People Share Their Epiphany Moment That It Was Time To BreakUp With Their Partner/MUST WATCH

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[@activistgranny2.066]

Being single doesn't suck.

[@lovebug1180]

I'm with you on that!! 💯😊

[@Childfree334]

I divorced my ex husband the moment he changed his mind about wanting kids. I am not about to sacrifice my body or livelihood for any man in that way. Millions of women get left to be single mothers by men who say they want kids, so no way was I chancing it. As a black woman, the odds would not have been in my favor. The divorce took less than 5 months and my intuition was spot on. He got a woman pregnant (didn't marry her) and left her to be a single mom when the baby girl was not even 4 months old. So glad I stuck to my conviction about being childfree.

[@Yelkz367]

OMG I'm sooooo glad you dodged that bullet!! Good girl!

[@lulul0l039]

Wishy washy people are sure regret their decision, even If they aren't the ones doing lionshare. If they have minimum social consequences for abandoning their family too, there's no way someone who is short-term validation seeker will tough it out.

[@queenlj12jax97]

Good for you! You are a success story because you saved yourself! 🏆

[@simeonbusano7338]

🎉🎉🎉 proud of you

[@cvzdez]

On average blk men that leave women leave after the age of 2. Him and your jeazy beat the lowest time table

[@queenlj12jax97]

Did she say he had a 5-year affair with her mom???!!! Eww

[@Kontroversial84]

I don't see how she just glossed over that.

[@lulul0l039]

​@@Kontroversial84 I guess it was "Well, that happened and they're both dead to me now"

[@queenlj12jax97]

@@Kontroversial84 It blew my mind, too. She also said she grew up in an evangelical church. That might explain her willingness to put up with such gross bs while praying for a change that didn't come.

[@CiaobellaAmour]

I had to pause on that part because shiiiiid😮

[@manifest2203]

Yeah Evangelical people 😂 Somehow only the wife has to be Christian and never commit a sin. Everyone else can behave however they want to 😂

[@SH-zp1hl]

These therapists be wildin!!! Asking someone's husband if the wife needs to up her dose is highly UNETHICAL!!! I ditched my therapist who tried to force me to forgive someone. That is not their job!!!

[@melaninmoxiellc963]

Forgiveness is a necessary part of healing, but it's a PROCESS, not an event, and much like grief, you can't rush someone into its completion, so good for you for ditching that therapist!

[@awg7068]

@@melaninmoxiellc963 I will respectfully decline to agree. Trying to forgive someone who is neither remorseful nor willing to curb the behavior. I reserve the right to move forward without forgiving, I simply forget that they are still alive.

[@melaninmoxiellc963]

@@awg7068 I understand your viewpoint. However, unforgiveness carries with it the element of holding on to the hurt and injustice, which keeps you shackled to the pain, which isn't fair to you. Moreover, ignoring someone's existence is merely a coping mechanism which doesn't destroy the pain at its root...it only anestheticizes it. This is where unilateral forgiveness comes into play. It is the ability to release yourself completely (through the blood of Jesus as sufficient payment of all sin-debt) from people who've hurt you but lack the self awareness, introspection, and empathy to realize or admit their wrongs. It is what Jesus did on the cross for our sins, and although it is difficult, I pray and hope that some day you'll be able to do that and truly heal. God bless you. ❤️🙏🏾

[@awg7068]

@@melaninmoxiellc963 appreciated, but it never has for me because I moved right on and didn't think about the person ever again. I felt much better without the toxic person in my life, so the problem is solved, and I don't have to think about it again. Better yet, I didn't have to go through the torture of trying to make myself forgive someone who wasn't even asking for it.

[@obSYDIann_]

When my therapist told me that I need to communicate how I feel with the person I know to be a compulsive liar I saw red. Like how are you supposed to be helping people but giving out detrimental advice?? Smdh

[@Heykay34]

They always switch up after pregnancy

[@lostandfond2163]

Major facts

[@amandasunshine2]

Exactly. I saw this video of a woman saying we need to vet during the dating stage, like she doesn't know men literally say anything to get what they want 🙄

[@Alixir1228]

Indeed

[@shaysmitt7936]

I left when my ex who was a father of 2(I have no children, but helped raised his youngest child that he was abandoned with) decided that when I was getting my master’s degree and needed 4 months to focus that he would pick up an extra job. Mind y’all , our bills were not even $1100/month back then and I bought the food, paid cell, and car insurance. Anyways , I did all of the cooking , cleaning , child rearing , etc and I simply asked him to make sure that he picks up his plate and put it into the sink to be washed …. He said “ I work two jobs , I shouldn’t have to pick up my plate “. I saw red , but calmly said “Okay” , and moved out 2 weeks later into my own spot on campus. Never looked back and never dated destitute entitled men again.

[@lulul0l039]

👏Beautifully done He thought he had you locked down, could treat you like servant and you proved him wrong

[@NG-th8ny]

Brilliant! Fantastic anecdote. You’ve empowered many women sharing that. Well done you!

