Family Is Angry That I REFUSED To Let Step-Mom Be Buried With My Dad

[@MarkNarrations]

I hope you're having a great weekend, any plans? 😁❤

[@bladerbeast3396]

Umm a lot of online schoolwork

[@darlingJasper]

I’m seeing my friend today! :D

[@karagrote5382]

I’m having a great day

[@ThePamElmore]

I plan to listen to you most of the weekend 😜

[@FriedaMMartin]

Birthday celebration here! Unfortunately it has to be household only, so no friends this year

[@lisemartino1854]

Story 3: out of interest, if she had swerved to avoid him and crashed and injured herself, would the boy’s family pay HER medical bills? Ha caused the accident, any damage is his responsibility.

[@mpmansell]

Story 3. OP is the real victim here. The boy stepped out into the traffic, either deliberately or carelessly, and as a result OP's life has been turned upside down. That is the reality here. It is wrong that that is not the first thought of people. Five cases against OP. Five rulings for OP. OP needs to investigate the possibility of going after those going after her for harassment and counseling fees. She should also consider the possibility of suing the parents for her bills (legal, medical) and trauma. I feel for the parents, but they have overstepping from being parents in pain to becoming grade A AHoles.

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story 1: NTA. Why should the gold digger get the burial plot that OP's mother bought to be used by OP, the child she abandoned, and their parents?

[@MrJpaynebb]

I wouldn't be surprised if his mother reached up from her grave to smack her son in the face for trying to bury some rando next to her husband. NTA and OP tell those demon spawn from that goldigger dead 2nd wife of your dad's they can piss off. Family plot is for family and she made it clear while alive that you're not family.

[@Mscrimsondragon]

Her kids probably just dont want to pay for a burial plot for her. I dont know about other countries, but in the US, they cost a hell of a lot of money and thats just for the plot, not counting the headstone, casket, funeral etc... Besides, OP doesnt owe this bitch anything at all, let alone a spot to rest for eternity

[@renoloverxoxo]

@@Mscrimsondragon more than likely yes they don't want to buy the plot. But that's why you get your death plan in order ♡

[@Mscrimsondragon]

renoloverxoxo That is true, but there are times when its a sudden, unforeseen death. Plus, not many people are financially aware enough to plan ahead. Personally, I got mine all planned out simply because Ive seen how some funerals can become a circus in my family.

[@renoloverxoxo]

@@Mscrimsondragon idk this was a woman in her 50s+ with adult children... she didn't at least have life insurance.

[@yunuenhagane3495]

Story 3: I think no one has said this here but Op is not the one that cost the parents their house and assets but the several lawsuits, I know the medical bills could have done a dent in their finances but lawsuits take a lot of time and they probably hired an expensive lawyer that assured them they will get money each time they issued a new lawsuit and that's on them because they equally made Op pay every time he had to hire a lawyer

[@jackspring7709]

That's an excellent point: multiple law suits - that must have cost a fortune. They sound like a nasty, entitled couple who are so entitled they even raised a child to think he could walk out infront of traffic and think it'll part like the dead sea infront of him. I hope she (OP) stands firm and talks some sense into her husband.

[@yunuenhagane3495]

@@jackspring7709 yeah because they presuming guilt on them after they pay might get them back on another lawsuit and use this to get even more money

[@claws2129]

Some people are too stupid for their own good.

[@t.matthies3049]

Honestly, if it bothers the husband that much about there being real children in need they should compromise by skipping IVF and going straight to adoption (being careful to avoid trafficking, of course, as some children being adopted-particularly internationally-are sometimes victims of trafficking). That way they don't run into the potential legal ramifications that may come from assisting with medical bills, they're using the inheritance money to help an already existing child, and they get the family they've been wanting. For OP and her husband, it's a win-win solution. It doesn't solve the medical bills for the kid, but there's no way of winning in that situation, unfortunately. This is why healthcare should either be free, or at least subsidized so it's affordable for everyone.

[@jackspring7709]

@@yunuenhagane3495 Exactly. They seem like the sort who would do that.

[@nicholasking4302]

In story one...the cemetery plot is already assigned, and not to wicked step-mom. Next, she sounds horrible so she can go rot in a ditch. And finally the OP is rather generous to his dad. No matter how grief stricken you need to protect your kid from an abusive person.

[@blackroseinbloom]

Story 3: NTA. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. It’s as simple as that for the kid. They got themselves into that situation, they can find a way out.

