My Husband Is Pressuring Me To Facilitate Our Daughter Going To A Gifted School r/Relationships

[@lindsay1989]

The husband/dad is a hero to his daughter. This mother is not worthy of her family. Lazy and selfish

[@Batman-lg2zj]

I don’t think she is the a hole

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@Batman-lg2zj how is she not TA? She’s harming her daughter’s education and holding her back for no reason. She’s furious that her GYM MEMBERSHIP was cancelled so her daughter could get an EDUCATION

[@anahkit]

@@Batman-lg2zj She is. She's a stay at home mom that has housekeepers who come over twice a week. Are you really telling me she can't drive two hours in total for her child every day? That's BS

[@genesisshort3097]

He is a hero to no one. Those schools are more harmful than anything.

[@TheUnamedOne832]

​@Batman 2021 why because you are objectively wrong

[@HackiePuffs]

“I hope you’re all happy with the outcome” Yes I am!! Juliet is getting the education she deserves!!

[@G14-Classified]

When I read this outcome I was laughing at her comment, and the fact she had housekeepers, what does she do at home.

[@colleens1107]

@G14 I know right? It makes the whining in the first part sooooo much worse. You have all that help and STILL can’t be bothered to drive your daughter to a much better school? Screw that lady

[@SirNomad]

Given how the family court system is incredibly biased, this is probably going to work badly for the kids, but I HOPE the father gets full custody, and the "mother" ends up having to work as a maid for people exactly like herself. I was one of those gifted kids, and my mom was like OP, it ended up really badly for me. Now that I'm a parent, I willingly and happily drive an hour round trip in the morning, and again in the afternoon, so my little guy (not so little any more, been doing this nearly 9 years now) around my work schedule, so my kid can get the education he needs. He'll be going into a high school for gifted and talented kiddos (closer to our house even, YAY! LOL) and knows he's important to his parents, I wish my (stay-at-home) mom had felt the same about me!

[@UnitXtubE]

What a Witch of a wife /mother!!

[@MrJpaynebb]

​@@SirNomad I know courts in many jurisdictions are still biased towards the mom but the dad has a strong case to present of him doing what it takes for the best interest of his kids. Her case is about how she was too lazy with all the privileges she had to get her child the best education opportunity possible. She literally told her soon to be ex and the world she was too lazy to drive her kid to school or ask her in-laws for help because she didn't want to do it.

[@rashidasimmons6180]

Remember how in the movie "Matilda" the parents were basically resentful of her intelligence? That's how this mom sounds

[@kaykay8855]

I don’t think that Matilda’s parents were resentful of her intelligence, they were just straight up neglectful.

[@rashidasimmons6180]

@@kaykay8855 yes neglectful, but they also got upset with her and punished her for 'showing them up'

[@kaykay8855]

@@rashidasimmons6180 yeah

[@TopazFire15]

Story 1: I initially thought it was unfair to ask her to drive 2 hours after work to go to this far off school, and then I learnt she’s a SAHM… like ma’am there are so many working parents who wish they could take off at 2 to pick up their kids on time, and you basically had nothing else to do all day with the housekeepers around lmao

[@amandab8433]

When my daughter was 15 she got a scholarship to an eighth week coding boot camp in SF. It was Mon-Fri 9am to 6pm and a commute of 1.5 hours away by train each way. Damn right I made sure she was able to go even though it meant I had to take hours out of my day for just the train. This lady is going to find out real quick just how difficult it is out there being a single mom with kids where daycare is going to eat up most of your take home pay. Not having house keeping two times a week, and gym time are going to be the least of her worries. 🙄

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I suspect she's envious of her own daughter. My mother did the same thing. My mother purposefully refused to let me skip grades refused to put me in gifted classes. Refused to let me graduate high school early. I left home at seventeen and never went back. I am now married and still no contact with her. And it came out years later that she blamed me for "stealing her youth and potential". Some mothers truly despise their own children for no reason. They say their daughter doesn't deserve their career she's not even that talented, she doesn't deserve her husband she's not even that pretty. I have seen mothers post the most hateful things I've ever seen in my entire life about their own daughters. That is the vibes I'm getting from OP.

[@jbgra2566]

Not only that. She had TWO HOUSEKEEPERS! TWO! She's even more the a-hole and glad she's taking her trashy ass outside herself. She really doesn't deserve her family

[@dallen3000]

I was kind of feeling the same way. But I thought, "she might not want to also do all that driving then come home and do a bunch of chores around the house" . Then it turns out, she had *TWO* house keepers . She's just a trash excuse for a parent. Lazy too. There's no excuse for that.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

In my opinion she shouldn’t have to drive 2 hours

[@EluneAnzu]

First story's OP: makes decisions about her daughters life without listening to her husband also the OP: "I'm getting a divorce because he didn't consult me about making decisions" lady, he tried, you didn't listen because you were too lazy to get off your ass and drive 2 hours for your daughter and ignored the MANY options he gave you, it's not his fault you're selfish

[@Batman-lg2zj]

She shouldn’t have to drive 2 hours away to a special school

[@sorachitheeggo4440]

@@Batman-lg2zj oh? why not? news flash kiddo. not everything in life is convenient. ADAPT

[@lucialovecraft]

@@Batman-lg2zj if that were my child I would! Making sacrifices comes with being a parent if it means your child is going to be healthy and happy

[@jam2727]

@@Batman-lg2zj she's not doing anything else to contribute to the family.

[@samiulhuda4001]

@@Batman-lg2zj shes freeloading through her life. thats the least she can do to earn her keep

[@maheenahmed6653]

Also the fact that he was able to pay for house keepers who came 2x a week!! Even though op is a SAHM AND was able to pay for a driving service after taking away the gym membership says a lot. I am sure he suggested that. That she wouldn’t even have to drive her because he can pay for a service if she gave up the gym membership says so much. That she’d keep a gym membership over her daughters education and well being

[@rachelguyer8447]

Oh that's why she didn't have "time" to take her. She had to get to the gym. 😢

[@JK-sh8rc]

OP is selfish, spoiled and lazy. I had the opposite problem. My middle son had some learning disabilities and the school he was attending wanted to transfer him to another school with a much better program which was about 20-25 minutes away. We were new to the area, my husband traveled a lot and I was also working full time plus we had no family around. I drove him & picked him up every single school day. Because that's what good parents do. OP seems more upset about no more housekeepers and her canceled gym membership than anything else. smh

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@jainorthover]

What the comments didn't flag was that op's husband was pissed that she signed their daughter up to the local public school (using the money he earned) while they were mid discussion about the gifted school. So, when he does the same thing, but with his own money, and in the interest of his daughter, not himself, she decides it's time for divorce. Well done husband of op; you made the right call. Perhaps you can now get a wife that isn't so entitled and appreciates you.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Just a correction, because it was a little confusing: it wasn’t trading the gym for the car service. It was trading the house keeping service AND the gym membership to hire the car service. So you know what that means? She would actually have to….CLEAN THE HOUSE! And, ya know, go for walks (30 minutes/day), some stretches and maybe some push-ups and sit-ups in her living room. Not to mention the fact that if they could afford housekeeping twice a week, then I’m sure a one shot payout for an at-home treadmill or elliptical trainer would be no sweat (no pun intended). I’m thinking that a guy that is willing to pay for a car service to get his little girl to school is probably making slightly more than minimum wage, ya think? Op is just….I have no words. Wow. Just wow.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: The cops are wrong, the second your mom refused to return your child, this became a kidnapping.

