My Wife Is Angry That My Mother-In-Law Ate MY SNACKS And Got High r/Relationships

[@GBunnyG]

If I was a bride having a child free wedding, and a guest lobbed their kids off last minute with a family member against their will, the GUEST screwed up my wedding, not their family member.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

I have a feeling that they felt that way too and called OP's sister and BIL out. That's why they keep insisting OP insulted the couple. Because they're deflecting.

[@tuschi8039]

@@SLTheOneAndAwesome19 If it was me haveng a child-free wedding I probably would ask that couple to leave (i know it sounds kinda cruel. But If I we're to decide not to have kids there I'd Most likely follow through...) So that could be why the couple had to leave early and are MAD af. 🤔

[@paulinadeboer3604]

@@tuschi8039 this and it is their own fault that they get kicked out. You don't get an invite to a wedding last minit. They had the change to make other arangements.

[@jaymel4691]

Exactly. They had plenty of time to arrange for a babysitter but didn't want to pay. OP should not be forced to watch their kids after she already said no. I bet they wouldn't have tried that if OP was a man. It also sounds like they have done this many times before to OP. The only thing OP did wrong was not putting her foot down a long time ago.

[@justinecorrington4106]

I can’t actually understand the everyone sucks; unless they wanted op to call the cops for child abandonment. Seriously they said no. And the sister dropped her kids off anyway. Hell if she hadn’t just kept them, reddit would be blaming her for not dropping them off on the parents.

[@thebigmystery7841]

I dont know whats funnier An elderly woman sneakimg food and getting blasted without knowing, or that it was actually intentional but didnt realize that they were gonna rocket off into another world because they havent had something like edibles before. Both are amazingly hilarious.

[@themayhemofmadness7038]

That is hilarious! 😂😂😂

[@o0BlackSand0o]

Something similar happened to my grandfather. He didn't sneak them, my mum had brought brownies that she packed to give to my uncle and the hand off was my grandparents place... granddad likes brownies and figured my uncle wouldn't mind him stealing one... he was right, my uncle didn't mind. No one in the family has told him what happened and it was over 20 yrs ago

[@Woodie-xq1ew]

its always the people who say "edibles can't be that strong" that end up becoming part of the sofa an hour later

[@autodogdact3313]

The last time we had smoked weed was about 25 years ago so when medical Marijuana became available here the first time we took a large hit. We learned the difference very fast! We were careful after that.

[@brigidtheirish]

My dad turned 71 last month and was a teenager in the '60s. Remember, folks, today's grandmas and grandpas were yesteryear's hippies.

[@joeschmo622]

"Next time you drop off your kids after I say not to, I'll be calling the police and CPS." Problem solved.

[@coolgirlNbloomingt]

No one "let your mom get high". This is no one's fault but your mother in law. Its concerning your wife dosnt realize that

[@amandasunshine2]

Right?? Like the story is funny but they're also stomping ALL over OP's boundaries, which is the REAL problem here

[@tiffanyverbeck7041]

I wonder if wife will change tune when she finds out her mom got high on purpose just didn't realize how severely she be affected

[@rinpaisys]

This is what I was thinking the whole time and was surprised by the lack of people pointing that out. Like, lady, he didn’t let her get high. He had nothing to do with it. She ate his edibles after entering the home that he and you share unannounced while nobody was there. He had no more control over that than you. Jeezus.

[@dustyrose192]

@@rinpaisys Also. wasnt the wife LAUGHING as well?

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

She's a grown ass woman, not a dog that got into the kitchen. She got herself high.

[@KE-hr4sb]

"Three places you can stay for free: In your lane Out of other people's business Over there with your nonsense." LOL! I'm going to have to steal that one!

[@ThatsViews]

I think the wife is getting "creepy vibes" about the relationship between her husband and her brother. They spend all their time together? Hmmm.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@ThatsViews Maybe they're building an art studio.

[@ineedhoez]

😂😂😂😂

[@Azulakayes]

Story 2: I have a niece who is a med student. She has such a heavy workload and we all love her & want her to succeed, so no one ever asks her to babysit. In the middle of exam week sometimes she forgets to eat & her mom has to be on her about it. When she is available, she tells us and we are so happy to have her around. ESH commenters do not know what it means to be a med student, such ignorance is unfathomable.

[@Icalasari]

Not to mention that you don't just snap like that from one incident. I hope OP cut off his toxic sister

[@agentzapdos4960]

I think she should have put her foot down before it got to this point. Even if it meant completely burning bridges with her entire family, who would inevitably support the sister because "FAAAAAMILY" and "WON'T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN!"

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@agentzapdos4960 she tried to. Her sister then abandoned her kids at her house. She then had to get dressed, figure out where the stupid wedding was and wrangle 3 small kids into a car to drive to the wedding when she should be studying. This was the lesser of two evils. Next time call the cops and have them pick up the kids

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@Kris-wo4pj Honestly, I feel like no matter what OP did, Reddit was going to say she was an asshole still. If she took the kids and sacraficed her studies, they would say she was an AH to herself, and tell her to stop being a doormat. She takes the kids to their parents, and they say she's the AH for "DESTROYING someone's wedding" (like seriously, I can't believe they're claiming OP single handedly ruined the whole wedding.) And if OP had called the cops/CPS, the cops would have been the ones to return the kids to the parents, and you KNOW those same Redditors would have said "OP should have just brought the kids there herself, and not let the cops go there and RUIN the whole wedding". They kept telling her how all of her actions made her and asshole, but conveniently leave out any solutions. If you're going to claim some one is an asshole, at least offer an "If you had done this or that, you would have been in the clear. But hilariously, they didn't offer that.