[@harripursiainen5420]

Story 3: point to consider. Donating to gofundme may give parents the idea, that you admit them that you are guilty after all.

[@robertx8020]

Unless you do it anonymous!

[@sherisheepsworth8432]

Story 3: NTA, I knew someone who was in the same situation, only that the person they hit died on the way to the hospital, but they were the first one to help that person, make sure they were alive and called 911, they were pretty much a wreak when cops came, letting them know that it wasnt their fault Now the family is trying to sue the person I know, I thought it was pretty messed up Sorry about that, I'll get off my soap box now

[@Ann_Wall-Chiasson]

My late grandfather had two girls dart out into traffic on him when I was a kid. He narrowly missed one but hit the other. He blamed himself even though the laws of physics kept him from being able to stop in time to avoid both girls.

[@Tanjaaraus]

I know some insurance companies will refuse to pay out if people aren't willing to sure the "offender" first. It's messed up and cause a ton of misery, but it's the way they keep money. Because there is a chance the innocent party will be found guilty if they flounder or don't take it serious, or it's a chance the one who was harmed due to accident will not sue and therefor have to cover their own costs

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

Story 3: There has to be a line between obligatied to pay and to legitimate refuse in this situation. If OP had broken streetlaws he should pay but ;and I know it sounds cruel, there is a reason that there are streetlights for pedestrians. The Kid ignored them, the parents failed to teach him atleast to wait when the cars have a longer way to go before hitting you to cross the roads and now they want to guilttrip OP and OPs Husband to give up their child plans to help a kid that almost killed HIMSELF? OP is NTA here and I myself wouldnt bother to pay a dime sounds cruel and it mostlikely makes me the asshole but you are neither bligated to pay him nor is it wrong to refuse. It was the kids fault not OPs.

[@claws2129]

Darwinism at work.

[@imperialspacemarine1539]

@@claws2129 Indeed

[@brothersgt.grauwolff6716]

paying any amount to that GoFundMe would be the same as pressing 1 on a telemarketing call you've tied yourself to that debt and are obligated to pay in full and in their twisted view you've admitted responsibility for their son's accident

[@toffiet3347]

Also I feel like it's just selfish. Like that dosnt just effect you it effects anyone involved (driver, friends, witnesses, victim) and all their family. It's different if it's an accident but this one wornt it was just stupidity

[@DrownedInExile]

How much money did the parents squander with their frivolous lawsuits? They sound like ambulance chasers. OP would be a fool to give them even a penny.

[@vivianarojas40]

Story 3: OP is NTA, she didn't hit that kid with her car, that kid hit her car with himself.

[@izzy10125]

Story 3: OP is so NTA and she should not give a penny because that can be argued as an admission of guilt. Also, filing harassment charges against them so they can stop hounding you for money. Or direct them to your lawyer every time they contact.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

For the teen who walked in front of her car story, I think they REALLY need to contact a lawyer before paying anything because, if they pay something, that could be seen as an admission of guilt & they could then be on the hook for all of it if the parents try sue them again. Idk what I'd personally do in that situation but I'd for damn certain do that. Yikes. The situation just really sucks.

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

S3 NTA "he thought you would just stop for him." No drivers don't just stop for you many people will just blow through traffic lights and stop signs. Drivers are dumb.

[@mbyerly9680]

And physics are unforgiving. You can't stop a ton or more of steel in an instant.

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

@@mbyerly9680 true that.

[@flamelily2086]

1st story NTA the burial site was bought by OP'S mother, it was not bought for the stepmother. She is not OP's family.

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

S1: sounds like Cinderella, but yeah it should stay the original family plot

[@cheskydivision]

The thing about the house rental, it's a great idea. My sister is like this about borrowing money. If it's from friends she pays it back, if it's from me I'll never see it again.

[@IM-rs6br]

She must be too comfortable with u

[@daylite34]

I do think it's weird that he didn't tell his wife about it though, but i guess he might of thought it was not a big deal.

[@fireflymom22]

I'm trying to finish crocheting a blanket for my 11 year old daughter. This keeps my mind off of my Covid quarantine

[@TheYeastofMyConcerns]

That’s awesome! I’m actually knitting a baby blanket atm, it’s a good distraction.

[@FS02012]

That's great, then oneday a step mother or step daughter some outsider will come in and take it away from her!

[@Nerdbookworm]

Yoooo I’m crocheting my mother a blanket currently

[@MsTemptation]

Story 4: YTA. This is why my husband and I have separate accounts. The joint can't be used without the consent of both parties. Doing this helped a lot.