[@WyntheRogue]

It's also Florida. Unfortunately, with an asshole of a governor running the state,the authorities are backward AF.

[@Rankinen]

Story 1: OP: "He can't make decisions over my life without consulting me!" Yet OP can decide their daughter's future without consulting anyone as she doesn't want to compromise her cozy life.

[@bigcaper862]

I have a funny feeling she was more mad about canceling her maid and gym membership then the dad getting his daughter in the school...Hope she gets destroyed in the Divorce!

[@Nukie144]

"He took her to get tested for the gifted school behind my back." Lady, as if you didn't go behind his back about her schooling first.

[@kateworkman921]

I heard that part and was like, "Oh, so you're a hypocrite, too."

[@Rankinen]

@@bigcaper862 The more I think about it, he probably cancelled these because he was already done with her BS after she casually sabotizes their daughter's education and is more than happy with the divorce. OP is going to have rude awakening when the judge don't see why housekeepers and gym membership are more essential to SAHM than the daughter's wellbeing.

[@thegayestgoth]

It’s not even that. She was jealous and insecure, threatened by her daughter being smarter than she would ever be and she wanted to hold her child back.

[@CreeperOnYourHouse]

Imagine not doing the bare minimum of a sahm and not even cleaning the house, and claiming you don't have the time to spend to drive your child to school.

[@thegayestgoth]

Bitch was jealous.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

It's not that she *didn't have time;* she just *didn't want to make time* for her daughter. That kid deserved going to that school. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@GreenKnight1982]

When I was about 13 I called the cops on an abusive family member and when the cops got there they said they weren't filing a report because it was a family thing, I called 911 again while the cops were still there and explained that I needed a supervisor cause the cops they sent weren't doing their jobs and the cops threatened to arrest me for abusing 911

[@poohbear4515]

Different, but my neighbor illegally cut down both our trees in both front and back of our house. The tree cutter people were pretty shady, too so he probably made a quick buck since they did a shitty job. Well, we called the police and the pig in blue came over and just said “It’s a civil matter. This is a public property”. Uh…d-ck!! NO IT’S NOT! We own our house, we own our property. But he was incredibly lazy and downright unhelpful. My badass neighbor wanted to punt the pig across the yard she was so pissed. So asshole neighbor got off scott free yet again… I hope he is suffering in hell where he rightfully belongs.

[@thesageofspringrollsoup]

@@poohbear4515 aren’t the consequences for cutting down trees crazily expensive if the tree has been rooted there for many decades? If it happened recent enough you might be able to take legal action through a lawyer (Though based on how you phrased it probably wasn’t)

[@WyntheRogue]

@The Sage of Springroll soup Tree Law has its own subreddit for a reason, it's quite popular.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Love how OP “forgot” to mention just how privileged she was. Also love just how useless cops can be.

[@Nylak-Otter]

My fiancée's mother kept her out of a gifted education program because she thought she'd get socially stunted. I think a part of it was that she was threatened by it. We were good friends back then, and I went to the special education program 2 days a week with a few other gifted kids from our grade. It didn't affect my socialization at all, and kept me engaged and busy enough that my level of homework and study time was still less than my classmates', but actually existed where it didn't before. It got me into graduate classes and programs as soon as I started university, and I was published in a notable journal twice by sophomore year. I'm still living off the passive income from patents I filed when I was 20, and I'm 35 now. My fiancée still thinks she wouldn't have been able to handle the work load, but I very much disagree.

[@bradleymartinez185]

She was a SAHM who had one kid at home, two not home for 8 hrs a day and had house keepers to do cleaning. She MAYBE cooked food and thats all she had to do. Not to mention the hypocrisy of "he cant make unilateral decisions" while she made a unilateral decision. I hope she gets nothing in the divorce but she'll probably steal half his money for alimony

[@moon7shinev150]

So wait Op is a stay at home mom but they had housekeepers and now a personal driver. What the hell is op doing then

[@thegayestgoth]

Being jealous of her daughter.

[@dethkruzer]

​​@@thegayestgoth and little else, since apparently actually doing parenting is too much work for her.

[@samiulhuda4001]

a useless pile of flesh

[@michealwatts7469]

My jaw literally dropped at Story 1 OP update... I don't normally do that shit but just... wow. She is a terrible human being: "I went behind my husbands back and enrolled her in a normal school cause I didn't want to even try to drive my child to a school 30 minutes away then he goes behind my back and gets MY daughter tested? Like I hope you're all happy cause we're getting a divorce" You lady need some friggin help... If she is struggling socially, this will help her! Being around people who can understand and engage with her is what she needs right now and you being a selfish prick, destroys that. Now you want to make it worse by tearing a family apart.

[@coreymartin6486]

And she had the hypocriyical gall to gaslight her husband for "he went behind my back"...... I hope he gets primary or sole custody.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@juststar5196]

Honestly think that in story 1, the mother was jealous of her daughter’s capability. Makes me wonder what else she wasn’t doing as a SAHM.

[@JamesRT1291]

Nay she is just lazy and entitled, and didn’t want to put in any work

[@sar9998]

Cheating she was probably cheating what else you do when you are a Sahm and your husband is working and you have nothing better to do others then taking Care of a 2 years old Edit : it's just a hypothesis cuz I am reading to much on Reddit

[@WoodlandT]

I had the same feeling. I think she deeply resents her gifted daughter and was secretly happy with the opportunity to sabotage her education. I’m extremely happy that her husband has good sense

[@rogiroja]

Mom is 100% going to tell daughter the divorce is her fault. 🥺

[@agord7591]

​@@WoodlandT I just think she is either extremely selfish, extremely entitled, or just a narcissist. SAHM who does NOTHING ( two house keepers ) and complains about doing 2 hours of work.

[@kingimura2430]

As a gifted child who didn't get challenged enough in public school, so became unmotivated and dropped out two weeks before graduation, I absolutely loathed my mother for never getting me the academic support I needed. Also, it didn't help that I didn't find out that I had a mess of other issues until I was 18....

[@genesisshort3097]

Kinda sounds like you were just lazy. My mom fought to keep me out of GATE and I graduated a year early with honors and a scholarship. Don't blame that on your parents.

[@kingimura2430]

@Genesis Short just know this: I was abused by my mother and her various boyfriends while I was growing up. I didn't get to meet my own dad until I was almost 25, and I was on track to graduate until I was told that I was two credits short literally two weeks before graduation. I started living on my own when I was 16 and started spiraling out of control, trying to work two jobs alongside getting my education and trying to raise a newborn. All the while, not realizing the sheer number of mental problems I had that went undiagnosed until I was 18. If I'm lazy, then wtf are you? You keyboard warrior, piece of human excrement. Never insult someone you know nothing about.