[@brigidtheirish]

Never been a med student, but I *did* attend college in the days when Blackberry was the closest anyone had to a smartphone. A friend of mine had a cellphone she called "the leash" because it mostly existed so her mom could keep tabs on her and try to guilt trip her into babysitting *every weekend.* Didn't matter if she had to study for a test, she could study at home, didn't she want to spend time with her little sister? It was rather jarring to watch because *my* mom had *ordered* me *not* to call for at least a *month* unless it was an emergency. Dad and I both whined about that, which Mom just used as evidence that the order was *necessary.*

[@nareegreel]

Story 2: NTA, you took your sister's kid back to her. She thought you wouldn't because it's a wedding, welp! She F around and found out 🤣

[@thedestroyasystem]

Story 2: NTA. The ESH comments are so frustrating. The alternative to dropping them off at the wedding was calling CPS for child abandonment. OP didn’t take the extra 30 minute to scheme a way to interrupt the wedding as much as possible, they had no clue what the schedule was; they spent those 30 minutes likely panicked and trying to figure out what to do. And yet the commenters are trying to claim they both acted impulsively and without thinking, AND timed it specifically to inflict as much damage as possible. It is not OP’s fault the wedding was interrupted. It is the fault of the neglectful and irresponsible parents for abandoning their children with someone they knew couldn’t care for them, and refused to make alternate arrangements to attend a childfree event. Any inconvenience to the couple getting married is unfortunate but ENTIRELY the parents’ fault.

[@minisnakali]

I agree more with the ESH comments, the people getting married had done nothing wrong and what OP did was an ass move to the couple. But I don't blame OP for doing this because I can relate to panicking but that doesn't negate that OP likely screwed an innocent pair of people on their wedding day but the sister and brother in law are much worse and to blame for that too. But OP didn't make the right call either, I feel bad for OP though, OP didn't have many options but crashing someone innocent's wedding is still wrong.

[@MaddyBlackbart]

I know drove me nuts to. Everyone suggests doing something else but not a single one gavean alternative.

[@minisnakali]

@@MaddyBlackbart Honestly OP should have simply called CPS, the parents abandoned their kids after OP said they couldn't watch them. I can understand panicking I'd panic too in that situation but OP decided to crash the wedding and OP is responsible for making that decision even if the parents are ultimately responsible for OP ending up doing it.

[@jspace20]

Notice how everyone calling her an ahole never even proposed an alternate solution. What else should she have done, call the police? Failed her exam? Makes no sense to me

[@PoetDarkling]

Exactly! Not to mention that the wedding was hardly "ruined." How overly dramatic! Lol

[@locusxe1411]

Story 2 NTA- I completely disagree with the ESH or YTA comments. She literally just dropped the kids off at Ops place and just expected Op to watch them. Heck no. What if Op had an emergency that had to be taken care of or somewhere they had to be alone? It sucks about the wedding but it’s not my wedding nor is it my fault I had kids dropped on me unexpectedly

[@Azulakayes]

Plus OP is a med student. People lack empathy for what those students go through & the workload they have.

[@amandasunshine2]

Right?? Like she's lucky OP didn't call the police! That would've been my first call

[@VaellinTheBard]

Here's the deal. That explains why the sister is the asshole but does not excuse OPs actions. The sis is a BIGGER asshole but that doesn't erase what OP did.

[@rhylla_864]

What if OP was on her way out of the door to work or something? 100% nta

[@ginathecookie]

@@Azulakayes I got so annoyed when I heard the type of study My best friend is a med student My other friend is law student Some of the most intense years of study, you mostly have no social life with those fields. It's beyond uncool what the sister did.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 NTA your sister disrespected you. She should've asked you. Not ESH would that commenter prefer OP call CPS and the cops? And BIL scolding OP. GTFO here!

[@thebigmystery7841]

About story 2, if you may have noticed, the bride got into it with her friend during/after the wedding. Who did they get mad at? The bride. If they were still good and it was all OPs fault, why would she be calling her angry that her friend cut her off? I understand why people would say that by ruining anothers wedding it makes her the butt, but... I know if my friend pulled that at MY wedding, where they refused to get a sitter until last minute and THEN THEY JUST DITCH THEM THERE? That would be no friend of mine. Not only the lack of caring about my wedding day but also how they treated their sister and the situation. Maybe the bride thought the same. Does it suck? Yeah. But things happen and I dont think OP should be held accountable for the irresponsibility of another when it all could have been avoided.

[@tamsel814]

She should have at least gone in with the kids and made sure it was actually the right location + explained to someone at the wedding what happened and why they were dropping of kids. Maybe apologised for inconveniencing the bride and groom.

[@sandracox4341]

Story 3: The bride can ask whoever she wants to walk her down the aisle and why do you care if your husband walks his sister down the aisle. Wife is the weird one here.

[@zachf748]

*_Story #2_* NTA. The sister knew about the wedding and that she would need babysitting well before that morning. These drive-by kid drop-offs are insanely rude, disrespectful, and flat out terrible parenting. Where the parents barely stop their car, dump the kids outside the front door and just drive off… absolutely despicable.

[@dustyrose192]

I would have called her to get her butt back here or else id be calling cps and the police for child abandonment

[@benry007]

Sister was lucky OP didn't just call cps or the police. Giving the kids back was the peaceful option.

[@ineedhoez]

I didn't know this was even a thing. I am always dumbfounded that people actually do this.