[@queenlj12jax97]

Another success story! Kudos to you! 🏆

[@manifest2203]

Yes. This is what many married women deal with. But they can’t leave because it is their own children. Good for you for seeing through the BS ❤

[@unicorn73212]

Yeah he should actually because he's an adult if you work two jobs you should know how to wash your own plate by now people that work two jobs are stupid anyways it's actually harder to get ahead like that with two jobs because sometimes one of the companies will pull you off the schedule if they think there over working you. In some situations your money actually goes down not up if the hours are not guaranteed. Of course I don't expect men to understand what it's like to be ripped off like that because people just hand them hours and half the time when there at work they will slack off if they know there's more women picking up after them at work too. Not all of them work construction or heavy labored jobs some of them make coffee, flip burgers, empty trash and ring up groceries for a living and they want the royal treatment for stuff women have been doing sense the dawn of time.

[@isthisreallystillathing5060]

The black woman with the lengthy story was really wild. I am curious if she ever spoke to his first wife. Women GOTTA start talking to one another. That “our relationship is not your business” is a sure fire way to have common stories.

[@mogulmade]

Women think that are special. They believe men that they are better than the other woman. They deserve everything they get. I've sat with enough sisters to know we think we are better than "the ex".

[@queenlj12jax97]

You're so right. Sometimes women who have a history with the same man see each other as automatic adversaries when calm, reasonable communication could make them allies.

[@azureavocado5195]

@@mogulmade this is also why they don’t take femicide and domestic murder seriously as it happens to OTHER women. Because they think they are so special it will never happen to them.

[@ellanina801]

Exactly.

[@NARCMECENTRAL]

I absolutely agree. I feel this way with my ex NARCs new supply that just had a baby. She started acting like him 1yr in when she started being disrespectful. She might actually be a Narc too as she purposely trying like him to keep me from our daughter. Kinda giving off Averyana vibez from that case where she had her husband kill her stepdaughter because of jealousy but I'm a girls girl so I'm just waiting till she wakes up with one step child, one she just had and no ring to show. I would've been her if I would've let him stalk me back into that rship. Kinda glad I ditched and chose myself and my kid. I watch him every time he uses her and my daughter against me. It is truly sickening as a mother to watch. They're 6 years into the rship...he quoted marriage and called her his fiance only in court for views. No ring on the finger and no wedding date set. He spoke of marriage 1 year ago. Smh I WANT to see the wedding happen. At least for Her and her child for protection. There are more laws protecting married women but she's about to hit common law

[@mogulmade]

Going to counseling with someone who cheated on you long term, NEVER WORKS. Why do I have to do work to rebuild trust that you broke! When I find out that you lied to my face repeatedly, and if you gaslight me? IT IS OVER!!!! NO CHANCE OF RECONCILIATION.

[@Childfree334]

I never understood that either. Cheaters are always in the wrong. If you can't talk to your mate about relationship issues, then end the relationship/marriage. Problems are not solved by cheating, then gaslighting the other person into "counseling" when you know you are wrong wreaks of narcissism.

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

It can if they are genuinely repentant and willing to be accountable and transparent. I realise this rarely happens

[@Childfree334]

@victoriaogunsanya9074 I don't know any situation where a woman has forgiven a man for cheating where he hasn't cheated again.

[@martymcfly5764]

Exactly. It's not even the $ex that's the worst part about cheating imo. To me it's the sneaking around and lying. The fact that you can be watching a movie or having dinner or even snuggling in bed with someone and they can be making plans or sexting with someone while they are only inches away from you. It happened to me, so I know what it feels like. A few years back I was in a relationship with a hobosexual from out of state who literally came here with nothing. No family, no friends, no money, no car, no place to live. NOTHING. I took him in and was an amazing friend and eventually partner to him. This man would look into my eyes and tell me that I was his best friend, the only real friend he ever had, his soul mate, his future wife and his everything. and that he couldn't imagine his life without me. A few months after he moved in, I caught him in several lies, and then one night I walked in on him video chatting with a girl who was at least ten years younger than him. The conversation was sexual in nature. I confronted him and he foolishly decided to take his audacity a step further and mouth off to me and disrespect me. And I lost it. I won't tell you what I did, but let's put it this way: I could have ended up in prison for it if things had gone any further. Luckily I showed restraint and stopped myself before it was too late. But it was a real close call, and let's just leave it at that. The worst part is that I looked in his phone and discovered that not only was this not the first time, but that it had been going on the entire time I had known him. I was devastated. Just the fact that someone could treat me like that after everything I had done for them and all the love, support and friendship I had shown them was heartbreaking. But also infuriating. Because how fking dare you. I even developed PTSD from the relationship because he had begun to change and subjected me to a lot of narcissistic abuse. It's been over five years and I still haven't been able to forgive myself or let go of my anger. The depression and rage I experience due to all the guilt, shame and regret is inexplicable. I just started therapy because I realize that I am stuck in the past and I need help so that I can move on and leave this all behind me. It will be hard though because I still can't believe that I ever allowed someone to treat me so badly. I am completely disgusted with myself.

[@lostandfond2163]

@@Childfree334honestly they see it as a “go ahead.” I’ve heard married, single, and relationship men say that they think this or Atleast that they wouldn’t respect a woman that would take them back for cheating. (If they had any modicum of respect in their mind for them.)