[@Tacobat]

In my hometown, a woman tried to do the "big sleep" by stepping in front of a semi on the highway in the middle of morning traffic and caused a 60+ vehicle pileup with multiple casualties (not including herself). It turned into a huge lawsuit against her. I never understood how someone could involve innocent people in something like that

[@seekingeudaimonia6884]

If these people didn’t have money, why did they have MULTIPLE lawsuits, if they were that tight they should have taken the first verdict and spent the lawyer money on their kids health expenses.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Uhhh because injury attorneys work on contingency? They only charge clients if they win a settlement. Kid's parents haven't had to pay legal fees unless the courts ordered them to pay OP's (which doesn't happen often).

[@toysruskid5074]

There's a 6 lane road known for "accidents" like this in my area. Most people are unaware of this as our local news views it as very crude to report on "suic*des".

[@carolcarol9982]

Step-bro and step-sis just don't want the expense of buying their now dead mum a plot. Besides, OPs' mother bought that plot for 3 people and wicked now-dead stepmum Wasn't one of them.

[@lianabaddley8217]

When my hubby was a teenager his next door neighbors daughter ran into the road got hit by a car and broke her leg. She got taken to the hospital. In the hospital the police who were investigating the accident. Came to the hospital and gave the daughter a ticket for causing the accident and for j-walking. Her and her friends had been darting into traffic all day. Almost causing multiple accidents.

[@Tammohawk1]

1st Story: NTA That was a family plot, not meant for the step mom. The step siblings are looking for a free ride, again. I don't know where OP lives, but in most states it's illegal to kick a minor child out of their home. You want it? It will cost you 10x what my dad paid for it. 2nd Story: NTA The moment mom learns that OP owns the home she is living in is the same moment she will stop paying rent. She will feel entitled to live there free. And go back to being irresponsible. It wouldn't work with me though. I have a bad bad habit of researching every place I live in. I want to know how much the property last sold for, how large acreage wise is the property, when was the dwelling built, etc... Yeah, wouldn't fly with me for a minute. 3rd Story: NTA That kid walked in front of OP's car, OP didn't swerve off the road to hit the kid. I can understand the feelings of guilt, but you don't owe a dime. There is no "moral" obligation here. The courts have ruled and said so. It's sad that this kid was injured so badly, but he's the only one at fault here. I would get an attorney for the ongoing harassment. But what they don't understand is that if OP wanted to, she could bring suit against the kid and his parents for this. He caused this to happen by his flagrant disregard to traffic laws. They could end up paying for the damage to OP's car and her trauma caused by this. 4th Story: YTA You do not spend any large amount without speaking to your spouse about it first! My husband and I had a thing if someone needed an amount of money over $100 we talked about it together. If I were OP's wife, I would have been very upset that OP hadn't of talked to me. That's a lot of money!!

[@clearcasket1555]

Okay, for story 4 though, OP never specified if it was from the joint account or his own personal savings, which I think should be taken into consideration. If it was from the joint account, I completely understand, but if it was from his own personal, then no, I can't understand.

[@Andrea.S.Alvey12]

Story three: I'd be asking those people who keep casting blame on the Op how much they've each donated to the kid and his parents. Also, suing people costs money, court costs, their legal council and defendant's legal fees every time they lose. How much of an effect on their financial situation has been caused, or worsened, by the five times they've sued Op? I don't think Op or her husband should pay anything into the gofundme account. I think it would open a huge can of worms.

[@ResidentMilf]

"...he assumed I would stop for him" Why on God's green, flat earth would you think that?!

[@chenlee9835]

Story 3 - NTA. The teen deliberately walked in front of your car on a busy street. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

[@karagrote5382]

Story3: the health care system in the real AH

[@charimonfanboy]

Ah, but socialised healthcare comes out of your taxes and national health service hospitals have longer wait times. Which are both clearly so much worse than people regularly losing their homes because of their medical bills and if you don't agree you're a commie who just hates America. Or something, I don't know, my country is advanced enough to have a national health service

[@DrownedInExile]

@vergorance /Eyeroll That's a load of crap.

[@RenaRoo123]

@@charimonfanboy literally all of that is wrong. Stfu

[@beckyhartley9502]

@vergorance if you're talking national insurance contributions that go towards services like NHS in UK, a good number of treatments and drugs still aren't free and neither are opticians or dental.