[@DoritoBot9000]

Story 2: The amount of entitled parents showing themselves in the Reddit comments is really worrysome

[@katiecakesl4691]

Story 2: NTA. If you dont want your children being dumped with you at a place not suitable for them you plan ahead. You dont just ditch your kids and expect accomidations. That's entitlement. If the bride and groom are upset it's on the parents for their poor planning, not on OP for refusing to put up with the parents disrespect.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - Come on. Wife cannot possibly get upset that OP 'let' her mom do anything - he wasn't even freakin' home when mom did it! Also, here to tell you the difference in weed from mid-70s to mid-90s was HUGE. Can't imagine with all the genetics and special grows now - heck, I'd be knocked off my butt with just a few hits or a few small bites. That is funny tho - mom later says she knew.

[@madisonl3401]

Lmaooooo edibles are the best! MIL shouldn’t have stolen snacks without knowing what they were lol

[@locusxe1411]

Well apparently she knew what it was😅

[@sacredbeastzenon]

The update said MIL ate the edibles intentionally. She just didn't how powerful they were going to be.

[@robertx8020]

@@locusxe1411 I like MIL ..not for stealing or entering the house ofc but at least she knows how to have a good time 🤣

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I used to work with a guy whose wife made edible "snacks" all the time. She apparently got hold of some pretty potent ingredients as the night she made them, she and her husband had a few and sat there staring into space because they couldn't do much else. This in itself is funny, but what came next was the best. The next day, her parents came to town several hours earlier than expected from their home a few hundred miles away. They were staying with this guy and his wife at their home. They went in and helped themselves to some delicious-looking brownies. Rather than abiding by the universally accepted motto: "Life is better in moderation", they each had several brownies in a short period of time. When the guy and his wife got home, they found her mom and dad banging like bunnies on their couch. I am talking, clothes were strewn all over the living room, MIL was half on, half off the couch, legs spread wide and high, and screaming to her Lord and Savior about how great she felt and how great her husband was performing his "job". Her only complaint seemed to be she wanted him to perform his actions "harder" as she was repeatedly screaming that as well. LOLOLOLOL. What makes it even better is the fact they have cameras installed in all of the common areas of their home, including the living room, to keep an eye on their cats. So, yes, it was ALL caught on 4k video with full sound. He said they were just relaxing on the couch watching a movie on Netflix and the next thing they knew, mom "LUNGED" at dad and they were off to the races LOLOLOL.

[@devlyn873]

Story one: I too, am laughing at her mom.

[@damien678]

Wifey seems a bit touchy about this, because this is grounds to laugh at MIL for years to come lol 😂

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 3 WTF! Bride chooses who walks her. Mind your damn business! Why did OP think she was entitled to an opinion, let alone voice it outloud. Major AH

[@bhutehole]

I like it when it backfires in the brides face. this is why I like to hear both sides cause sometimes its the one closer to us being the one unreasonable.

[@ineedhoez]

Facts... that is the bride's business.

[@JRMAV1]

@@bhuteholeOP wasn’t the bride

[@theblackKatKuro]

Not really, nope. I would have flagged it as not enough info. Reddit really dropped the ball on that one. The OP mentions in the first few lines that her husband and SIL are so close they spend almost all week together. Unless they live under the same roof, I don't really know any siblings that are close to the point of spending pretty much everyday together especially when one is married and other is about to. That line should have indicated that OP finds a problem with their proximity already. This should have been questioned and then we could make an apt judgement if it is a point of concern. There have been stories where siblings/friends are destroying someone's marriage un/knowingly bc they want to keep being close to their friend/relative while the married party is oblivious until later. This could have been one such instance yet no one questioned it and got all gung-ho on calling the OP an AH. We don't know how the SIL is projecting herself to the OP, the OP could feel threatened by how much sway the SIL has over her husband and didn't want it to go on any further. OP could have used some actual advice but nope, reddit went her marriage, her rules.

[@nyx_moonwalk]

story 2: what would sister have done if op wasn't home? op says the kids were on the doorstep, meaning sister just dropped them off and ran.

[@delilahbelle2125]

Story 4: apparently Reddit is happy to tell people "no one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable in your own home," but the exception is someone's deceased spouses ashes. 🙄

[@kelliemullin8504]

The last story got to me. I lost my father in December of last year. He was such an amazing dad and he took care of me. The op in this story must not realize how much burial is and keeping the plot (I’m basing this in the USA, I’m unsure of other countries and how they work with burials). Some people can’t afford it. No one helped me when I had to deal with my dad’s funeral arrangements. I could only afford cremation and that was still expensive. I am also in the friends position where I still have my dad’s ashes. I don’t know what I’d do if I was asked that, especially if I was asked that when my dad first passed away. I will eventually spread my dad’s ashes but right now isn’t the time.

[@Graves933]

I dont think the OP is ignorant to burial costs as she doesn't say burials are best and only good option. just that she's uncomfortable with people's ashes in her home. I think what she said to him was horrible and needed better timing but I do think she is entitled to feel a certain way about certain things I'm her home

[@kelliemullin8504]

@@Graves933 oh yes, she is definitely entitled to her opinion. I fully agree with that. She definitely could have gone a better way of asking. She could have come from a more empathetic point of view and worded it in that way. It was very insensitive of her to have worded it in the way she did. Especially knowing he lost someone he loved dearly. But you are correct, she is entitled to how she feels about the matter. There’s just many factors to issues such as sensitive as death/grieving a loved one.

