one's eyes from water (rain and sweat) getting into them I believe. Love getting grey myself

[@PatrickMarano]

Grey is so distinguished and tells the world 'look bitch, I've been around and I've earned these greys, so get outta my way... oh and also, I don't care what you think!' lol It's kinda liberating

[@MilanOfCreagan]

I'm probably exception to the rule. I find grey hair very sexy. Hate when my partner (supported by his mother) dies his hair and beard 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ On the other hand cant stand thick hair on a back,neck, shoulders and upper arms #RugDolls 👼🏼

[@KevinFuller7]

I am LOLing soooo hard at the eyebrow hairs! I have a crazy follicle that spurts out a 2 inch hair, on my forehead... overnight!

[@PatrickMarano]

Right?! How and why!!!?? lol

[@MikeInOZ1968]

Hey Patrick. Loved the video and yes I totally relate to mutant hairs! 🙄🤦🏻‍♂️. FYI, I was reading a few articles online that explain the ‘mystery’! As your cells replicate and continue to copy themselves as you get older, they sometimes accidentally mutate and forget if they are skin cells or hair cells. I suppose some of them just think ‘ahhhhh fuck it, I wanna be a hair cell now’!! 😋🤷🏻‍♂️. It’s a little bit more scientific than that that’s the basic idea 🙂. Thanks fir all the great vids (all the way from Australia 👏🏻🇦🇺🦘)

[@PatrickMarano]

hahahaha, omg, or maybe the cells are getting old and have alzheimer's ...

[@gajlambert9474]

Great, original and informative channel Patrick. You have the beautiful skin of a man in his 20’s. Secret?

[@PatrickMarano]

Wow, thank you! I don't do much.. exfoliate, wash, sunscreen (when I remember it...)

[@ljrockstar69]

Great video and topic, maybe you can do how skin changes in your 40s vs. 20s. For me I pay attention to crows feet and eye bags, etc.

[@PatrickMarano]

Great idea!

[@danielely3807]

OMG, this is the funniest video I've watched in a loooong time! Why is it funny? For a lot of reasons, but most importantly because it's all true!!! 🤣🤣🤣. 'You're just tired!' 🤣🤣🤣. I'm 45 by the way, so I relate completely 🤪😁🤣. The bad part is that I'd just moisturized and then I got all crying-laughing, I may have to do it again! 🤪😉🤣

[@PatrickMarano]

omg, I'm glad you could relate... it's not just me! lol

[@patrickturner136]

So another change as someone who is *well* over 40: In my 20s every morning before I'd shower I'd go on "zit patrol". In other words, has anything new come in overnight that needed attention. Now, like you said, it's HAIR PATROL. Check the nose, check the ears, trim the eyebrows. I'm glad the zits went away but this hair nonsense is nuts. Speaking of, I've nearly given up on manscaping. Being married for 25 years, I'm just not worried about it. I do still trim about every 3 months just for comfort because if left to it's own devices it get CRAZY long. But yeah, no more nights squatting over a mirror for me.

[@PatrickMarano]

First of all... congrats on 25 years!!! That's amazing!! Also, I'm glad I'm not alone in this hair thing! lol (but I still do squat over a mirror from time to time)

[@TXPeter]

It's like we go through a second puberty with all these weird hairs popping up in places we never even thought about LOL. Honestly though, time and age will temper one's vanity. There are more important things in life to worry about a rogue ear hair and you learn that after 40. Men who are in decent to excellent physical shape look even more masculine and sexy with hair on their body. It surprises me how many men trim and shave excessively only to find that many other men love that fur. Embrace that salt and pepper hair color guys -- it is sexy as hell and there are plenty of young bucks that LOVE it. Whatever your preference, a sexy mature man hairy or smooth, is beautiful.

[@markharty9772]

I love you so much Patrick. Wait until you turn 60.

[@lesperonis1146]

Patrick, I must say I have been literally on the floor laughing 😂 Thank you so much ! Wow mate you are very entertaining 👌👍👏 you are one amazing story teller, I have now subscribed cos I want to laugh and laugh ....... some more ! I look forward to more of yor entertainment , you are one very talented dude 😅 once again Thank you 🎉👏

[@PatrickMarano]

My pleasure! I'm so happy you like my channel! xo

[@maxshadow...]