[@renoloverxoxo]

@@charimonfanboy Dude I live in the US. Wait times are insane regardless of where you go. I made PCP appointment: 5 month wait. For a routine physical. Wait times are based on need, regardless of where you go. What's worse is people without insurance make wait times in ERs worse because that's the only place that lets them in for care without insurance.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 4: NTA for giving him a good amount but.. AH that big. I’d say over $600 was too much.. But 5k? Wtf?!

[@mistermakeupman]

7 years of employment though, if it were legit on the books theyd be paying that much anyways

[@fireofdawn3515]

Car story: he went into MOVING traffic and OP couldn’t swerve or stop in time. In drivers ED we are told to stop for people but in practice it goes like this Semi over truck, truck over van, van over car, car over moterbike, moterbike over horse, horse over bike, bike over person, person is squishy, person is responsible for keeping bones in tact and organs in the right place. Keep your squishy selves safe!

[@jmarie9997]

OP3; NTA. They chose expensive lawsuits despite the fact that OP was cleared of any wrongdoing.

[@TarisLuna]

The story with the kid running into traffic: The child ran into traffic, the parents didn't teach their child right and it's those people's fault this happened. OP did nothing wrong and should run lawsuits against those people for harassment.

[@nightcorelucario2218]

Story 1: NTA. That last plot is meant for you. It's still going to be a while till that happens but she has 0 right to be placed there even if she wasn't an awful person to you Story 2: NTA. I was pretty confused as to why you didn't tell your mum but your explanation is sound. You don't want to give your mum any leverage to go back to being irresponsible and screwing her life up again Story 3: NTA. I was fully going into this ready to say YTA from the title but he's the one who walked into oncoming traffic. Don't be a fucking idiot near roads because medical bills are going to be the least of your worries Story 4: YTA. You're hearts in a good place but you need to address your shared finances with your SO first

[@catte.]

Story 1: so let me get this straight, it's a 3 person burial site and the gold digger wants to be buried with OP's parents. So the father, mother and second wife. Which would mean that OP couldn't be buried there anymore. T H E A U D A C I T Y

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 3 is why I hate people who just cross the street not near a crosswalk or anything. It gives me such anxiety. Seeing people cross while I'm driving. Like do they not care about their safety or anything?

[@lyndellrobinson3611]

Story 2: OP is not the AH for moving his mom in under the pretense that she is renting from someone else. That was a brilliant idea. However, by not discussing this with his wife first, especially if she is the one that handles the finances and would expect to see the home after renovations to work out their profit margin, he is firmly in AH territory. He basically made a unilateral business decision without involving his business/life partner.

[@pickle_pup8187]

Story 3:: Seek legal counsel. If you give them money it is like admitting you are at fault. If you do decide, do it on the d/l. As far as their legions of people contacting you, contact a lawyer for a cease and desist letter. This is harassment. Yes it is sad he got hurt. But he was the proximal cause of his injury. Sad but true - he is responsible and as a minor his family is responsible. The legal system has spoken. This needs to stop. Your husband needs to understand that he is also causing you issues by pursuing this with you as well.

[@belledomnik]

Story 3 NTA Please do not give them any money. Personal responsibility. My 8yp knows not to walk out in traffic especially against the light. Plus...are they really out of work? They had the money to sue after the HI sued. File a restraining order.

[@kyrriana1772]

I assume the story about a teenager being hit by a car is from the US. Where else would an unforseen medical emergency render a family bankrupt. The american health care system is downright evil. Pure evil. If this happened in Europe, there would still be trauma and probably long and painful recovery, but no family would be at threat of losing their home. It´s so heartbreaking.

[@TheLugiaSong]

Exactly! I hear so many of these types of stories, and so many Go-fund mes, it's horrible. Imagine already being distressed because a love one is hospitalizes and THEN being hit by a huge ass bill. I don't know how anyone thinks this is OK.

[@DaZebraffe]

On that first story, there's also the fact OP said quite clearly that it was obvious just watching his behavior, that OP's father didn't actually love the step-mom, he just got with her to keep from feeling lonely.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

"Fuck the flaming hell wagon they rode in on." Definitely will be added to my lexicon.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 3: NTA. He should have looked beforehand.

[@TsukiKageTora]

I think he did. He thought the cars would stop for him anyways

[@DrownedInExile]

Remember folks, there's right of way, and there's right of WEIGHT.

[@renoloverxoxo]

@@TsukiKageTora ^this he knew she was coming and still stepped out in front of her

[@fionamasters1822]

Story 3: I wouldn't pay a cent to that family. The courts ruled that op didn't have to pay multiple times. They should file for harassment and move on. The husband may want to do the "right thing" in his eyes but the right thing is not always the BEST thing to do.