[@Graves933]

@@kelliemullin8504 Exactly, she should have at least talked to her husband in private about it first and made a plan with the least amount of damage

[@wildone9946]

For the second story, I would have called CPS. That'll be worse than me just dropping them off there

[@itsjustmaddisen]

And/or call the police.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@itsjustmaddisen ya call the police to get cps in most places. Just like ya call them for the firefighters, ambulance or psych eval. Tho I would recommended finding out if ya have a different number for the last one(major cities do most towns or rural areas dont) cuz cops have a tendency to kill most mental ill people like those cops that tortured, mutilated and killed a woman suffering from schizophrenic episode in her front yard and refused to give her medical attention as she laid dying. No they didn't go to jail judge ruled they were in their right to drag her until her stomach came out, have a dog eat her and stomp on her face until her jaw snapped in two. And yes this did happen in a southern state.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Last story - Sounds like OP has some hang-ups. Not me. I would have told friend, come on over, move in and you can put the Mrs. right by my mom and dad. She might get a kick out of the two of them bickering. 😁

[@bigrdmp]

Yeah, but I don't think OP was really given any say in the matter. She was obviously uncomfortable with cremation and now she's being forced into having that around her. Sure, she was insensitive, but she was going to be uncomfortable in her own home for the foreseeable future. I feel like a lot of people are coming at this from the side of "the friend had a massive loss" and because of that, OP doesn't get to voice an opinion on what she's comfortable with.

[@joshuahaskellcarr]

The esh on the wedding drop off drives me up the wall, they keep saying she should have handles it better but don't say how. It was a firm no. Plus she could either call cps or arrange child care without permission, both wasting the time possibly all day that she needs to study for a final.

[@niac8635]

Omg! Listening to Mark sing "Because I Got High" absolutely made my day. Love it lol🤣 Thank you for another great video. Much love to you and pets for Poppy! ❤🧇🧇🐾

[@bunnyslippers191]

I just had to go listen to that song once again.

[@AndyyWithAY]

NTA you said emergencies only. You're an adult, you can cook for yourself. She ate food that didn't belong to her.

[@juletneptune6264]

OP you didn't do anything wrong, because your sister &brother in law , keeping taking you for granted, they kids are not your problem. Sister knows beforehand that they had a child free wedding, all they had to do was to asks if you were free on that day. If both of them wanted to be free they should have think twice about having kids. Look medical school is not a walk in the park, it's takes up a lot of time sometimes you don't even have time for your self. OP I do wish you all the best with your studies and be the best doctor you can be. GOOD LUCK 👍

[@taylorwashington7682]

I don't understand the ESH/YTA in story 2. Sister is lucky that OP didn't call the cops because I surely would have. Also she's lucky OP was even home because if she wasn't and she drove off she would've been in deep shit

[@sfsin3380]

I can only hope that Mark had to look for those and that idiocy wasn't as common as it looks like here (I know other people who read Reddit stories have been accused of pushing their own view if all the comments are one way even if that is a more accurate version of the vote and I've noticed Mark tends to have a bigger mix than other narrators)

[@teacheschem]

One point about the remains- the comment if your husband passed would you appreciate his friends telling you what to do with your husband’s remains. They would have no right to tell you that UNLESS you were bringing it into their house! People have a right not to want human remains in their house. My husband’s aunt hates having the remains of her SIL in the house even though they lived together for a couple of decades. My MIL hated to pass by a cemetery. Some people have very strong reactions to these things. Even though I don’t agree with her and how she handled it- you must realize that he will be making her uncomfortable in her own house.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: I don't know who I'm more upset about. The parents for dropping off the kids and thinking they have a free babysitter or the everyone sucks here voter thinking that OP should have found another alternative other than dropping off the kids with their parents. Honestly the only reason the sister thinks that it's okay to do this is because she's banking on OP to be the bigger person I.E the doormat.

[@mandalorianhunter1]

Agreed, Reddit is full of idiots

[@akl2k7]

The only other alternatives I could think of were calling CPS (so more time wasted), calling a babysitter and having the sister pay (high up-front cost and potentially not getting the money owed) or just sucking it up and taking care of the kids for the afternoon (taking needed time away from studying and continuing to set a bad precedent). I'd say compared to those, OP actually chose a better option.

[@lynngrant533]

Story 4: I have my family’s ashes my brother’s - 2012, my dad’s - 2016, my mom’s - 2018, and sadly my son’s - 2021 in ornate wooden boxes in my living room. They all left very suddenly and I find it comforting to have their ashes here, and not the least bit creepy.

[@Snowshowslow]

Yes but she does find it creepy and it's her house that her husband just invited a friend into without talking to her about it. She didn't handle it tactfully but if ashes really make her freak out I can see how she might not want them in her house...

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

I have my Dad's in an urn, on a shelf with photo's of him around it. Told my family to do the same for me. Drink a toast to us on our birthdays, but we only want to hear good stories, they aren't allowed to whine to us. I have to hear it now, don't want to hear it when I've passed 😂😂😂🥂

[@darrylblanch8463]

1st story. Take the key back. Mil entered house when she knew daughter was away & knowingly helped herself to the buzz brownies. Basically broke the 1 rule & deliberately stole his buzz brownies.