[@jakeand9020]

​@@genesisshort3097That's not an option in all school systems. My school system wouldn't bump students up regardless of ability to the point they would knock students back down to their "proper" grade if they transferred from another school system. Students also were not allowed to take harder classes. All in the name of fairness of course. It's easy to be lazy when you can literally ace senior course finals in eighth grade without ever seeing the textbook associated with that class. It is very hard to learn to try when you are actively discouraged from it and it has no benefit beyond self gratification.

[@ZombieSazza]

Story 2: if she refuses to give you your child back, she has KIDNAPPED YOUR CHILD. The police saying “it’s not our department” are so in the wrong, your child has BEEN KIDNAPPED and they are THREATENING VIOLENCE. You need to speak to different cops who aren’t lazy, get your kidnapped child back AND file restraining orders. From everything OP has explained it sounds like typical narcissists who are extremely abusive, so let them call the courts, it’s very obvious from all of the evidence that they are the abusers, they are kidnappers, and they are 100% in the wrong. I’m a child abuse survivor with PTSD, my mother was extremely abusive, so for OP I’d like to recommend speaking to a trauma therapist. The PTSD diagnosis I got was Complex-PTSD, so things like screaming, shouting, slamming doors, people touching my ears/head/face, the smell of certain alcohols and feeling trapped (like in a corner/I can’t get around someone) all set off my PTSD. I’d like OP to consider therapy because the diagnosis, medication and subsequent therapy really helped me better understand how my mind works and how to cope slightly better on trigger dates.

[@GiordanDiodato]

and people wonder why cops are so hated. it's because of shit like story 2.

[@llamabrat07]

Yes! I actually said “What the F*ck” out loud when I read the line about the cops saying it’s “not their department”. It literally is their department to return a child to the custodial parents who is being held by someone else & is refusing to return the child without just cause such as abuse allegations. I can just imagine the cops saying it’s a domestic matter which is not their jurisdiction since it’s a family member holding the child hostage. But they are still legally required to remove the child from the grandma & return him to his parents who are his legal guardians.

[@katie6731]

Story 3: It's nice to know that there are people like OP out there who understand that intimacy is not only about sex. I appreciate his pragmatic approach, where he would take care of things for himself because he respects his husband enough to not just view him as a handy hole.

[@damien678]

Despite stereotypes, us LGBTQ folk tend to understand this better than some straight folks. Like ...imagery of holding hands is massive is gay art, for example. I've seen a lot of gay posts just about *yearning* and how they wanna do brush another's hair or pepper them with kisses in the morning, or even just about making eye contact When you've been ostracised for your sexuality you can end up appreciating even the smallest acts of romantic intimacy and affection

[@NecoMimi43]

Me too! The world believing that the only thing that makes a relationship is intimacy and that without it two people have nothing makes me so sad. Makes the concept of love so cheap.

[@lunabelle01]

I felt that story 1. My mother was the same, stay at home mom that refused to drive me to a gifted program at another school. My elementary school didn't have the services for me too. I ended up the gifted kid that was bored and fell behind because of it. I can't imagine what would've happened if I had a father that supported me like that one in that story. Op was AWFUL.

[@ToxicSunrise132]

Story 1: Wow, cry me a river. I get not wanting the toddler to spend that much time in the car every day, but not even trying to arrange an alternative? Shame on her. If she hates parenting so much, she should go back to work so she can afford nannies/drivers Edit: good on OP's husband! I hope he gets sole custody :)

[@damien678]

Story 3: are we all just gonna ignore that OP's sister was so sexually aggressive in her advances that she made HER OWN HUSBAND start to recoil from even her casual touch? And it's a BAD THING to call her out on making a sexual joke after knowing that?? When the joke in question is a part of the attitude that led to her making her partner feel so violated and freaked out???

[@dustyrose192]

yeah markee was way off in this one

[@jakeand9020]

So glad I'm not the only one that caught that. Sister quite clearly sees sex as the ONLY type of intimacy, which means that all intimacy is sexual. Her comment is only a joke when it's from someone that does not think that way.

[@Maya-iz9fx]

Op will blame juliet and tell her other kids juliet broke their family Poor Juliet

[@thegayestgoth]

And her father will tell her the truth. Mommy was jealous and insecure of you being intelligent, Juliet, and she wanted to hold you back.

[@WyntheRogue]

@thegayestgoth🇺🇦 The silver lining is she at least has an awesome dad who will help her thrive and shine. OP can kick rocks.

[@blaiktrout376]

Yo the update went wild. She also had housekeepers. What does she do?

[@kaykay8855]

I’m hoping she’s raising her children but the way she left, sounds like she wasn’t doing that.

[@poohbear4515]

Probably sitting on her ass watching Keep up with the Kardashians while her kids are begging to eat something. She sounds like them “STAHW married to a rich man so I get to do whatever the hell I want” kind of assholes.

[@marecort3697]

First story: OMG-this sounds a bit familiar. My sister, who is 11 months younger than me, was the same way. We grew up in the 60s and 70s, so didn’t realize my sister has Asperger’s. Her IQ is sky high. My parents didn’t push to move her forward, and to this day she blames our parents for not doing something to move her ahead. (She didn’t drop out, but she was frustrated.) She DID graduate high school in 3 years (much to my chagrin-but that’s another story). Anyway, this woman is just beyond the pale, and is getting what she deserved. Bless the father-he actually cares!

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I'm so sorry this happened to your sister! I completely agree that OP deserves exactly what she's getting. And i am shocked that she had audacity to complain he did all this without input from her WHEN SHE DID THE EXACT SAME THING! 😂She enrolled her child in public school behind her husband's back completely against what he wanted. I am so happy the kids have a wonderful father to advocate for them. I'm genuinely shocked at how entitled and self-obsessed OP is. I honestly wonder if she's a wannabe influencer. I really hope she doesn't win ANYTHING in divorce court and she's forced to get an entry-level job. I really think that is the only way she will become a better person. Otherwise she is literally going to take it out and blame her gifted daughter for destroying her marriage. I can already see it happening she's going to resent her gifted daughter and treat her abusively if she gets any custody at all

[@agentzapdos4960]

Yeah, I had good academics and poor socials in early childhood like OP's kid and your sister, but sadly my parents were in near-abject poverty, so my existence itself was a waste. Now I'm stuck on welfare for my entire life because I have frequent emotional breakdowns, and I resent my parents for not having me aborted or put up for adoption.

[@cyano2757]

I'm listening to that first one and thinking "wow I was just like that..." And now your comment reminding me this can be a sign of autism.... That's... Something

[@marecort3697]

@@cyano2757 People don’t realize that the vast majority of MENSA members are on the spectrum. That’s what my sister was told after she joined. Which set her on the road to discovering her neurodivergence. It’s funny, because I actually taught her how to read. I’d come home from first grade (she was in Kindergarten) and tell her what I learned. She went into first grade reading at a higher level than I was going into second grade! Now we are in our late 50s, and though we don’t have a typical sisterly relationship, what we have is ours.