[@jswan312]

Sadly, I would never trust a therapist again, unless I find out first her take on the patriarchy and feminism. Asking a woman’s husband if she needs more drugs, and suggesting that’s the solution, should be criminal.

[@Simpliyvonne]

Yeah I’m staying single 😩

[@ana-nim]

I left my 7 years long relationship (it was my choice to never get married, i don't trust men enough to officially tie myself to them) after my ex didn't hug me at the hospital. I was hospitalized with my esophagus being ruptured, it was a nightmare, my first time ever in the hospital, i was very scared, exhausted, crying, i wasn't allowed to even drink water for several days, and when my ex showed up and i leaned to him asking him to hug me he put his hand on my shoulder. Like I'm his buddy or something. After 7 years of being together he PUT HIS HAND ON MY SHOULDER! This was the moment when i realized that he doesn't care about me and doesn't have any empathy for me. Breaking up was the best decision ever. Im fine now and almost recovered.

[@manifest2203]

Take care of your health. Only better days ahead for you ❤

[@Stormy867]

I’m glad you recovered. You are god’s child and you are loved.

[@martymcfly5764]

They're completely and utterly useless smh. Bunch of emotionless robot fk sticks with detachable wallets. That's the best way to describe them. All they're good for is money or sex, and some of them don't even have that to offer.

[@KWB466]

And would have wanted you to wait on him, hand and foot if he even got a common cold

[@soupafleye]

proud of you 💗

[@mogulmade]

AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR MOM!? For 5 years too ... GIRL?!!!!!

[@NovelistDienne]

The way my jaw dropped 😮

[@manifest2203]

Yeah Evangelical people 😂 Somehow only the wife has to be Christian and never commit a sin. Everyone else can behave however they want to 😂

[@cvzdez]

Crazy white cults 😢.. Blk cults too though

[@awg7068]

As a mother, I’d rather rip out my plumbing and put it down the disposal than sleeping with my children’s exes, friends, or anyone that age in general. WTF is wrong with that woman!!!

[@NorthMountainFairy]

I was a month and a half into complete dorsal vagal shutdown when I saw one of those viral videos about “tolerable level of permanent unhappiness” that crystallized how the “good guy” I had been in a relationship with for 15 years stressed me into absolute illness because he filled our home with his unchecked rage day after day. I had been begging him to resolve his rage for my sanity and health, but he was content to break me. In that moment I was someone new and I was instantly single. No room for debate. He’s so sorry now, but it’s too late.

[@azureavocado5195]

There’s a video on KZbin right now about the HIGHA prevalence of auto immune disease in women… And how it is linked to the lifelong suffering they endure in these relationships (as wife/mother).

[@NorthMountainFairy]

@@azureavocado5195 I just saw that video yesterday! It is a great video and I highly suggest it to anyone who has not seen it (no matter your gender identity!) Since this moment of clarity I’ve been learning all about how unresolved cptsd from my childhood (I discovered the Ace survey and I scored a 4 meaning I was primed for all the medical problems I’m having now in childhood) then being involved with a king baby psychopath gave me additional trauma, then 2 long term relationships with “nice guys” who stressed my traumatized system into deeper levels of illness. I’m learning about how trauma is stored physically in the body. I’m working with a physical therapist to calm the most painful areas of the body and I’m doing somatic exercises to try to dispel some of my physically stored trauma. Right now women are in a moment of awakening globally. We are learning to reject toxicity, and do what we need to be healthy, happy, and whole, on our own. And with our pups, obviously.

[@chinweikei3539]

He's not really sorry. If you had gotten back to him, you would see. It's just their nature.

[@Ourown311]

There are always so sorry when it’s too late. I’m glad you’re ok. Welcome to the best part of your life.

[@txspacemom765]

This is me currently! I hope you are feeling so much better!

[@annmarieknapp]

My ex asked for the divorce literally a half an hour after our two year anniversary. He had just gotten back to the states from being out of the country on a work event, which turned out was a colleague he was having an affair with. We had an 8 month-old child and I needed his income to survive. I was devastated. But, looking back I'm glad he was so callous and cruel because it makes it glaringly obvious how much I love divorce. If I can't undo the nightmare marriage, at least I got my freedom back.

[@awg7068]

I hope that you and your child are doing really well, and I’m sending you success energy, and healing energy too.

[@traceylennon1204]

These husbands ALWAYS have affairs with their coworkers!!

[@theobserver8]

3:29 "She told me how good she was to you.." THE HELL IS THAT SUPPOSE TO MEAN?!

[@nolubynature9513]

He wanted a piece of the action

[@LoveCompassionPurity]

I suspect there is more to the story...

[@billymobby]

EXCUSE ME 5-YEAR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOM?! Oh baby noooooo no no no no no noooooo 😩

[@Kayla-kd8ov]

Insane right

[@DeeperThanMyThoughts]

You can tell she's totally desensitised. Given the amount she's been through with her ex, she most definitely learnt to live with that level of abuse and dishonesty from her parents. Who does that to their own daughter!