[@mrsmonroe7147]

IDGAF who says what that sister knew well in advance when and where that wedding would be it’s NO ONE ELSE’S RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN PERIODT

[@flamin.hot.cheeto]

My jaw dropped instantly after I heard story 4 😬

[@mareegray4105]

Omg this story 1 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣hilarious but the step dad just sits and has a beer with son in law

[@alissaroberts2545]

Story 2, the parents are lucky she didn't call CPS instead of taking them to the wedding.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: OP’s sister and husband are bad parents. What happened if OP wasn’t even home, was at University studying or something? Seriously. How bad of parents do you have to be to not prepare someone to babysit them, for a child free wedding they’ve known more than a few months, before the last minute? OP is NTA, her sister’s friends probably now know how bad of a parent she really is (if the sister didn’t spin a web of lies or something)

[@monkeeblue]

Story 3: Keep your beak out of it OP...this is absolutely nothing to do with you and was/is between SIL and husband.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "She's giving me shit for letting her mom get high" how in the ever loving hell is that Op's fault? _He wasn't even home._ It's not his fault she broke the rules and not only went into their house when neither of them were home, but also ate _their_ food _without even asking who or what it was for._ This gives the same vibes as the Op who made weed cookies and then suddenly a family member dropped by with no prior warning, and their kid ran inside and tried to take a cookie then had a fit when Op wouldn't let her so the mom tried to make him give her one anyway, he said he couldn't because they had weed in them and then _she_ had a fit about how he "shouldn't have such things when there's children around" meanwhile _she didn't even tell him they were coming. They just appeared at his door._

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 1:* Sounds like the most fun, hilarious karma you could ever recieve. Steal some food? Have fun getting so blasted that you cant escape. I hope she learned her lesson.

[@BenKonosky]

Ok, if it was an AH move to hand the kids back in the exact way they were handed to OP, the only other option would be to call the cops for child abandonment because that's exactly what sis did with her kids.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 is why I hate Reddit sometimes. Some commenters expect perfection at all times.

[@LisaApril]

Story one: while funny, I would’ve taken mother-in-law‘s key while she was stoned out of her mind. I would also make sure my wife understood that I would not stand for this again. The mother-in-law not having a key would be My hard hard boundary. Story two: Nta The wedding couple should be upset at the sister and her husband for not arranging in advance proper childcare. The wedding couple will see that these parents dumped their kids somewhere where they were not wanted and then the children were returned to them at their wedding. I’m pretty sure when the sister explains that her sister was supposed to watch the kids, they will See through her explanation and at least wonder and ask well then why were they returned at my wedding? The truth will come out.

[@dorotheawalker7985]

Lol this reminds me of when I got robbed by the crack heads and they stole 3 freezer bags of home grown cat nip and smoked it and sold it to make money for more cocaine. Next day a whole lot of ticked off people at their door cause they didn't get high yet a lot of cats showed up. We were all laughing cause they was in a mess.😂😂😂 As for the wedding story did anyone read she a medical student she has things to do not the AH sounds like her sister trying to make her fail cause she jealous of her.

[@joeschmo622]

It was probably way funnier watching all those people rolling around on the ground with bugged-out eyes.

[@dorotheawalker7985]

@@joeschmo622 ment cats yet stupid auto correct changed it to cars.

[@TriXJester]

Story 4: I'm going to school right now for Funeral Services and what that OP said was quite possibly the worst, most heartless, cruelest thing I have ever heard someone say to a grieving person. JFC.....

[@Azulakayes]

Horrible person. She also needs to mind her own business.

[@davidburton3447]

@@Azulakayes I disagree. 1 It IS her business. It's her house. She doesn't want someone's remains in her house. That is her right. It's harder to ask after the fact than before. If it were my wife that died, and I needed a place to stay, I wouldn't even ask if I could bring remains in someone else's home. If I couldn't store them somewhere, then they'd be sealed in the urn and bubble wrapped and placed in a container in the car or something. The fact that he got upset tells me that he was planning on bringing that into her home without asking.

[@Graves933]

I agree saying it to the man grieving was horrible and tasteless, but i do think shes justified in not wanting someone else's remains in her house.

[@Graves933]

@@Azulakayes She is minding her own business though, it is literally her buisness. It's her house, that she is living in and contributing to.

[@cuzican1902]

She is so selfish. But it's not just about that. Clearly this friend is a close friend. Also, that friend's wife suffered to have that much medical debt for his friend to also lose his home. So his friend has a lost so much. Her first thought, what about herself? And in her post, she is even judgmental about him cremating his wife. Overall, she does not sound a like a good person.

[@andysixxstalkerangeloftrag5833]

This is a good reason why you don't eat stuff out of other people's houses. Even if they're family. One of many reasons: you never know anything.

[@wheelsndealz]

I was gonna make a home cooked meal, but then I got high. I was gonna sneak in and clean your house, but then I got high. but now I'm sitting on your couch because I'm too high. Because I got high, because I got high, because I got high.

[@Alteusgirl]

Story 3: Op's husband walking his sister down the aisle isnt affecting Op in any way.. she doesn't get to decide that it's good enough that she speaks to her dad to have him walk her down the aisle, that role isn't just for fathers, it's for someone that holds a dear place in your heart and took care of you. It's a personal decision who you want to give this honor too. No one is gonna think anything and Op is a dramatic baby.

[@astronautviolet153]

story: 1 Op NTA it's all mother in laws fault eating people's food and not asking hopefully now she'll know better 😂LOL.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 3 : OP is the A-hole. OP needs to stay out of it. This is Beth's day. This is between Beth and Mike. OP is being an insensitive busibody.

[@mamakitty6549]

Mike and Beth story: The only way to fix this conflict is to mind your own business. It's not your wedding and so just leave your opinion to yourself.