[@ChrisAndCats]

If anything they should also be responsible for the damage to her op's car, her injuries and any stress involved. She should not pay because it may also jeopardise the rulings defending her and as a commentef said, construed as admitting guilt where there is none. What lesson would it teach too? Paying anything is a terrible idea. He caused the issue and should be responsible for any consequences.

[@Takisan111]

As someone who is pretty much always a walking pedestrian, do not mess around with traffic. Drivers can not be trusted and aren't always paying attention while in their speedy death boxes. Hell, you can do everything right and they will still find ways to kill you. That's why it's important to be active and vigilant at all times. Never assume the driver will stop for you. In fact, never assume they'll stop when you have right of way. I've been nearly run over at crosswalks when the light on my end says go so much that I've run out of fingers to count on. The boy brought this on himself.

[@janicewilcox8590]

F.T.B. she doesn't desreve to be burried in your plot. Periodt.

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

The reason they want stepmom to be buried next to Dad is because the plot is already paid for.

[@asherael]

he has all the power here. If it starts to "blow up" in his face he can stop letting her live in his house.

[@renoloverxoxo]

No he doesn't. She's a tenant, there's a signed lease, she has rights. If she pays the rent there's no reason he can evict before the lease is up.

[@asherael]

@@renoloverxoxo absolutely he still has to follow the law in doing so, but "blowing up" innately involves evictable things, like refusing to continue paying rent, or extreme hostility towards the landlord. If she's doing that shit, he has ways he can legally evict her. She has rights, but they don't protect her from the consequences of her own bad behaviour.

[@AuntieCreed]

Story 1 - NTA. You're not her family, she doesn't get the right to be buried next to your parents! Story 2 - NTA. She's safe and taken care of, she's having to do the right thing. OP's right, if she finds out it's HIS house, she'll stop paying rent. Story 3 - NTA. OP isn't the villain here, it's the health care system. Story 4 - YTA-ish. It was a very nice gesture but there should have been an agreement between spouses before giving that away

[@zenorose8569]

That last one is just a reason shared finances is a bad thing

[@shadewolfe1231]

The car accident story. Seriously, how much of those parents debt came from suing the driver who was not at fault?

[@suzyboyleanderson6945]

A group of teenaged girls were killed in a car accident and the parents tried taking the county to court over how bad the roads were and lead to the accident. They lost in court, the driver died a couple days later after she got drunk (three times over the drinking limit for a sixteen year old) she was awake and failed the breathalyzer test and said they were all drunk. The parents are now in trouble cause the parents of the driver bought them the liquor that got them drunk. But take responsibility for killing your child for buying alcohol for them, not the condition of the road.

[@beckyhartley9502]

Story 3: is it possible this was an attempt for insurance fraud? It seems strange both parents have lost their jobs and their son runs into traffic with that excuse.

[@renoloverxoxo]

It's COVID, plenty of parents lost their jobs. I think one actually quit to care for the son.

[@beckyhartley9502]

@@renoloverxoxo That still makes no sense, if one of the parent's lost their job why would the other quit to take care of the teen? Riiiiight.

[@fcold9402]

1. So she wants YOUR burial plot. That plot was for you, do not give it to step mom.

[@Avoidnow]

I was once in a 5 hour traffic jam because a man ran across a motorway and got hit by a car and killed. At the funeral his son told the driver she was not to blame and the accident was completely his dad’s fault.

[@JJ-my9lf]

Story 3 definitely NTA! I was hit by a car 2 years ago to this date , and it was absolutely my fault. I wasnt paying attention and walked Infront of it and it would be stupid to place the blame anywhere else and would have never expected the driver to pay a penny. (Though luckily I live in the UK)

[@CatAstridphe]

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[@fcold9402]

3. If he crossed against the light, it is not your fault. If you are not at fault you are not required to pay. If you want you can contribute a little bit to the go fund me but nothing else is required. The kid made a bad choice and that is his fault.

[@GalliaUchiha]

Story 3, the rain the bike are up in the 6 figures is because they kept trying to sue OP, it's not even medical bills after 5 lost lawsuits. I hope OP got restraining orders against these people. It's absolutely harassment.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Stepmom should have paid for her own plot. It's not on OP to give up the plot intended for her just because Stepc*nt didn't have a death plan.