[@nwalden5744]

When a therapist is telling you someone dangerous believe it or not

[@MIAKIM-d3j]

Its like that song "when a woman's fed up"...thats what it was like for me....after listening to him telling me what he's done for other people, especially single moms, I realized that hes never done half thoes things for me or my son even though I was dating him. One night we were talking on the phone and he was yet again telling me the "Im such a good guy" story, told me he gave a woman $ for a divorce, I said, you have never given me $ for basic things, but paid for someones divorce????? At th a t point, I said "Im sorry that I tried to get you to be something that you're not...a decent human being"...I said Good Bye that night....for some reson, didnt understand why I no longer accepted any kind of communication from him ever again....

[@queenlj12jax97]

Good for you. He sounds stupid. Why would he tell you those things to prove he's a good guy, yet he does nothing for you?

[@awg7068]

@@queenlj12jax97 because talk is cheap, and these bunholes will do anything to try and land a woman that *doesn’t* want them in their boat, but then high-key hate the women they *can*. Of course, they call the women that they ‘help’ gold diggers for not sleeping with them after, but that’s a whole other facet to explore.

[@Shortypants1215]

Wait - did she say her husband had a FIVE YEAR relationship with her MOTHER?!!

[@manifest2203]

Yeah Evangelical people 😂 Somehow only the wife has to be Christian and never commit a sin. Everyone else can behave however they want to 😂

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

I have 2 boys... One's 16, and I KNOW he's a good kid. He has like 2 friends because he can't stand most of the guys he goes to school with because.... and this is what HE said "the way most of the guys talk about girls is just DISGUSTING AF!

[@awg7068]

That guy punching the hole in the wall was absolutely telling you to shut up. I'm glad that it meant the end for you, and you're safe now.

[@paralegalkc]

This happened seven years in and we’re at a restaurant and a gentleman came by our table and he said you are so beautiful and He turned to my ex and said if you don’t tell her, she is beautiful every day then she needs to get rid of you. I guess that did not sit well with him because a couple days later he brought it up and said what if you’re not beautiful that day that was my moment.

[@traceylennon1204]

Please stop saying that someone is your EVERYTHING...

[@tarahbruno3793]

It’s so cringe when people say that! Uugghhj

[@BriChuhime-sama]

He laughed and said “what’s the point?” when I asked him to marry him. Then when he found out I ended up in the hospital because of him (my emotional state was absolute trash, so I admit I shouldn’t have set myself up, but still….), he got me a shut up ring. I told this man that I had no desire for an engagement ring a long time ago. The answer told me I was done. The shut up ring let me know there was no going back. It took another two months, but I left him. He’s mad of course, but I warned him he’d lose me if he didn’t change 🤷🏽‍♀️ Hopefully he’s now on the way to New Zealand.

[@analozada9475]

I feel bad for the lady that had to cook and care for children after a c section! 🥺 Ladies!!! Choose your partners wisely! Don’t get pregnant by these losers! 🙈

[@MariaDavids]

Exactly!!

[@analozada9475]

@@MariaDavids 💯

[@kaileymo]

Like anybody chooses to be blindsided lol 😂 If you’ve gotten the ability to see the future please let us Know

[@analozada9475]

@@kaileymo Did you watch this whole video? These ladies were able to see the red flags from the beginning but their low self esteem, codependency and starvation for love kept them from choosing better. We don’t need to be psychics in order to realize the obvious in most situations. We see the red flags from the beginning but we choose to stay in dysfunctional relationships due to our own emotional dysfunction. It’s rare when people are extremely good at pretending in the beginning and go undetected for a long time. Those folks are rare, cuz most people give you glimpses of who they really are in the beginning, but we still choose to proceed with the foolish delulu. I’m guilty as charged for doing this in the past when I was emotionally dysregulated due to past trauma. Once I took responsibility for my own mental health and started therapy and the healing process, then I was able to choose what was best for me and who was best for me. And thank to god and therapy I was able to choose an amazing partner that I’ve shared the best 12 years of my life with. I finally broke the cycle of dysfunction. 🙏✨🫶

[@awg7068]

I cannot recommend the copper IUD enough. Still insist on condoms, if only for the STD harm reduction factor, but if the condom breaks, or he tries to stealth, the copper IUD is a great way to avoid being caught by dusties.

[@traceylennon1204]

I'm still trying to understand what the lady with the accent was saying. I just heard that this guy carried her all the way home..🤷🏾‍♀️

[@traceylennon1204]

Completely being at peace with being DONE!! That's a word..🙌🏾🙌🏾💯

[@Nak3dTalk]

What absolutely blows my mind is that many of these women are super attractive... nobody is safe from the bullshit.

[@KrystalAri]

The commonality is low self esteem. Beauty does not matter if you hate yourself.

[@txspacemom765]

In the past year and a half, going through perimenopause/menopause, my son finishing high school and going off to college and finding out that my soon to be ex has lied to me for years about his financial choices (which are now causing me problems), which lead to me finding out some other stuff, the soon to be ex told me I needed to be medicated because I was calling him out on his BS and for not supporting me at all when I needed it the most. I am now in school, working on my Masters, 1 other certification and training for a 12 miles hike for the cure next year. I lost 65 lbs in 6 months that I truly think was stress weight from his bs. I've moved from Texas to Colorado and I have a lovely life.