[@gcarr1089]

Story 2 - sister should be grateful OP didn't call police for child abandonment. Sister and bil are just embarrassed for being called out in front of their friends. Story 3 - I wonder if OP doesn't want husband to walk sister down the isle because he will have to sit at the head table with the bride and groom and not with her.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

6:54 none of this is on OP! OP isn’t the parent! A child free wedding isn’t an emergency! And it’s not like it was a spontaneous child free wedding, so the sister just assumed OP would be ready to babysit at the drop of a hat

[@becauselifts9913]

Wedding story: Not the arse. Easiest, and *correct* thing to have done would be to call law enforcement, but that would come with much, much, *much* heavier consequences. Instead OP took them to the parents. Bunk them.

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 3 - I am on Beth's side on this, because I think the Father-of-the-bride role is more a case of who the bride has the best relationship with, preferably family or family-of-choice. YTA for OP.

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 4 - I have a weird fondness for the idea of keeping ashes in a nice decorative urn. Because of that, I *cannot* sympathise with OP on this, because I would actually support a person coming to house-share with me bringing ashes, and frankly if they didn't already have a nice container, I would be tempted to buy one for them.

[@MysticalBlueRse]

I have necrophobia. I handle dead things. I put my brother’s ashes into an urn necklace I bought my mom and she nearly cried because she realized how hard it was for me to do that but I still did it for her. But also… ashes tend to be inside something so you don’t see them, my brother is in a pretty box, i know there is a dead brother in that box but I don’t focus on it. I mean, as long as the dude isn’t plopping a plastic baggy of ashes onto the table every night at dinner, it’s not something you have to focus on. ***And before anyone freaks out, your loved one is transported in a plastic bag until the funeral home or a family member dumps them into an urn. Funeral homes might just put the bag in the urn and you have to still dump it if you so choose.***

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 3: YTA. It is not OP's place to decide how SIL plans her wedding. The audacity to think OP can stop Husband from walking Beth down the aisle. Eww, get counseling.

[@mriddley]

10:09 spoken like a true doormat

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "You wrecked someone's wedding" Sister wrecked someone's wedding by being an entitled little brat and dumping her kids on someone at the last possible minute aka while she was on her way to the wedding. Op is a med student, med students are insanely busy. And even if she wasn't, that still doesn't give sister any right to dump her kids on her and bail immediately. She had no way of guaranteeing Op was even home. "Her car could have been there" and she could have been picked up by a friend and gone somewhere. She essentially abandoned her kids with no full guarantee that someone was able to watch them. Forget the god damn wedding for a second, they're shitty parents who don't deserve their kids since they clearly don't want to be around them with how often they dump them on others.

[@SwapnilBBagul]

Story 3: Being asked to walk someone down the aisle is a great honor someone can receive. There's nothing wrong with this person being a brother. It has been happening for centuries when the father couldn't/wouldn't do it. Anyone who is of greatest significance even if not an exact father figure role has been walking down the aisle.

[@champslim]

Story 4: Where does Op think he would do with the ashes??? Leave it in his car??

[@paulinadeboer3604]

Some people have issues with dead, maybe believe in ghost and ashes in your home is not something you like then. Her question is legit, she has to feel comfortable in her own house, if the ashes take this away for her to a point she get spooked about it. The idiot in this story is her husband, he seems to know her issues and should have said no. No-one should be feeling uncomfortable in their own home. I have anthofobie, it is a weird fobie i know but if anyone think they can bring flowers in my house, they are not welcome anymore. (not so weird for me, i am scared of flowers because i am highly alergic too them)

[@kohakufi9]

@@paulinadeboer3604 👆 this. I get that the friend lost his wife but that doesn't mean the op has to feel uncomfortable in her own home. Its not insensitive to make sure of something(especially because releasing and spreading ashes is also a custom people have) before you make a decision. Its not like she asked for fun. In all honesty the husband is an asshole for making a unilateral decision and the commenters are assholes for not trying to understand her point of view. The way her husband spoke to her was disgusting

[@dianemartel5205]

The only way in which OP is an AH in this story is that they put up with this bs until now. OP should have put their foot down long ago. The parents are the real AHs here; they were lucky to avoid having to explain the situation to child services or the police.

[@MsAntiflo]

Haha, Afroman, thanks Mark, now that song will be in my head all day. Congrats on the 100 K, you rock.

[@HisShadowX]

Story 2 anyone who drops their kids off at a place uninvited expecting them to watch them essentially abandoned their children. What if you were out of state or not at home? The med student is not wrong how she handled the situation. I’d argue next time this happens to call children and family services for neglect

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

Super stoked for you reaching 💯k!! Solid effort Mark 😁

[@TheWeirdoS1lly]

Story 1: I laughed at the fact that the MIL got high, but I would have a serious sit down with the wife about how "making a home cook meal" (knowingly and wanting to get high) = emergency to enter the home. I wish there was another update about that in particular. Side note: I love how Mark ended the update to the story by singing. NGL, it took me a moment to know what song was being sung 😅🤣

[@trainerlesseevee478]

Story 3: OP is TA. My little sister is getting married next year and we talked briefly about me, HER OLDER SISTER, walking her down the Isle. The thought filled me with so much joy and excitement that I couldn't stop talking about it for a few days. Joking I would wear a pants suit and her glaring at me and saying "You'll wear a dress and like it." Her relationship with her Dad is rocky because he was a terrible person(still is) when we were growing up, but if she decided she wants him to walk her down the isle then I would accept it. It's the BRIDES wedding! OP has absolutely no say in anything she decides for the wedding. Just don't go, OP sounds exhausting ngl

[@PeterShipley1]

story 2: did the husband know it was a surprise drop off? or did wifey lie and say she called ahead and it was all okay... as for OP doing the drop off and run.. turn around is fair play as long as the kids are not in danger

[@kristinewatson3702]

BAAAAAHAHAHA! It's legal now. Gotta watch what you eat when you get into other people's cabinets.