[@edgardo8971]

1st-- NTA stepmom can be cremated if her children can't afford a spot for her. 2nd-- NTA, but I'm confused. If the brother is living there also and he knows OP is the owner, what stops him from telling her the truth?

[@Raigius]

Brother doesn't seem to know. The brother seems to just be mooching off the mom.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Where is the stepmom's life insurance? It literally pays out for funeral expenses!

[@edgardo8971]

Raigius You're right! I listened to that part again, I guess I missed it.lol. Thanks.

[@edgardo8971]

renoloverxoxo I thought of that also. If she had life insurance they probably wanted to keep it for themselves. If she didn't have insurance? Oh well that's their problem!

[@darkangel_1978]

I actually had a classmate in high school, dart across a busy road, only to be hit and killed. Messed up thing is, she did this right near a crosswalk, but decided against using it. She was 14, and that was in 1992-1993. Had she not have done this, she would have graduated in 1996, and who knows where life would have taken her.

[@donnarichen9313]

For the 3rd story you are not the a-hole and do not give any money at all unless it is specified by your lawyer that it's okay and it has to be anonymous. That kid decided to go out in the middle of road with no walk sign in sight. Make it clear to your husband while he got hurt he wasn't the only one that got hurt.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

Side thought as OP in first story didn't ask BUT the dad was as much as asshole as his second wife. He saw what was going on and did nothing. His need for "comfort" over road everything else, even his child's needs. Why didn't he intervene? Yes the kid got his money, but the kid earned it. Perhaps that was the dad's fuck you to his mistake of a wife. Most people need a good guy and now OP sees him as that good guy. Perhaps later in life OP will wake up. FYI: my experience Mark is once you pay for plots you can do as you wish with them. IF OP wanted to s/he could give it to someone else, like his/her stepmother. But why do that? I hope s/he is ready for the shit storm that will happen when he tells the step-sibs no. Bullies stay bullies and they are going to try to bully him into it. Especially if they have no money to bury the bitch..

[@DrownedInExile]

Yes! I'm glad I'm not the only one who picked up on that. Dad had an obligation to protect his son. Either he was too much of a doormat to his beyotch wife, or he just didn't care. Not a good look for him either way. Hopefully OP comes to understand that someday.

[@DrownedInExile]

@vergorance Dad had a funny way of showing how much he cared.

[@ACBIGBOIEVDT]

Story 1: What I have learned in my 19 Years is that if someone tries to steal something important from you is: There are more than enough ways to avenge yourself. Nta

[@wendypursel3142]

Story 3: OP owes nothing to this family. The teen was stupid, did stupid and now he should pay. The medical bills are the family's responsibility. They could ask the hospital and doctors for forgiveness. Or simply pay a little on each bill month after month until paid off. I have no sympathy for the idiots that make poor choices and get hurt. OP should just turn her back on this family and go live a good life. The family should be paying her bills for therapy.

[@comajuice]

So basically Kid: steps in front of a car Kid: gets hit Kid: shocked pikachu face Parents: this is your fault This kid didnt obey traffic laws and traumatized an innocent stranger, and now they're harassing said stranger into paying for his wrongdoings? Jesus

[@MildredCady]

At least in the US, burial plots can be given to others, but the ownership of the plot(s) is inherited within the family. Since the mom paid for the plots, control then passed to the husband. After he passed, it passed to the OP as the next in line from his mom. There’s a big family plot my great grandfather got for his family, but since some moved out of state and were buried elsewhere, my uncle has control now, then his son. My cousin is child free and expects to be cremated and scattered on a mountain, so my husband and I will have the option to be buried in the same plot.

[@supergeeky7529]

Story 1) SOOOO NTA. She treated you like shit and kicked you out, proving she isn't family. She can rot somewhere else!

[@emm_uhh]

For story 2: NTA for not telling his mum, but is for not telling his wife. He should of told his wife everything before he moved mum in. Especially his comment that his wife will be paying the bills and tracking the finances on the house.

[@Aziza_Nyxie_Jynx_Ashling]

The similar story for the last story was about the husband taking 15k out of the savings account he and his wife shared (saving for a house) & leaving only 2k left, out of the 17k they had in the account, to buy his sister a brand new car & his excuse was he hoped to be able to replace it before she noticed.

[@renoloverxoxo]

She was also pregnant at the time and needed the money for baby supplies

[@ta_nya5240]

Story 3 is an out of this world story for me. How can this even be a situation people can get into?