[@melaninmoxiellc963]

Good for you, Queen! Keep glowing up!!! 👑 💅 🎉

[@awg7068]

Righteous!! Well done!!

[@rastamuff1]

Bonus children lolllllll Boo boo the fool

[@DanielleStarr]

Get away from people. Threatened your mental health.

[@azureavocado5195]

Huh?

[@Tinette_Izdashit]

I felt really bad for that lady who asked her boyfriend to workout in the next room. No one deserves to be assaulted and have their baby ripped from their arms. I'm glad she got away from him.

[@Phatse]

5:12 the guys response translated "It's going to be alright my sister" Then she would found out that she fainted due to emotional distress

[@Rose-kj7rz]

You know, I had a guy accuse me of cheating once, despite knowing that I am a hermit, don't hang out with people generally and don't have the energy for that type of stuff. Plus, nearly all my time was spent with him! That was why I asked him, "who do you think I'm cheating with?" Apparently, I found out later, he thought I was fooling around with the one neighbor I visit weekly. Her and I are both straight. And have both said we would never do anything like that together. In front of him. Not everyone who asks that question is playing a game. I genuinely was confused on whom he could possibly think I could be with, other than him.

[@sg5720]

Cause he is cheating. Sorry. 😔

[@kaileymo]

He wasn’t actually asking her a question; he already knew who he was cheating with. He was daring her to provide proof. The way he said it and the words he chose made his intentions clear

[@melaninmoxiellc963]

Cheaters who accuse their partners of cheating only do it to make you so defensive to distract you with defending your faithfulness. Sorry to tell you, but that's a huge red flag, and he's cheating on you...and he's controlling. You can do better because you deserve better!

[@silververnallbells191]

He could be cheating and projecting or/& he's jealous of anyone you spend any time with.

[@MsMookalate]

16:51 this is literally what happened with me and my ex. Including with our kids. He did more but he was wondering why I’m not taking him back. Noooo you not a good partner you barely a father so what’s the point

[@ashleymandigo4406]

It's one thing to maybe not realize the damage you're doing (while cheating)... but to *know* that she knows and you're doing it to break her down even more... and while she's recovering from surgery (giving birth)... and while she watches *your* bastard kids... she was nothing other than free labor

[@tiathomas965]

When I was with my ex husband, I discovered that he was cheating on my with another woman. I had actually left him, but ended up going back to him. During that time, I became pregnant with our 3rd child. When I got pregnant with this one, I figured, “why not? This is my husband,” even though I really didn’t want a third. Midway through my pregnancy, I overheard my ex telling someone that he impregnated me on purpose so that I wouldn’t leave him. But I STILL DIDN’T LEAVE. My “ah ha” moment was in the hospital while I was in labor. I was in a lot of pain and my water had broken, so the contractions were very intense. As I’m going through this, he’s sitting away from me watching sports highlights. I asked him to come next to me. He did. He squeezed my hand through ONE contraction and then went back to watching sports until I was taken back to the OR. I sat there in pain and he ignored as if me being in labor was just background noise.

[@SwanTheQueen]

Why you chose to have another kid with a man that cheated to you is beyond me. Hope you got a tube ligation that same day.

[@charlenewilley6481]

I had this with a narcissist ex, He was love bombing me to death in the beginning and then the hotting things if i challenged him on a issue, Sulking and silence treatment. Any outburst of anger at walls or objects is a sign that this man is violent and one day it can lead on to pushing, Hair pulling and hard poking.

[@cvzdez]

It wasn't when he had a 5yr relationship with a mistress Dominican girl, shout out to Jewel. (Supposedly he said we married for papers, but who know women lie for men too) It wasn't when he brought my daughter to his mistresses house at three and i didn't know. It wasn't when he was cold and never was affectionat. It was when my ex said he makes the money so he can have a mistress and a wife and i live in his world. I guess he got annoyed i was asking him for standards

[@sirenthomas4595]

When he used what i said against me and told me hed teach any children we had to keep secrets ...TF...hes a school teacher last i heard

[@silververnallbells191]

Your pfp looks quite similar to one of my friends lol -brightened up my day :)

[@mariee3658]

All this stuff I watch and hear and experience with men I don’t think I ever want to even talk to another one again they’re so cold and heartless it’s so traumatizing

[@traceylennon1204]

Wow that woman's husbans who wanted to workout in the bedroom and called her a whale!

[@saharkhalili5303]

When I asked for what I wanted to feel secure in the relationship (planning futures together), and he couldn't after a month of attempting to sit down together and do it. Too unstable and scattered. No future? Wasting time

[@YouTubeUzername]

Good for you for getting out. They do this often when they are not interested but want to keep you around anyway.

[@bloodbuddy7]

I don't trust the guy you included in this video at all. His partner sounds like she's fed up of his weaponized incompetence to the point that she's distrustful of any "help" he does because she knows its ultimately creating work for her when he does it badly (and then he probably wants to be praised for that too), either that or at the very least she had boundaries around her living situation that she has made him aware of and he is just crossing regardless. Was also pretty sus the way he said 'I had the house cleaned' and then corrected it on screen, sounded like he got someone else to clean it... idk, something's off with this guy's story.