OMG...Everything you're talking about is point on with me. Maybe it's the part Italian thing, I don't know. But yes, when I was younger we were supposed to be clean and minimal hair. Now I have to trim back hair (what, yes back hair. I never had back hair), shoulder hair, ear hair in and out, nose hair in and out...etc. Constantly trimming eyebrows. Literally everything you said is so on point. And yes, balls have been shaven like forever. Even with guys I get with can't have hairy balls and I like my men even older than me, so it's even worse.

[@PatrickMarano]

Omg, we're living the same experience! Why all the access hair? shouldn't life make it easier for us as we get older hahaha

[@christopherboada7921]

Patrick, at least you have hair on your head to fret about! I'm from a generation before yours and I began to lose my hair at 17, but just embraced it. There's no way to fight your genetics. Don't you worry, though. You're going to look great with salt n pepper.

[@KevinFuller7]

and now the ear hairs have me rolling on the floor!!!! You're not the only one.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank god!

[@43erasfred]

Hi Patrick. LOL loved this vid. 54 and as far as you are talking I see myself. Been asking myself that same questions for years. granted I am naturally hairy but hate the hair in the ears, on top of the ears and he Lobes. and to top it all in spite of being hairy i'm bold as well so if the hair gets long I have the bold spot on top of my head with hair standing in all directions in a permanent bedhead manner doesnt matter what I do. luckily i have a hairdresser that i go to once a month cutting down to a nr 2 comb on the clipper and all the other hairy problems gets taken care of as well. loved telling of hair problems well done.

[@izodman]

Over 40= more hair everywhere! I swear I see hair coming in places I hardly had any. Def seem like more work to manscape now. Even little things like a simple underwear now has to be comfortable…I went from tighty whities, bikini going down the my crack, regular brief, boxer briefs to now and depending on what day it is, don’t even want to wear any! It’s all about comfort now in my 40s.

[@jeffbrennan1123]

Great Vlog Patrick. You unfortunately it only gets worse on body hair. I’m 62 and I’m still finding hairs showing up in places I never had hair 🤷‍♂️.

[@DMichaelHunter]

Wait till you’re 70 as I now am. 😁. What you say about 40’s is true, it gets crazier as you age. 😘

[@fabiesque]

Love your vids. You sound shallow at a first "glance". But then one grasps you have a very multilayered personality. I wish I had you as friend! (-:

[@PatrickMarano]

well, we can be friends!

[@MrMoelbach]

Don’t due your hair. Gray is beautiful and it gives personality. Not that you need it. But accept the signs of matureness.

[@animeprince7866]

LOL The heart and will of a 20-something and the body and energy of a 44 year old. Still, this video is sooo truthful. Rogue eyebrows are real. Because we become neanderthals after 40 to show we have become as ancient as those museum cavemen. =P

[@PatrickMarano]

Haha, yup pretty much!

[@Mcfreddo]

I hate manscaping- pubes and chest n such. Ear hair and nose and the shoulders for me, but love the bush. Off is a turn off.

[@PatrickMarano]

Ya! Not sure why the bald pubic area is so popular... actually I do... it's so the D looks bigger, lol

[@Mcfreddo]

@@PatrickMarano When I hit puberty, the turn on was young adults/adults in all their natural manliness. That's how I still see it- the person I mean and the natural.

[@hoangvu3121]

So glad to discover your channel. Very transparent and funny and honest. And thank god I'm Asian so i dont have that much hair😁

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for watching!

[@Shane-cv8ig]

I can totally relate, I was a "dancer", in the late 90's. Not a, by the airport dancer, but close enough. I would never have that kind of energy to put into hair removal. So this year I set out on a "Bosidin" adventure. There was not much else to do, on the weekends. As long as your hair is dark, and your skin is light, it works great. IPL works fantastically. I would say since January, I am 85% less hairy, where I intend to be. I think it will take me a year, but it will all be gone. What little hair that has grown back, is almost invisible. I think I paid about 450. for it. So when people ask me what I did during covid. I probably will not tell them, but I will always remember this was the year, I cleared the garden. Thanks for sharing! S

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey Shane! Thanks for sharing your story, I might be doing a video soon on IPL

[@Shane-cv8ig]

@@PatrickMarano That would be great to see. I researched devices, and there were very few male reviews. We need to know these things. Sadly, I was down to the twice a year clip down. I was disturbed, by the amount of hair I removed. I am not even very hairy. I obviously left an appropriate amount of hair, but I actually did my armpits first. I thought that would be a good test. When I did the first shave, which I never have done. I thought, this will probably be an ingrown situation. Not a single one. Fast forward, I probably have 5 armpit hairs, total. The same with extreme nether regions. How did we not know this? Thanks for keeping it real!