[@marecort3697]

@@agentzapdos4960 I am so, so sorry to hear that. I don’t know how old you are, but there IS always hope! Right now, I am jobless, penniless, in debt, and about to lose my car and home. I’ve been looking for a job since the end of December. And I’m turning 60 this year. (I also have anxiety disorders and ADHD.) But I refuse to lose hope! Some days make it difficult to believe that, but I know that life will not only get better, but will be amazing! I survived being a single mom with NO help from my kid’s dad, and I’ll not only survive but THRIVE after all of this. You can, too!

[@amemooress6291]

Last story - I'm not with yah, Markee. OP doesn't have to be cool with sexual comments from their siblings. Lol Also, intimacy really is more than sex.

[@dre1978]

Story 1) WOW! She really is willing to completely disregard a great opportunity for her daughter just because she doesn't want to put in a little extra work? Mother of the damn year right there. On top of that she's mad her husband went behind her back to do what was best for his daughter and taking away her nice things? Good for him that they're divorcing Edit: Y'ALL! Search up her story and read through her replies to comments. It just gets worse💀 when someone asked her what exactly she does, like asked her for details of what exactly her daily routine is that driving her daughter is impossible, all she said was "keeping a 2 year old alive"

[@AngelDeed]

What about the father? It's easy for him to judge when he doesn't have to do or sacrifice anything.

[@dre1978]

@@AngelDeed we don't know what he does for them since Op never mentioned it. But just the fact unlike OP he was willing to find a way to get his daughter the best education he could provide automatically makes him the better parent. OP had literally no reason other than she didn't want to. She had a life many would be over the moon for, housekeepers, a gifted daughter, not working, everything paid for. And she ended her marriage because she's too selfish to think about anyone but herself.

[@maheenahmed6653]

@@AngelDeed except he is working. He’s the one making the money. His wife is a SAHM but needs house keepers to come 2x a week??

[@Emily-ck9ji]

@@AngelDeed ..... Are you serious? "He doesn't have to do or sacrifice anything"? HIS job is paying for EVERYTHING - from her gym membership to their housekeepers. Their daughter deserves and NEEDS the proper education to thrive. For OP to starve her daughter intellectually just because it was "too long a commute" is disgusting. She HAD the option to ask the father in-law, but she refused because it would have been inconvenient for HER. The fact that the soon to be Ex is working to provide the best for his daughter while OP was whining about not getting to be a spoiled housewife says all that needs to be said.

[@kaykay8855]

@@AngelDeed husband was paying for two housekeepers and her gym membership, not to mention that their in-laws live close by. Husband was willing to sacrifice, but op wasn’t because driving to and from the school will eat into her gym time.

[@SteviiLove]

Story 1; Either hire someone to watch your 2 y/or for 2 hours or hire a baby sitter/chauffer for Juliet. Even if it is just paying your FIL specifically to be her ride, there is absolutely zero excuse when you are being given every opportunity for your child to succeed without having to sacrifice anything but a little bit of time. As a SAHM that is self employed, absolutely YTA. I'd kill to have this kind of opportunity for my child.

[@Steampunkkids]

Story 2: Florida is a stand-your-ground state. Couldn’t OP’s husband just bring a gun and get the child back that way? And, Texas has defunded their CPS so much that I seriously doubt the OP has anything to worry about. Texas’ CPS is criminally understaffed.

[@milfywaygalaxy5096]

Texas CPS has been sued so many times

[@AleksandarBradaric]

Surprise surprise...Useless cops....Never saw that one before....and I'm a lawyer...

[@katwitanruna]

OMG. Not everything is about sex. Especially when one is in a bonded relationship.

[@leebrown6247]

“My husband can’t make that decision without involving me!” “I decided to enroll my daughter in a school my husband didn’t agree with without telling him. Oh well.”

[@treco2583]

Last story: a sibling KNOWS when their sibling is joking. And a sibling KNOWS what they can and cannot joke about with their sibling.

[@DaniS398]

I have a disability that leaves me very tired and sleepy all the time. Its neurological and cost me my job. And I STILL make sure I get my kids to events that benefit them and their development, academically and socially. It is hard! But I knew going into parenthood that it would be hard and my time and needs, for a time, would come 2nd to theirs. She needs to do what she needs to in order to make sure her kiddo thrives. Bored kids get creative in class and that creativity can land them in trouble. My little guy just go accepted into a gifted program and one of the things his teacher said was that the classes might help him focus more if they are more engaging and challenging for him.

[@ComaLies225]

Update to story 1: Ha. Haha. HAAAAAAAH. Seriously I love how petty her ex husband was. At first I thought OP was a busy, working mom trying to juggle motherhood and a career all while raising a family. Come to find out she had housekeepers, and a gym membership and possibly not wrking, the little understanding I did have for her SEVERELY WANED. I could understand if she was busy, overwhelmed, and iwhile it doesn’t excuse her neglecting her child’s needs I could see why she couldn’t. But she didn’t try. Most parents would do their best to get the best for their children

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I agree! Im just genuinely worried if she gets ANY custody of her kids at all that she's going to take it out on her gifted daughter and blame her for the marriage failing. Because there is NO WAY OP is going to take accountability and admit she was in the wrong. She is STILL doubling down in the update! My mother is almost exactly like OP I left home at seventeen and never went back. We are still NC 10 years later. But OP clearly did not learn her lesson since in the update she was being a hypocrite and complaining he made this decision without consulting her. When SHE made the decision to ignore everyone and enroll her gifted child in public school instead. She's a spoiled brat and I hope she gets a nothing and has to get an entry-level job. That is literally the only way she will become a better person for her children. But due to the hypocrisy and the self-obsessed way she's throwing a tantrum now I'm genuinely worried for her gifted daughter.

[@faeb.9618]

honestly i wouldn't say he was petty, just doing right by his daughter and putting his money where it would actually be good for something instead of a waste :)

[@maheenahmed6653]

There’s some people saying 2 hours is a lot and like. Y’all. That’s round trip. There’s people who work outside of the home who travel that much 5+ days a week.

[@kanelovec4315]

So a stay at home mom who doesn't clean and doesn't do childcare. A good parent would have worked out at the house and canceled the maid service plus even ask for childcare for the kid that is staying at the house. Sense she all big about her own alone time.

[@adriennewaterhouse5174]

Our nephew was awarded 1 of 4 spots out of 1500 applicants at a private top academy. He woke up 4am, carpooled with the schools janitor and family members would catch his pick up. My point WE MADE IT WORK!!! Now he's a forensic scientist and his career is literally on fire 🔥 u do what u can for those u love so they can have these chances to really succeed ESPECIALLY in today's world

[@827honey1]

Dad in Story one is a hero. The mom is so vile and entitled I don't know where to begin.

[@AZUREPHOENIX777]

Lol "He doesn't get to make decisions about my life without consulting me!" Wasn't this whole ordeal because she made decisions about their child without consulting said child or her husband?