[@melaninmoxiellc963]

That may not be the case here. , but it's a possible scenario. There are some toxic women out here who abuse their partners and take them for granted, too. Don't let this channel's content have you mistakenly vilifying the wrong men.

[@awg7068]

@@melaninmoxiellc963 what? No, OP is right, he crawfished on details, which immediately makes him suspect.

[@Childfree334]

​@@melaninmoxiellc963Funny how there is no one defending women on men's channels.

[@Aquariuswonder86]

11:45 the baby was on point 🤭😂❤️ were shocked too 😂😂

[@ambergraham103]

The woman who passed out did anybody get the rest of the story? I didn’t understand

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Thought I was the only one💁🏽‍♀️

[@Miss_NatashaO]

I didn't understand her either!

[@lindam156]

Lol she was speaking in Xhosa. So essentially she fainted at the bus stop and the random man carried her home and she kept exclaiming “yoh” (which is just a sound of distress/shock/surprise etc) and the man kept saying “you’re gonna be ok”. So she went to the doctor and the doctor told her that she fainted because she’s going through extreme stress. And she realized that the stress was her relationship, so she left it.

[@moimeself1088]

South Africans going in with their languages, not giving af if others understand. Shem, ba zo ba strong 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Been seeing this more since it was called out in another channel.

[@lindam156]

@@moimeself1088 Lalela 😂😂 South Africans don’t care about making sense to other South Africans. We definitely wouldn’t care about the rest of the world.

[@VixxKong2]

22:10 Sir, please don't ever "help out" again. Because if what she says is true that means you actually ruined her day. There's no point in cleaning up if she has to re-do everything

[@lilywong9672]

Or she could be appreciative instead of being an awful person.

[@VixxKong2]

@@lilywong9672 I ain't gonna appreciate it if you throw away my important papers in order to "clean my car". Or if you "clean the floor" the result is sticky floors that I'll have to clean again with the right products. Or if you fold my clothes in a way that messes up my closet's order. I might very well think that this is all just weaponized incompetence. That you actually planned to do the nice things, but in a wrong way in order to make me look bad when I'm not happy about the mess.

[@nolubynature9513]

.....and also, what if she was upset because he actually ONLY did that as a "sorry" for something else... which would make sense why she was upset

[@traceylennon1204]

WOWWWWWW.. The Bastard who ended up being engaged to his COWORKER!!!

[@BlackNella]

Relationship with her mom!!!???

[@manifest2203]

Yeah Evangelical people 😂 Somehow only the wife has to be Christian and never commit a sin. Everyone else can behave however they want to 😂

[@bellaapple2166]

​@@manifest2203 But how could he date her mom for 5yrs and then date her. Why didn't the mom tell her? That's way to disgusting.

[@moimeself1088]

18:47 South Africans going in with their languages, not giving af if others understand. Shem, ba zo ba strong 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Been seeing this more since it was called out in another channel.

[@LukeRev480]

I like it. It's not like we could n't understand her

[@nolubynature9513]

😂 the way we narrate a story is unique shemmmm😂

[@cvzdez]

Lol latinas do it all the time

[@beewest5704]

If figure it out was a nation. 😂😂😂😂. ❤

[@angrycannibal6625]

I didn’t understand either

[@imabosssorta1923]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I swear the story at 22:10 was said from the woman's side already, maybe minus the car cleaning. Plus, if she already told you not to do her laundry and that the floors are sticky, were you ACTUALLY being helpful?

[@burningtrash6330]

He might have also been upset at the lack of acknowledgement that he tried. Like maybe saying something like " I appreciate the thought but there a certain way i do things blah blah blah" It's kind of like when you get a B in a tests and instead of being congratulated your parents admonish you for not getting an A. I if that type of behaviour is common throughout the relationship I can totally understand wanting to leave. They probably weren't very compatible to be honest. the woman sounds like she has a particular way of doing things that the man wasn't used to, probably best for both of them that they ended things.

[@swanam_1]

Exactly. I can see the frustration on both sides in that situation.

[@VixxKong2]

He literally put more work and stress on her by trying to help out. I swear my dad would explode if by "cleaning up his car" I ended up mixing all the documents he has in there

[@VixxKong2]

​@@burningtrash6330 He cleaned up like a kid. Ain't no way the floors are gonna be sticky and I have to show appreciation for your efforts

[@burningtrash6330]

@@VixxKong2 I'm not saying she doesn't have a right to be upset. I'm more saying that they just weren't fit for each other. They can both be perfectly great people and be incompatible. I don't really think any of them were necessarily in the wrong at least without all the context.

[@happilydivorced3235]

That couples therapist is me.

[@Phatse]

18:40 She said she realized she's going to bore him and he was preparing to hit her and she's not the type to put up with it

[@annasofiaVttle]

Thanks 😊

[@nesh8906]

I don’t understand the story of the lady who fainted and was carried home, can someone explain it to the slow kid in the back here?