[@andresaragon2199]

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[@StrongWarmSmile]

Patrick, I watched some of your videos for the first time tonight. You are right on about gay men over 40, and you are hilarious. I get everything you said about manscaping, etiquette in bath houses, yadda, yadda. I'm in my 70s, and I have hair growing in spots that would make a porn star blush. Jeese.

[@PatrickMarano]

OMG, thanks for sharing and watching LOL

[@internetomatic]

Death in Venice? Casual Thomas Mann namedrop in a beauty video? Bruh. Instant sub lmao

[@PatrickMarano]

hahaha cheers!

[@gilbertmiller390]

I was a redhead all my life and hated it so in the 90s I bleached it this blond color or so I thought it was blond but more strawberry blonde. But thank god all the other hair was blond and still is to this day. I laughed so hard when you mentioned the rogue eyebrows and nose hairs….. lmao😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Randy22124]

Great video! It is so nice to have you talk about men’s issues when over forty. It feels like gay men over 40 are treated by other gay men like they don’t exist, especially where sex is concerned. I have ALL of the same issues as you (hair coming out of everywhere). I shave my chest, abs, back, and as of 6 months ago, all of my pubic hair. Also my ears nose etc. I get those long stray eyebrow hairs and some white eyebrow hair. I cut those off and the white hair to the root. It all gets worse the older I get. Also trim my the hair in my arm pit. I really like your style. You have a nice voice and you openly talk about things that most men are embarrassed to talk about. I have just subscribed and I am eagerly looking forward to seeing more. I wish you were a friend. You seem like someone that would be fun to be around. 😄😉⚡️🌈🤸🏼‍♀️👍🚀

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you for the kind message Randy, I really appreciate it! I hope I don't disappoint!

[@kevincook8888]

It's a shame. I'm not an attractive man at all, but personally I love hairy guys! THE HAIRIER, THE BETTER!!!!

[@mikefields2243]

54 here. I trim everything and when I can, I get a manzillian. But I feel ya with the weird random hairs. For the eyebrows I run my body trimmer over them to keep them one length and weed out rogue 1.

[@garethjones1392]

I have discovered one hair appear from nowhere in that middle gap between my eyebrows. Also the rogue hairs on the edge of my ears. Don’t even get me started on the grey and white pubic hairs. Also why when I shave my moustache area is it tougher hair to shave nowadays leaving me with very dry skin in that area although I still can’t grow a proper beard. Toenails are now a bugger to cut, can barely reach them. I’m still hairless on the chest. Thankful for a full head of hair though. Have now subscribed as your videos speak to me as a gay man in my 40s here in the UK 🙂🌈

[@seanbryant2848]

What you are describing about the hair in your 40's is exactly what I experienced back 20 some-odd years ago when I was in my 40's... exactly... especially on the bridge of my nose... I call them "the witch hair" when they sprout out. You know, the caricature of the cartoon witch with the hook nose and the lone hair sprouting out the middle of the bridge of her nose, and the hair always pointed forward and down... also the ear hair... and the bushel of hair on the very inside of the upper nostrils... I swear... LOL... just wait until you hit your 60's... then there's the Wilford Brimley eyebrows that grow out of control, and the Leonid Breshnev unibrow... honestly...

[@PatrickMarano]

hahahahaha, the witch hair... that's exactly it!

[@kevinolive]

😲 indeed! all the hair. I'd say it is more frustrating being bald. hair doesn't grow on top of my head (where I'd like it to be) but all these rogue hairs growing all over the place. Around 45 my boyfriend wanted me to have a beard but I didn't like the gray. being in the hair and styling biz, he brought home some dye. it turns out that I have a bad reaction to some dye being on my face-very red and sore. so no more die-but mascara did an okay job of covering up the gray but can be problematic leaving black smudges

[@PatrickMarano]

OMG Kevin... what a journey for you, lol. I think some gray in the beard is sexy! I mean... better to have some gray in the beard than leaving mascara marks on your clothes lol

[@kevinolive]

I had a beard for less than a year. And only colored it occasionally. I used to tell people that complained about grey hair “ better grey than gone”. That was before I started going grey. 😂

[@juanramos.jr.7948]

I am sitting here listening to you, lmao. Because it sounds like you're describing me. Honey, l still take care of myself , but l left so much of that behind. I luv ya!! Keep doing what you do. 🤣🤣🤣🤣❤❤❤❤

[@gilbertmiller390]

Laugh my ass off this is one of your best videos.