[@coreymartin6486]

Thats not the only hypocritical thing she said as well.

[@rachelmartin5187]

I'm willing to bet that the OP and her exes marriage has been on thin ice for a while and the daughter going to the gifted school was the boiling point.

[@Taecoconut]

Story 2: this is kidnapping and as if you didn’t call the cops to assist you and be there - I get you “tried” to call the cops but it’s kidnapping and you need it on record in case they call cps on you Story 3: sex to your sister equates to feeling loved. - she obviously has issues with expressing her emotions and therefore she equates love with sex

[@owl7072]

Story 1: I'm gonna speak from a similar experience here, but man Op _sucks._ Her kid has a fantastic opportunity and Op doesn't want to do it cause it requires a bit more effort? After admitting she's struggling, she doesn't want her to have something that could help that? When I was in like, middle school I had a chance to be moved to honors English but my parents turned it down because they didn't think I was capable due to the fact I was failing some classes. The reason I was failing? I either couldn't understand it (math) or was straight up just _bored_ (science, history, and english) cause I already knew it. They essentially created a self fulfilling prophecy then blamed me for not trying hard enough. Op is setting her daughter up to fail.

[@thegayestgoth]

Of course she’s setting her daughter up to fail. She’s jealous of her.

[@jqdsilva]

"I hope you are all happy with the outcome" Me licking my fingers: "nom nom nom nom nom nom nom"

[@BonnieThebunny7051]

7:29 yes‚ I am very happy with the outcome of story one :)

[@catandrobbyflores]

Wow, so she doesn't want do parental duties because it inconveniences her SAHM a**. Lazy!

[@kristinewatson3702]

OP tore her family apart not her husband. Her husband and most importantly, Juliet will be better off.

[@katwitanruna]

I’m disabled. Haven’t had a pain free day since 1987. When my child got into a gifted school in 2003, I drove them 45 minutes there and back. Which means 180 minutes of screaming misery for me unless another parent drove occasionally.

[@ItsYaBoiV]

I'm actually kinda biased with that first story. My niece went to gifted school, graduated early, and was set up for a free ride in college. Nobody in the family knew she was being horribly bullied and was struggling as a young woman in STEM until she ended things earlier this year. Gifted schools and early education doesn't prepare you for the social isolation that can occur being younger than everyone in your education group, and many high IQ kids have so many expectations on them that they struggle with mental health and addiction to get by.

[@zerobolt9506]

Sorry for your loss

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

First, I'm so sorry for your loss... That's the main point. But I do want to push back at the link you are making between gifted schools and bullying. Bullying would happen regardless of what school she went to, I guarantee it. The difference is that, at a regular school, not only would she be bullied for being the smart kid in the class, but she would also be bored and unchallenged, and it would do NOTHING to help her socialisation and would even set her up for failure after highschool if she never learned good studying techniques because she could just coast through K-12. I know. That was my life. It's the life of many neurodivergent kids (gifted or otherwise). She wasn't bullied because she was given an education that supported her academic ability. She was bullied because bullies are shitheads and exist WAY more often than people realise. Her schooling wasn't the problem. Society at large is for demonising intelligence and neurodivergence.

[@thegayestgoth]

Nah bitch was jealous oh her own daughter. Also bullying happens everywhere. Quit trying to use it as an excuse to project your bullshit. I HATED going to school with all those stupid children, the same ones that tried to make fun of me but would stumble and stutter and take forever reading ONE PARAGRAPH out loud in English class. They would sit there and try to insult me, meanwhile these dumb bitches couldn’t read let alone pronounce the goddamn fucking language they few up speaking. I fell asleep the first time in tenth grade in English class because it took SOOOOOOOOOOOOO LOOOOOOOOOOOOONG for these retards to get through reading a two and a half paged short story. Everyone had to read once sentence and these fat fucking losers were struggling and I mean STRUGGLING over words like “the” and “sadist”-IN TENTH GRADE. I thought so low of these pieces of shit when they thought they had the intelligence to hurt my feeing sir whatever the fuck they were trying to do. God I HATED going to school with average-below average people. They were all so fat and stupid and I sincerely hated EVERYDAY being around them. They were like vomit. Something you try to stomach but ultimately you end up rejecting and feeling better afterward.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story 1 i hope the ex-husband keeps the children, he sounds like a loving, caring father Ops just selfish.

[@ArcticFFox]

Gifted kid burnout is real and the sooner the little girl gets into an environment where her classmates are her peers and not academically "below her" the sooner she will get to having a healthy school life. The amount of gifted high school/college kids who get their mental health absolutely wrecked because they stop being the best in the class is massive and it ultimately hurts their health and academic results.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 2 what a stressful situation. I say get some home security.

[@caleb8198]

You “went behind my back and tested her to get into the schools” as if she didn’t go behind his back and sign her up for the other school lol

[@ratgoddess9196]

Story 1 I was never at 'gifted kid' level but i was at a higher level than my grade from 1st to 8th grades so i never had to put in much, if any, effort into doing well. Because of that i never learned how to work hard at school which made highschool really hard

[@ratgoddess9196]

Point being, kids need to be challenged in school otherwise they won't learn how to put in effort and fall behind in learning the actual information

[@madgevanness4011]

Pretty much the same. Just did the homework, never learned to study until college. Came close to not passing a couple of classes.

[@agentzapdos4960]

S1: I was reading chapter books in kindergarten like OP's daughter. Unfortunately, I was born to parents that couldn't afford to even keep a roof over our heads consistently (but could magically afford cigarettes and beer every day), so I ended up on welfare for life. I can't hold down even a simple job because I'm prone to emotional breakdowns for no reason.

[@champslim]

2 housekeepers????!!! Lolol

[@jaleesagreene6800]

Ahh the sweet karma for OP. Also we know damn well that OP ain't getting custody.

[@elbandito5725]

Omg that last comment was everything I needed!! Thx Mark!!!!

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: OMG, Mega AH. I heard the first part before and thought she was an AH, but then the update. But then she says she had house keeps, and was mad husband fired them so that he could pay a driver to take the daughter to school. I can't wait to hear the next update. Why did you court give my husband full custody? Why won't my kids talk to me?

[@Uneclipsed]

Story 1: Why be a stay at home mom if you’re not going to do sahm things like DRIVING YOUR KID TO SCHOOL. Edit for the update:😂 they had maids. Wtf was she doing all day?!

[@orionspero560]

I am severely disappointed to hear marky legitimize the quote just a joke close quote defense in the third story. As a rule a joke that upsets someone is on the same level as the same behavior done as racist harassment instead of for quote fun unquote. By extension suggesting someone is overreacting because something was intended as a joke falls in the same category of wrong as soliciting a lynching on the basis of race.