[@madisonl3401]

Congrats so much on 100k! You deserve it!!!

[@elaine8417]

Story 2, it's nothing to do with her whats so ever Story 1 hilarious 😂

[@sarahobah]

I'm LMAO at the first story. A home cooked meal isn't an emergency first of all, and secondly, you don't go uninvited to someone's house under the excuse of making them a home cooked meal and then eat THEIR food! 🤦 She's lucky it was so funny or I'd be really pissed off!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Step dad came to pick her up but she couldn't move so they cracked open a beer ☠️

[@kykutie686]

I would have subscribed all over again after hearing Mark singing "because I got high" 😂😂😂

[@blandoatmeal1273]

Last story Honestly I don't think OP is an AH but that If you do the verdict should be ESH (apart from the friend) for one reason, it's her house too, with two sub reasons. Firstly any time someone is staying for an extended period of time it should be the rule of 2 yes 1 no. While OP didn't say no, her husband didn't wait for her to say yes or even ask if she'd be ok with it. "My husband said of course we'd welcome him to move in and stay in our home." This point is more why the husband is an AH. Secondly OP has the right to feel comfortable in her. Imagine the problem wasn't the ashes but something else, say the friends wife's last gift to her husband was a cat/dog etc. Then keep OP fear and trepidation about having said things in her house. I doubt anyone would be on her case for saying "would you be wanting to bring your pet as well?" I understand that lots of people will be on my case saying it's ashes it's different but it's the same problem for OP, it's her house and her fear. I have mild arachnophobia and I know that I would not be able to let even my best friend, a long term relationship etc crash or move in if it involved bringing pet spiders. I could go to exhibits and be fine or visit their house and be fine but knowing there are spiders in the house I wouldn't be able to sleep. This also goes back to point 1 because to me that was the best time to bring it up. Surely it's worse to agree to house the friend and then turn around a few days later and start asking the same questions? OP was kinda pushed into asking then and there because her home had already been offered to the friend.

[@kohakufi9]

I don't get how it being ashes makes it different. The consensus seems to be that as long as everyone else is comfortable with the dead/ashes its wrong of her to be and because the friend is in a bad spot and had something tragic happen she should shut up and not get the information she needs to make an informed decision. Like was there a 99.9 % he was bringing the wife with him sure, but on the off chance he took her into consideration /could leave the urn with someone while staying there she needed to know. Husband was a flaming asshole for knowing her feelings being okay with putting her out in her own house to make her uncomfortable

[@jessiejeanne9717]

That kinda sucks, though- if it was sativa fudge, you would've come home to a clean house, cooked dinner, and way more disrespected boundaries (take that off MIL, that's not an eclectic choker necklace- it's a ball gag!-type things). Omg, lol! My MIL & I sing "Because I Got High" at/with each other when we have our "bong bimbos, flaked out" mishaps. ETA: cremation, flesh burning of any kind, of any way, is a big fear for me. I'm not trying to be an asshole to a fellow burn-phobic, but shit. You really allowed your brain to formulate those words, then allowed your mouth the physical commitment to say that to a man who's probably "1 camel- back straw" away from having a nervous break down. Think about that. Idk if you can learn empathy, but I know what they say about people who don't have it. (Some have a "type", others use human flesh in their fashion projects. Like a nipple belt).

[@jadelockwood8582]

My answer for Story 4 depends entirely on the husband and how everything went down. The OP is an a-hole for sure, but I want to know if the husband answered his friends question with an immediate yes. The husband must know of the OP's feelings, because they mention the friend also knows as well. And while I understand wanting to respond immediatly to the aid of your friend, I feel the husband must have known some conflict and discomfort would arise from this situation? I know people want to be there for their friends, but if I was in OP's shoes, I would hope my husband would consider my feelings in this sort of situation too. If they really couldn't have worked it out all under the same roof, maybe they could ask other mutual friends or something, but my point is the husband should have expected OP to be uncomfortable with this too, so my overall judgement is YTAH or ESH.

[@jaymel4691]

Story 3- ugh OP sounds like one of those who thinks someone who is LC with a family member should just forgive them, without knowing anything about the situation. This is none of OP'S business and bride can have anyone she wants to walk her down the aisle. OP is AH and needs to butt out!

[@lilolmecj]

Oh the accidental eating of the weed goodies! I am really glad she didn’t have a scary reaction though. It reminds me of a couple of stories from my life. I think in time everyone might find humor in it.

[@destinedtogame]

It was on purpose

[@Silence-1170]

Hi all! Once again congrats on for 100k Mark! My root canal went well. The numbness is now wearing off. I'm glad I got this done. Bad toothaches suck I'm glad I got the root canal done.

[@Callimo]

Aww, I wish you the more amazing milkshakes during recovery lol

[@simac8396]

Story 3: OP it's none of your god damned buiness. If your sister in law wants your husband (her older brother) down the aisle it's between the two of them. BUT OUT

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

You did NOT ruin someones wedding, your sister ruined the wedding. Hopefully she will NOT be entitled and inconsiderate in the future. When people choose to have kids then they can damn well take care of them instead of dumping them on others.