[@PatrickMarano]

haha cheers

[@rolfhogfeldt7645]

Too funny....,. But absolutely TRUE!!!

[@johnnyboyvan]

I can totally relate being 57. It is strange but men are finding me more and more desirable. I was stunning in my 20s, 30s and 40s...boyish, but now I look as one guy said, "distinguished". Don't pluck it, just cut it.

[@PatrickMarano]

Stunning? wow, then it's no wonder you still look good

[@zzzaaayyynnn]

Truth! It gets harder with fewer results! So just expect less, haha.

[@daniellogan3085]

I’m in my 50’s and would hate to share the thousands of dollars I spent in my twenties to look like a Falcon model. Now, I couldn’t care less…lol

[@RidgewayInMedia]

I'm the other way. In my 20's, I just showered and shaved and that was my entire grooming regime. Nowadays, my goodness, hours and hours and hundreds of pounds a month. And my head is shaved clean anyway so heaven knows how much I'd be spending if I had hair. But I feel great, so.....

[@Jusell]

Oh my God! This is new 🤯

[@PatrickMarano]

lol, ya! I'm starting a new playlist called "Gay & Over 40" just to mix it up for myself. I needed to try something new. It's more of a Vlog about the difference between our 20s and 40s.

[@Jusell]

@@PatrickMarano I'm fascinated by this project! I felt identified 🙈

[@MJ-qb5ph]

I have a different take. I know a few people (two gay and one lesbian) and through how they have handled adversity they have thrived. In their 60s they look 40

[@tomjay63]

The struggle is real.

[@captcook4718]

Try Manscaping in your late 60's. I was aux naturale until about 10+ years ago. Then the trees started growing out of my ears and nostrils. Eeuu! Now I shave the shaft and sack (some people have the audacity to complain about hairs between their teeth). When I was young, hairs were just expected and spit out. I also have to shave parts of my chest and stomach so I'm bi-symmetrical again. And where/when did those 3" long hairs down the middle of my lower spine come from? Shaving there, where you can't see, is whole other story. I just found your channel a week ago and I'm really enjoying it. Thanks for your truthful style. BTW, I'm surprised you are in your 40's. the Captain

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey Captain, thank you for the comment and the warning of what's to come LOL

[@kahunadad]

You are so right, Patrick ! I'll be 60 in a year, and the random hairs Are crazy! Between the Muppet eyebrows that need mowing twice a month, to those terrifying earhairs that are hard as hell to pull out! But now it's mostly white hair so it's even easier to see. As a good thing to mention, those things aren't nearly as drastic a change from 40 to 60, as it was from 20 to 40. So your battle won't get much worse.

[@PatrickMarano]

phew, thanks for that

[@kahunadad]

@Patrick Marano , anytime ! Glad to help !

[@juixystardust5305]

The gym craze gym bunny phase came off the heels of the AIDS crisis. Some men and those with internalized homophobia pursued the muscular masculine physique, in hopes of presenting healthy .

[@PatrickMarano]

thank you for enlighten us with gay history xo

[@izodman]

I’ve never waxed but trim because I’m not hairy. Im a black man and we get them too, probably not as hairy compared to other guys but I def see more coming in. I remember my roommate back in the day tho, he had salt and pepper hair on head, brown hair on legs and auburn red pubes he used to say he’s a mutt :) fortunately I’m getting more bushy down south that I just trim to keep it looking clean looking. I use to shave 🪒 but I can’t handle the itching when it grows back so I trim and only shave balls bc I like the feeling of smoothness there.

[@tom-ss2mn]

I definitely relate to this video lol

[@danielhill9254]

Omg you have a podcast don't you? True Gay Crime? I listened to almost your whole first season on Spotify a while back. Then like a few weeks ago I randomly watched one of your videos here and I thought "Patrick Marano, that name sounds familiar" Then the last few days your voice has sounded like I had heard it before and finally tonight I put 2 and 2 together. Wow I am so dumb lol. I actually found you two different ways and didn't realize you were the same person. My mind is blown.

[@PatrickMarano]

omg, lol, that is totally something I would do! How did you like the podcast? I had to shelve it for now cuz KZbin is keeping me too busy...