[@skyelindsey687]

Yep. Plus the whole “you sexualized the joke” rhetoric Markie and the Reddit comments were pushing. That’s not true, the joke was sexual. Discussing fetishes and kinks, even if just in a joking manner, is sexual. And turn about is fair play, especially when it comes to a marriage that seems to have failed due to her pushing her partner for more than he was willing/able to provide in the bedroom. If she has such a high libido then she can go to an adult store and buy some toys and lube, not push the husband.

[@damien678]

Gotta defend him here because us Aussies tend to take more stuff on the chin or let more stuff be like water off a duck's back. Culturally we're more laid back and not as sensitive as the U.S.. And, Markee has gotten up people in stories for making bad jokes before, so it's not like he just believes jokes shouldn't have consequences, he just personally doesn't see this one as that bad, which I personally don't agree with here I will say, however, that I'm a lot less stressed out in life now that I personally don't let shitty comments or jokes get to me as much. Being sensitive has it's pros but it absolutely has its cons

[@heatherweir8726]

Story one. I'm sure the grandparents would be thrilled to spend some one on one time with either grandchild. Either babysit for two hours a day or they drive just as much and can talk to the older one about her day.

[@maheenahmed6653]

Good. The husband did what is best for the daughter. Shame they the person who was a SAHM couldn’t even handle being a SAHM. She had house keepers? I wonder if all they did was clean? Because I get it. It’s hard to clean if you’ve got a toddler. Still. Every other SAHP worth their salt makes it happen

[@trinijay4256]

Can’t believe she had housekeepers but acted like she had so much to do that she couldn’t spare 2 hours. Her husband was right to cancel them. She’s very selfish to sabotage her child’s future.

[@deidresable]

She cant sacrifice those manly gym trainer time that would be controlling

[@rangeraero]

Story 1: So OP went behind her husband's back and enrolled her in the not-gifted school, but when hubby gets his daughter into the gifted school behind HER back, that's grounds for divorce? That's irony, right? Pretty sure that's irony.

[@WhtAbtBob10]

Story 1: Yes. I'm very happy with the outcome. OP got exactly what she deserved and her ex-husband and kids will be better without her. She really threw away her entire life over not wanting to be very slightly inconvenienced.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story two: ...Any cop that does this shouldn't even be in that line of work. *The abuser being a relative is NO EXCUSE to not do the f@cking job and keep the abused safe! And if the laws on domestic violence changed to not be law enforcement's jurisdiction, THEN WHO THE F@CK DID THAT?!*

[@willgroody5296]

Love how first story OP doesn’t understand that she was in the wrong still and I wonder if the husband heard that other story where : The family had two daughters same age gap and the youngest was advanced and wouldn’t let her go to advanced schools or be moved to the next grade and when the husband tried she kept threatening divorce. “You’ll make oldest feel crap and like a failure” well they got divorced and the youngest choose dad and said to her mother “you constantly neglected my needs for your favourite child” I sympathise with the smarter kids as I live in the UK and they didn’t have the advancing options by age 4: I could speak read and write in fluent English and French Read adult level while the kids in kindergarten were leaning ABC I was in corner reading Stephen King Play the piano Cool and Bake I got no encouragement in my school but they took advantage and had me do all narration for any Assembly, Play, etc even when it was the final year of primary year 6 (10-11 year olds) they had me age 4 doing all the reading out.

[@justine8387]

"Gifted" children who are not in specialised or appropriate education have terrible outcomes, as bad as children with learning difficulties. I was one of these kids, horrible bullying and I ended up dropping out.

[@Khaisz.]

6:58 This woman is giving PS5 Dad a run for worst parent of the decade. But we love a happy ending.

[@lilywong9672]

I am cackling at the update. Get F'd OP. Horrible mom lol.

[@pourpeopledrinks]

JUST LIKE ANY OTHER JOB WHERE YOU REFUSE TO DO THE BARE MINIMUM, YOU WERE FIRED. Fuck YES this is amazing. And fuck yes to the husband. Also.... "he cant just make decisions about my life without consulting me" THATS WHAT YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE GOING TO HURT YOUR DAUGHTER BECAUSE YOURE LAZY.......and enrolled her in school "behind your back" when thats LITERALLY what she did to him. I have never wanted to fight an internet stranger so badly before omfg

[@jakeand9020]

Putting a gifted child in normal school is honestly abuse. It's quite possibly the best way to completely destroy their entire life and future.

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

There's a difference between not "being in the mood" is different from withholding intimacy of any kind to the point of touch aversion.

[@averycheesypotato]

Aversion to touch is not a casual choice someone makes… that’s not manipulative withholding

[@dustyrose192]

also his wife seemed to make EVERYTHING sexual

[@twiggygrl84]

You do good for your listeners to include detailed and helpful comments. Shockingly, not everyone uses Reddit. And if creators like you didn't take the time to highlight snippets of wisdom, they'd just languish in the comments.

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: Wait... She was a sahm AND had cleaners? Da fuq did she do all day that she couldn't spare 2 hours?

[@wildblue0]

Oh... she's "keeping the 2yo alive". Is that supposed to be hard? And she couldn't handle homeschooling for PRESCHOOL?? What a lazy trash human being. I hope hubs gets sole custody. Though his parents might have to take care of the 2yo. Way to screw over the whole family just to be lazy. And I hope someone he knows gives this whole thing to his lawyer.

[@mrjohnthedestroyer]

Husband cancels Gym membership & maids to afford driving service for child. Wife: I want a divorce.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Let someone try to take my kid. Last person got their door kicked in and thrown right into the wall.

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

Story 1: OP is a POS egg donor for not considering her own daughter's needs. Glad thr daughter has a good dad, and I hope him and his daughter are blessed with a better woman in their lives.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

It took me years to not be affected by doors opening and closing, the sound of van and truck engines. As well as men that are bigger than me with deep voices yelling at me. I have PTSD because of my dad's phyical, sexual and emotional abuse and my moms bipolar. Than to add the emotional abuse and neglect that my husband caused myself and my youngest daughter. My youngest daughter 24 now came to me 20 years ago and told me and her big sis that she felt that my husband didn't love her as much as her big sis. Thats when oldest daughter Danielle told youngest daughter Caitie that Danielle and I would love her more than he would anyway because she was our special baby. I haven't ever been able to understand just how much Danielle loves and adores her Caitie only Danielle knows. But they are extremely important to each other. Danielle has always been extremely protective and borderline obsessed with her sister. I was actually thanked last November by Danielle for giving her the best gift ever for her 3rd birthday. I asked her what that was and her response was "Mom how can you not know, its Caitie " Makes me cry just typing this. To know that your older daughter loves her sister that much and has never felt jealous of her sister or ever fought with her. I have never seen her hit Caitie or heard her even yell at her. Hell half the time Danielle had tovknow were Caitie was every minute just to make sure her sister was safe that was at least until Danielle was ten and could understand her baby sister was ok. But than she has a good reason. My girls were abused by a babysitter. I found out when I walked into that cows home and she was screaming at Danielle for trying to change Caitie who was 18 months out of messy diapers at 4 and a half because her baby had been in a diaper filled with poop for two nickelodeon cartoons aka an hour. My poor baby had sores and blusters from it because she has sensitive skin