[@namename2040]

Story 1 NTA Mom breaks in, eats your food, gets high, wife gets mad at you. Wild

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3: bride wants her brother to walk her down the aisle. It’s not that deep. OP isn’t even part of it, she should mind her own business and leave the wedding to what the bride wants and stop trying to dictate who she should have walk her down the aisle. It sounds like she is missing a lot too since her brother was the only one who didn’t give her flack for going NC with her dad…

[@iwantsifegold]

Bro, I didn’t know I needed a good laugh like this until I got it. Thank you so much for the story, cannabis, granny.

[@AngelaMerici12]

I'm really sorry but ashes in my house?? I don't know. I've had many extrange experiences in my life and the last thing I want is dead person in my house. Indeed is rude to just say that in front of the person but I really wouldn't like ashes in my house.

[@davidburton3447]

unfortunately there isn't a "nice" way of saying keep your gross shit out of my house. so you either be blunt and hear the entitled BS or keep quiet and put up with the gross thing in your house. personally i wouldn't have asked. (for one thing i would have been mad that someone made a decision that affects me without my consent) i would have just said straight out, you may stay here for a couple weeks/1 month max then you gotta go and the wife isn't invited. take her to the storage unit with the rest of your crap or keep her in the car, whichever. I would have said that a little nicer though but just as firm and direct.

[@a.Trickster]

ok the fact that MOL she knew what she was eating just makes it funnier

[@digitalharmony26]

I got a wedding invite from an friend last month. It’s for the end of October next year. 13 and a half months notice. Plenty of time to have a short discussion about your kids with the person you want to watch them. Insane. It wasn’t a spur of the moment party, it was a wedding.

[@darrylblanch8463]

Holy shit. That last story. OP knew what she was asking, just like someone who humiliates you then does a fake laugh & says they were just joking.

[@Alteusgirl]

Story 1: you know what MIL broke a boundary by using the key and then eating something without asking and then got caught half asleep like Goldilock and OP isnt even mad about it, the least he could have is to be allowed to have a good laugh about it! XD Plus MIL ate the thing on purpose and OP then reacted really well by putting her in a safe spot until she felt better and she seems to have been having a good time XD she probably doesnt feel mocked at all. Story 2: wow the entitlement of the sister, pushing OP in the last minute corner hoping she would babysit because she can't say no.. she probably knew months ago that she had the wedding, her falling out with her friend is her fault because she didnt plan childcare in advance...

[@thehoogard]

People are way to harsh on the last poster. She didn't make it her business until the friend wanted to (presumably) bring his dead wife's ashes into her home. It's not analogous to the previous story at all (the brother walking the sister down), where it literally wasn't her business at all. Sure, she should have shown more empathy, and been more tactful in raising the topic, but she's perfectly entitled to have an opinon on anything being brought into her home.

[@patredding]

For the comment of blasting OP for being the AH and she should have handled it better. it's to late to say OP should have handled it better. She said NO and the sister walked all over her boundaries and didn't care about her previous commitment. I wonder if BIL knew what his wife did. OP did what was RIGHT for her and sister will have to realize no more babysitting from OP.

[@AuntieCreed]

Story 3 - OP is totally TA. She needs to keep her nose out of it. Her SIL has every right to ask her bro to walk her down the aisle. That's just controlling bullcrap. Sounds like wife is jealous of SIL.

[@chinavaughan6383]

Story 1: OP, your wife is wrong, MIL getting high is hilarious!😂 Maybe that will teach her not to come over to your house unless it’s an emergency😏 Story 2: If my sister had ignored me when I said that I wouldn’t watch her kids, and then just dropped them off at my place and left, I would have called the police and had the children placed with CPS😠 Story 3: OP seems like the kind of person who enjoys drama. Why should she care who walks her SIL down the aisle? It’s SIL’s wedding and she can choose whoever she wants to walk her down the aisle. Her actions make me think that OP may be jealous of the close relationship that her husband and sister have🤨

[@debbietaylor2983]

Just want to thank you Mark, for your wonderful channel. Always brightens my day listening to (sometimes funny, sometimes sad and sometimes anger inducing stories.) Lots of love

[@DFullerLisa]

When I went to my grandmas funeral, I was a kid and didn't understand cremation. All of our family got in a car and my cousin sat a box in my lap and said "Hold grabdma." I was petrified because why was grandma in a box? When you're a kid you don't understand death sure as hell cremation. I cried for weeks because grandma was in a box and everyone just thought I missed my grandma. I absolutely am weirded out to this day about cremation. However that doesn't excuse the cruelty. She could have worked out feelings with husband and figured a better way to discuss the cremation box.

[@frith.calluna]

Story 2: "Huh, not so fun to have kids dropped at your feet when you don't expect it huh? Who would have thought?!" The hypocrisy of OP's sister is astounding bahahaha

[@animatorstanley]

Story 3. OP, why do you care? How does your husband walking his sister down the isle effect you in any way?

[@sfsin3380]

because then he can't be by her side all wedding. you know she's should be his priority at his sisters Wedding. /s. One of my Uncles wife pulled this. Uncle was supposed to be Best Man at different uncles wedding on the day she throws a fit because he's not sitting next to her and they're kids (who weren't even supposed to be there) all day. she got her way too. he dropped our of the wedding party and just became a regular guest. saddest part we where expecting her to pull something and there was a back up Best Man ready.

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 2: OP should tell them they're disappointed in both parents, that they had months to prepare for this and that they're lucky OP didn't call the cops on them, because what they did is abandonment. Edit: and can you imagine the ESH crowd if the cops showed up at that wedding ceremony?