[@danielhill9254]

@@PatrickMarano I really enjoyed it and I was looking forward to a season 2 but you are really popular here on KZbin so I see why you don't have much time for it. But it was fun, I got my sister to listen as well and she liked it too. Much love Patrick, I wish you all the success!

[@RJ1999x]

Natural bush is beautiful 👍👍

[@asparra]

I love listening to you it is like talking to your best friend I’m smooth naturally German Mexican . A lot of Italians are hairy I wouldn’t sweat it you’re a tractive anyway I do love your humor

[@therepguy1]

You currently have really great looking hair! You repeatedly point out those little fun things in life! But never fear wait till your my age, which at present is a young 76 at present! I so enjoy your stories! Should your ever find yourself down here in Houston me a shout out! Later! Rick

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey Rick! Thank you so much for the invite.. so sweet. and thank you for watching!

[@c12055]

Has my manscaping change since my 20,s- HELL YA... I came out at 34 so I learned to work my bod to the new gay world of the 2000s (the year I came out) LOL. !! Been with my partner for 13 years now.. I no longer die my head hair, I Let the grey come in, and actually like it.., body trimming, when I feel like it... oh and those rogue hairs.. those things are a mystery.. one moment they are not there, the next they are HUGE.. OMG. Manscaping at 55 is more personal than for others. Legs I use to trim, shave, wax, etc or any product I could get to remove all my hair, OH the things we use to do. I remember sharing with my cousin what I do to get ready for a "date" she said " I would hate to be gay" that way too much work LOL ..... Now I just do what I want when I want, for me.. Great REAL Vlog... Patrick - Cheers

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey Phil, thanks for commenting! It's changed a lot for me too! I suppose the look was also pretty hairless at the time and that's changed a bit. There's more variety now which is nice. I've been pretzeled in front of so many mirrors trying to reach those 'hard to reach areas'. lol I mean, when you're bleaching your butt hair you know you've gone too far (and thought wayyyy too much about it) Keep in touch Phil!

[@kevini4295]

Patrick I love you. I am 44. I'm not an old man, but I feel it sometimes.

[@martinsanchez3379]

Hilarious. I so feel you lol . 57 here and yup to all! And yeah sum Italian DNA here too. Lol . Lol dying! 🤣⚰️⚰️⚰️ I also had an orange butt and dark legs. Yup would love a lush bush n pits but it ain’t happening nowadays…. Now the hair sprouts outta my EARS! Ugh! And NOSE!

[@garyzenhobo668]

🤣😆🤣 you're the only other gay men I know besides myself that tackles these issues! I regale my friends and coworkers with stories of what I call my Edward Asner eyebrows and werewolf-like ears! Lmao!

[@PatrickMarano]

haha, no one wants to talk about it cuz it's not cute. But we all deal with some form of it, so let's talk!

[@garyzenhobo668]

@@PatrickMarano it has been so freeing, to accept the natural aging process (in my case, weight gain, loss of hair, gray hair, E.D. , etc) after years of grieving this or that as it came along. Again, Bravo! I used to have a KZbin program ("The Lavender Table") and my tagline was: "let's keep the conversation going"... So I do so appreciate your candor.

[@justcarlos73]

I was that freeze framed hair90’s young adult. ♻️

[@ragnard5668]

Trust me, the older we get - the worse it gets!

[@glenpeteroak]

You are a great looking guy. A natural hairy guy is great.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you!!

[@chuckscheeringa6094]

Nah! Love hairless men except around the balls, ( CHEST HAS TO BE HAIRLESS LIKE PATRICK) I get goosebumps & my lips 💋 get wet yummy 🥰😍❤❤

[@rhandcock1760]

I was born in the late 40,s never ever have I manscape. And I could never understand why people specially men be proud of what God gave you

[@carlsbad7113]

I can relate to every word of this. I'm not terribly hairy, so I've never had to shave anything completely down but now that I'm in my 50s I just keep things trimmed nice and neat. Clippers with a low guard are your friend. As far as grooming the eyebrows, ears, and nose hair I have found a visit to the girl at the waxing studio once a month or so is a nice little treat. I decided to spare the neighbors me sitting on the patio (lighting was good) with a magnifying mirror and tweezers pulling hair out of my nose.

[@PatrickMarano]

hahaha, OMG, I'm picturing you outside plucking your nose hair and the neighbours being disgusted!!! That's awesome. I literally bring the magnifying mirror out from the bathroom and into the living room (where's there's a big window and lots of natural light) to do just that!