[@ABCDG13]

Unpopular opinion but I do blame the father in the first story because despite his grief over his first wife’s death, his responsibility to his child’s upbringing should have been the first thing on his mind! You don’t check out on your kid’s safety and well-being, especially when he or she is being threatened in their own home by the people the dad brought into the home to begin with, even with the dad knowing that they had bad intentions in their hearts toward the dad and his child!

[@someonesomewhere9115]

I work on a horse farm. I don’t listen while I ride but I listen while I throw hay and change blankets at night check.

[@sethjr9815]

Sometimes the stories sound fake without more elaboration, the first one if the dad left almost all the assets to the child how was the stepmom able to kick her out (since for 95% of the worlds population their family home is the biggest asset they will ever own)

[@jazz-cat00]

I thought it sounded a little fake too. Like that one commenter said, its a Cinderella plot with a little extra pity points

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Usually control of assets like that can't go to minors since they are unable to legally own them. I'm guessing a trust & a trustee were appointed responsible for their assets before they were of legal age. It could still be the child's house but the father could have also given lifetime residency to his wife, thinking she'd take care of his child until the child was of age & could claim all their assets. If she had lifetime residency, she decides who lives there until the child is 18 & can claim their asset & move in to live with the stepmother, if they wanted to do that. (Evicting the stepmother if she has a lifetime residency would be almost impossible in some areas so the only other option is to make her want to leave on her own.) We'd need more info on the hows/whys of it but the circumstances could very well have happened exactly as outlined. It's fun being the smartest person in the room so I get why people are so eager to claim "fake" on stories but the world is a wild place & sometimes extremely weird shit happens. Idk if I'd be so quick to accuse people of faking stuff just because I'd hate to be wrong & add more shit onto someone who is genuinely asking for advice about their weird crappy situation. It costs me nothing to operate this way & this way I'm not adding fuel to someone's fire. That's where I'm at.

[@renoloverxoxo]

He probably put her name on the deed for the house. He can't give OP the house if her name is on it, she's owner too, she gets a say legally.

[@sethjr9815]

@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 what you said is correct from a logical viewpoint, but the thing is that life is not logical, because of my career path I’ve seen ultra high net worth clients without a sound will even though they have the best financial advice in the world. So I’m quite sceptical how was the dad able to pull this off Too many of these reddit stories ends with counselling for the parties involved, but to tell you the truth since I’ve being to one I’m more inclined to believe the ones that don’t attend counselling, there are often too much hate in a relationship and counselling will only bring out what they dislike about it, it is a place to vent but not a place to solve the problems if the other party is defensive

[@mbyerly9680]

I don't think OP should do this, but in some places, it's okay to stack coffins in one plot. So, bury the stepmom in the same plot above the dad. OP should tell the kids they need to buy their own family graves so they can be buried with their mom.

[@ACCER]

Story 1 In most places, the surviving spouse becomes the owner of the plot and can make the decisions regarding who is added to the plot. In this case, after the mom died, it fell to the father. He apparently made no changes. After he died, the now adult child is the owner of the plot. OP has spoken. OP is NTA. Plots can be expensive. They are probably just looking for a cheap place to bury her. Story 2 There is no obligation to tell his mother what he owns and doesn't own. There is no question that if she finds out that OP owns that house she will feel like she doesn't have to pay rent. They will also be less inclined to take care of it because, well "FAMILY!" OP is NTA. Story 3 OP is not responsible and is the real victim here. The teenager made a stupid choice that impacted the life of OP. OP is NTA.....but needs to tell their attorney about the harassment. I've been in a similar situation. Only in my case the other party died. It was a nightmare that someone else caused. Thankfully, I won. Don't do it OP....but get your husband some therapy. Story 4 OP is absolutely the asshole for making a unilateral decision without consulting his wife....you know, the OTHER PERSON contributing to the fund. You just DON'T DO THAT! Hell, you don't even do that if you are the only one contributing to the fund. If his wife had unilaterally decided to spend that $5k on something without consulting him.....how would he feel? As for how I would handle it? I would be opening my own savings account and never again contribute to a joint one with him......

[@kimsawyer3918]

O.P. I wouldn't pay because this lid decided it was a good ideal to stept out in the street. The child endanger your life and the lufes of others. He played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. Do not give them a dime.

[@MysticMae21]

#4: sounds like he thought he'd have a job for another year. Op and wife terminated it a year early. Should have talked to the wife, but $100 for firing the guy? Come on.