[@timbit8670]

2nd story OMG that was kidnapping and when the police showed up that should have been the words the husband used. Officer my in laws kidnapped my son I’m here to get him but I’m afraid of what they will do if I try. This has my blood boiling because I know cops who are good and would have looked at the situation like this unfortunately for the op she’s in Florida not Ohio

[@carlrood4457]

In addition to the education, it's the social aspect that's important. Her daughter wouldn't be able to relate to kids her own age for years, if ever. If she's skipped grades, she's not relating to the older kids she'd be in class with. In a school with kids who learn at her speed and can talk about the type of books she's reading and have common interests, she'll make friends more easily.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

1. The child is smart and need more education, she will be bored in normal school. YTA, child needs it, she will be social with other gifted kids, she is not antisocial, she just need people like her. It is more than education, it is her life. She needs challenge

[@BbiBbii]

Story 3: NTA & OP was right on the nose about the divorce 😂 Sex is important in a relationship (even if both parties are asexual, in that case the LACK of sex is important), however sex isn’t the ONLY form of intimacy out there. When someone makes the mistake of thinking that their partners eventual feel like they’re nothing but a sex toy to them. Which is exactly what happened with the ex-husband, and OP blowing up isn’t crazy. All he’s been hearing from her sister is “sex this, sex that” that is absolutely annoying, especially if topics like that make the OP uncomfortable (which makes sense since the OP & her are related. No family member wants to hear about your sex life). I’m very open when it comes to sex and have made sexual jokes around my sister, similar to what OP’s sister did. The difference is I know sex isn’t the only form of intimacy & I don’t ONLY talk about sex.

[@kateworkman921]

I can't believe how far down I had to go to find a comment about story 3. Totally agree, btw. And frankly, the different ESH and YTA comments read off were disturbing. It's like people are just desperate to make women the victims in whatever situations they can. Women can suck, too! It can absolutely be a woman's fault a divorce happens. And that one about "how do you know it was phrased this way and not that way?" Uh, how about because this is his sister and he knows how she talks to people??

[@benjaminhurley6460]

Most of the people on Reddit have never been in a relationship. They think it's supposed to be nothing but sex and good times. The Truth is, it's so much more then that. It's problem solving and working through hard times together. Relationships are complicated.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

Sex isn’t important

[@BbiBbii]

@@Batman-lg2zj Sex is important. Whether that means having it or not, sex is important in relationships. It is one of the most intimate things you can do, however if someone over does it (like OP’s sister here) it can become draining/less emotionally intimate. At the sametime not having sex can have negative effects as well (it’s different if both partners agree to not have sex though). Overall sex is very important and is something humans do, not only for baby making, but in order to feel physically & emotionally close to someone. However there are many other ways to feel a similar connection. As someone said, it’s very important to date/marry someone who has the same sex drive as you.

[@BbiBbii]

@@benjaminhurley6460 I’ve noticed that too! That idolized version of relationships also leads to many Redditors jumping to divorce/breaking up as a first option. It’s very odd to see, sometimes, it’s like they can’t comprehend the fact that people can communicate & fix whatever issue they’re facing if both open up about how they feel.

[@toxicdotaep2890]

"I hope you're all happy with this! >:[" girl we had nothing to do with your garbage choices...........

[@testtickles7648]

Story 1 (haven't listened to the update yet) Sitting in the car for 2hrs with a 2yr old shouldn't shoot down the opportunity given to Juliet. My son is the same...academically gifted, socially awkward(to an extent). We are lucky in that our public schools have the same program and we were able to take the offer they gave of just transferring him from one school to the other where the program is offered. He was so bored learning at the same pace as his peers, but at the same time, we didn't want him to know he was ahead of them academically. Didn't want him to get that high ego and "I'm smarter than you" kinda deal.(Not saying all gifted kids are like that. His father is extremely intelligent, too, but he has a huge ego because of it.) He wasn't being challenged the way he needed and he's been so much happier since we transferred him. He was bullied pretty bad at his old school and didn't have any friends except our neighbor's son who is 2yrs older than him so they didn't see eachother much at school being in different grade levels. And no matter how hard I pushed, they made empty promises. I called them out on it and still empty promises so we were already considering other school options for him. But when he starts high school, he'll be going to one in the next district over. Much better school in all aspects. I'm a SAHM (which could change) but I will gladly drive him the 30mins it takes to school and pick him up since it will benefit him in the long run. One issue I've noticed with my son and other kids in the gifted and talented programs is that they are ahead academically, but behind with their maturity level which affects them socially. Obviously all kids are different, but it seems to me like a pattern. There's also things OP can do with the 2yr old to keep them entertained. If a good portion of that time is just parked and waiting...find somewhere nearby that you can take the toddler to and spend that time with them. It can also be turned into a sort of bonding time and routine with the 2yr old. There will be hiccups and days that are much harder than others, and as said in the story, asking the in laws to babysit for a bit or pick Juliet up after school are options. And after school, the 7yr old, too. Then have some one on one time with the 6yr old on a weekend day or something so they are also getting some bonding time with OP. You can't just not take an opportunity like that just because you don't want to spend the time on it.

[@madgevanness4011]

And a lot of gyms have child care available, so transfer to a gym near daughter’s school, give baby a break, then drive back. Or make the car a 💤.

[@testtickles7648]

@@madgevanness4011 that's an idea but seems she already made up her mind. The entitlement is unreal. Her stbx husband would be stupid to take her back if she tried and sounds like she holds herself above him AND their kids. That's so sad!

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Get a restraining order and press charges l. They kidnapped your kid. Also file against the cop for not doing his job

[@jam2727]

Story 3: reddit is so stupid sometimes. Getting a divorce because you don't more than weekly sex? AND wanting to get your SO tested because of it? How about get OP's sister evaluated for an addiction?

[@skyelindsey687]

Not to mention telling OP he needs to get his mind out of the gutter for him sexualizing a joke his sister made when in fact his sister made a sexual joke about the OP having a foot fetish.

[@damien678]

Not to mention that she was so sexually aggressive in her advances that the husband ended up starting to recoil from even casual touches She might have a sex addiction but she does honestly come across as more of a sexual predator

[@k3upikachu]

I'm sorry, I truly do think being a stay-at-home mom is very hard work and a really important role/job. However, I don't understand what this particular mom is doing all day if they had a housekeeper and she is barely taking care of her kids. When the story started, I kind of understood where she was coming from because I assumed she had a job based on how burdensome she made the extra driving seem. But nono, she's just selfish Edit: for story 3, I actually sympathize with the sister. I have a high libido and my ex wanted sex like twice a month and it wrecked our relationship. That situation is really hard for the partner who wants more frequent sex because you can't make your partner want it more, and if they try to meet halfway it's obvious they're not into it. The result is that the low libido partner gets the amount of sex they want and their partner feels rejected and dissatisfied. Different sex drives can really impact relationships and are a totally legitimate reason to break up/divorce. Sex is one of just a few things that separates friendship from romantic love, so yes, the love can die without it

[@jam2727]

Twice a month and once a week are extremely different.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Then dont marry the low libido person? I felt shitty when my ex went from 3 times a week to never after 2 yrs and refused to be in the same room as me unless it was to sleep. It was because she was cheating and using me. I was more upset all intimacy died not the lack of sex. Hell i was more annoyed she was always home so i couldnt jack off in peace cuz she found it weird when i did it when she was home.