[@nkatekorikhotso4719]

She was speaking in Zulu, she said the guy who helped her when she fainted kept telling her “everything will be okay”, he saw she was in distress due to a relationship

[@Maria_Svetlana8847]

I broke up with the ex the realization he was With me to hold me down and any opportunity that comes to me while with him he makes me feel unworthy,fatigue , confused and unsure. Now hes gone and admit he cheated on me left a devestating blow to his ego messege and blocked him before he would reply . Call it petty ....he deserved i for degrading me subconciously due to his insecurities and had four ex's . Prick nearly bby trap and future fake me that shoot dosent work on me . Had my own layout of my future that has involvement of leveling up and career . His was marraige n kids then being stagnant same man who said If i move in with him "when your with me my horniness is your responsibility"

[@soupafleye]

ummm 22:18 :/ i can’t help but think this guys story is in fact his doing. yes he’s being helpful and she’s clearly the one working i assume? but when you’re dealing with someone who cleans out your car and getting rid of important paperwork?? cleaning the floors and they’re still sticky?? idk those are legitimately frustrating things to deal with after a long day of work. it’s like the classic issue of men doing things wrong and you have to do it again to do it properly which just gives you more work in the end.

[@melaninmoxiellc963]

It's possible, but we'll never know.

[@lealmelisa]

She was so right about BTS. I love seen male K-pop artist dancing 😍😍😍 it reminds me my ex's have been so annoying about wanting to dance with me. Now if i meet someone, obe of mt requirements is if they know a coulple of choreos even if they are easy.

[@myjourneyincolour10]

21:06 - 22:26 my mom is like this. Everyone in the family just stopped doing anything for her.😢

[@tracyjacksonjackson4221]

Good going Ladies. I'm so glad you got out. Especially the beautiful sister who had the c-section. Ma'am, you were in the situation that all men want. Someone at home to cook, clean, have and raise the babies and give them no guff when they cheat. He had you taking care of home while he lived the single life. I can tell from how pretty you are that you are doing so much better without him. I feel bad for his kids because dad is terribly unstable.

[@ladypokerdealer]

BTS🖤❤️ helped me too ❤️🖤

[@lostandfond2163]

I don’t think any man can make me happy as much as Jung kook 😭🖤❤️

[@annasofiaVttle]

I think I’m going to have to start getting into BTS

[@lexa_power]

Anyone know who the tik tok account at 19:40 talking about the bed pillow rampart is? This happened to me as well and I’d love to reach out to her. Sounds like her partner had BPD (borderline personality disorder) in men it presents that way with a lot of abuse and them distancing themselves from you.

[@raeofsunshine144]

Am I the only one that sees the wife’s perspective with the car detailing?

[@mettamorph4523]

I did feel "controlling" coming from that dude. I've noticed men only bend over backwards for a woman who has clearly stated she DON'T want him. Saw my divorced dad do this. He offered me prime theater tickets for two, saying a woman turned down his date request. I immediately knew he was chasing some disinterested tail.

[@tracyc4944]

@@mettamorph4523you’re definitely not the only one. I noticed his tone. It seemed like he wanted pity. Maybe the wife specifically told him her needs and he ignored her and crossed boundaries. Sometimes we don’t want all that extra effort to makes us happy, it could be suffocating and overwhelming.

[@mettamorph4523]

​@@tracyc4944 yes. "Detailing" a car is invasive on the INSIDE of a vehicle. You need to prepare your car for something like that. He could've just washed the outside of the vehicle. That would be a noticeable improvement to a vehicle that hadn't been washed in 2 years. Nope. Something's fishy there.

[@netonyaclayton8338]

When my then husband left me in the hospital after having our son on New Year’s Eve after complaining no one told me to have him on that day. Why did he leave???? He wanted to go to party for his sisters birthday that was New Year’s Day. She actually encouraged it and they all made it seem like I was a problem for wanting him in the hospital. His mom said you’re just going to be sleep anyway.

[@bodhisattva2348]

5 yr relationship with her mom? & she was like "its ok, we'll get through it together" 😒

[@rosannarichardson7951]

We need free access to a national registry to the names of those involved with domestic violence

[@geremymason5936]

Listening to the woman that had the c-section is disgusting. I was watching a video about men dealing with side chicks and this is the type of stuff that they pull. They like their side chicks because they can be a victim and the women will treat them like they’re just this amazing guy that is trying hard but just can’t catch a break. He’s just this good person that is dealing with a woman that just takes him for granted and uses her but in reality, he’s full of it and just using sympathy to get her to treat him even better. In reality, he’s probably neglecting his wife/girlfriend AND is manipulating the side chick to treat him good with the hopes that he sees how good she treats him to leave the other woman. In reality, he’s just playing both of them (probably has another woman/women), and will continue to use his wife/girlfriend for what she does for him while leading the side chick on because he will never leave the wife/girlfriend for her. They’re just serving themselves and don’t care about anyone else but themselves.

[@dontburstmybubble686]

5:36 that is some wattpad/kdrama/manhwa shit right there lmaooo

[@KarenTski]

If she asked you about she knows about it.

[@BlackNella]

How could you say you enjoyed these stitches and be laughing? These stories are so heartbreaking

[@azureavocado5195]

Heartbreaking yet 100% Voluntary

[@anonymousone9699]

They are also success stories of men and women who chose themselves in the end. People who left bad situations and are here to tell the tale. That is enjoyable to hear. I’m cheering for them to keep winning. Heart breaking and happy ending. It really depends on how you choose to look at it.