[@ddjohnson3961]

Story 3: I had some kids try this with me before. At my old job I had to pass a school to go to work . The kids liked to do this expecting you to stop. Sometimes they would look back smuggly at you like you better stop. It infuriated me. Even though it was the shortest way to work I started avoiding it because I was afraid I would hit them one time. It got even worse because out here kids walk in the street during the snow because the sidewalks aren’t plowed. The kids would sometimes sometimes take up the whole road because it was plowed. I always thought eventually they luck gonna run out when the street isn’t all the way plowed.

[@analisesalas538]

I love listening to these while i work on my quilt

[@HannaFardew]

That first story almost made me cry

[@brandi5126]

Wow, car accident one is NTA. Do not give them any money and go to the court about them harassing you. It is unfortunate their child made a terrible decision and had to pay a high cost for it but that isn’t your fault. You went to court already and we’re not at fault. They need to accept the consequences of their sons actions and leave you all tf alone.

[@shannondalshaug686]

In story 3, the parents of the kid would have had the money for the medical bills if they hadn't been so quick to hire a lawyer! OP is definitely NTA

[@alma5147]

If my partner/spouse just gave away 5k from a joint account without consulting me i'd expect them to do everything they can to make up for the money lost. I don't care if he'd have to sell his pc or consol, he made his bed and now he has to lay in it. Sheesh man some people. Gotta give props for having a good heart though.

[@yolandab2290]

Story #2 Not letting mother know that son owns the house she's renting, is the perfect way to handle the situation. Keeps the mothers accountable for her living expensive, with freeloading brother and his children. If they find out you are the landlord I'm sure they will all freeload off of you ASAP. Continue to charge rent. It covers maintenance and taxes which are not free.

[@charlotteautumn4177]

Aussie here 👋 Listening to your videos while I do my meal prepping for the week.

[@erickaennis2738]

Story 1. Op is soooooo NTA. That is a family plot. She's not family. Let her kids buy her a plot of her own.

[@celestialdemon5726]

Greetings waffle daddy, thanks for consistently uploading, I'm a student and uni is stressful, so listening to your voice and your personality really makes my day better.

[@MarkNarrations]

Glad to hear, try and take time for yourself where possible 😊❤

[@samantha1102]

One of my best friends parents bought three plots. One for each of her parents and her. My grandma is buried next to her first husband. The graveyards have a list of who goes where. The person who bought it has to change that. When my friends mom was buried they put her in her husband plot. So when he was buried he ended up where was his wife supposed to go. Lol. My friend made sure they were buried next to each other. She told me she didn't want to be in the middle of them for all eternity!

[@vernell445]

How about you being listen to while driving over the Rocky Mountains in Idaho? Lol thanks for all the work!

[@mistermakeupman]

story 4, if it was on legit books, theyd be paying that for severance of employment anyway

[@bioshockbrat9171]

Story 3: play stupid games get stupid prizes. They are hoping to guilt you into paying. I see a lot of people walk into traffic like this, and it's crazy

[@fcold9402]

2. If you tell mom there is more chances she will stop paying rent and pay guilt instead. Not the ahole for not telling her.

[@CocoCece08]

Story 1 - NTA. Why should the rebound get YOUR plot (that you'll share with your parents)? If they keep on, tell them you'll bury her in the very back of the cemetery. She isn't family, don't treat her as such. Story 2 - NTA. Good job trying to keep your mom under wraps. But I would caution that if she does refuse to pay rent, you do need to kick her out. Story 3 - NTA. Do not blame yourself for his stupidity. Do NOT. He caused this, he's recovered, he can go to work. YOU did nothing wrong. Story 4 - It really depends on where the money comes from. Mutual funds, YTA. Your own account, NTA. For me, not enough info.

[@DreamwithintheHeart]

So I work from home and I'm a online fraud specialist, so while I work I like how you tell the stories. It really calm and am able to concentrate on what I'm doing.

[@Jay-sv9kf]

I'm just playing Minecraft and bulding houses and farms while listening to you. I have ADHD and I'm mostly "immune to podcast" but your voice is lovely to listen to when I'm doing literally anything :)

[@martia9176]

I was coloring in an adult coloring book and listening to this x

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: YTA - You do not get to make unilateral decisions about shared assets. You and your partner should have come to a mutual agreement before handing out that kind of money.

[@fangchick93]

As someone who has been run over (and won my case) I feel empathy for the kid, but it was entirely his fault. Crosswalks and traffic lights exist for a reason. I was run over because of a patch of ice and a stupid delivery driver, no fault of my own. Op should absolutely report harrassment