[@k3upikachu]

@@jam2727 I mean it's just 2 vs 4 times a month. Not a huge difference

[@k3upikachu]

@@Kris-wo4pj sorry about your ex; that's super shitty of her to keep you basically repressed while she did whatever she wanted. I hope it hasn't messed up your view of relationships/women as a whole. Also LOL my ex did the opposite in terms of getting off when he was home; I tried enticing him once by playing with a toy in front of him and he left the damn room, saying "you looked busy so I was giving you privacy" 🙃. It's funny bc we actually had sex every day when we first started dating, but then the honeymoon phase ended. He kept telling me it was temporary and would improve after x event or y deadline, but after 2 years of unmet optimism I gave up. That's probably what happened in that story. Sometimes the dynamics of a relationship change over time and the perfect person turns out to not be right for you, and imo that's nobody's fault. For prolonged dissatisfaction/unhappiness in marriage, it's understandable for those who want to stick it out, but it's also okay to leave

[@andrekerrison3367]

Story 1: so, as a SAHM with multiple housekeepers, what exactly is it that you do that means you're too busy to go 2 hours out of your way most days to make sure your own child is receiving the proper education that fits their needs? I'm seriously curious. Apart from the gym and not cleaning the house, of course. Did you cook, or anything? Bet you had people for that too. "He can't make decisions about my life without consulting me" If he finances those parts of your life, then I say he can. And besides, did you consult him when you decided to dump your very gifted child in a public school? I do hope that, once the divorce is finalized, you get a taste of the real world. Then you'll see how much time in a day there really is.

[@bl12]

“ as your elder” lmao this holds zero ground nowadays

[@GDMendezWrites]

Story 1: I was Juliet. But I never had the possibility of access to a gifted school or magnet school. Instead, the best we could try to do was skip me a grade, but the board never approved of it because then "how would I socialize with those older kids." So, they didn't. After 1st grade, they kicked me to a 3rd grade class for reading and would either give me the math textbook for the next grade or put me in front of a computer for math. My school wasn't the best at each grade level, and because I had good grades all the time, I got bullied all the time. I never got to socialize well with students in my grade level or the grade level ahead. They would repeat the same grade level of reading and math multiple years (booting me to third grade reading during 1st and 2nd and then almost keeping me at 3rd grade before a teacher realized I could read and understand at a 12th grade level and got me into a 5th grade class, and then that stagnated up to 5th grade, giving me a 5th grade math workbook in 3rd and 4th grade and keeping me with that workbook in 5th grade to the point that I DID stagnate in math and got humbled by my 5th grade teacher on my first day in her class). The point is, I didn't get to be challenged the way I deserved until middle school, and I've never learned how to study or prepare for exams because I was already just good at everything in elementary school. I've somehow made it most of the way through college without much trouble, but as a kid, school was miserable.

[@a11i44]

Story 3: amazing how OP cannot even conceptualize of someone needing more sexual intimacy than he does and that long periods without it can damage a relationship and hurt a person. I'm fairly low libido and even I understand that. I didn't have sex for the last nearly 2 years of my relationship for many reasons (long distance) but mostly because it was a symptom of ME growing resentment for the situation and pulling away. I shut down sexually when I'm not being fulfilled in other areas of the relationship. Maybe his sister's husband wasn't happy with other things and they could work on those yes, but maybe this is a newly developed fundamental incompatibility that can't be worked through. There are people out there with inherently higher libidos than me which yes, will slow down with age, but we'd probably never have a truly satisfying relationship for either of us for many many years of our time on earth if we just tried to make it work anyway.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

She turns everything sexual to the point her ex is afraid to even be touched by her and once a week is too low for her. At that point she has a problem she needs to see a doctor about not him. Also she thinks intimacy only exist when being sexual which is extremely unhealthy. She has a disorder not a high libido.

[@damien678]

Are we all just gonna ignore that OP's sister was so sexually aggressive in her advances that she made HER OWN HUSBAND start to recoil from even her casual touch? And it's a BAD THING to call her out on making a sexual joke after knowing that?? When the joke in question is a part of the attitude that led to her making her partner feel so violated and freaked out???

[@bryn1063]

Gotta agree with the replies. This isn't normal at all. Touching someone so much to where they recoil is so strange, she even thought that the difference between a boyfriend and a roommate is only sex? How is this heathly?! Did she even get consent or a sad "okay"?

[@lizordgutz5185]

I think its so funny she said “he cant make choices for my life for me” or whatever when she literally did that for their daughter when she enrolled her into the public school without her husbands input.

[@juliazdmn13]

I love how story 1 mom was like….he can’t make decisions about my life without me after she enrolled her daughter in public likely without talking to her daughter and husband.

[@senor834]

Makes sense it's Florida cops

[@khushitiwari1147]

The woman from the first story was so lazy. Like you have TWO housekeepers and still you can't drive for 2 hours! What is this woman?

[@dethkruzer]

Story 1: i hope the husband gets full custody.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

There are times when I believe Reddit/KZbin is commenting/judging way past our expertise and the last story is one of them (Sorry Markee). 1: We don't have enough information about the sister and her husbands life to make judgements. 2: This seems to me this is a problem requiring true professional help, I.E. couples counseling, not just our suppositions about what's going on based on VERY limited information.

[@nanoglitch6693]

lol, nah, she told on herself over and over. We can judge her from her own words.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

@@nanoglitch6693 But what is the husband's side of this story? We are discussing a marital relationship between two people but we only have OP's second hand description of the story from his sisters point of view with nothing from the other partner. My point is the information is too incomplete for us to make judgments.

[@skyelindsey687]

@@crichtonbruce4329 my question is what happened to make the ex husband physically recoil from her touch. There has to be a reason that that happened because people don’t start recoiling like that for no reason. The likely reason is the sister pushed too hard, but there’s another reason it could happen that I sincerely hope isn’t the case.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

@@skyelindsey687 I think you have stated just the point I'm attempting to make: We don't have enough information, and what we are given is second hand trough the sisters brother. Any remotely competent therapist will insist on hearing both sides. Why is the sisters partner pushing her away?? Even from the limited info we are given the sister does not know, so how are we: internet strangers with very limited info to correctly judge?

[@Human-kb6xc]

I just love how OP in story 1 got absolutely torn apart in the comments. Her children would be better off without someone as selfish as her.

[@iH4teUrGutZ]

being a SAHM is a job too! taking care of the children, making sure the house is taken care of... But 2 out of 3 kids are at school and you have a housekeeper, so that means you just do dishes and watch tv while your 2 yo plays? like COME ON! your job is to take kids to schools.. dude... like what even!!!!!