[@cvzdez]

You can only laugh or cry

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

​@@anonymousone9699 💯👏🏽💯👏🏽 I was smiling just knowing those women are no longer suffering nor allowing these DUSTIES to disrespect them ❤❤❤

[@obSYDIann_]

I remember one day I was with the guy I thought I was in a relationship with, in my apartment. We were both a little tipsy and high from smoking weed. I was sitting on the couch and had my head tilted back with my eyes closed. And I stg, the realization hit me like a brick and I immediately started crying. He was right next to me, he didn’t even bat an eye. I knew from the beginning it wasn’t gonna work out but I wanted to prove myself wrong, smh. It took a while before I left but once I did, I never looked back.

[@31nattyb]

Where is the part two from the woman at 6:18?

[@amandasunshine2]

14:38 that's all she was to him. A nanny to raise his kids.

[@cvzdez]

I just want to let so many people on this video. Realize how many of these girls are exceptionally pretty to average to just regular. You'll get to see a man just realize when someone's in a hole. You're never the exception if there are any hole to other people. They're just waiting to become that a hole to you. It's just innately who they are with a woman. Specifically, many of them are very a certain way with women

[@christinesmith5718]

I love your wig. Please tell me the details.

[@MariaDavids]

Thanks 😊 I bought it in local market

[@casscass6696]

What was the plot twist for the one that the therapist told to leave her husband?

[@ellanina801]

Dude get a new therapist too 👀

[@bobbyray7558]

Wth was the one with the robe even saying? I couldn't understand any of it.

[@lindam156]

I’ll summarize it. Her and her man were talking about the Gender Based Violence (GBV) epidemic that was happening in South Africa and he said that it’s ok to hit a woman if she’s being annoying. And that was a red flag to her because what’s the standard for “annoying”? So she’d be in constant fear of doing anything that he might perceive as an annoyance and then he’d beat her up. So she left him.

[@Poodle_Gun]

21:00 is actually a legitimate guy. I was married to someone like his wife. He seems like a good guy too. He gets a pass.

[@lovelylittlegirl3332]

The BTS girlie really said “you’ve showed me I have reasons I should love myself” and we LOVE TO SEE IT💜💜 BTS really out here saving lives😂😂

[@fawn2911]

☠️

[@totchi6]

BTS taught me that men CAN actually be everything women deserve, there's a whole seven of them on my screen as proof and I'm happy to settle for nothing less~

[@ccd5942]

What did the lady in blue say that the man response was after Yo?!

[@nolubynature9513]

He kept telling her everything will be alright

[@casscass6696]

22:10…. Very suspicious…

[@blissfulluxurylife]

This video needs more likes guys 😅

[@TruCunt]

Women make the worst kinds of therapist. To ask a man if a woman needs more meds without asking her should tell you the world about that therapist

[@MizzMontanaOfficialChannel]

5 years relationship with your mom?!?!

[@Athena2153-hq1lq]

Thank you for this

[@Fwootgummi]

6:35 What was the twist???

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Oh my goodness! Wth?!

[@PranaChi369]

Give me the hispanic guy Ill treat him GOOD❤

[@nwalden5744]

I love BTS too!

[@gradymorrrowjr37]

My daughter's mom broke up with me when my pockets didn't benefit her ANYMORE that shows she didn't Love me it was just a transactional relationship BUT my daughter is the Greatest gift from that Union #StaySingle 💯

[@Childfree334]

Your daughter's mom? So you didn't marry her, but impregnated her? She tore up her body to give you a kid (such a stupid thing women do), but you couldn't even marry her? I would have left you as well when there was no more money forthcoming. You got a whole azz child that carries on YOUR name from her. I'd say that was a fair trade.

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

Well tbh that was a fair exchange. You made the relationship transactional the moment you approached her. Men use their money and resources to obtain access to beautiful women. There are plenty of PickMeishas who will happily go 50/50. Some will even go 90/10 if they’re desperate enough but it seems like you chose to chase a woman who was most likely out of your league. I don’t blame her at all. 😕

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

If this woman you’re complaining about gained 400lbs and lost all her beauty I guarantee you’d bounce too. Men only complain about “transactional relationships” when they don’t have the upper hand in the transaction. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@alyssawoodman]

$100,000 minimum for a surrogate. So no you actually owe her.

[@Childfree334]

@@alyssawoodman Thank you. I guarantee if MEN were the ones that carried babies and tore up their D's🍆🍆🍆 to give birth, they would NEVER do that sh*t for free.

[@opallapis7347]

Why do you have your face on the side for each video? 😣

[@maiamiimaiam4343]

You people can never be satisfied

[@AngryKatie18]

Because if she doesn’t, her video will be removed for copyright infringement. If she just reposts other people’s videos together without adding her own reaction and commentary the work no longer falls under the free use doctrine and she’ll get a strike/terminated by KZbin.

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you so much Exactly, youtube is taking down alot of channel in this niche. One just need to be very careful.

[@AngryKatie18]

@@MariaDavids Copyright Law is part of my job. I’ve got your back :)

[@Hillarymaryy]

This brought up some dark memories for me